Adapted from Stephen Covey’s: Seven  Habits of Highly Effective People  

  Inspired by Stephen Covey’s: The Leader in Me Interpreted and Compiled by: Heather Sheehan 

 

WHAT IS A HABIT? 

A habit is something you automatically do  

over and over again. 

HOW DO YOU DEVELOP (CREATE) A HABIT? 

You can develop habits on purpose  

(developing the habit of brushing your teeth because you want healthy and beautiful teeth)  

You can also develop habits by accident  

(which hand do you automatically brush your teeth with?) 

CAN YOU CHANGE YOUR HABITS? 

Absolutely yes! If you want to change a habit, all you have to do is make the decision to do it!  Some habits may be hard to change (such as deciding not to 

automatically groan when mom or dad ask you to do something 

you don’t want to do) and some habits may be easier to change (such as deciding to stop biting your nails).  

Creating a new habit requires work 

 

What is effectiveness? 

Effectiveness is being able to do  something well. 

 

An effective person will:  

• Set goals for themselves and reach them 

• Create and maintain (keep) relationships  with others 

• Work well with others in groups 

• Be happy and confident with themselves  

• Be respectful to themselves and others 

• Focus on primary greatness (read the next page  about primary greatness)    

• Learn about and follow all of the Seven  Habits of Highly Effective People 

Primary Greatness vs. 

Secondary Greatness 

 

Primary Greatness is achieved by being a good, kind and thoughtful person who is happy with themself and who treats everyone, including themself with respect. You achieve primary 

greatness by having integrity and character. 

Secondary Greatness is achieved when you are recognized by others for your talents rather than your character.  An example of secondary greatness is winning a trophy or getting an A+ on 

your report card. 

Questions to make you think: 

• Who has primary greatness?  

o The person who won the game and spoke poorly to players on the other team or the person who won the game and congratulated people on the other team for trying their best? 

o The person who got an A+ on their report card and didn’t pay attention in class or the person who got a B‐ and tried their very best? 

o The person who has over 20 friends and does not think about what any of them would like to do at recess or the person who has no friends but helps others when they see someone hurt 

 

 

 

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world”

Mahatma Gandhi

Private Victories  

Private victories are the words used to describe success that you find and develop within yourself.  It is important to make sure you are 1) Proactive, 2) Begin with the end in mind and 3) Put  

first things first before you move onto public victories(success that you find  

by interacting with other people). 

Habit #1

 

Habit #2

 

Habit #3

 

 

 

 

Habit # 1

 

 

The first habit of highly effective people is to BE PROACTIVE. Being proactive means taking initiative and being responsible for your actions or reactions towards something. Taking initiative means recognizing our responsibility to make things happen.

The word RESPONSIBILITY means that you have the ability to respond.

A proactive person never says that they “have to do” something. You don’t “have to do” anything in life. The choices you make are based on the consequences you will face after doing or not doing something.

For example: proactive people don’t say “I have to go to school today.” They know that they have the choice to go to school each and every day. If they choose not to go to school, the consequence will be that they won’t learn what is being taught and they will miss out on exciting experiences with their teacher and friends. Proactive people don’t say “I have to do the dishes today.” They know that they have the choice whether or not to do the dishes. If they choose not to do the dishes, the consequnce will be that they will most likely get punished from their mom or dad (not to mention their kitchen will become very smelly!)

Proactive people are said to bring their own weather with them. This means that proactive people know that they can’t control what happens to them in life. They know that they can control how they react though. Proactive people can choose to see some sunlight in

 

YOU CHOOSE how you respond to things that happen to you in life.

their situation because they are the ones who choose to shine that light.

When something bad happens to you in life, you choose what to say, what to do and how to react. Proactive people use proactive language. Take a look at the chart to see the difference between proactive and non-proactive (reactive) language.

Reactive Language (not proactive)

Proactive Langauge

There is nothing I can do about it. That’s just the way I am. He makes me so mad. They won’t allow that. I have to do that. I can’t. I must. If only.

Let’s look at our choices. I can choose how I respond. I control my own feelings. I can create an excellent project. I will choose an appropriate reaction. I choose. I can. I will.

