The Dering Letters Women’s Words - Patricia Shillingburg · 2015-04-22 · 1 The Dering Letters Women’s Words 1734-1838 Compiled, transcribed and annotated by Patricia and Edward

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The Dering Letters

Women’s Words1734-1838

Compiled, transcribed and annotated by Patricia and Edward ShillingburgKirsten Lewis

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The Dering Letters

Women’s Words1734-1838

© 2015 Patricia and Edward Shillingburg All rights reserved

ISBN #: 978-1-312-85682-0

Published by:

Cedar Grove Press4 West Neck RoadPO Box 3032Shelter Island Heights, NY 11965631-749-3028

Cover: Margaret Sylvester ChesebroughDrawn by Kirsten Lewis 2015 from a portrait at the Metropolitan Museum of Art

Permission to reproduce the images of the letters was graciously given by the Shelter Island Public Library and the Shelter Island Historical Society

The Dering Letters were given to the Shelter Island Library in 1916 by General Sylvester Dering at the same time that he donated the family’s portraits to the Metropolitan Museum of Art. In 2000 the Library placed them with the Shelter Island Historical Society on a “permanent loan” basis. Since then, in 2013, they were remounted for preservation purposes, and, in 2014, transcribed and prepared for publication. The transcriptions are now available in three volumes, The Dering Letters, at the Shelter Island Historical Society and at Amazon.com The letters in Women’s Words are th letters from The Dering Letters written by women and a few to women.

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Table of Contents

Introduction 5

Letter Writers 7

Letters Begin 13

Images of Letters:

#578 page 4 Hepzibah Edwards to Sylvester Dering, June 5, 1788 #3 page 12 Mary Burroughs Sylvester to Margaret Sylvester, April 26, 1734#106 page 271 Margret Chesebrough to Thomas Dering, May 21, 1761#749 page 272 Mary Catherine L’Hommedieu ro Nicoll Havens Dering, September 11, 1819#1 page 274 Mary Dering to Elizabeth Dering Gardiner December 16, 1789 #87 page 278 Abigail Chesebrough to Thomas Dering February 7, 1760

Bibliography 275

Index 279

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Letter #578, on page 146, written by Hepzi (Hepzibah) Edwards to Sylvester Dering on June 5, 1788.

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Introduction

After transcribing and annotating the 762 letters in the Dering Letters collection at the Shelter Island Historical Society, and other letters like those in the Clement Library at the University of Michigan, in the Hannah Stewart Dinkel archives and the Long Island Collection at the East Hampton Library, one day in early December 2014, I though, “I wonder how many letters were written by women?” So, I did a rough count of the Dering Letters. I asked the database how many letters were written by Sarah, Hepzi, Mary, Ann, Abigail, Margaret, etc… and the rough count was 214. That was nearly 30%. In a world with a dearth of a woman’s contribution to knowledge about colonial life, this is a huge deal. Mulling over the need to draw attention to the women, I soon realized that a way to do that was to create a volume devoted to the women’s words. Therewereactually227letterswrittenby37womenandgirlsand13writtenbyfivemenwho spanned over four generations, from Mary Burroughs Sylvester writing to her daughters in 1734, to Margaret Sylvester Chesebrough and others writing to her sister Mary, to her stepdaughter Abigail writing home from London in the late 1760s, to Nicoll Havens Dering’s friends, the Huntington girls, writing to each other in Rome near Utica and New York City in the 1810s. Hepzi Small (later Edwards) was the self-appointed chronicler of Thomas Dering’s Boston cousins’ activities. Her contribution to the letters was the most numerous – 44 – and she kept to the task until she had outlived all of her subjects. She lived to be 103. Sarah Dering Thomas, Thomas Dering’s youngest sister, wrote her brother and then her nephew Sylvester faithfully for her entire adult life. There are 33 letters from her, including the longest, 2,965 words. Her friends and family thought she was to be pitied. She would have rejected that idea. Her biggest mistake in life, however, was marrying Nathaniel Ray Thomas of Marshfieldin1754.But,shestayedfaithful.SheborehimeightchildrenandfollowedhimtoCanada in 1784. Abigail Chesebrough Grant, MaryDering’ssister’sstepdaughter,filledthe15yearsbetween 1760 and 1775 with reports on life in London and the betrayal of her husband Alexander by his benefactor – and perhaps father – Lord Grant. Also, as frequent a contributor as Abigail, was Margaret Chesebrough who was married to David Chesebrough, known as “King” because he was the wealthiest man in Newport. She wasofteninthemiddleof conflictsbetweenherhusbandandhersister’shusbandoverproducefrom the farm they jointly owned. Eliza Packer Gardiner, Thomas Dering’s granddaughter, was orphaned at age 17 – not a child and yet still not an adult. She spent a few critical years traveling from one aunt’s house to another. Her best friend in these years was her cousin Nicoll Havens Dering, who seemed to be a favorite among the entire clan of young women. She was so frank with him, it takes your breath away. Of the 37 women who contributed letters, a few have only one in the collection, but most correspondents reveal much about themselves in multiple letters. Perhaps most intriguing andunexpectedinthefinallettersaremultipleconversationsbetweentheHuntingtonsistersof Rome, New York. The Huntington letters – including two from the Revolutionary War – are probably in the collection because FrancesHuntingtonmarriedherfirstcousinNicoll Havens

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Dering in 1826, and they both saved their letters. Therearealsoafewlettersbyfivemenwhowrotetooraboutawoman.Thomas Dering wrote to his daughter Elizabeth explaining why it was unwise to marry Dr. Nathaniel Gardiner. She did anyway. SylvesterDeringwrotetohisparentstellingof thefinaldaysof hisAuntChesebrough who died of smallpox in 1872. Henry Packer Dering carried on a correspondence with his daughter Frances Mary while she was away at school, faithfully for several years. There are two others, Benjamin Huntington at the Continental Congress in Philadelphia writing home to his wife in Norwich, Connecticut, and Charles Thomas Dering writing to his cousin Frances Huntington news about various friends and family. Each of the 240 letters in this volume tells a story of struggle, sadness, amusement or joy. Some will make you laugh, others will make you weep. All are memorable.

Patricia and Edward ShillingburgJanuary 2015

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Letter Writers(in Alphabetical Order)

All letters are Dering letters except for those denoted with the letter D, which are in the Hannah Stewart Dinkel Collection. Each letter is identified by its Dering Letters number and its page location..

Elizabeth Barker. Wife of Nehemiah Barker, school master to Sylvester Dering in Mattituck, New York. Letter 292 pg 88.

Mrs. Bromley’s Mother (otherwise unknown). Letter 441 pg 129.

Margaret Sylvester Chesebrough (1719-1782) Daughter of Mary Burroughs and Brinley Sylvester. Sister of Mary Sylvester Dering. Raised in Newport, Rhode Island and Shelter Island, New York and educated in Boston. Married “King” David Chesebrough, the richest man in Newport. Stepmother of Abigail Chesebrough Grant. Died of smallpox a month after her husband. Letters 74 pg 27; 88 pg 29; 92 pg 30; 94 pg 32; 101 pg 33; 103 pg 33; 106 pg 34; 107 pg 35; 108 pg 36; 110 pg 38; 113 pg 39; 119 pg 42; 129 pg 42; 152 pg 45; 172 pg 58; 314 pg 92; 332 pg 101.

Mary Henrietta Cowles. Born in 1801. Daughter of Gloriana Havens and the Reverend WhitfieldCowles.Glorianawasthedaughterif Desiree Brown and Nicoll Havens. Letter 730 pg 239.

Elizabeth Davenport. Letter 352 pg 107.

Sarah Deming. Boston friend of Thomas Dering. Letter 340 pg 106.

Anna Fosdick Dering. (1769-1852) Wife of Henry Packer Dering and mother of nine children: Frances Mary, Henry Thomas, Brinley Sylvester, Lodowick Fosdick (died young), Gloriana Havens, Elizabeth Packer, Lodowick Fosdick, Ann Charlotte, and Nicoll Richard. Letter D19 pg 178.

Eliza Floyd Nicoll Dering (1790-1872). Daughter of Anna Willett Floyd and Samuel Benjamin Nicoll. Grew up at Sachem’s Neck (now Mashomack Preserve). Married Charles Thomas Dering, son of Esther Sarah Havens and Sylvester Dering. Settled in Sag Harbor. They had no children. He was a merchant and successfully invested in whaling ships. Letter 746 pg 255.

Esther Sarah Havens Dering (1763-1838). Know as “Sally.” Daughter of Sarah Fosdick and Nicoll Havens. Married Sylvester Dering in 1787. Had seven children, Margaret, Charles Thomas, Sarah Frances, Nicoll Havens, Henry Sylvester, and twins who died in infancy. Sylvester was the proprietor of Sylvester Manor from 1785 to 1820. She lived there until she died. Letters 630 pg 187; 639 pg 188; 696 pg 220; 762 pg 268.

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Frances Mary Dering (1795-1874). Daughter of Anna Fosdick and Henry Packer Dering. Lived in Sag Harbor all her life. Attended Newark Academy in Newark, New Jersey, and John Griscom’s School in New York City. Best friend of Frances Mary Sage. Never married. Letters D9 pg 176; D15 pg 179; D48 pg 184; 729 pg 237; 755 pg 260.

Mary Sylvester Dering (1724-1794). Daughter of Mary Burroughs and Brinley Sylvester. Raised in Newport and on Shelter Island and educated in Boston. Married Thomas Dering in 1756 in Newport. They had three children, Sylvester, Elizabeth, and Henry Packer. Spent the war years in Middletown, Connecticut, but most of her adult life at Sylvester Manor on Shelter Island. Letters 455 pg 143; 1 pg 149.

Sarah Frances Dering (1792-1833). Daughter of Esther Sarah Havens and Sylvester Dering. Attended Newark Academy in Newark, New Jersey in about 1804. Never married. Deeply involved in negotiating the sale of Sylvester Manor and its 500 acres with Samuel Smith Gardiner. Letters D52 pg 182; D11 pg 185; 617 pg 186; 655 pg 190; 690 pg 212; D12 pg 266; 761 pg 266.

Hepzibah Small Edwards ( 1714- 1817) Known as Hepzi. Daughter of Joseph Small and SusannaPacker,sisterof ElizabethPackerandfirstcousinof Thomas Dering. A spinster aunt to Thomas’s children until she married Joseph Edwards a bookstore owner and printer in 1763. She kept her cousin and her nephew informed of their many relative’s lives until she had outlived them all, dying at the age of 103. Letters 35 pg 18; 33 pg 19; 69 pg 24; 68 pg 25; 230 pg 26; 231 pg 43; 146 pg 45; 156 pg 46; 158 pg 48; 254 pg 49; 160 pg 52; 163 pg 52; 151 pg 53; 167 pg 55; 169 pg 57; 171 pg 58; 176 pg 61; 184 pg 64; 185 pg 65; 187 pg 66; 165 pg 67; 192 pg 68; 209 pg 68; 208 pg 69; 222 pg 70; 232 pg 71; 237 pg 72; 242 pg 73; 256 pg 74; 258 pg 75; 261 pg 76; 274 pg 80; 293 pg 89; 294 pg 910; 399 pg 116; 426 pg 124; 442 pg 128; 460 pg 133; 464 pg 136; 466 pg 139; 472 pg 140; 450 pg 142; 456 pg 1465; 578 pg 146.

Sarah Dering Thomas Franklin. Daughter of Sarah Dering and Nat Ray Thomas. Went with her mother to Windsor, Nova Scotia following the war. Married a farmer, Mr. Franklin. Letters 541pg 152; 576 pg 163; 614 pg 172; 628 pg 186; 715 pg 235.

Eliza Packer Gardiner (1788-1863). Daughter of Elizabeth Dering and Nathaniel Gardiner. Orphaned when she was 17 years old, neither a child nor an adult. Married Reuben Bromley in 1822. Letters 691 pg 214; 692 pg 215; 698 pg 223; 720 pg 235; 733 pg 244; 745 pg 248; D10 pg 269.

Abigail Chesebrough Grant (1734-1807). Daughter of Abigail Rogers and David Chesebrough. Stepdaughter of Margaret Sylvester Chesebrough. Married the Englishman Alexander Grant in 1769. He represented Lord Grant’s interests in the New World. Letters 87 pg 28; 97 pg 32; 109 pg 37; 114 page 38; 115 pg 41; 282 page 81; 283 pg 84; 285 pg 86; 286 pg 87; 287 pg 87; 311 pg 91; 318 pg 93; 321 pg 95; 322 pg 96; 327 pg 97; 347 pg 103.

Desiree Brown Havens (1744-1828) Married Nicoll Havens as his second wife in 1770 and borefiveof histenchildren.WasknownasGrandmamaintheletters.Inlateryearshadno

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permanent home and traveled between the homes of Catherine Mary Huntington in Rome, NY and Renssaelaer Havens in New York City. Letters 680 pg 198; 693 pg 218; 714 pg 234.

