Wives Love Your Husbands. Your Vows: "Till Death We Do Part" Or was it, "Till Divorce Do We Part?"

Wives Love Your Wives Love Your HusbandsHusbands


Your Vows:Your Vows: "Till Death We Do Part""Till Death We Do Part"

Or was it, "Till Divorce Do We Part?"Or was it, "Till Divorce Do We Part?"

71 THINKING.MAN'S.FILTER JEFF.IN V-5 N-6 1965 71 THINKING.MAN'S.FILTER JEFF.IN V-5 N-6 1965

As Paul spoke here further on down in Ephesians As Paul spoke here further on down in Ephesians speaking of the husband and wife, and said, "This speaking of the husband and wife, and said, "This is a mystery," how the women should be in is a mystery," how the women should be in respects to their husband. Even the second place, respects to their husband. Even the second place, I believe it is, in the entire Bible that reverence I believe it is, in the entire Bible that reverence was ever spoke to, said, the women seeing she was ever spoke to, said, the women seeing she reverence her husband--reverence her husband. reverence her husband--reverence her husband. Then a husband ought to live such a life before Then a husband ought to live such a life before his wife that his wife could reverence him as a son his wife that his wife could reverence him as a son of God. And if he doesn't live that kind of life, well of God. And if he doesn't live that kind of life, well then, course she wouldn't reverence him, 'cause then, course she wouldn't reverence him, 'cause she knows what he's made of. But when it is a she knows what he's made of. But when it is a man that is reverent man--reverent and clean man that is reverent man--reverent and clean with his wife, and before his family, a real servant with his wife, and before his family, a real servant of God, then the women, children, all should of God, then the women, children, all should respect that servant of God with a reverence.respect that servant of God with a reverence.


Two Become One FleshTwo Become One Flesh

A One Woman ManA One Woman Man

A One Man WomanA One Man Woman

LEAVELEAVE CLEAVECLEAVE ONE FLESHONE FLESH

E-49 CORINTHIANS.BOOK.OF. JEFF.IN E-49 CORINTHIANS.BOOK.OF. JEFF.IN 19571957And God goes over in the heart of Adam, And God goes over in the heart of Adam, this rib right out from under his heart, and this rib right out from under his heart, and takes a rib and makes the wife; and the takes a rib and makes the wife; and the very part of Adam's spirit was in the very part of Adam's spirit was in the woman, and they two are one. Soul, body, woman, and they two are one. Soul, body, spirit, they are one. They are perfect spirit, they are one. They are perfect oneness, a real woman and a real oneness, a real woman and a real husband, a real wife. They are one husband, a real wife. They are one together. What is it a type of? Christ.together. What is it a type of? Christ.


Marriage Begins In Oneness Of Marriage Begins In Oneness Of SoulSoul

<Division Between><Division Between>

{Soul}{Soul}

< Both Going Their Own Way >< Both Going Their Own Way >

Marriage Ends In DivorceMarriage Ends In Divorce(Actual or Psychological)(Actual or Psychological)

{Spirit}{Spirit}

{Physical}{Physical}


1) Rehearsing "Forgiven" Failures In His 1) Rehearsing "Forgiven" Failures In His LifeLife

The most destructive thing you can do to damage the The most destructive thing you can do to damage the spirit of the marriage is to correct him in public.spirit of the marriage is to correct him in public.

If you feel failure is looming, then there is a need for you If you feel failure is looming, then there is a need for you to ask if you could spend time praying about an idea or to ask if you could spend time praying about an idea or

decision to be made. decision to be made.

You can ask the question what the results will be from You can ask the question what the results will be from this decision in areas that he may not have considered.this decision in areas that he may not have considered.


