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Help Yourself To Future Suc-
cess
ByJeremy Francis
www.buyandtrain.com
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ForwardAbout the book.
Have you ever wondered why some people live such fulfilled lives and why some
simply fail to achieve success? Why it is that some people create a future for them-
selves and others fail to? Why are some people so happy with their life and others
are not? Then this book is for you.
To unlock the keys to living a successful, self-fulfilled life there are seven steps to
take. Learn to use these seven steps and you will, as a result, be a much happier
person as you achieve the future success you desire.
Use the simple but effective ideas in this book to advance your career, build a suc-
cessful way of life and enjoy your successes. And enjoy a new found confidence
that you are doing all that is necessary to live a truly self-fulfilled life.
Note The book contains a number of useful links for which you
will need an INTERNET CONNECTION. The exercises contained in
the book are not interactive. To complete these you will need to
use a PAPER COPY of the book.
About Jeremy Francis
Jeremy Francis has worked in human resource development for over 30 years.
From a background in Training and Development within leading British and American
banks in 1982 he became a self-employed Human Resource Development Consul-
tant working with blue chip corporates. He founded Rhema Group in 1985 with the
aim of providing customised human resource development solutions globally throughthe use of consultancy, instructor led training, coaching, psychometric assessments
and learning and development resources.
He is now CEO of Buy and Train (www.buyandtrain.com) which provides online,
downloadable training and personal development resources.
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Jeremy is an author and keynote speaker frequently speaking at International Hu-
man Resource Development Conferences.
His most recent paper was published by The HR Director Magazine and was entitled
Globalisation of Business and the Challenge of Aligned Training and DevelopmentIssues.
His most recent keynote speaker assignments were an address to the HR Directors
of leading Russian Companies in Moscow on Best Practices in Human Resource
Development within Europe, and a presentation at The Middle East HR Conference
and Expo in Dubai on the topic of Excellence Through Advanced Training and De-
velopment.
Testimonials
Jeremy brings an expert, calm, engaging and stimulating approach to the most chal-lenging of scenarios. I first hired Jeremy to work with me on a global change man-agement programme that required my staff to embrace and adopt a range of new be-haviours and competencies in order for the business to continue delivering accelerat-ed growth.Jeremy is an expert in leadership, management and staff behaviour issues. He ishighly professional, has a fine eye for detail and is able to engage with the client at avery detailed level to ensure optimum results. His preparation and delivery are exem-plary and once the job is complete he will ensure on-going contact to help measure
overall effectiveness of the programme and that his work has helped deliver the de-sired results.Andy Soloman, Global Business Director, Platts
Jeremy Francis has played a significant role in the design, creation and delivery ofmany programmes for managers within the English Language Teaching Division ofCambridge University Press.
He has always been meticulous in the creation of the content, which he customisesas appropriate, and his style of delivery is very engaging. The feedback we have re-
ceived from his sessions on Leading Teams, Coaching and Mentoring, PerformanceManagement and Managing Change have all received excellent feedback from thedelegates.Barbara Charlton, Sales Operations Director, Cambridge University Press
Having worked with Jeremy and his team for more than 20 years I can recommendhis services to any organisation undertaking significant changes , setting up newsales processes and launching new products.Jeremy is great to work with - extremely client centered and full of innovative ideas.Iparticularly appreciate the web based training capability and the international partner
network.David Galloway, Global Business Manager, Linde Healthcare
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COPYRIGHT PROTECTION NOTICE
All rights reserved
This e-book is published by Jeremy Francis, June 2012
Text Jeremy Francis, June 2012
This material (including additional handouts and exercises) is protected under
the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988. No part of this material may bereproduced, circulated, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronicor mechanical, including photocopying, audio or video recording, or any otherinformation storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing fromJeremy Francis 15 Prospect Row, Brompton, Gillingham Kent ME7 5AL.