Frances Havens (1776-1811). Daughter of Desiree Brown and Nicoll Havens. Unmarried. Letter 607 pg 168.

Anne Huntington. ( - 1790) Wife of Benjamin Huntington of Norwich, Connecticut, who served in the Second Continental Congress and then the First United States Congress from Connecticut. Friends of the Derings during the Revolutionary War. Also parents of four sons, Henry, George, Gurton, and Benjamin. Letters 90 pg 30; 377 pg 109; 404 pg 118; 517 pg 150.

Anne Huntington (1801-1823). Daughter of Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington. Letters 681 pg 201; 683 pg 205; 697 pg 221; 702 pg 223; 703 pg 225; 732 pg 242.

Catherine Mary Havens Huntington (1771-1839). Daughter of Sarah Fosdick and Nicoll Havens. Married Henry Huntington of Norwich, Connecticut who took her to live in Rome, New York. They had ten children: Catherine, Frances, Anne, Henrietta, Gloriana (died young), Lucy, Gloriana, Elizabeth, Henry, and Benjamin. Letters 671 pg 193; 677 pg 197; 678 pg 202; 682 pg 204; 711 pg 232; 739 pg 248.

Catherine Huntington (1797-1856). Daughter of Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington. Attended John Griscom’s classes in New York City. Letters 673 pg 194; 676 pg 196; 709 pg 229; 741 pg 249; 744 pg 252.

Frances Huntington (1799-1841) Daughter of Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington. Attended John Griscom’s classes in NewYorkCity.MarriedherfirstcousinDr.Nicoll Havens Dering, son of Esther Sarah Havens and Sylvester Dering. Letters 679 pg 199; 684 pg 208; 685 pg 208; 686 pg 209; 706 pg 227; 710 pg 231; 734 pg 245.

Gloriana Huntington (1808-1837) Daughter of Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington. Letters 687 pg 211, with her sister Lucy; 757 pg 265.

Louisa Huntington. A sister, is not recorded in Mallman. Letter 704 pg 226.

Mary Catherine Havens L’Hommedieu (1765-1843). Daughter of Sarah Fosdick and Nicoll Havens. Married Ezra L’Hommedieu of Southold and with him had one child also named Mary Catherine. He died in 1811 and left his wife and child with land but also cash poor. Letters 641 pg 192; 663 pg 192; 739 pg 246; 740 pg 247; 742 pg 251; 743 pg 251; 749 pg 257; 750 pg 257; 753 pg 259.

Mary Catherine L’Hommedieu (1806-1838). Daughter of Mary Catherine Havens and Ezra L’Hommedieu. Also appears to have attended Newark Academy and other schools in New York City. Married Samuel Smith Gardiner and had three daughters, Mary, Phebe, and Frances Eliza. Letters 747 pg 256; 754 pg 258.

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Sarah Osborne. Letter 514 pg 80.

Sarah Sargent. Letter 43 pg 21.

Frances Mary Sage. Best friend of Frances Mary Dering. Died in Mobile, Alabama as a young woman. Letters D13 pg 177; D57 pg 184.

Mary Shurtless. Letters 40 pg 20; 44 pg 21.

Mary Burroughs Sylvester (1702-1751) Daughter of Thomas Burroughs of New York. She married Brinley Sylvester on December 2, 1718. They had two daughters Margaret and Mary. Letters 2 pg 13; 3 pg 13; D4 pg 14.

Maria Thomas (Polly), a daughter of Sarah Dering Thomas who spent some of the Revolutionary War with Mary and Thomas Dering in Middletown, Connecticut. 413 pg 121; 417 pg 122; 427 pg 126.

Sarah Dering Thomas (1732-1810) Youngest daughter of Elizabeth Packer and Henry Edward Dering. Sister of Thomas Dering. Married Nathaniel (Nat) Ray Thomas of Marshfield,Massachusetts, a HarvardCollegegraduate.Shehadeightchildren.HewasaTorywhofledtoLondon where he stayed throughout the Revolutionary War and then bought a farm in Windsor, Nova Scotia where she and most of their children joined him. Letters 20 pg 16; 26 pg 16; 25 pg 17; 27 pg 18; 29 pg 18; 30 pg 20; 42 pg 22; 46 pg 22; 47 pg 22; 49 pg 23; 53 pg 23; 80 pg 28; 89 pg 29; 95 pg 31; 173 pg 60; 248 pg 74; 265 pg 78; 391 pg 113; 400 pg 117; 406 pg 118; 416 pg 121; 421 pg 122; 444 pg 129; 448 pg 132; 465 pg 137; 478 pg 141; 559 pg 155; 569 pg 160; 570 pg 163; 577 pg 165; 582 pg 166; 615 pg 174.

Susanna Tracy. Letter 756 pg 263.

Elizabeth Dering Wentworth (1715-1785). Oldest daughter of Elizabeth Packer and Henry Edward Dering of Boston and oldest sister of Thomas Dering.. Married Samuel Wentworth, nephew of the Governor of New Hampshire. She spent the Revolutionary War in London and died there. Letters 159 pg 51; 262 pg 77; 328 pg 98.

Anna Green Winslow was born in Boston and married Josiah Winslow of Marshfield,aTory.She spent the Revolutionary War living with Sarah Dering Thomas. She lost both her son and her daughter, both as children. She joined her husband in Quebec following the war. Letters 379 pg 109; 378 pg 110; 341 pg 112; 407 pg 120; 428 pg 125; 446 pg 130; 461 pg 134; 539 pg 151; 547 pg 153.

Male contributors:

Charles Thomas Dering (1790–1859). Son of Esther Sarah Havens and Sylvester Dering. Became a merchant in Sag Habor. Married Eliza Floyd Nicoll. Letter 731 pg 241.

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Henry Packer Dering (1763-1822). Son of Mary Sylvester and Thomas Dering. Graduate of Yale. Father of nine children: Frances Mary, Henry Thomas, Brinley Sylvester, Lodowick Fosdick (died young), Gloriana Havens, Elizabeth Packer, Lodowick Fosdick, Ann Charlotte, and Nicoll Richard. Customs Collector and Post Master in Sag Habor. House is now a museum. Correspondent with his daughter Frances while she was attending Newark Academy in Newark, New Jersey. Letters D61 pg 175; D22 pg 176; D18 pg 177; D23 pg 179; D55 pg 180; D28 pg 183.

Nathaniel Gardiner (1759-1804) was a doctor during the Revolutionary War and married Elizabeth Dering in 1784. His wife died in 1801 and left him with three teenage children Maria Sylvester, Robert Smith, and Elizabeth Packer. He wrote a letter to his daughter Maria a few months before he died in March 1804. She died a few months after he did. Letter 612 pg 170.

Sylvester Dering (1758-1820). Son of Mary Sylvester and Thomas Dering. Graduate of Yale. Husband of Esther Sarah Havens. Father of seven children: Margaret, Charles Thomas, Sarah Frances, Nicoll Havens, Henry Sylvester, and twins who died in infancy. Proprietor of 500 acre estate of Sylvester Manor from 1785 until his death in 1820. Letters 396 pg 115; 397 pg 116; 511 pg 147; 613 pg 170.

Thomas Dering (1720-1785). Son of Elizabeth Packer and Henry Edward Dering. Husband of Mary Sylvester Dering. Father of Sylvester, Elizabeth and Henry Packer. Proprietor of 1,000 acre Sylvester Manor from 1762 until he died in 1785. He divided the esate between his two sons, Sylvester and Henry Packer. Letter to his daughter Elizabeth, 423 pg 114.

Benjamin Huntington (1736-1800), from Norwich, Connecticut. Graduated from Yale in 1761. Husband of Anna Huntington and father of four sons, Henry, Gurdon, George, and Benjamin. Member of the second Contiental Congress and the First United States Congress. Letter 401 pg 117.

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Letter #3, on page 13, written by Mary Burroughs to Margaret Sylvester on April 26, 1734.

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• This first group of three letters is from Mary Burroughs Sylvester (1701-1751), wife of Brinley Sylvester (1694-1752), written to her daughters Margaret (1719-1782) and Mary (1724-1794). When Brinley and Mary gained ownership of the home farm at Shelter Island in the early 1730s following a protracted lawsuit to reclaim his paternity, Brinley tore down the old farmstead and built the Manor house we know today. It was a four over four construction with a central hall. From the beginning the house slaves were to be accommodated in the attic.

• Both Margaret and Mary were away from home in Boston, living with relatives, so that they could benefit from appropriate schooling. Margaret was admonished to pay attention to her spelling, a skill she unfortunately never acquired. It was not unusual for children, both boys and girls, to be sent away from home to go to school. As early as age ten, and certainly by age twelve, boys were sent to live with “masters” to prepare in Latin and Greek for college. Girls were sent away to perfect their skills in “domestic arts,” music, drawing and painting, and necessary social skills; however, it was not long before academic subjects were even more important. By the mid 1700s one’s level of education was clear in one’s penmanship: Margaret’s stepdaughter, Abigail Chesebrough, in 1760 wrote the first beautifully legible letter in this collection, which foretold that clarity of penmanship signaled the level of education.

Book: 1Number: 2Date: 5/26/1733To: Mary SylvesterFrom: Mary Burroughs Sylvester (Mother)Place: Shelter Island

Book: 1Number: 3Date: 4/26/1734To: Margaret SylvesterFrom: Mary Burroughs Sylvester (Mother)Place: Shelter Island

Shelter Island May ye 26 1733Dear Child I have sent you two shifts, two aprons, two handkerchiefs, two caps, a pair of pockets and the cotton and linen, which I intend for a bed. I desire it may be managed as your aunt thinks proper, whose judgment I can trust as well in that as other things: therefore I would have you be governed by her in all respects as if she was your mother, and be as ready to ask her counsel as you would mine. I don’t doubt but she will give you good advice: Be sure to follow it and all good examples avoiding the appearance of evil. Remember that the Eye of God is ever upon you and that he will call you to an account for all the deeds done in the body. Endeavor to walk so that you may be able to give it with joy and not with grief. Give as little trouble in the family as possible, behave yourself so as to get the love of all, be careful to improve your time to the best advantage especially in getting good to your soul I recommend you to God desiring that he would keep you from all evil butespeciallyfromtheevilof sin,andremainyouraffectionatemother.I would not have you neglect to write to me by every opportunity. Mary Sylvester

Shelter Island April ye 26 1734My dear I received yours of ye 25 of March which was ye third I have had since I left you. It was very pleasing to me. I, therefore, hope you will not omit writing by every opportunity and be more careful in spelling which is ye greatest ornament in writing, which you are extreme wanting in, for your letters will not bear reading but by a friend, therefore desire you to take pains with yourself and endeavor toimprovesonecessaryaqualification.IhavereceivedJohnnie’sshirtsstays and calico, which were very acceptable. Your father has sent money for a spinet, which I suppose may be had in Boston, if your aunt think it best, and orders for your clothes and what else you’ll want. I have send a quilt in 1 box of candles which I hope you have received before now and shall send and some night caps as soon as I can make them. I would have you send your old bonnet and anything else, which

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• In 1735, Thomas Dering’s mother, Elizabeth Packer, died, probably as a result of giving birth to her son Henry. Thomas was fifteen years old. His sister Elizabeth had married Samuel Wentworth, son of New Hampshire’s Lieutenant Governor. The following year his sister Mary would marry John Gooch, son of James Gooch, a merchant.

Book: D (Dinkel Collection)Number: 64Date: 9/18/1738To: Mary SylvesterFrom: Mary Burroughs Sylvester (Mother)Place: Shelter Island

you don’t use that will do for your sister. As to the doctor’s medicines I did not take till now being advised to wait till ye spring, which have hithertoworkedaswellasIcouldexpect.Ihavebeenconfinedtomyroomaboutamonthandexpectif Idowelltobeconfinedatleast10days longer. I am very much blamed by your friends as well as mine, that I have not sent for you before now considering my weakness and great need. I have of help. In such a family, it is a piece of self denial almost too great for me, and unless I have my health better than I have had, you must expect to be sent for in a little time. Therefore would advise you to improve the present time in endeavoring after the accomplishing of your self, especially of your mind by getting an acquaintance with God and things that are spiritual which are worth the greatest pains, which are ye ornaments I desire you excel in. We all give my kind love to your aunt and cousins. I am your dear mother Mary Sylvester.

