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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE & SELF LEADERSHIP City of Madison Women’s Leadership Series Session #2 May 3, 2016 Presented by Darcy Luoma

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE & SELF LEADERSHIP INTELLIGENCE & SELF LEADERSHIP ... and self leadership isn’t about power and being ... • Emotional Intelligence

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE & SELF LEADERSHIP

City of Madison Women’s Leadership Series Session #2 May 3, 2016 Presented by Darcy Luoma

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“Girls don’t make breakfast!”

© Darcy Luoma Coaching & Consulting, LLC www.DarcyLuoma.com

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“Do you have energy all the way up to your eyeballs?”

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MY BACKGROUND

• Former Director, U.S. Sen. Kohl’s Office

• Master Certified Coach, International Coach Federation

• Lead Instructor, UW-Madison Professional Life Coaching Certificate

• Owner, Darcy Luoma Coaching & Consulting

• Voted Madison, Wisconsin’s Favorite Life Coach

• Mom, athlete, adventure traveler © Darcy Luoma Coaching & Consulting, LLC www.DarcyLuoma.com

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ROADMAP: WHERE ARE WE GOING!

• Icebreaker to warm up! • Review your Designed Alliance • Review The Balanced Leader

(Masculine vs. Feminine Energy) • Self Leadership & Leadership

Presence • Emotional Intelligence • Forward the Action

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ICEBREAKER

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1. Create a single file line in the shape of a circle.

2. In order of who has been in their current position the shortest to longest.

3. Now clump together in groups of 4-5 and introduce yourself…

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INTRODUCTIONS

Name, title and organization

Current role and how long you’ve been in this role

Your biggest take-away from the first session

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YOUR DESIGNED ALLIANCE

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ICEBREAKER

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1. Get back in your single file line. 2. Count off 1-10 (say how long you’ve been

in position!) 3. Create small groups around the room

• 1’s together • 2’s together • Etc.

4. Discuss the following question together in your small group

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DESIGNING OUR ALLIANCE What do you personally want to champion today from your designed alliance? 1. What’s the atmosphere/culture you want to

create for this workshop series? 2. What will help you flourish/succeed? 3. How do you want to be together

when it gets difficult?

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Culture Flourish

Difficult

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THE BALANCED LEADER

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MASCULINE VS. FEMININE

• Let’s review the dynamics of masculine vs. feminine styles or “archetypes.”

• Within each style there are different preferences.

• It is not men vs. women, necessarily.

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SELF ANALYSIS: Where do you fall? • Select how much you identify with feminine

vs. masculine qualities by voting with your FEET!

• The stronger you identify with that quality, the further to the extreme you will stand.

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MASCULINE ARCHETYPE Outcome oriented

FEMININE ARCHETYPE

Process oriented

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MASCULINE ARCHETYPE Competitive

FEMININE ARCHETYPE

Collaborative

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MASCULINE ARCHETYPE Structured

FEMININE ARCHETYPE

Flexible

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MASCULINE ARCHETYPE Focus on self

FEMININE ARCHETYPE

Focus on others

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MASCULINE ARCHETYPE Facts & Data

FEMININE ARCHETYPE Intuition & Emotions

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LARGE GROUP DEBRIEF

– What was that experience like? – What are you learning about

leadership skills?

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BALANCED LEADERS NEED A BLEND!

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• In order to be effective, you need to consciously choose how you are going to communicate/behave.

• This often requires a blend of the masculine and feminine, depending on the situation.

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SELF LEADERSHIP

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LEADERSHIP Leaders help individuals and teams get from where they are now to where they want to be.

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SELF LEADERSHIP The self process of getting from where you are now to where you want to be.

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SELF LEADERSHIP The process of

intentionally influencing your

thinking, feeling and behaviors to

achieve your objectives.

- Bryant & Kazan, 2012

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SELF LEADERSHIP IS… • Having a developed sense of:

– who you are (values) – what you can do (strengths) – where you are going (vision)

• Coupled with the ability to influence your communication, emotions and behavior on the way to getting there.