You choose which language you use. You choose your reaction. You

choose whether or not to be proactive.

EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES IN LIFE. Even effective leaders make mistakes! But when they do, they choose to be proactive and

1) acknowledge the mistake they made immediately “I made a mistake” 2) do whatever they can to fix the mistake “I am so sorry!” 3) learn from it “what actions can I choose to do so that this won’t happen again?”

If you make a mistake, don’t waste even a second of time making another mistake by choosing not to acknowledge it. It takes a proactive, strong person with a lot of courage and character to admit that they made a mistake.

One very important thing that proactive people do is focus on things that they can do something about.

If you choose to focus on the things you can control, you will be a much more effective person in life. No matter how hard you try, you can only control what you do and how you act.

If you want to be someone’s friend, you cannot control whether or not they want to be your friend. All you can control is whether or not you are a nice, friendly, considerate person. If you choose to focus on doing things in life that make you a nice, friendly, considerate person, then people will just naturally want to be your friend.

Focussing on things that you cannot control is a waste of time and

energy. By focussing on things you cannot control, you are taking your focus away from the things you can control: yourself and your actions. Proactive people focus on the things they can control.

Things you can control 

(you and your actions) 

Things you can’t control 

(other people) 

Integrity

Proactive people make and keep promises to themselves and others. By saying you are going to do something and by actually doing it, you build trust within yourself and with others. This sense of trust, pride and importance that you have knowing you can keep a promise is called integrity.

What you can be VERSUS What you could have

Proactive people focus on what they can be in the circumstances they are put in. They do not focus on what would happen if they “only had” something.

Rather than saying “If only I was better at math,” proactive people say “I can be better at math if I work on my subtraction facts every night.”

Rather than saying “If I had a nicer sister I would be able to get along with her,” proactive people say “I can be a better brother to my sister by helping her with her homework.”

You can only control yourself. If you focus on what you can be

right now with what you have, you will be a very effective person.

Summary of Habit #1

PROACTIVE PEOPLE… • Know that they choose how to respond to things that

happen in life

• Never say they have to do something

• Bring their own weather with them (choose to shine light on situations)

• Use proactive language (not reactive)

• Focus on things that they can control

• Make and keep promises to themselves and others. They have intergrity.

• Acknowledge mistakes right away, correct them and learn from them

• ALWAYS ask themselves: “how am I going to react?”

• Focus on what they can be and what they can do with what they have - not on what they could have.

Are you a proactive person? 

 

 

 

“Your days are you life in miniature.”

Robin Sharma

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Habit # 2

 

 

 

 

So far you’ve learned that effective people and leaders are PROACTIVE. They know that they are responsible for making choices in life. Now, you are about to learn the second habit that effective people and leaders develop: They begin with the end in mind. This means that whatever they do, they are always thinking about they want the end result to be.

What do you want people to say about you when you are not around?

Think of 5 or 6 words that you would like to be described as. Do you want to be described as kind? patient? intelligent? The words that you choose describe your “end” or “goal.” Whatever you do in life, you need to keep those words in mind. If you want to be described as kind, then everything you do, you need to keep that in mind. Whenever you work with others, you need to choose to be kind. As you make the choice to be kind every day, you will be demonstrating that you are a kind person. Everything you do, you need to keep the end in mind.

Personal Mission Statement

In order to help you focus on your end (what means most to you) many effective people and leaders create personal mission statements. These mission statements are usually a few sentences that describe the goals of the people who write them. They are there to remind the people who wrote them what their goal or mission is! They really help people to focus on what is important to them. If people focus on what is important, everything they do will support their goal or end.

 

Visualizing

Effective people and leaders visualize. Visualizing means making a movie in your mind about what you want to be in life. Visualizing will help you reach your goals.

This does not mean that if you visualize winning a million dollars, this will automatically happen. What it does mean though is that if you visualize your mission statement, your end or your goals, if you visualize what is most important to you, this will help you keep focus and will get you closer to your goals.

Keep visualizing what is important to you. Close your eyes and picture yourself being all those things that you wished people thought and said about you. If you want to be described as a generous person, then visualize yourself being generous. If you want to be described as intelligent, then visualize yourself working your hardest in school.

