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8/2/2019 Life Works Newsletter #4
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Volume #4 Spring 2012
Realizing vision and futureOne person at a time
Mission StatementLife Works provides
comprehensive supports for
persons with developmental
disabilities to live real lives in
homes of their own. The
primary focus of Life Works is
to support all people to create
full rich lives that reflect
personal choice across home
and community environments.
Calendar of Events
www.lifeworks-sls.com
April 19th & 20th
California Supported Living Network
Leadership Conference
@ The Dana Hotel , San Diego
Movie Nights
Inside Im Dancing March 28
A Beautiful Mind April 25
March 26 from 4:00pm-8:00pm
Celebration and Book Signing Event
A Full Life With Autism: From Learning To
Forming Relationships to Achieving Independence
By Jeremy and Chantal Sicile-Kira
The Poseidon Restaurant
1670 Coast Boulevard
Del Mar CA 92014
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Directors Discussionby Beth Gallagher
A"format"titled"Directors"Discussion"seems"as"though"it"should"hold"space"for"a"
narrative"that"is"lengthy,"educational"and"profound."I"am"not"feeling"that"sort"of"story"
today."I"have"had"a"lot"of"topics"flying"around"my"head"lately."I"thought"today"I"would"jot"
down"some"thoughts"and"just"share"them"with"you."Nothing"too"terribly"tough"to"ponder,"
however"they"are"things"that"may"have"you"tilting"your"head"and"saying,"hmmm.""
I"am"regularly"alarmed"by"how"much"information"we"think"we"know"when"in"actuality"we"know"very"little."By"very"little"I"mean,"virtually"nothing."This"is"
sobering."I"have"been"doing"this"work"for"a"long"time."(Lets"get"real,"it"has"been"
just"shy"of"26"years)"Long"enough"for"sure"to"be"considered,"in"most"professions,"
a"master'craftsman."We"are"just"getting"started.""
Community"is"both"the"hardest"thing"and"the"most"important"thing"for"us"to"work"on.""
The"more"I"think"I"know"someone"the"more"I"dont."" As"a"woman"that"did"not"share"family"with"anyone"labeled"with"a"disability,"I"am"
intensely"curious"about"how"that"experience"has"shaped"those"individuals."Both"positive"and"negative.""I"do"know"that"the"experience"I"had"with"my"3"brothers"
and"one"sister"has"made"dramatic"impact"on"what"type"of"person"I"am"now."Just"
wondering"out"loud.""
What"would"this"world"be"like"if"each"of"us"took"it"upon"ourselves"to"connect"to"another"citizen"who"was"not"connected?""The"unlikeliest"of"connections"can"
change"lives"on"both"ends.""
Over"the"past"5"or"6"decades"the"service"delivery"system"has"wrapped"itself"around"the"neediness"and"deficiencies"of"people"with"disabilities."Peoples"gifts"
have"not"been"acknowledged"therefor"the"reciprocity"necessary"for"true"
relationships"to"grow"is"not"available."And"we"have"the"audacity"to"wonder"why"
people"are"not"surrounded"by"true"friends."We"need"to"get"out"of"the"way"and"
teach"the"real"skills"necessary"for"life"to"be"rich"and"vibrant."Friendship"
"
~"Beth"
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On My Mind~Kirk Hinkleman-Associate Director
A walk through Savannah
As our host, Mr. Tom Kohler, picks Beth and I up
from the Savannah Hilton Head Airport and begins to
immerse us in what he lives and breatheswe find
ourselves driving through what he calls the edges. These
edges are areas of his community where, depending on your socio-economic status, race
and upbringing, some people may not drive or walk through. Mr. Kohler, simply put,
destroys the myth of fear and crime and opens our eyes to a beautiful reality that people
are people no matter what. The people we come across on this initial tour, smile, wave
and offer welcome greetings when we have the opportunity to exchange words. His
purpose was to expose us to this radical juxtaposition of this edge and the safe circle.
The goal is to find people willing to embrace the idea of being a citizen that cares to build
a relationship with another citizen who may live on the edge and bring their life closer
to that safe circle.
