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FeaturesJanuary 16, 2011

Hail ToThe Chief

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Raising A ChildWith ADHD

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In 1956, then Senator John F. Kennedy published awork that won him the Pulitzer Prize. His work,Profiles in Courage, detailed heroic actions by U.S.

Senators throughout our American history where countrywas put ahead of self gain. Kennedy wrote of the great menwho not only led the Senate to become the greatest deliber-ative body in the world, but who both created and saved ourgreat republic. We have named schools in Los Angeles afterthese great Senators memorialized by Kennedy, includingDaniel Webster and Henry Clay. Close to 200 years afterthese men walked the corridors of the Capitol, we honortheir courage. These were truly great individuals. We recallthe glory of their words and of their actions.

“Profiles in courage” would not be an apt description formany in public life today. We see members of both sides ofthe isle in Congress who choose a timely holiday vacation toa long-term resolution of a chaotic, expiring tax situation.We see members of Congress making millions in the stockmarket based on information only available to them in theirofficial roles. We see ethical charges in which accusationshave been made of using one’s office to benefit a bankowned by a husband. We witness the head of the congres-sional committee overseeing taxation himself charged withnot paying his own taxes. We see the chair of an oversightcommittee taking preferential treatment from a bank hiscommittee oversaw for a low home mortgage rate unavail-able to others. In today’s Washington, we see a lack of actionto resolve the financial issues impacting our budget and ourlives. We see a lack of response to a very real internationalcrisis regarding Iran. Washington “leaders” seem incapable ofacting with courage. Problems worsen when this is little or noresponse.

I mentioned how some schools in Los Angeles have beennamed after the heroic and courageous Senators in Kennedy’sbook. We have a different standard today for “naming rights”for our schools, parks, and other local sites. Drive down thefreeways or streets of Los Angeles. New schools are notnamed after now deceased “greats” who changed our societyfor the good. We see parks, courthouses, and schools namedafter current politicians, currently serving in Congress, on theCounty Board of Supervisors, or on the City Council. It does-n’t matter what party a current “leader” is from. Democratsvote to name a courthouse after a Republican in the Republi-can’s district. Republicans vote to name a park after a Demo-crat in the Democrat’s district. It goes like this: “I willmemorialize you if you memorialize me.” If you get electedto an office, you have the right apparently to have every newpublic project in your district named for you.

When I went to school in New York for college and graduate

school after growing up in Los Angeles, I was amazed howpublic schools are often merely numbered rather than named.There is Public School 61 or P.S. 101. I used to question thispolicy. After all, when we name a school for a Senator whosaved the Republic or a general who led us to victory, we bringhistorical figures to greater public awareness. We help to createthrough the naming of our institutions role models for ourchildren to emulate.

The other day I drove by a school named after a member ofCongress who has been under charges for ethical scandals. Ialso drove by parkland in the Santa Monica Mountains namedafter a current member of the Board of Supervisors who hasvoted repeatedly for maintaining the status quo as a memberof the Coliseum Commission, actions that helped rob the peo-ple of Los Angeles of millions of dollars of public benefit,maintaining a system of kickbacks and bribes. Maybe he wasnot aware of the harm he was doing to the people of Los An-geles. Maybe he can be forgiven for his oversights. However,have his actions in public office raised him to the level wherehe should be memorialized forever with thousands of acresof public open space named after him for all time to come?

There are many dangers in naming our institutions after liv-ing politicians who still hold office. The book is not closedon their service. We often need historical perspective in which


to view those worthy of naming rights.In the recent Los Angeles Times articleabout the corruption within the Coli-seum Commission, there were at leastthree members of the allegedly cor-rupt Commission who have alreadyhad public institutions named afterthem. If they are charged with crimesin the future, do we remove theirnames from the dedication plaques ofthe schools or parks?

We need to review the standards bywhich we bestow honors on today’s fa-mous. We need to reconsider what wedemand of our leaders. We don’t seemto expect courage in our leaders anymore. We don’t seem to expect fromour leaders that they act boldly. Wedon’t see great debates. We hearcountless speeches, but few memo-rable words.

When students attend JeffersonHigh, they have a constant reminderof the great leadership of this authorof the Declaration of Independenceand the negotiator for the LouisianaPurchase.

