Safe Online TalkSafe Online Talk

Today’s ObjectiveToday’s Objective

• To be able to describe positive To be able to describe positive aspects of online talking and aspects of online talking and messaging, and to identify situations messaging, and to identify situations in which flirting and chatting become in which flirting and chatting become risky.risky.

• Raise your hands if you have ever Raise your hands if you have ever heard the saying “Don’t talk to heard the saying “Don’t talk to strangers”.strangers”.

• How might this “rule” change when How might this “rule” change when we communicate online?we communicate online?

RememberRemember

• That while the Internet allows people That while the Internet allows people to keep in touch or hang out with to keep in touch or hang out with friends they already know offline, it friends they already know offline, it also allows people who don’t know also allows people who don’t know each other to interact, debate, share, each other to interact, debate, share, and collaborate. and collaborate.

DefinitionDefinition

• OpportunityOpportunity: a chance for : a chance for something to happen something to happen

Keep in MindKeep in Mind

• The Internet gives students a wide The Internet gives students a wide range of opportunities to connect range of opportunities to connect with or learn from people who may with or learn from people who may not be in their circle of close friends not be in their circle of close friends — whether through games, social — whether through games, social network sites, blogs, instant network sites, blogs, instant messaging, forums, and so on. messaging, forums, and so on.

DefinitionDefinition

• PitfallPitfall: a hidden or unsuspected : a hidden or unsuspected problem or danger problem or danger

DefinitionDefinition

• inappropriateinappropriate: not proper; not okay : not proper; not okay

You need to know…You need to know…

• That connecting with people online That connecting with people online occasionally can have its pitfalls. occasionally can have its pitfalls. Therefore, it is important to know Therefore, it is important to know how to deal with inappropriate how to deal with inappropriate situations if they arise. situations if they arise.

• DISTRIBUTEDISTRIBUTE the  the Take Three Take Three Student HandoutStudent Handout

• Now you are going to watch a video Now you are going to watch a video of three teens sharing their of three teens sharing their experiences about connecting with experiences about connecting with people online. You should pay people online. You should pay attention to the attention to the opportunitiesopportunities and and the the pitfallspitfalls that each of the three that each of the three teens mentions in the film. teens mentions in the film.

Video-Video-Perspectives on Perspectives on Chatting Safely OnlineChatting Safely Online

• http://www.commonsensemedia.org/http://www.commonsensemedia.org/videos/perspectives-on-chatting-safelvideos/perspectives-on-chatting-safely-onliney-online

• Go over the handout that the kids didGo over the handout that the kids did

• Which story do you feel most Which story do you feel most connected to? connected to?

• Why?Why?

• What advice did the teens share in What advice did the teens share in the video? the video?

• Would you add any advice of your Would you add any advice of your own?own?

You may recall the following You may recall the following rules from the video…rules from the video…

• End any conversation that starts to End any conversation that starts to make you uncomfortablemake you uncomfortable

• Remember that you can shut off a Remember that you can shut off a device at any timedevice at any time

• Remember that people are “far Remember that people are “far away” online, in a sense, so it’s away” online, in a sense, so it’s easier to take awkward or annoying easier to take awkward or annoying moments less personally. moments less personally.

•   Renee talks about getting a “gut Renee talks about getting a “gut feeling” when she felt something was feeling” when she felt something was “off” online. “off” online.

• What does that feel like? What does that feel like?

• In which situations have you had that In which situations have you had that kind of gut feeling?kind of gut feeling?

RememberRemember

• That just as you follow safety rules for That just as you follow safety rules for travel in the real world, when you go travel in the real world, when you go online you should follow the three safety online you should follow the three safety rulesrules

1.1. End any conversation that starts to make End any conversation that starts to make you uncomfortableyou uncomfortable

2.2. You can shut off a device at any timeYou can shut off a device at any time3.3. People are “far away” online, in a sense, People are “far away” online, in a sense,

so it’s easier to take awkward or so it’s easier to take awkward or annoying moments less personally. annoying moments less personally.

