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When Love And School Collide…Striking a balance between love and school..
Prepared by: Brain Gyverne P. Agwilang
Adolescent Development Adolescence- transition between
childhood and adulthood Conflict- reconcile who you are and what
society expects you to be in all facets of your life like: Choosing your career and friends Exercising freedom and limits; and Adhering to certain ideologies and principles
Outcome: sense of identity
EMOTIONS
Response to a whole organism including body reactions, expressive behaviors, and experience.
NegativeFear Anger motivation for
movingGrief away from what
oneHate does not want .
CHEMISTRY OF LOVEAttraction, love and relationships
are fueled by actual chemicalsPhenylethylamine(PEA)Norepinephrine(NE)DopamineOxytocinSerotonin
WHAT MAKES US FEEL ATTRACTED TO ANOTHER PERSON
1. Propinquity- closeness2. Complementarity- opposite attracts3. Similarity- the same interest and liking4. Personality- identity
Arousal- short lived : 6-24 months
Sternberg’s Theory of Love
There are three(3) components that can be shortened or lengthened according to the amount of presence in the relationship. This results to the eight(8) types of love.
INTIMACY ( LIKING)
ROMANTIC COMPANIONATE
LOVE LOVE
PASSION FANTASY LOVE COMMITMENT
(INFATUATION) ( EMPTY LOVE)
COMPLETE/ CONSUMMAT
E LOVE
Stages of Love and How they May be Positively Handled
A. “Meet Cute”The beginning stage
PROBLEMS: love can destroy our routine
Practical Tips in Balancing the Falling in Love Stage with Studying Believe that balancing love and school
can be done Assess yourself Be honest with yourself Establish that your studies matter to
you Follow through by finding a set-up that
works for you and stick with it Chill out
B. “Together Forever”
Maintaining Relationship
Support for the relationship accept and respect each other’s endeavors Be familiar with interpersonal needs of your partner
Inclusion: including your partner in your goals and future aspiration
Control: learning to give and take
Affection: having similar needs for affection and manner of expression
C. “Happily Never After”The breaking up stage
What happens when your relationship ends? Why do you experience this feelings?
Effects: 1. Increased blood flow2. Tensed and swollen muscles3. Headaches4. Stiff neck5. Chest pain6. Serious gastro-intestinal problems7. Post-relationship cold
Practical tips in handling break ups:
1. Limit your wallowing2. De-clutter/ be organize3. Focus on your studies4. Keep a gratitude list5. Give back6. Hang out with your friends7. Compliment yourself8. Keep this in mind: “whatever cheers the mind,
help cure the body.”
Romantic Love and Premarital Sex
Effects of premarital sex1. GUILT- awareness of wrongdoing2. SHAME- state of disgrace3. REGRET- feel sorry for something
***Any sexual experimentation outside of marriage is a mistake.
Advantages of Abstinence to Premarital SexFreedom from:
1. Unwanted pregnancy2. Marrying before you are ready3. Abortion or adoption4. Sexually transmitted diseases5. Exploitation6. Guilt, depression, disappointment, worry,
and rejection7. Use of contraceptives
Freedom from:1. Be in control of your future2. Use your energy to
accomplish life goals3. Develop healthy dating
relationships4. Respect yourself and others5. Establish greater trust in
marriage6. Enjoy being a teenager
How to say “NO” to premarital sex
1. Give reasons for your decision.2. Avoid people and places that will tempt
you to do the act.3. Look for friends who will support your
healthy behavior.4. Stick to your decision to change. Be
assertive when you are pressured.
Teen marriages fail at a higher rate than do marriages of people in their 20s or 30s.
Higher education is associated with marital stability.
ForeverLove at first siteDestinyFaith
References: www.psychologytoday.com/blog/get-hardy/201203/the-early-stage
s-falling-in-love www.simplypsychology.org/Erik-erikson.html www.dummies.com/how-to/content/pacing-a-new-romantic-relatio
nship.html Changingminds.org/explanations/relationships/developments.html Cmhc.utexas.edu/healthyrelationships.html Bosley Crowther (Feb. 12,1964) “Krasnan Comedy: Sunday in New
York Stars Jane Fonda” The New York Times. Retrieved 2010-12-21 Psychdigest.com/what-type-of-love-do-you-have-with-your-partner www.foxnews.com/health/2012/12/14/worst-way-to-get-over-break
-up/#ixzz2RQIeXbhZ www.womenshealth.com/sex-and-relationships/heart-hurts?cm_m
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GOOD DAY!!!