In the Jewish community, we seeschools named after the “highestmbidder,” the biggest donor. I knowhow the system works. It takes moneyto purchase a campus site or build aschool. Selling naming rights to thehighest bidder has been a proven wayto finance large school projects. But itwas notable when a local day schoolwas renamed after Ilan Ramon, thefirst Israeli astronaut who perishedaboard the Columbia shuttle, ratherthan a donor. It is important that wehave a yeshiva named afterMaimonides or other schools namedafter even more recent Gedolei Yisrael,leading rabbis and leaders of ourpeople.

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"If nominated I shall not accept, ifelected I shall not serve." The words ofCivil War general George TecumsehSherman ring clear in American his-tory as a tribute to a man's obstinateunwillingness to commit to furtherservice to a shattered country.

It seems that Moshe responds in al-most the same manner, not to anominating committee but to G-dAlmighty. When Moshe is ap-proached by Hashem to speak toPharaoh, he defers. First he ponders,"Who am I to go to Pharaoh?" (Exodus3:11) After Hashem exhorts him,Moshe tries a different tactic. "I am not aman of words…for I am a manheavy of mouthand speech." (Exodus 4:10) Again G-drefutes his extenuation and chidesMoshe that, after all, "who makes amouth for man if not the Almighty?" Andonce again He urges Moshe to go toPharaoh, assuring him that "I will bewith your mouth and teach you what to say."(Exodus 4:12)

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guide him, His words that will bespoken and His spirit that will inspirehim, Moshe still does not accept. Hehas one final seemingly lame pretext:"Send the one who You are accustomed tosend." (Exodus 4:13)

The scenario is almost incompre-hensible. After every one of Moshe'sprotestations are well refuted by theAlmighty, how did Moshe have theaudacity to petition G-d to sendsomeone else?

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On the day of the wedding, Rav Yaakov was informedthat his original appointment was canceled. Immediately,he made plans to attend the wedding. Assuming hewould come after the ceremony, he arrived at the halllong after the time that the invitation had announcedthat the ceremony would commence.

Upon entering the wedding hall, Rav Yaakov realizedthat for one reason or another the chupah had not yetbegun. Quickly, Rav Yaakov went downstairs and waited,almost in hiding, near the coat room for nearly 40 min-utes until after the ceremony was completed. A few stu-dents who noticed the Rosh Yeshiva huddled in a cornerreciting Tehillim could not imagine why he was not up-stairs and participating in the chupah. They, however,did not approach him until after the ceremony.

Reb Yaakov explained his actions. "Surely Reb Chaimhad made arrangements for a different m'sader kidushin.Had he known that I was in the wedding hall he wouldbe in a terrible bind --after all, I was his first choice andI am much older than his second choice. Reb Chaimwould be put in the terribly uncomfortable position ofasking someone to defer his honor for me. Then RebChaim would have to placate that rabbi with a differenthonor, thus displacing someone else. I felt the best thingto do was stay in a corner until the entire ceremony hadended -- sparing everybody from the embarrassment ofeven the slightest demotion."

Moshe's older brother Ahron had been the prophet ofthe Jewish nation, guiding them, encouraging them, andsupporting them decades before Moshe was asked byHashem to go to Pharaoh. When Moshe was finally con-vinced by the Almighty that he was worthy of the des-ignated mission and that his speech impediment was nota inhibiting factor, there was one more issue that Moshehad to deal with. And that factor was not in Hashem'scontrol. It was a very mortal factor -- his brotherAhron's feelings. Under no circumstance, even if everyother qualification were met, would Moshe accept a po-sition that might, in some way, slight his brother Ahron

Only after Moshe was assured of Ahron's overwhelm-ing moral support and willingness to forego his com-mission did Moshe accept the great task. Sanctity ofmission and divinity of assignment end somewhere verysacred: at the tip of someone else's heart. •

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On her forehead there is an invisiblelabel which reads: “ADHD.” Thisword entered my life and became partof my vocabulary nine months ago,in a doctor’s office. Looking back, Irealize that by the age of two years ithad become quite evident that shewas more active and more difficult tomanage than the average child. How-ever it didn’t occur to me at that timethat anything was actually wrong. Iguess I chalked it up to personality.

I do remember that I was busy withher from the moment she awoke untilshe closed her eyes. In order to dealwith her hyperactivity and her abilityto destroy the house (literally), I prac-tically moved into the park, whichwas, thankfully, around the cornerfrom my apartment. I guess I could

have won the Guinness world recordfor “mother that sits most in thepark”! I sat there for practically sevenyears! It was either playgroup/school,or park. Rain or shine, there we were.

