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AIKIN AMARIYA. by. Aisha Mijindadi. Aisha Mijindadi. Primary Mover - DWM. B.A Accounting :Ahmadu Bello University MA Mass Communication : University of Leicester, UK Dipl. Counselling : Stonebridge Colleges, UK Dipl. Learning & Development : CIPD, UK - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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AIKIN AMARIYA
Aisha Mijindadi
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B.A Accounting :Ahmadu Bello University MA Mass Communication : University of Leicester, UKDipl. Counselling : Stonebridge Colleges, UK Dipl. Learning & Development : CIPD, UKPRINCE2 Project Management: Digital Bridge
She hopes that DWM will be widely accepted by Muslim teens and women and, this small effort will assist her and the young of this Ummah to develop the love to strive for the Hereafter.
Primary Mover - DWM.Aisha Mijindadi
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Discussions:Preparations
D Day
The Morning / Night Before
The day after
Sisters’ NightMothers’ Morning
A story surmisisng the paper:Ikenna and Nike
FinancialThe waitThe Contract Part 1The choiceThe in-lawsThe Father-in lawLife at homeThe Contract Part 2
AIKIN NO 1: Your Knight in Shining Armour…
Him
What’s wrong withWho is he
Where is he?You
Relax, he’s a ‘human’, there’s nothing to fix.
Be Supportive, make demands short and sweet.
Stick to budgets
AIKIN NO 1: Your Knight in Shining Armour…Solutions:
AIKIN NO 1: Your Knight in Shining Armour…Solutions:
Develop a habit of gratitude, from the small things…
Pamper him,…you’ll reap the rewards eventually.
Console him with your wealth
AIKIN NO 2: Your Loved Ones…
What happened to ‘U r a married woman now…?’
Alhamdullilah….here come the white lies..Who to trust? My advice, not family, ...not yet
AIKIN NO 2: Ibn Abbas Narrates…
The Prophet (PBUH) continued: "After Ishmael's mother had died, Abraham came after Ishmael's marriage in order to see his family that he had left before but he did not find Ishmael there. When he asked Ishmael's wife about him, she replied: "He has gone in search of livelihood." Then he asked her about their way of living and their condition, and she replied, "We are living in misery; we are living in hardship and destitution,' complaining to him. He said: "When your husband returns, convey my salutations to him and tell him to change the threshold of the gate (of his house).’
Shhh!!!
AIKIN NO 2: Ibn Abbas Narrates…
Then Abraham stayed away from them for a period as long as Allah wished and called on them again but did not find Ishmael. So he came to Ishmael's wife and asked her about Ishmael. She said: 'he has gone in search of our livelihood.' Abraham asked her; 'how are you getting on?' asking her about their sustenance and living. she replied: 'we are prosperous and well off (we have everything in abundance).' then she thanked Allah. Abraham said: 'What kind of food do you eat?' she said: 'meat.' he said: 'what do you drink?' she said: 'water.' he said: 'O Allah! bless their meat and water.""The Prophet (PBUH) continued: "Then Abraham said to Ishmael's wife: 'When your husband comes give my regards to him and tell him that he should keep firm the threshold of his gate.'
Shhh!!!
AIKIN NO 2: Your Loved Ones…Solutions:
Keep shut….your family don’t need to know
If you do, your husband and eventually you, loose ALL respect in their eyes.
Make out time for them, visit with your husband in-tow, and help them create a relationship that has nothing to do with you.
Handle the jealousy with care…Fathers can be the worst.
AIKIN NO 2: Your Loved Ones…Solutions:
AIKIN NO 3: The Dreaded In-law (s)
Here come the hateful, dreaded sisters, brothers & Mothers !!!Take over your home
Spoil your children
Spend your hubby’s money…..etc etc
AIKIN NO 3: The Dreaded In-lawSolutions:
Don’t act out the storiesExpect nothing
Treat even better than your family
Patience…..Loads
AIKIN NO 4: Taking OWNERSHIP of the MARRAIGE Project:
SABR…Sacrifice
Learn how to communicate with him.Peer Pressure …Your friend’s marraige is not your marraige!
AIKIN NO 4: Taking OWNERSHIP of the MARRAIGE Project:
Do not be passive (liability or non contributor)Do not be over agressive (nagging, controlling)
Find a middle course
Loose yourself and find yourself….
AIKIN NO 1: Most people get married, believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: companionship, intimacy, friendship, etc. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you can take anything out. There is no love in marriage. Love is in people, and people put love in marriage. There is no romanceIn marriage. You have to infuse it in your marriage. A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising, keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.
SUMMARY: For you and your knight in shining armour…
Be best friends
COMMUNICATIONDiscover new things together
Encourage, Inspire and Intrigue each otherForgive and….forget?
COMPROMISE
SUMMARY: For you and your knight in shining armour…Keep each other’s secrets
Marvel at each others talentsNurture each others souls
Overcome problems together
LOVE THOSE HE LOVES
SUMMARY: For you and your knight in shining armour…
Remember the little things
Respect budgetsValue even the smallest things….show gratitude
… and lastly…
SUMMARY: For you and your knight in shining armour…
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning". --- [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
ZZZZZZ in each others arms…..no matter what
There will be times you will wish you had remained single, when you will ask yourself, ‘What was I thinking when I married him?’ When you feel divorce is the only option, feel betrayed and beyond recovery…
U R NOT ALONE!!!
KNOW…..
KNOW…..
Every Marraige has its fair share of difficult moments, BOTH of you are experiencing these perplexing momentsRemember, its the rough surfaces that sharpen the best, Rough times are meant to build your marraige not break it.Difficult seasons are temporary, straight roads don’t make experienced drivers,KEEP ON MOVING!!!
KNOW…..
KNOW…..
The Ultimate goal is Al jannah regardless of the path being smooth or rough. The one who sees it this way, will have no regrets; heads a win, tails a win.
May Allah continiously bless our abodes!