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Friendship Development
KNR 253
SK Opinion…
One of the most important things we can do
One of the most critical areas of Leisure Education
Perhaps even more important than Leisure Awareness, Leisure Resources, & Leisure Activity Skills
Not programmed as much as the other areas
Social Interaction Skills(Leisure Ability Model: Stumbo & Peterson, 2009)
Communication skills
Relationship-building skills
Self-presentation skills
Communication Skills: Skills that enable someone to communicate with others (p. 51)
Assertiveness skills Negotiation, disagreement, conflict, &
compromise skills Conversation skills
Introducing self & othersAsking questionsResponding
Communication Skills: Skills that enable someone to communicate with others (p. 51)
Active listening skills & responsive behavior
Receptive skillsReading body language
Expressing feelings & thoughts Information-seeking & information-
giving skills Empathy & perspective-taking skills
Self-Presentation Skills: Social etiquette rules (p. 52)
Politeness, etiquette, manners, taking turns, sharing, etc.
Hygiene, health, & grooming skills Appropriate attire & dressing Responsibility for self care
Relationship-Building Skills: Assist people in locating, maintaining, & developing friendships & other relationships (p. 51-52)
Greeting & initiating…locating leisure partners
Friendship development skills Self-disclosure & privacy issues Cooperative & competitive skills Negotiation & compromise skills Developing & maintaining social networks Reciprocal social support
Expressing care & concern for others
Facilitating Friendships
2006 National Institute on Recreation InclusionSandra Klitzing, Ph.D., CTRS
Friendships in General
ABC’s of FriendshipWhat is a friend?Someone who...
Friendships in General: Definition
Mutual involvement between 2 people that is characterized by affection, satisfaction, enjoyment, openness, respect, and a sense of feeling important to the other.
• Lawhon, 1997
Does 1 size of friendship fit all?
Does 1 size of friendship fit all?
Age
Gender
Ethnicity
Circle of Friends
Best friends Good friends Acquaintances you play
with People who are paid to be in your life
Friendships and People with Disabilities
Suggestions for Friendship Development: Program Ideas
ChildrenWork with parents to arrange play
datesHelp select peers with similar interestsUse staff to facilitate play dates at
home of child with disability• Koegel et al., 2005
Suggestions for Friendship Development: Program Ideas
Teens Include teens with disabilities in existing teen
recreation programs
Collaborate with general recreators or educators to design inclusive teen programs
Design programs that facilitate reverse inclusion
Suggestions for Friendship Development: Program Ideas
Friendship programHow to build friendshipsHow to maintain friendshipsWhy friendships endWhat you can do to reconnect
Suggestions for Friendship Development: Special Events
International Friendship DayFirst Sunday of August
A time to recognize friends
Suggestions for Friendship Development: Activities
Music Videos Art Friendship bracelets Friendship mobile Friendship poem
Suggestions for Friendship Development: Facilitation Techniques Preschool
Turtle technique• Fold arms and use words to say angry
Floor time with adults and peers• Burton & Denham, 1998
Suggestions for Friendship Development: Facilitation Techniques Children
Peer-support committees• Spencer, 1999
Prevent adult interference MAPS Support clusters (formal & informal support)
• Turnbull et al., 2000
Program directories• Searcy, 1996
Suggestions for Friendship Development: Facilitation Techniques Be aware of isolation Design cooperative activities Divide participants into smaller groups Provide for a small area of
participation Choose interactive materials &
equipment Serve as connector & reconnector
Suggestions for Friendship Development: Environmental Clues Bulletin board Posters Others????
Facebook: Implications for Therapeutic Recreation
Sandra Wolf Klitzing, Ph.D., CTRS
ILRTA Central Region Workshop
Urbana, IL
March 10, 2009
More than 175 million active users worldwide Number 1 social network, followed by Myspace & Twitter Each user spends an average of 25 minutes/day Each user has an average of 150-200 friends
Learning Objectives
Explore social networking / Facebook Explore implications for TR
ConnectionPromotionPrograms
• Discuss the importance of social networking on friendships
• Identify skills and precautions our participants need to safely use social network sites
Social Networking Defined
A broad class of websites and services that allow you to connect with friends, family, and colleagues online
Interactive communication in which participants share thoughts, photos, etc. with members of their own personal networks
2004 Started in February Initially only Harvard students Later expanded to any university student
2005 Expanded to high school students
2006 Open to anyone with valid e-mail address Must be 13 years or older
Wikipedia, 2008
Facebook Used To…
Maintain relationships Update others about activities &
whereabouts Share photos Get updates on what friends are doing Coordinate activities “Phatic” communication
No real information Hope you are doing fine
• Dwyer, Hiltz, & Passerini, 2007
Rationale for Programs(Professional)
Leisure Ability ModelRelationship-building skills
• Addresses skills that help people develop and maintain friendships
Nontraditional leisure skills• Computer & internet activities
• Stumbo & Peterson, 2004
Rationale for Programs(Friendship)
What are the benefits of friendship? To you To adolescents and young adults with disabilities
What is a social network? Number Function
What are the social networks of adolescents or young adults with disabilities like? Impact of inclusive education After graduation
Rationale for Programs(Friendship)
“Perhaps more than any other aspect of development, friendships are an expression of a person’s inclusion in the community.”