Shelter Island September ye 18 1738My Dear MollyI received your letter by Capt. Hobart which was exceeding pleasing to me. I am glad you like Boston and that you are so contented. I believe it makes me more easy than I thought I should be to have you from me. Yet am I very thoughtful and concern for you. I hope and desire you will be so for yourself and endeavor to improve your time to the best advantage because the present time is only yours. That which is passed cannot be recalled and you are not sure of tomorrow. Above all things consider of the things that belong to your soul’s peace before they are hid from your eyes. Don’t let your heart go after your eyes which are beholding abundance of vanities, but give up your heart to God who justly requires it of you for his Glory. You was made and by his visitation it is that your spirit is preserved in life. Beg of God to form and fashion your heart according to his own mind and will and that he would be pleased for the sake of Christ to enlighten your dark understanding, that you see the right way and be walking in those paths that are well pleasing unto him. Consider you are now acting for eternity and that God will bring every work into judgment with every secret thing whether it be good or evil. Don’t neglect, every day, to read some part of God’s word and beg of him to set his home upon your heart that thereby you may be brought lovingly acquainted with him whom to know right is life eternal. – Be very dutiful to your aunt. Receive her instructions and be as careful to please her as if she was your mother. Strive to get the love of all by behaving yourself soberly, modestly, and obligingly to everybody. Make as little trouble as possible in the family. Be diligent in making and mending your clothes. When there is occasion strive to keep them neat and clean. Be always readier to hear than to speak, and don’t forget to think before you speak. I shall

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• In 1740 Thomas Dering was 20 years old and living in his father’s brick faced house on Queen’s Street in Boston with his four sisters and five year old brother. He was working in his father’s store. Although his father did not deem a college education necessary for the life he imagined for his son, many of Thomas’s friends and the men who would marry his sisters graduated from Harvard.

• On October 8, 1749, Margaret Sylvester, aged 30, married David Chesebrough of Newport, Rhode Island. The ceremony probably took place at the Sylvester family’s home on Shelter Island as Mary (Burroughs) and Brinley Sylvester had their own family pastor, William Adams, living in a small cottage on their estate, now called Creek Cottage. David had been born at Stonington, Connecticut on February 2, 1702/03 and baptized there on August 12, 1703. He was the son of Mary (MacDowell) and William Chesebrough. He was a widower having first married Abigail Rogers at Trinity Church in Newport on June 12, 1729. She bore him three children, Mary, William and Abigail. Only Abigail lived beyond infancy and was now 15 years old. In 1736, David had been named a freeman of Newport and in 1737 he had built a large house described as being a replica of the famous Hancock house in Boston. David probably made his fortune in the Triangle Trade, rum to Africa, slaves to the Caribbean, molasses to Newport to be distilled into rum. He was knicknamed “King” David because of his success and rank among the successful men of Newport. Margaret bore two children, Mary in 1750 and William in 1751, both of whom died in infancy. [Boonstra, Michael J., Descendants of King David Chesebrough of Newport, Rhode Island, New England Historical and Genealogical Register, July 2002, pages 223-227.]

• Thomas Dering’s sister Anne married James Monk in 1740.

• In 1750, Thomas’s father, Henry Edward Dering, died. Thomas was thirty years old and his younger brother Henry fifteen. Thomas and Henry inherited their father’s store and merchant business.

• In 1751 Margaret Chesebrough’s and Mary Sylvester’s mother, Mary Burroughs Sylvester, died and in 1752, their father, Brinley Sylvester, died. They were buried on Shelter Island.

• It is possible that King David Chesebrough brought the painter Joseph Blackburn from Bermuda to Newport where he painted 20-year-old Abigail before tackling the sisters Margaret Sylvester Chesebrough and Mary Sylvester in 1754. Although Abigail’s portrait seems to be of her in her own dress, it appears that for the sisters he had come to Newport with canvases already painted with faceless ladies in romantic settings so that he could, when convenient, add the visage of a paying customer with little inconvenience. From Newport he went to Boston where he successfully found other subjects among the New England aristocracy. Blackburn eventually returned to England. The Sylvester sisters’ portraits were given to the Metropolitan Museum of Art in 1916 by Mary’s descendent, General Sylvester Dering. Abigail Chesebrough’s painting now resides at the Art Institute of Chicago. [Boonstra, Ibid., July 2002, pages 230-231]

• Nathaniel Ray Thomas was born at Marshfield, Massachusetts and graduated from Harvard in 1751. He was fifth in descent from the settler William Thomas. The Thomases had served the town of Marshfield and the colony in many ways over the years, as assistant governors, representatives to the General Court, judges, and selectmen. [Krusell, Cynthia Hager and Betty Magown Bates, Marshfield, A Town of Villages, 1640-1990, page 14-15] Nat, as he was called, married Thomas’s sister Sarah in 1754. Although they would have eight children, they as yet had none. .

• At 4:30 in the morning, on November 18, 1755, there was a “shock,” which was attributed to God’s wrath. It was, indeed, an earthquake, the most severe ever recorded on the East Coast. It was possibly 6.0 to 6.3 on the present-day Richter scale. It was about 24 miles off the coast of Cape Ann in the northeast corner of Massachuetts, and was felt from Nova

send,bythefirstopportunity,apetticoatandsomediapertomakeyoua gown. We all long to see you and rejoice to hear from you which I desire we may by all opportunities. Give my regards to all friends and I remainyouraffectionateMother–Mary Sylvester

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Scotia to South Carolina. No one died, but Nat Thomas’s chimney fell down.

Book: 1Number: 20Date: 1/16/1756To: Thomas DeringFrom: Sarah Dering ThomasPlace: Marshfield


Dear BrotherMr. Thomas is gone into the woods and our Irish men have this moment told me they are going aboard. That I have but one moment to beg the favor of you to send me in the jars that I have sent after by them,onefullof OyleforthelampsandtheotherfilledwithOyleforto mix our paints with. Pray do not omit the former for we burn up our candles so fast that I am afraid they will not last us till we have more tallow. as we live so in the country. I do not choose to sleep without a light. I have wrote you by Mr. Winslow, but whether he is gone yet or no I cannot tell for there is no opportunity certain here. But I must conclude for they wait with only adding that I am expecting to see you every day, so with the pleasing prospect, subscribe myself your affectionatesisterSarah Thomas MarshfieldJanuary16,1756

Dear BrotherAs I suppose by this time, you are got back from Newport. I embrace thisopportunitytowriteandfirstIwouldbeginwiththecomplimentof the season and wish you a happy new year. And as you are just upon concludinganaffairof sogreatimportance,Iwishitmaybeahappyyear indeed to you and now, though I am under many obligations for favors received I must again trouble you with begging the favor of you to inquire at the manufactory house how much they ask for weaving a yard of cloth for our spinner is now a spinning us some new cloth and I think they ask me very dear for weaving here and we have a great deal of wool, which I should be glad you would ask what they would have for spinning for she cannot spin it, and some people tell us it is cheaper to sell the wool and buy what we want for clothing. I want of a pair of cotton sheets but she cannot spin the cotton and nobody here can weave it wide enough, I believe.

Prayletmeknowwhattheyaskedforweavingclothof differentfinenessandwidth.Ihavefiveskeinsof worsted,whichIgotspunhere and the woman charged 28 shillings for spinning it besides the scouring. I should be glad to know whether that was dear. I have sent you four skeins and should be glad if you would get Mrs. Miller to knit it for Mr. Thomas for he has hardly any stockings but what takes me a day to mend if he wears them any few hours. But I believe they will turn out much dear than if he has bought them of Esther. Pray be so good as to send me 1000 of your Middlesex pins by James and let me hear whether you desire us a visit before you are married. Indeed I hardly expect if you are so much taken up at present, but whenever youcanfindleisureyouknowthereisnoonethatcanreceiveyouwithmorepleasurethanyourmostaffectionatesisterSarah Thomas

PS Henry got some lace burnt for me by Miller and I made him a collar over which I should be glad if you would ask Henry whether he

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ever got. I designed it to pay him for that handkerchief I had of him, but he has not got it pray let him to get Miller to burn what I now send by James, and I will give him the rest when I see him for I hope to have a visit from him soon. yours ST

While I was writing I received your letter of the 6 instant and am greatly obliged to Mr. Goldthwaite for his repeated goodness and continued friendship as I am likewise to you and pray you to return my compliments to Ms. Sylvester when you see her. I doubt not her goodness in being very glad to entertain me at his house and I need not sure tell you I believe yours, but if I should not keep with Mrs. Gooch the next time I come down, that is if you are married as I believe you will be, you know her temper and I fear it would make a very great breach. I have had an invitation from Mrs. Wentworth, but though she think and I ought to keep with her as she was so good as to take a winter journey to see me, so when nobody else would, still she is willing to give up as she knows the consequence. But I hope my coming to town, if I should ever live to again, will not be the cause of any uneasiness. But sure I am greatly obliged to you all for your repeated invitation and you must need think let me keep where I will. It will not be as it used to be and especially if I keep at one place, which I need not mention to you as you know just how much satisfaction I shall have, but let you think what you will they think it would appear very odd to the eyes of the world as well as to them, if I should keep with a sister-in-law that she was ever so agreeable before one of my own sisters. But more of this when we meet. You can’t but think I still and ever shall remember the obligations I am under to you so greatfully acknowledgeditasopportunityoffers,andhopeyouwillbelievemetobeaseveryourmostaffectionatesistertocommand,Sarah Thomas

Dear Brother I received yours of the 12 instant where in you mentioned my letter having no date. I suppose it might be my great hurry that I commonly write in for when I write by James, I am glad to answer all my letters, which takes me more time then I well can spare, and when I write by other opportunities I have but very short warning. I wish I could come as you desire before you are married and make you a visit but I am afraid I shall not be able for Mr. Thomas thinks his business will not admit of his leaving home till April and by that time I suppose you will not only be married, but have our sister home. But I will hope here for it seems as though she, to use Mr. Hitchins words, would be jar in our harmony, which I would by no means have you imagining that I think, for you know I have no personal acquaintance with her, but from her general character in life. I doubt not butshe is altogether as agreeable as you think her but what I say you should not take as anything relating to her but only as the outward appearances of things to the world and in general as well as to those that is near related. Then she will be, but no more of this, til we are so happy as to meet, which I can’t help flatteringmyself willbeJune,eitherhereorintown.Yousayonedayis too short a time for you to do all our business in when James comes

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• Thomas Dering married Mary Sylvester in Newport on March 9, 1756.


• Hepzibah Small, age 42, was Thomas Dering’s first cousin. Their mothers, Elizabeth and Susannah Packer, were sisters. She was living with the Dering family in a large brick house on Queen’s Street.

Book: 1Number: 35Date: 3/10/1756To: Thomas DeringFrom: Hepzi Small Place: Boston

to town. Indeed I am very sorry we are obliged to give you so much trouble especially at this present time, when without doubt you have business enough to employ your time of your own. But must beg you would send me the pins I wrote you for, and you will very much obliged youraffectionatesistertocommand.

Dear BrotherNot knowing the tide would serve and the weather be fair this evening, I thought to have wrote you more at-large but Asher says he is obliged to go this moment, that I have but just time to say I received your letter by Crocker and though you are in debt a letter to me you need not to have reminded me that we are not to stand upon ceremony with each other, for I do assure you I never shall for I always write when I have an opportunity if it be but one line. Mr. Thomas wrote you yesterday and I wrote to Hepzi by Mr. Green relating to the bearer of this, which I must beg your advice about as soon as possible and pray let us know about the man and woman you were to get for us and let me know about the spinning and weaving, and you will very much obliged your obligedandmostaffectionatesistertocommandSarah Thomas Marshfield’sFebruary3,1756remembermetoallfriendsforAsherawaits.

Dear BrotherSince you will not favor us with a visit before you are married, Mr. Thomas talks of obliging me so far if he possibly can to make you a short visit if you will let us know exactly when you think you shall go to concludethehappyaffair.Ihopeitwillbeanddoubtitnot,butasthisis very uncertain, must beg it may not be mentioned for there will be a greatmanydifficultiesattendingourcoming,andif weshouldcome,it would be wholly owing to Mr. Thomas’s goodness to oblige me, but astheextraordinaryremarkablefineweatherwehavehadforsolonga spell, may make us expect a little winter at last so may perhaps be prevented our present intentions. But at present am pleasing myself with the thoughts of it. For I long to come and take my leave of the old mansion before you forsake it, and as you very well know, it must be a greater pleasure and satisfaction than my summer visit may depend upon my doing my endeavors for it in the meantime believe me I be as everyouraffectionatesisterSarah Thomas

Boston March 10, 1756Dear CozI am very glad to hear you are well after the fatigue of your journey, and if you are a married man when this reaches you, I wish you all the joy that you expect and my compliments to the lady. If you think properly, your family is all well, I am the worst in it. I am not very well.

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Book: 1Number: 33Date: 3/19/1756To: Thomas DeringFrom: Hepzi SmallPlace: Boston

Mrs. Thomas left us Tuesday morning and I have been very malingerly ever since. Saturday night just after dark, we were surprised by the cry of fireandwhenIwenttothedoorandfounditwasthetopof JamesApthorp’s house. You may well think what a surprise I was in well thinksI,Cozwillcomehomeandfindhishousedemolished,somustlive in the Manse, at least the particulars that I shall leave till I see you,if everIdo.Itwasthechimneywasafire,theengineswastherein a moment. No damage is done, only they have lost all their [-] and Tuesdaymorningat5o’clockwewerealarmedwiththecryof fire.The dock of the man of war’s kitchen was burnt down. I heard them cryfire.Itwokemeoutof mysleepIgotupandopenedthewindowand found it was not near us and then run into Mr. Greens chamber, who I found fast asleep but waked him, but he did not go out because of his hand. I expect Col. Dickenson in town this night but can’t get a pair of sheets if he should come and I hear he is to lodge here. While I am writing, Mr. Goldthwaite comes in sends his compliments to you and your lady.

