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2019 NACE Experience Conference July 14‐17, 2019
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SORRY, NOT SORRY:KICK THE CAREER‐CRIPPLING HABIT OF
REFLEXIVE APOLOGIZING
Janet Zaretsky
The BS‐to‐Brilliance Master Coach
Empowered Women EnterprisesJanet@janetzaretsky.com www.janetzaretsky.com
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Agenda
In today’s session, we will discuss:
How to take back our power, be our brilliant selves.
AND
Break out of the Apology Trap
Learning Objectives
During this session, attendees will learn to:1. Discover the 5 Automatic Apologizing and
Minimizing Habits that cripple your career
2. Take powerful action in the face of the fear of conflict or ‘not being liked’ reaction
3. Create an alternative language that has you own your power and magnify your brilliance
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REFLEXIVE OVER-APOLOGIZING COSTS YOU
Microsoft Study:
8 seconds to get someone’s attention.
Apologize, be apologetic= lose your opportunity to be heard
Studies show that over‐apologizers = you are weak, submissive, easy to pass over, ignore or manipulate
• Being an influencer
• Having your voice heard
• Money/salary/fees
• Relationships
• Getting what you want
• Respect, including respecting yourself
• Reputation
• Satisfaction and fulfillment
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Brain response to perceived threat
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APOLOGETIC WAYS OF BEING & SAYINGS WHICH UNDERMINE CONFIDENCE
Instead: Say what you want to say, with no apology
Speak up without concern for backlash
Honor yourself as valuable
Know you are important and matter
Be direct and know you can
deal with any conversation
• Just
• If you don’t mind
• Well, it is just my opinion
• This may not be right, but
• Can I say something here?
• Body language
• Vocal tone
• Lilt at the end of statement turns a
statement into a question
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I’m not sure, but, if you don’t mind…
I AM CONFIDENT THAT…
Do you think it would be possible to….
I SUGGEST THAT WE DO…
I actually think this might be right…
HERE IS THE WAY TO APPROACH THIS…
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Keys to:
Owning Your Power
Magnifying Your Brilliance
Being the Powerhouse You Really Are
Give up Reflexive Apologizing and
Apologetic Ways of Being and
Be Brilliant Boldly You!
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QUICK TIPS FOR BEING BOLD:
I’M CONFIDENT & I’M NOT SORRY TIPS
&UNAPOLOGETIC POWERHOUSE MANIFESTO
Q&AContinue the conversation!
Follow @NACENational, use hashtag #NACEEXP19
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Thank you for attending!
Please complete the session survey,
we greatly value your feedback.
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