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SELF-CARE
What do I do for self-care?
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COACHING
Coaching helps you avoidproblems by providing space tothink and be more intentionalabout your goals and actions.And coaching is especiallyhelpful for getting clarity onwhere you want to go.
COACHING
COACHING
• Space for self-reflection
• Fresh perspective
• Challenges where your thinking is stuck
• Support for difficulties and new ideas
• Accountability for your plans
COACHING
The GROW Model GROW stands for:
Goal.
Current Reality.
Options (or Obstacles).
Will (or Way Forward).
COACHING
COACHING
COACHING -questions
What is so important to you that you would stand in front of a bus to defend it?
What are your biggest mistakes and what did you learn from them?
If a friend were in your shoes, what advice would you give them?
SELF-COACHING
1. Chart Your Weaknesses
Creating your best life begins with an appraisal of how you get trapped by
reflexive thinking – those automatic thoughts that hammer you with doubts,
fears and worries.
SELF-COACHING
Have-tos … which help you control yourself and others. When you’re convinced you must do something, you eliminate all doubts.
All or Nothing Thinking
“always” and “never”.
SELF-COACHING
2. Separate Fact From Fiction
“Am I reacting to facts or fictions?” Facts are objective, observable, here-and-now phenomena. Fictions are based on interpretations, judgments and prognostications about the future.
This simple act of distinction casts a light of consciousness on your habits of insecurity. Habits prefer the dark.
SELF-COACHING
3. Stop Listening to the Noise
Healthy thinking is a choice. “You can’t stop a bird from flying into your hair, but you don’t have to help him build a nest.” You can’t stop a reflexive, insecure thought from popping up in your mind, but you don’t have to feed it with a second thought and a third and so on.
ABC model
ABC model
ABC model
When you think a thought, you feel a feeling. When you feel a feeling, you take action
(or not) because of how you feel. Your actions (behaviors) create your experience in
the world and ultimately what your life looks like -- your results. If your thoughts
suck, your life is going to suck. If you aren’t conscious of your negative thoughts, you
are enslaved by them. –
ABC model
This model is designed for one purpose: to change the thoughts that cause you to
suffer. You get to decide what you think and you have the option of thinking
something terrible or thinking something that feels great. All the power to change
how you feel is in your thinking. This is good news because it is the one area of
your life where you do have total control.
SELF-COACHING
4. Let Go
After you’ve learned to separate fact from fiction and to shut down reflexive, insecurity-
driven thinking, it’s time for the prize: Eliminating struggle from your life. “Changing the
channel” is one simple, yet powerful practice that will help you learn to stop, separate and
let go.
SELF-COACHING
5. Motivate Yourself
Start collecting some small, early victories against reflexive thinking by
accepting less risky challenges, such as ignoring a neighbor’s rude remark. Rather
than being a pleaser or yes-person, try being more honest, starting with the
people you know best.
RESILIENCE
How do people deal with difficult events that change their lives?
Factors associated with resilience:
Having caring and supportive relationships within and outside the family.
The capacity to make realistic plans and take steps to carry them out.
A positive view of yourself and confidence in your strengths and abilities.
Skills in communication and problem solving.
The capacity to manage strong feelings and impulses.
RESILIENCE
Developing resilience is a personal journey.
People do not all react the same to traumatic and stressful life events.
A person's culture might have an impact on how he or she communicates feelings and deals with adversity.
RESILIENCE
RESILIENCE
A profession that loses 50percent of its workforce inthe first five years of thecareer is a ….
RESILIENCE
It traps us in small rooms with an unpredictable assortment of personalities, energies, and
needs. It forces us to make hundreds of small, exhausting decisions every day. And over
and over again, it puts us in predicaments that test our confidence, wear out our
patience, and break our hearts. You can learn all the techniques, plan outstanding lessons,
and set up a water-tight classroom management system, but to do this work and stick with
it long enough to get good at it, you need a level of emotional resilience most other jobs
will never require.
On most days it can seem like those changes are pretty far outside of our sphere of
influence. Finding the courage and energy to push for change despite how hard it is?
RESILIENCE
Twelve habits that teachers can develop to strengthen their emotional
resilience by Elena Aguilar.
EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
1. Know Yourself (Suggested month: June)
Taking the time to reflect on and get clear about your values, your preferences, your
skills and aptitudes, and your sociopolitical identity can help you develop a strong
sense of purpose. This makes you more likely to respond to difficult situations in
ways that are consistent with that purpose. What you want to be doing in life,
helps you deal with challenges and setbacks.”
EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
2. Understand Emotions (Suggested month: July)
Emotions “can be tremendous resources and sources of Energy.” They key is figuring
out “how to have healthier relationships with them, how to understand them, name
them, accept them, and then work with them.” During this month, Aguilar has
teachers examine the way emotions influence our thinking (and vice-versa) and how
to work with them, instead of against them. She’s especially interested in how we
deal with anger. “There have been times when I’ve acted from anger, and it hasn’t
been productive,” she says. “And there are other times when I figured out how to use
my anger as a fuel and as energy, how to act from a place of kindness and
compassion, but not suppress my anger.”
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3. Tell Empowering Stories (Suggested month: August)
“The space where we can have the greatest impact on our resilience is between
a thing that happens and how we interpret and make sense of that thing.” That
interpretation takes the form of a story we tell ourselves.
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4. Build Community (relationships) (Suggested month: September)
An ideal time to start, and by putting relationship-building habits in place early,
that community can be a source of strength all year long.
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5. Be Here Now (Suggested month: October)
“Learning how to be in the present moment without judging it can help us to
experience acceptance. It helps us to have clear-headedness so that we can
make choices in our responses.” Developing habits of mindfulness, where we
focus on what is happening right now without judgment.
EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
6. Take Care of Yourself (Suggested month: November)
EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
8. Cultivate Compassion (Suggested month: January)
“Cultivating compassion, compassionate thinking for others and ourselves, broadening our
perspective on how we see a situation, helps us to empathize with others, to see the long
view, to take ourselves out of the drama of the moment.”
The habit of viewing the situations through the lens of compassion can help you not take that
behavior personally, which leads to smarter, less reactive decision-making.
EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
9. Be a Learner (Suggested month: February)
Resilient people are curious and they experience a challenge.
Practice seeing challenges as invitations to curiosity.
EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
10. Play and Create (Suggested month: March)
“It’s a human right to be creative, to create, enjoy, and appreciate art,”
EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
11. Ride the Waves of Change (Suggested month: April)
“How we can harness our energies to manage those changes and also direct our energy to
the places that we can make the biggest difference.”
Which responses will have the most impact?
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EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
12. Celebrate and Appreciate (Suggested month: May)
We have lots of opportunities to celebrate
MENTAL RESILIENCE
RESILIENCE
RESILIENCE
THANK YOU
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