In the winter, I would bundle usboth up with layers of clothes. In therain, we wore rubber boots and plas-tic raincoats. In the summer, we woresunscreen! I was equipped. I wouldwrap up supper for two and bring itto the park. The park table didn’t havea tablecloth she could pull off ! The

park didn’t have walls to climb on,cabinets or dressers to unpack, orbeds to jump on. It had slides, mon-key bars and swings, and plenty ofgrass to run on. Exactly what sheneeded! And that is how I managed.I am a solution-oriented person, sofor me this was the solution.

Unfortunately, it didn’t solve her ac-ademic problems and the social andemotional issues that came along withthe territory. Our finances also suf-fered, as my plans to “return to workafter the baby gets big enough” nevermaterialized. She was a full-time jobin herself. That left us to manage onmy husband’s modest salary.

One day, in the middle of her first-grade school year, I received a phone

call from her school informing methat a meeting had been scheduledand I was expected to be there. In theback of my mind, I knew that thetime to face the obstacles had come.So there I sat on a metal folding chair(my husband was unable to take offfrom work to attend), looking acrossa scratched metal desk, at the schoolprincipal and the assistant principaland her teachers! Although they werevery polite and genuinely concernedfor my daughter’s wellbeing, I felt likea sheep against the wolves. They did

not bite my head off as I expected,but they did say that my child wasfalling behind in her studies, bothEnglish and Hebrew, and that she isvery disruptive in class. Further de-tails included getting up when shefeels like it, doesn’t follow instruc-tions, blurts out answers withoutbeing called on . . . As if that wasn’tenough, they informed me that shewas a “disaster” socially. They in-structed me to take her to a psychia-trist, to have her evaluated and treatedas needed.

I wasted no time in getting this mat-ter under control. I made lots ofphone calls and did extensive researchtrying to find the most competentpsychiatrist. When my daughter wasfinally diagnosed, I had mixed emo-

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tions. I was relieved to know that aheretofore incomprehensible situa-tion was at least making some sense.I also felt that a problem that has aname can also have a solution. How-ever, at the same time, I felt over-whelmed and isolated. I wasconcerned that this diagnosis couldbecome a label which would be usedto judge and condemn my daughter.I wondered how she would manageto make it through school and in theworld at large.

I had no support from my husband,who was in denial, and kept on insist-ing that ADHD is not a real disorder.“What she needs,” he insisted, “is aniron hand!” He, like many parents,had difficulty coming to terms withthe fact that his child was not likeeveryone else.

Having a longstanding aversion toany kind of medication, for me to ac-cept the fact that my child might needstimulants in order to enable her tofunction in school was not easy. (Bythe way, I am sure that many of youare wondering why an overactive childneeds stimulants. My daughter andher ADHD counterparts seem to bethe proud owners of brains that haveunderdeveloped attention spans. Ri-talin targets this part of the brain, andassists in improving concentrationand focus.) After much research, Iwas ready to comply with her doctor’s

recommendations, and she began tak-ing a fairly low dosage. Although shehad some side effects at first, such astrouble falling asleep and a decreasein appetite, with time these symptomsdiminished entirely, and I must con-fess that it has made a huge differencein both our lives.

Things settled into what could beconsidered a routine. Surprisingly, thesemi-respite gave me time to stop andthink (a luxury which I had not hadfor a long time), and I realized thatunderneath my relief was a strongfeeling of loss and disappointment.Unconsciously, I had envisioned achild who, like me, would be a starstudent and a social butterfly.

Wave after wave of anger and self-pity washed over me. Why was Ielected to deal with this problem?Why did my daughter, my innocentchild, have to struggle with this dis-ability? Why couldn’t my husband bemore supportive? Why couldn’t out-siders be more compassionate andunderstanding when she acted up?

These questions lingered in mymind as I went through the motionsof living. One evening, after a typi-cally exhausting day, I sank onto thecouch, leaned back my head andclosed my eyes. A few seconds later(that’s how it felt to me, but it mighthave been longer), I opened my eyes,

ready to finish up the evening routine,and saw my daughter standing quietlynext to me. I was more than a little bitsurprised, since I couldn’t recall everseeing her standing still. She looked atme with an adult-like seriousness, andasked, “Mommy, do you love me?” Ifelt my mouth drop open and mythroat tighten. I reached out, pulledher on my lap and held her tightly.“Of course I do!” I whispered. “Ilove you very much!”

