Part 6: Healthy Dating Life

IntroductionA practical series about living life

with fewer regrets and more purpose.

Habakkuk 2:2“Write the vision, And make it plain on tablets, That he may run who reads it.”

The series: • How to make better decisions • How to get out of debts • How to gain financial margin • How to have a strong marriage• How to build a healthy dating / parenting life • How to keep anger at bay• How to not worry

A strong, healthy and fulfilling relationship begins with YOURSELF!

Question: When you meet the RIGHT one, are you the RIGHT one that your RIGHT one is looking for?

A strong, healthy and fulfilling ME precedes a strong, healthy and fulfilling WE.

A godly ME, precedes a godly WE.

1. It begins with us ACCEPTING who we are in God

1. It begins with us ACCEPTING who we are in God

“I will give thanks to Thee, for I’m fearfully and wonderfully made…” (Ps 139:14, NASB)

1. It begins with us ACCEPTING who we are in God

2. It begins with us KNOWING and PURSUING God as a single

“I wish I knew when I was single”…• Can be single longer, make more close

friends and serve God more• Being single has its own set of freedom

and fun

“I wish I knew when I was single”…• To have good financial foundation while

in college• To build character during singlehood and

maximize the time for self-development

We continually ask God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all the wisdom and understanding that the Spirit gives, so that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience… Colossians 1:9-12

1. It begins with us ACCEPTING who we are in God

2. It begins with us KNOWING and PURSUING God as a single

3. It begins with us BUILDING a strong and godly character

“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. But you, man of God, flee from all this, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance and gentleness.” 1 Tim 6:10,11

“For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.” 2 Peter 1:5-8

“I wish I knew when I was dating”… It’s really about the FEAR OF GOD and

the CONVICTION we have during the courtship. A lot of things we knew but we still do because our hearts toward God are not strong….

“I wish I knew when I was dating”… Therefore, to have a healthy courtship is

really based on our relationship with God NOT about whether the person is the right one or not. Stop praying for the right person, pray that you become the right person instead!

Purpose

“I wish I knew when I was single”…•Dating for the sake of “status” only leads to disaster •Using “I want to bring my unbelieving partner to God” reason is not wise as it doesn’t work most of the times and more often will cause bigger issues

“I wish I knew when I was single”…•To seek counsel before dating someone•Need to be wise to show care to girls as they might interpret differently. I should have learnt about my depravity behind this behavior as I sought and enjoyed the attention

Pace

Purity

“I wish I knew when I was dating”…• Better pacing on purpose, emotion,

spiritual growth together as a couple• To keep the relationship pure and

exciting at the same time Christ-centered• Don’t try to change my partner

“I wish I knew when I was dating”…• Going on date for movies is not really

getting to know one another• The importance of accountability• Sexual temptation is often underestimated• A greater guard upon physical and

emotional boundaries

“Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh.” Romans 13:14

“For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age” Titus 2:11,12

Part 6: Healthy Dating Life