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21 November 201021 November 2010ROFCROFC

Psalm 127:1Psalm 127:1

Spiritual CompatibilitySpiritual Compatibility in Marriagein Marriage

Presented by: MVKPresented by: MVK

Survey Done at TFTSurvey Done at TFTin 2010in 2010

Communication – 38.27% Communication – 38.27%

Finances – 29%Finances – 29%

Spirituality – 28%Spirituality – 28%

Children – 18.5%Children – 18.5%

Neutrality – 16.04%Neutrality – 16.04%

Sexual – 9.87%Sexual – 9.87%

Divorces at Different YearsDivorces at Different Years

WHAT IS SPIRITUALITY?WHAT IS SPIRITUALITY?

The terms Spirituality and The terms Spirituality and Religion both refer to the Religion both refer to the

search for the absolute Godsearch for the absolute God

Irwin ThompsonIrwin Thompson

Religion is NOT identical with Religion is NOT identical with Spirituality, rather religion is the Spirituality, rather religion is the

form spirituality takes in form spirituality takes in civilizationcivilization

How These Couples InterpretHow These Couples InterpretSpiritual ProblemsSpiritual Problems

Irresolvable Spiritual DifferencesIrresolvable Spiritual Differences Spiritual Lukewarmness or ColdnessSpiritual Lukewarmness or Coldness Partners who are Spiritually confusedPartners who are Spiritually confused Partners who are resistant to religious Partners who are resistant to religious

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SBNRSBNR Then we have a group of those who Then we have a group of those who

separate Spirituality from Religion by separate Spirituality from Religion by saying that they believe in the existence saying that they believe in the existence of many different ‘Spiritual Paths”of many different ‘Spiritual Paths”

They emphasize the importance of finding They emphasize the importance of finding ones own individual path to spiritualityones own individual path to spirituality

They call themselves theThey call themselves the S Spiritualpiritual B Butut N Notot RReligiouseligious

QUESTION QUESTION

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN ONE FAILS TO WHAT HAPPENS WHEN ONE FAILS TO BECOME SPIRITUAL AND RELIGIOUS?BECOME SPIRITUAL AND RELIGIOUS?

ALTERNATIVESALTERNATIVES

Humanism – I canHumanism – I can

Atheism – No GodAtheism – No God

Gnosticism – Don’t really careGnosticism – Don’t really care

Traditionalism – Superstitions etc.Traditionalism – Superstitions etc.

Hobbies – Sport etc.Hobbies – Sport etc.

THE CHALLENGETHE CHALLENGE

2 Corinthians 6:142 Corinthians 6:14

Do not be Yoked together with Do not be Yoked together with UnbelieversUnbelievers

THE PROBLEMTHE PROBLEM

Most of us met our Partners Most of us met our Partners before we became Christiansbefore we became Christians

THE TRUTH ISTHE TRUTH IS

YOU WERE INCOMPATIBLE YOU WERE INCOMPATIBLE FROM THE ONSETFROM THE ONSET

INCOMPATIBILITY!INCOMPATIBILITY!

WHAT IS COMPATIBILITY?WHAT IS COMPATIBILITY?

COMPATIBILITYCOMPATIBILITY

Being Able to exist and Being Able to exist and Perform in Harmony or Perform in Harmony or Agreeable CombinationAgreeable Combination

So if we are truly COMPATIBLE So if we are truly COMPATIBLE and ONE of us comes and says and ONE of us comes and says

I HAVE FOUND JESUSI HAVE FOUND JESUS

There shouldn't be a problem in There shouldn't be a problem in TRUSTING their JUDGEMENTTRUSTING their JUDGEMENT

And choice and BUYING in into And choice and BUYING in into it!it!