You were casket bearer to Miss Nancy Phillips. It was a grand funeral. As to Sea News and about Mad Cap, I shall refer you to Mr. Green and remain your cousin at command Hepzi Small

Pray do not take any notes to anybody that I wrote you about Apthorpe’shousebeingafire,Itwasonlythechimney.

Boston March 19Dear CozI have left my ironing board to write to you. I intended not to write when your brother Green informed me that you intended to come home next week, but as you desired me to write I have sent you a few lines. You seem to have little to say to me and I less to you for there is no news that I hear of, nobody married nor nobody buried. Last night I received a letter from Sally and have answered it today by Col. Winslow.

You asked me if I have been to see William Phillips. I have been nowhere since you left home but to meeting only last night. Love came in and see me all alone and had companion [-] and made me go to his house. He come twice for me before I went. I have not time to write you how Sally found her family when she got home, but Mary had run away and Tom run after her so they are both gone. I sent your gloves as you desired and wrote to Mr. Kitchen but have not heard from him yet.Ibelieveyouaretiredof readingnothingsoshallfinishwithsayingall your friends send their compliments to Mr. and Mrs. Dering.

Mr Gooch and Col. Hinchman know their compliments are being present when I received yours. Mr. Green said you were to stay a month when you went away. Now he tells me you are to be at home next week. Mr. Anthorpe is moved. Col. Albertson has left a message

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• Thomas and his brother Henry, merchants in Boston, imported goods from England and Europe when the British crown permitted it. Their major supplier was the London firm of Lane & Booth. The cost of their goods included insurance, which was determined by the reliability of the convoy the ship carrying the goods traveled with, Spring, Summer, or Fall. Convoys were initiated out of both English and European ports.


• People at this time socialized only with cousins and often did business only with cousins. However, the circle of cousins was more broadly defined. When you married, your spouse’s cousins became not only your cousins but also your cousins’ cousins, which meant that the circle of kinsmen was often extraordinarily large. Over time, many others, in addition to Sarah Mary Shurtless, will join Thomas and Mary’s circle.

Book: 1Number: 40Date: 4/10/1756To: Thomas DeringFrom: Mary ShurtlessPlace: Portsmouth

for you, which I shall deliver when I see you. He charged me to after he was mounted, which is all I have to say at present but remain your friend and [-] at command Hepzi Small

I received your letter by James and take this opportunity to congratulate you upon your entrance into the happy state of matrimony, which it may prove a happy state indeed to you and that you may be more and more conscious of it every day you live. Pray return my proper regards to your lady and let her know if she will do us the favor of a visit. We shall receive her with a great deal of pleasure and will do everything in our power to make our retired habitation as agreeable as possible to her. As you say there has many strange things happen since I was in town, almost as strange as you being married yourself for indeed I can hardly realize now that you are. Pray do you think our Coz Nabby Ellen has acted wisely for if I mistake not I have heard he is a very odd tempered man. As for Mrs. Tolman, I think it appears like a pretty match but I thought he was determined never to marryagain.poorNancyKing.Iwishshemaynotflingherself away.Iknow not Mr. Smelt but my opinion of her is that as Nabby is going to be married she will be to at all events.

The lantern is going better but will not admit me to write a long letter for he takes too much of my time up yet. So shall only add that I shall make great dependence upon seeing you very soon with a pleasing prospect of which I shall conclude with subscribing myself your most affectionatesisterSarah Thomas

Portsmouth April 10, 1756Dear CozI have the pleasure of receiving a few lines from you after a profound silence of more than six months for yours of the 31 March is the only I have received since 8 September! But I forgive your neglect when I ponder the business you was engaged in and now tell you that I do truly rejoice. You have at last ventured your self in the marriage state andfindyourself happy.Mayitcontinuetoyourlife’sandincreaseeachday.Icanfindnooneherewhichhasanyknowledgeof yourladybut I dare trust your choice for an agreeable person and hope by some meansoranotherIshallbegratifiedinconversingwithMrs. Dering. The thought of which gives me a pleasure. You may, if you please, and

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• Sarah Sargent was another cousin in the larger circle.

Book: 1Number: 43Date: 5/15/1756To: Thomas DeringFrom: Sarah SargentPlace: Portsmouth

Book: 1Number: 44Date: 5/15/1756To: Thomas DeringFrom: Mary ShurtlessPlace: Portsmouth

think of it, give her joy from me in sincerity and health better than compliments.

I am glad you have the money from Mrs. Pierce and I suppose you remember what I told you she was to pay you. I hope you will be looking for something for a gown for me and remember that I had none last year although it was much talked of. I hoped you would have met with something that would have suited me when you was looking for yourself for I hate to add to your trouble. I am quite sorry I had notthehalf of Mrs.HavenspoundsasIfirstthoughtof.Ishallbegladyou’dsendthepapermoneyyouhaveforIfindIshallgetnothingfor it here and Mrs. Luke Wentworth will be so good as to bring it for me and I believe will take care of the silk if you can get one before he comes away. I am dear Coz your friend and humble servant Mary Shurtless

Dear KinsmanPortsmouth May the 15th 1756Hearing by way of our Boston friends that you were so happy as to be joined in marriage to very agreeable young lady, take this opportunity to congratulate you and from the very bottom of my heart and wish you all that joy and happiness that is best for you. I believe I am the only person living that was present at your birth and I think tomorrow will be your birthday and I wish you joy on that occasion, too. I hope the God of heaven will bless you both in temporal but more especially inspiritualaffairsandmayalonglifeandahappyeternitybeyoureverlasting portion. I beg you will make my compliments acceptable to your spouse and rich with love to your sisters Hanny and Hepzi. Subscribe your most obliged kinswoman Sarah Sargent

Dear CozPortsmouth May 15, 1756I have the pleasure to hear by our friends Atkinson and Wentworth that your lady is safely arrived at Boston. This is a satisfaction to all your friends and no one of them (I am sure) is more pleased with anything that will add to your comfort than I am. I [-] you did make my compliments agreeable to your lady and assure her my best wishes are for her happiness. Mr. Wentworth tells me he delivered my letter to you and I was in hopes you would have found me a gown and the paper money, which is only in your way there and I am in want of it here for I fear we must always have the trouble of paper money with us. Young Rhymes is at Boston and will buy my wait on you and has promise to bring anything you will send [-] and pray send me if bought a gown and the paper money. I might have met with [-] here but have expected you would get me one there. But your business would not allow you to look and I conclude your business will increase with your

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family’s increase and I am told that goods of all sorts are rising and I shall be quite sorry for that for I have no money to throw away or lay dead. I must send to some other person that has more time to serve a friend and if you have not bought pray give the dollars I sent you with those you had of Mrs. Pierce to Mrs. Dering for I have asked the favor of her to lay them out for your friend and Kinswoman Mary Shurtless

Dear BrotherI received your letter by James and by Mr. Green both of which should have answered if had opportunity. I have not been unmindful of what was due from me to Mrs. Dering as my elder brother’s wife since it was my misfortune not to be able to pay my proper compliments by making heravisitandshallgladlyembrace,thisbeingthefirstopportunitysince I have the pleasure of hearing from you, that she was got to her new habitation for indeed I did not know but you had quite forgot us. It wassolongbeforeIheardfromyou,butamverygladtofindthatyounot only have not, but that you desire us a visit, which I hope nothing will happen to prevent, as I think you need nothing further as a proof to convince you. It will be the highest pleasure and satisfaction as well toMr.ThomasasyourmostaffectionatesistertocommandSarah Thomas MarshfieldMay21st,1756

Dear brother I a little expected to have received a line from you when you got home but as I have not can only say I hope you all got safe home And found nothing here so very disagreeable but that you will make us another visit before the pleasant season is over which we shall take as a very great favor. Indeed I do not see what you can have at present to hinder you from making us several except it be want of inclination. And now according to the old Harry I must begin with my wantsagainbutinthefirstplaceIwouldsayIamverysorrytogiveyou the trouble and hope before it is long I shall have it in my power to do more of my business myself and trouble my friends less but must now beg the favor of you to send the yarn you have to the manufactory to be wove for a tick for we have not beds enough to use and have featherssufferingforwantof somethingtoputtheminaslikewisethefineyarntobewoveninapiecebyitself.IhavenottimetoenlargeforRabbyshan awaits so must only beg my brother regards to Mrs. Dering whichMr.ThomasjoinsmeinandconcludeyouraffectionatesisterSThomas MarshfieldJuly9,1756

Dear BrotherMarshfieldJuly29,1756Iwouldfirstcongratulateyouuponyourremovaltoyournewhouse.I wish it may prove more agreeable than the old one. And now would return you my thanks for your kind invitation. When I shall come to town. I know not, for at present see no prospect of it but when I do you know my engagement, though that does not in the least lessen myobligationstoyouforyourmostkindandgoodoffer.YoudesireI

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Dear BrotherMr. Thomas is just got home from his journey to Newport where he has bought drove of fat cattle but having not yet disposed of them should be glad you would get me some few necessaries, which we are in want of for the family. But Mr. Thomas does not choose to send for any more things upon credit until he has discharged those accounts he has open having a prospect of doing it in a short time, which is James business to town at this time to see about a market for the cattle and get us a few necessaries for the family, which I will enclose you a memorandum for. Mr. Thomas says he saw your brother Chesebrough well in the street but they only exchanging hats so he cannot tell how the family did. I suppose Mr. Green will write Mr. Thomas but if he does not, pray be so good as to speak to him about his taking some cattle of Mr. Thomas and let us know what he says. Pray my compliments as due to Mrs. Dering. I hope you both are still of the mind to make us a visit with the pleasing prospect of which I conclude atpresentwithsubscribingmyself youraffectionatesisterSThomasMarshfieldAugustye141756

Pray let James bring what things he can for when we shall have an opportunity by water I know not for all our vessels are gone to the Eastward. Pray do not fail of a part of the sugar for we are quite out. ST

MarshfieldSeptemberyeeighth1756Dear BrotherThe great friendship and regard you once professed for me emboldens me to write you as a friend, the great straits I am in at present for many necessaries, which it is not in Mr. Thomas’s power to get at this time, and pay those people which he ought and must most necessarily do most beg you had any such thing as a piece of fabric left when you left out shop keeping about 20 or 22 shillings a yard that you would send it me for the child is quite naked and I have not anything to make him shirtsof exceptIwastomakeitof fineDutchHollandwhichIthinkistoo good besides many other things

I want the fabric for and I must once more make you would not forget

would let you know what was to be done with the remaining part of the course yarn at your house. I desire it for cotton and lining as same as I can get some more spun so shall be obliged to you to let it lay for the present. Hope you mentioned their whiting the yarn for the tip for if youdidnotIamafraidtheywillputitinBrownasitisafineyarnthat it is spun in a piece by it self should be glad they would whiting before they send it home for they can do it much better then we can. I am very glad to hear you desire us a visit before cold weather and believe I need not repeatedly assure you it will be giving us a great deal of pleasure,whichiswhatoffersatpresentfromyouraffectionatesisterS Thomas

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• Hepzi Small had gone to Marshfield to visit her cousin Sarah Thomas.

Book: 1Number: 69Date: 12/9/1757To: Thomas DeringFrom: Hepzi SmallPlace: Marshfield

the done lace for our boys have not shirts to cover their nakedness. Perhaps you will wonder I cannot get something spun here for them but there is not anybody that will work for us without the money and then it hands was in about half as dealer again as if we sent to Boston for it some people think it is a very easy matter for Mr. Thomas to sell the produce of his farm paid what he does and have money to spare and never remembering he has constant family expenses which we must have money going out for and for his farm will not produce everythingwewanttospendinafamilyandbesideshemustfindmoney to pay of his people weekly that work on the farm and glad to get them so for there is none to be hired hardly since this last [-] Bisbee will be up next week I believe by whom I should be glad you could send these things I have men and hands.

