Male Victims relief from domestic violence/Family Violences –Khanna

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While the majority of domestic violence victims are women, abuse of men happens far more often than

you'd probably expect. Typically, men are physically stronger than women but that doesn't necessarily

make it easier to escape the violence or the relationship. An abused man faces a shortage of resources,

skepticism from police, and major legal obstacles, especially when it comes to gaining custody of his

children from an abusive mother. No matter your age, occupation, or sexual orientation, though, you

can overcome these challenges and escape the abuse.

If you're a man in an abusive relationship, it's important to know that you're not alone. It happens to

men from all cultures and all walks of life. Figures suggest that as many as one in three victims of

domestic violence are male. However, men are often reluctant to report abuse by women because they

feel embarrassed, or they fear they won't be believed, or worse, that police will assume that since

they're male they are the perpetrator of the violence and not the victim.

An abusive wife or partner may hit, kick, bite, punch, spit, throw things, or destroy your possessions. To

make up for any difference in strength, she may attack you while you're asleep or otherwise catch you

by surprise. She may also use a weapon, such as a gun or knife, or strike you with an object, abuse or

threaten your children, or harm your pets. Of course, domestic abuse is not limited to violence. Your

spouse or partner may also:

Verbally abuse you, belittle you, or humiliate you in front of friends, colleagues, or family, or on

social media sites.

Be possessive, act jealous, or harass you with accusations of being unfaithful.

Take away your car keys or medications, try to control where you go and who you see.

Try to control how you spend money or deliberately default on joint financial obligations.

Make false allegations about you to your friends, employer, or the police, or find other ways to

manipulate and isolate you.

Threaten to leave you and prevent you from seeing your kids if you report the abuse.

IMPACTS ON MALE VICTIMS The impacts of family violence on male victims include:

Fear and loss of feelings of safety

Feelings of guilt and/or shame

Difficulties in trusting others

Anxiety and flashbacks

Unresolved anger

Loneliness and isolation

Low self-esteem and/or self-hatred

Depression, suicidal ideation, self-harm and attempted suicide

Use of alcohol or other drugs to cope with the abuse

Physical injuries

Sexual dysfunction and/or impotence

Loss of work

Loss of home

Physical illness

Loss of contact with children and/or step-children

Concern about children post separation.

To add insult to injury, male victims of family violence often find it distressing to see social marketing

campaigns such as Violence Against Women Australia Says No (federal) and Don’t Cross the Line (SA),

which suggest that men are the only perpetrators of family violence and women and children the only

victims.

Gay men can be reluctant to report the abuse they are suffering because they are afraid of revealing

their sexual orientation. They can also suffer threats of ‘outing’ of their sexual preference or HIV status

by the perpetrator. The perpetrator might also tell them that no one will help because the police and

the justice system are homophobic.

CHILDREN OF MALE VICTIMS Children of male victims of intimate partner violence can suffer the same impacts as children of female

victims, including

The abuse of witnessing family violence by their parents or step-parents

Direct violence and abuse themselves

Negative impacts on their behavioural, cognitive and emotional functioning and social development

Harm to their education and later employment prospects

Shaping their attitudes to violence in positive or negative directions

The possibility of being more likely to grow up to perpetrate violence in their own relationships (the

majority however do not).

Male victims of family violence and abuse - like women - often face many barriers to disclosing their

abuse:

They are likely to be told that there must be something they did to provoke the perpetrator’s abuse

They can suffer shame, embarrassment and the social stigma of not being able to protect themselves

They can fear that if they disclose the abuse there will be nowhere for them and their children to

escape to

In cases of intimate partner violence, they can fear that if they disclose the abuse or end the

relationship, their partner might become more abusive and/or take the children

They can feel uncertain about where to seek help, or how to seek help

Services are less likely to ask whether a man is a victim of family violence, and when they do ask,

they are less likely to believe him (indeed many health departments have mandatory domestic

violence screening for young women, but no such screening for young men)

Male victims can be falsely arrested and removed from their homes because of the assumption that

because they are male, they must be a perpetrator and not a victim. When this happens, children can

be left unprotected from the perpetrator of the violence, leading many men to suffer the abuse in

silence in an attempt to protect their children.

Because of these barriers, men are much less likely to report being a victim of family violence than are

women (and women also frequently don’t report violence against them).

FORMS OF ABUSE

Abuse of men takes many of the same forms as it does against women - physical violence, intimidation

and threats; sexual, emotional, psychological, verbal and financial abuse; property damage and social

isolation. Many men experience multiple forms of abuse. Men, more so than women, can also

experience legal and administrative abuse - the use of institutions to inflict further abuse on a victim, for

example, taking out false restraining orders or not allowing the victim access to his children.

Break the cycle If you're in an abusive situation, you might recognize this pattern:

Your abuser threatens violence.

Your abuser strikes you.

Your abuser apologizes, promises to change and offers gifts.

The cycle repeats itself.

Typically the violence becomes more frequent and severe over time.

Domestic violence can leave you depressed and anxious. You might be more likely to abuse alcohol or

drugs or engage in unprotected sex. Because men are traditionally thought to be physically stronger

than women, you might be less likely to report domestic violence in your heterosexual relationship due

to embarrassment. You might also worry that the significance of the abuse will be minimized because

you're a man. Similarly, a man being abused by another man might be reluctant to talk about the

problem because of how it reflects on his masculinity or because it exposes his sexual orientation.

Start by telling someone about the abuse, whether it's a friend, relative, health care provider or other

close contact. At first, you might find it hard to talk about the abuse. However, you'll also likely feel

relief and receive much-needed support.

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