Student Success:Parenting 101

Office of Student Affairs

• Student Centered – practices, procedures, and processes reflect students’ needs first and foremost.

• Student Friendly – develop personal relationships with students and support them as mentors, advocates, and friends.

• Student Focused – provide services in a courteous and professional way and give current, complete, and accurate information.

• Student Caring – adhere to a “We Care” philosophy where all students feel supported and comfortable.

• Student Pride – help students develop respect for themselves and others, teach students to recognize their responsibilities, and

encourage them to achieve high standards of academic and personal behavior.

Student Affairs Values

The Collegiate Experience:A Journey from Adolescence to Adulthood

• Career• Intellectual• Sexuality

• Values clarification• Belief systems• Lifestyles

• Family• Spirituality• Cultural awareness

TEACHERSTEACHERS

EDUCATORSEDUCATORS

ADVISORSADVISORS

MENTORSMENTORS

MENTOR

ADVISOR

EDUCATOR

TEACHER

TEACHER

EDUCATOR

ADVISOR

MENTOR

PARENTAL ROLES

K-12

12- Beyond

• Learn to cook

• Learn car maintenance

• Learn to do laundry

• Hang up

• Hang loose

Managing Challenges

(THE ADVISOR)

Before now you handled conflicts.

Now it is time to advise your student on

the best way to handle the conflict.

Connections(THE MENTOR)

Seeing a smiling parent at an event is the small push that your

student needs to make it through the rest of the semester.

• SIUEvents• Athletics• Arts & Issues• Music & Theater

• Campus Activities Board• Family Weekend• Springfest• St. Louis

4 + 3 + 2 + 1 = SUCCESS

A simple formula…

FIRST SEMESTER EXPERIENCE

• Right Sizing - Course Load……MINIMIZE

• About Work…..MINIMIZE

• To Be Involved or Not……HOLD OFF

• Resources/What Resources?……..KNOW IT/USE IT

• Circle of Friendship…….CAMPUS LIFE DEFINED

• Time…….MANAGE IT WISELY

What to expect through the year…

Check our website at www.siue.edu/parents for a helpful article about the adjustment issues faced during the first year – month by month.

Remind your student to take the MAP Works survey in mid-September. This unique tool helps students make a successful transition from high school to college. More information about MAP Works is available at www.siue.edu/parents.

7 habits of successful students

• They are highly motivated

• They have defined success

• They have a game plan…4 - 3 - 2 – 1 = SUCCESS

• They know their professors, advisors, mentors

• They have cultivated a support system

• They are proactive

• They remain eternally optimistic

Empty Nest…

(THE MENTOR)

Your growth will result in

your student growing.

A Freshman Perspective about Parents…

• They are suffering from “ENS”

• They can’t read a menu, even with glasses

• Tattoos scare them

• They have no taste in cool music

• They cannot open a PDF file

• They cannot figure out the digital remote control

• They think Pilates is a band

• And they still don’t know the answers to life’s biggest questions

Enjoy the journey…