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"Intervention" was presented on Tuesday September 27, 2011, by Jeff and Debra Jay; Intervention specialists, chemical dependency therapists and trainers, and best-selling authors of "Love First: A New Approach to Intervention for Alcoholism and Drug Addiction" and other books. This program describes how the "Love First" process of Intervention can help chemically dependent people find recovery. Key elements of the "Love First" model for effective intervention with addicted individuals are discussed. This program will bring PRACTICAL INFORMATION, HELP and HOPE to anyone who cares about a chemically dependent person, and to anyone who wants to learn more about the intervention process. This program is part of the FREE, annual Dawn Farm Education Series. The Education Series is organized by Dawn Farm, a non-profit community of programs providing a continuum of chemical dependency services. For information, please contact Matt Statman, LLMSW, CADC, Education Series Coordinator, at 734-485-8725 or [email protected], or see http://www.dawnfarm.org/programs/education-series.
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Love First
Presenters: Jeff Jay and Debra Jay
Intervention
www.lovefirst.net
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Interventionworkshop.com
In the beginning...Two women brought two alcoholics
together.
Alcoholics Anonymous was born.
“The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure, have lost the power of choice in drink. Our so called will power becomes practically nonexistent. We are unable... to bring into our consciousness with sufficient force the memory of the suffering and humiliation of even a week or a month ago.”
Big Book pp 23
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Normal 3-D Brain SPECT Images
Top- downsurface view
Front-on surface view
Sidesurface view
Undersidesurface view
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
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Alcohol – 17 years ofheavy weekend use
Top-down surface view
Underside surface view
Front-onsurface view
Side surface view
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
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Healthy BrainPhotos: Dr. Daniel
Amen
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Twenty-two years of daily drinking.
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
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Cocaine Methamphetamine
Twenty-four year old. Using two years frequently.
Twenty-eight year old. Eight year heavy use.
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
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Marijuana Opiates
Eighteen year old.Using 3 years.Four times week.
Forty year old. Methadone 7 years.Previously, heroin 10 years.
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
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Before & After Recovery
Top down surface view during substance abuse.
Same view after one year alcohol and drug free.
Photos: Dr. Daniel Amen
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The brain confabulates. It associates diverse sensations, defies contradictions, and creates coherence. It even seeks explanations for its own unfathomable behavior.
-Dr. Gerald M. EdelmanAuthor, “Wider Than the Sky”
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Thinking BrainEmotional
Brain
Spiritual Brain
We are not cured of alcoholism. What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition.
Bill Wilson
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Inebriety As a Disease
Scientific AmericanPublished 1877
“Science draws a broad distinction between drunkenness as a vice and drunkenness as a disease.”
Building a Language for Understanding
Intervention as communication
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the first order of business isn’t talking to alcoholics.
The power is in the hands of the families, friends and co-workers.
the first order of business isn’t talking to alcoholics.
The power is in the hands of the families, friends and co-workers.
Language shapes the way we think, and determines what we can think about.
Benjamin Lee Whorf
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American Linguist
The Three Most Damaging Myths
Thinking about our words
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You can’t help an alcoholicunless he wants help
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If you can’t help an alcoholic until he wants help,what will get him to want help?
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A question that changes everything.
“I hadn’t a clue what an intervention was when I became the focus of one a quarter century ago. The first one didn’t take. I was angry with both my daughter, Susan, and Dr. Joe Cruse, who dared to trespass into my home and suggest I had a problem. I rose up on my high horse and threw them out. I try not to think about it too often, as I feel ashamed and embarrassed when I do.
“But the second intervention had a different ending....Surrounded by the family who loved me...this intervention saved my life.”
-Betty FordHealing and Hope
Treatment won’t workif she doesn’t want it
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It’s not how you get into treatment that counts,
it’s what happens once you’re there.
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Hazelden Survey
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Statistics
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An Alcoholic Must Hit Bottomtaking along even the smallest children
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Talk about crisis as intervention.
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Crisis comes with a choice.