Visualizing all by itself will not make things happen. You have to put your visions into action. Visualizing will help you to remember what is most important to you.

 

 

 

Summary of Habit #2

People who begin with the end in mind…

• Think about what they would like to be described as by other people

• Determine what is most important to them

• Create personal mission statements

• Visualize their mission statements

Do you begin with the end in mind? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Habit # 3

 

 

Now we know that effective people and leaders are proactive and they begin with the end in mind. The third habit that effective people have is that they put first things first. This means that they don’t waste time that can be put towards reaching their goals! If you look at the chart below, you can see the four ways that you can spend your time. You can spend your time doing urgent, important activities. You can spend your time doing urgent, not important activities. You can spend your time doing non urgent but important activities or you can spend your time doing not urgent, not important activities.

Effective people put first things first. Even though emergencies come up every once in a while, effective people make a habit of spending most of their time on not urgent, important activities. They spend their time on activities such as spending quality time with people they love or taking up new hobbies that may be part of their personal mission statement (like cooking!) Effective people spend very little time on activities that are not going to help them reach their goals. They try their very best not to waste time. 

 URGENT

(must be done right away) NOT URGENT 

(you can take your time doing it) 

IMPO

RTANT 

 Emergencies Deadlines 

Building relationships Planning 

Exploring new opportunities 

NOT 

IMPO

RTANT 

 Interruptions Some activities 

 

Time wasters(TV, video games) Busy Work 

 

 

 

Summary of Habit #3  

 

People who put first things first…

• Figure out what is most important to them (create a mission statement based on how they want people to know them– Habit #2)

• Participate in activities that are consistent with their mission statement

If you want to be known as a kind person,

spend time doing kind things

• Don’t waste their time doing activities that do not help them reach their goals

(if you want to be known as intelligent, don’t spend most of your time playing video games)

 

 

 

 

Do you put first things

first? 

 

Public Victories Public victories are words that are used to describe 

victories that you find and develop between you and other people.  When you have mastered the private victory habits 

(habits 1, 2 and 3) you will be in a very good position to master the 

public victory habits (habits 4, 5 and 6).

 

Habit #4

Habit #5

 

Habit #6

 When you have a bank account, you make deposits and withdrawals.  Deposits are 

when you put money into the bank account.  Withdrawals are when you take money out of the bank account. 

People have emotional bank accounts.  Emotional bank accounts don’t involve money.  Instead, they involve trust and kindness.  When you are nice to 

someone, you are                      making          a deposit in their                 emotional bank account!  It’s that easy!                 If you make a promise to     someone and keep it,               you are making a 

deposit in their                   emotional bank account     and are building                    trust between you and 

them! Again,                 it’s that easy!    Even though it is                 easy to make       deposits in people’s                 emotional bank accounts,       it is EASIER to make                 with drawls.  If you say      something mean to someone (to their face or behind their back) or make a promise and do not keep it, you are making a BIG with drawl from that person’s bank account.  Their trust and respect in your relationship with that person will take a huge leap 

downwards.  The balance of a bank account (one that has money in it) describes how much money 

is in that account.  For example, my bank account balance is $153. The balance of an emotional bank account describes how much trust you have 

between you and that person. For example, the emotional bank account between my sister and I is high because my sister has made a lot of deposits in my emotional bank account and I have made a lot of deposits in her emotional bank account. That means that the trust level between my sister and I is high.  We trust each other a lot. Have 

you made a deposit in any emotional bank accounts lately? 

 

 When making deposits in someone’s bank account, it is VERY important to know 

the people you have a relationship with.  A deposit (a very good thing) for you may be a withdrawal (a very bad thing to someone else).  Here is an example! 

I LOVE peanut butter cookies.  They are my favorite.  I want to make a deposit in my neighbour’s emotional bank account by doing a random act of kindness and giving them a batch of the best cookies in the world: peanut butter chocolate chunk cookies. When I go to deliver these amazing cookies to my neighbor, she slaps the plate out of my hand and runs away scared!  I am so disappointed because I thought we would become better friends after my nice gesture.   

