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Raising Digital KidsParenting in a Media Driven World

Pop Quiz

What is a “poke?”

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What is an “add?”

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Translate “PLOS”

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Teens Today Watch A. LESS or B. MORE television than their parents did

Teens Today Watch A. LESS or B. MORE television than their parents did

On average a teen aged 13-17 sends & receives A. 258; B. 893; C. 1,017; or D. 2,272 txt messages per month

On average a teen aged 13-17 sends & receives A. 258; B. 893; C. 1,017; or D. 2,272 txt messages per month

What are you seeing today when it comes to your teens and media?

What are you hoping to get out of this workshop?

Digital Technology is the

◦Television

◦WWII

◦Woodstock

of this generation

Why Are We Here?

Why Are We Here?

Technology is like fire

◦Learn to master it, it will serve you well

◦Ignore it, you’re going to get burned

Fire is invented

Did You Know 4.0 Videohttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ILQrUrEWe8

The Net Generation… Products of an “online world”

◦ 93% of teens use the internet on a regular basis

◦ 63% of all US Adults have a broadband internet connection in the home 58% have cable TV (in 2007)

◦ 64% of online teens are posting content to the internet Blogs (girls: 35% -- boys: 20%) Photos (girls: 54% -- boys: 40%) Videos (boys: 19% -- girls: 10%)

◦ 47% of online teens have posted a picture of themselves where someone else can see it

◦ www.pewinternet.org

The Net Generation…

16.7 hrs/week 13.6 hrs/week 12 hrs/week

7.7 hrs/week6 hrs/week

% of 12-17 Year-Olds w/ a Cell Phone◦2004: 45%◦2006: 63%◦2008: 71% 77% of all adults 88% of parents

Teens & Cell Phones

HTC “You” Commercialhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5lUkF1vVudA

30,000 hours online and playing video games by age 20

More likely to◦ txt than email◦ Research online than at a library

Conditioned to ◦ Multi-task◦ Expect INTERACTIVE experiences

The Net Generation…

The Net Generation…

PBS Frontline’s “Growing Up Online” Clipwww.pbs.org

How is growing up today easier than when you grew up?

How is growing up today harder?

How is growing up today the same?

Growing Up Online Isn’t All Bad

◦process information faster

◦ faster at switching between multiple tasks

◦more likely to be able to adapt in a digital future

◦75% more AP Exams between1999 and 2005

The Net Generation…

Ignore it

Fight it

Master it

How do we React?

The Three Tasks of Adolescence

◦ Identity – who am I?

◦ Autonomy - how am I different?

◦ Affinity - where do I fit?

Bigger Picture Issues

Youth Culture – we only see what they WANT us to see.

Bigger Picture Issues

We are not welcome in this subterranean world, and the best we can do is sit on the stairs that lead to it and be available to kids passing in and out of it.”

Dr. Chap Clark

Craig Ferguson Cliphttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFQkMAPVoIo

“We place kids in schools together with hundreds, sometimes thousands, of other kids typically from similar economic and cultural backgrounds. We group them all within a year or so of one another in age. We equip them with similar gadgets, expose them to the same TV shows, lessons, and sports. We ask them all to take almost the exact same courses and do the exact same work and be graded relative to one another. We give them only a handful of ways in which they can meaningfully demonstrate their competencies. And then we’re surprised they have some difficulty establishing a sense of their own individuality.”

Escaping the Endless Adolescence

Escaping the Endless Adolescence As for the risk behavior we associate with

adolescence, Allen cautions that “We don’t give teens enough ways to take risks that are productive.” So they turn to drinking, drug use, delinquency, and the like – because those are the only things thrilling. “According to Allen, teens aren't naturally passive – their environment makes them passive. We’re writing them off at exactly the time we need to bring out their potential.

Newsweek November 5, 2009

Parents are NOT Without Power

“I don’t get it” is NOT an Excuse

Start forming “normal” as soon as possible!

Strategies for Parents

Teens in families that eat dinner together frequently (5+ times/week) are more likely to:◦ do better in school◦ attend religious services◦ talk to their parents about personal issues◦ Have positive relationships with their parents

and less likely to have experimented with drugs & alcohol

Columbia University October 2009

Strategies for Parents

Integrity

◦who you are online vs. who you are in reality

What is the story told by the pictures of you on Face book or Myspace?

56% of teens with profiles have posted at least some fake information to their profile

“I use a pseudonym, who is 24. Because I regard myself as an intellectual, it’s easier to be taken seriously if people don’t know

they’re talking to a 16 year old.”- Boy, Late High School

(Pew Internet, 2007)

Strategies for Parents

Safety◦ Obvious

Address Phone Number

◦ Not So Obvious Home Town: “Muscatine is soooo boring”

+ School Mascot: “Go Muskies”

+ Random Comment: “softball practice was tough today”

+ Random Comment: “# 36 RULES”

+ Softball Schedule on http://www.muscatine.k12.ia.us/sites/mhs.htm

= stalker who knows who you are, where you’re going to be, and when you’ll be there

Strategies for Parents

Where is the family computer located?

What are the family rules about email & social networking?

Consider making a “monitor only” agreement

Trust, Openness, Honesty – it goes both ways

Strategies for Parents

Cyber-bullying

◦ 36% of 12-17 year-olds report being victim

◦ 15% of teens able to define

◦ 24/7 availability

◦ Anonymity and Lack of Empathy

◦ www.stopcyberbullying.org

Trends to Be Aware of…

Sexting

◦ 39% of teens have sent sexually suggestive messages

◦ 20% have sent or posted nude or semi-nude pictures or video of themselves

◦ child-pornography charges against teens

Trends to Be Aware of…

Parent-to-Parent

“Test everything, hold on to what is good”

1 Thessalonians 5:21

A Final Thought…

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