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Sibling Rivalry

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Sibling Rivalry

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Program Objectives

Parents will understand reasons for sibling rivalry

Parents will learn about ways to reduce fighting among siblings

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Sharing

Did you quarrel a lot with your brothers and/or sisters?

What angered you or made you jealous of your siblings?

How did your parents handle your sibling battles?

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Conflict Within Families

between children between parent and child between spouses

In most families there are three general types of conflicts:

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Let’s Brainstorm!

Why do your children quarrel?

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Reasons for Rivalry

Their basic needs are not being met

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Reasons for Rivalry

Sometimes kids fight just to get attention

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Reasons for Rivalry

Some children need companionship but do not know how to get it from

their sibling

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Reasons for Rivalry

Power within the family

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Ways to Reduce Conflict

Let siblings express their feelings Don't compare siblings with each other Let your children decide whether they want to share

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Ways to Reduce Conflict

Try to spend individual time with each child

Praise your children for who they are as well as what they do

Help your children accept their frustrations

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Ways to Reduce Conflict

Don't take sides in sibling fights

Let children work out differences

Praise your children for any improved behavior

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The Three B's of Dealing With Sibling Arguments

Bear it Beat it Boot'em out!

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Helping Work Out Differences

When sibling rivalry turns into real fighting, parents must step in. A parent's job is to protect children from physical or emotional injuries.

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Action Steps Describe what you see. Separate the children. Set a cooling down period. Listen to each child's point of view

and acknowledge feelings. Work out a possible solution

together for dealing with the problem in the future.

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Encourage win-win Negotiations Problem-solving Steps

Stop the action. Listen to each other's

story Identify the problem. List ways to solve the

problem.

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Encourage win-win Negotiations Problem-solving Steps

Choose a solution that meets everyone's needs.

Carry out the plan. Evaluate how well the plan worked.

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Solving Problems Through Family Meetings

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Guidelines for Family Meetings

Set time when all family members can be present

Understand the purpose of regular family meetings

Establish a non-threatening atmosphere

Establish basic ground rules

Promote self-esteem of each family member

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Family Meeting Ground Rules

Okay to say what you feel

No one has to talk Everyone has to listen No one puts anyone else

down

Everyone gets a chance to talk One person talks at a time and does not get interrupted

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Family Meetings Explain purpose of meeting Provide ground rules Discuss family fun Give time for others to think of activities Discuss Choose an activity Make a plan Review the meeting

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Sample Agenda for Family Meetings

Discuss family issues, concerns, interests, and positive events of past week

Determine priority issue(s) Clarify the issue to be discussed Generate possible solutions Determine the most effective solutions Make plans to implement the solution Plan one fun activity for the coming week

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Conclusion:Communication is the Key

Find time to spend with the children

Really listen and hear Teach problem solving Project what may be

reason to argue and eliminate before it happens!