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say. And here, you are

quite right; they probably

are, in a sense. But that

doesn't mean that

leaders are crowned with

that title only in utero.

Leaders happen to

come in all shapes and

sizes and wrappings. Put

it this way, if you are a

teacher (and who isn't?),

you lead. If you are a

boss or a supervisor, or

in charge of any work

operation, you lead. If

you are a parent, you

lead. If you have friends

who admire you, you

lead. If you have

siblings, you lead. The

list is truly endless.

But there seems to

be a reluctance, almost

a resistance to think of

ourselves as leaders.

First of all, we often

associate leadership

with charisma. This is

unfortunate. When we

do that we automatically

e x c l u d e t h e

overwhelming majority of

people, because how

many of us are truly

charismatic?

And then there is

the fear factor. Fear is

probably the sharpest

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Volume 55 Issue 4

Leadership me? by Rabbi Yaakov Salomon (AISH.COM)

C O N G R E G A T I O N B E T H S H A L O M

Congregation Beth Shalom Bulletin

Inside this issue:

Rabbi’s Study 2

President’s Message 3

Sisterhood/Men’s Club 4/5

Calendars 12

Yahrzeits 15

Funds 16/17

Hebrew School/PTO 18

Member Updates 19

I am not a leader.

Period.

I'm a follower ... and a

good one, at that. I'm

quiet, unassuming, timid,

cautious, and decidedly

unadventurous. I avoid the

limelight and disdain any

kind of attention. I dislike

parties. I have the

personality of a stapler.

Heck, I don't even vote. In

short, I just mind my own

business.

Sound like you?

Well, I have some

important news for you.

YOU'RE WRONG!

Sorry for yelling, but

I'm trying to make sure I

get my message through

to you.

Oh, you may indeed

be quiet, timid, and

restrained. I don't doubt

that. You may even hide

when the mailman comes.

But, believe it or not, that

doesn't mean you are not

a leader.

You probably think

leadership is genetic and if

your last name isn't

Feinstein, Kanievsky -

or lehavdil Bonaparte or

Giuliani for that matter --

you just don't have what it

t a k e s . " T h e s e

are born leaders," you

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With the issue of same sex marriage placed in the juris-diction of each individual state, religious leaders are weighing in on both sides of the issue. There is an effort among the far right to influ-ence lawmakers to restrict marriage to “one man and one woman”. On the far left, religious leaders cry out for equal rights under the law, granting the status and pro-tections of marriage to “all loving monogamous cou-

ples”.

In our home state of New Jersey, the Judiciary Commit-tee voted seven to six (December 7, 2009) in favor of a bill that would afford same sex couples the oppor-tunity to marry in the state of New Jersey. Governor Jon Corzine has promised to sign the bill if it makes it to his desk during the remainder of his term. Governor Elect, Chris Christie, has promised to veto any such bill during his tenure. And so the race is

on.

Neighboring states are deal-ing with similar issues. Re-cently, the New York State Senate defeated a same sex marriage bill. Maine voters overturned a decision by their state legislature which would allow same sex marriage. In Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa and Vermont same sex marriages have been legal-ized. The issue will continue to be addressed by legisla-tures throughout the United

States of America.

Every religious group seems to have those with opinions on each end of the spectrum. The Jewish community is

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“The imposition of a theological

standard upon the civil

definition of marriage does not end with

gender specific

definitions.”

clearly divided on this issue. Here in New Jersey, organi-zations have been developed to “preserve the sanctity of marriage”. Rabbis and com-munity leaders have also mo-bilized to protect the rights of individuals to secure marital status under the law regard-

less of their gender.

It is my considered opinion that religious leaders and organizations imposing or attempting to impose a theo-logical standard on the civil definition of marriage is a dangerous precedent. The total separation of church and state has preserved our ability to practice our religious be-liefs with total freedom and discretion. The imposition of a theological standard upon the civil definition of mar-riage does not end with gen-der specific definitions. Per-haps marriage should be re-stricted to only those of the same faith tradition. Could one advocate that a Get (religious divorce) be re-quired as a prerequisite to receiving a marriage license? Should a Mamzer (individual religiously precluded from marriage) be denied the op-portunity to marry under civil law? Perhaps marriage should be limited to those who are willing to marry un-der the Sign of the Cross. If we accept the religious ma-jority’s definition of marriage in a religious context, those unions which have taken place under a Chuppah should not be recognized by

civil authority.

