Verbal Seduction Tips: Increase Her Sexual Arousal and Make Her Want You

The power of seduction is in your voice. Use it to seduce women into your arms and into your bedroom...

When you use my my verbal seduction tips, women will feel more sexual attraction for you. This approach allows you to seduce a woman with your words and then with your body, so it's a double-attack on her senses!

Have you ever approached a random woman who made it obvious that she liked you and wanted to talk to you? Then, after you began speaking, she suddenly looked disappointed and walked away, leaving you wondering what you did wrong.

Often, its because the way you are using your voice is unattractive to women. Good body language, eye contact and conversational skills are not enough to seduce a woman into your bedroom. You also need to know how to use verbal seduction.If youre ready to put some of verbal seduction tips to use in your own life, let's get started!

Record your voice: Use a handheld voice recorder, your answering machine or computer software to get a voice sample. Just use your natural voice to get an idea of how you sound when talking to women. Start a conversation with an imaginary woman. Then, try to keep it going and keep it interesting.

Listen to the results: Be honest to yourself about what you hear and make a note on what you need to change. Maybe you tend to speak too fast or too slow, or do not take the time to clearly pronounce words when talking.

Practice changing your vocal tones: Work on the areas of your voice that need improvement by repeating a statement or phrase with different vocal tones, re-recording as needed until you have improved your skills.

If your voice sounds nervous, unemotional or boring, make your tone of voice warmer and sometimes a little more sexual. You can do this by lowering your tone and little and smoothing the rhythm of your voice out as you talk.

You can use my verbal seduction tips to:

Turn up her attraction: Whenever you are speaking to a woman, you can use certain verbal seduction techniques to increase her attraction. It helps when you are on the telephone, in person, on a date or in the bedroom.

Make yourself more confident: Your tone of voice will often determine whether a woman says yes when you ask her out, or suggest something. The more confident you are the better. Just make sure that its relaxed confidence.

Make her want you and only you: The texture and tone of your voice is different from anyone elses in the world. Your voice is a personal signature that you carry around with you, helping you connect with women in a unique way.

Change her perception of you: Maybe you dont make the best first impressions with women. Use my verbal seduction tips to make her feel like you are the perfect man she has been waiting for.

Verbal seduction may be the key to help you finally break free from being just friends with the girl you secretly love, getting youre a woman that youre dating casually ready to have sex with you, or helping you to feel confident and relaxed while talking with and interacting with women.I want to teach you so much more about verbal seduction and if click below, I'll show you how you can access my BEST verbal seduction tips.

Alpha Male Voice Resonator

Alpha Male Voice Resonator As promised, from my post about Alpha Body Language', I offered techniques on how to achieve that deep booming voice' that most of the gurus talk about. And since the only people I enjoy teasing are women, I'm going to deliver the goods.

Background: I consider myself a good/ very good actor. I don't have problems getting work, but if there is one area where I outclass mostly every other actor in, it is with my voice. I make my living doing cartoon voices and dubbing movies.

Okay, so you're in a club, you're opening a set, and you have to keep their attention with, among other things, a voice that can project over the loud music. Now, a simple method would be to lower your voice by talking deeper. Many people try this by just lowering their Adam's apple. This is wrong. Many may find by the end of the night, that their voice is totally fucked after yelling for a bunch of hours in a smokey environment. If you want to permanently fuck up your voice for years to come, then keep doing this. However, if you want to develop a voice where you don't have to yell, and you just naturally speak in an Alpha voice, then read on.

1. Breath placement/ resonators.

First, let's locate the proper resonator placements. A resonator is basically where your voice vibrates from. Say this out loud "Ahhhhh" for about five seconds. Try to notice where your voice is vibrating from. There are four major resonators we are going to deal with here.

a. Head voice. Say "Ahhh" again, and try to make it resonate from the top of your head. Place your hand on the top of your head, and heighten your voice so that you feel the vibration on the crown of your head. You will notice this voice is far more high-pitched than your normal voice. Feel it? Good. That's your AFC voice. Use it only in comical situations.

b. Throat voice. Saying "Ahhhh" again, try to make it resonate from your throat voice. Now, you will notice that you have much more range here, but even when you lower your voice to a deeper tone, it will seem a bit forced.. almost like a newscaster or an informercal announcer. This is where most guys are resonating from. It's natural, but this must be fixed.

c. Chest resonator. Many times when I see an HB, my physiology reacts, and I begin to hold in my breath. My breath is held in the upper chest. All the air is in that upper area, and I stifle the full quality and range of my voice. I think a lot of us do this. If you are in this area, you are not relaxed. You want your deep, booming voice to come from a place where you are relaxed, as this will be congruent with your body language. Now, try to resonate your voice downwards so that it vibrates from your sternum. Your sternum is that vulnerable place center and downwards from your pecs and above your ab muscles. Say " ohhhh" to find this resonator.

d. Gutteral resonance. Okay, here we are: the Alpha resonator. Stand with your legs at shoulder width apart, and resonate the word "uhhhh" until you find it resonating from your lower belly, or your gut (guttural). You will find it to be much deeper than the others, and in fact, you will have to take a deeper, more relaxed breath to access this. You should be able to feel it resonate in your upper groin, and through your anus as well. It should feel good. In fact, when having sex, when you resonate your moaning from here, it increases the experience. Many tantra experts advocate this. As this is the place where you should be talking from, you will notice no strain on your throat, your adam's apple is centered, and you feel more relaxed. As well, you will notice that your lower belly will stick out somewhat. Notice how guys like Pavorotti are fat? His resonator is huuuuuge. Most operatic singers do NOT work their abs, as those tight muscles are too tight and inflexible to access this resonator. This also might seem conflicting with your Alpha body posture, but you will find that it flows with the curvature of your spine.

Okay, great, now that we've located this, it's time to sustain it. Your voice is built up with muscles, and as a lot of guys here go to the gym to work their biceps and pecs, you need to build these muscles as well on a day-by-day process. When I'm doing any performance, including call a chick on the phone, or going out to a club, I do a thrity minute routine to locate my voice and to center and relax myself. I don't have the time to give you my entire workout right now, but I will concentrate this small tutorial with the basic exercises that you will need to obtain, maintain and sustain the Alpha Male Resonator.

2. "Glottals Times Three : Ed Is An Odd Egg Up On An Eve"

Okay, you see that weird phrase up there that starts with "Ed" ? I want you to only use the vowels in each word. Sustain this sound, and resonate it three times, stopping briefly between each sound. Huh? I'll demonstrate:

a. "Ed" would be said as: "EhhhhEhhhh Ehhhhhh". Make sure you feel your belly resonating. Do not take an inhale between each one. Do it all on one breath, pausing briefly between each one, and sustaining the breath in the same position. Some of you may notice you are jutting your belly out, and your sound comes out choppy or forced. Keep doing this until it comes out smoothly, almost like a song.

b. "Is" would be "IhhhIhh Ihhhhhhh". Remember to sustain the last one longer than the first two.

c. "An" : This is what is called a "flat" a, as in "Apple" or "Aveue," or "Alpha". It is not the same "A" sound as "Apartment", "Always" or "Also". You notice this because as you watch the formation of your mouth you will see the shape inside your mind's eye changes. Try it. Feel where your mouth changes inside.

d. "Odd" This vowel sound sounds like "Awe". Like the o' in God. You will see it's easy to access the lower resonators here. Try this sound, as well as the "O" sound in words like " Owe" and "Over".

e. "Up" This sound is "Uhh.. uhhh.. uhhhhhhhhhh".

f. "An". Notice this vowel sound? It's the exact opposite as the one I spoke about in c.'

g. Eve' - (the stage name of my ex-girlfriend who's a stripper.. hehe). Notice this "E" sound to be totally different from the E' sound in Ed'. This resonator will resonate higher, more like in the chest.

As it is important to access the Alpha male resonator, try ALL of these in ALL of resonators. This is because in order to tell an interesting story, you need to use all sorts of different tonalities. As you begin to repeat these exercises on a daily basis, you will notice your higher resonating areas will begin to vibrate and resonate more loudly.

Let me just clear up something: Projecting your voice does not mean yelling. Amateur actors do this. When you go to the theatre, the actors are not yelling at each other, but they are speaking in a hightened voice so all can hear. As long as your voice resonates , you will not have to worry about yelling. The resonation takes care of this for you. It's like when an AFC driving his car by you booming his loud music. What do you hear when he drives off in the distance? The bass. Why is that? Most sound engineers and muisicians will tell you that bass travels farther than all other sounds because it vibrates through the ground. When my parents used to come into my room to tell me to lower my music, I wouldn't actually lower the volume. I'd just lower the bass, and they wouldn't complain again.