2) When She Neglects Her Home Responsibilities2) When She Neglects Her Home Responsibilities

DiscreetDiscreet GREEK LEXICON 4998 sophron {so'-frone} adj GREEK LEXICON 4998 sophron {so'-frone} adjAV 1a) of a sound mind, sane, in one's senses 1b) AV 1a) of a sound mind, sane, in one's senses 1b) curbing one's desires and impulses, self controlled, curbing one's desires and impulses, self controlled, temperatetemperate

ChasteChaste GREEK LEXICON 53 hagnos {hag-nos'} adj GREEK LEXICON 53 hagnos {hag-nos'} adj AV 1) exciting reverence, venerable, sacred 2) pure AV 1) exciting reverence, venerable, sacred 2) pure from carnality, chaste, modest, immaculate, cleanfrom carnality, chaste, modest, immaculate, clean



Keeper at HomeKeeper at Home GREEK LEXICON 3626 GREEK LEXICON 3626 {oy-koo-ros'}{oy-koo-ros'} AV 1) caring for the house, working at AV 1) caring for the house, working at home 1a) the (watch or) keeper of the home 1a) the (watch or) keeper of the house 1b) keeping at home and taking care house 1b) keeping at home and taking care of household affairs, a domesticof household affairs, a domestic



ObedientObedient GREEK LEXICON 5293 {hoop-ot-as'-so} GREEK LEXICON 5293 {hoop-ot-as'-so} vbvbAV put under, be subject unto, be subject to AV put under, be subject unto, be subject to submit (one's) self unto, put in subjection under A submit (one's) self unto, put in subjection under A Greek military term meaning "to arrange [troop Greek military term meaning "to arrange [troop divisions] in a military fashion under the command divisions] in a military fashion under the command of a leader". In non-military use, it was "a voluntary of a leader". In non-military use, it was "a voluntary attitude of giving in, co-operating, assuming attitude of giving in, co-operating, assuming responsibility, and carrying a burden".responsibility, and carrying a burden".


22 TEACHING.ON.MOSES JEFF.IN V-14 N-4 22 TEACHING.ON.MOSES JEFF.IN V-14 N-4

I predicted that women would keep I predicted that women would keep demoralizing and the nation would keep demoralizing and the nation would keep falling, and they'd keep hanging to mother, falling, and they'd keep hanging to mother, or like mother like that, till they become, a or like mother like that, till they become, a woman become an idol. I say this with woman become an idol. I say this with respect, ladies. When a woman gets out of respect, ladies. When a woman gets out of the kitchen, she's out of her place. That's the kitchen, she's out of her place. That's right. That's where she belongs. Outside of right. That's where she belongs. Outside of that, she has no place. And now, I'm not that, she has no place. And now, I'm not hard on them, but I just tell what's the Truth hard on them, but I just tell what's the Truth and what the Bible.and what the Bible.


2) When She Neglects Her Home 2) When She Neglects Her Home Responsibilities Responsibilities

i) It is important to keep the home neat i) It is important to keep the home neat and clean and provide an atmosphere and clean and provide an atmosphere which will be conducive to the goals and which will be conducive to the goals and needs of the family. needs of the family. ii) You see the more confused this whole world ii) You see the more confused this whole world gets, the more it is necessary for us to have gets, the more it is necessary for us to have order in our homes. order in our homes.


2) When She Neglects Her Home Responsibilities 2) When She Neglects Her Home Responsibilities

iii) Maybe you might not have the natural iii) Maybe you might not have the natural abilities to be organised, well, then it would abilities to be organised, well, then it would be a wise thing to get counsel from be a wise thing to get counsel from another older woman who you see does another older woman who you see does have that motivation. have that motivation.


2) When She Neglects Her Home 2) When She Neglects Her Home ResponsibilitiesResponsibilitiesGrace is the desire and power to do God's will! Grace is the desire and power to do God's will!

