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Parenting is notautomatic. It has to beLearned.
Advice
Friendship
Communication
Good Example thruVirtuous Living
StrongPrayer Life
You cannot give whatyou do not have. Startlearning new
things.
What are your kidsInterests? Do you enjoy& laugh together?
QualityTime is long time
Teachings
Genuine interest,not investigative
Non judgmentalNot 1 -way; listen 80%
Emphasize disciplineon self, not a controllingstyle on kids
Set Family Prayer TimeK now your faith deeplyDo not force,be
creativ
& encouraging
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Know many useful things. Research the internet:management
principles, leadership skills, how to conducteffective meetings.
Personal Development such as effectivespeaking. Opusdei.org, USCCB,
etc.
You yourself should have a great love for learning &
healthycuriosity about everything-music,sports,etc.
Spend much time talking w/ your kids- show enjoyment. Let
them ask never-ending Whys, dont be irritatedFind out about
different college courses, careers, sales vsmarketing, finance
& accounting, etc.,different types of industries, pros &
cons
Explain the need and importance of graduating with honorsin
todays competitive world. Know what all HRDs look forin candidates
for new hires, & whyKnowing a lot more gives you more options
and thereforehelps you come up w/ better decisions
(feweroptions=limited base)
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Strong Intellect-K nowledge-Information
The Childhas to
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Better shown by the example of the parents vs preaching.Waking
up early, performing a task to full completion, hard-work,
patience, humility-accepting w/ peace and cheerfulnesswhat you have
or dont have, generosity w/ God & w/ others,not complaining,
not talking about other people, etc.
In corporate or HRD language, competencies consistmostly of
virtues needed to perform well on the job
Virtues related to religion: Faith,Hope,Charity
Virtues related to the Intellect: Order, Search for
Truth,Humility, Striving for Excellence
Virtues related to the Will: Patience, Courage,
Cheerfulness,Optimism, Industriousness, Generosity &
Self-Giving,Perseverance, Constancy, Gratitude/Thankfulness
Cardinal Virtues: Prudence, Justice, Fortitude andTemperance
Virtues take time to develop. Must be a never-endingrepetition
of good habits
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Strong Will- Practice of Virtues
The Childhas to
Develop
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y Fruit & result of good guidance by the parents done
patiently with a lot of love, with the previous steps of
Teachings, Advice, Friendship, Good Communication, &Practice of
Virtues
y The child must have clear goals for his relationship withGod,
relationship with his family and friends, and for asuccessful
professional career or business
y He must have self-discipline not because of fear of
parents,but because of a very clear understanding of what has to
beaccomplished, and the resulting consequences of eithervictory or
failure
y He will build a stronger relationship with God and theothers,
and will be a good professional if he has developedthe good habit
of constantly striving to do the best & to beexcellent even in
the smallest insignificant task
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Mature &Responsible
The Childhas to
become
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The childThe childunderstandsunderstandsmoremore
The childThe childmaturesmatures
Trust begins toTrust begins to
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y Trust = LOVEy
More often mistrust is sown or first shown by parents bythe
questions (investigation) they ask, with lots of rash judgment.
Child equates lack of trust=lack of love!
y A valuable advice for parents: even when there is strongmotive
for mistrust, parents must continue to act with a lotof trust and
confidence that people can change, especially
young people. If wrong behavior continues, research on
mosteffective ways to encourage, influence, motivate.
Exceptions:evidence of drug use, alcohol abuse, gambling,
stealing.
y When you trust your children, they may go wrong once in
awhile, but they will try to improve, in an almostsubconscious
effort to earn that trust.
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Freedom isFreedom is
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