UNIT 2- Achieving Mental & Emotional HealthChapter 3

Everyone has setbacks and disappointmentsHow do you handle it?

Are your coping strategies healthful and positive?

What could you have done differently?

What is M-E-N-T-A-L Health?

M –mind, messenger, manage

E- emotions, express, energy

N- neurotic, nervous, normal/not normal

T- thinking, telepathic, thoughts

A- attitude, adjusted, anxious

L- level-headed, life*Mental(6)…①of or related to the mind; ②carried out or taken place in the mind

brainy, cerebral, clairvoyant, deep, heavy, ideological, imaginative, immaterial, inner, intellective, intellectual, mysterious, phrenic, psychic, psychical, psychological, rational, reasoning, spiritual, subconscious, subjective, subliminal, telepathic, thinking, thoughtful, unreal

Lesson 1: Developing Your Self-Esteem

Good Mental & Emotional Health helps you function effectively each dayMental/emotional health(5)-the ability to accept yourself and others, express and manage your emotions, and deal with the demands and challenges you meet in life

DO I LOOK FAT?

What is Mental & Emotional HealthImportance

You function better; happier, enjoy lifeIncreases confidence

Comfortable spending time alone or with others

More flexible…not so ridgedIncreases social and physical health

CharacteristicsSense of belonging

Sense of purpose

Positive Outlook

Self –sufficiency

Healthy Self-Esteem

Benefits from a Healthy Mental State:Ch. 3-Lesson 1 Vocab

• Competence(1)-having enough skills to do something• Resilient(2)- they have the ability to adapt effectively

and recover from disappointment, difficulty, or crisis• Self actualization(3)- striving to be the best you can

be• Self-Esteem (4)-how much you value, respect, and feel

confident about yourself…take healthful risks(try new things and succeed)

…self esteem affects attitude which in turn affects confidence, being willing to take more challenges…therefore increasing

Self-esteem develops from feeling valued, loved, and accepted by othersWhen does this development begin? Who influences it?

Benefits of a Healthy Self-Esteem• Feel good about yourself…no matter what

• Take pride in your accomplishments, skills, and abilities

Steps to improve Self-EsteemChoose friends that value/respect you Try new things/discover new talents

Focus on Positives Write down goalsDon’t use negative self-talk Exercise, eat, sleep right-ENERGYWork toward accomplishments, not perfection

Volunteer your time to help others

Mistakes are learning opportunities Accept what you can’t change, focus on what you can

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs-(7)A ranked list of those needs essential to human growth and development

You should satisfy your needs from the bottom of the pyramid to the top1. Biological and Physiological needs - air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sex, sleep, etc.2. Safety needs - protection from elements, security, order, law, limits, stability, etc.3. Belongingness and Love needs - work group, family, affection, relationships, etc.4. Esteem needs - self-esteem, achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, managerial responsibility, etc.5. Self-Actualization needs - realizing personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences. Maslow and Up

Psychologist Abraham Maslow (1943, 1954) stated that human motivation is based on people seeking fulfillment and change through personal growth

Maslow (1968): Some of the characteristics of self-actualized people

• Characteristics of self-actualizers

. :

1. They perceive reality efficiently and can tolerate uncertainty;

2. Accept themselves and others for what they are;

3. Spontaneous in thought and action;

4. Problem-centered (not self-centered);5. Unusual sense of humor;

6. Able to look at life objectively;

7. Highly creative;

8. Resistant to enculturation, but not purposely unconventional;

9. Concerned for the welfare of humanity;

10. Capable of deep appreciation of basic life-experience;

11. Establish deep satisfying interpersonal relationships with a few people;

12. Peak experiences;13. Need for privacy;

14. Democratic attitudes;

15. Strong moral/ethical standards.

• Behavior leading to self-actualization:

(a) Experiencing life like a child, with full absorption and concentration;

(b) Trying new things instead of sticking to safe paths;

(c) Listening to your own feelings in evaluating experiences instead of the voice of tradition, authority or the majority;

(d) Avoiding pretense ('game playing') and being honest;

(e) Being prepared to be unpopular if your views do not coincide with those of the majority;

(f) Taking responsibility and working hard;

(g) Trying to identify your defenses and having the courage to give them up.http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=yM8SwZkvCIY#t=0s

Self Esteem Activity~applying knowledge~

http://streaming.factsonfile.com/PortalViewVideo.aspx?xtid=40267&loid=64036&psid=0&sid=0&State=&title=Self-Esteem and Identity in the Digital