The goal here is to plug the bass' into ALL of your resonators so you can be heard clearly, and conscisely. As well, when doing your phone game, you will be astounded at how many girls will get turned on by your phone voice. I have f-closed so many girls over the phone over the years that I can't even count them anymore. This makes it so much easier to f-close them in real life, because they've already pictured doing this with you.

Have fun, practice these, and above all, let me know how it's going and if you need more clarification. I will post more exercises in the coming days/weeks as you master these. Some of these will blow your minds at how effective they are.

All the best.

Dudemtl

Become the Intelligent Conversationalist

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Its 10:30pm. The radio plays your favorite song as you sing at the top of your lungs in the shower. The date is set for 11pm, as you run through your mind the possible outcomes of the date.

Last night you and Sarah hit it off at the club, youre feeling good about the evening. The only problem was that you were pretty drunk, and you hope that you can bring the same energy that you brought last night. The date is set! Dinner and a movie, seems casual, right? Thats what they did back in the 60s, it must work now.

You drive up to Sarahs house and she jumps into your car. You start talking to her, but your nerves begin to get to you. Your voice is quiet when you speak, your eye contact is weak throughout the date. You speak with uncertainty, and the date rolls by with an awkward aura.

The date seems to crawl by, but Sarahs hot and you want another shot at her. When dropping Sarah off, you ask for a second date.

Sarah: Thanks! This was fun, but Im really not feeling it.

That girl was a bitch, bro..

I always find it funny when guys ask me what to say to girls. Fumbling for words is never a good thing, but its not the words that makes it bad, its the fumbling.

If you havent read my first book, check it out here. In the book I talk about how 93% of communication is nonverbal, and only 7% is verbal. Thats awesome, but how do you talk to girls and apply this knowledge? I can speak from experience by saying that when I wrote the book, I didnt fully understand how to apply the concepts.This week has been extremely good. Social Gym has brought a lot of valuable lessons, and Ive learned more about the other 93% of communication in these past two weeks than I have in the past 10 months.

Over the course of the past 10 months, Ive been avid in improving my body language. I have daily posture exercises, and I ensure that my movements are calculated and confident. The external actions have an effect on the internal state. A lot of people feel confident, so they have confident body language as a result. You can feel insecure, and have confident body language, and it will work its way outside in.

Ive never understood the tonality part, though. 93% is nonverbal. Of that 93%, 55% is Body Language, but were still left with the dreaded 38% of communication that has the ability to make or break your social interactions.

Tonality can be broken down into four basic categories. These categories have room for development, but these are the basic four as a starting template. Each one of these four categories is circumstantial based on the way we act through our emotions, but you can use these different kinds of pitch ranges to elicit different reactions.There is Breaking Rapport tonality, Neutral tonality, Seeking Rapport tonality, and Monotone.

Breaking Rapport

Dogs dont understand what youre saying, but they understand how youre saying it. If your dog takes a shit on your bed, youre not going to welcome him in with your voice.

Comeere boy!Youre going to scorn him for shitting on your bed.

HEY!Think of when your dad isnt yelling, but hes raising his voice. Breaking Rapport tonality means that youre communicating with the other person that you dont want something from them, in a way you want to scorn them. The vocal pitch in your voice curves downwards when you say something. Hey!! You pooped on my bed!As the dog runs and hides. Breaking rapport tonality comes out through emotion when one is angry, annoyed, pestered.

Monotone

I hate talking to people with no vocal fluctuation. Think of the teacher that lectured for hours without raising or lowering his vocal pitch. He says the same thing, as if reading it directly off of a piece of paper. You may recall using this tonality when your parents told you to clean your room.

Yeah, yeah, Ill do it.Monotone responses convey that youre not at all interested in what the other person is saying, or in what youre saying. Monotone tonality naturally comes out when one is disinterested, or distant.

Seeking Rapport

Youre in the store at 5 years old and you see the toy that you want.

Moooooommm! Cann I please have that??Seeking rapport tonality communicates that you want something from the other individual. Think of calling your dog with a warm, welcoming tone. Think of when you were young and you wanted something from the store, think of when your having a fight with your girlfriend.

Babe, Im sorry.Seeking Rapport tonality naturally comes out in times of nervousness, or when youre anxious, and tends to be spoken from the throat instead of the chest. Seeking Rapport tonality always communicates that you want something from the other individual. It comes across weak and beta.

Neutral

Neutral tonality is the best tonality to have. Neutral tonality fluctuates between breaking rapport, and seeking rapport. Neutral tonality is best communicated with a strong voice, speaking from the chest. Neutral is the best of all worlds. Neutral communicates that youre emotionally stable.

Breaking rapport, seeking rapport, and monotone tonality is all based on emotional responses to situations. Breaking rapport communicates that you are angry, monotone communicates that you are disinterested, seeking rapport communicates that you are nervous and wants something.

Neutral tonality means that you are in control of your emotions, and although we tend to act through them, neutral tonality communicates that one is emotionally stable. You have a wide range of emotions, and being in control of your tonality at all times allows you to communicate the tonality that you want, instead of letting your emotions dictate your tonality.

Tonality in Conversation

Each one of the different types of tonality has situational relevance. Ill go into other articles on this topic, but some quick examples are this.

Breaking Rapport tonality is best used in the club, when communicating with high value individuals. Hey. I just had to meet you, spoken with a bit of sternness communicates neutrality. By saying hey, I had to meet you, youre communicating interest. The way you say it though, communicates that you dont need something from them. This is best in nightclub scenarios, because high value individuals are usually approached with individuals seeking rapport. The weak vocal pitch mixed with an opener of interest communicates that one is a low value individual.

Neutral Rapport tonality is best used in 90% of social interactions. Staying emotionally stable is an attractive quality. Fluctuate between seeking rapport, and breaking rapport tonality. (Raise your vocal pitch, and lower your vocal pitch in conversation.)

Try it right now. Say Hey, come here with a stern voice, then say Hey, come here with a warm, welcoming voice. Then meet in the middle with a neutral tonality. Hey, come here. Approaching people in the day, neutral tonality is the best kind to use, because no one wants to be scorned (breaking rapport) when awoken from their daze, but nobody wants to talk to somebody who wants something from them (seeking rapport). You need to be making sure youre calibrating your energy to the environment.

Seeking Rapport tonality always communicates nervousness. This is the tonality that 99% of men fall into when theyre first out meeting new people, or when theyre on a date and the nerves get to them. Their vocal pitch fluctuates upwards; and this communicates one is nervous, or uneasy.

Avoid Seeking Rapport, and Monotone tonality. 99% of men communicate by seeking rapport. Become aware of this flaw, and fix it in your voice right now. Anytime someone rejects you, isnt listening to you, or turns away from you, this means that your tonality isnt communicating the right amount of value to them. Tonality and body language is the easiest way to communicate value to another individual, for a man who speaks up with the thoughts on his mind is a man who is always listened to.

It Actually IS How You Say It

The words that come out of your mouth are only worth 7% of communication. This means that as long as you arent being crude and vulgar, the words are nearly irrelevant. Its how youre communicating those words, that makes or breaks your social interaction. 55% of communication is body language (message me for help here), 38% of communication is tonality, and 7% of communication is words.

These three elements of conversation combine into 100% which creates your vibe. Everyone talks about vibes, but no ones been able to define them. Your vibe is all three elements of communication combined into one. Get a handle on the 93%, and the 7% will be nearly irrelevant. You want to send those good vibrations, and leave people feeling with positive emotions? It starts with the way youre saying the things that you are saying to them. Fix your vibe, apply the theory in this article.

Delivering patterns - tonality

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The way you deliver the patterns determines the difference between making her feel wonderful deep inside or you sounding like a phoney or a pathetic clown reciting some weird-sounding monologue or script.

Presenting her with the text accomplishes you nothing, the words itself will not make her feel anything. You have to be the text you deliver, you have to feel it with her, be with her every step of the way until the final eruption:) (Yes, women have been reported to have orgasms simply by listening to patterns being delivered the right way:). So memorising the patterns presented in this guide does nothing for you, unless you really live out and not simply recite every word to her.