What I didn’t know was that my neighbor was allergic to peanut butter.  What would have been a deposit for me was a withdrawal for her!  If I had of known my neighbor a little bit better, I would have known that giving her peanut butter chocolate chunk cookies would be a withdrawal from her emotional bank account.  I could have made the decision to make her oatmeal raisin cookies or a batch of brownies instead!  Now my poor neighbor is afraid to eat any treats I bring her.  She does not trust my baking because her emotional bank account had a huge withdrawal from me! 

Even though I did not do this on purpose it is important to really make sure that what you are doing for someone is perceived (taken) as a deposit rather than a withdrawal.  Some people love hugs.  Being given a hug for these people would be a deposit! It would make them feel good towards you and that would build your relationship.  But some people do not like hugs.  Being given a hug for these people would be a withdrawal! It would make them feel uncomfortable around you and that would hurt your relationship.     Talk to people to find out what makes them happy and what makes them feel good.  If you know this, you will know how to make deposits and build up that emotional bank account between you two!

  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Habit # 4

 

 

 

  

Thinking win-win is the first public victory habit of highly effective people. Thinking win-win means that when there is a decision to be made, the people involved try to find a solution that will be good for both parties involved.

Decisions can be made in five different ways: 1) Win-Win: you and all people involved are happy 2) Win-Lose: you are happy but others are not 3) Lose-Win: you are not happy but others are 4) Lose-Lose: no one is happy with the decision 5) No Deal: everyone decides to not make a decision right away

By thinking win-win, you are constantly looking for ways to make

sure that everyone benefits and all people feel good. Some people think that it has to be my way or someone else’s way. That does not have to be true! If you think win-win, then you are working with others to find a third way that works best for everyone!

To really think win-win, we need to have three important things: 1) Integrity: we need to place value on ourselves and know that we

are important 2) Maturity: we need to act in a grown up responsible way. 3) Abundance Mentality: Abundance means that there is a lot of

something. Mentality means the way you think. Abundance Mentality refers to people thinking that there are a lot of good things to share with everyone in this world.

 

 

 

Some people think that if someone

has something that makes them happy, they won’t be able to find something that makes them happy as well. They think that there are not enough good things to go around: either you get what you want or I get what I want. Thinking win-win and having the abundance mentality is a

new way of thinking because people who think this way, know that there are a lot of good things for everyone to have. They think: If you have something that you are happy with then GREAT! I can have something I am happy with too! Thinking this way means that you have the abundance mentality and that you are well on your way to thinking win-win! Deciding what to play at recess is a great way to practice thinking win-win: If you and your friend are deciding what to play and you choose basketball (your favorite sport) but your friend does not like basketball, then you are making a Win-Lose decision: you get what you want but your friend does not. If you and your friend are deciding what to play and your friend chooses the swings (his fabourite activity) but you do not like the swings, then you are making a Lose-Win decision: your don’t get what you want but your friend does. If you and your friend are deciding what to play and you argue through the entire recess trying to decide, you are making a Lose-Lose decision: neither of you got what you wanted because you were arguing the entire recess!

 

If you and your friend are deciding what to play and you suggest a

third alternative: going on the teeter totter because you know both like the teeter totter, then you are making a Win-Win decision. Now, both of you are going to be participating in an activity that you like! If you and your friend decide that for this recess you are going to play by yourselves but at lunch you are going to talk again about what to play so that you can both do what you would iike for this recess, then you are making a No Deal decision: you have politely decided to not play with one another because you could not come to a decision that would make you both happy. Sometimes it’s ok to make a NO DEAL decision. You will not always be able to agree on somethings with people. Deciding to go your own separate ways for a while until you can come back and talk about it again is a mature decision. Once you go away and then come back, sometimes it is easier to make win-win decisions! Sometimes Win-Lose decisions feel good. You get what you want right away and that feels good! This is not a good situation at all though because by you getting what you like, you are hurting, or making a withdrawl from the other person’s bank account. By working together to make win-win decisions, everyone will be happy in the long run and you will be making deposits into each other’s emotional bank accounts.

