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Parents, learn why saying "don't" to kids doesn't get the results you want and what to say instead. I created this slide show from the very first parenting challenge I sent out to my on-line audience. Now I send out a new parenting challenge each week to help parents learn Positive Discipline strategies for improving their parenting skills. I hope you enjoy the slides - Kelly Pfeiffer, Think It Through Parenting
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Parenting Challenge #1:
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Parents, to get better results . . .
Don’t Say
“Don’t”
Watch my slides to learn why “don’t” is confusing and get strategies to use instead.
from a series of Positive Discipline Parenting Challengesto Help You Improve Your Parenting
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
YourChallenge … Don’t say
“don’t”“stop” or“uh uh”
to your kids for a day
Sounds impossible, right?
Wait, I’ve got suggestions for what to say instead.
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Instead of using the negatives to tell kids
what not to do,
use the affirmative to help kids know what
TO DO instead.
Want some examples?
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Instead of . . . Try . . .
“Don’t Run!”
“Walking feet”Or
“Tip toe”
Beginner Level Statements
Want another example?
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Instead of . . . Try . . .
“Don’t smack your
food!”
“Please chew with your
mouth closed.”
Beginner Level statements
Advance your skills
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Once you’ve learned how to focus your child on what TO DO instead of what NOT to do,
ask questions that help your child SAY what to do.
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Asking the right questions will help your child’sbrain problem solve and say the answer
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Saying the words helps your child know what to do the next time.
“I chew with my mouth closed.”
Want to know how to ask the right questions?
Parenting Challenge #1:
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Ask questions that begin with the words,
“What” or “How”`
Examples
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Instead of . . . Try . . .
“Don’trun!”
“How do we travel safely
in the parking lot?”
Advanced Level Questions
(Before getting out of the car.)
Get one more example
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Instead of . . . Try . . .
“Don’tsmack your
food!”
“How can you chew so
others can’t hear you?”
Advanced Level Questions
Want an extra tip
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Remember that tone says everything.
Your tone and choice ofwords communicate how
you feel about theperson to whom
you’re speaking.
Why is this tool so important?
Parenting Challenge #1:
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Why is this tool so important to your
parenting and your child’s behavioral
success?
On the next slide is a quick demonstration...
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Don’t think about
PINK ELEPHANTS!
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Did you picture a pink elephant in your mind?
Even if it was only for a split second?
Most people do. Learn why . . .
With our language,we have the power to plant(suggest) ideasinto our kids' brains.
It’s the power of suggestion
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
If you say, "Don't hit" most likely your child either hears "hit" or sees an
image of someone hitting, because the brain thinks in pictures.
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
What images do you want to plant in your child’s brain?
Want to learn more parenting tools?
by Kelly Pfeiffer from THINKitTHROUGHparenting.com
Want more “parenting challenges” that improve
your parenting?Join my mailing list <-click here
and I’ll send you a
Weekly Parenting Challenge
to your inbox each week.
Kelly Pfeiffer
Certified Positive Discipline Lead Trainer
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