The patterns that you can find on www.seduction.com or in this guide are mere examples of what pattern-talk is like, they are not spells that make magic things happen just because they are mumbled out loud. You can certainly start by memorising some patterns, but you will start having real success only when you'll be able to make up a pattern on the fly about anything, that is exciting and close to heart for that one specific girl you are talking to. It helps if you have a soft, low, mesmerising and a slightly hypnotic voice, and if you don't try to modulate your voice to become as such while delivering your patterns:)

(ASF:) "Using a low, seductive voice may seem unnatural at first, but you must practice. Try tape recording your own voice so you get an idea of how you sound in general. Then tape yourself reciting a scripted pattern. You'll hear how stilted and unnatural it sounds. Now tape yourself while improvising that same pattern, but this time work on making how you say the words sound soothing and, well, seductive. Don't worry about screwing up the word order, just concentrate on HOW YOU SAY IT. Also - pause mid-sentence to create a sense of anticipation and mystery."

Update. Adapted from Ross Jeffries' public seminar tanscript no 1:

Ross: Some of you, your tonality, up until tonight sucked. It just sucks. You need to practice. You've got to make a commitment to practice these skills. How many people here walk? How many people here talk? How many people here can stand up? How many people here are toilet trained? Keep your hand down, Bruce. Just teasing, ok. Do you think those are all things that you acquired immediately? Did you pop out of the womb being able to do it? You had to practice. You must practice these skills on a consistent basis. I don't know why I have to continue to hammer on this point before you get it and incorporate it. So let's work on controlling tonality, let's put your notes down. I dont want to see anyone writing or holding notes, anyone with a pen in their hand will find their gentile is shrinking. And some of you have no time to waste. How many of you know what the vowels are? What are the vowels?

Audience: A,E,I,O,U

Ross: Wrong, here are the vowels. AAAA, EEEE, IIII, OOOO, UUUU. Those are the vowels. So we're going to do an exercise. Put one hand on your chest so you can feel the residence of your voice, take a deep breath, put your head back and say with me. AAAA, EEEE, IIII, OOOO, UUUU. Welcome to the five hour orgasm. Ok. When you speak to a woman, you should be speaking such that your voice resinates. When you practice these patterns out loud, and you must practice every pattern OUT LOUD. Not in your head. Out loud, because you're speaking these out loud. So, we must learn to control our tonality. Ok, let's try another exercise. Let's pick a neutral word like watermelon. Ok. Let's all just say watermelon.

Audience: Watermelon

Ross: Try it one more time

Audience: Watermelon

Ross: Ok, now. I want you to remember a time when you were angry, really pissed off and say watermelon as if you were expressing that angry feeling. Ready?

Audience: Watermelon

Ross: Again

Audience: Watermelon

Ross: Alright, can you remember a time when you were curious? I want you to say watermelon with a tonality of curiousity. Ready?

Audience: Watermelon

Ross: Watermelon, and now seductive and sexy. Say watermelon. Let's start with this row, ok guys. Let's hear you do your watermelon seductive and sexy, are you ready?

Audience: Watermelon

Audience: Laughs

Ross: Do you see what I mean? Look, ok, let's hear you say the words, seduce me, let's hear you say seduce me.

Audience: Seduce me

Ross: Louder, put your hand on your chest, get the resident, no these guys only, put your head back, take a deep breath and go, seduce me, make it resinate. Say it out loud.

Audience: Seduce me

Ross: Better, a little louder. This is not observant. Do it. Seduce me, better, ok, now do watermelon.

Audience: Watermelon

Ross: Suck it in like this and go watermelon.

Audience: Watermelon

Ross: He's got it. Nicky, come on in and have a seat. Ok, do you guys want to try it? Let's hear it. Let's hear the sexiest watermelon in the world. Are we ready?

Audience and Ross: Watermelon

Ross: That's good. He's got it, go ahead, one more time.

Audience: Watermelon

Ross: Very good. Ok, all together, ready. 1, 2, 3,

Audience and Ross: Watermelon

Ross: If you guys need extra help on doing this you have my permission to call two 900 numbers. I'm serious. Take them and listen to how these women speak. Ok, if necessary, call a gay 900 number.

Audience: Laughs

Ross: I'm serious, I'm serious and listen to how they speak. Here's a good way to make sure you say it right, get the feeling for yourself right here. And then as you're speaking to the woman, the feeling that you want her to feel will guide your tonality. Do you get that? So imagine the feeling that you want to feel right here and then allow that feeling to guide your voice. So as the warmth of that voice just wraps itself around you like a pair of legs around your neck, you'll know, really know, on the inside, just exactly what's happening, you know. You must learn to control your tonality. I can't emphasize this enough. It is the single biggest stumbling block. Some other ways to learn to control your tonality. Get a dictionary. Pick out words at random and experiment saying those words with the right tonality. Pick out loaded words like troop, love, seduction, connection. Write these words down. Troop, love, seduction, connection, desire, lust, absolutely fascinated. Ok. And work on saying these in the right tonality. I just cannot emphasize this enough. Trying to learn this without getting master of your tonalities is like trying to drive your car without gasoline. It's just not going to work.

Voice Tonality

The way you speak conveys a tremendous amount of information about who you are and how much value you have. Using your voice properly can help you hold a womans attention, and make what you say more attractive, almost regardless of the words coming out of your mouth. Follow these simple guidelines to improve the way women respond to your voice.

Speak Low

Women are attracted to masculine traits, and men tend to have lower voices then women. Therefore, it follows that women will respond better to your voice if you speak lower in pitch. This doesnt mean that you should speak in your best Barry White impression, rather, that you need to find the lowest natural part of your speaking voice and emphasize that.

Singers are often taught about singing from their belly, and you want to do the same thing. Experiment repeat a simple phrase, and see if you can feel it coming from your nasal cavity, your throat, your chest, and your belly. As you get used to those different feelings, youll notice that you can emphasize one or the other. You want to be speaking from the chest and gut, which will sound lower and more resonant than speaking from your throat or head.

Speak Slow

When someone panics, they usually speak faster. Theyre in a rush, worried that theyre not going to be able to say every thing they want to say. This is especially true with guys approaching attractive women. The words tumble out of them in a rush because theyre afraid the girl wont let them finish. What they dont realize is that the rushed speech communicates low value.

Alpha, dominant males speak slowly. They know that they can take their time because people will listen even hot women. Therefore, slow down. Take your time, and trust that what youre saying is worth your targets time.

Mystery even takes this to an extreme that can seem almost ludicrous. He will insert a pause before a key word a pause that sometimes seems big enough to drive a truck through. So my friend opens the package and inside is a book. Practice this technique, and notice how people tend to be drawn in by that little pause.

Be aware of the tendency most people have to speed up when they get nervous, and squash this habit. In fact, when you notice yourself getting nervous, feel free to just stop, take a deep breath, and then continue at a slower pace. Itll make you sound more in control, and that will help you feel more in control. As a result, youll be far more attractive to women.

Be Direct

Ums and Ahs and words to that effect are brutal value-killers. They make you sound uncertain and weak. Work to eliminate these from your diction. Luckily, when you feel yourself saying these things, you can usually just say nothing. The delay can function the same way as the pause Mystery intentionally inserts into his dialog.

Speak Loud

An alpha male is not afraid of the sound of his own voice. He knows that what he is saying is worth listening to. AFCs, on the other hand, tend to be constantly worried and afraid to speak up for themselves. Practice speaking just a little louder than youre used to. Project your words so people can hear you easily.

Following these simple tips loud, low, direct, and slow will have a huge impact on the amount of attraction you can build in a woman just by talking to her. Start working on your voice today and see your results skyrocket!

1. Body Language and Tonality for Attraction

Good body language means having no nervousness or tension in your body.

There are 3 types of body language: Macho, Good guy, and Nice guy. The

Macho guy takes up LOTS of space, and looks like he's overcompensating for something. A Nice guy takes up as little space as possible and looks insecure and beta to others. The Macho guy faade will get you rejected just as much as

the Nice guy faade. A "Good guy" is somewhere in between and projects a cool, relaxed image.

Using your body

Lean back

Take up space

Don't fidget, and be relaxed

Smile occasionally but not all the time, it looks insecure if you're constantly smiling

Slow down your movementseven BLINKING and looking around. Relax your breathing.

Always eye contact, eye contact, eye contact! Use triangular gazing to amplify sexual state (looking softly from one eye to the other, to her lips, repeat)

Lean away from women when talking. Rarely lean in.

Use body language as a reward or punishment/take away. If she says something you approve of, move in closer or touch her briefly, or turn your body more to face her. If she says something that you disapprove of, lean back, cross your arms or take a step back, or turn your body more away from her.

Move into her and "slightly" intrude on her personal space. Move in and whisper in her ear if the place you're in is too loud. Have your lips "accidentally" brush her earlobe when you go to whisper in her ear.

If youre in a loud club, hold your drink close to your chest when talking to her. When you lean in to talk into her ear make it so that the outside of your forearm brushes against her breast gently and momentarily. You might find her starting to ask stupid questions just to have you lean in again!