- Bryant & Kazan, 2012

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Self Leadership (INTERNAL FOCUS)

translates into…

Leadership Presence (EXTERNAL FOCUS)

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Your ability to ENGAGE, CONNECT, and INFLUENCE others by being present in the moment and noticing your impact.

LEADERSHIP AND PRESENCE

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How do others FEEL when they are interacting with you?

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Leadership presence and self leadership isn’t about power and being in charge.

In fact, it’s more about connecting with and empowering others.

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How does your self leadership translate to leadership presence? • You have conscious CHOICE about how

you will behave and communicate. • This increases your influence and instills

trust and confidence in others.

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PARTNER ACTIVITY: PART #1 • Partner A: Share a story about a frustrating

relationship (2 minutes) • Partner B: Listen (don’t fix, solve, etc.) and

write down what your partner is thinking, feeling and saying

• Switch directions!

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What new awareness are you having?

WHAT ARE YOU LEARNING?

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

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WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EQ)?

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MEET TIMMY…

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EVERYTHING CREATES A PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL REACTION!

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Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

Self

Awareness +

Self Management

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ASSESSING YOUR EQ • Self-Awareness: How aware am

I of my emotions? • Self-Management: How well do I control

my emotions and impulses? • Social Awareness: How aware am I to the

needs of others? • Relationship Management: How well do I

build and maintain relationships?

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LEADERSHIP PRESENCE starts with an inward focus on SELF LEADERSHIP…. ….which impacts all aspects of your life, health, career and relationships. How are you leading your own life and career?

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Self Awareness

The last thing the fish knows about… …is water

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SELF-AWARENESS • The more self-aware

you, the more potential you have for conscious choice around how you react to challenging circumstances in life and work!

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How does your self leadership translate to leadership presence? • You have conscious CHOICE about how

you will behave and communicate. • This increases your influence and instills

trust and confidence in others.

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CONSCIOUS CHOICE = SELF MANAGING

• Not reacting based on your emotions!

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SELF-MANAGEMENT

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• Choose responses instead of being led by emotion

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How do others FEEL when they are interacting with you?

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• Thinking: How can they not provide parking for a U.S. Senator?

• Feeling: Frustrated, angry, confused • Saying: I know you are incredibly

overwhelmed, how can we figure out a good plan?

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PERSONAL EXAMPLE

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PERSONAL EXAMPLE Self-Awareness

– Thinking: How can they not provide parking for a U.S. Senator? He will be LATE!

– Feeling: Frustrated, angry, confused + Self-Management

– Saying: “I know you are overwhelmed. How can we figure out a good plan?”

= Leadership Presence

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YOUR TURN! • Think of your frustrating relationship… • What were you thinking? Feeling? Saying?

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PARTNER ACTIVITY: PART #2 • Partner A: Share your reflections with your

partner on what you thought they were thinking, feeling and saying

• Partner B: Listen and learn • Switch directions!

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SELF-OBSERVATION

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HOW CAN YOU SELF MANAGE?

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• Identify what value is being stepped on • Stay in a space of choice, and navigate

the value systems that may be colliding! • Choose response instead of being led by

emotion

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LOWER “EQ”

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HIGHER “EQ” MODEL…

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MAN’S SEARCH FOR MEANING

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DR. VIKTOR FRANKL

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PERSONAL SELF-REGULATION TECHNIQUES:

How do you self-manage so you make conscious choices?

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What new awareness are you having?

WHAT ARE YOU LEARNING?

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– What was that experience like?

– What are you learning?

– Where do you see these skills being useful in your role?

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LARGE GROUP DEBRIEF

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FORWARD THE ACTION

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• Icebreaker to warm up! • Review your Designed Alliance • Review The Balanced Leader

(Masculine vs. Feminine Energy) • Self Leadership & Leadership

Presence • Emotional Intelligence • Forward the Action

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REVIEW: WHERE WE WENT!

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Based on what you learned today, what action do you want to commit to?

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FORWARD THE ACTION

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• Things I will START doing

• Things I will STOP doing

• Things I will CONTINUE doing

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START, STOP, CONTINUE…

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SUPPORT AND ACCOUNTABILITY

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Who or what can support you to make these positive changes?

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FINAL QUOTE

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Thank you!

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