Age&IsSearch=Y&parentSeriesID=Read the journal entry written by a teen. On a sheet of paper, identify the statements that reflect poor mental and emotional health and rewrite the statements so they reflect good mental emotional health.a. Write the complete negative statementb. Under it, rewrite the statement to be more positive

Lesson 2: Developing Personal Identity and Character

Healthy Identity is based on being a person of good Character

What is Character?• Personal Identity-describes who you

are and your sense of yourself as a unique individual

It is one of the most important tasks you will accomplish during your teen years

How Identity Forms

Influences on Personal IdentityLikes and Dislikes

Relationships (Friends/Family)Experiences

OpinionsValues (*ideals and beliefs)

InterestsOccupational Goals

Other influences on identity are

Role Models–someone whose success or behavior serves as an example for you

Parts of Your IdentityPersonality- a complex set of characteristics that makes you unique*It sets you apart from others and determines how you will react in certain situationsGroup Affiliations(other relationships)- family, friends, ethnic group also define who you are

Importance of Good Character Character- the distinctive qualities that describe how a person thinks, feels, and behaves• An outward expression of your inner values• Important part of your healthy identity

Core Ethical Values/Traits

Citizenship

Respect

CaringFairness

Trustworthiness Responsibility

Caring

WHAT IS CHARACTER?

• Our Character Is Who and What We Really AreAbraham Lincoln said, “Reputation is the shadow.

Character is the tree.”• Our CHARACTER is not just what we try to

display for others to see,• It is who we are even when no one is watching.• Good character is doing the right thing because

it is right to do what is right.

• Trustworthiness – honest, loyal, reliable• Respect – considerate of others; accept differences• Responsibility- self control; think before acting;

consider consequences; accountable• Fairness- play by rules; share; open minded; listen

to others• Caring – kind; compassionate; express gratitude;

forgiving• Citizenship – obey rules; laws; advocate for a safe

& healthy environment

Six Pillars of Character*Universal/Core…because they are held in high regard across all cultures and ages

By demonstrating the Six Pillars/Traits of Good Character consistently in your actions and behaviors, you show you have

integrity-a firm observance of core ethical values~You control who you become and a positive identity~Recognize your strengths and weaknesses-stop making life a

contest; there will always be people more or less able than you in areas of life

Demonstrate Positive ValuesDevelop a Purpose in Your Life-Form Meaningful Relationships & accept- Constructive

Criticism-non hostile comments that point out problems and encourage improvement

Avoid Unhealthy High-Risk BehaviorsContribute to the Community-help someone else

Our Character Is What Determines Our Responses to Life Situations

Summary~CHARACTER is the foundation for all true success

• A person may have money, position, or power, but unless he has “good” character he or she is not considered to be truly successful.

Live a Life that Matters! • In the craziness of everyday living, it’s hard to keep perspective.

Money, position, pride, and power seem so important – until they’re not.

• What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom, and for what.

• What do you want to be remember for????

Lesson 3: Expressing Emotions in a Healthy Way

Emotions- signals that tells your mind and body how to react to certain situationsChanges and growth during puberty are caused by hormones-Chemicals produced by glands that regulate the activities of different body cells; causing your emotions to swing from one extreme to another

Emotions can…guide you to succeedor prevent you from reaching your goals

• Emotions contribute significantly to your intelligence and your ability to navigate through your life.

• (1) Understanding your emotions is essential, considering the information they can provide

• (2) Regconize the ways in which they affect the decisions you make

• how much they determine the ways in which you might respond to situations,

• the motivation they make available that can enable you to reach your goals.

Common Emotions

Common Emotions

Fear• Fear is the feeling of danger• Body’s physiological response to fear: Fight or Flight– Heart beats faster which supplies more blood to muscles– Muscles become tense and senses become more alert– These reactions prepare your body to deal with the danger– Your body will return to normal once you have dealt with

the situation that caused the fear• It is important to work through fears so that the body

doesn’t stay in this state of alarm for an extended time

• 2 Effective management techniques- -environmental planning -self talk

Top Ten Common Phobias

Phobia is a very intense and deep fear of some entities such as people, things, circumstances, events etc. The chief symptom of phobia has always been found to be the inane necessity to avoid the object creating the fear. Phobias are considered to be a kind of anxiety disorder.

Arithmophobia- Fear of numbersArachibutyrophobia- Fear of peanut butter sticking to the roof of the mouth.

