Summer 2018 - SUNY Geneseo · Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success...

Making the Most of College

Summer 2018

“First, I want to give you an overview of what I will tell you over and over again

during the entire presentation.”

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Geneseo is a liberal arts college.

We exist to teach:

• critical thinking

• self-awareness

• habits of lifelong open-mindedness

Geneseo is a public college.

We exist to:

• contribute to the public good

• promote responsibility for the “other”

Geneseo is a residential college.

We:

• value belonging and community

• call on all our students to help create the community they want to live in

• expect people to look out for each other

What does success mean to us?

We expect students to:

• manage their life situations independently

• forge close personal relationships

• be open to new information, experiences and challenges

Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success

Research shows that figuring things out for themselves is a critical

element to people’s mental health.

Your kids have to be there for themselves.

Julie Lythcott-Haims

How to Raise an Adult

15in class

153out of class

Hours Per Week

What you need to know about us:

• We care deeply about the success and well-being of your sons and daughters.

• We are present on campus and on-call 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.

• We expect our students to know their faculty and staff members.

• We are a community that has high but reasonable expectations for your daughters and sons both inside and outside of the classroom.

Summary

• The College has many people on the payroll who are invested in the success of your sons and daughters.

• Encourage your students to get to know them.

Summary

• Encourage your students to get involved in the life of the College by pursuing their co-curricular pursuits.

• Encourage your students to treat this town like it is their own.

Summary

• Encourage your students to look out for each other, and if they see something, to say something.

• Set some ground rules ahead of time for staying in touch with your student – but we recommend you enjoy your independence from them!

Summary

• Get in touch with us when you are certain your son or daughter is facing an extreme, atypical challenge faced by an 18-year-old college student, but let your student handle the routine problems of day to day life.

• And get in touch with the appropriate person for the issue – not the president! If you are not sure who the appropriate person is, the Dean of Students is the default contact person.

When children aren’t given the space to struggle through

things on their own, they don’t learn to problem solve

very well. They don’t learn to be confident in their own

abilities, and it can affect their self-esteem.

Julie Lythcott-Haims

How to Raise an Adult

If they call with a problem or a decision to be made …

listen thoughtfully, ask some questions based on your own

sense of the situation, then say,

“OK. So how do you think you’re going to handle that?”

How to Raise an Adult

Summary

We truly look forward to getting to know

you and your students over the course of

their Geneseo experience!

Robert A. Bonfiglio

Vice President for Student and Campus Life

State University of New York

1 College Circle

Geneseo, New York 14454

(585) 245-5618

For more information visit

http://stulife.geneseo.edu

or email bonfig@geneseo.edu

What Do We Expect of Geneseo Students?

We expect that Geneseo students will:

• assume responsibility for the fulfillment of their academic and personal goals

• take full advantage of all of the opportunities both inside and outside of the classroom for personal development

• treat our village like it’s their own home town

• If they see something, say something!

• treat our village like it’s their own

What Do We Expect of Geneseo Students?

We expect that Geneseo students will:

What Do We Expect of Geneseo Students’ Parents?

We expect that the parents of Geneseo students will:

• agree to let Geneseo students take as much responsibility for their Geneseo experience as they possibly can

• consult with the College staff as they deem necessary about their students

• talk through difficult issues with your students before college, to begin to ensure open lines of communication once college begins