Parenting Point 1

Being a parent in this world today is very challenging; there are a lot of internal and external factors to consider while making decision in choosing the best ways to nurture our children. Being a parent means you have to consider some moral value to instill in your child upbringing. In my opinion, one of the most important values for parenting is respect, you have to be always being respectful towards your children even while disciplining them, it is because the child will learns respectful behavior from their parents, and they are more likely to develop a healthy self-respect and a respect for others including their parent in the future. Respect is not ust a vital ethical virtue; it is also an essenti al found ation for good relation ships. !e enager s who show disrespect by ignoring, belittling, insulting or defying their parents make effective parenting difficult and unpleasant, i f not impossible. !herefore, a central goal of good parenting is to te ach your children to res pect you. "o u also have a duty to treat your teen with respect. #gain, this is not only an obligation of conscience but also a practical necessity. $arents who yell, manipulate, insult, demean, abuse or ignore their children erect huge barriers to effective parenting. !reating people with respect means letting them know that their safety and happiness matter, that they are important. !o teach our children to be respectful, we need to translate the moral principal of respect into specific attitudes, behaviours and actions. %ther than that, parents can entrust their child to make age-appropriate decision, these can ultimately help children to be responsible of their own action. If parents try to control everything in their child&s life, it will send the message that they do not trust their child to make the right decision, as an instance when a child needs to choose their academic field, instead of choosing what subect your child should take, parent should respect their child&s interest and choice. 'onse(uently, the more control a parent uses, the less cooperation they will get as the child are prone to feel insecure and have low confidence level. )owever, it is also sensible to set limits for the children as it helps the child develop a sense of self-control. By encouraging independence for the child, it will develop a sense of self-direction which will be one of the important factors to help the child to be successf ul in th ei r li fe la ter . *ome pa re nt s mi st akenly e(uate thei r ch il d& s indepe ndenc e with rebelliou sness or disob edience , but it is actually human nature of wanting to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else. In this situati on, freedom boost s kid& s ability to recogn ise their intere st as well as their self- image. 'hildren who receive encouragement or genuine praise are also more resilient. Because they are focused on the ir eff ort and bel iev e they can cha nge their circumsta nce s throug h determination or learning, they are not as shaken by adversity. %n the flip side, children who have been praised for a fixed personal characteristic such as their intelligence or good looks, are confused by set-back s and view them as a persona l reflection rather th an a growth opportunity . In addition, children who receive stickers or a high fives for doing mundane tasks like putting their shoes on, begin to expect praise when praise is not called for and take it personally when it does not come which will inevitably happen as they age; the praise becomes more important than the achievement. %f course, it is okay to express pride in your child; it is a natural way to demonstrate love and support. But it is important to understand that if self-confidence and development are the goals, encouragement is a much more useful strategy. # fter all, when our children are on their own and faced with a challenge, we know it will not help them to think, +hy cant I do this I should

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Parenting Point 1