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My first regional director in the Campus Ministry was Conrad Koch. He was a gifted teacher, communicator and mentor. More than anything, I learned by watching Conrad—how he taught, how he prepared meticulously as a leader, how he would share resources and reveal how he captured information and studied Scripture. He modeled a love for the Lord and His Word, and he showed me how to grow as a leader and teacher of the Word. He mentored me in so many ways.
Conrad also modeled care and concern. He would ask and listen to me as I shared about my children, my parenting challenges and my ministry. He never condemned but simply listened, asking questions and empathizing with me. He came alongside me in resourceful ways, coaching me at various stages of my life. Perhaps more than anything, I appreciated his presence. When I was anticipating marriage with Patty, it was Conrad and Barb who came alongside us to do our marriage counseling. When we lost a child, he conducted the funeral and was
there in my grief process. Over the years, I have asked myself how Conrad would handle a particular situation, passage of Scripture or how he would illustrate a point so people would understand.
As I reflect on Conrad and others who have influenced me, I realize they made deposits of trust into my account—through their character, competence, concern and care. Coaching and mentoring really stick in that context.
Over the years, I have sought to develop young emerging leaders. One guiding principle I practice is to instill a strong sense that I believe in them and believe God is going to use them. I liken it to John’s experience of Jesus, “I must decrease, while He must increase.” I seek to create a safe environment where they know I am for them and where there is grace (bringing the “real me” into the light without fear of rejection) and truth (an honest place, where reality is one’s friend). It is in this environment that I believe the best coaching and mentoring can occur. My desire is to plant deposits of trust into the accounts of these emerging leaders just as Conrad did in my life.
My vision is to see all of our staff members learning and growing. This is one of our values in Cru. Everyone needs a coach to help them move through the obstacles that keep them stuck personally and professionally. I also desire that each staff member be part of a safe environment. We each need a safe place where we are known and can know others. This is a place where we are exposing our sin and our craziness while preaching the gospel to one another. I know this is not easy in every situation where you minister. However, I do want to encourage you to ask God to provide you with opportunities to regularly make deposits of trust into the lives of others and to provide you with a coach or mentor who can do the same. I would enjoy hearing from you. Email me at [email protected] and share with me your coaching and mentoring stories.
Deposits of Trust
For Cru Staff Members Serving Internationally
Volume 6 • Issue 3September 2012
What’s Inside
Published quarterly by the U.S. Ministries for U.S. staff members on international assignment
with Cru
CONTACT INFORMATION
INTERNATIONAL REPRESENTATIVES (IRs):Barrett Brown: HRX Director
Steve Clark: HRX Sending DirectorYale Kushner: HRX Staff Care Director,
AREA REPRESENTATIVES:Americas – Dan Ryder, [email protected]
Africa – Gary and Alice Fredricks, [email protected]
East Asia – Alan Penman, [email protected] Europe – Tracy Dykes,
[email protected]– Debbie Iannetti,
[email protected] & PACT – Jodi Wallace,
[email protected], [email protected] – Dan Ryder, [email protected] – Tracy Dykes, [email protected]
South/Southeast Asia – Vern Cutshall,[email protected]
Western Europe–Yale Kushner, [email protected]
INTERNATIONAL CAMPUS STAFF (ICS):Keith Bubalo: Global Missions Executive Director
Mark Kohman: ICS DirectorNortheast – [email protected] – [email protected]
Mid-South – [email protected] – [email protected]
Great Lakes – [email protected] and [email protected]
Upper Midwest – [email protected],[email protected] and [email protected]
Red River – [email protected] and [email protected]
Great Plains – [email protected] and [email protected]
Greater Northwest – [email protected] Southwest – [email protected]
High School –[email protected] Info: www.internationalsos.com
(use member number on card to enter)
CRU MINISTRIES:Steve Sellers, Area Team Leader, U.S., Canada and OceaniaMark Gauthier, Executive Director of U.S. Campus Ministry
Mark Householder, Director of Athletes in ActionGreg Lillestrand, U.S. Director of Cru City
Josh McDowell, Director of Josh McDowell MinistryDennis Rainey, President of FamilyLife
Marc Rutter, Director of Leadership Development and HREditor in Chief: Janice Kennedy
Managing Editor: Becky ThomtonContributing Editors:
Cindy Kahre, Donna Kushner, Jodi WallaceDesign: Terri Oesterreich
©2012 Cru. All rights reserved.
