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SELF-CARE

What do I do for self-care?

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COACHING

Coaching helps you avoidproblems by providing space tothink and be more intentionalabout your goals and actions.And coaching is especiallyhelpful for getting clarity onwhere you want to go.

COACHING

COACHING

• Space for self-reflection

• Fresh perspective

• Challenges where your thinking is stuck

• Support for difficulties and new ideas

• Accountability for your plans

COACHING

The GROW Model GROW stands for:

Goal.

Current Reality.

Options (or Obstacles).

Will (or Way Forward).

COACHING

COACHING

COACHING -questions

What is so important to you that you would stand in front of a bus to defend it?

What are your biggest mistakes and what did you learn from them?

If a friend were in your shoes, what advice would you give them?

SELF-COACHING

1. Chart Your Weaknesses

Creating your best life begins with an appraisal of how you get trapped by

reflexive thinking – those automatic thoughts that hammer you with doubts,

fears and worries.

SELF-COACHING

Have-tos … which help you control yourself and others. When you’re convinced you must do something, you eliminate all doubts.

All or Nothing Thinking

“always” and “never”.

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2. Separate Fact From Fiction

“Am I reacting to facts or fictions?” Facts are objective, observable, here-and-now phenomena. Fictions are based on interpretations, judgments and prognostications about the future.

This simple act of distinction casts a light of consciousness on your habits of insecurity. Habits prefer the dark.

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3. Stop Listening to the Noise

Healthy thinking is a choice. “You can’t stop a bird from flying into your hair, but you don’t have to help him build a nest.” You can’t stop a reflexive, insecure thought from popping up in your mind, but you don’t have to feed it with a second thought and a third and so on.

ABC model

ABC model

ABC model

When you think a thought, you feel a feeling. When you feel a feeling, you take action

(or not) because of how you feel. Your actions (behaviors) create your experience in

the world and ultimately what your life looks like -- your results. If your thoughts

suck, your life is going to suck. If you aren’t conscious of your negative thoughts, you

are enslaved by them. –

ABC model

This model is designed for one purpose: to change the thoughts that cause you to

suffer. You get to decide what you think and you have the option of thinking

something terrible or thinking something that feels great. All the power to change

how you feel is in your thinking. This is good news because it is the one area of

your life where you do have total control.

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4. Let Go

After you’ve learned to separate fact from fiction and to shut down reflexive, insecurity-

driven thinking, it’s time for the prize: Eliminating struggle from your life. “Changing the

channel” is one simple, yet powerful practice that will help you learn to stop, separate and

let go.

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5. Motivate Yourself

Start collecting some small, early victories against reflexive thinking by

accepting less risky challenges, such as ignoring a neighbor’s rude remark. Rather

than being a pleaser or yes-person, try being more honest, starting with the

people you know best.

RESILIENCE

How do people deal with difficult events that change their lives?

Factors associated with resilience:

Having caring and supportive relationships within and outside the family.

The capacity to make realistic plans and take steps to carry them out.

A positive view of yourself and confidence in your strengths and abilities.

Skills in communication and problem solving.

The capacity to manage strong feelings and impulses.

RESILIENCE

Developing resilience is a personal journey.

People do not all react the same to traumatic and stressful life events.

A person's culture might have an impact on how he or she communicates feelings and deals with adversity.

RESILIENCE

RESILIENCE

A profession that loses 50percent of its workforce inthe first five years of thecareer is a ….

RESILIENCE

It traps us in small rooms with an unpredictable assortment of personalities, energies, and

needs. It forces us to make hundreds of small, exhausting decisions every day. And over

and over again, it puts us in predicaments that test our confidence, wear out our

patience, and break our hearts. You can learn all the techniques, plan outstanding lessons,

and set up a water-tight classroom management system, but to do this work and stick with

it long enough to get good at it, you need a level of emotional resilience most other jobs

will never require.

On most days it can seem like those changes are pretty far outside of our sphere of

influence. Finding the courage and energy to push for change despite how hard it is?

RESILIENCE

Twelve habits that teachers can develop to strengthen their emotional

resilience by Elena Aguilar.

EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE

1. Know Yourself (Suggested month: June)

Taking the time to reflect on and get clear about your values, your preferences, your

skills and aptitudes, and your sociopolitical identity can help you develop a strong

sense of purpose. This makes you more likely to respond to difficult situations in

ways that are consistent with that purpose. What you want to be doing in life,

helps you deal with challenges and setbacks.”


2. Understand Emotions (Suggested month: July)

Emotions “can be tremendous resources and sources of Energy.” They key is figuring

out “how to have healthier relationships with them, how to understand them, name

them, accept them, and then work with them.” During this month, Aguilar has

teachers examine the way emotions influence our thinking (and vice-versa) and how

to work with them, instead of against them. She’s especially interested in how we

deal with anger. “There have been times when I’ve acted from anger, and it hasn’t

been productive,” she says. “And there are other times when I figured out how to use

my anger as a fuel and as energy, how to act from a place of kindness and

compassion, but not suppress my anger.”


3. Tell Empowering Stories (Suggested month: August)

“The space where we can have the greatest impact on our resilience is between

a thing that happens and how we interpret and make sense of that thing.” That

interpretation takes the form of a story we tell ourselves.


4. Build Community (relationships) (Suggested month: September)

An ideal time to start, and by putting relationship-building habits in place early,

that community can be a source of strength all year long.


5. Be Here Now (Suggested month: October)

“Learning how to be in the present moment without judging it can help us to

experience acceptance. It helps us to have clear-headedness so that we can

make choices in our responses.” Developing habits of mindfulness, where we

focus on what is happening right now without judgment.


6. Take Care of Yourself (Suggested month: November)



8. Cultivate Compassion (Suggested month: January)

“Cultivating compassion, compassionate thinking for others and ourselves, broadening our

perspective on how we see a situation, helps us to empathize with others, to see the long

view, to take ourselves out of the drama of the moment.”

The habit of viewing the situations through the lens of compassion can help you not take that

behavior personally, which leads to smarter, less reactive decision-making.


9. Be a Learner (Suggested month: February)

Resilient people are curious and they experience a challenge.

Practice seeing challenges as invitations to curiosity.


10. Play and Create (Suggested month: March)

“It’s a human right to be creative, to create, enjoy, and appreciate art,”


11. Ride the Waves of Change (Suggested month: April)

“How we can harness our energies to manage those changes and also direct our energy to

the places that we can make the biggest difference.”

Which responses will have the most impact?



12. Celebrate and Appreciate (Suggested month: May)

We have lots of opportunities to celebrate

MENTAL RESILIENCE

RESILIENCE

RESILIENCE

THANK YOU

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