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How to save my marriage is one of the most commonly asked questions today of people who are finding themselves stuck.
You fell in love. You built a life together. You simply cannot imagine…
what life would be like if that person wasn’t there.
Yet, it’s hard.
You don’t agree, you
fight, and you don’t feel
that same level of
support and
understanding that was
once there.
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It’s no wonder so many men and women
approach their counselors, friends, and family
with a simple question.
“How can I
Save
my marriage?”
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How to Save My Relationship:
Steps to Take Now
Many times, the couples want to improve their relationship and they want to
improve their quality of life. It’s difficult and challenging.
Here are some simple steps that may be hard to put into action
that can give you the foundation for improvement.
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#1: Agree to work on improvement
Both parties need to come to the
realization that marriage problems
exist and that they want to fix them.
The fact is, if one party is facing a
struggle with the marriage, it is a
problem that both must address.
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You can’t fix it on your own.
But, you can work on it. However,
most people can see improvement in
their relationship if they first admit the
problem and commit to improving it.
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#3: Discuss what hurts the most
With your list in hand, sit down across from each
other and, in the most open way possible, talk
about the worst thing on that list.
i.e., you may feel your spouse no longer values your opinion.
You may feel your spouse doesn’t include you or is no longer able
to include you in their day.
Whatever is the worst of it, bring that up first. All
you need to do is to communicate what that problem
is. Allow the other person to do the same. This opens
the door for your spouse to understand what is really
bothering you. They truly may not know.
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#4: Commit to talking
Talking and arguing
are two very different things.
Spend some time talking about your feelings,
thoughts, needs, goals, painful memories, and
hopeful futures.
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One of the most important components to any
marriage is communication, something you’ll learn
about in “Save The Marriage.”
Dedicate 10 to 15 minutes every day to talking.
You could meet on the porch for coffee in the
morning or get the kids to bed 15 minutes early so
you have time together.
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#5: Recognize the value in marriage counseling
Do you need marriage counseling?
Nearly all marriages can benefit from allowing a professional to step in and offer some guidance and
support. Don’t view this as a negative thing. Rather, you can step up to the plate and ask a therapist what
you can do.
“How to fix my marriage after this fight or how to save my relationship
and get back to where we were?”
No matter where you get that therapy, sometimes having a third party to help direct conversations and offer
guidance can be incredibly valuable.
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#6: Make some time for each other
Often, we fall off the track of working on our
marriages because life is so busy. There is so much
you have to do. It’s hard to find time to work on your
marriage.
Going to a marriage counseling session is one step.
You can also find simple ways to make time:
Carpool to work so that you get time during your commute
to talk.
Meet for lunch or dinner without the kids.
Spend time learning something new together.
Block off a section of time every single week for date
night.
Say no to other engagements.
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#7: Uncover hidden marriage problems
Sometimes, it’s what you don’t know
that’s at the heart of what’s wrong.
Are you having trouble managing finances?
Are you feeling stressed because of one spouse’s health?
Is there a concern related to other members of the family?
Find out what’s changed and why in your relationship.
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#8: Keep everyone else out
For now, while you work to establish
your relationship again, don’t talk about
your spouse in a negative light to
others.
Commit to talking to each
other when there’s a problem.
For example, instead of
complaining about your
spouse to your friend, talk to
your spouse about the
problem first.
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#9: Build long-term strength
Look at your marriage as a long-term goal.
It is not going to get better in five minutes. It is a process and it will always take a lot of work. You have to
promise yourself you are not going to give up because it is too hard.
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Are you ready?
Saving my marriage is my goal!
You can accomplish this when you take the time to learn
how.
If you are asking, “How can I save my marriage?” the
first step is to learn more about our online system and
course.
“Save The Marriage”
is your first step towards improving your relationship.
Thank You! for your interest
For more information:
download the full & professional
“Saving A Marriage” Course here