Communicating & Dealing with Challenges

DIGITAL PARENTING

Sekolah Cikal believes technology is an essential tool for learning environment and should be used responsibly and respectfully. Students must realize that the access to the internet in the school is a privilege and therefore students abide by the regulations set forth by the school pertaining to technology use policy.

WHY GIVE ACCESS TOTECHNOLOGY?

YOU HAVE TO INTRODUCE TO THEM TO TECHNOLOGY AS EARLY AND OFTEN AS POSSIBLE

Normal, cheaper, and availableSecure feelingSocial pressure – suffer academicallyLearning tools

How They ChangedEarly Adolescence (9 – 13 years old)-Personal disorganization-More negative attitude toward authority-More testing on family limit

Challenge for parentsKeeping positive attitude during a more off-putting time

Common problem Set back on academic achievement

Mid Adolescence (13-15 years old)-“My friends are my everything”. We = Me-“I want to be free to explore new and try out different things”

Challenge for parentsTo provide loyal opposition to your child’s push for more social freedom when it appears unwise or unsafe, without resorting to coercion or censure to settle disagreements

Common problemCheating

HOW THEY HIDE WHAT THEY’RE DOING FROM YOU

• I type an IM/chat and then I quickly minimize it. Then I pull up my homework really fast.• I have four different email accounts.• I have more than one Facebook account.• I wait until my parents are asleep

Truths about how PEOPLE interact onlineThey do things online they

wouldn’t do in real life.“Fight” online without getting

immediate feedback that might challenge.

Quicker and easier to disseminate, but harder to get rid of.

Post personal information online.Addicted to being connected.

IT IS PRIVILEGE, NOT A RIGHT …

Laying down the law

- A special advantage or benefit not enjoyed by all

- A right reserved exclusively by a particular person or group

You have a responsibility to use it ethically. Never use it to humiliate, embarrass, send personal information, misrepresent yourself or someone else, misuse passwords, share embarrassing information or picture of other people, etc.If I see that you are violating the terms of our agreement, I will take all your technology away until you can earn my trust back.

1. Set the limit -- It’s okay to be disconnected.

2. It’s a tool to strengthen communication.

3. Safety, security, and integrity.4. Parents have the right to check.5. There is what you call

‘technology manners’.*Engage and be role model

WHAT IF YOUR CHILD MAKE A MISTAKE?

Everyone makes mistakes. It’s how you conduct yourself after messing up that shows what kind of person you are.

PROBLEMS THAT MIGHT HAPPENDISCUSS WITH A PARENT BESIDE YOU FOR 5 MINUTES

What if your child sends personal information about herself/family?

What if your child forwarding bad information about others?

What if your child embarrasses herself?

1. ComfortingSit with your child.Reminding him/her about how

horrible the situation, will not help.

Do an activity that is not related, will clear everyone’s mind.

2. AcknowledgingDiscuss on how your child is part

of the problem.Discuss on possibilities of

consequences: to self, others, and family.

3. Deciding on responsible actionWrite down scenario and

timeline.Practice makes perfect.Be there all the way.

4. Reminding about the agreementAgree on the consequences.Committed to it.

How the school supports Laptop self-inspectionOur last laptop and online behavior self-inspection was conducted on February-March, 2014. We covered some useful do and don'ts including checking power cords, backup files, download History, software (educational use and illegal use) and folder Management. Essential AgreementHaving discussion with the students to ensure that they learn the best way to manage and reflect on their behavior when working with their laptop and their online behavior(refer to the Technology Use Policy)

Contract Sample

Class Essential AgreementResponsible Use of Technology 

Laptop can only be used research related to the subject onlyConsider age appropriateness factor when opening reliable websitesMaking sure the laptop is in good condition and saved in secure placeUse appropriate language in online communication  Consequences  First warning (having discussion with homeroom teacher/subject teacher and reflection)Decrease bandwidth for a day Confiscate the laptop and is only allowed to use school computer under supervision * Major inappropriate behavior will lead to suspension  

Earning trust and building skills,are far more important then simply using parental monitoring software.

Parenting will always give you a chance for a “redo”