I think I delivered you in my last to send me some vinegar for my pickles for our vinegar is so weak I am afraid that will be all spoiled and if I have not time to write to Hepzi. Pray tell her she must look out for a maid for me for Liza is going away to be married in October and Asher’s time will be up in December and then I shall be quite destitute of servants. I think to complete my letter of wants I must say I wish you could get me a good Negro woman for in short I believe I shall have no steady help till I have one. I am very sorry to give you so much trouble but if it want for hopes the heart would break. I live in hopes of seeing the day when I shall not be such a trouble to my friends but have it in my power to make them some return for what has passed. I shall order Bisbee to call upon you and pray do not fail to let Mr. Goochnoteitforhehasabarrelof flourforusandwehavenothadany in the house a great while. By this time I believe you are quite tired so shall only add Mr. Thomas and my best regards to Mrs. Dering and restyouraffectionatesisterSThomas

December 9Dear CozThisisthefirstopportunityIhavehadtoacquaintyouof myjourney,which would have been very pleasant if there had been any good company. It was very warm and pleasant riding the roads very good; if you remember I was in the chairs just at that as the clock struck eight and we were at [-] before 10 when I thought proper to shift horses and put gold [-] in which he did not like but I told him he case the mayor one stage and if he behaved well he should have the praise and if not I would punish him, so we set out on that day but the horse, like what I said, seems on one side poking his side and [-] whipping on the other till the poor girl was tired and won’t cry out oh bless me mishaps I am afraid you will be tired before you get to Marshfield.

I was very angry, as you may well think, with the old horse but could not help smiling to see Jeans and Keaty exercising themselves on the

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Book: 1Number: 68Date: 12/14/1757To: Thomas DeringFrom: Hepzi SmallPlace: Marshfield

horse at last I grew impatient and thought I must do something myself so I fell to chirping and the music of my voice charmed the old horse that he set a going and I kept to chirping till my tongue and lips were almost worn out. Keaty, observing this behavior cries out oh bless me what is the matter with the horse I believe he is just come to life in this way brought us Cushens about 12 [-]. Where we shifted and put the old mare to the chairs who carried us safe to Mrs. Thomas’s by 5 o’clock, but they did not expect me till Monday.

Tuesday Parson Green and wife and father dined with us and Wednesdays Sally and I went to Duxbury to Convention. The preacher was Parson Barnes of Citygate. He had a charming set of teeth, a good delivery, and speak like Mr. Cooper. There was a number of ministers there but I can’t write you all now. Parson Roan”s son came home and slept with us and has given us an invitation to Kingstown where we are going next week if we live. We have been expecting the General every day this week. He sent his family word that he shall be down on Wednesday and they have been preparing for him. I hope when he comes I shall hear from you and do send all the news for we can’t hear any here. I long to kiss the babe who I hope is well; do write me about him and kiss him for me. Nat says he will come and see him along with me. Pray remember me to all inquiring friends Mr. Goldswaithe and lady, Mrs. Thornecroft and Mrs. Dering and you will oblige yours at command Hepzi Small

Pray tell Major Noble that Mr. Thomas will take his horse for 18 pounds for the season and that is what he has for the other horses that he has got.

Dear CozDecember ye 14thI have wrote you by this sloop an account of my journey but by Jeany I findyouhavenotreceiveditbuthopeyouwillbeforethisreachesyousoshallnotsayanythingaboutitnow.AstoSheasff’sbookitissafein my drawer pray tell him so am when I come up he shall have it. I did intend to give it to him before I left home. I came in such a hurry that I forgot it. I am very sorry to hear of your indisposition but hope your dieting will be of service to you for your recovery. I am very glad to hear that Harry is got better. I have been very uneasy about him because I know he takes no care of himself. I long to romp with babe and kiss him but I am afraid he will forget me before I shall see him again but don’t let him if you can help it. I suppose John has told you what a merry meeting we had. I was extreme glad to see him and wish he had stayed longer. My complements to Mr. Goldthwaite and all friends of yours Hepzi Small

You say nothing about Mr. Fox of the Siegel. I hope you will get it though I hear they say he shall [-] for it was the tickets I left with you blanks that you say nothing of.

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• Mary and Thomas Dering’s first child, a son Henry, was born in April 1757 and died in January 1758. Another son, Sylvester, was born in November 1758, and, although he was sometimes a sickly child, he survived childhood. Hepzi Small was attached to her cousin’s baby boy. Hepzi and Thomas’s brother Henry were living with Thomas and Mary.

• This letter is undated and was placed in the wrong place. Hepzi was lamenting a dead child, Henry, who was born in 1757 and died in 1758. Hepzi was not yet married. Was she being courted by a Mr. Edwards?

Book: 3Number: 230Date: 11/5/1758To: Thomas DeringFrom: Hepzi SmallPlace: Boston

Dear friend I received yours and was very glad to hear from you. Your letterfilledmewithgrief andtearswhenyoumentionedmydearchild,which has almost broke my heart, his leaving of me for I sat down in tears and rose with the same till I began to think it was wicked in me for I feared I should make myself sick. I held on in this way till the Monday after you left me and then a new era opened as soon as breakfast was over. Somebody knocks at the door and when I went who should it be but Doc Chauncey. How do you do Miss Hepzi. What do you think has brought me here this morning. Can you guess in seven times. No sir, set a high nor twice seven but something good I hope Dr. will come sit down and I will tell you. Mr. Brigham wants a good wife and your character suits him. My wife and I think there is not the woman in the world that will suit him like you. But not to enlarge, the doctor labored the point with me for an hour. I said I was very much obliged to him and glad I had such a friend, and I will realize Mr. Brigham was too but I could not think of going in the country away from all my friends but it had us [----] care between here and Marshfield.

I would have gone to oblige the good Dr. a great deal more was said to his nieces and the like. Another thing I thought was that if I went to this by place, I should never see my dear boy no more a shocking thought indeed well said [-] I had rather keep you here. I am loathe to part with you pray what is this talk of Mr. Edwards has he been to see you? Know it was only outdoors talk well said he and I had [--] notwithstanding I have such opinion of Mr. Brigham and know him to be so good a husband. I have no acquaintance with Mr. Edwards but I will go and let him that the King’s business requires haste and if he won’t come directly bring them will cut him out just such a friend at this is my dear [-].

He has been twice to see me in three or four days but I can’t write you one half of the kind things that he said to me. I hope one time or other eyes shall see you in this [-] and then perhaps I may surprise you with some things that you never thought of but to leave that. The kindness of my friends is so great as you can’t imagine Mrs. Wentworth has ordered all her servants to be at my command. Came in and said anything and everything in her house was at my service and begged that I would want nothing that [-] she had.

Mrs. Gooch [Thomas’s sister Mary] has made me several presents for

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Book: 1Number: 74Date: 1/9/1759To: Thomas DeringFrom: Margaret Sylvester ChesebroughPlace: Newport

housekeeping. She sent me a large quantity of pickles and many other things of that kind. I am asked to dine almost every day at one or other of my friends. Mrs. Gooch came twice in one day to ask me to come up and spend the evening with some company that they thought would be agreeable to me. I at present live as easy and that is happy as I could wish. I wish you were my near neighbors. That I could see you every day. Providence is very kind to me. May I never be left to distrust it. God is good and kind to the evil and unthankful and I partake of hisbountieseveryday.Ohthatmyheartmaybefilledwithgratitudeand thankfulness to the father of Marines. [-] desire from my heart to thank God for his fatherly corrections [-] I [-] thought it hard to bear but I would not be without the world. Pray that every trial that I have metwith[-]besanctifiedtome.butImustreturntomydearchildsofoolish [---] and unwise as to keep his dear nightshirt. In my chamber kiss and weep over it every morning. His jacket hangs in the entry where as I pass from parlor to kitchen, I stop and kiss and drop a fond tear upon it. I am afraid I am wicked in this but I want grace. I can’t get the better of it. Your friends here and all [--] your neighbors house days it much to have an is your friend but a little news. Mr. Greenleaf, Mr. Winslow’s child and [-] died a week after you left us. Capt. Phillips was married the Thursday morning after you left us and came to lecture and nobody knew that he was bridegroom. But I must subscribe myself your friend and cousin at command as ever Hepzi Small

Newport January 9, 1759Dear BrotherI received yours by Mr. Pease since which I have not had one opportunity to answer it and now my pen is so bad and it is by candlelight that I fear it will be a dreadful letter but when I consider that I am writing to a good friend I make myself go it easy and scrabble a long gust what comes upper most: I return you many thanks for your case and trouble in procuring me a ticket .I conclude it is a blank by my not hearing from you before this. I due to Tom had I drawn a prize I should have heard from you by sthe post: but let it be how it will. I shall be easy. I am extremely glad to hear that you are much better and that your health is so much restored to you. I pray that it may be continued and that begone [mars] is may be continued. I don’t hear any thing of my dear sister having the rhumatism this winter which I think is a great favour: I long to hear from you all. And to know what progress the dear little son makes in walking and talking. I expect to hear that he is [-] pretty things be lead: carrying the slippers I have sent to the Forst’s house and desired his wife who I have some small acquaintance with to look for that same letter directed to Mr. Dering at Newport but cannot hear anything of it: I have 1000 things to say to you but it will not do to commit them to pen and paper so conclude with wishing you and yoursthebestof heaven’sblessingsyouraffectionatesisterMargaretCheseboroughMy complements to all friends

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• Abigail Chesebrough was born on May 16, 1734 to Abigail Rogers and David Chesebrough. Margaret, Mary Dering’s sister, was her step-mother. On October 6, 1760 she married Alexander Grant in Newport. She was 26 years old. When she was sixteen years old she inherited half of her maternal grandmother’s real and personal estates in Bristol, Rhode Island. She was also her father’s sole surviving child, which made her heiress to one of the largest fortunes in Newport. She had met Alexander Grant, born in 1733 probably in Scotland, when he was in Newport in 1752 on business representing his wealthy employer, relative, and benefactor, Sir Alexander Grant, Baronet of Dalvey, a London merchant. Alexander had to return to London, but fully expected to return to Newport. Lord Grant, unfortunately had other plans, and even in 1759 Alexander had no expectations of returning to Newport. Ezra Stiles, a resident of Newport and who would in 1778 become the president of Yale, was a friend of Alexander’s and correspondence between them reveals that he not only intended to return to Newport but also that Nabby (Abigail) Chesebrough was special to him. He returned to Newport in 1760, however, and as soon as they were married, he took her to live in Halifax. [Boonstra, Ibid., October 2002, pages 378-379.]

Book: 1Number: 87Date: 2/7/1760To: Thomas DeringFrom: Abigail ChesebroughPlace: Newport

MarshfieldJune25,1759Dear BrotherThough I was glad to hear you got well home and found your little one well I am very sorry to hear of your own indisposition. I wish you could have been persuaded, as you have two doctors, to have let Stockbridge be one of them. I speak not from any knowledge of my own though I must say he has done me a great deal of going through the blessing of Providence but I should be glad you might have had his advice from the great cures I have heard he had made in your particular disorder, even after the doctors of the town had used their best endeavors, not that I would have you think because I have been obliged to change my doctor, that I have altered my good opinion of them gentlemen in town very far from it, for I have still the highest esteem and value for Dr. Perkins which is all I know much about, but for what I have heard believetheotherstobefinemenandamrejoicedthatyouhavecometo a conclusion to do something for yourself at last. I pray God to be the means used for your recovery and as riding may be judge necessary with medicine. Shall always be glad to see you here when ever it may be agreeable to you and be assured the oftener the more pleasure you willgiveyouraffectionatesisterSarah Thomas

Am much obliged to you for the hooks. I have some thoughts if you do not think it will look amiss of putting them into the beam to which the bed up in the parlor instead of lifting a stick to hold it up your advice upon it if you please

Dear SirBe pleased to deliver of the enclosed, thinking it most safe to send them under covers, Capt. Cox being a stranger to the family. That you are not only deserving but really have the esteem of those who are so happy as to have your acquaintance is an undoubted truth therefore your wishes are answered and I esteem it one of the happy circumstances of my life that of being ranked amongst them your kind invitation does not pass unnoticed but you must put me in a way of returning some of these favors least my mind be overburdened with the weight of its obligations if good wishes could compensate you have the best of Dear Sir your AC Newport Wednesday morning past light

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Book: 1Number: 88Date: 3/18/1760To: Thomas DeringFrom: Margaret ChesebroughPlace: Newport

• Thomas and Henry’s business burned to the ground, but their home was preserved.