If you're walking outside, have her lock elbows with you. This is powerful because it assumes that you're together.

Get noticed by your body language alone. Walk slowly, with your shoulders thrown back. Dont just walk, STRUT. Imagine the power youd be walking with if you were the King of France, walking on a red carpet just for you. Hold your head high and make eye contact with people frequently Moving in set Always remember that you need to keep MOVING while you're in set. Don't just walk up, plant yourself in front of the set, and game them stuck in place like a treeyoull come off weird. One thing that ALL good PUAs do is simply that they are ALWAYS MOVING while in set. Backturns, taking a few steps back then forward (as if youre about to leave), sitting down, moving the set around, etc.

Voice tone and projection

The Macho/Nice/Good trinity also applies to voice quality. For instance, a low voice (Nice guy) shows meekness and nervousness, whereas an overly loud voice (Macho guy) shoes overcompensation and insecurity. Also, when it comes to voice and speech matters, you want to try and cut out "placeholder" words (words that you throw in while your brain tries to think of what to say next).

Examples of this are "right," "um," and "you know."

Projecting your voice communicates strength and security, and people will take notice of you. It will allow you to take control of groups better, and is a very useful skill to have in a loud environment like a club or bar.

Also, work on speaking slower and deeper, andusingPAUSES.

Body language and tonality troubleshooting

There are four major cues that show a lack of confidence:

1. Speaking too quickly. You want to speak powerfully and clearly, projecting your voice. If you speak too quickly, it looks like you're just running your mouth and don't really know what to say.

2. Nervous energy. Having lots of nervous energy shows a serious lack of confidence, almost like you're not comfortable in your own body or nervous about talking to the girl. If you have this nervous energy, clasp your thumbs in you back pockets and lean back. This will make you look more laid back and relaxed even if you are screaming with terror on the inside.

3. Laughing at your own jokes. The last cue that gives away a lack of confidence is laughing at your own jokes. Laughing at your own jokes undermines the humor and makes it look like you're trying too hard to be funny. Allow others to determine what's funny and judge them on it. If you laugh at stuff that isn't funny, you look like a tool.

4. Nervous ticks and fidgeting. You may APPEAR calm and confident when talking to a woman, but if your foot is shaking, youre gritting your teeth, or youre tapping the table itll give away the fact that youre nervous. Work to eliminate these habits from your normal behaviors.

Tonality shifts are huge in all interactions with chicks at any stage. You dont want to be that boring guy. Change things up!

2. Being a Challenge

When a girl asks you what you did yesterday, never say, "Oh, I just sat around and was bored." Better to say, "I was up early to run errands and take care of business, then worked out, met a friend for supper, and went to work." Lie if you have to. And don't worry, you'll get used to it! "Fake it til you make it"

If a girl calls and asks what you are doing, reply with, "I just walked in the door" or "I'm just on my way out to take care of some things."

Don't hang on the phone for hours talking to girls indicating you don't have anything else to do. Get the business of the call over, be pleasant, then excuse yourself. Always try to get off the phone first.

By not calling a girl every night or contacting her every day, you show that you are busy and have other things that are important in your life besides her. This lets her know that she is going to have to compete for your time. Don't always return calls promptly.

If you run into her in public, be pleasant and friendly. Show her that you have an interest in her, but then excuse yourself because of having things to do. In this way, you show her that she is going to have to work for your time. You are not "easy."

By letting people know that you are a person doing things and active, you suggest a lot to a girl. Certainly, you must be someone who knows where you are going, hence, leadership. You play on her sense of wanting what she can't have because she will have to compete for your time with all of your other activities. You will appear to be different from all the other guys who are hanging on her begging for her time. She will suspect that there are other girls in your life or you wouldn't be so busy. And finally, she is going to have to use her charms to seduce you away from all these other activities - and girls just love a challenge.

Make her miss you. But in order for scarcity to be effective you have to be sure of one thing. The time she does spend with you must be absolutely amazing, and without a doubt the best time she could have with anyone. You need to be able to create an awesome, MEMORABLE experience with anyone, anywhere, especially when it really counts.

Also, she can NEVER be the first priority in your life. Always put her second to something, whether it be your family, career, friends, whatever, but leave a small piece of hope in her mind that she could become #1.

When dealing with women, DONT OVERSELL! Don't try too hard to attract and impress. When it shows you're trying too hard, bragging, etc, you're not a challenge, you're the one trying to prove your worth! Stay relaxed, and make the few actions and words you use COUNT. Try not to say more than two sentences in a conversation before you allow her to respond, and no more than five when telling a story.

3. Engaging the Competitive Instinct

Part of being a challenge is bringing out womens natural competitive instinct. Women want what other women have! Married men will tell you that they get more attention from women than when they were single. Theyre a CHALLENGE!

If you have a hickey, claw-marks on your back, get caught with lipstick on your collar, etc., say to the woman who noticed "Well, the ladies are marking their territory". Don't be all embarrassed and apologetic for it. You don't have to be exclusive with a woman to whom you have no commitment.

Create competition in the eyes of girlfriends by telling them when meeting their friends "I think your friend has a crush on me".

In your small talk, discretely drop hints that you have women in your life, possibly as more than friends. "My friend is supposed to come over tonight. *SHE* wants to watch a movie or something. But if she can't make it, I'll probably be going downtown."

If the conversation gets on dating and relationships (Which it will, because you will LEAD it there), throw in: "When I'm talking to girls and they ask me if I have a girlfriend, they seem really shocked when I say that I'm single." Shell pick up on the subcommunication: She KNOWS that when a girl asks a guy if he has a GF, thats an Indicator of Interest. She understands that these girls are attracted to you. This creates implied SOCIAL PROOF.

When asked if you see other women, never answer directly. Deflect with humor and say something like "No, other MEN" or "THOUSANDS. In fact while you were just in the bathroom I banged one of them." If she just won't leave you alone about it: "Well, yes I do go out with a lot of girls because I'm picky". Wait for her to talk. She'll most likely say: "How can you be picky if you go out with a lot of girls? It doesn't make sense." This is where you'll win her over by saying: "When I find the girl who can keep me interested then I'll stay with her. I need to go out with different girls to give myself a chance of finding her. Otherwise I'd have to just stay at home and I'll never meet my dream girl will I?" By ending this with "will I?" you put her in a position where it is her turn to answer and any reasonable, thinking woman will agree with what you're saying.

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Sub-Communication: Voice TonalityPosted by Aladin in UncategorizedAccording to a whole bunch of sources, over 90% of our communication is non-verbal. What does that mean? Weve all heard the phrase Its not what you say, its how you say it! and the reason why is because our body language, hand gestures and voice tonality (among many, many other things) actually speak louder than our words do.

Why tell a girl youre confident, when conveying this through confident body language and slow speech is so much more effective? Thus, understanding sub-communications is important, and voice tonality is a good place to start.

Voice TonalityYour tone of voice can be categorised into three types:

1. Seeking Rapport

2. Neutral Rapport

3. Breaking Rapport

Seeking rapport can be recognised in most situations where a subordinate is addressing someone of higher value (like the guy who tells the jokes with his eyes lit up, craving a reaction from the audience). The tone of voice travels higher, indicating uncertainty and an implied desire to connect with the other person (seeking approval).

Neutral rapport is less reaction- seeking. It doesnt imply any kind of emotional attachment and is seen in most situations where the interaction is one of social politeness instead of emotional investment. If you asked someone for the time, or directions to a Starbucks, they would probably answer in a neutral tone not seeking a reaction but not cutting off communication either.

Lastly, breaking rapport implies that you do not care whether the other person likes you you have no concern for their emotional response to you. This is the total opposite of seeking rapport usually you are expressing yourself through statements and have no interest in the other person.

How does this relate to game?

There are certain voice tonalities you want to be using, and ones you definitely dont. For example, few things will murder your attraction faster than using seeking rapport to talk to girls. In fact, the only time a seeking rapport tonality would be OK is when you are mocking her or another guy.

E.g. Youre too nice for me, you need a what-are-we-guy, like that guy over there! I should introduce you, he would be like *in a seeking rapport tone* Oh wow, a girl! Talking to me! This is so awesome. Just so you know Im a really good guy, Ill take you out and buy you nice things I wont try to get in your pants like those other guys.

For the most part, you want to alternate between neutral-rapport and breaking-rapport. Even though you like the girl, youre still a high value guy with options and self- confidence you dont emotionally overreach or seek reactions or approval. Its subtle, and most guys have no idea about this, but your voice tonality comprises a solid piece of your sub-communications use it to your advantage.

