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Family InfrastructureFamily InfrastructureDivorce Divorce
PresentersPresenters
Chaz WashingtonLena NanceR. Tyson CreagerEugene KwakBrandon Aldus
Chaz WashingtonLena NanceR. Tyson CreagerEugene KwakBrandon Aldus
TopicsTopics
Before Divorce and Marital ConflictAfter DivorceReactions Long and Short TermSingle Parent HouseholdsRemarriage
Before Divorce and Marital ConflictAfter DivorceReactions Long and Short TermSingle Parent HouseholdsRemarriage
Before Divorce. Conflict!Before Divorce. Conflict!
Divorce occurs in many stages
Stage one: Discontent of One Party
Divorce occurs in many stages
Stage one: Discontent of One Party
Before Divorce. Conflict!Before Divorce. Conflict!
Stage Two: Expression of Dissatisfaction
Children begin to notice that something is wrong
How are they affected?
Stage Two: Expression of Dissatisfaction
Children begin to notice that something is wrong
How are they affected?
Before Divorce. Conflict!Before Divorce. Conflict!
Stage three: Deciding to Get Divorced
This stage is most detrimental to children
Stage three: Deciding to Get Divorced
This stage is most detrimental to children
Before Divorce. Conflict!Before Divorce. Conflict!
Stage four: Acting on Decision
Children Feel Responsible
Children Feel they Have to Choose Sides
Stage four: Acting on Decision
Children Feel Responsible
Children Feel they Have to Choose Sides
After DivorceAfter Divorce
-Crisis and Reorganization
-Reactions
-Statistics
After DivorceAfter Divorce
Crisis and ReorganizationA crisis period of a year or more…
The motherReactions to divorceResults of reactions
The fatherTheir reactions
Crisis and ReorganizationA crisis period of a year or more…
The motherReactions to divorceResults of reactions
The fatherTheir reactions
After DivorceAfter Divorce
The childrenReactions to the divorce
Parent/child relationship during crisis phaseChild’s emotional distressAdult’s ineffective parenting stylesDescribed as a vicious circle
The childrenReactions to the divorce
Parent/child relationship during crisis phaseChild’s emotional distressAdult’s ineffective parenting stylesDescribed as a vicious circle
After DivorceAfter Divorce
StatisticsMeta-analyses of
studies conducted between 1950 and 1999…
Over 1 million children in the United States experience parental divorce annually
StatisticsMeta-analyses of
studies conducted between 1950 and 1999…
Over 1 million children in the United States experience parental divorce annually
Reactions Long and Short Term
Reactions Long and Short Term
What Causes Stress for Children? Loss of Parental attachment True and False Abandonment Coping
What Causes Stress for Children? Loss of Parental attachment True and False Abandonment Coping
What Causes Stress for Children?
What Causes Stress for Children?
Distress – of parentsLess sleep, less anger management,
compulsive/obsessive behaviors, memory problems…
Grief – of parentsOver loss of marriage and partner in
life.Preoccupation – of parents
Lose focus on family
Distress – of parentsLess sleep, less anger management,
compulsive/obsessive behaviors, memory problems…
Grief – of parentsOver loss of marriage and partner in
life.Preoccupation – of parents
Lose focus on family
What Causes Stress for Children? II
What Causes Stress for Children? II
Self Esteem – of childrenproblems developing a sense of their
own identity Irritability – of children and parents
Lack of understanding & life changesSeparation Anxiety – of children
and parentsClinical, social, and academic
disturbances
Self Esteem – of childrenproblems developing a sense of their
own identity Irritability – of children and parents
Lack of understanding & life changesSeparation Anxiety – of children
and parentsClinical, social, and academic
disturbances
Loss of Parental Attachment
Loss of Parental Attachment
Factors for childrenGenderMales
boys in divorced families had more adjustment problems than did girls.
FemalesPlain cope with divorce better
Factors for childrenGenderMales
boys in divorced families had more adjustment problems than did girls.
FemalesPlain cope with divorce better
Loss of Parental Attachment:Factors for children II
Loss of Parental Attachment:Factors for children II
AgeInfants
React to missing parent and energy level.Toddlers
Start expressing empathy towards 1 parentPreschool
Recognize loss of love & parental absencePreteens & adolescents
Understand the meaning of divorce
AgeInfants
React to missing parent and energy level.Toddlers
Start expressing empathy towards 1 parentPreschool
Recognize loss of love & parental absencePreteens & adolescents
Understand the meaning of divorce
Single
Parenting
TopicsTopics
Statistics Myths Strengths Positives Potential
Problems
Statistics Myths Strengths Positives Potential
Problems
Interesting FactsInteresting Facts
16,000,000
56%
Single Parenting around the US
Single Parenting around the US
MythsMyths
MYTH: Children who grow-up in a single-parent household are more likely to struggle in school, get into trouble with the law and develop serious social problems.
