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Getting a grip of time
Get a Grip of Time
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Getting a grip of time?
You check your phone shortly after waking tomorrow morning.
There’s a text from your bank saying:
“Someone deposited £1440 in your checking account last night. It’ll only be there today. Whatever you don’t use will be removed at midnight.”
What would you do?
“Someone deposited £1440
in your checking account
last night. It’ll only be there
today. Whatever you don’t
use will be removed at
midnight.”
“Don't say you don't have enough time.
You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen
Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother
Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert
Einstein.”
"Time = Life, Therefore, waste your time and waste your life, or master your time and master your life.“ ~ Alan Lakein
Can time be‘mastered’?
You can’t put your arms around a memory.The skin you scuffed climbing the black railingsof school, the fingertips that learned to gripthe pen, the lips that took that first kissare gone, my friend. Nothing has stayed the same.The brain? A stockpot full of fats and proteinstopped up over a fire stoked and tendeda few decades. Only the bones endure,stilt-walking through a warm blizzard of flesh,making sure the whole thing hangs together,our lifetimes clinging on as snow will lagbare branches, magnifying them mindlessly.Dear heart, you’ve put a brave face on it, but knowexactly where the hugs and handshakes go. Paul Farley
“In order to say ‘no’, you need a burning ‘yes’” ~ Stephen Covey
Put the big rocks in first
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NB: Original from: http://www.thetimeparadox.com/zimbardo-time-perspective-inventory/
“I used to envy the friends who always seemed to have such a good time. They might be doing much the same things as I did, …, but where I found the things I did always ordinary and mainly dull, these friends were always involved in events which were interesting and exciting. It took me years to realise that the differences between these friends and me was not in what we did, or what we felt about what we did, but how we talked about what we did.” ~ Dorothy Rowe (1988)
Living joyfully …
Passive and Constructive
“That’s good news.”
(Nonverbal communication: little or no active emotional expression.)
Active and Constructive
“That’s great, I know how important that promotion was to you! We should go out and celebrate and you can tell me what excites you most about your new job”
(Nonverbal communication: maintaining good eye contact; displays of positive emotions such as genuine smiling, laughter and appropriate touch)
Passive and Destructive
“What are we doing on Friday night?”
(Nonverbal communication: little or no eye contact, turning away, leaving the room)
Active and Destructive
“That sounds like a lot of responsibility to take on. There will probably more stress involved in the new position and longer hours at the office.”
(Nonverbal communication: displays of negative emotions such as furrowed brow, frowning.)
ReferencesPositivity Ratio: http://positivityratio.com/
Time Perspectives: http://www.thetimeparadox.com/ RSA Animation from Zimbardo on Time Perspectives: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3oIiH7BLmgAccelerate: http://youtu.be/3dDoz_u9H7E?t=38s
Berne, E. (1971). A layman's guide to psychiatry and psychoanalysis (Extensively revised and enlarged ed. ed.). Harmondsworth: Penguin.
Boniwell, I., Osin, E., Linley, P. A., & Ivanchenko, G. V. (2010). A question of balance: Time perspective and well-being in British and Russian samples. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 5(1), 24-40. doi: 10.1080/17439760903271181
Fredrickson, B. (2009b). The Positivity Ratio. Retrieved 12th March, 2011, from https://www.positivityratio.com/
Fredrickson, B. L. (2001). The role of positive emotions in positive psychology: The broaden-and-build theory of positive emotions. American Psychologist, 56(3), 218-226. doi: 10.1037/0003-066x.56.3.218
Zimbardo, P. G., & Boyd, J. (2008). The time paradox : the new psychology of time. London: Rider
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ADDITIONAL SLIDES
Positive Psychology
Psychotherapy is a general term referring to
therapeutic interaction or treatment contracted
between a trained professional and a client, patient, family, couple, or
group.
Psychology is an academic and applied discipline that involves the scientific study of mental functions and behaviours.
Positive psychology
seeks "to find and nurture genius and talent", and "to
make normal life more fulfilling", rather than
merely treating mental illness.
“When you are courting a nice girl an hour seems like a second. When you sit on a red-hot cinder a second seems like an hour. That's relativity.” ~ Albert Einstein
“Time is the substance I am made of. Time is a river which sweeps me along, but I am the river; it is a tiger which destroys me, but I am the tiger; it is a fire which consumes me, but I am the fire.” ~ ― Jorge Luis Borges, Labyrinths
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Positive Emotion
Balanced time
perspectives
Acts of Kindness
Gratitude
Savouring
Strengths
Living joyfully
Developing Positive Emotions
Negative has more impact than positive
You check your phone shortly after waking tomorrow morning.There’s a text from your bank saying, “Someone deposited $1440 in your checking account last night. It’ll only be there today. Whatever you don’t use will be removed at midnight.”What would you do?If it happened to me, I would think, “OK, this is no little thing. I’ve got some options:•I could spend it.•I could save it.•I could invest it.•I could give it.But there’s one thing I wouldn’t do: Ignore it. Would you?
That’s really what happens every day to each of usBut it’s not dollars.It’s minutes.Every day, we get 1440 minutes. We start the day with them, and they’ll be gone when the day is over.At the beginning of the day, we can choose what to do with them. If we wait until the end of the day, those choices are made for us by default.The good news is that it happens again tomorrow.And the next day. And the day after that.But not forever.So, we’ve got 1,440 minutes today (less, unless we’re reading this at midnight). What do we need to know to make good use of those minutes?1.Time is limited. There will come a day when those daily deposits stop. So it’s important to make sure we use each day’s minutes wisely.2.There are no days that do not count. Each day is unique, and provides unique opportunities. If we ignore those opportunities today, they’re gone forever.3.Our future will be determined by our daily choices.
1.Good choices today will pay dividends in our future.2.Bad choices today will make withdrawals from our future.3.Not making any choices today gives our future away.
4.Nobody becomes an overnight success. Nobody becomes an overnight failure. It’s the culmination of our daily choices.5.If we’ve been making bad choices (or no choices), we can change that today. One good choice moves our future forward.Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow isn’t here yet. Worrying about either one will distract us from being intentional about today.So, how will you use your 1,440 minutes today?
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Getting a grip of time