After she had fallen asleep and I waswashing up in the kitchen, I thoughtabout what had just happened. I hadbeen taking care of business anddoing what needed to be done, but Ihad not been taking care of myself. Ihad not been nourishing myself phys-ically, emotionally and spiritually, andthat had resulted in feelings of resent-ment, which my daughter had obvi-ously sensed. I began paying attentionto my eating habits, by cutting out thejunk foods, and including vitamin-rich foods and extra supplements inmy diet. I joined a dance/exercisegroup. I also added a whole range of“spiritual vitamins and exercises”which I would like to share with you.

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Vitamin C is Courage. I have the courage to move ondespite uncertainties and fears.

Vitamin D stands for Determination. I am deter-mined to overcome my weaknesses and become G‑d-cen-tered instead of me-centered.

Vitamin F? You guessed it—Faith. I reaffirm dailythat G‑d accompanies us and supports us every step ofthe way.

Vitamin G is Gratitude. When I actively look forthings to be grateful for, I am pleasantly surprised. Wher-ever I look, I see blessings. I notice the times my daughterdoes well and is manageable. I have begun to say “thankyou” to G‑d for the miracle of life. I have begun to smile.

Vitamin H—Humor. I can’t stress enough the impor-tance of finding the funny bone in ourselves and our lives,and tickling it. I am beginning to respond with amusementrather than frustration. I am beginning to lighten up.There is so much to laugh about.

And last, but not least, is vitamin P—Prayer, which,as far as I’m concerned, is much more effective thanProzac. As I recite Psalm 121, “I lift my eyes to heaven, fromwhere will my help come?” my questions dissolve. “My helpwill come from G‑d! The One who created heaven andearth.”

We sit together on the front stoop and review the con-tents of her backpack, making sure that nothing is missing.The big yellow school bus pulls up, and the door unfolds.My daughter jumps up, her blond hair curling around her

face in a halo of disarray. She glances back at me, and inthat split second, the look in her eyes tells me what is inher heart and mind. She knows that from me she will al-ways receive unconditional love. As she mounts the bussteps, I know that she will have the coping skills neededto march through the day. If there is something that shecannot handle, she will report back to me and receive val-idation and support. I cannot always rescue her. I cannotalways solve her problems. But I can provide a sympa-thetic ear and, when she is ready, discuss ways in whichshe can handle the issue. In situations which escalate, Ican intervene and advocate for her. I am her social worker,and she is my one and only client.

The school bus rumbles down the street, and my up-stairs neighbor comes down to meet me with her two-month-old baby and a bag full of supplies. She is very gladto get out of the house for a few hours, and considers methe ideal babysitter. My neighbor hurries off to her uncle’ssweet shop, where she will decorate gift baskets and so-cialize. She is more than happy to split her paycheck withme, giving her a little pocket money and me the extra in-come needed to get through the month. I hold my tinyneighbor in my arms and he smiles up at me. After I feedand change him, he will keep me company while I do thehousework. His placid demeanor never ceases to amazeme. By the time my daughter comes home from school, Iwill be ready to take her to the park, where we will eat sup-per and do some homework.

My life has not turned out as pictured or planned, andthat is fine with me. Instead of a pampered princess, I ambecoming a courageous heroine. My daughter looks up atme, and trust and admiration are reflected in her eyes. Ourjourney is far from over, but we both are learning to enjoythe ride. •

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Some people just never learn. For almost a yearPharaoh was literally plagued by every conceivable mis-fortune, yet he refused to let the Jewish people leavehis land. Of course, he pleaded with Moshe duringevery plague to stop the great inconvenience, pain, anddisaster that were befalling his country. He would evenpromise to let the Jews go, yet he never admitted guilt.He would beseech Moshe to stop the various plagues."Pray for me and remove the frogs! I will let you serve your G-din the desert." Sometimes he would offer unrestrictedfreedom, only to renege when the plagues ceased.Never, except on one occasion, did Pharaoh admit thatG-d was correct and he was corrupt.

That exception was the plague of hail. In fact, theplague of hail was so powerful that even Hashem Him-self categorized it in a unique way. Moshe quotedHashem to Pharaoh: "This time I shall send all my plaguesagainst your heart, upon your servants, and your people so thatyou shall know that there is none like Me in the world" (Exo-dus 9:14). Why did Hashem consider the hail a morepowerful act than His turning water into blood, or de-livering pestilence, or wild animals or frogs? True, thehail did miraculously contain a fire ensconced in theice, but all the plagues had miraculous attributes tothem. Turning the Nile into blood is not an everydayoccurrence either! What characteristic did the hail haveto label it "all my plagues?"

