Slowing Up Workshop

7/24/2019 Slowing Up Workshop

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Slowing UPA spiritual practice of creating

structure for more JOY and more

freedom

The richer our inner life, the simpler our outer life.



Structure

Parameters

Boundaries

Edges

Perimeters

CREATE

Freedom

Power

FOCUS

Love

JOY



Why slow?

Acting rather than Reacting.Creating the vision of our life from a place of

observation, reflection and flow,

rather than pressure, compulsion and obligation.

Health Benefits.

Stress response is a major contributor to all health

challenges and illness.

POWER

is generated from thoughtful, considered, andintentional actions.

Does the FAST life lead to the good life!?!

Paradoxically, we need to be going slow enough to even consider

the question!



Where Time Goes

There is NEVER TIME TO: BUT ALWAYS TIME TO:

Put things away Search for them later

Do things right Correct them later

Drive safely Get into accidents

Be patient Apologize for rudeness

Ask a question Suffer from assumptions

Follow your car manual Get lengthy repairs

Heed body signals Have illnesses

Listen Ask for a repeat

Make extra keys Be locked out

Read the instructions Ruin a new appliance

Prioritize your work Stay after quitting time

Monitor your fuel gauge Run out of gas

Rest or relax Burn out or break down

Ask directions Get lost

Make a checklist Run home for an item

Cool our temper Have a heart attack

Meditate or pray Worry

Have a dental check up Have a tooth extracted

Follow a budget Get into debt

Mend a rip Buy a new garment

Share feelings See a therapist

Balance your checkbook Call about bounced checks

Choose friends wisely End painful relationships

Select healthy food Endure malnutrition

Wait for guidance Suffer from self-will



3 thing that could stop slowing UP

1. Speed is a distraction.

2. Shame factor – is it okay to slow down?

3. Scarcity thinking. Not enough time is lack thinking.

“Because TRUE BELONGING only happens when we

present our AUTHENTIC, IMPERFECT SELVES to the world,

our sense of belonging can never be greater than

our level of SELF-ACCEPTANCE.

– Brené Brown



HOOKED ON FAST: From Speed by Stephanie Brown PhD

20 QUESTIONS:

BEHAVIOR:

1. Do you want to slow down but cannot? Have you lost control?

2. Do you keep adding activities without taking any away?

3. Do you work longer and longer hours but don’t ever finish?

4. Do you treat other problems? Sleep, depression, anxiety?

5. Do you act first and think later?

6. Do you check your email and reach for your phone first thing and last?

FEELINGS:

7. Do you feel internal pressure to live fast and act fast which becomes a craving to connect more

rapidly?

8. Do you feel empty if you are not in constant action?

9. Do you feel nervous without your tech gear in hand or pocket?

10. Do you feel the beep of your phone as the comfort that gives you a shot of adrenaline?

11. do you feel you belong when you are rushing, stressed and in action?

Beliefs:

12. Do you believe you have no limits and you are entitled to live without limits?

13. Do you believe you should think, feel and react instantly?

14. Do you believe you will fall behind if you slow down?

15. Do you believe success equals fast and faster and slowing down is failing?

16. Do you believe you should only feel good, only feel high? Other feelings are a sign of failure?

17. Do you believe stress is the price of success and chaos is normal?

18. Do you believe that the new intimacy is through technology and less time for offline relationships

is the price for success?

19. Do you believe that instant action is a virtue and you can overcome anything with enough will

power?

20. Do you believe all change must be big to count?



1. Write down any observations that came up for you

from the 20 questions



Reprioritizing Values

Recovery Values: Addiction Values:

DOING:

PROCESS OUTCOME

EXPERIENCE MANIPULATE

ENJOY ENDURE

BE DO

PARTICIPATE PERFORM

SAVOR GULP

QUALITY. DEPTH QUANTITY, LENGTH

FLOW, SMARTER EFFORT, HARDER

RELAXED INTENSE

EFFECTIVE EFFICIENTFLEXIBLE RIGID

IMPORTANT URGENT

SURRENDER, SURPRISE CONTROLSIMPLE COMPLEX

VALUES GOALS

IN AWE SHUT-DOWN

RELATING:

UNIQUENESS COMPARSION

PRINCIPLES PERSONALITIES

COOPERATE COMPETE

BOTH/AND, WIN-WIN EITHER, OR

RELATIONSHIPS THINGS

INTERDEPENDENT INDEPENDENT

LIVE AND LET LIVE RESCUER

CONSENSUS MAJORITY

RESPECT ADMIRE

TIME:

TIME MONEY

UNDERSCHEDULE OVERSCHEDULE

NOW PAST, FUTURE



2. What do I really want? Values, experiences, things, status, accomplishments, goals



Hard Decisions.

1. Simplify. What can you let go of? Check out Life Edited. Graham Hill — less stuff, more happiness Ted Talk

2. Get Particular We often just want a new time management system

so we can fit it all in but maybe we need let go of

doing it all

Does this RAISE my vibration or LOWER my vibration?

Please note: the same thing can do both depend-

ing on the day.

3. Prioritize.These changes don’t always come organically at first.

Experiment.



3. List things that are better with quantity and quality

qual·i·ty 1. the standard of something as

measured against other things of a similar kind; the

degree of excellence of something.

2. a distinctive attribute or characteristic possessedby someone or something.

quan·ti·ty 1. the amount or number of a ma-

terial or immaterial thing not usually estimated by

spatial measurement.



4. List every time that moving really fast has brought

you a lot of JOY



5. List every time that moving really SLOW has brought

you a lot of JOY.



6. What are your biggestPassions?



Resources:

Carl Honoré — in praise of slowness TED talk

Graham Hill — less stuff, more happiness Ted Talk

Workaholics Anonymous Book of Recovery

Barry Schwartz — The Paradox of Choice TED talk

Stephanie Brown PhD — Speed: Facing Our Addiciton to Fast and Faster –

and Overcoming

http://www.carlhonore.com/about/



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Slowing Up Workshop