Page 4
2 MK2MK Summer pics 3 How have you been mentored?
4 What do you appreciate about the person who coached you?
Marc RutterU.S. Director of
Leadership Development and Human Resources
In 1994, I had one of those encounters that significantly marked me for life. I was in Singapore where I had the privilege of spending time with Chan Chong Hiok who was, at that time, the National Director of Singapore. We were discussing what was involved in building movements, and he shared this “nugget” with me: “We are constantly getting ready now for what God will do.” Although the context was not mentoring, I later recognized this as a profound motivation for pursuing my own personal development in general, and in specifically seeking out mentors to assist me in my ongoing growth. The question it forced me to ask myself was: Am I personally “getting ready now for what God will do,” so that I can become “a vessel for honor, sanctified, useful to the Master”? Recently I was invited to speak at the Albania Staff Conference on “The Role of Mentoring in Personal Development.” The definition I used came from Matt Starcevich, the founder of The Center for Coaching & Mentoring (coachingandmentoring.com):
The mentoring process is a power-free, mutually beneficial learning relationship where the mentor provides advice, shares knowledge and experience for the benefit of the person they are mentoring. The mentor encourages the person to keep taking “next steps” in their growth and development. It is intended to be a highly relational, highly interactive learning and growing environment.
Here were some of our thoughts as we discussed and dissected Starcevich’s definition:• power-free It is not about power or control of one person over another. Rather it is a nurturing relationship where the person feels empowered to pursue their growth in the context of someone who believes in them.• mutually beneficial learning relationship God uses this relationship to cause growth in both the mentor and the one being mentored.• mentor provides advice, shares knowledge and experience The agenda is driven by the one being mentored. The mentor speaks into their life from their personal knowledge and experiences. • for the benefit of the person they are mentoringThe first and foremost outcome of the mentoring relationships is how this will benefit the person being mentored, not how it will benefit the organization.• the mentor encourages the person to keep taking “next steps” The focus is faith, growth and future fruitfulness—“getting ready now for what God will do.”• highly relational, highly interactive learning and growing environment This is not GCTC Part 2. This is not “program” or “curriculum” driven. It is a life-on-life, iron-sharpening, relational growth experience.
“If the axe is dull and you do not sharpen its edge, you must exert more strength.”“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
(Ecclesiastes 10:10; Proverbs 27:17)
The Role of Mentoring in Personal Development
Debrief Dates
Plan ahead to be a part of one of the upcoming debrief conferences. Debrief and renewal retreats will be held two times a year.
During a CSU staff conference year, Stillwater Retreat will also be held.
Dates: • October 10-16, 2012• January 9-15, 2013• July 22 – 26 Stillwater (22 is registration day; 26 is travel day)
For more information, visit the staff web:https://staffweb.cru.org/ministry/us-staff-overseas/debrief/index.htm
T h i s i s s u e : f o c u s o n c o a c h i n g a n D M e n T o R i n g
John HendersonLD Coordinator for
Eastern Europe and Russia
Cindy Hynds, Czech RepublicWhen Jim stepped into the role of National Director of the ministry
in Czech Republic, Dorsey and Renee McIntosh became our regional directors. It was a godsend. Renee was there to coach and
mentor me not only in the ministry but also in life and relationship. She opened herself up to me in life, her family and her walk with the
Lord. And she was open to the things I could offer her. It was a two-way street. I think of Renee as my mentor, coach and director, but I really think
of her as my friend. I am blessed.
Scott Matthews, MacedoniaWe all face big decisions or challenges at different points in our leadership. I have appreciated how my coach helped me to take a step back while considering tough choices. His simple questions were refreshing but also very penetrating. I saw it as a great demonstration of grace and truth in my life.