Even more troubling is Pharaoh's response. After theplague strikes Egypt he calls Moshe and Ahron and hetells them "this time I have sinned, Hashem is righteous andI and my people are the wicked ones" (Exodus 9:27) Whatcaused Pharaoh to utter those submissive words at thisparticular time? Didn't he already see blood, frogs,pestilence, boils, wild animals, and a host of differentmiraculous misfortunes that befell his people? Whatwas so special about the fire and ice that fell from theheavens that charred even this man's cruel temper?

Radio commentator, Paul Harvey, related the follow-ing story: William and his Aunt Caroline were con-stantly feuding. Actually, William was jealous of hisaunt's popularity and social status in the New York ofthe late 1890's. Compared to her, he was considered asocial outcast, and was never invited to any of her lav-ish parties. That would have been bad enough. Havingto live next door to her was too much for William tobear. The sight of elegant carriages arriving and de-parting made him seethe. Yet he could do nothing. Atleast he did nothing until the family fortune was dis-tributed and he received 100 million dollars. Then heH

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William was right. Aunt Caroline moved way north ofthe shadow of her nephew's hotel. And then she rippeddown her old home. With the mere 50 million that shereceived, she too, decided to build a hotel on the site ofher old mansion! It would be even more elegant, withnicer rooms and better service than her nephew's. Twoadjacent, competing hotels would have been built rightnext to each other if not for the wisdom of William'sown hotel manager. He got the two feuding relatives to-gether and explained that hostility is not the way to suc-cess.

"If you two could just work together and adjoin thetwo hotels as one, it would become the most outstand-ing and influential accommodation on earth," he ex-plained. They listened and followed his instructions. Heeven advised them to make sure that every opening be-tween the structures could be sealed again in case of arenewed falling-out. But in the end, William Waldorfand his aunt, Caroline Astor decided to bury the hatchetand replace it with a hyphen. And the world's most lux-urious accommodation was built -- The Waldorf-AstoriaHotel.

There are many opposing forces in the world. How-ever, when they work in tandem, they are the most pow-erful force possible. During this plague, fire and ice, twoopposing forces in the world of nature disregarded theirdifferences all in the service of the Supreme Com-mander. When Hashem announced that He will send allof His plagues, he was referring to conflicting forcesthat work harmoniously. After that, even Pharaoh wassensible enough, albeit for a short moment, to see hisfrailty and delusions. When even the worst of men seefire and ice dance together on one mission, there is noth-ing he can do but watch in amazement and admit,"Hashem is the righteous one and I and my people arethe wicked ones." When opposing opinions gather forone objective - to do the will of Hashem - they are asunstoppable as the hail that brought Pharaoh to hisknees. •

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Recently, I saw an amaz-ing factoid that mademe stop and think. It

said, “If a mosquito, going 1 mile perhour, hits the windshield of a cargoing 60 miles per hour, the car willslow down by one-millionth of a mileper hour.”

Not having majored in physics, this

came as a bit of a shock. I wouldthink that a teeny, tiny, mosquito likethat would have no effect on the twotons of glass and steel hurtlingthrough space. And yet, it does. And,as Sir Isaac Newton would say, it’snot just a good idea, it’s the law! Thelaws of physics dictate that the colli-sion MUST create an impact and the

car MUST be slowed and affected byits interaction even with the tiniestamount of mass.

Now, we should all realize thatscience doesn’t make the rules of na-ture; it just observes them andrecords them for posterity in a journalof note using verbiage that causes theaverage Homo sapiens to scratch his

cranium. That beingsaid, when we say thatphysics demands thatthe car slow down fromthis minor impact, whatwe’re saying is that theworld operates in such away that it is physicallyimpossible for some-thing to come in contactwith something else andbe unaffected.

OK, so why does theworld operate that way?Because HaShemlooked into the Torahand used it as a blue-print for the world.This tells us that theTorah itself, which is theessence of G-d’s Willon earth, requires thatevery force must have aresult and every action,a reaction or conse-quence.

I have heard that noprayer is ever wasted.Even if we don’t getwhat we asked for(presumably becauseHaShem knows itwouldn’t be good for us,or things might havebeen worse than weimagined and we gotoff easy,) that prayer isput towards somethingand has benefit. That

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would fit in with what we’re saying, and the laws ofPhysics would just be confirming that every collision hasan effect, no matter if it’s noticeable or not.