Religious leaders and reli-gious communities are re-quired to establish religious criteria for marriage. That

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criteria can, upon the discre-tion of religious leaders and religious communities, in-clude gender considerations. Outside of a religious con-text, we do not have a right to impose religious standards upon the civil qualifications for marriage. Within the Jewish community, the dis-tinction between civil mar-riage and religious marriage is very clear. Halacha (Jewish law) recognizes nei-ther civil marriage as Kedushin (religious mar-riage) or civil divorce as a Get (religious dissolution from a marriage). We have made a clear delineation be-tween the purview of the reli-gious community and that of the civil community in the

area of marriage and divorce.

We are blessed to live in a country that precludes our legislatures from dictating religious policy. We need to understand that this is a two-sided coin. Theological stan-dards cannot be imposed upon the civil definition of marriage. The wall of sepa-ration between church and state must be preserved. As Jewish Americans, we are compelled to separate the religious aspect of this issue from the civil aspect of this issue. We have the right and the obligation to allow the teachings of Judaism to in-form our civil opinions. This is completely different from imposing a religious standard

upon a civil mechanism.

With Torah Blessings,

Rabbi David R. Senter

Shalom Haverim,

I had the distinct pleasure to be able to attend the United Synagogue of Con-servative Judaism’s Bien-nial Convention that was held in Cherry Hill, New Jersey from December 6th through December 10th. This was the first time I had gone to the interna-tional convention. I learned a great deal, met some very interesting members as well as put faces to the Presidents’ list

server.

I had signed up for meet-ings specifically dealing with synagogue finances. The other participants came from shuls that had 700 members up to 1500 members as well as one congregation that only had 50 members. We all, no matter the size, had simi-lar difficulties making their budgets. Some of them did have endowment programs, and annual giv-ing, as well as a variety of

other fundraising program.

I also attended the busi-ness meeting at which the By-Laws for the Interna-tional Organization were changed. The Board was reduced from 200 mem-bers to a range of 45 to 70 members. The Regional structure is being changed to a much larger District Office, which is supposed

to offer the member con-gregations more services by specialists in various fields. Another change is the establishment of a General Assembly as part of the governing body. There were also changes as to how often the Con-

vention will meet.

I had the distinct pleasure to meet Rabbi Wernick, the new CEO of the move-ment, as well as, Mr. Skol-nick the new International

President.

I have not davened that much since I was in a ye-shiva as a very young boy. The shaharit services were traditional or egalitarian. On the last day they also had a Storah telling ser-vice. The mincha and Mariv service were also either traditional or egali-tarian. There was also a motzie before every meal as well as Berchat-ha-

Mozon after every meal.

Between meetings and meals, I had very little time to visit the vendors that were there. I did get to talk to a few, but not enough time to get things

to bring back to the shul.

I also attended a Cantorial Concert that would knock your socks off. The Dela-ware Valley Cantorial As-

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“..We all, no matter the size, had similar

difficulties making their

budgets.”

sembly performed as well as an a cappella group called Six Thirteen. They

were extremely good.

USCJ is not sure where the next convention will be or when. I would recommend that if any of you have the funds and the time to at-tend, go and learn, schmooze and have a dif-ferent experience as a member of United Syna-gogue. I met some great people, got some very good ideas and offers of help from people all over

North America.

We at CBS just had our Chanukah Supper and it was good to see some of the kids from our Hebrew School and their parents there. I, of course, would have liked to see more of our members in attendance but I guess we can use the excuse of the weather be-ing dangerous. Maybe you will attend at some other

event.

As I write this it is the 3rd night of Chanukah and I hope that your Chanukah was really great. I wish to send the best to all of you for the New Year, 2010. May next year bring you health, wealth and much

Nachus.

Larry Tornow

President

Sisterhood - Ellie Weiner 50 bags of food for the pantry. We also sent over 30 coats to a homeless she l ter in Newark . Through your warm hearts and generosity we have helped warm many others in our community. We are proud of your efforts and realize what a wonderful group of friends we have in each other.