This trip was born out of a conversation I had with Mr. Kohler while participating
in the Toronto Summer Institute in 2011. Weve been collaborating on moving his story
of Waddie Welcome and the Beloved Community, a book he wrote about a man whose
life transformed perceptions of what can happen when people are afforded the
opportunity to share their story. Mr. Kohler is the director of Chatham Savannah
Citizen Advocacy, a non-profit organization that gets people who would ordinarily not
meet, to meet. That is it. Beautifully simple. Citizen Advocacy, at its roots, is about
two people sharing their story, forming a relationship, and caring for one another as
citizens who are invested in working toward that beloved community.
During our second day, we embarked on a whirlwind of conversations with
citizen advocates who took the time to sit and learn with us through storytelling. Its this
storytelling that grounds the concept of citizen advocacy. Mr. Kohler says, If you can
keep people in the story, then people will move forward. The people we met shared
their stories, struggles and laughs within these stories, but most importantly, shared the
idea of being a citizen willing to be in a relationship with people who are, in a sense,
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living life-threatening segregation.
Our intention was to learn and is to continue to learn about citizen advocacy in an effort
to bring this to our communities in San Diego. It is a fire that, like a pilot light, has been
ready for some gas. The gas emerged in Toronto last July and was just turned to the
high position during this trip to Savannah. We work and exist in a system basedservice design, one in which we are fortunate to have and are able to offer to people who
live in our communities here at home. But admittedly, what we lack is this sense of pride
in our local community. A pride driving citizens to find a purpose in forming a
relationship with someone, who in turn, become citizens partnered in stumbling
forward toward this common gooda beloved community.
Life Works is an agency that is proud of what, why, how and to whom we
provide services. But stepping outside the systems we work within, we intend to begin
linking citizens, who would ordinarily not have crossed paths, to meet one another and
care for each other. Simply put, partnering people to learn experientially together, rather
than learning about one another through a report. It starts with the willingness to deeply
listen to another persons story and that story never ends, it just begins to look a little
more beautiful.
~Kirk
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Occupy the Lanterman Act:
Do You Know What You Need to Know?
April 19-20The Dana Hotel
San Diego, California
The 2012 Leadership conference will focus on reclaiming the birthright of all
Californians with developmental disabilities the Lanterman Act. While threatened
often, the Lanterman Act remains law and continues to provide the people we supportan abiding framework for receiving the services they require to live in the community.
We have lined up speakers and sessions that will give you information that will help you
with providing quality supported and independent living services, and give you tools
that you can use right away. The coming year will continue to challenge us fiscally and
CSLN has worked hard to bring you a valuable conference at a very reasonable price.
We have planned a special forum and other activities during the conference for family
members to explore partnerships that will help us to work together to preserve and
strengthen supported living and independent living as viable options for our loved onesand others needing support who dont have family to help advocate on their behalf. The
Parent Forum and other conference activities have been specially crafted for families,
including single-household providers and supported individuals.Go towww.supportedliving.com now and register.
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Recently a chapter of the national siblings network formed in the area. Its a resource for
the brothers and sisters of people with developmental disabilities; information on
educational and health issues, a chance to meet and talk with people who may or may
not share a life experience.
The notice was right there in my e-mail and I printed out a copy. Although its my job,
and certainly my boss job to get the word out on this sort of thing, as we looked at the
flyer, we both swallowed hard. Would we share the info concerning the first local
meeting with our own sons and daughters? We let our words hang in the air. Our
families have been more public than some. Weve been willing to open up our lives to
others, to share our stories as advocates. If not exactly as examples, we have on the
other hand come to acknowledge how important and powerful its been to hear others
stories and we feel an obligation to pay this forward.
Yes, we decided, well share the information about this meeting with our children. We
laughed nervously and said, Whoa! This is a hot potato! We were also moved to tears.
I dont know of any family for whom this the sibling issue - is an easy subject. As a
parent, being able to speak about my challenges and fears with others parents in similar
circumstances is a lifesaver. I quite naturally make the assumption that my children will
gain similar comfort or even celebrate talking with other young people whose brothers or
sisters were like Matt, but thats not the case. Neither of my younger sons has any
interest in participating in disability-related activities and a siblings group is probably
near the top of their Things Not To Do List.
