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SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH
PAINFUL MEMORIESHOW TO STOP HOARDING YOUR HURTS © 2015
BY ALLISON BOTTKETO BE RELEASED IN JANUARY 2017
BY Harvest House Publishers - Eugene, Oregon
QUESTIONNAIRE OVERVIEW
Few of us have been able to escape life without painful memories. It’s how we process and cope with these memories that makes the difference in how we live. I’m working on the 7th book in the Setting Boundaries® series, and I’d be deeply appreciative if you shared your thoughts, insight, and opinions on the topic. In providing your point of view, personal anecdotes, and unique perspective, your participation will illuminate this issue in a powerful way. By including the real voices of real people, I hope to lend immediacy and authenticity to the facts, using responses from this questionnaire to add texture to help deepen the meaning of the story.
Setting Boundaries with Painful Memories will help readers learn how to identify if a lack of healthy boundaries (or having stringent, inflexible boundaries) could be the root of challenging situations and relationships in life. It will help readers learn that setting healthy boundaries is critical. Even more important, Setting Boundaries with Painful Memories will help readers learn that boundaries are Biblical—that even Jesus set them. As you may know, Setting Boundaries® isn’t just a book series—it’s a ministry designed to inspire, empower, and equip men and women with SANITY tools to transform their lives.
This questionnaire includes several thought-provoking questions. You may respond to as few/many questions as you choose. This manuscript is currently in development with an April 2016 publisher deadline and January 2017 release date. It will be incredibly helpful if you could complete this form on your computer and return it via email attachment by the end of this year, December 30, 2015 (or before January 30, 2016). Feel free to share this questionnaire with others. Please know that your feedback will help to make a difference in the lives of readers. You may choose to remain anonymous. This questionnaire is also available on our website at www.SettingBoundariesBooks.com.
Respectfully,
Allison Bottke, [email protected]
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1. Save this document on your computer using your last name and the word “answers” as the file title. Example: smithanswers.doc, johnsonanswers.doc, etc.
2. Please complete each of the following questions in as much detail as possible. There is no word count limit. You may complete as many/few questions as you choose. Simply place your cursor in the yellow highlighted box and start typing.
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4. Email the completed form to the author as an ATTACHMENT using this address: [email protected] .
5. Please type this text in the subject line of your email: RETURNING Q & A.
6. It will be greatly appreciated if you can return the completed Questionnaire by December 30, 2015 and no later than January 30, 2016.
QUESTIONS
Question #1: What is your definition of a “healthy boundary” with respect to our inner thoughts? Have you ever thought about setting healthy boundaries in conjunction with your thoughts, feelings and emotions?
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Question #2: What is your earliest painful memory, and how old were you? Does it ever flash across your mind today? If so, what triggers this to happen?
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Question #3: Can you share other painful memories and how they have helped and/or hindered your life today?
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Question #4: Why do you think some of us have more trouble than others when it comes to understanding boundaries in general and setting healthy boundaries in all areas of life, whether with others or with our own thoughts?
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Question #5: Why do we hang on to our hurts? To our negative emotions and memories?
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Question #6: How/why can painful memories from past experiences affect us today?
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Question #7: What is your perspective on the concept of our need and/or ability to set healthy boundaries with painful memories from our past? What does doing so look like to you?
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Question #8: What issues or things trigger painful memories in your life (or in the life of someone you know?)
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Question #9: Do you know anyone who has been emotionally trapped by painful experiences and memories? If so, what is the most challenging situation or circumstance you've personally experienced with someone who is hoarding their hurt(s) and has been unable to set a healthy boundary around a past experience?
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Question #10: Violence against women is one of the most widespread of human rights abuses. The consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and last a lifetime. One out of every three women worldwide will be physically, sexually or otherwise abused during her lifetime. How does this epidemic of violence against women contribute to painful memories in the lives of survivors, and their family and friends? Do you think it’s possible for someone whose boundaries have been violated to learn how to set healthy boundaries and stop hoarding their hurts?
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YOUR CLOSING COMMENTS:
Please take a few moments to share your random thoughts. This is the space where you are free to share anything you’d like regarding this topic. Your comments and insight will be valuable as I complete this book. Thank you again for your feedback and opinions. You are appreciated more than you can know.
In closing, I would like to add…
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