Getting a grip of time v2

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Urban Woot (http://urbanwoot.com/) has commissioned a series of Salons, hosted at Blacks private members club in London. I was delighted to be invited to host the first one. I hosted a discussion around time. I've studied many personal development approaches and I found Zimbardo's work on our orientation to time (whether habitually we look back or forwards, or enjoy the moment) impactful. Urban Woot has a mission of living a joyful life in an urban environment - and for me having the balance of time perspectives has been a significant contributor to me living a joyful life!

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<ul><li> 1. Getting a grip of timeSuzanne Hazeltonworking with individuals andbusinesses to THRIVE!</li></ul> <p> 2. Get a Grip of Time Suzanne HazeltonUrban WootOn the Couch SalonsBlacks Club 3. Acceleratehttp://youtu.be/3dDoz_u9H7E?t=38s 4. How do you make progress towards adeadline?MBTI: Judging Perceiving Dimension 5. Getting agrip of time? 6. You check your phone shortly afterwaking tomorrow morning.Theres a text from your banksaying:Someone deposited 1440 in yourchecking account last night. Itllonly be there today. Whatever youdont use will be removed atmidnight.What would you do? 7. Dont say you dont haveenough time.You have exactly the same number of hours per day thatwere given to HelenKeller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo,Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, andAlbert Einstein. 8. Can time bemastered? 9. You cant put your arms around a memory.The skin you scuffed climbing the black railingsof school, the fingertips that learned to gripthe pen, the lips that took that first kissare gone, my friend. Nothing has stayed the same.The brain? A stockpot full of fats and proteinstopped up over a fire stoked and tendeda few decades. Only the bones endure,stilt-walking through a warm blizzard of flesh,making sure the whole thing hangs together,our lifetimes clinging on as snow will lagbare branches, magnifying them mindlessly.Dear heart, youve put a brave face on it, but knowexactly where the hugs and handshakes go.Paul Farley 10. In order to sayno, you need aburning yes~ Stephen Covey 11. TimePerspectives 12. NB: Original from: http://www.thetimeparadox.com/zimbardo-time-perspective-inventory/ 13. I used to envy the friends whoalways seemed to have such agood time. They might be doingmuch the same things as Idid, , but where I found the thingsI did always ordinary and mainlydull, these friends were alwaysinvolved in events which wereinteresting and exciting. It took meyears to realise that the differencesbetween these friends and me wasnot in what we did, or what we feltabout what we did, but how wetalked about what we did.~ Dorothy Rowe (1988) 14. Living joyfully 15. Passive and Constructive Active and ConstructiveThats good news.Thats great, I know how important that promotion was to you! We should go out and celebrate and you can tell me what excites you most about your new job(Nonverbal communication: little or no active (Nonverbal communication: maintaining goodemotional expression.)eye contact; displays of positive emotionssuch as genuine smiling, laughter andappropriate touch)Passive and DestructiveActive and DestructiveWhat are we doing on Friday night? That sounds like a lot of responsibility to take on. There will probably more stress involved in the new position and longer hours at the office.(Nonverbal communication: little or no eyecontact, turning away, leaving the room) (Nonverbal communication: displays of negative emotions such as furrowed brow, frowning.) 16. ReferencesPositivity Ratio: http://positivityratio.com/Time Perspectives: http://www.thetimeparadox.com/RSA Animation from Zimbardo on Time Perspectives:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3oIiH7BLmgAccelerate: http://youtu.be/3dDoz_u9H7E?t=38sBerne, E. (1971). A laymans guide to psychiatry and psychoanalysis (Extensively revised andenlarged ed. ed.). Harmondsworth: Penguin.Boniwell, I., Osin, E., Linley, P. A., &amp; Ivanchenko, G. V. (2010). A question of balance: Timeperspective and well-being in British and Russian samples. The Journal of PositivePsychology, 5(1), 24-40. doi: 10.1080/17439760903271181Fredrickson, B. (2009b). The Positivity Ratio. Retrieved 12th March, 2011, fromhttps://www.positivityratio.com/Fredrickson, B. L. (2001). The role of positive emotions in positive psychology: The broaden-and-build theory of positive emotions. American Psychologist, 56(3), 218-226. doi:10.1037/0003-066x.56.3.218Zimbardo, P. G., &amp; Boyd, J. (2008). The time paradox : the new psychology of time. London: Rider 17. Contact Details@SuzanneHazelton 18. FlyingSTART planningworkshop 25th Januarywww.2013Flyingstart.eventbrite.co.ukPromotional code: Urban Woot 19. Thank You!The next salon is on Taste, 23rd January 6.30 to 8.30pm hosted by Shell Grayson, Editor ofNature Magazinewww.urbanwoot.com 20. ADDITIONAL SLIDES 21. Positive PsychologyPsychotherapyPositiveis a general term referring to Psychology psychologytherapeutic interaction orseeks "to find and nurture treatment contractedis an academic and applied discipline that involves the genius and talent", and "to between a trainedmake normal life more professional and ascientific study of mentalfunctions and behaviours. fulfilling", rather thanclient, patient, family, couple, merely treating mental or group. illness. 22. When you are courting a nice girlan hour seems like a second. Whenyou sit on a red-hot cinder asecond seems like an hour. Thatsrelativity. ~ Albert Einstein 23. Time is the substance I am made of.Time is a river which sweeps mealong, but I am the river; it is a tigerwhich destroys me, but I am thetiger; it is a fire which consumesme, but I am the fire. ~ Jorge LuisBorges, Labyrinths 24. Developing Positive EmotionsStrengthsSavouringActs of Kindness Gratitude Balancedtimeperspectives Positive EmotionLiving joyfully 34 25. Negative has more impact than positive 26. You check your phone shortly after waking tomorrow morning. Theres a text from your bank saying, Someone deposited $1440 in your checking account last night. Itll only be there today. Whatever you dont use will be removed at midnight. What would you do? If it happened to me, I would think, OK, this is no little thing. Ive got some options: I could spend it. I could save it. I could invest it. I could give it. But theres one thing I wouldnt do: Ignore it. Would you?Thats really what happens every day to each of usBut its not dollars.Its minutes.Every day, we get 1440 minutes. We start the day with them, and theyll be gone when the day is over.At the beginning of the day, we can choose what to do with them. If we wait until the end of the day, those choices are made for usby default.The good news is that it happens again tomorrow.And the next day. And the day after that.But not forever.So, weve got 1,440 minutes today (less, unless were reading this at midnight). What do we need to know to make good use ofthose minutes?1.Time is limited. There will come a day when those daily deposits stop. So its important to make sure we use each days minuteswisely.2.There are no days that do not count. Each day is unique, and provides unique opportunities. If we ignore those opportunitiestoday, theyre gone forever.3.Our future will be determined by our daily choices. 1.Good choices today will pay dividends in our future. 2.Bad choices today will make withdrawals from our future. 3.Not making any choices today gives our future away.4.Nobody becomes an overnight success. Nobody becomes an overnight failure. Its the culmination of our daily choices.5.If weve been making bad choices (or no choices), we can change that today. One good choice moves our future forward.Yesterday is gone, and tomorrow isnt here yet. Worrying about either one will distract us from being intentional about today.So, how will you use your 1,440 minutes today? 27. Contact Details suzanne@thebusinessofchange Blog: www.suzannehazelton.com Web: www.thebusinessofchange.co.uk Twitter: @SuzanneHazelton Buy #RaiseYourGamehttp://www.raiseyourgame.biz/ Pre order Great Days at Work onAmazon.co.uk3 28. Getting a grip of timeSuzanne Hazeltonworking with individuals andbusinesses to THRIVE!</p>