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Grief comes from loss
The loss of someone very close• Husband or wife - from death, divorce, or
separation• A child or a sibling• An intimate friend
“I am no longer a wife, or husband, a father or a sister”
Deep attachments are broken
Part of us is torn away A huge hole remains in the heart A painful wound remains Feelings of anguish, loneliness, even
rejection fill the heart There may be anger at God
Express sympathy and concern
I am so sorry You must feel (have felt) terrible A genuine expression of sympathy helps
begin the healing relationship
Listen to the person’s story
Would you like to tell me about it? If weeping occurs, it is normal. Don’t try to
stop it. Tears glands are our organs of elimination
of grief
Ask about the person who is gone
Many want to talk about the departed spouse What kind of a person was he? How did you meet? And fall in love? What were some of the wonderful things you
did together? Listening with interest is therapeutic
Discover strengths
Do you have a success story from the past? Have you coped with other losses in the
past? How are you coping with this one now? What brings comfort to you? Where can you go to find strength? How do you see your future?
Support groups
Are you a member of a church? Or other groups, clubs, support groups Are these groups of help to you? Is your family of help to you? Encourage participation in such groups Encourage reaching out to others to form
new relationships and especially to those who are also grieving
Other activities
What do you do to relax, or to have fun? What are the things you like to do? Are there things you can make that
stimulate creativity? – cooking, painting, embroidery, carpentry, or others
Hobbies, projects, recreation
Relationship with God
Tell me about your faith How has God been of help to you? Do you look forward to reunion with your
loved one?
Purpose in loss
To draw us to God whom we can never lose To point us to our eternal relationships and
possessions To lead us to the living hope of the
resurrection To deepen relationships with others or
develop new ones
Purpose in loss (continued)
To help us to help others “Blessed be God the Father of mercies and
the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble with the comfort with which we ourselves have been comforted by God” II Corinthians 1:3,4
Offer prayer
Pray according to the story you have heard Thanksgiving for the loved one or the lost
situation• For the joys of the past• For the hope of the future
Ask for the comfort of the conscious presence of the Lord
For strength to continue to live and grow
Loss of a child
This is especially difficult, so hard to understand
Ask about the child Is there hope for reunion?
Loss from divorce or abandonment
Is there anger, bitterness, resentment? If so, can forgiveness occur? Is there hope for reconciliation? What new directions can life take with
God’s help?
Look for signs of danger
Loss of appetite Loss of weight Insomnia Inability to concentrate or to make
decisions These indicate deep depression that needs
professional help
Hope
We were saved by hope - Romans 8 : 24 The living hope of the resurrection Hope now for new relationships, new
perspectives, new things to do Do not offer empty hope or empty words But point to realities for which we can hope
Come Walk with Me By Kaye HerthCome walk with meAs I approach my journeys endCome share my timeWe’ll laugh and love and play,
Come walk with meAnd Share my fearsAnd don’t be afraid to cryYour honesty will ease my painAnd I will gain much strength besidesCome walk with meI have so much I want to sayLet me share my hopes, my dreamsAnd together we will live each day.Come walk with meThere’s much undone to doTake my hand and hold meMy work and me- We must go on
Come Walk with Me (cont)
Come walk with meThough run I can’tAnd watch each day unfoldAnd realize how much value there isIn the time we hold
Come walk with meAnd when my journey endsI will have gained peace untoldAnd you, I hopeA greater joy and capacity for livingIn the days and time you hold