See if you can't find the desire and power to develop See if you can't find the desire and power to develop the nine character qualities listed:the nine character qualities listed:

Gal 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, Gal 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23

Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.


a) Love, by overlooking the area as a proof a) Love, by overlooking the area as a proof that you love your husband. that you love your husband.

b) Joy, is the result from building character in b) Joy, is the result from building character in your life.your life.

c) Peace, by not being troubled by temporal c) Peace, by not being troubled by temporal concerns.concerns.

d) Longsuffering, by not giving God a deadline d) Longsuffering, by not giving God a deadline to remove the problems.to remove the problems.


e) Gentleness & Goodness, in your responses to e) Gentleness & Goodness, in your responses to your husband and family.your husband and family.

f) Faith, by visualising how God is using the incident f) Faith, by visualising how God is using the incident for your spiritual growth.for your spiritual growth.

g) Meekness, by giving up your personal rights to a g) Meekness, by giving up your personal rights to a clean and tidiness.clean and tidiness.

h) Temperance or Self-control, by quickly obeying the h) Temperance or Self-control, by quickly obeying the prompting of the Holy Spirit whenever you see the prompting of the Holy Spirit whenever you see the

messy area messy area


3) When A Wife Has Undefined Expectations 3) When A Wife Has Undefined Expectations

a) Thus he can never please her.a) Thus he can never please her.

b) He receives no admiration from her.b) He receives no admiration from her.

c) When things are perfectly clear and obvious to c) When things are perfectly clear and obvious to the wife, they can go undetected by the husband. the wife, they can go undetected by the husband.

This is due to the fact we just don't think alike.This is due to the fact we just don't think alike.

You must tell him if he doesn't get the You must tell him if he doesn't get the VIBRATIONS!!VIBRATIONS!!

WILLWILLEMOTIONSEMOTIONS

MINDMIND

SOULSOUL

Husbands Must Learn To Understand These Husbands Must Learn To Understand These LevelsLevels

In Order To Understand His Wife's ThinkingIn Order To Understand His Wife's Thinking

The Four Levels Of The Four Levels Of CommunicationCommunication

Woman Has Within HerselfWoman Has Within Herself

WILLWILL

EMOTIONSEMOTIONS

MINDMIND

SOULSOUL

Husbands Must Learn To Understand These Husbands Must Learn To Understand These LevelsLevels

In Order To Understand His Wife's ThinkingIn Order To Understand His Wife's Thinking

The Four Levels Of The Four Levels Of CommunicationCommunication

Woman Has Within HerselfWoman Has Within Herself


3) When A Wife Has Undefined Expectations 3) When A Wife Has Undefined Expectations

A wise wife will use the strong motivation of her A wise wife will use the strong motivation of her husband's protective instinct and husband's protective instinct and explainexplain to him how he to him how he can meet her physical, mental, emotional and spiritual can meet her physical, mental, emotional and spiritual

needs.needs.

"I feel overwhelmed in the things that I have to do "I feel overwhelmed in the things that I have to do today; could you decide which is the most important today; could you decide which is the most important

for me?"for me?"

Wives Love Your Wives Love Your HusbandsHusbands 4) When She Resists His Leadership4) When She Resists His Leadership

a) Because men can be fragile when it a) Because men can be fragile when it comes to being a spiritual leader, it is comes to being a spiritual leader, it is essential that the wife look for ways to essential that the wife look for ways to

reassure her husband in this area. reassure her husband in this area. b) If you have wounded him in this area, b) If you have wounded him in this area, you must quickly ask his forgiveness and you must quickly ask his forgiveness and assure him that you want to take him as assure him that you want to take him as the spiritual leader of the family. the spiritual leader of the family.


4) When She Resists His Leadership4) When She Resists His Leadership

c) Another way wives damage their husband's c) Another way wives damage their husband's leadership is unknowingly look to other men for leadership is unknowingly look to other men for

spiritual counsel. spiritual counsel.

d) No husband can be a leader unless he has a d) No husband can be a leader unless he has a follower. It is not a matter of abilities now, it is a follower. It is not a matter of abilities now, it is a matter of leadership.matter of leadership.