All of Sisterhood works very hard and happily; to be a part of Congregation Beth Shalom. We enjoy sharing a piece of our Sisters’ lives in our shul and in our lives. We enjoy seeing you in the many areas of CBS and look forward to sharing more with each of you.

Please let us know if there is anything we are not aware of that would make your membership more valuable. Suggest a program for us, share a talent, and let us know what we can do for you! I am always available to listen and share!

Finally let me wish everyone a happy healthy new year. May 2010 bring many good things for all of us. Happiness, health and love to all. Good luck if anyone makes any resolutions!

Shalom,

Ellie Weiner

As the old song goes ………Baby its cold outside! We are now fully into the winter season. I hope you enjoyed your Chanukah with family and friends. I for one am looking forward to some cozy warm evenings at home. Thankfully we do have some wonderful events coming up that will tempt us all out of our warm houses.

We will be having our Sisterhood Shabbat on the 8th. Please come enjoy a Shabbat with us and your friends and family. A casual evening awaits us on the 25th with a girl's night out. We will be getting together to enjoy each other along with s om e wa rm soup , sandwiches and salad.

Keep those calendars open because we have a great night to look forward to in February. We are planning an ‘Evening in Italy.’ There will be a delicious meal along with some wonderful dancing to be had. Upcoming we also have a wine and cheese night, Woman of the Year and our annual Fashion Show and Tricky Tray. With so many wonderful evenings to look forward to, how can we stay home!!

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Tuesday, December 08, 2009,

Shalom everyone! The year is coming to an end and we are all busy going about our daily lives and it gets hectic out there. I think that I know, what can I do to slow things down a bit and stop the world from going so fast. I think I have an answer if we are all willing to give it a try. And the answer is right here at

Congregation Beth Shalom.

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Men’s Club—Bruce Weiner Christmas tree in the store. Then she overheard to two ladies asking themselves ‘what is that doing here?’ They begin to laugh and said not everyone is Jewish. We all have the Dilemma of living in a mostly Christian world and how do we past our culture on to our

children and grandchildren.

So I ask all of you to call the office and ask how to become a member of the Men’s Club. Then come to a meeting help us plan an event that you would like to see happen. The Men’s Club’s next task is the Yom Hashoah Candles and to remember the 13 million people who died in the camps. So

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Have a Happy Chanukah and a

healthy New Year

Shalom

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Finance & Budget Herb Kalmeyer 973-696-3981 [email protected]

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January 1 Oneg Shabbat sponsored by Sisterhood

3 No Hebrew School – Winter recess

5 Hebrew School classes resume

7 Executive Board meeting 7:30 PM

8 Sisterhood Shabbat Dinner and Service TBA

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9 Shabbat services at Cedar Crest, none at CBS

11 Sisterhood Board meeting 7:45 PM

14 CBS Board meeting 7:30 PM

15 Oneg Shabbat sponsored by Sisterhood

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Who inquires of inmates

the reason for their foul

mood? Only someone

with unusual capacity for

compassion. And his

subsequent reward is a

shocking promotion to a

position of unparalleled

leadership.

No leader really sets

out to be a leader.

People just set out to

l e a d t h e i r l i v e s ,

expressing themselves

f u l l y . W hen t h a t

expression is of care and

value, they become

leaders.

No, it is not as simple

as I am stating it.

C o m p a s s i o n i s

indispensable, but you

also need desire too. And

that usually comes only

after you have actually

tasted the rush that

leadership brings.

T h e s p e c i a l

characteristics that define

leadership are perhaps

best summed up by

Warren Benis, a world-

renowned expert on

o r g a n i z a t i o n a l

development. He has

authored 27 books on

leadership. He cites 12

distinctions between

managers and leaders:

•M a n a g e r s

administer , leaders

innovate.

•Managers ask how

and when, leaders ask

what and why.

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incompetent, unqualified,

and uncaring."

•"Decision-maker? I

have trouble deciding

which shoes to wear to the

office!"

•"The pressure would

be too much to bear."

•"I will fail."