Terry Morgan, Orlando, Fla., after several decades in Mexico
I had a great mentor in one of my M.A. teachers (I’m studying for a Masters in Global Leadership). He encouraged
me to believe in the value of my uniqueness and my experience. He challenged me to use my platform and my
“voice” to make a positive difference where I can. He did not give me answers to my questions, but he helped me to seek
the Lord and research other sources to learn and grow. Because of his investment in me, I am more motivated than ever to mentor others.
Ed Murray, Budapest, HungaryOne of my last mentor/coaches I remember well is Leo Habets, who was the Director of Affairs for W. Europe at that time. I always felt he was most interested in my well-being and my growth in Christ as much or more than the ministry I was supposed to have. I could also point to the person who led me to Christ who was a model mentor and coach for my new life in Christ. That was almost 50 years ago, but we stay in touch, and his life continues to cast a long shadow over mine. My wife and
I have also always viewed our marriage as a mutual mentoring/coaching experience, allowing God to speak into our lives through each other.
Debbie Samland, Budapest, HungaryThis is reality: I coach/mentor people, but I have never been
coached or mentored recently. This year I am doing something about it, and I have signed up for a coaching course with
YWAM. I will have a coach trainer and our first skype session is very soon. As I am being coached, I will learn to be an even
better coach myself. I definitely see the need for this in my personal life and ministry, and I am looking forward to this year!
Expat Exchange • Page 2 Expat Exchange • Page 3
New in the U.S.What do you appreciate about the person who
coached you?For over 25 years, “WSN” has represented the vision, faith and pioneering spirit of thousands of students, faculty and staff members in the U.S. Campus Ministry to bring the reality of Jesus to the nations outside of our borders. As ICS and IRs, you represent the long-term leadership necessary to build strong national movements. Thank you for all you do.
For the past couple of years, the
WSN National Team had been asking ourselves how we can best describe our international sending so that we can mobilize the maximum number possible from the US., including those like-minded individuals who are not involved in our local movements. We put those conversations on hold to see what would happen with the CCC rebranding process.
Our team is now very excited
about leveraging the current and future brand equity of Cru. When we need to refer to the specific strategy and leaders in Cru who are organizationally responsible for this effort, we will now use “Global Missions” in place of “WSN.” And we request that you please don’t abbreviate this to GM. (We are not a car company.)
Please pray with us in the days ahead
for the Lord to multiply our efforts and send thousands more like you to fulfill our “Every Campus, Every Nation” vision.
Cru goes to the world. We always
have and always will.
—Keith BubaloExecutive Director of
Global Missions
This summer was a tale of two cities—Durban and Port Shepstone—two cities in South Africa where MK2MK hosted projects. After a week together in Durban, we split the team of 100 into two teams. In both cities God gave us “greenhouse” sorts of growth opportunities for our students AND used us to impact the neighborhoods where we served.
What I really love about MK2MK projects is the opportunity to coach, mentor, disciple and train staff kids in an environment where the students get to actually practice all that they
are learning. I am convinced that giving teenagers the opportunity to practice leadership produces amazing young leaders. Our college-age MK interns also practice leadership by mentoring the high school students. I wish parents could see their teens in action—serving, sharing the gospel, teaching 50 South African teens in a classroom or loving on kids crowded into a small room to listen to a Bible story. It brings tears to my eyes to watch them!
Although staff kids hear a lot about God working in the world, it is incredible for them to take the training they receive, use it and see God work as they step out in faith.
Phumzile, a woman at the AIDS hospice, heard the gospel twice in one day, first through Lizzy sharing Knowing God Personally and later through Bethany.
“We served dinner to the patients and as I was cleaning up there was a lady named Phumzile that had hardly touched her food. I off-handedly asked if she was ok and she very solemnly told me she wasn’t. She then told me her life story. She said she didn’t want to be in the hospice, but she was all alone. I shared with her about a heavenly father that loved her and would always be there for her, not knowing until later that she struggled with thoughts of suicide. I got to pray with her to accept Christ! I’ll never forget the joy on her face and the total amazement in my own heart. I have never felt so strongly the presence of God using me in someone’s life.” (Bethany, Central Asia)
Our prayer for students is that through their project experience, they will gain a heart to be lifetime laborers. One student commented, “I’ve gotten to share my faith this summer. It was hard. As hard as it was, I want to do more. Not just a little more. I want to do this for the rest of my life. I think God may be calling me to be a missionary.” What a privilege to invest in our staff kids!
