Sibling R i v a l r y. Objectives n Parents will understand reasons for sibling rivalry n Parents...
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Sibling R i v a l r y. Objectives n Parents will understand reasons for sibling rivalry n Parents will learn about ways to reduce jealousy of older children
Objectives n Parents will understand reasons for sibling
rivalry n Parents will learn about ways to reduce jealousy of older
children
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Sharing n Did you quarrel a lot with your brothers and/or
sisters? n What angered you or made you jealous of your siblings? n
How did your parents handle your sibling battles?
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Conflict Within Families n between children n between parent
and child n between spouses In most families there are three
general types of conflicts:
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Lets Brainstorm! Why do your older children feel jealous?
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Reasons 1 Their basic needs are not being met
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Reasons 2 They also need attention; may feel ignored because
all attention is given to the new baby
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Reasons 3 Some children need companionship but do not know how
to get it from their parents
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Signs of jealousy 1 - regression n Clinging n Thumb-sucking n
Avoiding contact with the baby
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Signs of jealousy 2 - regression n Verbal rejection of the baby
or parents n Regression in toilet training n Food spills n Wanting
the babys bottle
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Signs of jealousy 3 - anger n Playing alone n Resisting bedtime
n Temper tantrums n Hitting
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Signs of jealousy 4 anger / revenge n Biting n Abuse of
pets
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Ways to Reduce Conflict n Let siblings express their feelings n
Don't compare siblings with each other n Let your children decide
whether they want to share
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Ways to Reduce Conflict n Try to spend individual time with
each child n Praise your children for who they are as well as what
they do n Help your children accept their frustrations
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Ways to Reduce Conflict n Encourage big brother/big sister role
for older child n Let him/her share in caring for the baby
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Solving Problems Through Family Meetings
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Guidelines for Family Meetings n Set time when all family
members can be present n Understand the purpose of regular family
meetings n Establish a non- threatening atmosphere n Establish
basic ground rules n Promote self-esteem of each family member
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Family Meeting Ground Rules n Okay to say what you feel n No
one has to talk n Everyone has to listen n No one puts anyone else
down n Everyone gets a chance to talk n One person talks at a time
and does not get interrupted
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Family Meetings n Explain purpose of meeting n Provide ground
rules n Discuss family fun n Give time for others to think of
activities n Discuss n Choose an activity n Make a plan n Review
the meeting
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Sample Agenda for Family Meetings n Discuss family issues,
concerns, interests, and positive events of past week n Determine
priority issue(s) n Clarify the issue to be discussed n Generate
possible solutions n Determine the most effective solutions n Make
plans to implement the solution n Plan one fun activity for the
coming week
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Conclusion: Communication is the Key n Find time to spend with
the children n Really listen and hear n Teach problem solving