And the fear is

compounded when we

picture ourselves on the

hot seat, alone at the top,

comparing ourselves to

World Leaders and CEO's

of major corporations, as if

all leaders are rich,

famous, or powerful.

The essential trait to

great leadership is

compassion.

Well, the good news is

that you need not be

Moses or Queen Esther to

qualify. You can just be ...

well ... yourself. Yes, with

all your insecurities,

imperfections, anxieties,

and stapler personality.

You are still not ineligible.

The one and possible

only trait that is essential

to great leadership is

compassion. It is very hard

to affect anyone else

without feeling a certain

measure of caring for

another person. It is, I

be l ieve, the s ingle

i n d i s p e n s a b l e

characteristic that truly

unites all leaders. (Notice,

if you will, that I am not

including the Hitlers,

double-edged sword in the

universe. On the one

hand , no th ing can

motivate a person to do

something more than fear

can. Just ask the petite

mother who witnesses the

horror of her little baby

stuck under a car. She still

cannot explain how she

was able to actually lift the

car and extricate her

treasure. Nor could she do

it again, if asked. Answer?

Fear.

B u t , s e e m i n g l y

contradictory, nothing

carries the capacity to

cripple and "freeze"

someone like fear can.

J u s t a s k y o u r

neighborhood deer, who

can often outrun a Honda

when its life depends on it.

But more frequently it

stands frozen at 11 p.m.

on Route 42 when the

headlights of an oncoming

Camry bear down on it.

Yes, fear. And it's the

same way with humans.

Fact is, we fear

leadership. We see it as a

burden we can well do

without. We picture

ourselves crashing down

from the overwhelming

responsibility that it

carries.

•"How am I supposed

to guide others when I

can't get my own life

together?"

•I'll be exposed as

(Continued from page 1) Stalins, and Husseins of the

world, whose "leadership

skills" were channeled

exclusively in forming

oppressive and tyrannical

regimes.)

All truly great leaders

throughout history felt a

compelling desire to better

the lives of others: globally,

communally, or personally.

And that desire was an

expression of the sense of

compassion that resonated

within them, no matter where

life's circumstances took

them or how turbulent the

storms they weathered

seemed to be.

Biblical Joseph best

e x e m p l i f i e s t h i s

phenomenon. After having

been sold into slavery by his

brothers, he finds himself

incarcerated in Egypt: bereft

and alone. But as the

narrative so brilliantly relates,

the events that lead to his

eventual release from prison

and ultimate rise to power

and reunion, all begin with

J o s e p h ' s s t a r t l i n g

compassionate initiative.

He had already been in

jail for nine arduous years.

The despair and resignation

that swells in intolerable

conditions such as those is,

undoubtedly, unimaginable.

And yet, Joseph meets up

with two fellow prisoners and

asks them a seemingly odd

question.

"Why do your faces seem

depressed today?" (Genesis.

40:7)

What does he expect to

see on their faces, glee?

Leadership me? Continued….



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• 248 Dining Discounts • 138 Attraction Discounts • 197 Shopping Discounts

• Over $15,000 in Travel Discounts • Movie Ticket Discounts

• And Much More... You can pick yours up from Bea in the

synagogue office during regular office hours

or call for different arrangements.

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YAHRZEITS to be read on JANUARY 1 + 2

