Building self confidence v 11-feb09

Building Self - ConfidenceSecrets of Success


Dedicated to His Divine GraceA.C. Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada

(Founder Acharya- ISKCON)


1. What is self-confidence?

2. Why people lack self-confidence?

3. Self assessment

4. Practical tips to increase Self Confidence

Agenda


What is Self-Confidence


Self-confidence is a term used to describe how

secure a person is in his own

decisions and actions and how free he is from

doubt.


Activity Identify the

characteristic


characteristic


Assertiveness SELF CONFIDENT

Distrust LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE

Eagerness

Affection

Self- doubt

Isolation

SELF CONFIDENT

SELF CONFIDENT

LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE



Sensitivity to criticismDepression

Feelings of inferiority

The ability to handle criticism

Emotional maturity



SELF CONFIDENT


SELF CONFIDENT


Main causes for lack of self-confidence


Activity What are the

various causes of people lacking

self-confidence?


The reasons are…


Negativelife

experiences


Loss of a family member

or close friend


Failures &reversals in

life


Self Criticis

m


External Pressure



Guilty feelings


Let’s doSelf

Assessment



characteristic Activity

Comparison


One characteristic at a time will be displayed

on screenPlease tell the oppositecharacteristic


Self-Confident Low Self-Confidence


Self-Confident Low Self-ConfidenceDoing what you believe to be right, even if others mock or criticize



Behavior based on what other people will think




Staying in comfort zone, fearing failure and avoid taking risks




Being willing to take risks and go the extra mile







Admitting mistakes and learning from them







Working hard to cover up mistakes


Rank yourself on a scale of 1-5 for all

the three characteristics. Add up scores and find

out total score out of 15







Working hard to cover up mistakes


What is your score?• 1-3 – Low

• 4-8 - Average

• 9-12 – Good

• 12 and above - Excellent


How to Increase Your Self-Confidence


Tolerate reversals with

a positive frame of mind

1


I have not failed. I've just found 10,000

ways that won't work.

Thomas Alva Edison

“ “


Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us

while we live.

““

Norman Cousins


I've missed more than 9000 shots in

my career. I've lost almost

300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game

winning shot and missed.

“


I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

“

Michael Jordan


mäträ-sparçäs tu kaunteyaçétoñëa-sukha-duùkha-däù

ägamäpäyino ’nityästäàs titikñasva bhärata

REF. Bg 2.14


TRANSLATION

O son of Kunté, the nonpermanent appearance of happiness and

distress, and their disappearance in due course, are like the appearance

and disappearance of winter and summer seasons. They arise from

sense perception, O scion of Bharata, and one must learn to

tolerate them without being disturbed.


Identify the person


• 1832 - lost his job & defeated in legislature

• 1833 - failed in business

• 1835 - sweetheart died

• 1836 - had a nervous breakdown

• 1838 - defeated for Speaker of the U.S. House


• 1843 - defeated for nomination for Congress

• 1848 - lost re-nomination

• 1854 - defeated for U.S. Senate

• 1856 - defeated for nomination Vice President

•1858 - again defeated for U.S. Senate


In 1860 he was elected President

of USA

Abraham Lincoln


Sometimes hardships and reversals can bring

out the best in us

They can be blessings in

disguise!


Cocoon of a

butterfly


Choose your friends well2


Avoid individuals who

suck your energy and

diminish your confidence


Pessimists drag you down, as do

whiners and critics


You are the same today as you will be in five

years except for two things,

the people you associate

with and the books you read.

JOHN F KENNEDY

““


Cultivate friendship with a person who is closest to you


Who is he


Most powerful and loving Lord

in the heart!


sarvasya cähaà hådi sanniviñöomattaù småtir jïänam apohanaà

REF. Bg 15.15


TRANSLATION

I am seated in everyone’s heart, and from Me come

remembrance, knowledge and forgetfulness.


Our most trustworth

y friend


FOOTPRINTS IN THE SAND


We have to practice remembering the Lord

always, by chanting His names and molding life’s activities in such a way that we can remember

Him always.SRILA PRABHUPADA

““


Dwell on your

strengths & not on your weaknesses

3


Each one of us have

strengths and weaknesses


Amazing will!

Enter



Don’t cry over your

shortcomings and

weaknesses


Lalloo Yadav

Enter



Chanting

4


Richard Arthur (An instructor of English at Rutgers University)

Chanting makes me more aware of what to do and what not to do.

And now, I naturally feel happy about doing

the right thing.


The psychologists have found chanters

brimming with self-confidence


Nathan Zakheim (Famous art director)

"After years of being a closed-in person

and trying to protect myself from experiences, now I'm really different.”


Essence of Chanting

Enter



“Chanting makes me so exuberant that I easily sail

through all challenging

situations in life.”

Marco Ferrini(Italy’s top furniture

designer)


5Read

Great books


The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who

can not read them.

“ “MARK TWAIN


When doubts haunt me, when

disappointments stare me in the

face, and I see not one ray of hope on the horizon, I turn to Bhagavad-gita

“


“Mahatma Gandhi

and find a verse to comfort me; and I

immediately begin to smile in the midst of

Overwhelming sorrow.


By reading we discover ourselves

& our world.

“ “

OPRAH WINFREY


If one properly follows the instructions of Bhagavad-gétä, one can be freed from all the miseries and anxieties of life.

One will be freed from all fears.(Gétä-mähätmya 1)


Dr K Kasturirangan’s speech

EnterFormer Chairman of ISRO



Read Bhagavad Gita?

What is the use?


Every man who reads has the power to

magnify himself, to make his life full, significant,

and meaningful.ALBERT EINSTEIN

““


Cultivate a habit of reading regularly at least for 15 min


Summarize• Negative experiences, feeling of guilt, fear etc diminish our self confidence

• Self confidence is influenced to a large extent by the kind of people we associate with

• Our self confidence can be boosted by chanting, reading and developing faith in the Lord


Q&A


Thank You

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Building self confidence v 11-feb09