4 rules for staying safe 4 rules for staying safe when talking and when talking and messaging onlinemessaging online

– Go to the following linkGo to the following link–

http://piercetechnologyclasses.weebly.chttp://piercetechnologyclasses.weebly.com/4-rules-for-staying-safe-when-talkingom/4-rules-for-staying-safe-when-talking-and-messaging-online1.html-and-messaging-online1.html

4 rules for staying safe 4 rules for staying safe when talking and when talking and messaging onlinemessaging online1.1. Don't reply to any questions that Don't reply to any questions that

make you feel uncomfortable.make you feel uncomfortable.2.2. Tell a trusted adult when someone Tell a trusted adult when someone

bothers you online.bothers you online.3.3. Avoid flirting or using sexual Avoid flirting or using sexual

language online.language online.4.4. Never plan a face to face meeting Never plan a face to face meeting

with someone you have only met with someone you have only met online. online.

DefinitionDefinition

• HarassHarass: to bother or pressure : to bother or pressure aggressively aggressively

Harass Harass

• Randy and Aseal use this word in the Randy and Aseal use this word in the video to describe awkward or video to describe awkward or annoying interactions with strangers annoying interactions with strangers online. online.

• For example, Aseal says he was For example, Aseal says he was harassed when during a game harassed when during a game someone he didn’t know said some someone he didn’t know said some mean things about him. mean things about him.

Online FlirtingOnline Flirting

• Online flirting can sometimes be a Online flirting can sometimes be a less obvious form of harassment. less obvious form of harassment.

• How would you handle someone How would you handle someone walking up to you on the street and walking up to you on the street and making crude or sexual comments?making crude or sexual comments?

•   How would you handle someone How would you handle someone trying to flirt with you on the street?trying to flirt with you on the street?

•   The same kinds of situations can The same kinds of situations can happen when you are online. happen when you are online.

• Sometimes it’s obvious that what a Sometimes it’s obvious that what a person is saying online is wrong and person is saying online is wrong and even harmful. even harmful.

• Other times people may flirt online, Other times people may flirt online, and such warning signs are not and such warning signs are not always so obvious. always so obvious.

• Flirting is normal among middle school Flirting is normal among middle school kids. When flirting is done face to face, kids. When flirting is done face to face, it might feel comfortable. However, it it might feel comfortable. However, it quickly can become uncomfortable quickly can become uncomfortable online, even when it’s with other online, even when it’s with other people that you may know. This is people that you may know. This is because people sometimes say things because people sometimes say things online to one another that they might online to one another that they might not say if they were face to face. not say if they were face to face.

DefinitionDefinition

• RiskyRisky: potentially harmful to one’s : potentially harmful to one’s emotional or physical well-being emotional or physical well-being

• When you are talking online with people you don’t When you are talking online with people you don’t know in person, flirting and other sexual talk is risky know in person, flirting and other sexual talk is risky behavior behavior

• There are times when flirting can lead to an ongoing There are times when flirting can lead to an ongoing relationship with a stranger that seems deep and relationship with a stranger that seems deep and personal. But this is tricky, because some people personal. But this is tricky, because some people online don’t actually have teens’ best interests in online don’t actually have teens’ best interests in mind. If the person you’re communicating with mind. If the person you’re communicating with online says anything inappropriate or sexual, and online says anything inappropriate or sexual, and especially if that person is older than you are, you especially if that person is older than you are, you should stop talking right away and then tell a friend should stop talking right away and then tell a friend or trusted adult about it. or trusted adult about it.

• DISTRIBUTEDISTRIBUTE the  the Internet Traffic Internet Traffic Light Student HandoutLight Student Handout

  Internet Safety Tips Internet Safety Tips

• Go over the internet safety tips in the Go over the internet safety tips in the class website. class website.

• Keep these rules in mind when you do the Keep these rules in mind when you do the following activity following activity – http://www.commonsensemedia.org/sites/defahttp://www.commonsensemedia.org/sites/defa

ult/files/6-8-safety-safeonlinetalk-internettrafficult/files/6-8-safety-safeonlinetalk-internettrafficlight-handout.pdflight-handout.pdf

– Read through each of the 5 scenarios and tell Read through each of the 5 scenarios and tell me if it is a red, yellow, or green light and me if it is a red, yellow, or green light and explain why you chose that light color.explain why you chose that light color.

Wrap up question 1Wrap up question 1

• What are some of the opportunities What are some of the opportunities and some of the pitfalls of and some of the pitfalls of connecting with people online?connecting with people online?

Wrap up question #2Wrap up question #2

• In what online situations should you In what online situations should you get a “gut feeling” that tells you that get a “gut feeling” that tells you that you may be at risk?you may be at risk?

Wrap up question #3Wrap up question #3

• What are some rules for staying safe What are some rules for staying safe when talking and messaging online?when talking and messaging online?