Anger• Anger is a strong feeling of irritation-

Hostility/intentional use of unfriendly offensive behavior

• Anger is accompanied by physiological responses– Increased heart rate – High blood pressure– Headaches– Nausea

• Find a release for your anger, don’t keep it penned up inside

• Managing Anger-Take a time out -Think before you speak

– Find a positive release/do something to relax

– Do something physical to release your anger

– Practice Relaxation skill– Talk with someone you trust

Guilt and How To Manage It• Guilt is the feeling that you have done something wrong or are

responsible for something bad happening • Guilt can be your cue to resolve a problem. Guilt can also drive you

to do the right thing in a situation• Managing Guilt:

– -Recognize it– Think about the source of your guilt(what made you feel guilty)– Try not to be critical of yourself & dwell on your actions– If you’ve made a mistake, correct it and then move on (learn from your

mistakes)– Tomorrow is another day!– Follow with a good dead-help someone– Talk to a trusted person

Happiness-being happy and feeling satisfied

How to achieve happiness…• 1st-recognize that you have some control with your

life• Establish close relationships with others• Have a positive attitude• Think about what makes you happy and make time

for those activities• Take good care of your body• Be organized, but flexible, so you can adapt to

changes as they occur in your life

Jealousy• Jealousy is the feeling of losing

what a person has and insecurity within oneself/or towards others

• Mixture of fear & insecurity• It can be very destructive if it is

not controlled• Managing jealousy:– Discuss these feelings with the

other person involved– Positive thinking/focus on what

is good in your relationship NO WORRIES

SadnessFeeling sad is normal reaction to a difficult events.• Disappointment• Loss• Injury• Discouraged• Isolation• Lack of interestProlonged periods of unresolved sadness can lead to depression and lack of energy

Managing Sadness:-Share it/Talk-Embrace it/accept the circumstances-Express through other outlets; writing, paint, etc.. Give it a form-Go outdoors

Love Characteristics• A strong affection, Action of Caring• Deep concern• Respect, Commitment• Trust~Loving someone means that you support the needs & growth of that person~You respect their feelings and valuesWANTING THE BEST FOR THAT PERSON

~Sometimes young love is confused with infatuation• Differences in Feelings • Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of

imperfection. Love is always associated with connection between two souls that goes beyond the self.

• Infatuation feels like being in love but it is not. The intensity of the emotion is strong but not pure enough like love.

Infatuation may make the other person selfish if the opposite person's reaction isn't the same. Infatuation isn't pure like love and may be accompanied by lust. It goes about thinking about oneself and not the other person.

Dangers-becoming possessive, jealous

Love

Infatuation Love

Definition: Infatuation is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning desire.

A decision to commit oneself to another and to work through conflicts instead of giving up. A deeper understanding or care.

Associated with: Selfish uncontrollable desire

Decision to devote yourself to another person for better or worse.

Sub-Categories:

Short lived physical desire, crush, or lust , hormonal activity, addictive chemical reactions in the brain. Not revived with the same person without a deeper feeling.

Intimacy, commitment, security, may be scary at first, must accept the feeling.

Symptoms:urgency, intensity, sexual desire, anxiety, high risk choices, reckless abandonment of what was once valued

Faithfulness, confidence. Willingness to make sacrifices for another. Working at settling differences. Able to compromise so that either both win or at least give the other person's opinion a chance.

Feels like:All consuming euphoria similar to recreational drug use (addictive chemical reactions in the brain), stupidity (cupidity). Can risk everything for the next hit of adrenalin.

A deep affection; contentment, confidence.Partners communicate and negotiate appropriate expectations.. requires a lot of selflessness and polite assertiveness.

Managing Your Emotions

How does learning how to show your emotions in a positive way improve your social health*improves relationships with friends & family

*Helps one learn empathy-The ability to imagine and understand how

someone else feels*be more supportive to others

How can you respond to difficult emotions?

Ask question of yourselfo Why do I feel this way?o Will the event matter later in

life?o Why should I wait before

responding?o What would help me feel better

without hurting others?o Who can I ask to help me?

Most often the techniques help ease/reduce the

intensity-~deep breaths~relaxing your muscles~getting away until you calm down~put in down in writing~talking with someone you trust~exercise; release tension in a positive outlet

Defense MechanismDefense Mechanisms *Short term protection from strong

emotionsRepression(unaware/Unconscious)

Pushing unpleasant feelings out of your mind

Suppression(on purpose/conscious )

Pushing unpleasant feelings out of your mind

Rationalization Making excuses

Regression Acting like a child

Denial Refusing to recognize the obvious

Compensation Making up for weaknesses by focusing on strenghts

Projection Attributing feelings or fault to another person

• Are mental processes that protect individuals from strong or stressful emotions and situations.

• Sometimes you use them unconsciously…

• Helps for a short time; eventually you need to work through the problem.