Any unauthorised use of this material constitutes a criminal offence, in addi-tion to exposing the user to civil penalties.
Important note about the illustrations
The images in this e-book are the copyright of Jeremy Francis and can-
not be reproduced without his permission.
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Contents
Chapter One Help yourself 1
Chapter Two Getting to know your values 3
Chapter Three Getting to know your talents and 6strengths
Chapter Four Getting to know your interests 12
Chapter Five Your physical environment preferences16
Chapter Six Your working style preferences 20
Chapter Seven Your emotional make-up 24
Chapter Eight Your intuitive and rational self 27
Chapter Nine Defining the real you 30
Chapter Ten Defining your future success 31
Chapter Eleven Making it happen 33
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Chapter One-Help Yourself-
This is unashamedly a book about self-help. Its about self-help on the most important question you will
ever face What do I want to do with my life? Nobody else can answer this question for you and no-
body else should! Its your life and you own the responsibility for your own fulfilment and happiness.
The problem is how to unbundle the key ingredients to your future success. And then decide what you
need to do to deliver that future success.
Why is self-awareness so important?
Psychologists have found that fully functioning people have four intelligences which are integrated and
harmonised.
Mental Intelligence: (IQ)The ability to analyse, reason, think abstractly, use language, visualize
and comprehend
Physical Intelligence: (PQ)
The bodys intelligence, that manages the bodys circuitry
Emotional Intelligence: (EQ)
Ones self-knowledge , self-awareness, social sensitivity, empathy, andability to communicate successfully with others [Right brain]
Spiritual Intelligence: (SQ)
Now accepted as mainstream in scientific enquiry and
philosophical/psychological discussion. Spiritual Intelligence is the cen-tral and most fundamental of all intelligences because it becomes thesource of guidance for the other three. Spiritual intelligence represents
our drive for meaning and our connection with the infinite.
You will see that self-awareness falls into the category of Emotional Intelligence. Self-awareness is to
do with ones self-knowledge, social sensitivity, empathy and an ability to communicate successfully
with others.
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For many people gaining an accurate perception of self is a real challenge. It can be very challenging
to discover the real you and to answer questions such as:
What makes you tick?
What motivates you?
When do you give off your best?
How do you see yourself in interactions with others?
What blind spots do you have?
How balanced are you?
These are all critical questions that we need to find answers to if we are to successfully gain an accu-
rate picture of our REAL SELF.
Given that of all the four intelligences this area of Emotional Intelligence and Self-Awareness is proba-
bly the greatest contributor to our personal success it is worth taking time to do some thorough self-
analysis and this is what the seven diagnostics in this book are designed to achieve.
You are about to find out more about yourself than possibly ever before. Enjoy the experience and gain
from it!
Help yourself to your future success. You will never look back.
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Chapter Two-Getting to Know Your Values-
What do we mean by values?
Our values are our core beliefs about what is important to us as a human being.
Our values are our moral compass determining what we believe is right or wrong and what our pri-
orities should be.
Our values guide us when decision-making or problem-solving.
Our values come to the surface in times of crisis.
We put time and effort into the things we value.
Our values may change over time but only WE can change our values.
Not all our values are of equal importance.
Our happiness as a human being depends largely on the satisfaction of our values.
Getting to know your values is a useful starting point in the journey of growing self-awareness.
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Your Personal ValuesHave a look at the following list of possible values. Indentify FIVE which are the most important to you.You can add to the list if you wish. Place a tick in the first column against the five. Then in the next col-umn prioritise them 1 = highest to 5 = lowest.