Newport March 18Dear BrotherI have but a few minutes to answer yours by Mr. Williamson. I think him a very sensible man and a very good preacher. I am sorry to hear of your lameness but hope you are better. Pray let me hear from you by thisopportunity.I’mverysorrytotellyouthatIfinditisdisagreeable,my going Boston the spring that you must not expect me, it being just about the time that Mr. C goes to Stonington. I hope though we are separated on earth we shall meet in a better world and spend a blessed eternity together where there will be no disappointments [---] no sorrow no sicking. In your last you did not let me know whether I had been successful or not. I must conclude with love and compliments to allfriendsyouraffectionatesisterMargaret Chesebrough

Part of this with the enclosed has been wrote some time however it will do to go now just as well as when I broke the seal to enclose a little more chit chat to Hepzi and as I have made an addition I desired to apologize for my neglect and in not mention the dear boy who is doubtless very near your heart quite right this if not to near the little things insensibly twin about the heart and sometimes draw it from God I believe dear Sir you are careful not to have this your case may God bless your blessings, may the dear creature live and be to you both a crown of rejoicing.Newport Wednesday morning past light

MarshfieldApril7,1760Dear BrotherIwouldconsolewithyouuponthelatemelancholyfireyouhavehadin town as well as at the same time rejoice with you that in the midst of it your dwelling was preserved. I hope err this your leg is got pretty well andif itwasnotatthatawfultimebelieveitwasagreatmortificationto you that you could not go to help your poor distressed friends. It is a dreadful thing to hear it related and sure it must be much worse to be present and behold it. I have sent you the sermon I promised you with two more which I think I was to send for Mr. Elliott and Mr. Goldthwaite if they inclined to have them though I can’t say they are worth accepting -- you will be kind enough to deliver them -- Mr. Thomas would be much obliged to you if you can get the boy for him till he is one and 20 and if he is a smart likely lad rather than miss of him would promised to give him 100 pound when he was of age if he behaves himself well. Pray remember my love to Mrs. Dering and let her know the knitting needles came safe to hand and if she thinks sheshallhavenouseforthemsuddenlywithherleaveIwillfinishapair that I have begun before I make use of her needles. I at present am very unwell with a sore throat and bad cold that I don’t do much work in a day, but will endeavored to return them with care as soon as I possiblycanwhichconcludesmeyouraffectionatesisterSarah Thomas

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• The following letter probably came into the collection of Dering letters from Frances Huntington. Frances’s grandmother was probably writing to her sister Hannah.

Book: 1Number: 90Date: 4/16/1760To: Hannah TomlisonFrom: Anne HuntingtonPlace: Wyndham

• Margaret’s rejoicing over her sister’s delivery of a live child, a little girl named Elizabeth, was short lived. Although baptized at the New Brick Church in Boston, her life was short. [Eaton, Arthur Wentworth Hamilton, The New York Genealogical and Biographical Record, January 1921.]


Wyndham 16 April 1760

Dear Sister I can’t express to you half the commotions that rise in my mind when Ireflectonourparting.Thereseemstobesomethingstrongerthantheties of nature that binds us together when I attempt to write to you have so many things crowd into my imagination that I can think of nothing long enough to write it. I thank you for your kind letters you sent me according to my request am sorry have not had opportunity to answer it till now. Rejoice to hear in sister L you enjoy health and I were content may long continue and increase to you and likewise him that is dear to you which I daresay implies no more than the same. Our mama and all friends at Wyndham are in common health except sister Wales who is poorly as she has sundry times been before. She is [-] while I am writing this and sends her kind love to you and longs to see you as you know Sister we all do. Wales has sent you some seeds not knowing what others were sent. I am at brother W’s. I’ve just come from home this morning and left a letter for you which I wrote last night. Informed brother Job to seal it and bring it along with him this morning but he left it behind. So Sister I believe you might accept this rude sentiment of my love and not expose it to strangers. Please to give mama my best regards to your Grand Dada and Mama and my good wishes and love to the Captain. Should be exceedingly glad to see him and you before he goes into the campaign. My compliments to Miss Dolly with whom I should be fond of anacquaintance.FarewelldearestsistermostaffectionatelyyoursAnne Huntington

PS I see Miss GE last eve she bid me write you her complements. Dianna’s friends are all well and send their love also ... [=] send her love and need I not tell you I want a letter very [-]

Newport April 24, 1760My dear Brother and SisterI rejoice in God’s goodness to you in granting a safe delivery to my dear Sister and making her a living mother of a living child. I pray that began [-] may be perfected and that my dear and only sister may be restored to perfect health again and that the dear child’s life may be spared to you and that it may be a blessing in it day if it be the will of heaven to spare it to you that you may be unable to dedicate and give it up to God and only look on it as sent that whenever God shall call for it that you may with submission resend to him that gave it. I cannot be thankful enough for this great Manse.

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• Jacob Mallman, author of Shelter Island and its Presbyterian Church, which contains the genealogical tables of all of its members’ families, states that Mary and Thomas’s second child, a daughter Elizabeth, was born in April of 1762. However, this next group of letters suggest that she was born in 1760. (There were actually two babies called Elizabeth. The first one died.)


I’ve been very thoughtful on the account of my dear Sister and she is but seldom out of my mind and greatly concerned that I could not be with you. But now think it was for the best for I really believe I should have done more harm than good. I should only have aggravated your troubles had I been there. I now long to be with you that I might set by my sister and keep her company and tend the little ones. I am about to think that Sylvester would be the favorite at present though I am greatly pleased that you have a daughter. If I may be allowed to speak of its name I hope it will be called after Mr. Dering family if it is alive and I am to fear it is not living by what you wrote me. Pray let me hear as soon as possible if the opportunity presents soon. Pray write by the post, and O my dear friend let us magnify and praise the Lord for all his goodness towards us. We have abundant reason to praise the Lord and glorify God. O that we may study what we shall render to God for all his goodness towards us and O that we may live as well as speak his praise that we may devote ourselves to his service. I did tell in my last letter to you that if at any time you should look upon my sister as dangerous you would let me know it indeed. I have no reason to doubt of it but I must [-] I rejoice to hear that she was so well. I very well know that she has everything done for her that can be and the best help that is to be had in this part of the world, which makes me much easier then I should otherwise be. I very well know with that without a blessing the best means will fail and desire to commit you and all that is near and dear to me to the divine protection and [-] wishing you the sameblessingsthatIdo[-]ownsoulIamwiththegreatestaffectionyour sister who wish to see you and be with you Margaret ChesebroughMrs. Richards give more love than my letter will have to say. Let me know how many dollars I own you. My love and compliments to all friends.

BrotherI received your letter by Nelly and am obliged to you for your promised care about my chair. I wrote you last week about some damask I had desired Mrs. Wentworth to get for me but have since heard from her that it was disposed of and there was no green worsted damask to be had in town and that silk damask would turn out as cheap so shall leave it with you to do as you think most proper. Should be obliged to you to get me some check lining covering for it and I forget whether I wrote you before that I heard the upholsterers asked three pound for making a covering for an easy chair of any sort. If so should be glad you would get them to cut it out and put it out to some girls to make. Perhaps Sarah Leonard will make it and I think that will be much the cheapest way of getting it done. Pray my best regards to Mrs. Chesebrough if still with you. I should been very glad to have seen her if it had suited

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• Margaret had heard that her sister Mary was not well and neither were the two children, Sylvester and Elizabeth. She felt helpless and anxious.

Newport May 10My Dear Brother and Sister Ihavenotheardonewordfromyousincemysisterwasfirstputtobed. They say that no news is good news. I am really anxious to hear from you and to know how it is with you. In my last, which was by Mr. Collins, I beg of you to write by the post if no opportunity should present but not one word I take it a little hard. Pray let me hear by this conveyance which is Capt. Gardner’s grandson and be good enough to let me know if you have recieved those things I sent by water. It is Sabbath day night and our bedtime so have only time to scribble two or three lines in very bad manner; a very bad time and in a very great hurrysomostconcludewithloveandcomplimentsyouraffectionatesister Margaret Chesebrough

Mr. Chesebrough goes this week to [-]. Pray let me know whether the little girl is alive.

Dear SirAmnotpleasedtohearMumfordputmylettersintotheoffice.Itwasmy intention that he should deliver them himself and charge me with the postage but as he is gone counter to my order shall be sparing of paperinfutureWasitnotforthatimportanttrifle,astomach,Ibelieve,should not have wrote this week but being incomplete without it must beg to have it sent when the post returns. Private conveyances are seldom to be found and in truth few are willing to be troubled with what is not their own when they reap no advantage by it.

I’ve the pleasure of telling Mrs. D my cousin Cole was better when we heard last, which is not many days since am in hopes she’ll recover this shock and be continued to her dear babies for many years for certainly the loss of a tender mother is an unspeakable an irrepairable one -- we have been pleasing ourselves with the prospect the easterly winds have affordedbutthey’venotyetproducedthemuch-neededaffect--rainis yet withheld and nature continues to mourn. Wish it may lead us to repentance -- Miss Smith left us Wednesday evening. I miss her much. She’s a good girl and hope will get a H___ of the same character as to Kettle. Shall let this alone as get -- I’m at a stand about furniture for my best parlor.. I want something better than leather. What shall it be -- your taste is the thing that determines. Nabby Chesebrough

her but wish I may live to have that pleasure some time or other if notnowinthemeantimeIremainyourmostaffectionatesisterSarah Thomas MarshfieldOctoberye161760

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• In the 1760s, there was no organized postal service. One was forced to find a ship or stage coach heading to the place or in the direction of the place to where a letter or parcel was headed. Of course, casual acquaintances or strangers could not be considered reliable, and certainly were not trustworthy. No one doubted that their mail would not be read in transit, Sending money was even more complicated than sending news: only close relatives could be trusted with money. Sea captains, out of necessity, along with stage coach drivers, became the principal mail carriers. What mail service there was, was very expensive, and the cost was paid by the recipient.


Dear brother and sister I received yours by Mrs. Grant [-]. Was glad to hear from you. I began to fear that if it was not for miss I should never know how you did -- whether sick or not. My spirits are sunk at the thoughts of not seeing youthisfallbuthopeakindProvidencewillnotsufferanythingtoprevent. I am very torn to hear that the dear children are so poorly but hope to hear that they are better. My dear sister let me beg of you not to neglect yourself. What is the matter, pray apply to some doctor before it is too late.

Will not a [-] be of last [-] to you dear brother. Let me beg of you to consult some doctor whether she will or not and you will oblige your sister whose happiness very much depends on yours and family. I am up writing at 5 o’clock. Fear I shall not have opportunity or time to go by post. I have received my fan. I like it much. I think it [-]. I have notseenmy[-]yet:Imustdesireyoutogetthesuitof muslinandfindas soon as you can. I should have taken this [--] before but feared you would say out of your mind but believe that will not be a danger now. I must also desire you to get me something to wear over my shoulders. My Polanse is so old fashion that I look peculiar. I shall leave it with you to get what you think suitable for me, remembering I am large over the shoulders. I really think I want to have had something new on this occasion: but really to see me he cannot get himself the last rage. He’s so scared that he wants it very much but how ever I do there is now and to some folks desires but really behave then will believe to somebody’s [-] at this point: the [-] now will out indeed that is but [-] but what believes that there are married and have done for some time I really was very glad to [--] I hope he is come to deliver me from some of my troubles. I have 1000 things to say but must conclude with love andcomplimentsyouraffectionatesisterMargaret Chesebrough

Newport May 9, 1761Dear Brother and SisterI received yours by Mr. Babcock which brought me the heavy tidings of the disasters of your family: my dear friends I am so large a sharer inyourafflictionsthatreallyIamhardlycapableof writingtoyouoradministering any comfort to you. I feel so much myself that I fear I shall rather add to your sorrow than administer any consolation by what you wrote I fear my child is not. I cannot say calling him mine for really I was ready to look on him as such.

O, how amassing my stupidity and my unbelief when I have so often been taught that these things are not for me. That I abuse them when sent(thatmyaffectionsaretoomuchsatonthemthattheyhavetoomuch [-] in my heart.) O my dear friend what shall I say to you. I wish

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it was in my power to administer some consolation but alas miserable comfort news as we all accept the God of all manner the God of conciliation of fear for ours in the dark day it not in the town of our earthly friends to get our and real satisfaction may the God of all grace support and comfort you under all your trials and under this sore trials whom he loves he rebukes and christens. I hope this and every other afflictionwillworkoutforyouafarmoreexceedingandeternalweightof glory.

It is certainly our indispensable duty to submit to a loving God but in these cases when the desire of our eyes are taken from ours a dear earthlyenjoymentremovedwefindmuchoppositiontothedivinewill.AtleastIfinditsoIdeservetobehumbleforit.MayGodgiveour right tempers of mind may we submit in a right manner and may what we are meeting with in life serve to wean us from this world and the things of it) How uncertain is everything in life daily experience is teaching of us. And may our hearts and [--] on things heavenly and divine those are durable riches those will last beyond the grave. My dear friend pray let me hear from you as soon as possible. I am impatient to hear and afraid to hear. I believe this will put a stop to my going to Stonington. I expect to have a very dull season indeed) this I desirebyMr.StylesbywhomIfindthemoneyformystays$10one[-] and two dollars I should be glad to have them as soon as you can conveniently send them. It is a very sickly time here with bad colds. I must conclude with wishing the [-] of God spirit which is not a few morefinalI’myours[-]affectionatesisterMargaret Chesebrough

Newport May 21, 1761Dear Brother I received yours by post and am really surprised and distressed for the dear child to think what he undergoes by his continuing so long and cannot but hope he may recover. But O how little do we know what is but for ours. Perhaps what we are so desirous of may be the greatest trouble to us of anything in life. I really think I have been too desirous of the life of this dear child. I think I had of greater resignation than ever I have felt yet but must say was it the will of heaven. I should rejoice to hear that it is restored to you again whether living or dying may it be the Lord’s. My dear friends your trials are great. I heartily [-] this with you may you be supported or delivered in God’s time. His time is the best time. Whom God loves he chastens. If you are without chased you are bastards and not sons. I hope this rod is in your heavenly father’s hand and if so he sees it need full for you. O what [-] your creatures are we that we must so often have the rod so often start a side from God and duty. Old may this sore trial work out for our and far more and eternal want of glory. Miss Holton sends her love to Mrs. Dering. Poor woman is like soon to part with her only son here all. He has almost grown to be a man and turn prospect of something handsome from his uncle in London. Poor

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woman I pity her. She is our witness with sorrow. I believe will not live long after him. Pray let me hear from you by the post. Give your letters to the post rider and I shall have them safe. I think I shall never be so backward of sending by the post as I have been.