Our actions, too, have impact, even if we don’t see them.Plus, what makes a minor impact today, may becomemagnified and create a greater impact at a later date.

In chaos theory, the “butterfly effect” is the sensitivedependence on initial conditions; where a small change atone place in a nonlinear system can result in largedifferences to a later state. The name of the effect, coinedby Edward Lorenz, an American Mathematician andMeteorologist, is derived from the theoretical example ofa hurricane's formation being contingent on whether ornot a distant butterfly had flapped its wings several weeksbefore.

Now, I don’t know exactly what the above paragraphmeans, other than that it tells you I know how to copy andpaste information from Wikipedia. In essence, though,what starts out as a small, almost unnoticeable act here,today, can create a whirlwind of change elsewhere in thefuture. That’s exactly what we’ve been saying, except forone thing.

I don’t believe this is “chaotic” at all. This is “OrderTheo-ry,” a term I’ve just coined to explain that nothingin the world is random, but is instead part of G-d’s planfor His creations (hence the “Theo” in theory.) No matterwhat happens in this world, it was likely caused bysomething else, and will cause yet something else tohappen.

Imagine a giant Rube Goldberg device with levers,buckets, balls, strings, blocks, and all other manner ofmechanisms. They all interact and react, and are part ofachieving the final desired result. All of us act based onour personal experiences, learning, and naturalinclinations. All our actions, and the various influenceson us which directed those actions, can be traced back to

Creation, essentially when the Al-mighty gave the ballbearing its initial shove down the rails.

All this being said, we should recognize that we canchange the world. It may not be noticeable at first, or evenever. But HaShem sees the change, and others do too.The Maccabees fought a guerilla war with small groupsagainst the massive Greek presence, and it didn’t happenovernight. They fought for three long years. People died.But they were making an impact.

When you feel that you can’t do anything important --that you’re insignificant -- remember the Maccabees, andremember that mosquito who managed to slow the careven an infinitesimal amount. Then look to see what youcan do to make the world a better place.

But what if you’re not trying to change the world? Whatif you’re just going along, minding your own business?Then you’re not affecting anyone, right? Wrong.

A forensic scientist was quoted as saying that every roomhas evidence of everyone who was ever there before. Wecan never go into a room without leaving something -- ahair, fingerprints, skin cells -- something will be left behindand able to be found. That not only happens in the phys-ical realm, but our spiritual echoes reverberate long afterwe have left a room and evidence of our one-time pres-ence can be found at a much later date.

So, when the spiritual forensic experts go back to seewhat we left behind, we need to wonder what they willfind. Will the level of the place have been raised by ouractions, like the Torah tells us about Yaakov? Will ourinteraction with others make them want to get to knowHaShem more, or chas v’shalom, less? Will people try toemulate our behavior? Should they?

There’s no such thing as making a move without causinga ripple effect. We must therefore be very careful that weleave behind a shining guide light for others to follow. Theresults may be truly miraculous. •

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The Orthodox Jewish Chaplaincy Board (OJCB) ofSouthern California conducted its Chanukah candle lightingwith Jewish inmates at Men’s Central Jail and Twin Towers Cor-rectional Facilities during various nights of Chanukah.

On the last night of Chanukah the OJCB held a Chanukahcelebration at the Men’s Central Jail prior to visiting the inmates.Los Angeles County Sheriff Lee Baca, Assistant SheriffCecil Rhambo, Jr., Sheriff ’s Assistants Scott Svonkin andTevan Aroustamian, Offender Services Bureau DirectorKaren Dalton, DrPH, CJM, and other high ranking membersof LASD who have all been helpful to the efforts of the OJCBand who assure that all inmates of all religions are able to ob-serve their religious rights during their incarceration were pres-ent as the OJCB bestowed awards upon those who haveperformed their duties in an exemplary manner and to thosewho have assisted and supported the OJCB and the inmateswho are being served by them.

LASD Sergeant Kerwin Wong, and Deputies Alex Gamboa,Taylor May, and Steven Rojas were recognized for their out-standing assistance, continued support and endorsement of theOJCB. Los Angeles County Commissioner Howard Winklerwho is the OJCB Director/Senior Chaplain stated to the Hon-orees, “Your commitment and dedication to the OJCB and tothe inmates we serve is greatly appreciated. The Orthodox Jew-ish Chaplaincy Board recognizes your professionalism and com-mends you for exemplary service.”