How to Develop a Confident, Attractive Voice

Great orators have the power to inspire the world. They lead with a strong presence and a confident voice that commands attention.

Could you imagine if Martin Luther King or John F. Kennedy mumbled with timid voices?

How you speak determines how people respond to you. Not just women youre interested in, but friends, strangers, employers, and everyone you come in contact with. You can dress well and have the best opening lines but you wont get far without a strong voice.

Understand Dominant and Submissive Vocal Tonality

There are two main types of vocal tonality: dominant and submissive.

Dominant voices express leadership, assertiveness, and security. They show youre not trying to impress anyone else. People will trust and respect you more.Submissive voices express uncertainty, passiveness, and doubt in yourself. They show youre seeking approval or validation from others. People will distrust and forget about what you have to say.

What makes a dominant voice and how do you achieve one?You dont have to sound like a screaming douchebag. But you do have to change the inflection you place on your sentences, especially towards the end.

Dominant voices stay the same or lower in pitch when finishing a sentence or phrase. It sounds like youre speaking your mind without hesitation. Submissive voices rise in pitch almost as if youre asking a question (when youre not) or looking for a response.

Timothy Marc has a helpful video that showcases the difference between the two.

Recognize and catch yourself when you revert to a submissive voice. The two most common instances are with women and higher-ups at work. Your voice naturally weakens when nervous or in a position where you feel inferior. Be proactive and work against it.

Exercise for developing a dominant voice:Practice by recording various phrases in a dominant and submissive tone. Pay attention to how the subtle changes in inflection make you sound. Feel the difference in emotion youre conveying. Repeat until this becomes second nature in your daily conversations.

Use Your Chest, Not Your Head Voice

Now that you understand the difference in vocal tone, we need to make sure your voice projects correctly. This will aid in building a dominant, authoritative voice.

There are two mediums of vocal projection: your chest and your head.

The chest voice uses your diaphragm to talk. This produces a more resonant, deep, and attractive tone that carries. It cuts through loud environments without having to yell or strain.

The head voice uses your throat to talk. This produces a thin, light, and grating tone that falls short. It will not go far and is the reason why guys struggle to be heard. Then they compensate by yelling which actually hurts their vocal chords.

Start by learning how to diaphragmatic breathe. Most people breathe too shallow which forces them to use their head voice during conversation. Once you learn how to breathe correctly, your best voice will come through.

See this article on diaphragmatic breathing techniques to get started. There are tons of instructional YouTube videos as well.

Exercise to find your chest voice:Hum at a comfortable pitch. Move the pitch slightly lower; pay attention to how your chest feels. Hum until you can feel the vibration in your chest. Continue humming and try to increase the vibration. Next, move the pitch slightly higher; pay attention to how your nose and mouth feel.

Open your mouth. Hum until you feel the vibration in your tongue and lips, behind and above your mouth. Continue humming and try to increase the vibration again. Finally, return to your chest once more. Repeat the whole exercise, always ending with your chest in order to develop a full, luscious sound.

Exercise to develop your chest voice:Sitting straight or lying down, put one hand on your stomach. Breath in, attempting to move your hand out as far as possible. Your stomach should rise while your chest stays relatively still.

Notice how it feels; this is how you want to breathe when you speak in order to use your entire lung capacity and get the fullest, strongest, and richest sound.

Exhale quickly but make no sound as you do. Sound is an indication of tension. Breath in again. Now, when you exhale, say the first letter of the alphabet. Continue until you reach Z.

As you progress through the alphabet, pretend that with each letter you are speaking to a target farther and farther away. By the time you reach the end, you should be very loud and strong.

Take 5 Steps to Build Your Best Voice

1. Speak slower. Nearly every person talks too damn fast. They believe rushing to say everything will keep the listeners attention. In fact, talking fast is difficult to understand, distracting, and will get tuned out. Annunciate your words clearly and fully. Take your time to speak with purpose.

2. Speak louder. You might think youre loud enough youre not. If you ever have to lean in or have someone asking What? then youre too quiet. From the above exercises, use your chest voice to aid in this.

Another tip that helped me tremendously is to speak through people instead of at them. Imagine someone standing 3-6 feet behind them and project your voice toward that.

3. Dont rush to respond. Give yourself an extra second or two to process what they just said. A confident man isnt afraid to collect his thoughts. Rushing to blurt out answers makes you seem anxious and like youre trying too hard.

4. Use pauses effectively. In the same light of not rushing, pace your words. Pause not only at the end of sentences, but in the middle of them as well. Think where commas fall as points where you can and should wait an extra second. Especially with stories, this builds suspense and engages the listener. Look at how Don Draper captivates a room with patience.

5. Speak with passion. Get excited damnit! Flat, monotone voices put people to sleep. Emphasize words in your sentences to reflect your emotions. Utilize animated facial expressions and expressive hand gestures to further enhance your conversation. If youre passionate about what you say, your audience will be passionate about it, too.

Growing up, I was always the kid with the soft-spoken, light voice. I would get down on myself that I didnt have a deep tone like some of my friends. One day I stopped the self-pity and put the effort into changing.

I used the advice above combined with a Roger Love vocal warm-up CD and practiced regularly. I still dont sound like Barry White, but I do have a richer, deeper and more attractive voice.

It completely changed the way people perceived me. I got taken more seriously. I received promotions in my workplace. Women responded with raw attraction and my dating success skyrocketed. Lastly, I became an accomplished, confident public speaker.

Change your voice for the better and itll change your life.

Let me introduce you to the first element of T.E.A.S.E., tonality. Tonality is very important when you go out and engage with women because tonality can actually sub communicate a lot of things.

It can sub communicate whether you are a confident person or you are an insecure person. It can reveal a lot of stuff about you, and tonality has strong effects on how the person is going to feel.

So lets say, for example, if I tell you I love you, would I say I LOVE YOU in a loud, assertive voice? Youre not going to feel I love you, right? But if I sit here and jokingly say, Oh my God, I wanna kill you, youre not going to think Im going to kill you. Youre not going to feel danger.

Whats happening is tonality. Tonality is actually sub communicating my intentions to you. I could be talking to you about any stuff here, but how I communicate to you is going to make all the difference.

So, for example, if youre a big guy and you use very powerful, aggressive tonality, its going to turn women off, or theyre not going to feel comfortable around you. Whereas, if youre a small guy and youre using a really submissive tonality, shes not going to feel attracted towards you either.

I was watching a show this morning on the T.V., and the same thing was happening. This woman wanted her guy to be very sensitive. And she was like, Oh, I like sensitive guys the guys who cry, you know, when they watch movies. And then after he cries, she starts seeing a big, grown baby every time she sees him. And thats what happens.

You want to sub communicate the right image to the woman. Cause if you sub communicate something wrong, its all gone, its all over.

And its going to be different for everybody else, you know. Like one of the things that really works for me that I usually tell people is when a Caucasian guy dresses like me, its no big deal. Okay, there are a hundred thousand other Caucasian guys who dress up like me. But when an Indian guy dresses up like me and has this accent, it becomes really cool. People question who the guy is because Indian guys dont dress up like this. He must be someone really confident, someone really who believes in himself. He has the accent, so you know that he came from another country, but he can still pull off this look.

Now I know the accent and tonality are different, but Im trying to give you the concept.

The concept is you convey your identity, you convey everything about yourself with the tonality you use.

How you are going to feel is exactly what Im going to make you feel by using my tonality.

There are some students who dont even recognize that they pretty much sound gay when they talk. These are straight men. There is nothing gay about them, but somehow they have picked up this tonality which is very gayish. You know, they would talk to you like, Oh, you know, you can do this to me and Im serious, girl, we can make it happen, and what happens is an instant attraction killer. When you use that tonality, its gone, its gone.

One example that I give to a lot of my students, and this is something people can use, is think if you have smoked two joints of marijuana right now, how would you feel? You would almost feel like, Oh, Im so relaxed, ya know, I dont even want to talk right now. But now, this is too lousy. You dont want to talk like that when you go out because women will be like, What the hell is going on?

So, I say now inject some coke into your system. So what is going to happen with coke, like cocaine? So whats going to happen is now the marijuana is pulling you back, so youre like, Oh, I dont wanna talk, but you know what, at the same time, I am really pumped up because cocaine is making me want to talk to you. But Im not gonna talk fast to you because its not just cocaine, and Im not gonna be like oh dude, I dont wanna talk to you.

So now Im really relaxed, and when I come to you, there are no signs of nervousness. I dont come and start talking fast to you like, Hey, I just wanted to ask you a question. No, no, no. And Im not asking like, Hey dude, Im so drunk, so let me ask you this question. Its like, I am really relaxed when I talk to you. I just wanted you to know you are really beautiful, and you just caught my eye the minute I saw you.