Mrs. Wilkinson is sitting by me. She desires her love to my sister. She is a [-] friend. I am very [-] I cannot say [-] one friend or another is certainly with me. Indeed I think I have to be alone sometime but I am apt to think it would not be good for me. My dear love to my sister. I long to be with you but that cannot be so must content myself withwritingandreceivingletters.IamwithtenderaffectionyouraffectionatesisterMChesebrough

Newport May 28Dear BrotherI received yours by post. I am really surprised to that the dear child is alive. I sometimes wish I could be with you and then I think I could not bear the sight. Sometimes an all wise Providence make these [mealliends] to make our willing to Post with those that are dear to us. O my Dear friends what shall I say to you. I wish it was in my power to administer comfort to you. Attenders sympathy I am then I have and war it mind now. Don’t know that I could feel more. I acknowledge your trials are great but when compared with some others they are comparisons small. Mrs. Dering knows Mrs. Jane Brown wife of Capt. Brown [-] She is with child pretty far advanced. They say that they were married last fall but the world will not believe this.

I have heard that Doc Elston has married Nanny Cotton and that it was this time this has given me great concern. I don’t think it is worthwhile to say anything of this for it is possible it is not true but as I heard it I fear it is. Oh my dear friend there are grievous trials indeed. May you never know what they are in do that are nearer to you. I am very dull as you may easily imagine. I have only one family with me except the young man that lodges here. My friends have been [-] good in coming to see me.

Mrs. Nancy Coddington promised to come and lodge with me but she has not been so good as her word. I believe she cannot do [-] as she would and that is but for that can. My dear love to my sister. I long to bear a part of her troubles indeed I do I knew her passions are strong may God grant his grace to make a cure improvement of this [-] and may we all save the lesson that is to be learnt. Sorrows do not spring out of the ground; they are put for some wise land. I must conclude withwishingyouallneededsupportsfromyouraffectionatelovingsister M Chesebrough

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Newport June 29Dear Brother I just received yours by post as I truly sympathized with you when the dear child was sick. I now rejoice with you in God’s Goodness towards you in nursing your dear son to such a measure of health. I hope he’s begun [-] may be perfect and that he may be spared mark in and not in judgment. I hope he is spared for some great and good end. My earnest desire is that God wants to take possession of his soul for himself. I had rather see him good than great without goodness. O may he be continued a great comfort to you for a great while to come if it is the will of heaven. I long to see him and all my dear friends at Boston. I hope you propose to bring Mrs. Dering to Newport this fall. Oh that I could ask you to bring Sylvester and Betsy; it would be the greatest pleasure to meet in life to have you all with me provided I could. Do as in times past when in my father’s house but that is too great a pleasure forme.Imustbefilledwithotherpeople’srelationsanditisnomorethan I ought to do and have no thanks but rather ill-treatment.

But I desired to forbear and remember not a hair of my head fall to ground without the promise of Providence. Oh pray for me. I hope that there is not a day passes but we are mindful of each other at the throneof graceastomissaffairsIknowwerelettersaboutthem.Iaskto know [-] she did tell me of her clothes but as to other things I don’t know what she has and I desired to be thankful I am not anxious to know. I know so much that [-] comes out of considerable [-] out of somebody’s estate that they would not adore had one if they could help it but no matter perhaps that passion may have enough to come here to her grace and indeed I don’t doubt but with the to my hardy [-] mystaysdonotfit.

I am obliged to my dear sister for her care and trouble in getting and should be as much more if she could get the man to take them a [-] there is a mistake somewhere or other the same person must see the day you and to do they are too small and too short waisted. I never sought to dare piece of stays with so narrow backs in my life. They are a neat pair. I fear if I have them other they will be spilt. I sent for a stay made and they told me then but feared they would not answer that it would be a beast piece of work. I shall do all I can to part with them here but fear nobody will give them [-] for they make stays to outward appearance as good as these for sixty pounds. I must beg the favor of my sister to talk with the man and see if he will not take them again if he will not and I can not part with them. I must have them altered in the best manner I can.

I must desire you to write me by the post without fail. I must put thiswithmyothermortificationsforreallyIhaveaprettymain.Butperhaps it is necessary for me. I sometimes look with admiration to seehowsomefolksaffairsturnoutjustastheycouldwish.Nosoonerdesire a thing but have it. But I am apt to think those golden days are

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almost at an end. Did you know what I know you would think so too, but I must not in harkin if I should write all I have to say. It is not 3 nor 6 sheets of paper would hold it all. I leave eyes shall tire you with my nonsense for I write just what comes uppermost without conscience. I very well know that I am writing to a dear friend that overlooks my faults and covers all my [-] but one thing I must desire that you be kind enough to comment them to the [-]. My dear love to my sister and the dearbabesandacceptthesamefromyouraffectionatesisterMargaret Chesebrough

As to my parting with my [-] he says very little. No doubt it will be a very hard thing to him if he ever does. I always thought that he must meet with a great cross somewhere or another. I pity him for he is not without his trials. I have not had one pleasant look nor one word for the 2 days. What the cause is I know not, but he has his trials. I like my [-] very much. The [-] not [-] I now send a dollar to pay what I am behind the 2 [-] that will do.

Dear SirIt is but a few hours since I received yours by post and need I say it gave me pleasure. It would mortify me should you think me under a necessity of saying as the result of such a that must be an accusation of ingratitude. You have engaged me in your interest by innumerable favors and laid me under the strongest obligation by your business andgenerosity,thoughasufficientcompensationisnotatpresentinmy power yet a grateful acknowledgment of them is accept therefore my incessant thanks and believe me to have a high sense of the favors received. My journey was as agreeable as the season would admit of andIhadthesatisfactionof findingthefamilyinhealth.Thedearboy’s recovery has restored to my mama her spirits, and she longs much to see him, so why can’t you bring him?

Septemberisafinemonthandarideisthethingforhim.I’mpleasedto hear that he mentions my name. Hope that means my memory will be kept alive. My trunk is not yet arrived but I am in hourly expectation of it. I’ve not a doubt of you can either with regard to that or any thing else nor need you be under any apprehension of my disapprobation when you act your own judgment. I have had too many proofs of the suppression of it to my own for any thing of that sort to happen. And I’ve almost implicit faith in it. It was my intention to have bespoke the dressing glass but a multitude of those prevented it and I wish there may not be many other things for God. By looking over my memorandum you will know what is wanted and if anything necessary is omitted be kind enough to jot it down. Must I not have a toilette for my bedchamber and what form do you advise to? If as large as Mrs. Gould’s must the top be run and cotton’d -- or have they invented something new to save that expense of time -- believe it will be necessary to add another pair brass candlesticks or do you think two is enough.

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Book: 2Number: 110Date: 7/15/1761To: Mary and Thomas DeringFrom: Margaret Sylvester ChesebroughPlace: Newport

Book: 2Number: 114Date: 7/15/1761To: Thomas DeringFrom: Abigail Chesebrough GrantPlace: Newport

Stop. I believe it will be for doubtless my gentleman has some in his house.ThisistrulyatroublesomeaffairandIsincerelywishonyouraccount as well as my own that it was completed. I hope never to pass through such a scene again and ardently wish to be settled -- not that I promised myself uninterrupted felicity than know this state does not admit of that and we rather increase than diminish our case by formingacertainconnection.Ifindmyself almostabsorbedbytheworld. Its pleasures divest, its cares perplex and I’m almost ready to sayIshallfallasacrificeintothehandsof thisenemy.GladlywouldIturnmythoughtsandfixthemuponsuperiorobjects,butmygrovelingheart will not consent and my earthly mind forbids an employment so heavenly. Happy, thrice happy souls that are dismissed from Earth thathavenothingtointerrupttheirrapturouscontemplationsorunfitthem for the delightful service in which they use engaged even that of praising and adoring their divine Redeemer -- that you and yours may join this glorious and happy society is the sincere wish of your much obligated A Chesebrough

PS my compliments to Mrs. D. I’m prevented writing to her as designed but shall do it soon.Newport, July 2

Newport July 15Dear Brother and Sister I have only a few minutes to write just to let you know that I am well andthatIdesiredtoansweryourlettersbythefirstprivatehand.Iam just going to address in order to attend the funeral of poor Natty Holton.PoorMrs.HoltonIreallypityher.Ihopeheraffluencemaywork out for her of far more [-] weight of glory. I think she bears up wonderfully. I hope nothing will happen to prevent your coming to Newport this fall but dare not please myself too much at last chance myself often when permission myself that pleases to give my love to Cousin Abby Smith and tell her I expect her mother and sister very soon and the doctor. I cannot call him her father. I have 1000 things to say but must forbear. I hope for an opportunity when I shall unbossom myself to you for really I am grateful running over. I rejoice to hear thechildcanwalkagain.Ithinkshehasatmanyfineandgoodthingsas if she was to end -- a fortune but that would be treason for me to speak both with Mr. and wife. Adieu my dear friend make the best of heaven’sblessingsattendyou...Youraffectionate

Cousin Betsy Smith is just come but her mama is not how she will be treated. I know not but hope directly.

Dear SirThe continuance of our correspondence is not more necessary then it is pleasing to me - and though incapable of carrying it on as I could wish cannot think of dropping it indeed every week furnishes me with matterforanepistleandtillthistroublesomeaffairiscompleted

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you must not expect an easy happy life- I’m much pleased with your purchase and doubt not every article will suit. It must be a want of taste that occasion it to be otherwise and I call into question the judgment of any that diferentiated from yourself not accepted us to a case of knives and forks. I think it best to wait for it is my opinion they will not be wanted very soon. Not but I think it best to be in readiness and care not how soon you are freed from business so perplexing. In mine to Mrs. D. I desired your choice of a piece of sheeting must now ask it for their commitment. (viz) blankets two air shall be sufficientwhichIbegyouwouldputupwiththosethingsthataretogo to Halifax. A thousand thanks to you for your care immediately forwarding a late epistle that gentleman is not a stranger to your goodness and will I hope have the pleasure of owning his obligations in person when you make your visit- methinks atoilet will be necessary as I’ve only a Bureau for my best chamber. If therefore a peeling top and fall will not be too expensive shall prefer it-but would have the table of amoderatesize-begoodenoughtoletmeknowthedifferenceinthe cost of a worsted and a leather chair. I expect to [-] furniture than is best spoke and hve a great inclination either for crimson or yellow ruffles.Whatthinkyouof oneof these,ordoyouprefercheck.HasMr. Green disposed of his boy snd can yu really recommend him to a friend. Much of our happiness depends upon our domestics and they have it in their power to render us very uneasy - the thought of a bad onemakemeshudder-norwouldIrefuseagoodoneforthetriflingconsideration of a few pounds- Mrs. C tells me the dear boy has found his feet. Having granted him perfect health and make him unto you a crown of rejoicing-we are in hourly expectation of seeing Dr. Mason and lady- Me think it would be just the thing for Mrs. D and you to meet them here-is there absolute necessity of staying till September- if not pray come in August- deliver this message with my compliments totheladyof youraffectionandbelievemetobewithsincereregardyours Nabby --

PS according to custom something is omitted and that is a complete tea set I thought have got it here, but believe they are as cheap with you I think not to go higher than blue and white Newport July 15

I break the seal to tell you Miss Betsy Smith arrived here last evening and how shall I say the worthy Mr. Heatley is no more. He left us last night and I hope is happy I can say no more for I am much shocked.

Newport September 3Dear Brother and Sister I cannot look on you as two so shall write you as one. I was disappointed in not hear from you by post. I am sometimes a obliged to ask Mrs. Grant how you all do. I wish the pride of my heart may be brought down by the mortifying things I am meeting with in life for really there are many. I sometimes am made to think you are like

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• Margaret had just provided her stepdaughter Abigail with a proper wedding at her father’s home in Newport. Mary and

the rest of this world worship the rising sun. But no more of this. I shall endeavor to let you know as much as I dare commit to writing how affairsgoon.

I suppose Miss Hepzi has told to you. It is much talk on here a great many ill natured things, sad I think when people lay their selves open in such a manner they cannot expect to escape. I don’t suppose that I hear the one half that is said. I have not been, but when it came out. We are setting up for visit in as a grand manner as we can dressed in the wedding gear. We have not had many visitors yet. I believe they will consist of the younger sort. I fancy the graver sort will not countenance the method that has been taken. It is said by some a very bad precedent. By others this is your last some one thing and some another. The lady tells her father that she thought he steared [-] clear of [-]. I cannot help dropping a word now and then as it will bear to undeceived them. Miss says she does not care a pardon.

