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Moving on from Narcissistic Abuse Due to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) By Jeni Mawter

Moving on from Narcissistic Abuse due to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) compiled by Jeni Mawter

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Victims of prolonged Narcissistic Abuse from someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) find it extremely difficult to move on with their lives. This powerpoint explores several reasons for this (childhood wounds, sensitive personality, chemical addiction, ideologies) and offers suggestions to help a victim accept and move on from their abusive relationship(s).

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  • Moving on from Narcissistic Abuse Due to Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) By Jeni Mawter
  • https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=186004684914075&set=a.119863101528234.19520.119720174875860&type=3&theater
  • http://southpawbeagle.files.wordpress.com/2010/04/pills-darling.gif?w=500
  • Alon Gratch, If Love Could Think: Using Your Mind to Guide Your Heart, Harmony Books, New York, 2005, Page 37 If you are a giving, supportive person who avoids center stage and thrives on taking care of others you are at risk for Narcissistic Love http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-btiwz- nNVqo/UNIKCW2OvgI/AAAAAAAABGk/KMO_I6PHMro/s1600/dewdrop.jpg
  • Whether you were born into a NPD family http://etc.usf.edu/clipart/24600/24664/spider_web_24664_lg.gif
  • Chose a relationship with an NPD person http://img1.etsystatic.com/000/0/5728230/il_fullxfull.352201779.jpg?ref=l2
  • Or met your NPD in some other place http://kourkenko.deviantart.com/art/Call-of-Cthulhu-Legs-353855894
  • You have experienced Narcissistic Abuse http://www.culteducation.com/dvds/heart.jpg
  • In the beginning you dont recognize it as Narcissistic Abuse You just know something is wrong http://dearoptimists.files.wordpress.com/2012/01/happy-2.png
  • It takes a long time to see the cycle or repeated patterns of abuse http://www.skewsme.com/img/cycle_of_abuse.jpg http://theadventurouswriter.com/quipstipsrelationships/ wp-content/uploads/2011/06/Cycle-of-Abuse.jpg
  • So the abuse goes on and on http://www.caring.com/blogs/caring-currents/prolonged-grief
  • You wonder if youre going crazy ? http://funny-fun-fun.com/funny-demotivational-posters/not-crazy-just-special-funny-pictures/
  • You lose your sense of self http://s3.amazonaws.com/rapgenius/1375494209_i_don_t_know_who_i_am_by_wasted49-d65uw4o.jpg
  • You lose your trust in others http://socialinfluenceconsultinggroup.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/Trust-Crisis.jpg
  • You lose your trust in your own judgements and perceptions http://creativeeveryday.com/images/400/orangeline.jpg
  • You no longer believe your past It is built on lies and deceit http://picchore.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/01/real-eyes.jpg
  • People you considered important, no longer count http://www.cs.iastate.edu/~andorfc/people.JPG
  • You lose your dreams for your future http://rosalindadeleon.files.wordpress.com/2010/08/the20future.jpg
  • You lose your belief in human decency http://www.becauseart.com/images/diverse_humanity.jpg
  • You must acknowledge and grieve these losses http://patriciabrunnerphd.com/images/leafwater.jpg
  • You may have signs of Complex Post Traumatic Stress http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/default/ files/styles/image_content_width/hash/ 10/6d/106d1bb7d1739e0f901d765b0d1d448a .jpg?itok=YPfbuH0p
  • You are often exhausted http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/14
  • Remember Knowledge is Power http://www.dontforgettothink.com/myimages/knowledge_is_power.jpg