Values Tick Five Rank 1 to 5
ACHIEVEMENT (producing concrete results)
ADVANCEMENT(getting on in the company)
VARIETY (new experiences and change)
BELONGING (being part of a team)
COMPETING (being in competition)
HELPING (supporting others)
CREATIVITY (coming up with new ideas)
SECURITY(steady, safe job)
APPRECIATION (being thanked and valued)
HOME LIFE (protecting home life)
FREEDOM (little interference)
MEANING(wholesome and meaningful work)
HEALTH (mental and physical well being)
LEADERSHIP (having leadership responsibility)
SELF ESTEEM (feeling good about yourself)
INTEGRITY (acting honestly and truthfully)
CHALLENGE (taking on demanding tasks)
ORDER (tranquil, stable environment)
PERSONAL GROWTH (developing new skills)
FUN (having a good time)
INFLUENCING (impacting events and people)
STATUS (being considered important)
TECHNICAL (using technical abilities)
ACCOUNTABILITY (being responsible for results)
LEARNING (growing in insight and wisdom)
REWARD (opportunity for high salary)
SPIRITUAL GROWTH (growing in your faith)
RELATIONSHIPS (growing long lasting friendships)
OTHERS (Please Add)
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Personal Values Exercises
1. Challenge your values
Are the top five values REALLY your values or are they what you would like them to be?
Challenge yourself. Do you put effort into satisfying these values? Do they really guide
your decision-making?
Change your values list if necessary to be a true reflection of what you really deem to be
important.
2. Are you satisfying your values?
Are you making the right decisions to really satisfy your values? Do you need to make any
changes in your job, your personal life, or life-style to give more satisfaction of your values
and to increase your personal happiness?
What do you need to change?
3. Are your values changing?
What is causing a change in your values? Your situation? Your age? Your conscience?
What will you need to do to evidence this change in your values? What different beha-
viours will you adopt? How will you spend your time differently? Write down your answers
below.
CHANGING VALUES BEHAVIOURS
I need to.........
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Chapter Three-Getting to know your TALENTS and
STRENGTHS-Each one of us is born with natural gifts, talents and strengths. These enable us to do some-
thing easily, which we enjoy, and which brings us pleasure and personal success.
We get better at the things we naturally do well.
We contribute our best in a team environment when we are able to use our natural strengths.
Our self-esteem improves when we are using our natural gifts.
We enjoy life more when we are exercising our natural strengths.
We give of our best when we operate in our area of natural gifting.
It is therefore very important that we know our natural talents and strengths and seek out ways
to use them more for our personal satisfaction and to meet the needs of others.
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Talents Survey
Talents or skills are inherent abilities which each of us possess and which we bring to bear in
our professional or personal lives. They are an important resource in improving our perfor-
mance and our satisfaction with our work because we are usually best at what we enjoy and
what we are naturally gifted to do.
The time proven strategy of building a business by focussing on its strengths also holds true in
achieving high performance at an individual level. We each have talents (or job strengths) and
weaknesses. Whilst it is good to address our weaknesses and to be competent when it comes
to job requirements it is also important to grow and develop our strengths. A big contribution to
our motivation is to do with maximising our talents. Increasingly our success will depend on
promoting and developing our strengths and talents.
This Questionnaire is designed to help you identify your talents and strengths and then to plan
how you might use them more in your life to both improve your performance and increase your
job satisfaction.
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MAXIMISEYOUR
TALENTS(strengths)
ADDRESS YOUR WEAKNESSES
JOBCOMPETENCELINE
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Talents, Skills and Strengths
INSTRUCTIONS
Listed below are 40 talents, job skills, and strengths. Circle 10 which you believe you possess
and that you would like to use more in your life.
