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This month's theme is Being Seen. How can we love ourselves if what we see is someone else's story? How can we open to receive love if we do not allow our true selves to be seen? Being vulnerable to what's here now does not mean opening to the pain and insensitivity of others. Actually, being vulnerable is having the strength and humility to stand in your core essence and shine. And, yes, life is a messy business, but it's well worth it!
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S U P P O R T B A L A N C E R E C O N N E C T I O N I N T E N T I O N
Being Seen
Anne E. Bachop, PhD
L I F E P U L S E A C R O S S A M E R I C A S E P T E M B E R 2 0 1 5
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I have always had a problem with being seen. In my family being seen meant performing, being perfect, getting it right, being in control. Who I was when I allowed myself to be seen was not perfect, was not right, was out of control. The twist in my familial beliefs was that I never felt I belonged; I was never good enough. I had the courage to charge ahead, to meet obstacles head-on, to challenge myself, and my limitations, with a passion to get it right, to become worthy—and it never happened. Since I was never worthy, since I was never perfect, I never wanted to be seen. Brene Brown, researcher and storyteller, says that connection gives purpose to our lives, and that to have connection one must be seen. She says that shame comes from a fear of being disconnected—to be connected one must believe that he or she is worthy. I was talking to my daughter about God. She told me that she believes that God is the connection, the inter-connection between us all. That would mean that all are worthy of connection. I’ve always felt that in the connection is the creativity. In every relationship is the opportunity, the potential
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“Take off your shoes; the place where you stand is holy ground.” Let go of your story—embracing reality. Let go of shame, guilt and pretension. Stand barefoot right here and now, and you will find that every place, every moment is sacred. I invite you to take off your shoes and walk with me barefoot on holy ground . . . 2-4 pm, 5648 Union Deposit Rd. Harrisburg. $20. Bring a friend: $30!
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for growth, for belonging, for creating something bigger than one’s Self. Yet this connection, this creativity, this Divinity comes about wholly, sacredly, when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, open to receive, to be seen for who we are in our glorious imperfections. This connection comes, as Brene Brown goes on to say, with a willingness that has no guarantees, no expectations or predictions. So, today I am practicing being vulnerable to myself, being open to my whole heart and soul—no shoulds, or have tos, no numbing or pretending. Today I am practicing breathing in others and breathing out me. Today I am practicing being seen.
Anne Bachop works in the Harrisburg, PA area. She has her own healing practice, and offers lectures and workshops focused on awareness, connection, and healing.
“The idea of practicing love is deeply appealing to me, because
built right in is an acceptance of imperfection. There is an
acknowledgment to myself that I am going to mess this up, an
understanding that there is room to grow. Each of my failures just affirms the truth that we are all starting over and rising again.”
-Anna White,
Mended: Thoughts on Life, Love and Leaps of Faith
Tips for Being Vulnerable
1. Choose wisely. Practice vulnerability with someone who will not judge or advise you. 2. Ask for what you want. The purpose of vulnerability is not about problem solving. It is about exposing and releasing. 3. State what is. The key ingredients of vulnerability are authenticity and intimacy. Let yourself be seen! 4. Share from your heart, not your head. Let yourself cry. Ride waves of anger or frustration by not restraining your voice or editing your words. 5. Shine light on shame. Tell the secrets you have locked away because you've been too ashamed to speak them aloud. 6. Let yourself be messy. Forget about grammar, making sense or looking pretty while you cry. Be free with your expression!
-edited from Christine Hassler on HuffPost
The Healing Wave Anne E. Bachop, PhD
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