 

 

Summary of Habit #4

People who think Win-Win:

• Always try to find a solution that everyone is happy with

• You can make decisions that are:

• Win-Win * Win- Lose

* Lose- Win ~ Lose- Lose & No Deal

• To think Win-Win you need to have integrity, maturity and an abundance mentality (thinking that there are enough good things in this world for everyone to have some) as

• It is ok to choose No Deal if you cannot reach a Win-Win decision

Do you think Win-Win? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

“Cooperate with others, Compete only with yourself.”

Harry Wong

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Habit # 5

 

 

       

Imagine going to the doctor and before you can even tell her what is wrong, she writes you a prescription for some medicine. Would you trust that doctor? Would you think that she really knows what you need to feel better? I know I sure wouldn’t! She didn’t even listen to what I had to say! She didn’t even know if I had a broken leg or a runny nose!

People communicate in four main ways:

Reading, Writing, Speaking and Listening

When we go to school, we work a lot on learning how to read and write and we also learn how to speak to others. The one thing that we don’t learn as well is how to really listen to others.

How many times have you had a conversation with someone and rather than sitting there and really listening, you were thinking about how you were going to respond or you were thinking about what topic you wanted to bring up next. Everyone does this. People want to share their stories with each other and that’s a good thing! What isn’t a good thing is when a friend tries to talk to you about something very important and instead of listening, you try to come up with some advice before you really hear what your friend is saying. This is just what the doctor in the little story above did. She was giving advice and telling you what she thought before she even listened to you! Habit #5 of Highly Effective people is to seek first to understand, then to be understood. This habit is all about listening. Habit #5 means that in a conversation, really listening to someone and trying

 

 

 

 

to understand where they are coming from is A LOT more important than you trying to give your ideas and advice to them. People like to be listened to. Think about how GREAT you feel when you have a conversation with your mom, dad, sister, brother or friend and they really listen and try to understand what you are talking about. I know it makes me feel important, loved, respected and understood! That is such a great feeling!

Now imagine if you could make everyone you had a conversation with feel this way! You absolutely can do this! All you have to do is really listen. Don’t try to think about what you are going to say when they are done speaking. Just listen. Try to picture yourself in the situations they are talking about. Visualize the events they are talking about happening to you. This will really help you understand the person you are listening to and will make your friend feel important, loved, respected and understood!

Challenge yourself to practice listening to people around you. When

you are working in a group, listen first to what others have to say, ask questions and really try your best to understand what their ideas are. Once you understand where they are coming from, communicate your own ideas and try to help others understand what your ideas are.

Be Proactive and make the choice to listen first, speak second. Every

time you really listen to someone you are making a deposit in their emotional bank account. What better way is there to show someone you care than to listen to what they have to say!

 

       THEN 

  

Summary of Habit #5

People who Seek First to Understand then to be Understood…

• Listen First, Speak Second

• REALLY listen when someone is speaking. Don’t be thinking about what you are going to say next.

• Try to understand what the other person is saying by asking questions.

• Listening is a great way to make a depoit in another person’s emotional bank account.

Do you seek first to understand, then to be understood? 

 

 

 

 

Habit # 6

            

     

This is one of the neatest habits because it is almost impossible to develop this habit if you have not already developed the other 5 habits.  Habit #6 of Highly Effective People is Synergize! Synergizing means to cooperate with other creatively.  It means being proactive and making the decision to open your mind up to new ideas. It means seeking first to understand others      and communicating well with them. Synergizing is the idea that         you can accomplish so much more if you put your minds together.   

 Think of a house. All by themselves, the hammer, the chimney, the toilet,    

   the          plant and the wall are useful.  When you put them together             though, when you synergize, you can make something incredible!         You can make a house!  Nature synergizes all the time.  

