Self Leadership

Agenda

•Logistics•About Laura•Expectations•Define Leadership•Effective Historic Leaders•Values•Destination•Be/Do/Have•Self Management•Pitfalls•Continuous Improvement•Summary

Logistics

•Set cell phones to ‘stun’•Finish time•Interactive, not a lecture – jump in!•My Job

•Truth telling•Intruding/bottom lining •Keeping the group focused•Holding your agenda•Finishing on-time

About Laura

Education•BA – Communications

•University of Illinois at Chicago

•MBA – International Business •Lake Forest Graduate School of Management

•CPCC (Certified Professional Co-Active Coach) •The Coaches Training Institute

•ACC (Associate Certified Coach)•International Coach Federation

About Laura

Experience•Rust-Oleum Corporation

•Industry Marketing Specialist

•AkzoNobel Aerospace Coatings •Global Marketing Communications Manager

•LifeQuest Alliance•Life/Success Coach

•Unified Coaching Concepts•Executive Coach & Consultant

Self Leadership

Expectations

What do you expect to get out of this presentation?

Defining Leadership

•What is your definition of a great leader?•What are the characteristics of a great leader?

Defining Leadership

•Fearlessness•Positive attitude; especially in the face of adversity•Perseverance•Admits when wrong•Takes action•Knows when to follow•Humility

•Inspires•Motivates•Good listener•Honest/Trustworthy•Open-minded•Great communicator•Ability to stay highly focused•Able to take a stand

The Four Agreements

by don Miguel Ruiz

1. Be impeccable with your word

2. Don’t take anything personally

3. Don’t make assumptions

4. Always do your best

Defining Leadership

Effective Historic Leaders

Abraham Lincoln

Eleanor Roosevelt

Margaret Thatcher

Nelson Mandela

Mahatma Gandhi

Effective Historic Leaders

Adolf Hitler

Mao ZeDong

Pol Pot

Effective Historic Leaders

“Nothing is more despicable than respect based on fear.” ~ Albert Camus

Values

•Respect•Integrity•Open-mindedness•Independence•Honesty•Ambition•Harmony•Connection•Communication

Values

•Thoughtfulness•Trust•Clarity•Loyalty•Humor/Fun•Practicality•Support•Love•Conversation

Destination

What is the legacy you want to leave behind?

What will you have done to have lived a life without regrets?

•Personal Mission Statement

•Personal Vision Statement

•Life Purpose Statement

Destination

Personal Mission Statement

To live the life I’ve imagined! To pursue my dreams & passions regardless of perceived obstacles or others, unknowingly or knowingly, attempting to hold me back. To make choices that are right for me and hold true to my vision for leading my BEST, MOST AMAZING LIFE.

My life as an example/inspiration to others. I will walk the walk so that I can talk the talk and inspire others.

Destination

Personal Vision Statement

To be the catalyst and facilitator who champions people in transforming their personal and professional lives into their dream life, and/or, at the very least, someone who inspires delicious thought for the soul!

Destination

Life Purpose Statement

I am the nurturing shockwave that awakens people to ‘what’s important now.’

Destination

Be/Do/Have

If I HAVE ______________

I can DO ______________

Then I can BE __________

Be/Do/Have

If I HAVE (A healthy runner’s body)

I can DO (A marathon)

Then I can BE (A marathon runner)

Be/Do/Have

If I BE (A marathon runner)

I can DO (A marathon)

Then I can HAVE (A healthy runner’s body)

Be/Do/Have

Self Management

Decision Making

Does the decision align with your:

- Values/Vision/Mission/Life Purpose?-Makes it easier to say ‘NO.’-Helps you manage your time.-Keeps you focused on what’s important to you.

“It's easy to say ''no!'' when there's a deeper ''yes!'' burning inside.” ~ Stephen R. Covey

Self Management

Time Management

Self Management

What’s Important Now?

Pitfalls

#1 - Fear of Failure/Success

Pitfalls

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”

~ Wayne Gretzky

“We are continually faced by great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems.”

~Lee Iococca

“We are consistently more than we allow ourselves to be.” ~ Abraham-Hicks

#2 - Predetermined Attitudes

Assumptions

Past experiences = beliefs

“Watch your thoughts; they become words.

Watch your words; they become actions.

Watch your actions; they become habits.

Watch your habits; they become character.

Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.”

~ Frank Outlaw

Pitfalls

#3 - The need to be right

“The way we see the problem is the problem”

~ Stephen R. Covey

“The need to be right is the sign of a vulgar mind.”

~ Albert Camus

“Pick battles big enough to matter, small enough to win.”- Jonathan Kozol

Pitfalls

#4 - Guilt

“Guilt upon the conscience, like rust upon iron, both defiles and consumes it, gnawing and creeping into it, as that does which at

last eats out the very heart and substance of the metal.”

~ Bishop Robert South

You will make mistakes that negatively affects others.

You have not done this intentionally.

Forgive yourself.

Show compassion for yourself.

Move forward.

Pitfalls

#5 - Unworthiness

“Your problem is you're... too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”

~ Ram Dass

“I don't possess a lot of self-confidence. I'm an actor so I simply act confident every time I hit the stage.”

~ Arsenio Hall

Pitfalls

#6 – Negative Feedback

“I've never had negative feedback.”

~ Elie Wade

“From the backstabbing co-worker to the meddling sister-in-law, you are in charge of how you react to the people and

events in your life. You can either give negativity power over your life or you can choose happiness instead. Take control and choose to focus on what is important in your life. Those

who cannot live fully often become destroyers of life.”

~ Anais Nin

Pitfalls

#7 – Lack of clear direction or purpose

“More men fail through lack of purpose than lack of talent.”

~ Anonymous

“There are certain things that are fundamental to human fulfillment. The essence of these needs is captured in the phrase 'to live, to love, to learn, to leave a legacy'. The need to live is our physical need for such things as food, clothing, shelter, economical well-being, health.

The need to love is our social need to relate to other people, to belong, to love and to be loved. The need to learn is our mental need to

develop and to grow. And the need to leave a legacy is our spiritual need to have a sense of meaning, purpose, personal congruence, and

contribution”

~ Stephen R. Covey

Pitfalls

Continuous Self Improvement

Keeping a Positive Attitude •What is the ‘gift’ or learning of the situation?•Gratitude - What can be appreciated about this moment/situation?

•Gratitude journal/jar

Continuous Self-Improvement

Self-Care vs. Selfish

Self Care-Choosing to honor your own feelings/needs.-Respecting yourself

Selfish

- Choosing to blatantly disregard another person’s feelings/needs.

Continuous Self-Improvement

Affirmations-I am smart-I am talented-I am knowledgeable-I have something significant to offer/contribute-I can do whatever I set my mind to-I am a fast learner

Continuous Self-Improvement

Be Yourself •Trust yourself•Believe in yourself•Be honest with yourself

Continuous Self-Improvement

Personal Power

The ‘IT Factor.’

“I am personally convinced that one person can be a change catalyst, a "transformer" in any situation, any

organization. Such an individual is yeast that can leaven an entire loaf. It requires vision, initiative, patience,

respect, persistence, courage, and faith to be a transforming leader.”

~ Stephen R. Covey

Continuous Self-Improvement

Summary

Summary

•Define Leadership•Effective Historic Leaders•Values•Destination•Be/Do/Have•Self Management•Pitfalls•Continuous Improvement

ExpectationsWere your expectations met?