Team Management Skills
1. Setting challenging, achievable objectives.
2. Planning actions for achieving objectives; setting priorities.
3. Delegating effectively.
4. Monitoring and managing performance team/individual.
5. Assessing results and taking corrective action.
Decision-Making and Problem Solving Skills
6. Diagnosing complex problems effectively.
7. Discussing problems and creating solutions with relevant people.
8. Presenting solutions to complex matters clearly and convincingly.
9. Using creative thinking techniques effectively.
10. Using critical judgment to make effective decisions without all the facts.
Process Improvement
11. Pursuing continuous improvement and beneficial change.
12. Creatively questioning existing practices.
13. Looking for and evaluating a variety of alternatives.
14. Initiating actions/ideas that are focussed on business/customer needs.
15. Improving the use of internal resources; working SMARTER.
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Change Management Skills
16. Responding positively to changing requirements.
17. Creating and communicating a vision for the future.
18. Using an effective change management process.
19. Handling peoples different reactions to change effectively.
20. Keeping key stakeholders committed to change initiatives.
Communication Skills
21. Influencing others effectively.
22. Asking probing questions to get the full picture from of others.
23. Listening effectively.
24. Being clear and concise.
25. Varying own communication style to reflect the style needs others.
Leadership and Motivation Skills
26. Providing vision and giving direction to others.
27.Responding to the motivation needs of others.
28.Gaining commitment to personal goals from others.
29.Self confidence and belief in own ability.
30.Using enthusiasm, energy and perseverance to create willing followers.
Personal Effectiveness
31.Managing own time effectively.
32.Being well planned and organised.
33.Creating clear and concise written communications.
34.Presenting to others effectively.
35.Using holistic thinking.
Performance Management
36.Giving performance feedback to employees.
37.Solving individual employee performance problems.
38.Coaching and mentoring employees.
39.Handling employee grievances.40.Developing employees potential.
Add any other talents not covered in the list.
Now fill in the Summary Sheet which follows.
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SUMMARY SHEET
From these select three talents you would like to develop further.
1.
2.
3.
How could you use these more effectively in your life in a way which would increaseyour motivation?
How would you and others benefit?
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What ideas do you have to develop your three areas of talent?
Personal Development Ideas
Talent 1
Talent 2
Talent 3
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Chapter Four-Getting to know your INTERESTS-
The things that interest us give us pleasure.
Our interests contribute to us being well rounded people with a balanced life style.
Our interests are closely allied to our values and gifts in that we generally pursue interests
which add to our values satisfaction and contribute to a growth in our natural talents.
Interests may be work-related, outside of work related, or both.
It is important that we understand our interests, whats behind our liking of these activities, and
that we seek out opportunities to gain more experience of them. This will add to our sense of
personal growth and development.
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Getting to know your INTERESTS
Think about yourself within and outside work.
1. What activities that require manual labour or physical prowess do you enjoy? Why?
Give an example of when you really enjoyed this activity.
1. What activities that require specialist, technical knowledge or know how do you en-
joy?
Give an example of one activity that gave you particular pleasure.
1. What activities that require involvement with people do you enjoy?
Give an example of a particularly enjoyable occasion you enjoyed with others.
1. What activities which require skills of creativity or innovation do you enjoy?
Give an example of when you used this skill to good effect.
1. What activities that require financial and/or administrative skill do you enjoy?
Give an example of when you exercised this interest.
1. What other types of activity do you enjoy?
Give examples.
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Prioritising your INTERESTS
1. From the previous questions list down all the activities you enjoy, in priority order.
1. On which of the activities do you spend the most time?
1. In which of the activities do you spend most time developing your knowledge/skills?
1. Finally prioritise your top FIVE interests, starting with the most important down to (relat-
ively) the least important.
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Growing your INTERESTS
List below your fop FIVE interests. Alongside each, list opportunities for growing your knowl-
edge, insight, skill and experience of each area of interest.
INTERESTS OPPORTUNITIES FOR GROWTH
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Chapter Five-Your PHYSICAL ENVIRONMENT prefer-
ences-Your physical environment plays a big part in how well you function as an individual.
For some its important to have their own private, quiet space away from noise and interrup-
tions.
For others they get a buzz from being in the midst of a noisy, boisterous, busy environment
from which they draw the adrenalin they need as part of their motivation.
Some people prefer to work mainly outdoors whilst others prefer to work solely indoors.
