Session 15: X3pure Men’s SeriesThe Journey

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ReviewUnwanted Sexual Behavior

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White-Knuckle Change||

Abstinence||

Relapse

Real Change||

Understanding of Physiology||

Abstinence||

Acceptance of Conditional Love||

Pursuit of Unconditional Love

Unwanted Sexual Behavior||

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Review• White Knuckle Change vs. Real Change

Review• White Knuckle Change vs. Real Change

- White Knuckle Change is the change in behavior without addressing the system, or environment, that is causing the behavior.

Review• White Knuckle Change vs. Real Change

- White Knuckle Change is the change in behavior without addressing the system, or environment, that is causing the behavior.

- Real Change is a complete examination and alteration of one’s life, how it is structured, who is in it, and what meaning life ultimately has for you.

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Review• The real issue with our Unwanted Sexual Behavior is conditional love.

Review• The real issue with our Unwanted Sexual Behavior is conditional love.

• The only pathway to recovery is to convert the conditional love that we have experienced or are experiencing in our lives into unconditional love.

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Review1. Psychologically examine our feelings, which means that we

pay attention, and are attuned to, our feelings, especially

feelings of conditional love and where those feelings came

from.

Review1. Psychologically examine our feelings, which means that we

pay attention, and are attuned to, our feelings, especially

feelings of conditional love and where those feelings came

from.

2. Seek, establish, and engage in community, which means

that we rebuild the interpersonal bridge that was broken for us

at a young age because of conditional love.

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3. We accomplish this conversion of conditional love into

unconditional love when we ensure that individuals and

communities are unconditionally loving by exercising Truth,

Trust, and Territory.

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3. We accomplish this conversion of conditional love into

unconditional love when we ensure that individuals and

communities are unconditionally loving by exercising Truth,

Trust, and Territory.

4. Develop and Explore Genuine Faith seeing God as the

ultimate Source of unconditional love and enjoy that source.

The Journey

The JourneyUnwanted Sexual Behavior

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The Journey

White-Knuckle Change||

Abstinence||

Relapse

Real Change||

Understanding of Physiology||

Abstinence||

Acceptance of Conditional Love||

Pursuit of Unconditional Love

Unwanted Sexual Behavior||

The Journey

• The purpose and value of the map is to help you stay on the line when you are feeling unbalanced, get you back up on the line when and if you have fallen off.

The Journey

• The purpose and value of the map is to help you stay on the line when you are feeling unbalanced, get you back up on the line when and if you have fallen off.

The Journey

• Addiction is about the brain’s desire to hide some very deep, dark, challenging secrets that the addict simply doesn’t want to realize or face.

The Journey

• God doesn’t want you to be sober because he wants you to obey rules

The Journey

• God doesn’t want you to be sober because he wants you to obey rules

The Journey

• God wants you sober because he wants you to discover the wonderful person he has created you to be

The Other Side

The Other Side

• Facing the lies

The Other Side

• Facing the lies

• Friendships will either need to be strengthened through truth, or lost through truth

The Other Side

• Facing the lies

• Friendships will either need to be strengthened through truth, or lost through truth

• The biggest experience you will need to face in being sober is not just your outer environment, but your inner environment

The Other Side

• Facing the lies

• Friendships will either need to be strengthened through truth, or lost through truth

• The biggest experience you will need to face in being sober is not just your outer environment, but your inner environment

• Facing difficult emotions

The Other Side

• It gets easier and easier the further away from your addiction you get.

The Other Side

• It gets easier and easier the further away from your addiction you get.

The Other Side

• Once you see it, you can’t not see it. That is the process of shattering the illusion of addiction.

The Other Side

The Other Side • Physical Symptoms

The Other Side • Physical Symptoms

- Difficulty sleeping

- Fatigue

- Nervousness and irritability

- Nausea

- Rapid heartbeat

- Shortness of breath

- Headaches

- Shakes

- High sexual arousal

- Body aches

- Increased desire to eat

- Sensitivity in the genitals

- Itching skin

- Sweats and chills

Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous Big Book of Recovery

Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous Big Book of Recovery

“We cannot go through your withdrawal for you, nor would we, if we could.

Who would knowingly volunteer to go though it again? Certainly none of us!

Yet the pain of each withdrawal is unique and special, even precious (although

you probably don’t think so). In a sense, the experience is you, a part of you

which has been trying to surface for a long time. You have been avoiding or

postponing this pain for a long time now, yet you have never been able to

lastingly outrun it. You need to go through withdrawal in order to become a

whole person. You need to meet yourself. Behind the terror of what you fear,

withdrawal contains the seeds for your own personal wholeness. It must be

experienced for you to realize, or make real, that potential for you and your life

that has been stored there for so long.”