Offender Services Bureau Director Karen Dalton and Lieu-tenant Victor Allende accepted awards on behalf of the Re-ligious & Volunteer Services Unit for their professionalmanagement of the programs performed by the OJCB.

L.A. County Jail Inmate Reception Center (IRC) CaptainChuck Antuna allowed OJCB Chaplains into the highly-se-cure IRC in order to assuage the fear of a newly arrested inmatewho was contemplating suicide. He received a special awardfrom the OJCB for his professionalism, courtesy and sensitivityto the OJCB Chaplains and to the inmates served by them.

Custody Operations Division Commander Eric Parra es-tablished a protocol for maintaining Tallis and Tefillin in the se-curity booths for inmates to use for their daily prayers. Hereceived a special award from the OJCB for his professionalism,courtesy and sensitivity to the OJCB Chaplains and to the in-mates served by them.

Gregory Metzger, who is the Director of the Jewish Com-mittee for Personal Service a Division of Gateways Hospitaland Mental Health Center, regularly accompanies OJCB Chap-lains into the jails to assist the inmates in ways that the Chap-

lains are not able to do and Yonatan Berdugo who is a Stateof California Department of Corrections Senior Officer whohas been active through the OJCB in assisting Jewish inmateswho have gone into State Prisons or those who have left jail orprison were both recognized for their outstanding professionalassistance, continued support and endorsement of the OJCB.

Dov Blauner who is the Publisher of Community LinksMagazine and Yosef Manela who serves as the Attorney andCPA of the OJCB were honored for their support, commit-ment and dedication to the OJCB.

Director Winkler presented a commendation plaque to Sher-iff Lee Baca for his support, commitment and dedication toOJCB. A special recognition award by L.A. City Mayor Vil-laraigosa and all the Members of the Los Angeles City Councilwas presented to Sheriff Baca for his “Steadfast Leadershipof the L.A. County Sheriff ’s Department and to the OrthodoxJewish Chaplaincy Board for “Dedicated, Outstanding andCompassionate Service to the Inmates of the L. A. County Jail.”

All honorees and awardees present, as well as the OJCB, re-ceived commendations from United States CongressmanBrad Sherman, the L.A. County Board of Supervisors,Sheriff Lee Baca, Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa, L.A. CityCouncilman Paul Koretz, and the OJCB.

Pico Kosher Deli supplied the event with potato latkes andapple sauce. Valley Snacks supplied the fresh roasted nuts andsnacks. Jewish Community Leader Stanley Treitel suppliedthe jelly doughnuts from Beverly Café Elite.

Immediately following the Awards Event the Chaplains, As-sistant Chaplains, and Volunteers of the OJCB fanned out tovisit the Jewish Inmates. Together they lit candles, they ate jellydoughnuts, they sang, they danced and they uplifted theirneshomas and brought them Chanukah light and joy!

Photo L-R: Assistant Sheriff Cecil Rhambo, Jr., Captain Ralph Ornelas,Moshe Sassover, Captain Chuck Antuna, Kenny Lowenstein, Rabbi Rafael LeviSiman Tov (behind) Deputy Taylor May, Shai Abishoor, Michoel Bloom, OJCBDirector/Senior Chaplain Howard Winkler, Sheriff Baca, Yosef Manela, Esq.,CPA, Gregory Metzger, Deputy Steven Rojas, Duv Blauner, Sgt. Kerwin Wong,Senior OJCB Chaplain Rabbi Israel Hirsch, Deputy Alex Gamboa

