LOVE’S INCONSISTENCIES:

NECESSARY

AND

UNNECESSARY FICTIONS

QUESTIONS

IS LOVE AN EMOTION OR AN ACTION?

ARE WORDS MORE PENETRATING THAN NON-WORDS?

WHAT IS LOVE’S BETRAYAL?

RELATIVITY

PSYCHE

YOU OTHER

WORLD

COMMON INCONSISTENCIES

WORDS VS. BEHAVIORS, EMOTIONS VS. BEHAVIORS,

EXPECTATIONS VS. BEHAVIORS, EMOTIONS VS. WORDS,

WORDS VS. WORDS, BEHAVIOR VS. BEHAVIOR,

TOUCH VS. BEHAVIOR, TOUCH VS. WORDS,

BETRAYAL

FICTIONS

IF I GIVE LOVE , I EXPECT I WILL RECEIVE IT.

IF I TREAT HER/HIM WITH INTIMACY, I WILL RECEIVE IT IN RETURN.

LOVE IS ABSOLUTE.

SEXUALITY IS LOVE.

THERE’S ONLY ONE TRUE LOVE.

I FIND NO PEACE, AND ALL MY WAR IS DONE;  I FEAR AND HOPE, I BURN AND FREEZE LIKEWISE;  I FLY ABOVE THE WIND, YET CANNOT RISE;  AND NOUGHT I HAVE, YET ALL THE WORLD I SEIZE ON;THAT LOOSETH, NOR LOCKETH, HOLDETH ME IN PRISON,  AND HOLDS ME NOT, YET CAN I ’SCAPE NO WISE;  NOR LETS ME LIVE, NOR DIE, AT MY DEVISE,  AND YET OF DEATH IT GIVETH NONE OCCASION.WITHOUT EYES I SEE, AND WITHOUT TONGUE I PLAIN;  I WISH TO PERISH, YET I ASK FOR HEALTH;  I LOVE ANOTHER, AND YET I HATE MYSELF;I FEED IN SORROW, AND LAUGH IN ALL MY PAIN;  LO, THUS DISPLEASETH ME BOTH DEATH AND LIFE,  AND MY DELIGHT IS CAUSER OF MY GRIEF.

LOVE’S INCONSISTENCIES

BYFRANCESCO PETRARCH

RELATIONSHIP CHARACTERISTICSLOVE CHARACTERISTICS

THE L-BOMB!

ATTACHMENT

BONDINGAPPRECIATION

RESPONSIBLE

CARIN

GFRIENDSHIP

KINDNESS

PROMISE

EXPECTED

COMPANION

GUILT

PASSAGE OF TIME

DEVOTION

PROJECTOR, SCREEN & IMAGE

PROJECTION

TRISTAN AND ISOLDE

LOVE POTION -- POWERFUL PROJECTION/ NECESARRY FICTION

TRISTAN ISOLDE

PROJECTION NEVER DIMINISHES -- ROMANTIC LOVE NOTION/DIMINISHES WHEN CIRCUMSTANCES

CHANGE

ARCHETYPE -- POTENTIAL FORM

EXPERIENCES EXPERIENCES EXPERIENCES

EXPERIENCES ARE DRAWN LIKE A MAGNET TO AN ARCHETYPE

THIS FORMS A COMPLEX

FANTASY VANISHES/ PROJECTION FADES

YOU OTHER

WE BEGIN TO DEVALUE EACH OTHER, THERE IS A GREAT DISILLUSIONMENT AND THE GREAT PROMISE OF LOVE BECOMES

ENTRAPMENT

SHE/HE COMPLETES ME

YOU OTHER

YOU, NEEDING COMPLETION

YOU, COMPLETED PROVIDES A SENSE OF WHOLENESS, SELF-WORTH AND WELL BEING

LOVE FANTASIES

YOU OTHER

PROJECTION

PROJECT AN IDEAL:

DOSTOEVSKI CLAIMED THAT LOVING A PERSON MEANS SEEING A PERSON AS GOD MIGHT HAVE

INTENDED HIM OR HER.

PSYCHE & LOVE

CONSCIOUS LOVE

UNCONSCIOUS LOVEPERSONAL

COLLECTIVE

THREE TYPES OF LOVE

SO-CALLED LOVE:

PRACTICAL: CONSCIOUS CHOICE

PROJECTIVE: UNCONSCIOUS NO CHOICE

PURITY OF LOVE: UNCONSCIOUS SPIRITUAL LOVE

ACTION, SENTIMENT, VALUES, BELIEFS, …

FICTION: FOLLOW SOCIAL MORES & STRUCTURES RELIGIONS, FAMILY VALUES, …

LEAD TO: CONTROL, DEMANDS, ANXIETY, DESPAIR, LIVES OF QUIET

DESPERATION

EGO

YOU OTHERPROJECTION

ANIMA/ANIMUS

FICTION: IDEAL OR SOULMATE SATISFIES ALL NEEDS AND DESIRES,…

LEADS TO: BREAKUP, SEEKING NEW PROJECTION, LIVES OF QUIET DESPERATION

SO-CALLED LOVE

YOU OTHER

CONSCIOUS

PERSONAL UNCONSCIOUS

COLLECTIVE UNCONSCIOUS

GODDESS

GOD

SELF

PURITY OF LOVE

FICTION: RELATIONSHIP WITH THE ARCHETYPES OF GOD OR

GODDESS

LEADS TO: UNIVERSAL LOVE OF OTHERS AND BREAKDOWN OF SOCIAL NORMS