Alon Gratch, If Love Could Think: Using Your Mind to Guide Your
Heart, Harmony Books, New York, 2005, Page 37 If you are a giving,
supportive person who avoids center stage and thrives on taking
care of others you are at risk for Narcissistic Love
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Whether you were born into a NPD family
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Chose a relationship with an NPD person
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Or met your NPD in some other place
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You have experienced Narcissistic Abuse
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In the beginning you dont recognize it as Narcissistic Abuse
You just know something is wrong
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It takes a long time to see the cycle or repeated patterns of
abuse http://www.skewsme.com/img/cycle_of_abuse.jpg
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So the abuse goes on and on
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You wonder if youre going crazy ?
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You lose your sense of self
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You lose your trust in others
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You lose your trust in your own judgements and perceptions
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You no longer believe your past It is built on lies and deceit
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People you considered important, no longer count
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You lose your dreams for your future
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You lose your belief in human decency
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You must acknowledge and grieve these losses
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You may have signs of Complex Post Traumatic Stress
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You are often exhausted
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Remember Knowledge is Power
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With power you can change
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Change Your Thinking http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-
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Stop trying to change the NPD into something theyre not
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Stop trying to fix the NPD Relationship
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You cant cure a NPD with love or attention
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Stop feeling sorry for the NPD
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Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? Then youre a likely source
for Narcissistic Supply
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Are you a Codependent?
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Are you hoping for Happily Ever After ?
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Still believe in super heroes?
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And that the good guy always wins?
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Think again
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Take back your control
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Change your mindset
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Realize you fell for an illusion
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Grieve the relationship you never had http://thelovenotebook.
tumblr.com/page/55
Why did you fall for an NPD?
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The NPD identified your inner wounds
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The NPD told your wounded inner child exactly what it wanted to
hear and you felt great
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Feeling Great becomes your Chemical Addiction
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To move on from Narcissistic Abuse You must work on your wounds
and chemical addiction
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Why were you drawn to the NPDs charisma ?
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Beware The Halo Effect It clouds our judgement
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NPDs are A soul with no footprints Caution: Quote by Invicta
Ma, 28 Jan 2009
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No empathy, sympathy, remorse.
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You are a soul with your own thoughts, fears, hopes, spirit,
future, dreams
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The NPD must feed off your soul You are the strawberry
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You ask Should I let them go?
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Let them go
Letting go means gaining control
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Why give the abuser control of your power, your energy, your
life?
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Change your expectations Do not expect: an NPD to make sense
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es/2012/01/thomas-paine-arguing-600x305.jpg Do not expect:
validation from an NPD
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Change your expectations Do not expect: an NPD to take the
blame
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ithewolf-d4iggs6.png Do not expect: an NPD to compromise
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Change your expectations Do not expect: an NPD to be
responsible http://rlv.zcache.com/its_not_my_fault_post_card-
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expect: an NPD to apologize
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Set boundaries
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Limit contact, set clear boundaries or use a mediator
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Apply the No Contact rule
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No Contact means
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emails No phones No letters No instant messaging No communication
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The NPD keeps coming back because of an insatiable need for
Narcissistic Supply
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An NPD person wont let you go no matter how hard you fight
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Stop the Cycle of Abuse Stop being the source of Narc Supply
Attention Adulation Compliments Admiration Subservience Showing
fear Liking them Being manipulated Being deceived
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Reclaim your Inner peace
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or suffer the consequences Is this what you truly want?
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The NPD abuser always returns It is part of the cycleand need
for Supply
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Ignore NPD tools of manipulation Guilt Fear Pity Threats
Violence Blackmail Financial abuse Character Assassination
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Build and educate your support network
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Arm and educate yourself/others about High Conflict Divorce
Protect your Assets
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Stop blaming yourself The Narcissistic Abuse has happened!
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Prepare for a Marathon Effort
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http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/55
Please share these other links on Narcissistic Personality
Disorder
http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/red-flags-to-narcissistic-
personality-disorder-compiled-by-jeni-mawter
http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/narcissistic-victim-
syndrome-a-powerpoint-by-jeni-mawter