—Donna Kuschner
Tale of Two Cities, One SummerSouth Africa Summer Project
What’s the Difference?
We often use various terms such as “coaching” and “mentoring” in a variety of settings and training venues. Unfortunately, confusion has occurred rather than clarity. What are the differences? How are they similar? Can we just choose one term and only use this one?
In an attempt to bring clarity, we have compiled a list of these terms with a description of each. The definitions are not intended to be the final answer, but rather an attempt to delineate between the approaches and hopefully, to decrease the confusion. Our desire as a ministry is to see each person continue to grow personally and in ministry.
Coaching is the process of coming alongside a person or team to help them discover God’s agenda for their personal growth and ministry effectiveness (CCC definition). The coaching process involves asking powerful questions, listening and cooperating with the Holy Spirit with the ultimate goal of empowering the person or team to take steps of faith to see God’s agenda become a reality. In other words, it’s helping an individual or team move from where they are to where they want or need to be. The focus is on the person or team, not the coach.
Mentoring involves an individual with prior experience or expertise coming alongside to pass on their knowledge to another. You are learning from someone who has a gifting or skill in a specific area and who can assist you in growing in this specific area.
Discipleship is a process described in the New Testament to help Christians become more like Christ. Among other things, it involves teaching, training, Bible study, prayer and fellowship.
Counseling, in the traditional sense, tends to focus on the past, hoping to reach understanding which will lead to healing. Counseling involves in-depth interaction with a trained professional to overcome disruptive, painful influences from the past.
Training is equipping a person in skills, knowledge or competencies. Training helps a person acquire the necessary skills to complete a specific task.
Note: Thank you to Karen Zando for her help in presenting these definitions. For more information, email her at [email protected].
Cindy Hynds, Czech RepublicWhen Jim stepped into the role of National Director of the ministry
in Czech Republic, Dorsey and Renee McIntosh became our regional directors. It was a godsend. Renee was there to coach and
mentor me not only in the ministry but also in life and relationship. She opened herself up to me in life, her family and her walk with the
Lord. And she was open to the things I could offer her. It was a two-way street. I think of Renee as my mentor, coach and director, but I really think
of her as my friend. I am blessed.
Scott Matthews, MacedoniaWe all face big decisions or challenges at different points in our leadership. I have appreciated how my coach helped me to take a step back while considering tough choices. His simple questions were refreshing but also very penetrating. I saw it as a great demonstration of grace and truth in my life.
Terry Morgan, Orlando, Fla., after several decades in Mexico
I had a great mentor in one of my M.A. teachers (I’m studying for a Masters in Global Leadership). He encouraged
me to believe in the value of my uniqueness and my experience. He challenged me to use my platform and my
“voice” to make a positive difference where I can. He did not give me answers to my questions, but he helped me to seek
the Lord and research other sources to learn and grow. Because of his investment in me, I am more motivated than ever to mentor others.
Ed Murray, Budapest, HungaryOne of my last mentor/coaches I remember well is Leo Habets, who was the Director of Affairs for W. Europe at that time. I always felt he was most interested in my well-being and my growth in Christ as much or more than the ministry I was supposed to have. I could also point to the person who led me to Christ who was a model mentor and coach for my new life in Christ. That was almost 50 years ago, but we stay in touch, and his life continues to cast a long shadow over mine. My wife and
I have also always viewed our marriage as a mutual mentoring/coaching experience, allowing God to speak into our lives through each other.
Debbie Samland, Budapest, HungaryThis is reality: I coach/mentor people, but I have never been
coached or mentored recently. This year I am doing something about it, and I have signed up for a coaching course with
YWAM. I will have a coach trainer and our first skype session is very soon. As I am being coached, I will learn to be an even
better coach myself. I definitely see the need for this in my personal life and ministry, and I am looking forward to this year!