The degree of physical stretch, the use of technology, the degree of involvement with people in
a job also enters into the sphere of the physical environment. And there are other elements
which go to make a physical environment which you either like or dislike.
Its important to know all these elements and your preferences when looking at your make-up.
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Your PHYSICAL ENVIRONMENT prefer-ences
Use the chart below to plot your preferences when it comes to the Physical Environment in
which you like to work. Use the rating scales to identify your preferences. Place a cross (X)
nearest your description.
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
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All OutdoorsMainly
OutdoorsA Mix
MainlyIndoors
All Indoors
Very Busy/Noisy
MainlyBusy/Noisy A Mix
MainlyQuiet/Tranquil
All Quiet/Tranquil
VeryUnpredictable
And ChangingMainly
Unpredictable A MixMainly
PredictableVery Predictable
All Open PlanShared Space
Mainly OpenPlan Space A Mix
MainlyOwn Office All Own Office
PhysicallyExtremelyStretching
MainlyPhysicallyStretching A Mix
MainlyPhysically
Comfortable
Physically VeryComfortable
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6.
7.
8.
9.
10.
11.
12
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Very Fast Pace MostlyFast Pace
A MixMostly
Slow PaceVery Slow Pace
Involves highDegree of
Manual WorkMostly
Manual WorkA Mix
MostlyNon-Manual
Work
Very Little Or NoManual Work
High Degree OfUse Of
Technology
Mostly Use OfTechnology A Mix
MostlyNon-Use OfTechnology
Very Little Or NoUse Of
Technology
High Degree OfPeople
Interaction
MostlyHigh Degree of
People InteractionA Mix
MostlyLow Degree Of
People InteractionVery Low Degree OfPeople Interaction
Mentally VeryChallenging
MostlyMentally
Challenging
A Mix
Mostly NotMentally
Challenging
Mentally notVery
Challenging
Contains A HugeElement Of Fun
MostlyFun
A MixMostlySerious
Always VerySerious
Emotionally/
Spiritually VeryRewarding
Mostly
Emotionally/SpirituallyRewarding
A Mix
Mostly Not
Emotionally/SpirituallyRewarding
Emotionally/Spiritually Not At AllRewarding
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Physical Environment Exercise
Describe below in one statement of no more than 25 words what your Physical Environment
Preferences are, and why.
I like a physical environment which....
The reason is....
Now describe your current Physical Environment and list down changes you would like to
make.
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Chapter Six-Your WORKING STYLE preferences-
You could refer to this as your approach to work preferences.
Each one of us goes about our work in different ways and the chance of us changing our work-
ing style are very slim. Many of the key elements involved are inborn traits which we have
learnt work for us in a working environment.
Its important to identify these inborn preferences, not to fight them, but to ensure that any
work we undertake matches our preferences.
If we dont do this we run the risk of being a misfit to our job and this results in frustration,
stress, lack of personal motivation and most important of all, lack of personal effectiveness.
It is key therefore that you indentify your WORKING STYLE preferences.
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Your WORKING STYLE preferences
Attached you will find a series of paired numbered statements, an `A' statement and a `B' state-
ment. You are asked to distribute 10 points between the 2 statements. You might give all 10
points to the `A' statement and no points to the `B' statement. This would indicate that the `A'
statement comes closest to describing your behaviour or feelings and the `B' statement is not
at all descriptive. You might give equal points (5 points to `A', 5 points to `B') if both statements
fit your behaviour about equally. For each question `A' plus `B' should equal 10.
1a) It drives me mad if I dont see a taskthrough to the end.
1b) It doesnt bother me if I have to leavea task half-finished.
2a) I am neat, tidy and organised in myapproach to work.
2b) I am rather chaotic, disorderly anddisorganised in my approach to work.
3a) I prefer to work with the involvementof others.
3b) I prefer to work entirely on my own.
4a) I like to follow laid down rules andprocedures.