Pr 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but Pr 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

1) You should be looking to your husband and not to 1) You should be looking to your husband and not to the pastor for primary spiritual guidance.the pastor for primary spiritual guidance.

2) You should encourage other sisters to do the same as 2) You should encourage other sisters to do the same as you are, showing that your husband is your spiritual you are, showing that your husband is your spiritual leader.leader.

3) You will motivate your husband to be your spiritual 3) You will motivate your husband to be your spiritual leader. Thus you would help him gain confidence to leader. Thus you would help him gain confidence to

become what God intended him to be. become what God intended him to be.


Pr 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the Pr 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

4) You will strengthen your marriage rather than weaken 4) You will strengthen your marriage rather than weaken it.it.

5) You will then prevent yourself from becoming 5) You will then prevent yourself from becoming spiritually proud of your own Bible knowledge. spiritually proud of your own Bible knowledge.

I.COR.14:35 And if they will I.COR.14:35 And if they will learnlearn any thing, let them any thing, let them ask ask their husbands at hometheir husbands at home


5) When She Shows Lack Of Confidence In His Decisions5) When She Shows Lack Of Confidence In His Decisions

When a wife expresses quick disapproval over her When a wife expresses quick disapproval over her husband's decisions, he will most likely take it as a husband's decisions, he will most likely take it as a

personal attack upon himself. personal attack upon himself.

Thus you strike at the very basis of his Thus you strike at the very basis of his manhood and his judgmentmanhood and his judgment

But if you respond with an eagerness to carry out his But if you respond with an eagerness to carry out his wishes, he will be open to questions which you may wishes, he will be open to questions which you may

have about the decision.have about the decision.

Seeing Decisions From Your Own Seeing Decisions From Your Own ViewpointViewpoint

DecisioDecisionn

Her Her PerspectivePerspective

His His PerspectivePerspectiveThe wife tends to view a The wife tends to view a

decision from the decision from the perspective of immediate perspective of immediate needs: daily routine, needs: daily routine, welfare of children, home welfare of children, home improvement or personal improvement or personal limitations.limitations.

The husband tends to The husband tends to respond to a decision by respond to a decision by relating it to future goals, relating it to future goals, such as job advancement, such as job advancement, financial gain, or future financial gain, or future security.security.

IMMEDIATEIMMEDIATE

NEEDSNEEDS

FUTUREFUTURE

GOALSGOALS



His His PerspectivePerspective

A wife may not be able to A wife may not be able to clearly define these clearly define these immediate needs and immediate needs and often she expects her often she expects her husband to be aware of husband to be aware of them and understand them and understand them.them.

A husband is usually not able A husband is usually not able to explain his larger frame of to explain his larger frame of reference and expects his reference and expects his wife to trust him and be wife to trust him and be patient. He needs, however, patient. He needs, however, to communicate his goals to to communicate his goals to his wife.his wife.

DecisioDecisionn

IMMEDIATEIMMEDIATE

NEEDSNEEDS

FUTUREFUTURE

GOALSGOALS



His His PerspectivePerspectiveIf a husband focuses only If a husband focuses only

on immediate needs, his on immediate needs, his wife may try to get him wife may try to get him to think ahead by to think ahead by worrying and nagging worrying and nagging him about the future.him about the future.

If the wife focuses on If the wife focuses on future objectives, her future objectives, her husband will tend to react husband will tend to react to her leadership and put to her leadership and put pressure on her to fulfill pressure on her to fulfill immediate needs.immediate needs.

DecisionDecisionIMMEDIATEIMMEDIATE

NEEDSNEEDS

FUTUREFUTURE

GOALSGOALS

Seeing Decisions From Your Spouse's Seeing Decisions From Your Spouse's ViewpointViewpoint

DecisionDecision

Before a wife explains her Before a wife explains her immediate needs, she immediate needs, she must draw out of her must draw out of her husband his future goals husband his future goals so that she can relate her so that she can relate her needs to helping him needs to helping him reach his goalsreach his goals

Before a husband shares Before a husband shares his goals, he must draw his goals, he must draw out of his wife her out of his wife her immediate needs and the immediate needs and the consequences which his consequences which his decision will have on decision will have on meeting them.meeting them.