Expat Exchange • Page 2 Expat Exchange • Page 3
New in the U.S.What do you appreciate about the person who
coached you?For over 25 years, “WSN” has represented the vision, faith and pioneering spirit of thousands of students, faculty and staff members in the U.S. Campus Ministry to bring the reality of Jesus to the nations outside of our borders. As ICS and IRs, you represent the long-term leadership necessary to build strong national movements. Thank you for all you do.
For the past couple of years, the
WSN National Team had been asking ourselves how we can best describe our international sending so that we can mobilize the maximum number possible from the US., including those like-minded individuals who are not involved in our local movements. We put those conversations on hold to see what would happen with the CCC rebranding process.
Our team is now very excited
about leveraging the current and future brand equity of Cru. When we need to refer to the specific strategy and leaders in Cru who are organizationally responsible for this effort, we will now use “Global Missions” in place of “WSN.” And we request that you please don’t abbreviate this to GM. (We are not a car company.)
Please pray with us in the days ahead
for the Lord to multiply our efforts and send thousands more like you to fulfill our “Every Campus, Every Nation” vision.
Cru goes to the world. We always
have and always will.
—Keith BubaloExecutive Director of
Global Missions
This summer was a tale of two cities—Durban and Port Shepstone—two cities in South Africa where MK2MK hosted projects. After a week together in Durban, we split the team of 100 into two teams. In both cities God gave us “greenhouse” sorts of growth opportunities for our students AND used us to impact the neighborhoods where we served.
What I really love about MK2MK projects is the opportunity to coach, mentor, disciple and train staff kids in an environment where the students get to actually practice all that they
are learning. I am convinced that giving teenagers the opportunity to practice leadership produces amazing young leaders. Our college-age MK interns also practice leadership by mentoring the high school students. I wish parents could see their teens in action—serving, sharing the gospel, teaching 50 South African teens in a classroom or loving on kids crowded into a small room to listen to a Bible story. It brings tears to my eyes to watch them!
Although staff kids hear a lot about God working in the world, it is incredible for them to take the training they receive, use it and see God work as they step out in faith.
Phumzile, a woman at the AIDS hospice, heard the gospel twice in one day, first through Lizzy sharing Knowing God Personally and later through Bethany.
“We served dinner to the patients and as I was cleaning up there was a lady named Phumzile that had hardly touched her food. I off-handedly asked if she was ok and she very solemnly told me she wasn’t. She then told me her life story. She said she didn’t want to be in the hospice, but she was all alone. I shared with her about a heavenly father that loved her and would always be there for her, not knowing until later that she struggled with thoughts of suicide. I got to pray with her to accept Christ! I’ll never forget the joy on her face and the total amazement in my own heart. I have never felt so strongly the presence of God using me in someone’s life.” (Bethany, Central Asia)
Our prayer for students is that through their project experience, they will gain a heart to be lifetime laborers. One student commented, “I’ve gotten to share my faith this summer. It was hard. As hard as it was, I want to do more. Not just a little more. I want to do this for the rest of my life. I think God may be calling me to be a missionary.” What a privilege to invest in our staff kids!
—Donna Kuschner
Tale of Two Cities, One SummerSouth Africa Summer Project
What’s the Difference?
We often use various terms such as “coaching” and “mentoring” in a variety of settings and training venues. Unfortunately, confusion has occurred rather than clarity. What are the differences? How are they similar? Can we just choose one term and only use this one?
In an attempt to bring clarity, we have compiled a list of these terms with a description of each. The definitions are not intended to be the final answer, but rather an attempt to delineate between the approaches and hopefully, to decrease the confusion. Our desire as a ministry is to see each person continue to grow personally and in ministry.
Coaching is the process of coming alongside a person or team to help them discover God’s agenda for their personal growth and ministry effectiveness (CCC definition). The coaching process involves asking powerful questions, listening and cooperating with the Holy Spirit with the ultimate goal of empowering the person or team to take steps of faith to see God’s agenda become a reality. In other words, it’s helping an individual or team move from where they are to where they want or need to be. The focus is on the person or team, not the coach.
