Session 12: X3pure Men’s SeriesRecovery Target #2: Seeking, Establishing & Engaging in Community

Review

ReviewUnwanted Sexual Behavior

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Review

White-Knuckle Change||

Abstinence||

Relapse

Real Change||

Understanding of Physiology||

Abstinence||

Acceptance of Conditional Love||

Pursuit of Unconditional Love

Unwanted Sexual Behavior||

Last Session

• Psychological Examination of Feelings

Last Session

• Psychological Examination of Feelings

Last Session

- The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we

have about ourselves.

• Psychological Examination of Feelings

Last Session

- The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we

have about ourselves.

- The “structural void”

• Psychological Examination of Feelings

Last Session

- The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we

have about ourselves.

- The “structural void”

• Sexual Addiction

• Psychological Examination of Feelings

Last Session

- The need for constant and continual exploration of the feelings we

have about ourselves.

- The “structural void”

• Sexual Addiction- We are addicted when we have turned sex into an idol, which means

that we have come to rely on sex or sexual activities, as a source of

unconditional love instead of friends, family, community or God Himself.

Seeking, Establishing & Engaging in Community

Seeking, Establishing & Engaging in Community

• If the addicted man wants to recover, despite how painful it may feel he must seek, establish and engage in community.

Building A New Life

Building A New Life

• To recover means that we need to break up our old life. Not only do we need to see ourselves the way God sees us – worthwhile, lovable, and important – but we need to have people around us that see us that way as well. This is the true nature of converting conditional love into unconditional love.

Areas of Genuine Community

Areas of Genuine Community

• Accountability Partners

Areas of Genuine Community

• Accountability Partners

- Your “go to” person when you’re feeling conditionally loved and need unconditional love.

Areas of Genuine Community

• Accountability Partners

- Your “go to” person when you’re feeling conditionally loved and need unconditional love.

- Multiple accountability partners.

Areas of Genuine Community

• Accountability Partners

- Your “go to” person when you’re feeling conditionally loved and need unconditional love.

- Multiple accountability partners.

- Work on branching out by telling people your story.

Areas of Genuine Community

• Support Groups

Areas of Genuine Community

• Support Groups

- A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you

need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved.

Areas of Genuine Community

• Support Groups

- A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you

need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved.

- Sex Addicts Anonymous

Areas of Genuine Community

• Support Groups

- A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you

need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved.

- Sex Addicts Anonymous

Areas of Genuine Community

- Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

• Support Groups

- A community of supportive and unconditionally loving men is what you

need in order to feel worthy, responsible, and loved.

- Sex Addicts Anonymous

Areas of Genuine Community

- Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous

• Start a support group

Areas of Genuine Community

• If the cause of your sexual addiction was a break or rupture in the bond between you and another person at a very young age, like your mother or father, the solution to your addiction is finding ways to repair or rebuild similar bonds with other people.

Areas of Genuine Community

• If the cause of your sexual addiction was a break or rupture in the bond between you and another person at a very young age, like your mother or father, the solution to your addiction is finding ways to repair or rebuild similar bonds with other people.

Areas of Genuine Community

• The shame that causes and perpetuates sexual addiction comes from isolation; the pride and honor that causes recovery comes from seeking, establishing, and engaging in community.

Farewell

Farewell

• Next Session: Truth, Trust, and Territory