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Parent – Teacher –

Student Interview ONE (updated 23/11/17)

Step 1

Intro Videos

Watch one or more videos per session at the beginning. Depending on circumstances.

You Only Live Twice ᴴᴰ ┇ Short Film ┇ The Daily Reminder

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hXZVW--1cG8

So when do you think you will die? Every household

will hold a funeral. Whose funeral is it going to be?

Mum? Dad? You?

What if Tommorow is Your Last Day ┇ Thought Provoking ┇ by Sh. Feiz & Dr. Haitham

┇HD┇TDR

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https://youtu.be/WXvCwl4VF8c

Let’s play the video clip again and pause at the

questions in front.

Every Soul Shall Taste Death : Death in Islam ᴴᴰ ┇ The Daily Reminder

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=koEeFIs3bxM

Wearing Hijab is Fard, Praying 5 times a day is Fard, wearing proper

kinds of clothes is Fard. If you don’t do them when you are supposed

to, you’re doing Haram.

What If You Died Doing Haram? - Islamic Reminder

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1sUkuFIziI

What will you see seconds before you die?

What Happens Few Seconds Before You Die?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWfNYztUM1U

Step 2

Mum is to face daughter, hold daughter’s hand and read a Mother to daughter poem (See document

entitled mother daughter poems)

Mother and daughter are to stare into each other’s eyes for 5 minutes

Teacher is to prompt them:

Teenager, think about the time when you were in kinder or prep. Remember how your mum was

treating you back then. Remember who took you to the playground and who gave you special foods

that you liked. Remember the time when she laughed at you when you did something funny when

you were a little girl.

Mum, think about the time when she said her first words and when she took her first steps and

when she first smiled. Remember about how you used to comb her hair after shower and shampoo

her hair in the shower. Remember how you used to burp her after feeding her milk when she was a

baby.

Teacher is to ask how each other feels.

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Step 3

Parent’s homework

Look at the “Homework for Parent Teacher Interview Nov 2017” document. Parent should

do this homework before the next Parent Teacher Interview.

https://storiesformuslimkids.wordpress.com/portfolio/parents-homework/

Student’s and Parent’s Homework

Look at the “Parenting Tips Part 1” document. Parents and students should watch one

lecture or video clip per day until the next Parent Teacher Interview. If the lecture is too

long, they should divide it up into manageable portions. Ask them to choose their own

manageable chunk of time and keep it consistent, even if it is a tiny amount.

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him,

said, “Take up good deeds only as much as you are able, for the best deeds are those

done regularly even if they are few.”

Source: Sunan Ibn Majah 4240

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani https://abuaminaelias.com/dailyhadithonline/2015/09/14/hadith-

on-deeds-the-best-deeds-are-consistent-even-if-they-are-small/

Step 4

Look at the “Parenting Tips Part 2”. Parents, read it when you are free. We’ll discuss more about this

in the next few interviews, in shaa Allah.

https://storiesformuslimkids.wordpress.com/portfolio/parenting-tips-part-2/

Step 5

Go through the list below, in shaa Allah.

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1. To Teen: Why do we need to do this interview session?

(a) We need you to follow Allah & His Messenger because Allah knows you best.

You don’t even know what is best for you. You think you do. But you don’t. Your

Maker knows best. So, follow Him and His Messenger.

(b) We need to remind you to FOCUS – Jannah not Dunya

(c) We need you and your parents to start healthy habits from now

(d) We need to clean your heart

(e) We need to protect you from Jinn

(f) We need to give you enough information so you can avoid making bad decisions.

For example: Awful behaviour towards parents & elders, bad friends, drugs (See

an article on how drugs affected a family; newspaper cutting), smoking, not

wearing hijab, drinking, clubbing, etc…

(g) We need you to stop sinning openly and persistently

(h) We need you to start depositing into your Akhirah account

(i) We need you to prepare for death

(j) We need you to aim to die in the most pleasant of ways, to die as a Muslim, to

die in submission to Allah’s laws

2. To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Salaah Chart. Why is it important to pray five times daily?

3. To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Quran Chart. Why is it important to read Quran daily and

listen or read a bit of Tafseer daily?