  • With power you can change http://www.insiderquarterly.com/knowledge-is-power https://d26houopdteji.cloudfront.net/images/q/thumb/x598%3E/quality/85/interlace/true/src/http%3A%2F%2Fjux-user-files- prod.s3.amazonaws.com%2F2013%2F08%2F21%2F23%2F03%2F59%2F554%2Ftumblr_mqxu8vru831qm3r26o1_400.jpg
  • Change Your Thinking http://1.bp.blogspot.com/- Adh6j6oqLes/Ufff3p2dV- I/AAAAAAAAC9o/cEkAZrT9NxU/s1600/ Marianne-Williamson-quote.jpg
  • Stop trying to change the NPD into something theyre not http://www.critteroos.com/demo/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/leoduck-338x279.jpg
  • Stop trying to fix the NPD Relationship http://covermyfb.com/media/covers/thumb/sSDJpdiZ70PorVs1.jpg
  • You cant cure a NPD with love or attention http://www.pwnage.ro/wp-content/uploads/2009/11/epic-love-fail.jpg
  • Stop feeling sorry for the NPD http://fc04.deviantart.net/fs70/i/2013/019/5/2/gloomy_and_pity_by_cupcakebutcher-d5s0hq9.jpg
  • Are you a Highly Sensitive Person? Then youre a likely source for Narcissistic Supply http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5222/5685196984_958dfda0d3.jpg
  • Are you a Codependent? http://www.foh.hhs.gov/eapnews/consortium/images/codependent.jpg
  • Are you hoping for Happily Ever After ? http://farm6.static.flickr.com/5222/5685196984_958dfda0d3.jpg
  • Still believe in super heroes? http://piximus.net/media/1752/retired-and-old-superheroes-8.jpg
  • And that the good guy always wins? http://onestophumour.com/uploads/good_guy_harry_8045478621.jpg
  • Think again http://livenerddierepeat.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/how-a-bad-guy-dies-in-the-wasteland.jpg
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  • Take back your control http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/47
  • Change your mindset http://www.anonymousartofrevolution.com/2013/06/if-you-dont-control-your-mind-someone.html
  • Realize you fell for an illusion http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-eTasg6PL1UQ/Tha- FZDlk1I/AAAAAAAAADU/lvKsJpIYN90/s320/Masks.jpg http://mikehoolboom.com/thenewsite/wp- content/uploads/2013/04/tumblr_mk83e16rEP1qzr6ooo1_500.jpg
  • Grieve the relationship you never had http://thelovenotebook. tumblr.com/page/55
  • Why did you fall for an NPD? http://images5.fanpop.com/image/photos/24800000/Opposites-Attract-tdis-duncan-and-courtney-24829236-1424-674.png
  • The NPD identified your inner wounds http://itakeoffthemask.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/03/1091652_asian_autumn_3.jpg
  • The NPD told your wounded inner child exactly what it wanted to hear and you felt great http://www.edsia.net/_Media/pastedgraphic_17-13_med.png
  • Feeling Great becomes your Chemical Addiction http://3.bp.blogspot.com/ -HiWgnyCzqzE/UG3PTik4RLI/ AAAAAAAAJHg/1B-RPxVv1go/ s1600/brain+chemicals.jpg
  • www.teens.drugabuse.gov http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com
  • To move on from Narcissistic Abuse You must work on your wounds and chemical addiction http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-c5pBNSJRHfg/Tv8fVfz8MaI/AAAAAAAACVo/ku-IiVEi0qw/s400/bandaid1.png
  • Why were you drawn to the NPDs charisma ? http://celeitydachshund.files.wordpress.com/2012/10/cool-wiener-dog-sunglasses.jpg
  • Beware The Halo Effect It clouds our judgement http://www.crazywebsite.com/Website-Clipart-Pictures-Videos/Halloween_Clip_Art/Halloween_Costumes_Pets_Angel_Devil_Dachshunds- 1.JPG
  • NPDs are A soul with no footprints Caution: Quote by Invicta Ma, 28 Jan 2009 http://farm2.staticflickr.com/1127/5148224080_7b4acaf514_b.jpg
  • No empathy, sympathy, remorse. http://th00.deviantart.net/fs70/300W/i/2010/144/d/6/Heartless_and_Soulless_by_MyLittleDuckie1116.jpg
  • You are a soul with your own thoughts, fears, hopes, spirit, future, dreams http://payload.cargocollective.com/1/0/128/14564/ARAMRP2.jpg