4b) I like to make up my rules and pro-cedures as I go along.
5a) I like lengthy tasks and projects whichI can really get my teeth into.
5b) I like short tasks which do not requiremuch concentration.
6a) I like jobs which are logical and se-quential.
6b) I like jobs which require a great dealof creativity and flair.
7a) I like to be overseen. 7b) I like to be unsupervised.
8a) I like clearly laid down roles andresponsibilities.
8b) I dont need any clear role definition.
9a) I am compliant, easily managed. 9b) I am highly independent.
10a) I like to deal with decision- mak-ing/problem-solving objectively
10b) I like to deal with decision- mak-ing/problem-solving based entirely on mysubjective feelings.
11a) I am results focussed. 11b) I am relationships focussed.
12a) I am risk averse. 12b) I thrive on risk.
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Working Style Preferences Exercise
Look at all the statements which you have scored over 5. Use a highlighter pen to highlight
these statements on the chart below.
1a) It drives me mad if I dont see a taskthrough to the end.
1b) It doesnt bother me if I have to leavea task half-finished.
2a) I am neat, tidy and organised in myapproach to work.
2b) I am rather chaotic, disorderly anddisorganised in my approach to work.
3a) I prefer to work with the involvementof others.
3b) I prefer to work entirely on my own.
4a) I like to follow laid down rules andprocedures. 4b) I like to make up my rules and pro-cedures as I go along.
5a) I like lengthy tasks and projects whichI can really get my teeth into.
5b) I like short tasks which do not requiremuch concentration.
6a) I like jobs which are logical and se-quential.
6b) I like jobs which require a great dealof creativity and flair.
7a) I like to be overseen. 7b) I like to be unsupervised.
8a) I like clearly laid down roles and
responsibilities.
8b) I dont need any clear role definition.
9a) I am compliant, easily managed. 9b) I am highly independent.
10a) I like to deal with decision- mak-ing/problems-solving objectively
10b) I like to deal with decision- mak-ing/problem-solving based entirely on mysubjective feelings.
11a) I am results focussed. 11b) I am relationships focussed.
12a) I am risk averse. 12b) I thrive on risk.
You now have a good picture of your Working Style Preferences.
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Working Style Preferences Exercise (Con-td)
Now consider your current work requirements. What could you do to improve satisfaction of
your working style preferences?
List down up to three Working Style Preferences on which you scored over five points and for
each identify possible actions which you could take to gain more satisfaction of these.
Important Preferences Possible Actions I could take
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Chapter Seven-Your Emotional Make-Up-
Your emotional make-up is a key issue when it comes to your Self Awareness.
People who are self-aware understand their own emotions and understand how to control them
and use them positively in their dealings with others.
People who dont, tend to react versus respond to situations and tend to have blind spots about
the effect they have on others. They can also be oblivious to relationship problems which stem
from their emotional make-up.
It is vitally important therefore that you understand both the positive and negative aspects of
your emotional make-up so that you can work on the negative aspects and fully realise the po-
tential of your positive aspects.
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Your EMOTIONAL MAKE-UP
Start anywhere on the chart below. Join up all the words in one string of words that you feel
best describe your Emotional Make-Up. Start with any word you wish. Ignore any words which
dont describe you.
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List down in descending order the words you have joined up what you feel are the most de-
scriptive at the top of the list down to the least descriptive. Use the space below.
Now summarise those aspects which you believe others respond positively to. Use no more
than 25 words.
- In dealing with me I believe others respond positively to...
Now summarise those aspects which you believe others respond less positively to? Use no
more than 25 words?
- In dealing with me I believe others respond less positively to...
What aspects do you think you most need to work on to make yourself, and others close to you,
happier in your relationship with them?
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Chapter Eight-Your INTUITIVE And RATIONAL SELF-
When making decisions or solving problems we use both rationale and argument as well as our
intuition. Some people use these in a balanced way, others use one more than another.