Laws of CompatibilityLaws of CompatibilityRule 1Rule 1

NEVER marry a person with the NEVER marry a person with the hope that they will changehope that they will change

Laws of CompatibilityLaws of CompatibilityRule 2Rule 2

Never marry a person who is not Never marry a person who is not compatible with you and start compatible with you and start

praying that God will change thempraying that God will change them

It is better to remain single and It is better to remain single and serve God alone than to be married serve God alone than to be married to someone who has no interest in to someone who has no interest in

GodGod

Levels of CompatibilityLevels of CompatibilityLevel 1Level 1

PHYSICAL COMPATIBILITYPHYSICAL COMPATIBILITY Do you find your Partner Physically Do you find your Partner Physically

attractive?attractive? Are you happy to introduce him/her Are you happy to introduce him/her

to your friends and family?to your friends and family? Do you like the way they look?Do you like the way they look?


INTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITYINTELLECTUAL COMPATIBILITY

Are you comfortable with their level Are you comfortable with their level of Formal Education?of Formal Education?

Do you enjoy the same ideas and Do you enjoy the same ideas and Things?Things?

PLEASE NOTEPLEASE NOTE

Though some people have a low level Though some people have a low level of Formal education they have a very of Formal education they have a very high level of informal education and high level of informal education and they can fit into any type of companythey can fit into any type of company


Maturity versus Age gapMaturity versus Age gap

How old are you?How old are you?

What is your Maturity Level?What is your Maturity Level?

Maturity versus AgeMaturity versus Age

She may be 25 but have theShe may be 25 but have the

maturity level of a 40 year oldmaturity level of a 40 year old

You may be 35 but have theYou may be 35 but have the

maturity level of a 25 year oldmaturity level of a 25 year old

THIS MAKES YOU INCOMPATIBLE!THIS MAKES YOU INCOMPATIBLE!

ALL THE ABOVE WILL SPILL ALL THE ABOVE WILL SPILL OVER INTO YOUR SPIRITUAL OVER INTO YOUR SPIRITUAL

LIVESLIVES

AND MAY BE THE CAUSE WHY AND MAY BE THE CAUSE WHY YOU HAVE SPIRITUAL YOU HAVE SPIRITUAL

PROBLEMSPROBLEMS

Laws of the Spirit in MarriageLaws of the Spirit in MarriageLaw 1Law 1

John 4:4 John 4:4

Every Christian family MUST Every Christian family MUST acknowledge Godacknowledge God

Laws of the Spirit in MarriageLaws of the Spirit in MarriageLaw 2Law 2

Ephesians 5:23Ephesians 5:23

The Man MUST be the Spiritual Leader The Man MUST be the Spiritual Leader of the Familyof the Family

The Husbands Spiritual RoleThe Husbands Spiritual RoleIn marriageIn marriage

He is the Priest – To perform Spiritual He is the Priest – To perform Spiritual RitualsRituals

He is the Prophet – To direct The He is the Prophet – To direct The Spiritual Affairs Spiritual Affairs

He is the King – To rule like Christ in He is the King – To rule like Christ in His familyHis family

Worth Considering FactWorth Considering Fact

IF A WOMAN CANT LOOK UP TO A MAN IF A WOMAN CANT LOOK UP TO A MAN THEN SHE SHOULD NOT LOOK AT THEN SHE SHOULD NOT LOOK AT

HIM AT ALL..HIM AT ALL..

CONCLUSSIONCONCLUSSION

ENCOURAGE YOUR PARTNER ENCOURAGE YOUR PARTNER FOR SELF GROWTH AND FOR SELF GROWTH AND

IMPROVEMENTIMPROVEMENT

HEBREWS 10:24HEBREWS 10:24

DON’T FORCE ANYTHING ON DON’T FORCE ANYTHING ON THEMTHEM

CHANGE IS ENCOURAGED AND CHANGE IS ENCOURAGED AND NOT ENFORCEDNOT ENFORCED

BE PERSISTENT.BE PERSISTENT.IF YOU GIVE UP NOW YOU WILL IF YOU GIVE UP NOW YOU WILL

ALWAYS GIVE UP ALWAYS GIVE UP

NEVER LOSE HOPE NEVER LOSE HOPE HEBREWS 11:1HEBREWS 11:1

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