  • The NPD must feed off your soul You are the strawberry www.littleblogoflettinggo.com
  • You ask Should I let them go? www.themoonlover.blogspot.com
  • Let them go
  • Letting go means gaining control http://www.zengardner.com/files/Letting-Go-Open-Hands.jpg
  • Why give the abuser control of your power, your energy, your life? http://fc01.deviantart.net/fs12/f/2006/330/8/2/_Megalomaniac__by_HomeBass.jpg
  • Change your expectations Do not expect: an NPD to make sense http://wp.patheos.com.s3.amazonaws.com/blogs/unreasonablefaith/fil es/2012/01/thomas-paine-arguing-600x305.jpg Do not expect: validation from an NPD http://funnythings247.com/page/di/didn-t-really-meant-to-hurt- you.html
  • Change your expectations Do not expect: an NPD to take the blame http://fc09.deviantart.net/fs71/i/2011/341/7/0/all_your_fault_by_mok ithewolf-d4iggs6.png Do not expect: an NPD to compromise http://images.sodahead.com/polls/003846865/300255638_my_way _answer_3_xlarge.gif
  • Change your expectations Do not expect: an NPD to be responsible http://rlv.zcache.com/its_not_my_fault_post_card- rb99fb4e7c36949d8861bfafceecff491_vgbaq_8byvr_512.jpg Do not expect: an NPD to apologize http://images.sodahead.com/polls/001341047/i_m_sorry_answer_3_xlarge.jp eg
  • Set boundaries http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/11/99/b5/1199b509ae0f1445f4fd5fad0632bcf7.jpg
  • Limit contact, set clear boundaries or use a mediator http://www.heritage-tech.net/images/initial-overlaps.png
  • Apply the No Contact rule http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-VM1LvxHeZRY/UMEEhrbpVhI/AAAAAAAAAQM/KXTNCeliQw8/s400/Don-t-give-up- on-writing-writing-31408863-640-520.jpg
  • No Contact means http://balancejoyanddelicias.files.wordpress.com/2010/08/no.gif No emails No phones No letters No instant messaging No communication via a 3rd party
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  • The NPD keeps coming back because of an insatiable need for Narcissistic Supply http://friendsoftype.com/2012/09/insatiable/
  • An NPD person wont let you go no matter how hard you fight http://www.lubpedia.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Funny-Valentines-Day-Wallpaper-2.jpg
  • Stop the Cycle of Abuse Stop being the source of Narc Supply Attention Adulation Compliments Admiration Subservience Showing fear Liking them Being manipulated Being deceived ww.educationviews.org
  • Reclaim your Inner peace http://injusticebydesign.files.wordpress.com/2013/08/wowmorebullshit.jpg
  • or suffer the consequences Is this what you truly want? http://www.mayanrocks.com/blog/sylviaplath-desire-destroy.gif
  • The NPD abuser always returns It is part of the cycleand need for Supply http://mymorningmeditations.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/what-doesnt-kill-you.jpg
  • Ignore NPD tools of manipulation Guilt Fear Pity Threats Violence Blackmail Financial abuse Character Assassination http://img.gawkerassets.com/img/182n8u0ce8lxgjpg/ku- bigpic.jpg
  • Build and educate your support network http://lifecoachsn.angelfire.com/images/coachlogo.gif
  • Arm and educate yourself/others about High Conflict Divorce Protect your Assets http://www.cursio.com.au/thumbnaillarge/10.jpg
  • Stop blaming yourself The Narcissistic Abuse has happened! https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=194702810710929&set=a.119863101528234.19520.119720174875860&type=3&theater
  • Prepare for a Marathon Effort http://farm6.staticflickr.com/5019/5482504987_3010db9dae_z.jpg
  • http://thelovenotebook.tumblr.com/page/55
  • Please share these other links on Narcissistic Personality Disorder http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/red-flags-to-narcissistic- personality-disorder-compiled-by-jeni-mawter http://www.slideshare.net/jenimawter/narcissistic-victim- syndrome-a-powerpoint-by-jeni-mawter