Private Victory
• So far we have covered the Private Victory:
– You must have your personal self together before you can be a good team player.
– Habits 4, 5, and 6 are the PUBLIC VICTORY, dealing with relationships and teamwork
THINK WIN-WIN
• HABIT 4: says EVERYONE can win.
• You might say that’s silly, it might be that way at school or sports, but not in relationships.
• How silly would it be to say “who’s winning in your relationship--you or your friend?”
LOOK and READ out loud together
• The four paradigms on page 22
• EACH table (pairs) pick a paradigm and come up with a scenario that demonstrates it.
• Share
Win-win all you can eat buffet packet
• Read pages 152-154
• Complete the worksheet
• Turn it in, then complete “cool stuff to remember”
Seek first to be understand, then to be understood
• Listen first, talk second
• Its about seeing things from another person’s point of view
• To really understand others we have to listen to more than what they say.
• We have to pay attention to their actions
• Look at the next slide as an example
• Only 7 percent of our communication is through words…
• Most of our communication is through body language.
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Steps to Genuine Listening
1 Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears.
2 Stand in their shoes.
3 Practice mirroring.
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Higher form of listening
• Involves listening with your eyes, heart, and ears…
• LOOK at the person talking to you, be open to what they are saying. USE more than just your ears!
Stand in another's shoes.
• Many people look at conversations as a competition,
– Its my point of view or yours
• We can’t both be right. But in reality, we can be. You don’t win or loose at conversations.
• When you take time to stand in the other person’s shoes genuine listening can start happening.
Mirroring
• A mirror reflects.
– It doesn't judge, or give advice
• IT IS THE PERFECT LISTENER
• You don’t necessarily repeat what they say, but show you understood by repeating their meaning in your own words.
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Mimicking vs. Mirroring
Mimicking Is: Mirroring Is:
Repeating words. Repeating meaning.
Using the same words. Using your own words.
Cold and indifferent. Warm and caring.
Thinking about your communication
• Complete the “Communicating with your parents” Page
• Complete the Genuine Listening paper and hand in. READ PAGES 171-176
• Then FILL out the “ COOL STUFF TO REMEMBER” page. Hand in completed packet.
SYNERGIZE!
• Synergize is about valuing and celebrating differences.
• Knowing that people can work together to create better solutions than they can alone.
• It’s NOT my way or the “highway”
Synergy
• Doesn’t just happen. It’s a process.
• Once you understand that differences are a strength and not weakness, and celebrating those leads to finding the “highway”
• Read through the “action plan”
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Getting to Synergy Action Plan
Define the Problem or Opportunity
Their Way(Seek first to understand the ideas of others.)
Brainstorm(Create new opinions and ideas.)
My Way(Seek to be understood by sharing your ideas.)
High Way(Find the best solution.)
Celebrating Differences
• Complete the celebrating differences handout
• Finish and complete “cool stuff” part of packet
• Hand in both
Sharpen the Saw
• Have you ever felt stressed out, out of balance, or empty inside?
• Habit 7: helps you with those problems.
• Its about renewal, keeping yourself sharp so you can deal with life better
READ!
• Story on page 206
• Everybody needs time to relax and renew…
– Habit 7 encourages you to regularly strengthen yourself in the four dimensions…look at next slide
Brainstorm
• Fill in activities that you can do in each category.
• Complete the Sharpen the saw introduction packet.
• Complete table talk and cool stuff part of workbook, turn in