4. To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Dhikr Chart. Why is it important to remember Allah and

do Dhikr daily?

5. To Teen: Let’s have a look at your actions. Why is it important to do righteous actions and

avoid sinful actions?

6. Additional Reminders: “I’m not perfect. So I might as well give up”

7. Du’aa for righteous children and spouse

1. Why do we need to do this?

a. We need you to follow Allah & His Messenger because Allah knows

you best. You don’t even know what is best for you. You think you

do. But you don’t. Your Maker knows best. So, follow Him and His

Messenger. Fear Allah but at the same time, please love Allah. Fear

His punishment; don’t take His Forgiveness for granted. Remember

that His punishment is severe. Try your best to have a good balance

of hope and fear in Him. If you have too much hope, you will indulge

in many sins.* But if you have too much fear, you may be pushing

yourself too hard. So, try and balance the two, in shaa Allah. By the

way, who loves you most in this world? Your parents? Yourself? Or

is it Allah? Surely, Allah loves you most. He knows what is best for

you. So, trust Him.

Does Allah love everyone equally? No. Allah loves some people

more than others.

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What does Allah Love ? Powerful & Emotional | Bilal Assad ..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SYxs3KIS_Vo

Why is it hard for you to follow Allah’s rules?

When Shaytaan Enters heart | Full Animated Lecture -

Nouman Ali Khan

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tMtbz9PDzI

Allah knows better. Follow Allah’s rules.

This Video Will Bring Your Faith in Allah Back (InshAllah)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ILFHD2VnA_E

What is your purpose? Did Allah create you for entertainment?

THE MEANING OF LIFE | MUSLIM SPOKEN WORD | HD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7d16CpWp-ok

“I’m still young. I have time to be religious when I get older.” Really?

Illustrated Explanation of Surah al Asr | Nouman Ali Khan |

[HD]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=izuQLatPqt8

b. We need to remind you to FOCUS – Jannah not Dunya

We're In Love With This Dunya, Sad Reality

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cbNvsz_ZXSg

The Worldly Life – DUNYA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J5AB3ZGc-mY

THIS DUNIYA IS DECEIVING - Short Reminder

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BJ-kWITusOQ

Oh Youth! - Leave The Dunya! ᴴᴰ ┇ Powerful Speech ┇ by

Sheikh Khalid Yasin ┇ TDR Production

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b6DMpPtSlxA

The Dunya Delusion ᴴᴰ ┇ Powerful Reminder ┇ by Ustadha

Yasmin Mogahed ┇ TDR Production

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dOe_ffE1Ftc

Reality Of The Dunya ᴴᴰ | Best Example

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3f7FkX39s4

What Is This Dunya Worth?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2fJNucwcXM

What you Prefer Duniya or Hereafter - Omar El Banna (Jot

down at least 3 dot points of what you have learnt from this

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longish lecture and other long lectures)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CBLpBaHowL8

c. We need you and your parents to start healthy habits from now.

Mobile phone / laptop usage in the home

See Timetable & See Parenting Tips Part 1 and Parenting

Tips Part 2 Articles

d. We need to clean your heart

What is your spiritual heart? Water bottle demonstration.

Your spiritual heart may shows signs that it’s diseased and it’s

got plenty of black dots and it’s not soft right now. How do we

know? These are possible symptoms of a black-dotted,

hardening heart. :

You are hesitant to put on the Hijab which is Fard

You don’t put on the Hijab at all when you are in front of non-Mahrams

You don’t like listening to recitations of the Quran

You love listening to non-Islamic songs

You love listening to musical instruments

You talk back to your parents

You dislike your parents

You make fun of your parents

You love watching useless TV programs or movies for long periods of time

You don’t like to go to Islamic classes

You don’t like listening to Islamic lectures when you are at home

You are impatient with your parents and elders

You are unkind to animals

You don’t do any dhikr or du’aa throughout the day, or if you do it’s very little (like it’s just

bismillah before eating and du’aa before going to the toilet and that’s it. Nothing much else)