Dorothy Salinger, mother of Ed Norin

Regina Malc, mother of Steve Malc

Dr. Paul Schofield, brother of Barbara Goll

Sophie Goldenthal Frankel, grandmother of Mered Frankel

Jesse Wallace, father of Eleanor Spreiregen

Sarah Stone, mother of Alice Spira

Ida Wecht, mother of Bernard Wecht

Esther Goldberg, mother of Phyllis Gaines

Sidney Krantz, father of Jerry Krantz

Jack Ruchlin, father of Thelma Kalmeyer

Henry Frenkel, husband of Hannah Frenkel


Celia Laster, mother-in-law of Hy Nadel

Sophie Sirota, mother of Barry Sirota

Harold Shulman, father of Joyce Goldman

Ralph Teitelbaum, husband of Fran Teitelbaum

Jacob Olstein, father of Elliot Olstein

Isaac Tell, father of Dr. Bernard Tell

William Wall, father of Eleanor Osborn

Herman Preiser, father of Rose Lynn Winters

Isaiah Marshak, father-in-law of Goldie Marshak

Nettie Lovitch, aunt of Alan Lovitch

David Rosenberg, brother of Sue Charnet


Harry Goldhammer, father of Elaine Dover and grandfather of Jill Berson

Ethel Altman, mother of Fran Teitelbaum

Mary Sharr, mother-in-law of Dr. Harvey Cohen

Nathan Greene, father of Phyllis Fritz

Sylvia Gaines, mother of Ed Gaines

Bertha Esterman, mother of Ethel Bernson

Gabriel Goldberg, brother of Abe Goll

Jacob David Friedmann, father of Morris Friedmann

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Irving Berkowitz, father-in-law of Beverly Berkowitz

Fannie Einhorn, mother-in-law of Nathalie Einhorn

Lewis Singer, grandfather of Mildred Nochimson

Charles Katz, father of Louis Katz

William Sherman, late husband of Gertie Sherman

Sidney Weisbar, father-in-law of Herb Diamond

Florence Rock, mother of Michael Rock

Isser Schnur, father of Gertie Sherman

Gilbert Wasserman, father of Allen Wasserman

Julia Fechter, mother of Dena Lurin

Leslie Schofield, father of Barbara Goll


Abraham Lees, father of Dr. Louis Lees

Harry Kolpon, father of Kevin Kolpon

George Lamb, father of Ellen Steuer

Jennie Newman, mother of Leonard Newman

Louis Grosser, father of Anita Fischer & Edward Grosser & grandfather of Joe Fischer &

Brian Grosser

Gussie Gitomer, mother-in-law of Mimi Gitomer

Rose Elinowitz, mother of Vivian Weiss

Jack Fuchs, father of Sydelle Fischer

Rose Lees, mother of Dr. Louis Lees

Frances Joslin, mother of Sandy Yenk

Tillie Fietelson, mother of Marv Fietelson

Max Saltzman, father of Bernard Saltzman

David Louis Wolf, father of Allan Wolf

2010 YAHRZEITS FOR THE MONTH OF JANUARY - TEVET/SHEVAT 5770

MMMMEMORIALSEMORIALSEMORIALSEMORIALS

Donate Etz Hayim (or Chumash) to the Synagogue. Honor a beloved departed with a

plaque on our NEW Memorial Board.

Call Sandy Yenk: 973-839-4908

•Managers have a

short-term perspective,

leaders have a longer-term

perspective.

•Managers accept the

status quo, leaders

challenge the status quo.

•Managers have an

eye on the bottom line,

leaders have an eye on

the horizon.

•Managers imitate,

leaders originate.

•Managers emulate

the classic good soldier,

leaders are their own

person.

•Managers copy,

leaders show originality.

So remember, you

don't have to be Joshua,

King David, or especially

great at anything at all.

Just be yourself and

feel a little compassion.

It happens every day.

•Managers focus on

systems, leaders focus on

people.

•Managers do things

right, leaders do the right

things.

•Managers maintain,

leaders develop.

•Managers rely on

control, leaders inspire

trust.

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If you wish to discuss any needs for a gravesite or multiple sites together,

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Leadership…… continued


SYNAGOGUE FUND

Lou Lees, Speedy recovery Fran & Jerry Green

The Bernstein family, in memory of beloved father, Robert Bernstein Phyllis & Irv Brettschneider

Rabbi Iscah Waldman, in memory of beloved mother, Saula Waldman Sandy & Bob Yenk

JEWISH NATIONAL FUND

Rabbi Iscah Waldman, in memory of beloved mother, Saula Waldman

Larry Tornow; Bea & Sy Katz and family

Evelyn Kolpon, in memory of beloved mother, Angelina Aguiar Bea & Sy Katz and family

please contact

Consider Making a Donation to the Synagogue

Sometimes only the big donations get all the attention. Some of us are happy to be able to donate hundreds or more, and see our names in print or on a plaque. It is not only the big machers who can afford to donate. There are lots of small ways to donate in every day life to the Congregation to help it without making a fuss or huge dent in your wallet. CBS has a number of programs that help earn a little

extra towards the bottom line.