6) When She Lacks A Grateful Spirit6) When She Lacks A Grateful Spirit

When a wife shows ungratefulness in public to her When a wife shows ungratefulness in public to her husband it is a rebuke to him.husband it is a rebuke to him.

Ungratefulness shows that she has many Ungratefulness shows that she has many expectations that she not given to the Lord.expectations that she not given to the Lord.

He begins to feel like a prisoner of her expectations. He begins to feel like a prisoner of her expectations.

vs. 2 While they behold your chaste conversation vs. 2 While they behold your chaste conversation [coupled] with fear.[coupled] with fear.


7) When You Fail To Build Loyalty In Your Children,7) When You Fail To Build Loyalty In Your Children,They Realise It Quickly.They Realise It Quickly.

Sows: A child is quick to sense their mother's true Sows: A child is quick to sense their mother's true feelings toward their father. feelings toward their father.

Reaps: The child will capitalise on this by playing one Reaps: The child will capitalise on this by playing one against the other in order to get his way.against the other in order to get his way.


8) When You Expose Your Marriage Problems To 8) When You Expose Your Marriage Problems To OutsidersOutsiders

It is always much easier to discuss your It is always much easier to discuss your marriage problems with a friend, or tell your marriage problems with a friend, or tell your mother, or ask counsel from your pastor, than to mother, or ask counsel from your pastor, than to take it to the Lord and then to your husband. take it to the Lord and then to your husband.

There will always be consequences whenever you fail There will always be consequences whenever you fail to do things according to Biblical guidelines.to do things according to Biblical guidelines.

Seeing Decisions From Your Spouse's Seeing Decisions From Your Spouse's ViewpointViewpoint

Before a husband shares Before a husband shares his goals, he must draw his goals, he must draw out of his wife her out of his wife her immediate needs and the immediate needs and the consequences which his consequences which his decision will have on decision will have on meeting them.meeting them.

DecisionDecision

Before a wife explains her Before a wife explains her immediate needs, she immediate needs, she must draw out of her must draw out of her husband his future goals husband his future goals so that she can relate her so that she can relate her needs to helping him reach needs to helping him reach his goalshis goals


9) When She Is Inflexible To His Priorities9) When She Is Inflexible To His Priorities

Therefore, sisters, you will only find your identity & Therefore, sisters, you will only find your identity & fulfillment as you function in harmony with God's fulfillment as you function in harmony with God's

Word & design. Word & design.

Rather than saying, "I can't do it."Rather than saying, "I can't do it."

We all need to remember that the Man & We all need to remember that the Man & Woman are the Family.Woman are the Family.

Marriage Begins In Oneness Of Marriage Begins In Oneness Of SoulSoul

<Division Between><Division Between>{Soul}{Soul}

< Both Going Their Own Way >< Both Going Their Own Way >

Marriage Ends In DivorceMarriage Ends In Divorce(Actual or Psychological)(Actual or Psychological)

{Spirit}{Spirit}

{Physical}{Physical}


Conclusion:Conclusion:

When there is a harmony in the husband & wife When there is a harmony in the husband & wife relationship, there is an infused stability within all relationship, there is an infused stability within all family members.family members.

I know it can be hard to do what God requires you I know it can be hard to do what God requires you to do when your spouse doesn't do what he is to do when your spouse doesn't do what he is suppose to do.suppose to do.

But we have a part of the Scripture which is for us But we have a part of the Scripture which is for us to fulfilled and we are accountable for that part.to fulfilled and we are accountable for that part.

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Wives Love Your Husbands. Your Vows: "Till Death We Do Part" Or was it, "Till Divorce Do We Part?"