Mentoring involves an individual with prior experience or expertise coming alongside to pass on their knowledge to another. You are learning from someone who has a gifting or skill in a specific area and who can assist you in growing in this specific area.
Discipleship is a process described in the New Testament to help Christians become more like Christ. Among other things, it involves teaching, training, Bible study, prayer and fellowship.
Counseling, in the traditional sense, tends to focus on the past, hoping to reach understanding which will lead to healing. Counseling involves in-depth interaction with a trained professional to overcome disruptive, painful influences from the past.
Training is equipping a person in skills, knowledge or competencies. Training helps a person acquire the necessary skills to complete a specific task.
Note: Thank you to Karen Zando for her help in presenting these definitions. For more information, email her at [email protected].
My first regional director in the Campus Ministry was Conrad Koch. He was a gifted teacher, communicator and mentor. More than anything, I learned by watching Conrad—how he taught, how he prepared meticulously as a leader, how he would share resources and reveal how he captured information and studied Scripture. He modeled a love for the Lord and His Word, and he showed me how to grow as a leader and teacher of the Word. He mentored me in so many ways.
Conrad also modeled care and concern. He would ask and listen to me as I shared about my children, my parenting challenges and my ministry. He never condemned but simply listened, asking questions and empathizing with me. He came alongside me in resourceful ways, coaching me at various stages of my life. Perhaps more than anything, I appreciated his presence. When I was anticipating marriage with Patty, it was Conrad and Barb who came alongside us to do our marriage counseling. When we lost a child, he conducted the funeral and was
there in my grief process. Over the years, I have asked myself how Conrad would handle a particular situation, passage of Scripture or how he would illustrate a point so people would understand.
As I reflect on Conrad and others who have influenced me, I realize they made deposits of trust into my account—through their character, competence, concern and care. Coaching and mentoring really stick in that context.
Over the years, I have sought to develop young emerging leaders. One guiding principle I practice is to instill a strong sense that I believe in them and believe God is going to use them. I liken it to John’s experience of Jesus, “I must decrease, while He must increase.” I seek to create a safe environment where they know I am for them and where there is grace (bringing the “real me” into the light without fear of rejection) and truth (an honest place, where reality is one’s friend). It is in this environment that I believe the best coaching and mentoring can occur. My desire is to plant deposits of trust into the accounts of these emerging leaders just as Conrad did in my life.
My vision is to see all of our staff members learning and growing. This is one of our values in Cru. Everyone needs a coach to help them move through the obstacles that keep them stuck personally and professionally. I also desire that each staff member be part of a safe environment. We each need a safe place where we are known and can know others. This is a place where we are exposing our sin and our craziness while preaching the gospel to one another. I know this is not easy in every situation where you minister. However, I do want to encourage you to ask God to provide you with opportunities to regularly make deposits of trust into the lives of others and to provide you with a coach or mentor who can do the same. I would enjoy hearing from you. Email me at [email protected] and share with me your coaching and mentoring stories.