If you plant two seeds               close to one another, their roots will intertwine and each plant             will be stronger           than it would have been all by itself.         If you put two       pieces of wood together, they will hold much more weight than         either piece of wood could hold on its own.  Synergyzing makes  

things      better and stronger than they were before!     Effective     people synergize all the time.  They know that even though they          have amazing ideas, when they talk to others and work together, they                   can come up with   something that is even                  better than what they could have come up with              alone!  When you        synergize you are                     working as a team, supporting each other                and encouraging one        another’s ideas! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  

When you synergize with others, it is very important that you BE PROACTIVE.  Working with others is not always easy.  You will not always agree with what others have to say.  You cannot control if others will listen well.  What you can 

control though is yourself. You can be proactive and choose to  

Respect other’s differences  Not take insults personally  Look at the good in the situation and use it!  Listen well to others and try to understand them (Habit #5)  Express your ideas and communicate well  Say “Good! You see things differently than I do!” when someone disagrees with you  Work together and look for a win‐win alternative 

 One thing is for certain:  When you work together and communicate well, 

when you synergize with others, you are helping each other reach your full potential. If you think you are have great ideas now, just wait until you synergize with others! Together you will come up with ideas you never even dreamed of!

 

  

Summary of Habit #6

• Working together with others is so much more powerful than working alone

• When you synergize you are using the first five habits you have learned

• Synergizing is so effective even nature does it!

Do you synergize?

 

  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Habit # 7

                 

 

 

   

   

Sharpen the Saw is the Seventh and final habit of highly effective people. It is not about public or private victories. Instead, it is about taking care of yourself so that all other six habits are possible.

Imagine you come across someone in the woods working VERY

hard trying to saw down a tree. You ask them what they’re doing and they reply by saying: “Can’t you see? I’m sawing down this tree!” “You look exhausted” you exclaim “How long have you been at it?” “Over five hours” he responds “and I’ve exhausted! This is HARD work!” “Well, why don’t you take a short break and sharpen the saw? I’m sure it would go a lot faster if your saw was sharp!” “Are you crazy?” he replied “I don’t have time to sharpen the saw, I’m too busy sawing!” This may sound crazy to you but many people get so busy working that they forget to sharpen their saw (take care of themselves). Habit #7 is all about taking care of yourself.

 

Everyone is made up of four main elements: body, mind, spirit and

social. When you sharpen the saw, you have to make sure you are taking care of each of these four areas.

Body: Sharpening the Saw here means that you get yourself moving! Exercise helps you stay fit and healthy. It is very important to take care of your body by exercising and eating right. If you are sick all the time you certainly won’t be very effective! Mind: Sharpening the Saw here means that you read, write, explore and push your mind further than you thought possible. Make yourself think. Television and video games don’t push your mind to grow. Reading a good book or doing something you have never done before does! Put first things first and sharpen your mind! Spirit: Sharpening the Saw here means that you leave the noise and commotion of life and take time to focus on what is most important to you (look to your personal mission statement). This may mean you go to church. This may mean you take some time to sit and enjoy nature. This may mean you take time to spend with the people you love. Whatever you do, make sure you are focusing on what is most important in your life. Social: Sharpening the Saw here means that you help others. Doing random acts of kindness and making deposits in other’s bank accounts are wonderful ways to sharpen your social saw.

Doing all of these things and really taking care of yourself is a great way to make a deposit into your own emotional bank account!

Summary of Habit #7

• Take care of yourself

• Sharpen all four areas of your life: your mind, your body, your spirit and your social

• Sharpening the Saw helps you make deposits into your own personal bank account!

Have you sharpened your saw lately? 

 

Glossary 

Integrity: By saying you are going to do something and by actually doing it, you build trust within yourself and with others. This sense of trust, pride and importance that you have knowing you can keep a promise is called integrity.

Character: describes they type of person you are. Do you have a kind character? Do you have a loud character?

Effectiveness: Effectiveness is being able to do something well.

Primary Greatness: Primary Greatness is achieved by being a good, kind and thoughtful person who is happy with themselves and treats everyone, including themselves with respect. You achieve primary greatness by having integrity and character.

Secondary Greatness: Secondary Greatness is achieved when you are recognized by others for your talents rather than your character. An example of secondary greatness is winning a trophy or getting an A+ on your report card.

Habit: A habit is something you automatically do over and over again. You can develop a habit on purpose or by accident

Visualizing: Is picturing in your mind what your goals are and what you want to accomplish. Visualizing helps you remember what is most important to you.

 

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Resources Front Page

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Primary Greatness versus Secondary Greatness Clipart

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Private Victories

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Begin With the End in Mind

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Put First Things First

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Public Victories

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Emotional Bank Accounts

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Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

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Synergize

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