Much has been written about being in touch with your intuitive self, and being guided by intu-
ition, as much as rational analysis and argument.
Understanding how much you use your intuition versus logic and facts can be very helpful when
improving your use of Critical Judgement Skills.
When making a critical judgement about something we rarely have all the facts and sometimes
our feelings get in the way. We need a balanced approach.
How balanced are you?
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Your INTUITIVE And RATIONAL SELF
When making critical decisions or solving major problems what is your inclination? Tick one or
another of the two statements.
I am more inclined to: I am more inclined to:
Go on gut feel. Rely on objective analysis.
Let my instincts rule the day. Challenge any instincts with facts.
Only act if I have a peace of mind
about the action I am about to take.
Disregard my feelings altogether.
Recall the outcomes of similar
events/situations and how they made
me feel. Factor in these feelings.
Never look back.
Discuss my instincts with others for
verification.
Act on my own, given the facts.
Listen to the subjective views of oth-
ers.
Rely on my own objective views or
purely objective views of others.
Check out the motivations of others
giving me advice.
Disregard the motivations of others
giving me advice.
Have the confidence to listen to my
inner self
Go against my inner self if the facts
stack up.
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I am more inclined to: I am more inclined to:
Be optimistic Be pessimistic.
Be quick in my judgements of others. Be slow in my judgements of others.
Be self aware of the effect I have on
others.
Be unaware of the effect I have on
others.
Be flexible and adaptable in my
dealings with others.
Treat others in pretty much the same
way.
Total number of ticked boxes = Total number of ticked boxes=
List down up to five key words or expressions
which are most descriptive of you from the
ticked boxes in the column above:
List down up to five key words or expressions
which are most descriptive of you from the
ticked boxes in the column above:
Now describe how you think you could improve your use of critical judgement ito make better
decisions using both your INTUITIVE and your RATIONAL thinking abilities.
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Chapter Nine-Defining the Real You-
Now review all seven exercises and in each box below summarise your findings.
MY MOST IMPORTANT PERSONAL VALUES
MY GREATEST TALENTS AND STRENGTHS
MY MOST VALUABLE INTERESTS
MY MOST IMPORTANT PHYSICAL ENVIRONMENT NEEDS
MY MOST IMPORTANT WORKING STYLE PREFERENCES
MY KEY EMOTIONAL MAKE-UP TRAITS
MY KEY INTUITIVE AND RATIONAL SELF TRAITS
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Chapter Ten-Defining Your Future Success-
Imagine you have received the following letter addressed to you from an old friend whom you
have not seen for 10 years. Write a letter in reply covering each bullet point. Use the process
to clarify and describe your personal goals for the next 10 years.
A reply to a letter from an old friend
Dear
It must be all of ten years since we last saw each other. Where does the time go? You
know youre the person that I have always admired the most in my life and so I am keen
to learn what has happened to you. Tell me about how those dreams of yours, which we
used to talk about all the time, how have they worked out for you?
What have you achieved over the last 10 years?
What are you doing now?
Where are you in fulfilling your lifes plans?
How do you see yourself?
How do your work colleagues see you?
How do your loved ones see you?
How do you feel about yourself?
How are you spending your time?
What are your personal goals for the next 10 years of your life?
I am desperate for your news and cant wait to hear from you.
Affectionately yours,
Your old friend
Mister Time
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My Reply
Dear Mister Time
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Chapter Eleven-Making it Happen-
Now review all your findings.
1. What is going to be different about your life as you pursue your future success?
2. What changes will this entail?
3. How do you plan to make these changes?
4. What will drive you to succeed?
5. How will you measure your progress?
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Other Useful Resources from myBuy and Train.Com site
Increasing Your Personal Impact
Listening Effectively
Relationship Building Skills
Identifying Your Own Influencing Style
Improving Personal Planning
Achieving Your Personal Goals
Good luck with Helping Yourself to Future Success.
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