Deposits of Trust
For Cru Staff Members Serving Internationally
Volume 6 • Issue 3September 2012
What’s Inside
Published quarterly by the U.S. Ministries for U.S. staff members on international assignment
with Cru
CONTACT INFORMATION
INTERNATIONAL REPRESENTATIVES (IRs):Barrett Brown: HRX Director
Steve Clark: HRX Sending DirectorYale Kushner: HRX Staff Care Director,
AREA REPRESENTATIVES:Americas – Dan Ryder, [email protected]
Africa – Gary and Alice Fredricks, [email protected]
East Asia – Alan Penman, [email protected] Europe – Tracy Dykes,
[email protected]– Debbie Iannetti,
[email protected] & PACT – Jodi Wallace,
[email protected], [email protected] – Dan Ryder, [email protected] – Tracy Dykes, [email protected]
South/Southeast Asia – Vern Cutshall,[email protected]
Western Europe–Yale Kushner, [email protected]
INTERNATIONAL CAMPUS STAFF (ICS):Keith Bubalo: Global Missions Executive Director
Mark Kohman: ICS DirectorNortheast – [email protected] – [email protected]
Mid-South – [email protected] – [email protected]
Great Lakes – [email protected] and [email protected]
Upper Midwest – [email protected],[email protected] and [email protected]
Red River – [email protected] and [email protected]
Great Plains – [email protected] and [email protected]
Greater Northwest – [email protected] Southwest – [email protected]
High School –[email protected] Info: www.internationalsos.com
(use member number on card to enter)
CRU MINISTRIES:Steve Sellers, Area Team Leader, U.S., Canada and OceaniaMark Gauthier, Executive Director of U.S. Campus Ministry
Mark Householder, Director of Athletes in ActionGreg Lillestrand, U.S. Director of Cru City
Josh McDowell, Director of Josh McDowell MinistryDennis Rainey, President of FamilyLife
Marc Rutter, Director of Leadership Development and HREditor in Chief: Janice Kennedy
Managing Editor: Becky ThomtonContributing Editors:
Cindy Kahre, Donna Kushner, Jodi WallaceDesign: Terri Oesterreich
©2012 Cru. All rights reserved.
Page 4
2 MK2MK Summer pics 3 How have you been mentored?
4 What do you appreciate about the person who coached you?
Marc RutterU.S. Director of
Leadership Development and Human Resources
In 1994, I had one of those encounters that significantly marked me for life. I was in Singapore where I had the privilege of spending time with Chan Chong Hiok who was, at that time, the National Director of Singapore. We were discussing what was involved in building movements, and he shared this “nugget” with me: “We are constantly getting ready now for what God will do.” Although the context was not mentoring, I later recognized this as a profound motivation for pursuing my own personal development in general, and in specifically seeking out mentors to assist me in my ongoing growth. The question it forced me to ask myself was: Am I personally “getting ready now for what God will do,” so that I can become “a vessel for honor, sanctified, useful to the Master”? Recently I was invited to speak at the Albania Staff Conference on “The Role of Mentoring in Personal Development.” The definition I used came from Matt Starcevich, the founder of The Center for Coaching & Mentoring (coachingandmentoring.com):
The mentoring process is a power-free, mutually beneficial learning relationship where the mentor provides advice, shares knowledge and experience for the benefit of the person they are mentoring. The mentor encourages the person to keep taking “next steps” in their growth and development. It is intended to be a highly relational, highly interactive learning and growing environment.
Here were some of our thoughts as we discussed and dissected Starcevich’s definition:• power-free It is not about power or control of one person over another. Rather it is a nurturing relationship where the person feels empowered to pursue their growth in the context of someone who believes in them.• mutually beneficial learning relationship God uses this relationship to cause growth in both the mentor and the one being mentored.• mentor provides advice, shares knowledge and experience The agenda is driven by the one being mentored. The mentor speaks into their life from their personal knowledge and experiences. • for the benefit of the person they are mentoringThe first and foremost outcome of the mentoring relationships is how this will benefit the person being mentored, not how it will benefit the organization.• the mentor encourages the person to keep taking “next steps” The focus is faith, growth and future fruitfulness—“getting ready now for what God will do.”• highly relational, highly interactive learning and growing environment This is not GCTC Part 2. This is not “program” or “curriculum” driven. It is a life-on-life, iron-sharpening, relational growth experience.
“If the axe is dull and you do not sharpen its edge, you must exert more strength.”“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.”
(Ecclesiastes 10:10; Proverbs 27:17)
The Role of Mentoring in Personal Development
Debrief Dates
Plan ahead to be a part of one of the upcoming debrief conferences. Debrief and renewal retreats will be held two times a year.
During a CSU staff conference year, Stillwater Retreat will also be held.
Dates: • October 10-16, 2012• January 9-15, 2013• July 22 – 26 Stillwater (22 is registration day; 26 is travel day)
For more information, visit the staff web:https://staffweb.cru.org/ministry/us-staff-overseas/debrief/index.htm
T h i s i s s u e : f o c u s o n c o a c h i n g a n D M e n T o R i n g
John HendersonLD Coordinator for
Eastern Europe and Russia
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