• Guralnick, Conner & Hammond, 1995 as quoted inDattilo, 1999
Rationale for Programs(Social Capital)
Resources accumulated through relationships with others
Coleman, 1988
Bridging social capitalLoose connections between people who can give information or new perspectivesTypically not emotional support
Bonding social capitalFound in tight-knit, emotionally close relationships, such as family & close friends
Putnam, 2000
Rationale for Programs(Social Capital)
Maintained social capital Allows people to keep in touch with social
networks after changes• Graduate, move, life changes
Research and Facebook Strong bridging and maintained social capital Weaker bonding social capital
• Ellison, Steinfield, & Lampe, 2007
People with Disabilities and Social Networking Removes problems of transportation &
physical access Removes communication barriers Decreases isolation Affords communication between people with
the same disability Keeps in touch with friends Builds confidence in social aspects due to
interaction not being in person
People with Disabilities and Social Networking “I can reveal as much or as little about my
cerebral palsy as I choose: although I don’t hide my disability, many times it doesn’t even come up and I can be me without my disability taking center stage. People get to know me based on my words, thoughts, ideas, opinions and wit. They don’t get hung up on their misperceptions or assumptions about what my disability is or isn’t, which allows us to get right to the task or topic at hand.”
• disaboom
Senior Friendships: What Can We Learn From the Red Hat Society®?
Midwest Symposium on Therapeutic Recreation and Adapted Physical Education
Lake Geneva, WI
April 28, 2008
Rationale for Presentation
Leisure Ability ModelRelationship-building skills
• Addresses skills that help people develop and maintain friendships
• Healthy relationships contribute to quality of life
• Stumbo & Peterson, 2004
Rationale for Presentation
Number of people who are older35 million over 65 years
• US Census, 2000
137% increase by 2050• Baby boomers
• US Census, 2001
Increase in TR jobs working with seniors
• Occupational Outlook Handbook, 2007
What Is a Friend?
Are the benefits of friendship similar for seniors?
Are the effects of loss similar for seniors?
Benefits of Senior Friendships Physical health
Immune system Cardiovascular
Mental health Social health
Companionship Social support
Life satisfaction Optimism Maintain identity
Decrease loneliness
Increase feelings of usefulness
Provides socialization into old age
Helps adjust to losses
And more…
Benefits of Senior Friendships
Friendship identity is strongest predictor of well-beingEven if family is largest percentage of
social support network
Why???
• Siebert, Mutran, Reitzes, 1999
If no friends…
Women are more vulnerable to lonelinessMore likely to withdraw
• Martina & Stevens, 2006
Women are more depressedImportance of same-sex BFF
• Antonucci, Lansford, & Akiyama, 2001
Friendlessness is a risk factor for disease and death
• Frazier, 2007; Siebert, Mutran, & Reitzes, 1999
Red Hat Society®
Red Hat Society®
Started 1998
Warning Jenny Joseph
Now a huge “disorganization” Women over 50
Red Hat Society®
Mission:Use age as license to be silly and build
relationships with women• Yarnal, Kerstetter, Chick, & Hutchinson, 2005
Say goodbye to burdens, responsibilities & obligations for awhile
Gain higher visibility for women in age group & reshape how they are viewed in today’s culture
• www.redhatsociety.com/
Red Hat Society®
Central Tenets No rules
• EXCEPT• Over 50 “full regalia”
• (red hats/purple outfit)
• Under 50 • (pink hats/lavender outfits)
• No men No jobs No responsibilities No penalties
Red Hat Society®
Members need to enjoyBeing with other womenPlaying dress-upDoing “girl things”Deepening laugh lines
• Cooper, 2004
Ruby RedHat’s Top Ten Rules For Living, Plus One
1. Accept reality, live in the here & now No what-ifs or regrets Don’t try to control life & others
2. Accentuate the positive Look at the good in self, others, situations Have gratitude for all the good in life
3. Nurture yourself When you need a break, take one Take long walks, curl up with a book
4. Indulge your sense of humor Have a broad grin and a belly laugh Develop laugh lines rather than frown lines Be silly
Ruby RedHat’s Top Ten Rules For Living, Plus One
5. Play! Girls just wanna have fun Have a slumber party or any party
6. Dress up! Shop in thrift shops The more glitz & boas the better Clothes don’t have to be “age-appropriate” It’s easier to act silly when you dress silly
7. Cultivate an openness to new things Learn to be satisfied with who you are Challenge yourself to learn and grow Try almost anything
8. Express your creativity Try silly ideas Create outfits with flair Think outside the “hatbox”
Ruby RedHat’s Top Ten Rules For Living, Plus One
9. Exercise compassion Help each other face challenges Cry with others
10. Have courage Face your own challenges or whatever comes
your way
11. Make up for sobriety of your youth Make up for all the duties you performed There is an awful lot of quirky stuff left to do Instead of buying staples, buy toys for yourself
• Cooper, 2004
Red Hat Society®
Play can be seen in chapter names:The Grateful RedAbove BoredWell-Red LadiesB.O.M.B. (Bodacious Ozark Mountain
Babes)O.H.M.Y! (Outrageous Hats, Misguided
Youths)Barely Beyond Pink
Red Hat Society®
Play can be seen in activities:Pajama partiesGlamour shotsChick flicksThrift shop scavenger huntHigh teaSenior promLongest chorus line
What are the key components of the Red Hat Society’s® success?