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Afshan Restaurant RCC

106 W. 9th St. LA,

(213) 622-1010

Bocca Steakhouse RCC

16610 Ventura. Encino, 91436

(818) 905-5855

Café Del Mar Meat Kehila

12526 Burbank Blvd. N.H. 91607

(818) 487-8171

Chic N Chow Kehila

9301 West Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 274-5595

Chinese and Kabob Kehila

9180 Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 274-4007

Cohen’s Restaurant RCC

316 E Pico Blvd # F LA, CA 90015

(213) 742-8888

Elat Burger Kosher LA

9340 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 278-4692

Elite Cuisine RCC

7119 Beverly Blvd. LA, 90036

(323) 930-1303

Shawarma Express Kehila

5577 Reseda Blvd. Tarzana, 9135

(818) 342-2226

Glatt Hut RCC

9303 W. Pico Blvd. 90035

(310) 246-1900

Golan RCC

13075 Victory Blvd. N. H, 91606

(818) 763-5344

Got Kosher? RCC

8914 W. Pico Blvd. 90035

(310) 858-1920

Habayit Bukspan

11921 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90064

(310) 479-5444

Haifa Kosher LA

8717 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 888-7700

Jeffs Gourmet Kehila

8930 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 858-8590

La Gondola Kehila

9025 Wilshire Blvd. BH, 90211

(310) 247-1239

La Glatt RCC

446 Fairfax Ave. LA, 90036

(323) 658-7730

La Seine14 N. La CienegaBeverly Hills, CA 90211 310 358 0922

Metro Glatt RCC

8975 W. Pico Blvd. 90035

(310) 275-4420

Nagilla Meating Place Kehila


(310) 788-0119

Orange Delight Kehila

13628 Ventura Blvd. SO, 91423

(818) 788-9896

Pats Kehila

9233 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 205-8705

Pico Kosher Deli RCC


(310) 273-9381

Pita Way RCC

8532 Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 652-52367275 Melrose Ave., LA, 90046

(323) 932-0052

Sassis Kehila

15622 Ventura, Encino, 91436

(818) 986-5345

Schwartz Bakery and Deli RCC

433 N. Fairfax Avenue, LA, 90036

(323)653-1941

Shanghai Kehila

9401 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 553-0998

Shilohs Kehila

8939 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 858-1652

Schnitzle Kehila

9216 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 786-8282

The Meating Place KCA

30313 Canwood St. AH, 91301

(818) 706-1255

Tierra Sur at Herzog Winery ou

3201 Camino DelSol Oxnard

(818) 752-6866

UCLA Hillel - The Shaq574 Hilgard Ave.,LA 90024

(310) 208-3081

26 By Shilo’s Kehila

8657 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310)246-1326

Beverly Cafe Elite RCC


(323) 931-3563

Bibis Warmstone Kehila

8928 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 246-1788

Bramis Pizza RCC

17736 ShermanWay, Reseda 91326

(818) 342-0611

Café Del Mar Dairy Kehila

12526 Burbank Blvd. N.H. 91607

(818) 487-8171

Cafe of Paris Kosher LA

6399 Wilshire Blvd. LA, 90048

(323) 653-0513

Circa RCC

8622 W Pico Blvd, Los Angeles

(310) 854-0592

Delice Kehila

8583 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 289-6556

Eat Good To Go Kosher LA

12417 Burbank Blvd., N.H, 91607

(818) 509-2966

Fish Grill Kehila


(323) 937-716212013 Wilshire Blvd. LA, 90025

(310) 479-18009618 W. Pico Blvd. 90035

(310) 860-118222935 Pacific Coast Highway

(310) 456-8585

Jerusalem Pizza Kehila

17942 Ventura Blvd. Encino, CA 91316

(818) 758-9595

La Brea Bagel Kehilla


(323) 965-1287

La Pizza Rabbi Furst

12515 Burbank Blvd. N.H, 91607

(818) 760-8198

Milk N Honey RCC

8837 West Pico Blvd LA, 90035

(310) 858-8850

Milky Way Kehila

9108 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 859-0004Nagilla Pizza Kehila


(310) 788-0111

Nana Cafe RCC

1509 S Robertson Blvd.

(310) 407-0404

Pacific Pizza RCC - Cholov Yisroel & Pas Yisroel

12460 Oxnard St. N. Hollywood

(818) 760-0087

Pico Cafe Kehila

8944 W Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310)385-9592

Pizza Maven Kehila

140 North La Brea Blvd. 90036

(323) 857-0353

Pizza Nosh Rabbi Ami Markel

30313 Canwood St. A.H. 91301

(818) 991-3000

Pizza Station Kehila

8965 W. Pico Blvd. LA, 90035

(310) 276-8708

Pizza World Kehila

365 Fairfax Ave. LA, 90036

(323) 653-2896

Sassis Sushi Kehila

16550 Ventura, Encino, 91436

(818) 783-2727

Shalom Pizza RCC


(310) 271-2255

Stacey’s Café D Kosher LA

12501 Burbank Blvd. #5, NH 91607

(818) 506-2551

Unique Cafe Rabbi Aron Simkin

18381 Ventura Blvd. Tarzana

(818) 757-3100

Fish In The Village RCC

12450 Burbank Blvd. N.H, 91607

(818) 769-0085

Le Sushi RCC

12524 Burbank Blvd N.H. 91607

(818) 763-6600

Bodhi Vegan KitchenKosher LA


(310) 248-2777

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