Now thats a confident tonality, and it can instantly have a very strong, powerful impact on women. And thats something you want to use.

So thats what tonality is about. And tonality will be different at different levels.

When you go into the set, the tonality you use depends on who you are. Lets assume youre someone who needs to go with high energy. You would also use that high tonality to go with that energy.

You cant go and continue to say with high energy and high tonality, Oh I love you! Lets go home and have sex! Its not gonna happen. Its not gonna have the same impact as lowering your energy and tonality.

When you reach that level where sex is going to happen or seduction starts to begin, thats when you start saying, You know what, Im gonna do things to you that no man has ever done. So my tonality, again, has changed. Its not like, Oh Im gonna do things to you that no man has ever done with high tonality because it wouldnt work.

Notice all these people around you, like, if you go into the classroom, or to your friends. Notice how everybody says things differently, and even saying the same thing has a different impact from different peopleand thats what we do. So, one big thing of our whole program is fix your tonality, and fix your tonality for who you are, and for every different level of your interaction with people.

If you can master that, people are going to feel really good about you.

I dont want to pick on any community, but Indians in general, as in Asian Indians, people who come from India, usually are way more aggressive with their tonality when they start talking. So when people talk with them, people always feel like theyre fighting. It almost sounds like, Oh my god, why are you fighting? Why are you in my face? when theyre not trying to fight with you. Its just theyre aggressive, and they dont even realize that they need to be a little more relaxed and mellow with their tonality in order to come across more friendly.

So, its just those small tweaks. When you make that small tweak in a person, theres an instant change, an instant advancement in this person that you can notice. You can notice how now women enjoy their conversation, how they can introduce the real side of them, so they can show how they are confident, but not aggressive, or not submissive.

And thats where tonality comes in. If you have the right tonality, and when you know how to switch tonality from high to low and sexual to non-sexual to confident, you got it. Youre going to get everything you want.

The difference between tonality and energy is that tonality is more vocal. Energy is not vocal. So, energy can be your whole body, right. I dont have to say anything. I can stomp my feet and shake my body and this could be my crazy high energy. But tonalityI could be totally sitting here like this and say, Dude, Im telling you. This is going to happen.

Tonality is how you project your voice. Its not only just the volume. Its also how you project your voice. Its the combination of volume and your voice projection.

Notice the times people would say in order to be alpha, you always have to roll your shoulders back and stick your chest out. But thats a really bad thing to do because if you are always rolling your shoulders behind you, youre not subcommunicating the right messages.

For example, when women get attracted to men, they start preening their hair. Thats a sign we read. Similarly, when men start rolling their shoulders forward, thats how we subcommunicate to women that we are getting attracted to them. Now if we force ourselves to do this hold our shoulders back and chest out, we are never going to be able to convey those emotions to them.

So, a lot of the times people ask me about that. They say, Oh, but Im gonna lose my alpha body language if I do bring my shoulders forward, and its not true. Look at movies like Rock with Sean Connerywith the guys all shackled in chains. There is nothing alpha about him, but his tonality makes him alpha. His eye contact makes him alpha, so he can be all shackled, and he can just look up and say, This is how its going to be. And that tonality, that projection, how you say that message, is what gets the job done. Thats what tonality is.

And energy is a state of being. Energy is your whole body state. You could be someone who doesnt even say a word, but you can convey high energy. I can give a high five with high energy, or if I just do raise my hand up slowly for high five, it is low energy. I dont have to say anything, but I could be doing this and still have good tonality. So thats what tonality is.

Are you getting the idea? Its more how you project your voice, and its also how you convey the message. Not just projection. You have to convey your message within a certain pitch range, so people feel it or interpret it in a certain way.

Tone of Voiceby Carlos XumaEmail This ArticleGet RSS Syndication

Editor's Note: While this article was written from a male viewpoint, tone of voice applies to both men and women out there in the world of, arrggghhhh, dating.

QUESTION:

I have a very important question to ask you, and it relates to voice tone. I know that the correct tone of voice to display is one that indicates that you're confident.

Now, when being cocky & funny, teasing a women, etc., should you maintain the same voice tone throughout the conversation, regardless of what you are saying?

What I am trying to say is that when you communicate with a woman, should you change your voice tone at certain times when you say different things?

I don't understand this. What is the correct voice tone to project?

Please help me solve this mystery Carlos.

P. S Is voice tone really that important? I mean I am not the type of guy that speaks with a weak voice tone whatsoever. I speak with a normal voice tone that I think sounds pretty confident. The reason I say this is because I cant find much information on this topic. What do you think?

CARLOS ANSWERS:

Tone of voice is VERY important. It's something that a lot of guys overlook. And, unfortunately, it's one thing that women can use to read you in a heartbeat. You see, every guy out there tells more about what he's made of by HOW he says something more than WHAT he says.

Yes, you must definitely vary your tone of voice as much as possible.

One of the worst things guys do with their voice is ....

Nothing.

They simply don't vary their voice from a monotone, and as a result they sound ... well, BORING.

A woman is interpretive, not literal. She knows that people seldom mean what they SAY. She's learned this from growing up in social interactions instead of football huddles. So almost every woman has about a 20 year head start on most guys in terms of reading between the lines and figuring out the real social dynamics of a situation.

Women grew up having to be indirect with their requests and interactions with other girls (being too direct was frowned upon), so they learned very early how to understand when another girl wasn't saying what she really thinking.

And that means women have it all over guys in terms of her ability to read tone and hear what a guy is saying UNDERNEATH his words. Guys need to develop this ability, too.

Let's use an example where you asked a woman to go out on Thursday.

She says: "I'm busy that night."

Now, if she emphasizes the word "busy," she's probably blowing you off and doesn't want to get together. If she emphasizes the word "that," she's telling you that particular night is not available, but you might need to suggest another night. You have to listen for these small subtleties and adjust your strategy accordingly.

Remember that when a woman first meets you, she doesn't know what is joking and what is not. Only people who have known you a while can figure out when you're being serious and when you are being sarcastic ... or trying to be funny. (This is especially true in emails, so be careful!)

For you, there's one very simple rule for your voice: Vary your tone enough to sound INTERESTING.

The best exercise for this is to try your voice out on your pet. If you've got a cat or a dog, you should try telling them a story in a way that will keep their attention, and by also using hand gestures. If you can keep your pet from walking off in mid-sentence, you're probably using good variation in your tone of voice.

Another way to improve your tone of voice is to join a local club, like Toastmasters, that will help you with speaking in public, and has the added benefit of improving your self-confidence in the process.

You really need to HEAR the proper delivery to understand it, which is why I cover voice tone in almost every one of my Advanced Audio Coaching sessions. Let's face it, there's no way I can adequately demonstrate tone of voice in this column, but you can hear how voice and delivery SHOULD be performed by listening to examples, like old Cary Grant and James Bond movies. Listen to how they use their tone to be funny and even seductive at the same time.

So let me say it once more . . . Tone of voice is VERY important.

Take the time to cultivate an interesting voice and women won't be able to resist your charms.How To Develop A Flirtatious Voice Tone

Your voice tone plays a crucial element when it comes to flirting.

Like body language, your voice tone can tell a person a lot about you. With the right tone of voice, you can sound confident, attractive and self-assured. But with the wrong tone of voice you can appear shy, unsure or yourself, and boring.

Your first step towards developing a more flirtatious voice is to make a fair assessment of how you normally sound. The best way to do this is by recording yourself as you talk.

If youre like most people you probably hate hearing your own voice. But remember, this exercise is to help ensure that other people dont hate the sound of your voice as well. Besides, as you keep doing this exercise, and work on improving your tone youll eventually learn to love the way you sound.

Get a sample of your voice by recording yourself talking about something interesting thats happened to you. Speak like you normally would, as if there was someone there in front of you. When youre done play back what you just recorded.

Now its time to be a little critical. On the whole, did you like the way you sounded? If you were someone else would you find what yourself interesting and captivating based on your voice tone?

Were you too quite?

Too monotone?

Did you use a lot of ahhhhs and ummms what you spoke?

These are just a few of the things youre going to want to look out for when youre critiquing your voice.

Now that you have an idea of what it is you sound like, its time to give your voice tone a more flirtatious vibe.

Dont RushOne of most common issues I notice with people who are trying to flirt, is the speed at which they talk.

Most people speak way too fast, almost to a point where you have a hard time keeping up with what theyre saying.

Talking too quickly is a flirting no no. It makes you sounds nervous and insecure.