You don’t read the Quran regularly

You like watching magic shows

You like reading horoscopes

You are superstitious

You lie easily

You commit some sins persistently

You don’t care about the Akhirah

You love materialistic and branded things

You love your hobby or job too much (for example you play video games excessively or work

almost all the time)

You smoke or do drugs

You drink alcohol

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You eat haram or questionable foods

You have a foul mouth

You like pornography or looking at shameless pictures

You do not dress appropriately

You let your family members dress inappropriately

You are happy when people fail

You are unhappy when people succeed

You want to keep up with the Joneses’

You love the Dunya too much

You love wealth and accumulating it

You like spending your money excessively

You don’t like donating your money to charity

You don’t look forward to death and the Akhirah

You don’t like talking about death and the Akhirah

You like talking about Dunya topics

You like doing sins, major or minor or both

You get angry easily

You get sad easily

Your friends are bad Muslims

You find it troublesome to pray 5 times a day

You don’t pray 5 times a day, but you make it all up before you sleep

You don’t pray 5 times a day, but you don’t make it up

You don’t pray at all

others

Read the “Heart Black Spot” document

Read this article https://www.islamweb.net/en/article/168257/

e. We need to protect you from Jinn

3 REASONS WHY JINN ENTER THE BODY (JINN SERIES)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3lipAabeZGo

How Shaytaan Stops you from Quran | illustrated | Nouman

Ali Khan | Subtitled

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_GFe5l8zbA

When Shaytaan Enters heart | Full Animated Lecture -

Nouman Ali Khan

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tMtbz9PDzI

The Shaytaan Pulls You Slowly! - Nouman Ali Khan -

illustrated – Subtitled

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pSVJ3DdMtgI

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How Satan traps You | Nouman Ali Khan | illustrated Video

| Subtitled

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MF5K_x6Oi9k

f. We need to give you enough information so you can avoid making

bad decisions:

Muslim who turned to be atheist and back to Islam.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FD8AWqMUv18

What Are Your Priorities In Life? - Bilal Assad

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aeDVAkpMSc

Lessons learnt from people of A'raf - Sheikh Abu Bakr Zoud

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJQr9Es8A4k

g. We need you to stop sinning openly and persistently

Watch this Cycle of Sin | illustrated | Nouman Ali Khan |

Subtitled https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LjJmPFS1rqU

See “Persistence in Sins” Document

h. We need you to start depositing in your Akhirah account

HOW TO STOP WASTING TIME [YOUTH] - Nouman Ali Khan

Animated

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IutyHpDxFIk

Invest In Your Akhirah | Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95oAOCNPKzY

Time is Slipping Away ᴴᴰ - A Wake Up Call

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0Tca3O3TTM

Wasting Time Is Worse Then Death

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WNk97Q3v5W0

Live This Life For The Akhira ᴴᴰ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ag22dBYlgU

Planning For Your Akhirah - Nouman Ali Khan - Yaseen

Media https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkI0spDg9EI

i. We need you to be obedient to your parents. Why?

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https://storiesformuslimkids.wordpress.com/portfolio/disobedient-

children/

j. We need you to start wearing Hijab properly and every single time

when you are outdoors or in front of non-Mahram men

See “Not wearing Hijab – Major or Minor Sin?” document

k. We need you to prepare for death

“You will die the way you lived”. Some people will die in a

club or a cinema. Some people will die while not wearing

hijab. Some people will die gambling or drinking alcohol.

No one knows exactly when he will die, or in what land he

will die. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the

meaning): “Verily, Allah! With Him (Alone) is the knowledge

of the Hour, He sends down the rain, and knows that which

is in the wombs. No person knows what he will earn

tomorrow, and no person knows in what land he will die.

Verily, Allah is All-Knower, All-Aware (of things)” [Luqmaan

31:34].1

There are no specific signs by which a person may know that

his death and the end of his life are approaching. This is by

the mercy of Allah towards His slaves, for if a person knew

when he was going to die, and he knew that repentance

expiates the sins that come before it, perhaps he might

indulge in sins and commit evil deeds, and promise himself

that one hour before his death he will repent and give up his

sin. But such a person does not deserve to be a slave of

Allah; rather he is a slave to his whims and desires.