They both know that they are not expected to be their brothers keeper. Some families
demand and expect this. We do not. We have created a special needs trust, however, and
they each have the role of Trustee. When the time comes, they will know which
individuals or organizations to go to for advice concerning their brother. Weve got it
covered, Mom, they both say. And, I am confident that they will advocate for their
brother, they will look out for his welfare and they will in some way be involved in each
others lives. But this is their time. They want some distance. And I understand. I know
that some of their closest friends are still those kids who stood with my sons when they
were being taunted. They were the kids who still came over to play even though they
may have witnessed something weird and strange or even dangerous. They may not
share the sibling/disability experience with my sons, but in a way it bonded them. A
Whoa! This is a Hot Potato!By Kristine Copeland
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good friend is a good friend. Of course, they also have good friends who have no idea
there is an older Copeland brother.
The oldest Copeland brother is Matt and he has autism. Hes 29 years old now; his
brothers are 27 and 22. They are all doing well, are happy and successful in their own
ways, and I am proud of them all. Yet I am still struggling with some of the aspects of
my parenting, both in the past and in the present day. I know my younger sons are
dealing with some very complex emotions concerning their brother and with growing up
with him. We do sometimes talk about it, but it is almost always at my instigation. Was
our familys experience so different than that of other families, whether impacted by
disability or not? Yes and no. There were things that happened in our home and in ourneighborhood schools that were extreme. Kids can be humiliated by having the wrong
shoes! My sons were the brothers of that kid and to this day, neither of them believes
there are others to be found who shared the experience of having a brother like theirs.
There is no one like Matt, one of them said to me. Im finding that Im unable to
recount any of the more difficult examples here; not because I cant remember, but
because I can. My sons can joke about many things, but there are incidents and
memories that still cause them great pain.
Heres a lesson I am learning: My children will seek out solace in places of their own
choosing and share their deepest feelings with their friends and family. They dont want
anything special or organized. Not now.
Oh, and theres this, too they are adults!
Im still going to send them an e-mail about the siblings group. And they will tease me
about it. I love when they do that.
Kristine Copeland is a mother, advocate, and writer from Livonia, Michigan.
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Fearsome Flyer: Engineering a Dream Into a Reality
By Al Holt
As a personal project, to cope with my physical disability, creating an alter ego inspired by
my appreciation of comics, helped me completely reassess my outlook on life. At first, it
was not to my knowledge that comic lovers challenged with disabilities need a role model to
get through each day a bit easier. By becoming disabled in June of 93, my entire perception
on persons with disabilities changed. I mostly care about others, and being a person who
views situations from the outside looking in, it is in my knowledge now that we all need a
superhero to look to in times of doubt.
Towards the beginning of San Diegos International Comic Convention, I was interviewed
by KPBS, and they were interested, as to why the Comic Con attendance has rapidly
increased in the past years. I explained my reasoning, like I did above, but I did not tell her
that I have personally been working on creating such a character to boost self-esteem levels
of persons with disabilities for years, perhaps a decade.
My re-entrance into the education system was difficult, especially when teenagers makeprejudge mental decisions almost always. I was also very subconscious, knowing that I was
the only kid in a wheelchair, plus my eating disorder did not help. My voice sounded so bad
that I tried my best not to talk. A science project first got my idea of a character flowing,
but this was not going to be any ordinary character, I was angry then, in fact I still try to
hide my anger. The cards that life has dealt me are truly difficult to handle, but I am not the
only one playing the game of life. For years, I had no name for my character, finally,
thinking of why Knight Rider was named that, the name fell perfectly, Fearsome Flyer.
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My first chapter was posted to my Myspace blog for some time, so was a second, and
two feature scripts entirely devoted to this character. Finally, I was contacted by amusician from Australia who made me believe in myself. He got me to realize all the
good I can do with story, being challenged daily with chronic pain he too was
empowered. After spending some of my own money, I taught myself how to make and
publish a site for this purpose. Also I personally funded my first comic book, but I cannot
afford to keep doing this. Just recently, I finished a third Fearsome Flyer Feature script,
and the journey does not end here.