Instead, slow things down and speak at a relaxed pace. In fact, as youre flirting with someone, and building a deeper and deeper connection, youll want to try and speak at an even slower pace. Remember, slower equals more seductive.

Know Youre SurroundingDifferent environments and situations call for different tones of voice. For example if youre at a loud club with lots of noise and excitement, your voice can easily get drowned out if youre not talking loud enough.

At some venues you may feel like you have to yell for the other person to hear you. The key though is to make sure that youre loud and have a very high energy level. Use a lot of expression and enthusiasm in these sorts of environments.

In contrast, when youre at a coffee shop or a library, youre going to want to tone down your energy level so that people dont think youre a nutjob. You should still use a lot of expression in your voice tone so you dont sound boring, but just dont overdo it.

Project Your Voice ProperlyThere are a lot of mechanics involved in speech, and it seems as though everyone has a different way of using these mechanics. If you listen closely to people talk, you can kind of tell where it is their talking from. Some people sound very nasally when they speak. Other peoples voice projects through their throat. Talking from your nostrils or throat is what I call lazy speech.

When youre speaking your voice should generate from deep down in your diaphragm. Thats how you get your voice to project loudly and clearly.

Another part of lazy speech is not moving your mouth enough. Moving your mouth to help articulate your worlds, will add an extra level of richness and clarity to your voice.

Now I realize that all of this wont happen overnight, but simply paying more attention to how youre speaking can oftentimes be enough to help bring on a bit of an improvement.

Express YourselfHave you ever had a conversation with someone who had no expression in their voice? Chances are that you found that person either very boring or very annoying.

Speaking in a monotone voice is a surefire way to lose someones interest.

The only real way to fix this is to put some passion and energy into your voice. A simple way to do this is to use your hands while you talk.

You may have heard the expression that motion creates emotion. Using your hands and moving around a bit while you communicate will make you sound more captivating and charismatic.

Why an Attractive Voice Means a Good Mate: The Science of Sex

By Brie Cadman

We often think of a deep baritone voice as a sexy one, but it seems too clich to think that a romantically-inclined crooner like Barry White would actually look the part. Yet, although most peoples voices dont seem to strike a chord one way or the other, research has shown that a persons voice can influence whether others find him alluring or unattractive. But once you connect the face with the voice, does the sound actually correspond to a knockoutor a letdown?

The Sound of Good LookingJust as symmetry and scent are important yet subtle indicators of genetic fitness, a persons voice can also give clues to his reproductive ability. For instance, its no myth that good looking men often have deep voices. A study done at Northumbria University in the UK recorded men speaking and had both men and women rate their voices based on attractiveness, dominance, confidence, and sexiness. The listeners then looked at photos of the men and rated them. Researchers found that men with deep voices were rated higher than those with high voices and the deep voices also corresponded to more attractive faces.

Voices can gives clues to physical characteristics and listeners might be better at relating the two traits than they think they are. A 2002 study showed that people are able to match a speakers voice with a photograph over 75 percent of the time and that those people with symmetrical traits (a sign of genetic fitness) were rated as having more attractive voices.

The Sound of Sex?Voices can tip us off not just to how people look, but perhaps to their level of sexual activity as well. A 2004 study looked at the relationship between voice attractiveness and body dimensions. In men, an attractive voice was correlated with a higher shoulder-to-hip ratio (broad shoulders, narrow waist); in women, voice attractiveness was correlated with waist-to-hip ratio (waist narrower than hips). The authors speculate that because testosterone influences both voice and physical development, a mans deep baritone can indicate more muscle mass and strength, and hence, greater genetic fitness. Likewise, estrogen and progesterone influence a womans voice as well as her body dimensions, which can indicate her reproductive status.

Since voice is correlated with symmetrical proportions, which play a large role in attractiveness, its no surprise that a persons voice also corresponds to her sexual activity. The study also found that men and women with more attractive-sounding voices reported having more sexual partners, had their first sexual intercourse at a younger age, and were more promiscuous.

Ch, Ch, ChangesHowever, our voices may not stay static throughout our lifespan, or even throughout the month. For instance, a 2008 study published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior recorded womens voices at four different times during their menstrual period. Results of voice ratings found that a womans voice was most attractive during ovulation, when conception risk is highest and least attractive sounding during menstruation, when risk of conception is lowest. The authors speculate that hormones affecting the larynx could be the source of these changes.

Though a changing voice due to hormones is something generally beyond our control, other factors can alter how our voices are perceived. People tend to find confident voices more attractive and level of confidence can change over time. Similarly, bright, generous voices can increase interpersonal attraction and receptivity toward another person.

What Else Do You Hear?Research has also shown that listeners can detect peoples socioeconomic status, personality, and emotional/mental state from their voice, and that they can estimate age, height, and weight about as accurately from voice clips as they can from photographs.

While I dont consciously register voices that fall within a normal-sounding range, it seems as if a persons voice may be making more of an influence than I think. Its speculated that voices correspond to attractiveness because our forefathers had to find a mate without the help of artificial lighting, trying to garner critical information while wandering around the pitch dark forests. Though I cant say that Im happy for fluorescent lighting, I am happy we have other aspects of mate selection to work with than just how someone sounds. (Although I like Barry Whites voice, hes definitely not my type.) And although we cant completely change our voices, knowing that they make an impact is a good lesson for dating; whether or not you fit the part, speak with confidence and cheer when talking to a new potential partner on the phone.

5 Body Language Secrets to Attract Women

By Scorpy Pua April 27, 2012 No comments

90% of communication is non-verbal. That means that people especially women get over 14 times more information from your body language and your tone than from your words.

Ill tell you a secret successful men use this to their advantage all the time. Its a myth that the top pick up artists never get tongue-tied or nervous. Were human; it happens. But it doesnt matter because we understand the 93% rule and that those messages are 14 times stronger than the words we choose.

Know how you can smoothly escalate physically (click image)

Great body language and tonality gives you SO MUCH freedom. E.g., when a woman asks what I do for a living, I sometimes start with Im a loser and I dont have a job. Game over, right? Actually, no. She knows from body language and tone that I am a confident, successful guy. So, she interprets my words as me just messing around.

(Tip: Only give a silly answer like this once to a question. If you keep on avoiding the question, shell think youre avoiding it for a reason.)

What kind of confident, successful guy tells a girl hes a loser when she asks what he does for a living? A confident, successful guy who is playful and isnt desperate for her approval, thats who. In other words: a guy she really wants to get to know.

Here are 5 simple, easy body language or vocal tonality tips that you can practice 24/7. Theyll improve every area of your life. And if you practice and internalize them, theyll become natural to you so you wont ever have to think of them anymore:

Slow it WAY down. Confident people dont talk a mile a minute. Plus, if you slow down your talking, youll be much easier to understand (especially in loud clubs).

Dont fidget no wasted movements. Arms, legs, fingers, eyes, hands, head none of these should move at all unless there is a reason. Men who have presence dont fidget.

Speak up. 99% of bootcamp students are too quiet. Practice being louder until you start getting bad reactions from people you talk to. Then dial it back 5%.

Smile. Smiling releases chemicals that put you in a better mood, even if its fake. It also puts her in a better mood. Dont keep a fake smile plastered on, but smile consistently.

Get your f**king hands out of your f**king pockets. The only time your hand should be in your pocket is when youre getting your keys. It looks very weak. (So does holding your drink in front of your chest, but you can only really practice not doing this one at a bar.)VOCAL FUNDAMENTALS

Your voice is one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal. It can be

used to attract, to seduce, to build intrigue and capture a womans

interest

If you listen to women talk, youll notice first off that some women

have appealing voices; youll also notice that other women have

unappealing voices. Some women have voices that make you think,

Wow, shes cute, but she mustbe a nerd. And other women have

very sexy voices.

Its the same with men. Theres a great deal of variation in voices; in

fact, every mans voice is in fact surprisingly flexible in how it can

change and evolve. Your voice is most likely the result of the way

people around you spoke as you were growing up. If you were raised

in Northern England, vs. Southern California, vs. Australia, vs. South

Africa, you will have a different accent, for instance. And within each

of those accents, there are even different voices.

Before we get into the deeper stuff though, first lets cover some of the

vocal basics:

Basic Vocal Technique

Hyoid: Does speaking ever seem difficult or tiring, almost like you

have to force the words out? Youre most likely depressing your hyoid

as you speak. The hyoid is a bone in your throat the only bone in the

body that doesnt touch any other bone in fact that some people get

into the habit of pushing down on with the back of their tongue while

speaking. It has the result of making speech more work, and makes

the voice fuzzier and harder to hear.