This is in contrast to reality, for no person knows when he

will die, so the wise person strives to make up what he has

missed out on and hastens to do so by repenting and doing

righteous deeds, for he does not know when his life will end,

and he remains in this state until Allah takes his soul. Such a

person deserves to be a righteous slave who loves to obey

Allah and hates to disobey Him.

But there are some signs which may indicate that the end of

a person’s life is approaching, such as if he suffers a severe

sickness from which people hardly ever recover. The same

applies if he reaches extreme old age, or is in a serious

1 https://islamqa.info/en/201751

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accident, and other matters that may happen by the divine

decree. 2

Every Soul Shall Taste Death : Death in Islam ᴴᴰ ┇ The Daily

Reminder ┇

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=koEeFIs3bxM

What If You Died Doing Haram? - Islamic Reminder

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1sUkuFIziI

"I Am Seeing The Angel of Death Now" - [True Story]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yuqnaFmnLKI

Appearance Of Angel Of Death ᴴᴰ | *Beautiful Or Scary*

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=69tzIFIZBT8

What Happens Few Seconds Before You Die?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWfNYztUM1U

A Visit From Angel of Death - Powerful Reminder - Sheikh

Omar El Banna

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KYfeVp8qRTs

l. We need you to die in the most pleasant of ways

Dead body refuses to go inside the grave

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBj41vAXR3Y

Signs That You Dont Really Love Allah

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bY5zULnONG8

Message From A Dying Person

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nrx0mn7Ar6c

DEATH - True Stories of Death

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NtOGzp65baY

They Died Without Salah - True Story – MercifulServant

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wNWMVlEkHhg

At the time of Death ~ True Story ~ ITUP Network

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1GD8jVzcbs

True Stories of Death | Sheikh Feiz

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhWq0C1TdDg

Uttering Kalimah At The Time Of Death - by Sheikh Ahmed

Ali https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xQKoZx8CSaE

Read this https://islamqa.info/en/10903

“O you who believe, fear Allah as He should be feared, and

die not except as Muslims.” (3:102)

http://darunnasiha.blogspot.com.au/2015/03/you-will-die-

way-you-lived.html

http://rasoulallah.net/en/articles/article/16446

“You will die the way you lived.” (Quote by many scholars)

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The agonies of death are the last hardship that a person

encounters before meeting Allah, and they are the last thing

by means of which Allah expiates the sins of His slave. We

ask Allah to make these agonies easy for us and help us to

bear them.

Al-Bukhaari (4449) narrated from ‘Aa’ishah that during the

sickness of which he died, the Messenger of Allah (blessings

and peace of Allah be upon him) began to put his hand in

water and wipe his face with it, saying: “Laa ilaaha ill-Allah

(there is no god but Allah), verily death has agonies.” Then

he held up his hand and started saying: “With the higher

companions…” until he passed away and his hand fell.

At-Tirmidhi (978) narrated from ‘Aa’ishah that she said: I

saw the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be

upon him) as he was dying. There was a vessel of water next

to him, and he would put his hand in the vessel then wipe

his face with the water, then he said: “O Allah, help me to

bear the agonies of death.”

Classed as hasan by al-Haafiz in al-Fath (11/362); classed as

da‘eef by al-Albaani in Da‘eef at-Tirmidhi

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was

asked:

Do the agonies of death reduced the burden of sin? Does

sickness that precedes death do likewise? He

replied: Everything that befalls a person of sickness,

hardship, worry, or distress, even a thorn that pricks him, is

expiation for his sins. Then if he is patient and seeks reward,

in addition to expiation of sin he will have the reward for

that patience with which he faced the calamity that befell

him. There is no differentiation in that regard between what

happens at the time of death and what happens before that.