How can we use the Red Hat Society® as a model to help design programs or interventions to facilitate
friendships for our senior clients?
What We Can Do
Find a Red Hat chapter for our clients Start a Red Hat chapter for our clients
www.redhatsociety.com/ Apply concepts to our existing friendship
programs Apply concepts to new friendship programs Infuse fun and friendship in all our
interactions with clients Infuse fun and play in our own lives
Webkinz: Make-believe, Virtual, and Real-life FriendsMidwest Symposium on Therapeutic Recreation and
Adapted Physical Education
St. Louis, MO
April 16, 2009
Who were your childhood friends?
Real-life Friends
PreschoolForm preferences as early as toddlers73% have 1 mutual friendPrefer peers who are similar in age,
sex, and raceBased on proximity and playing
together• Lindsey, 2002: Yugar & Shapiro, 2001
Real-life Friends
Grade School Most have mutual friends Most friends are same-sex Choose peers from classroom,
neighborhood, or recreation activities Based on qualities like keeping promises
and secrets and telling the truth Involved in sleepovers
• Yugar & Shapiro, 2001; Rotenberg & Morgan, 1995: Graham et al., 1998
Real-life Friends
Grade School: BoysPlay in larger groupsFew demands for intimacyConcern about mastery, status,
autonomyIncrease in cross-race mutual friends
• Graham et al., 1998; Meurling et al., 1999
Real-life Friends
Grade School: GirlsSpend much time with friendsConcern about relationship issues and
emotional closenessDependency in relationshipsExclusive & intimate friendshipsSmall friendship networks
• Graham et al., 1996; Meurling et al., 1999
Real-life Friends Help To…..
Provide a context for social learning Serve as resources for emotional
support and security Function as precursor for later
relationships• Yugar & Shapiro, 2001
Real-life Friends Help To…..
Develop social competenceInitiate interactionsLearn give and takeLearn to set up rulesLearn to lead and followLearn how different situations call for
different behaviorsMaintain ongoing relationshipSolve conflicts with other children
• Rose & Asher, 2000
Make-believe Friends
Imaginary companions or friendsInvisible character
Impersonation
Personified object
Make-believe Friends Help To…
Stimulate creativity and imagination Feel less lonely Have a confidant to tell secrets to Figure difference between right and
wrong• Brott, 2009
Develop language skills• Wikipedia, 2009
Make-believe Friends Help To…
Learn to talk to people Learn to get along with others
• Maschke, 2006
Virtual Friends
What are virtual friends?
Did you have virtual friends when you were a child?
Do you have a virtual friend now?
Do you know of children that have virtual friends?
What are friendships like for children with disabilities?
Friends and Children with Disabilities
Rarely engaged in social interaction with peers in school or classes
Had no consistent friends Were alone on playground during free time Had infrequent contact with peers in
extracurricular or recreation activities Were not invited for play dates, birthday
parties, or sleep overs• Koegel et al., 2005
Friends and Children with Disabilities
Often more helping relationships than friendships
Girls more frequently than boys “work with” a classmate who has a disability
• Turnbull et al., 2000
Webkinz Outcomes
Encourage reading Encourage writing Learn about saving & spending money Learn responsibility by caring for pet Learn 21st century technology skills Increase ability to get along with others Place to socialize with friends in a fun &
safe environment
Webkinz Outcomes
Virtual friends Make-believe friends Real-life friends
Talk about Webkinz were part of interactions with real friends in and out of online environment
• Spires, Lee, & Lester, 2008
Group Work
What do you currently do to facilitate friendship with your child clients?
How might you use Webkinz as an intervention to facilitate friendships?
Will Webkinz work better with certain populations?
Computer games & Webkinz previously used:
Children with autism• Altshuler, 2009
Children with fetal alcohol syndrome• Padgett, Strickland, & Coles, 2006
Hospitalized children• Webkinz Foundation