Children’s Brains
One in four children live in a home with alcohol abuse or alcoholism. (Children of Alcoholics Foundation)
76 million Americans have been exposed to alcoholism in their family (SAMHSA)
Most children of alcoholics have experienced some form of abuse or neglect (American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry).
“The science shows that childhood maltreatment may
produce changes in both brain function and structure. These
changes are permanent. This is not something people can just get
over.”
-Dr. Martin H. TeicherMcClean Hospital
Among neglected children, the cortex–the thinking part of the brain–is 20 percent smaller on average than in a control group.
-Children’s Hospital & Baylor College of Medicine
“When young children are stressed by too much noise, abuse or violence, they use all of their brain for survival instead of for learning.
“Later in school, they can lose the ability to engage in logical thought and creative problem solving.”
-Partnership for Learning
“Bluntly put, the time that parents need to conquer their substance abuse and addiction can pose a serious threat to their children who may suffer permanent damage during this phase of rapid development. Little children cannot wait; they need safe and stable homes and nurturing adults now in order to set the stage for a healthy productive life.”
Joseph Califano, Jr.The National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia Univ.
Family is our springboard...
A Personal Story of Intervention
you have a disease and it’s not your fault
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Taking Action: Practical Steps
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Building blocks to intervention
Plan, plan, planIntervention team: Family members and friends
Commitment to work together
Chairperson, detail person
Homework: read Love First thoroughly
OverviewMeeting 1: building and training the team
Details: treatment, insurance, contingencies
Meeting 2: rehearsal and preparation
Intervention day
Escort to treatment
Al-Anon and family program
Meeting 1Everyone shares their history and knowledge
Note special problems, e.g. legal, psychological
Are there children involved?
7 point letter writing process
Brianstorming objections -- and answers
Bottom lines
Meeting 2Full rehearsal
Read and edit letters
Read and edit bottom lines
Run through possible scenarios
Set seating arrangements
Intervention DayNot confrontational, but a new beginning
A spirit of love and a solution
Reading the intervention letters
Answering questions and objections
Getting to YES
Escort to treatment
Writing Letterstools that go beyond intervention
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1. Identification
Name the relationship
Introduce the power of the relationship
Remove objections before they arise
2. Love
Longest part of the letter
Detailed reasons why we love and care about this person
Memorable times and experiences
Pride and gratitude
Like a eulogy...with an inside joke
3. Reframing
Taken time to learn about the disease
Not a matter of willpower or character
Requires professional treatment
4. Facts
Brief, specific and first hand
No judgmental language
The facts Ma’am, just the facts
Poignant
5. Commitment
Personal commitment to stand by them
Any help that is appropriate
Remembering the past
6. Ask
A direct and personal request
Today...now is the moment
Be specific about treatment
Don’t leave room for delay
7. Affirmation
End on a positive note
Show faith in the addict to follow through
A purpose for living
Inclusive -- we’re a family.
The Closer
Most trusted person
Senior family member
Eye to eye
Many will just say “Yes”
...or, on to the objections...
Brainstorming Objectionsthe escape routes
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Common ObjectionsWork
Childcare
Practical considerations: the dog, bills, home care
Big events: graduation, wedding, vacation
Disease objections
“I can do it on my own.”
“I don’t have a problem.
“I’ll see a psychiatrist.”
Bottom Linesno longer helping the addiction
Addiction can no longer trump the welfare of the family.
These are the ways I will take care of myself.
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Twelve steps for families.
“Sarah,
We are all committed to you and your health. Each of us would like to share with you the decisions we’ve made. We will not do anything to help you stay sick, but we will do all we can to help you get well. The addiction hurts us, too, so until you get into recovery we must take care of ourselves, and we want to tell you how we plan to do this....”
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We love you too much.
Intervention Day
Warm welcome
No surprises
Just want to talk
It’s a free country
Get to the script
TipsTrust the process
Stay calm: don’t take the bait
Magician not allowed
2 reasons for NO
Reach for the heart
Spiritual exercise