We have many different funds and areas of the congregation’s activities that require funding of any amount. We have Jewish National Fund, Speaker Fund, Torah Maintenance, Synagogue Fund, Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund, memorial & scholarship funds such as the Eliot Sakolsky & Bari Goldstein Funds, the Library Fund, Shiva Basket Fund and many other ways to help us improve our congregation and the activities we sponsor.

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Hebrew School - Bea Katz

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children!

I hope that everyone’s Chanukah was most fes-tive! Sy and I celebrated ours in Italy and, as I’m writing this article prior to my leaving, I can’t report on how it was for us. Unfortunately I will have missed attend-ing our synagogue’s an-nual Chanukah Supper, but I’m certain that it was most entertaining and delicious. I have to thank Jennifer Karasik and her crew for having taken care of all of its preparations without me being able to lend a

hand.

We are now starting to plan for our annual Pu-rim Celebration in Feb-

ruary. Please help

us out by volunteering to help work that day. We also are accepting donations for the kids’ Mini Tricky Tray in the form of games, toys, books, gift cards, mone-tary donations, etc. You can drop that off at any time in the syna-

gogue office.

Wishing all a most safe and easy winter…. And a most happy and

healthy 2010.

PTO Corner

We pray for many things but this month I am praying for good weather for the Chanukah supper. Last two

years we weren’t so lucky!

Our newsletter goes to print before the supper so I will be a fortune teller and say that it was quite the success and we all had a good time. Thanks to all who attended (wish we had more!) and for all the volunteers who made the day go easy. Spe-cial thanks to our sponsors – Jill and Richard Berson, Leslie and Alan Kantrowitz, Allen and Helene Wolf, and Bea and Sy Katz. ----

Will give you more next

month.

Youth Group

We celebrated Chanukah on Dec. 6th in our syna-gogue kitchen and youth lounge. We made potato latkes and homemade ap-plesauce, cookies and brownies. There was mu-sic and laughter. Thanks to the parents who assisted and special thanks to Marjorie Ellias who played guitar and sang

songs.

Remember, our Purim

Celebration and Mini-Tricky Tray is at the end of February. Donations gratefully accepted. Drop them off at the Library

downstairs.

Wishing you and yours a wonderful holiday season

and Chanukah.

PTO, Youth Group & Library— Jennifer Karasik

(Left) Debbie Lees manning the

Chanukah gift shop.

(Below)The ladies responsible for the delicious dinner. l. to r. Leslie Kantrowitz, Jennifer Karasik, Ellie Weiner, Jacki Wasserman, Halley Weiner,

Vivian Lovitch and Marjorie Ellias

(2nd photo below) R.J Lewis wows the kids with his magic.


Member Updates Get Well:

Richard Charnet

Don Fritz

Sandy Goodkin

Fran Green

Mary Greenberg

Anita & Sol Maizel

Hy Nadel

Marvin Newman

Leo Raven

Sheila Robbins

Condolences to:

Rabbi Iscah Waldman on the loss of her be-loved mother, Saula Waldman

Evelyn Kolpon on the loss of her beloved mother, Angelina Aguiar

Support the

Local Food Bank

Please bring canned and other dry goods

for distribution to local families in need.

A

Beth Shalom

Community Project

Photos courtesy of Alan Lovitch

Braving the elements. these stalwart denizens of CBS manned the Chanukah table during the Pompton Lakes

holiday stroll:

l. to r. Ellie Weiner, Rabbi David Senter, Mered Frankel, Jacki

Wasserman and Vivian Lovitch. Also present were Bruce and Halley

Weiner and Allen Wasserman.

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HEBREW SCHOOL CALENDAR

JANUARY 3 No Hebrew School – Winter recess

5 Classes resume

16 Family Shabbat service - 7th grade helps lead service 10:15 AM- 12:00 PM

Junior Congregation 10:30 - 11:30 AM

17 Sunday classes reverse times

30 TU B'SHVAT

31 3rd "SPECIAL EVENT" - Tu B'Shvat TBA

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Congregation Beth Shalom January 2010 Newsletter