Dealing With Our Broken Lives - Part 1

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The Consequences of Fall and Our Distorted Self Image

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  • 1.Dealing With Our Broken Lives Part 1: The Consequences of Sin and Our Distorted Self Image

2. Man Before Fall Man the apex of creation (Gen. 1:31) Created in the image of God (Gen. 1:26-27) Given the authority to reign (Gen. 1:28) Be provided and cared for by God (Gen. 1:29, Gen 2:16-17) To have meaningful relationships With God (Gen. 2:15) With each other (Gen. 2:18; 21-25) 3. Sin and Its Consequences Gen 3:8Separation from God spiritual problemGen 3:7-10 Separation from oneself through guilt,shame, fear, etc. The root of ourpsychological or emotional brokenness Gen 3:12-16Separation from each other: socio-political problems political, ethnic,cultural, gender, etc Gen. 3:17-19 Separation from nature/environment diseases, environmental, pollution; e.g.diseases. 4. Sin and Its Consequences As a results of the Fall, all of us are insecure people to different extents, and in different areas of our lives Results in broken relationships with God Our own selves Others The world 5. Emotional Wounds God wants us whole The basis: the love of the Father Romans 5:5; 8:15ff What causes emotional wounds? Growing years: e.g. conditional love, lack of warm and affection in the family Later stage of life BGR, friendships, marriage breakdowns, divorce, bereavement Results of emotional wounds Lack of proper self-worth Marital problems, sexual problems; dysfunctional behavior bad temper, perfectionisms, etc 6. Self Image How we see ourselves influence every part of our lives Our self-image has a definite structure, composed ofconclusions we have reached about ourselves Examples, parents labeling their child stupid Housewife facing pressure from husband 7. Is the concept of having a healthy self-image biblical? 8. Self Image For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat anddrink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.(Pro 23:7 KJV) How we see ourselves influence every part of our livesand our actions. 9. Self Image The example of Joshua Num 13:33 The spies view of themselves affected their perspective on the whole situation Joshua and Caleb saw themselves in the light of the presence of God, confident they could claim the land They were not haughty, or overly self-confident; neither were they filled with fear, holding a low opinion of themselves Rather, they were God-confident. 10. Pride, Humility and Self Esteem Many people confuse the distinction between pride, humility and good self-esteem. The problem is not that self-esteem contradicts the scriptures but rather the words pride and humility are not correctly understood in the total light of the scripture. Pride in the biblical sense involves a non-honest estimates of oneself.Real humility is simply an absence of concentration of oneself. It means that while I like and accept myself, I don't need to prove my worth excessively either to myself or to others.- Elizabeth Skoglund 11. Self Image vs Pride Healthy Self Image PrideHaving a conviction that you Self centered focus rooted in have fundamental value the pursuing of pleasures because you are created in you can find in yourself for His imagewhat you believe you are orin what you haveGive glory and thanks to God Seeking praise from men for (Psalms 139:14)themselves for what God hasdone in their lives.A result of exaltation of selfwhile fail to recognize whomade them 12. Another Form of Pride Remaining in state of a low self image can actually be a form of pride rather than humility Wants people to feel sorry for them, attention seeking Another form of look at me; self-absorption, self- obsession, selfishness Some people just refuse to get out of the rut of poor self image because that is where they can get the attention 13. The Cannot-lah Syndrome If God says can, who am I to say cannot?(Phil 4:13) 14. A healthy self-image is seeing yourself as God sees you no more, noless 15. Many of our weaknesses and limitations can be channel of Gods glory to be displayed 16. The Need For A HealthySelf-Image A healthy sense of self-worth is fundamental in drawing us closer to God Elevates our concept of the God who gives us our self-worth Elevates our concept of the worth of others, whom we are to consider more highly than ourselves Without a healthy self-image, we become preoccupied with self, concentrating on our own needs, and constantly seeking the approval of others 17. Once we see ourselves as God sees us, and realize who weare uniquely created in His image, and were loved,forgiven, accepted we are set free from self- preoccupation to being concerned for others. Servanthoodseems to have its root in a healthy self-image. If you free threatened by others, you will usually try toovercome that by either making others look bad, orstruggling to make yourself looks good. 18. How We Decided Our Self Image? From early childhood, we assimilate information from others regarding ourselves in three important areas of life: How do I look? (Appearance) How am I doing? (Performance) How important am I? (Significance) 19. How Do I Look? We formulate a mental picture of ourselves based on the praise or ridicule of other people For example: a young girl who has been told repeatedly of her shape What we see in the mirror is interpreted largely by others opinions about us that we hear and remember The need for a perfect outward appearance extends beyond our physical appearance it includes our material possessions car, house, latest gadgets, etc 20. How Am I Doing? How am I doing (in comparison with others)? A performance-work-oriented society Formulate a mental picture of ourselves based on our successes or failures in the eyes of parents and others. Some are longing to hear approval from parents. Work addiction seeking to build our self-image based on performance. We feel good about ourselves when we have accomplished many things, when we are dog-tired from long hours of work. 21. How Important am I? Formulated a mental picture of ourselves based on the feelings of acceptance we received from our parents. A child has no other mirror besides the feedback from the parents to reflect what kind of person he/ she is and whether he/she is worth loving One of the ways we worked out how important we are to our parents is by the amount of time they spent with us 22. As adults, we continue to evaluate our self-worthbased on how others perceive us.The mental picture based on our past memories and experiences continue to be imprinted into oursubconscious mind , and we go through life still believing we are the same person we thought we were. 23. Maslow's Hierarchy ofneeds