The solution recommended by voice coaches is to make or feel the

back of your tongue floating upward. Then, while still doing this,

begin speaking. It takes a little practice, but youcan train yourself to

speak without putting so much pressure on your hyoid. One side note:

there is no way to not put pressure on your hyoid, but you can always

train yourself to involve less pressure. So you canalways be working

on having a louder, clearer, more effortless sounding voice.

Purr: Sexy men have a certain guttural purr to their voice (as do sexy

women). A good contemporary example in film of thisis George

Clooney. Listen to how he speaks, and the purr that seems to inhabit

his voice. Add this to your voice, and watch women begin to swoon.

You will likely want to practice deepening and slowing your voice

down first, and add a purr or rumble to it after and of course, be

careful to avoid getting tooguttural we dont want you sounding

like a caveman! Throw a slight purr in your voice, and youll do great.

Depth and Resonance: When you speak, you should be speaking from

the bottom of your chest and lungs. Focus on addingthat depth and

the resonance it brings. Your voice will sound muchmore masculine

and intense, creating a more desirable impression.

Boredom: Again, a degree of boredom makes you sound more worldly

and experienced. It also tends to unconsciously encourage others and

compel them to want to impress you and keep you engaged. The way

you make certain remarks like, Oh, really? or, Is that right?

while someone else is speaking can quite often spurthem to work a

little harder to make you more interested. This technique is useful

particularly if the conversation is about somethinguninteresting or

that does not move the interaction forward in any way. Its important

to not overdo this, as you can run into problems with attainability

(covered in the last chapter of this section). Use it as one of your tools,

rather than the only one.

Advanced Vocal Technique

Once youve mastered the basics of having a good voice, you can

further develop your vocal techniques. The following are a few tips to

get you started:

Make your voice unique. That means getting a unique style

all your own. Study men with unique speaking patterns.

Robert Downey Jr. is a good example, as are many other

actors and even some politicians. The objective is to have a

voice that is not only appealing, but also different

something that will catch womens ears and be distinctive in

a positive way.

Use uncommon Use uncommon, colorful , colorful , colorful words words words. People who are captivating

speakers use interesting words. Practice using words that are

both hip and uncommon words you dont hear every day.

You will make listeners pay more attention to what you are

saying, and you also present yourself as someone who is

educated, experienced, and wellversed.

Add a hint of accent to your voice Add a hint of accent to your voice. Unless youre French,

Italian, or Latin, you likely dont have a very romantic,

appealing natural accent. What you can do is add a hint of

accent to your voice. This is a little difficult todo you need

to have an ear for accents, and you need to add just a subtle

inflection, which will make your accent tough to pin down.

Your accent should be sufficiently interesting thatpeople will

seem a little puzzled and ask you where youre from, but not

so much that they refuse to believe you when you say, Oh,

Im from here.

Add bounce Add bounce. This is one of the limits of trying to discuss

vocal tonality in text. Theres a way of playing out your voice

in a way that only very attractive, confident people use; you

can say couple of words with this bounce and prettygirls

nearby will turn completely around just to check you out. It

sounds like a word, drawn out long, that dips down and

comes back up again; thats about the best description of it I

can give on paper. All I can say is, play around with tone and

be very aware of how strong, sexy men speak and keep an

eye out for this. So when you see women turning to look at a

man because of the way hes speaking thats bounce.

How A Hypnotic Voice Drives Women Crazy, And How To Develop It

Most of us take our voices for granted. Yet the resonance, speed, and tone of your voice are some of the most important factors in creating sexual rapport with women. The words you say to a woman are not so important as HOW you say them and HOW you project yourself. The womans limbic brain is sexually stimulated based on the nonverbal you, not your words.

For example, if you have a resonant, sultry, sexy voice, women will often become sexually intrigued as soon as you open your mouth. The sound of your voice alone can change her state from neutral to captive and intrigue. Of course, what you say CAN affect the outcome of creating sexual rapport; but it is much more important to learn to sound good.

Think about it, what do you want to convey with the sound of your voice?

Do you want to convey fear or power? Do you want to convey submission or dominance? Do you want to convey nervousness or relaxation?

Now what if your voice starts out strong when youre speaking, but then tends to peter out at the end? Or what if you speak really soft and quiet like? Or what if you speak like this with a nasally tone of voice? Or sound squeaky?

If you speak in any of these ways, no one will want to listen to you. And it wont matter what you say to a woman because shes already judged you as insecure or fearful based on the sound of your voice. Its not going to turn her on. Its not going to make her feel sexual rapport with you no matter what verbal lines or languaging youre using.

But with a sexy voice, its almost like youre a walking talking hypnotist. Thats because when you have a sexy voice, everything you say is hypnotic. After all, what does a hypnotist need to do to put someone into a trance they need to speak with authority, relax their patient, and put to sleep that critical part of the mind that makes judgments and resists suggestions.

Now you dont need to speak to a woman like a hypnotist, like, You will deeply relax now and follow the suggestions of my voice.

If the tone and quality of your voice is already relaxing, deep, commanding, and resonant, you fulfill all the requirements of hypnosis. When someone hears the kind of voice that makes them stop, relax, listen, and assume youre an authority, then theyll let what youre saying enter in and affect them. They will go into trance. In fact, most people are walking around in a relaxed, trance-like state ALL the time and its just your job to make them to listen to YOU.

After all, your voice IS your identity and you must speak to other people; you cannot hide your voice. Your voice is something that you have to use all the time. Your voice is communicating the kind of person you are all the time. And yet, most of us dont even consider how we may be projecting ourselves to the world around us through our voices.

Speaking Loudly Is Like Growing A Huge Pair of Tits

I just want to drive home the point of how important your voice is to generating hard attraction in women. How by making that one small tweak in your overall profile makes you so much more attractive.

Lets say youre sitting in a coffee shop at Starbucks and in walks a woman whose relatively attractive but you dont look at it twice. This woman shes wearing a baggy shirt nothing special and she orders her coffee. And no one else in the room seems to notice or.

But then you look up to see that shes lifting up her sweater, up over her head. And now its suddenly revealed, as her sweater is removed, that she has these large voluptuous breasts underneath the Titan are a waste she takes her coffee her breasts just jiggle up and down. And all the guys in the coffee shop turned their heads to check out this woman with the fantastic breasts.

And this woman, she just went from being a 7/10 do like being a 9/10. And what was it that made the difference.

Just the change of that one curve from being flat in front, to having a big S shape is what made all the difference in how attractive she was. By making one small change in her silhouette, this woman went from no one noticing her at all, to all the men in the room drooling over and other women in the room blistering with jealousy.

It took just that one small change, that one small tweak, in her physical appearance that made all the difference.

And speaking loudly with your voice is exactly the same. Its like growing a huge pair of tits.

And when you speak with a very loud voice you suddenly go from being a nobody and needing approval, to generating hard attraction on a primal level with women.

3 Awesome Hypnotic Voice Tips To Attract The Ladies

I want you to think for a moment, what turns you on? What makes you horny? What makes you randy baby, yeah!

Chances are, youre thinking to yourself something like Im a legs man or I like blondes or something else you wouldnt want your momma to read.

Thats alright. Men are DOGS, of course youd think something like that.

Nah, Im kidding, its not that men are dogs, its that men are VISUAL. For most men, it is what we SEE that initially triggers attraction. Its not the be-all and end-all, but it dominates our first impressions.

Duh, you say? Obvious, you say? Well smart guy, how often do you think about what turns a woman on? You may be fooled by listening to ladies occasionally hooting cute butts or swooning at Antonio Banderas. Dont be.

Youve probably heard the phrase It aint the size of the wave, its the motion of the ocean. Well, it aint the shape of the gut, its the way you strut. Women are MUCH more in tune to body language and non-verbal communications, and thats where their buttons are pushed.

Sure, a handsome man with a good body is ATTRACTIVE to women, but he wont necessarily CREATE ATTRACTION.

Attraction is created by style and attitude, by CHARISMA, what women often call CHARM. If you dont look like Brad Pitt, this is good news, because it can be learned.

And just as BODY LANGUAGE trumps BODY SHAPE in attracting women, your VOICE will trump your WORDS.

Lots of guys, when they are trying to learn how to be more successful with women, turn to pick-up lines. Men seem to think the RIGHT WORDS will move a girls heart.

Maybe its because weve seen guys get a girl by talking to her. Maybe she changed her attitude after he spoke to her.

Maybe we just cant get the difference between the JOKES we tell and WHAT REALLY WORKS.

If at some point youve thought that pick-up lines were the key to breaking the ice with a woman, you may be forgiven. You should give yourself a number of numbing slaps to the face, but then forgive yourself and lets talk about what DOES work.

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