End quote from Fataawa Noor ‘ala ad-Darb (24/2)

Alongside the hardship and agonies of death, what the

believer receives of glad tidings and being made steadfast at

the time of his death are among the things that will make

what he is faced with easier to bear and will make him long

for what comes after it of meeting Allah.

Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

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The dying person can only be one of two things: either it is a

relief for him or others are relieved of him. In either case

things may be very hard for him at the time of death or they

may be alleviated for him. In the former case, he is the one

who is faced with the agonies of death, and that has nothing

to do with whether he was pious or an evildoer; rather if he

was one of the pious it will increase him in reward,

otherwise it will expiate for him accordingly, then he will be

relieved of the annoyances of this world, of which this is the

last. ‘Umar ibn ‘Abd al-‘Azeez said: I would not like the

agonies of death to be reduced for me, for that is the last

thing by means of which sin may be expiated for the

believer. Yet at the same time, what the believer receives of

glad tidings and the angels being happy to meet him, and

their accompanying him, and his joy at meeting his Lord,

make it easier for him to bear whatever he may face of the

pain of death, until it becomes as if he does not feel

anything of that. End quote from Fath al-Baari (11/365)3

2) To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Salaah Chart. Why is it important to pray five times daily?

https://storiesformuslimkids.wordpress.com/portfolio/prayers-are-important/

3) To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Quran Chart. Why is it important to read Quran daily and

listen to a bit of Tafseer lecture or read a bit of Tafseer daily? Why is it important to listen to

recitation of the Quran regularly on top of reading it by ourselves daily?

Read little bit of Quran everyday ~ Nouman Ali Khan

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1kr7IgrFuqA

What do I achieve by Reading the Quran? - Mufti Menk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPzBQEmxFaI

Mufti Menk - Why Don't You Listen to the Quran

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBzdJA9_2q4

The Quran: Advice, Cure, Guidance, & Mercy - Mufti Menk - Quran Weekly

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jhaCrPM8Oeg

Read Quran everyday by Mufti menk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKM-

baDOkPg

What do I Achieve by Reading the Quran? ~ Mufti Ismail Menk | Jumu'ah Lecture

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tQZ2s0rNCQU

Too lazy to understand the Quran? Watch This! - Nouman Ali Khan & Mufti Menk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=trrtk3fLxhM

Reward of reciting the Quran ● Amazing ● Mufti Menk

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=etleK-2G9-g

http://www.gsalam.net/8-reasons-you-should-read-the-quran-everyday-even-if-you-

dont-understand-it/

http://www.themodernreligion.com/basic/quran/quran-benefits.html

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4) To Teen: Let’s have a look at your Dhikr Chart. Why is it important to remember Allah and do

Dhikr daily? https://storiesformuslimkids.wordpress.com/portfolio/why-should-we-remember-

allah/

5) To Teen: Let’s have a look at your actions. Why is it important to do righteous actions and avoid

sinful actions?

6) Additional reminders: “I’m not perfect. So I might as well give up” How to be a good muslim! -

Yasmin mogahed https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Zg6Q-Bp-Uw and * below

7) Du’aa for righteous children and spouse (for parents and for the teen. For her future children

and spouse, in shaa Allah) See Quran (25:74)

* Allah forgives all sins, right? So,

I’m sure He’ll forgive me for not wearing the Hijab. A typical question:

Q: Didn’t Allah say in the Quran that He will forgive all sins? So, it isn’t a big deal right if I

wear the Hijab or not? I think it doesn’t matter if I wear the Hijab or not. I know it’s a sin not

to wear it. But since Allah says that He will forgive all sins, I’m sure He will forgive my sin

for not wearing the hijab, right?

A: No, you are mistaken, sister.

Allah says in the Quran:

“Say: O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by

committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah, verily, Allaah

forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful”

[al-Zumar 39:53].

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No sin is excluded from this general meaning, but this

applies only to those who repent.

End quote from al-Jawaab al-Kaafi, 1/116

That means, you have to sincerely ask Allah for forgiveness for doing that sin before

you die.

(Question and Answer are edited and extracted from https://islamqa.info/en/175522 . For a

detailed answer, do refer to it.)