FACT: Single parents have raised many well-rounded, successful people.
MYTH: Children from single parent homes will never have healthy relationships themselves.
FACT: Children of divorced parents seem to put more energy into maintaining their relationships.
MythsMyths
MYTH: Children of single parents need role models. The sooner the parent remarries the better.
FACT: Children benefit from the presence of both men and women in their family life BUT provided those men and women are emotionally healthy.
MYTH: Children of single parents have lower self-esteem.
FACT: Children of single parents are no more likely to suffer from low self-esteem than their peers from a two-parent home.
Positive Qualities Positive Qualities
•Flexibility
•Interdependence
•Strengths
Potential ProblemsPotential Problems
•Effects upon the children of continued conflict between parents
•Decrease in the amount of time parents and children can spend together
•Disruptions in extended family relationships
•Adverse reactions to parents dating and entering new relationships
•Economic pressure from single parent income
RemarriageRemarriage
Statistics 75% of Men/ 66% of Women
will remarry 1300 new Step Families every
day 50% of all families
66% divorce when children involved
Divorce rate 10% higher in subsequent marriages
What Does This Mean?
Statistics 75% of Men/ 66% of Women
will remarry 1300 new Step Families every
day 50% of all families
66% divorce when children involved
Divorce rate 10% higher in subsequent marriages
What Does This Mean?
RemarriageRemarriage
Early Stages(Less than two years)
Honeymoon PeriodStill adapting to new situation
GirlsConflict high with both parents
BoysInitially difficult, more adaptive than girls
Early Stages(Less than two years)
Honeymoon PeriodStill adapting to new situation
GirlsConflict high with both parents
BoysInitially difficult, more adaptive than girls
RemarriageRemarriage
Later Stage( More than two years)
Family roles worked through and established
GirlsImproved, still more behavior problems than
comparison groups. Boys
Warmth and involvement with StepfatherLess problems
What Causes This Change?
Later Stage( More than two years)
Family roles worked through and established
GirlsImproved, still more behavior problems than
comparison groups. Boys
Warmth and involvement with StepfatherLess problems
What Causes This Change?
RemarriageRemarriage
Age Effects Children 8 and Younger
Easiest time copingNew family can be a releif
Early Adolescence (9-15)Most DifficultSo many developments taking place in
their own lives Older Adolescents (16+)
Future Oriented, Anticipate leaving home
Age Effects Children 8 and Younger
Easiest time copingNew family can be a releif
Early Adolescence (9-15)Most DifficultSo many developments taking place in
their own lives Older Adolescents (16+)
Future Oriented, Anticipate leaving home
RemarriageRemarriage
Parents Conflicts over managing Finances Child rearing
Ambiguity as a StepparentSuper Step Parenting
Authoritative parenting early on associated with negative effects
Stepmother is most harmfulExpectation of FatherNegative reaction of Children
Parents Conflicts over managing Finances Child rearing
Ambiguity as a StepparentSuper Step Parenting
Authoritative parenting early on associated with negative effects
Stepmother is most harmfulExpectation of FatherNegative reaction of Children
RemarriageRemarriage
Best Bet Polite Strangers
Take it easy initially, Establish a solid relationship first.
Authoritative, effective parenting later as relationship has progressed
Best Bet Polite Strangers
Take it easy initially, Establish a solid relationship first.
Authoritative, effective parenting later as relationship has progressed
ConclusionConclusion
•Divorce is not a quick process it occurs in many different stages
•During divorce you experience both emotional and practical difficulties witch can occur for more than a year where the lives of all family members are affected
•Many reactions can come from the negative effects of divorce, but most of them can be overcome by stressing support from people close to affect members of the family
Conclusion IIConclusion II
The best approach as a single parent is to model self-respect and self-nurturance, and to establish a support network
Majority of those who go through a divorce will eventually remarry. However remarried families are often more difficult for individual adaptation.
The best approach as a single parent is to model self-respect and self-nurturance, and to establish a support network
Majority of those who go through a divorce will eventually remarry. However remarried families are often more difficult for individual adaptation.
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