Please consider assisting with funding by clicking on the donate button on my site:
www.comicinvasion.org
Support this by buying a digital comic or a t-shirt on my on-line store.
Together we can affect the lives of many.
Thank you,
Alan
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8 Qualities of Remarkable EmployeesForget good to great. Here's what makes a great employee remarkable.
By Jeff Haden | Feb 21, 2012
Great employees are reliable, dependable, proactive, diligent, great leaders and great followers... they possess a
wide range of easily-definedbut hard to findqualities. A few hit the next level. Some employees are
remarkable, possessing qualities that may not appear on performance appraisals but nonetheless make a major
impact on performance.
Here are eight qualities of remarkable employees:
1. They ignore job descriptions. The smaller the company, the more important it is that employees can think on
their feet, adapt quickly to shifting priorities, and do whatever it takes, regardless of role or position, to get things
done.
When a key customer's project is in jeopardy, remarkable employees know without being told there's a problem
and jump in without being askedeven if it's not their job.
2. Theyre eccentric... The best employees are often a little different: quirky, sometimes irreverent, even
delighted to be unusual. They seem slightly odd, but in a really good way. Unusual personalities shake things up,
make work more fun, and transform a plain-vanilla group into a team with flair and flavor.
People who aren't afraid to be different naturally stretch boundaries and challenge the status quo, and they often
come up with the best ideas.
3. But they know when to dial it back. An unusual personality is a lot of fun... until it isn't. When a major
challenge pops up or a situation gets stressful, the best employees stop expressing their individuality and fit
seamlessly into the team.
Remarkable employees know when to play and when to be serious; when to be irreverent and when to conform;
and when to challenge and when to back off. Its a tough balance to strike, but a rare few can walk that fine line
with ease.
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4. They publicly praise... Praise from a boss feels good. Praise from a peer feels awesome, especially when you
look up to that person.
Remarkable employees recognize the contributions of others, especially in group settings where the impact of
their words is even greater.
5. And they privately complain. We all want employees to bring issues forward, but some problems are better
handled in private. Great employees often get more latitude to bring up controversial subjects in a group setting
because their performance allows greater freedom.
Remarkable employees come to you before or after a meeting to discuss a sensitive issue, knowing that bringing
it up in a group setting could set off a firestorm.
6. They speak when others wont. Some employees are hesitant to speak up in meetings. Some are even
hesitant to speak up privately.
An employee once asked me a question about potential layoffs. After the meeting I said to him, Why did you
ask about that? You already know what's going on. He said, I do, but a lot of other people don't, and they're
afraid to ask. I thought it would help if they heard the answer from you.
Remarkable employees have an innate feel for the issues and concerns of those around them, and step up to ask
questions or raise important issues when others hesitate.
7. They like to prove others wrong. Self-motivation often springs from a desire to show that doubters are
wrong. The kid without a college degree or the woman who was told she didn't have leadership potential often
possess a burning desire to prove other people wrong.
Education, intelligence, talent, and skill are important, but drive is critical. Remarkable employees are driven bysomething deeper and more personal than just the desire to do a good job.
8. Theyre always fiddling. Some people are rarely satisfied (I mean that in a good way) and are constantly
tinkering with something: Reworking a timeline, adjusting a process, tweaking a workflow.
Great employees follow processes. Remarkable employees find ways to make those processes even better, not
only because they are expected to but because they just can't help it.
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Luna Sensual
por Elizabeth Rubalcaba
Hoy me siento plena
Entre tus brazos me estremezco,
En la playa fui tuya,
Solo era testigo la luna y el mar.
Con la noche obscura y triste,
Busco pasin entre tus carisias y besos.
La coqueta ilumina al mar rebelde
Se vuelve un tornado.
Luna sensual,
Cmplice de los amantes,
Con tu brillante luz,
Enciende la pasin y el fuego
Me convierto en un solo ser.
Esa noche se volvi clida como mi ser,
Al sentir tus manos recorrer mi cuerpo
La arena fue testigo de nuestro deseo.
Al entregarnos totalmente el uno al otro,
Fui musa de tus carisias
Al amarecer aleja la luna sensual
Solo se entrelaza nuestro destino.
Original work by a
Life Works
Stakeholder