She is this evening at a play. I suppose you have heard that we have a playhouse [-] and in contempt of authority: poor authority you will say for my part I think it is a malicious for such diversions. When we have been visited with so severe a incident the drought has been very severe here and in Connecticut and Long Island and all most all over the land -- I think that every [-] person ought to bear their public testimony [-] it. I suppose that I am laughed at and ridiculed for my narrowness but that I do not regard much. You wrote me word that you sent my mix by Mr. __ but I cannot hear nothing further of them, which I am sorry forasIwasfirsttowaiveatearof dutyone’slast[-]Ihavenotyethadmy wedding gown and don’t know when I shall. I received the bottle of [-] for which I am obliged to you. In my last which was by post which I hope you have received, I desired you would be so good as to get me a suit of sheer muslin and something to wear over my shoulder. What you shall think proper. Please to send the cost in a note. I hope you will be kind enough to bring it yourselves. Pray let me hear from you as soon as possible and whether you desire for Newport this fall or not. I assure you we make a brilliant appearance. The carpet is spread in the best parlor. Such a one as I never expect to be mistress of in this world.

When people have other people fortunes to go to they may cut a splash but no more of this now for Halifax they talk of going in about three weeks or month. We are late to part with three out of our family: Miss G, Miss Molly and Mr. Portsmouth. I don’t know but I shall want another. If the black should go which he is fond of. I suppose it will be said to me in some measure. I know we shall miss him in many things but at the same time I have a miss man [--] speeches. I have many things to say but my paper is full and I have no more. This I desirebyourneighbor.HeavensIamyouraffectionatesisterMargaret Chesebrough. I am grieved for cousin. I wish it may have a etc.

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Thomas attended the wedding ceremony. Abigail and her husband, Alexander Grant, would soon depart for Halifax.

Book: 2Number: 115Date: 9/3/1761To: Thomas DeringFrom: Abigail Chesebrough GrantPlace: Newport

Dear Sir I cannot doubt your excusing my silence last week as you are now fullyacquaintedwithanaffairwhichIhopewillnotlessenmeinyouresteem that my acquaintance our surprise is no marvel for indeed I am so myself. However it a trick of youth and they must pardon it. Popularity is the thing with some, were it so with me I should behappy.---Foryoumaybelievethatmynamesounds-Ifindmyyoung acquaintance pleased with the plan but not so with the more experienced-the-they think it ill judged and not that I’d no right to dispose of myself without the consent of the town--but I must beg leavetodifferfromthem--andwishthemamoregenerousthought--Newport is becomes a seat of politeness and Mrs. G is accomplishing herself to Halifax--Dressing and company takes up the day and thetheateraffordsherentertainmentfortheevening--Willnotthisgenteel way of killing time hurry your visit and give us pleasure sooner than you intended-- Upon my word I think it worth coming for - it vastly exceeded my expectations and equaled that of those that have been at the theater in London. The fair penitent was acted and the charming ‘tho unhappy Calista came of with applause. I found myself in some danger from the bewitching but faults Lothario -- and had not Alexander been present I cannot answer for the consequences you willthinkmefitforthestageif Irunoninthisstrainthereforeshalldrop it and talk of business-- The brasses of furniture I shall choose to have decent therefore hope you have ordered the laches taken of--my gentleman thinks it not worthwhile to be at further expense therefore shall only make the addition of window curtains which I must beg you to get for my parlor--blue and white is my taste since we determine not tobeshowyatleastforatime-Andacouplewillbesufficienttherebeing only two windows in the room. Hope might my toilet will be ready and indeed everything else in a month from this time for it will not do to delay at the [-] of the year. Let me beg you to expedite your journey that the few days I have to spend at Newport may be as happy as is possible to make them - Be kind enough to put your gloves for yourself, Mrs. D, Miss Hepzi and Mr. Harry and present them with proper compliments --As to care you must come for it and that soon for I have but a fortnight - -Is high time to dress for company therefore can only say I’m impatient to see you and hope you’ll soon gratify your much obliged Nabby Grant

September 3If I time proper shall have a line pardon the inclination lots and incoherence of this epistle--will it not be proper to wash my checked curtains before their put up if so let it be done with you for I expect to havemyhandsfulluponmyfirstsettingoutforhousekeeping.Mrs.DreallyentitledtoalineatleastbutsinceIcannotfindtimeforittherefore it must pardon it

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• Mary Dering and her sister Margaret had together inherited Sylvester Manor. The house had been vacant and the fields farmed by a tenant farmer for a decade. Thomas Dering and David Chesebrough were now joint owners, and it seems that Thomas had now announced that he intended to move his family there. This was not to Mr. Chesebrough’s liking.


Mr. Grant presents his compliments and begs the favor of Mr. Deringtoprocureandsendbyfirstprivatehandorbythepostapairof handsome stone or paste buckles for a lady and for that purpose sendbyMr.Gordon£3.12andif notsufficienthewillmakeupthedifferenceatmeetingwiththanks.

Newport October 4Dear brother and sister

I received yours by Mr. Smith. I have not received the letter that you mentioned by Mr. [-] yet. I am glad you got home Saturday night and found all so well. I was greatly concerned about you. I feared that you was obliged to spend the Sabbath on the road or be wet. I don’t know that ever I was so concerned about you. When you left me the weather was so unpromising I should have been more so had I had leisure to think but really I am so full of company that I have hardly time to think of anything but what we shall eat and what we shall drink.

Some of our company is gone to the play and others that is setting around me talking of our brother Thomas that is gone high in [-] on him. You would laugh to hear what I am hearing at this minute, how brother could not bear a book in his house because it had some smutty thing in it. Do they think everybody are fools? This conversation has been for half an hour. Mr. G is present and joins in the conversation. I am all most sick of it. Mrs. G is gone to the religious society this evening. I do not understand their inconsistencies. I love to see people live uniformly but I desire to look at how and see to it that I live answerable to the profession I have made.

But of myself I cannot do that. I desire to beg assistance and strength. I will know left to myself I shall fall into all manner of [-] this I desire by Mr. Hutchinson and sister who has spent a few days with us. I could not take that satisfaction in them as I could have done at another time. I am concerned that I could not lodge Mr. Smith. I hear that cousin [--] and brother departs for Newport soon. What shall I do that I shall not be able to entertain and that I should be [-].

Newport April 6 Dear Brother I received yours by Mr. Gothnite. Lucky for me I happened to be in the kitchen. Nancy went to the door took the letter and came to me gave me that was directed to me though the other was for her. I broke it open but soon discovered her mistake and gave to me: I reproved her sharply.IbelieveshedidnotreadonewordbutthetwofirstassoonasIreadthemcommittedthemtotheflames:IcannotsaybutIhadseenyourletterthatyouwroteMr.C.Assoonashereaditheflung

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• On April 21, 1762, Mary Dering delivered a little girl whom they also called Elizabeth who would live to maturity.

• When the Derings moved out of their house in Boston, both Henry Dering and their cousin Hepzi had to find other housing.


it to me with these words, the man is distracted a wit [-] I asked what disadvantage it could be. He said he should never have his sent and the place would be [-] and it never should be while he lived. I intimated what Mr. Hutchinson had told him some time ago. I ought to know what that was. He told me that you must sell your part. I must own that shocked me for I believe I never can consent to that for the sake of those that is gone and for the sake of your dear babes. I have really adifficultparttoactorratherImustnotactatallnororspeakawordabout it -- Me I could very warm he said he had strove to have the [-] settled but could not have it done not that he expected an advantage by it but for mine. That I might be treated with respect and give it to whom I please. I believe he desires to have that matter settled if he can.Idon’tintendtodoanythinginthataffair.Letmesufferneversomuch. It now was not my taking. and I really believe what has been done will be of no avail if you don’t choose it--now I must write you my fears not that I am against your having the farm for had I the whole world and your family was not happy it would not yield any satisfaction except I could make them comfortable. But dear brother I must tell you that accept a farm is not managed to advantage it is rather a moth than otherwise. You must be sure about that it will take a great deal to purchase servants and stock. Help is not to be hired on any account. I heard Mr. Gannon here lately. Capt. Hubbard’s bond is to Mr. Wiggins and Henry Havens. Pray say nothing of what I write you. No mortal knows of my writing. What is the meaning of this sudden turn of times. I am distressed for you all. May you be [-] to what may be best,. It is my daily earnest prayer I know not what to write my dear sister. Let me beg of you not to [-] yourself on or yours on my account. I am for peace as much as anybody but if it must depart I hope I shall be supported and carried through. I desire to commit you and yours to the divine protection I am your thoughtful sister Margaret Chesebrough

November 22Dear friendIt gives me great pleasure that I have this opportunity of writing to you for I long to hear from my dear child who was almost forever on my mind contriving how I shall get him with me but I hope that same Providence that carried him away will return him to me again. But I see plainly that it would be too much for me to have that pleasure for at present I have everything that I could desire. No hard looks nor cramped speeches. I have had my dark days. I hope the sun is going to arise on me. I wrote you by way of Mr. Pegene Adams that Dr. Chauncey had been to intercede for Mr. Brigham and that day week that the doctor was here Mr. Edwards came which has kept my mind on a continual agitation or the parting with my dear boy would have been too much for me dear soul. I hope it has had his health. Pray

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take care of him. He is worth all your care. I keep his old jacket for my companion and comfort myself that as long Providence will point out away for me to have the dear little creature with me again and if I never have I shall look on it is a frown of Providence.

I want very much to hear from you and how the country agrees with you and whether it is agreeable to you. I hope it will prove so as it is your lot. It would give me great pleasure to have had you my very near neighbor as long as I had lived, but Providence has thought otherwise and I hope it will be for the best. Here we are in the old house and if our dear little prattling boy was here it would seem like old times, but go where I will I miss the dear. Return tis a sore trial to me but I must submit. Harry goes constant to the old brick of his own accord. I never asked him. Mr. Pemberton has dined with us. I wrote you all the news in the letter that I hope you have got before this with your vinegar cask and one tree for the other. The cow got in and demolished it. Pray let me know how Comus likes and whether he behaves well. I fear the dear little boy begins to forget me. Sweetheart I hope I shall never forget him. What does Betsy say. Has she any notion of coming back or is she pleased with her new habitation.Your friends one and all make great inquiry after you and want to hear from you. Dr. Chauncey laughs and says he wants Mr. Dering to know of Miss Hepzi carrying on and how shall I let him know of it and a great deal of the like of. I do assure you the doctor seems to have my interest at heart and speaks so highly of me in all company that I am quite ashamed when I hear it repeated. He was the other day of visiting when Mr. Edwards’ daughter was and I was the subject of conversation and somebody turned to the doctor and said that was Mr. daughter is it said he and so directed his discourse to her and said toomanyfinethingsof metorelatenowbuttoldherthatitwouldbeher fault if she was not happy for he did not know the woman in the town that would be altogether so agreeable in that station as I should be.Believemeitisashockingaffair.Itisalmostinsupportabletothreegreat men and women children but my friends and his friends are so pleased with it that there is nothing to be told about it but that it must be so and if it is. I hope will be for my comfort and happiness. I shall be glad when you write me that you would let me know what my friendswriteyouaboutthisaffair.HarrymustbemarriedorIseewillbe undone if I leave him. He is a great trouble to me and I am very much concerned for him which foreclose me your friend and cousin at command. Hepzi Small

Prayletmeknowwhatpairof thissaysaboutaffairs.Johnny Cotton send his love to you and I will have wrote you but had no time. He is moved into Mr. Winslows house. His wife not a bed yet. He says that the Royal infant will be to be seen in a fortnight. I expect to want a little money.

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• On January 17, 1763, Abigail Grant gave birth to her first child, Elizabeth, in Halifax, Nova Scotia where Alexander was serving as Indian Commerce Contractor of Canada and Agent Victualler to His Majesty’s Ships at Halifax.

Book: 2Number: 152Date: 2/21/1763To: Mary and Thomas DeringFrom: Margaret Sylvester ChesebroughPlace: Newport

December ye 6FriendI received yours by post, which cost 20 Shillings and shall be glad always to hear from you and it will give me great pleasure but can’t affordtopaysodearforit.Mr.Hubbardsayshetoldyoutoputyour letters undercover to him and not to his care. This you must rectify if you write by the post again. Harry’s Crapes are home and Mr. Wentworth is at Portsmouth when he comes home will take her judgment in a pound for Mr. Dering. Jack Wentworth is with us. He says he will come and see you. Your friends are all well. Mrs. Huse sends her love to Mrs. Dering. Things remain much as they did when you left us, nothing remarkable that I think of. pray Kiss Sylvester. tell him miss him. Tell him I think of him long to see him and hope to have the pleasure of his dear little prattle and today in my bosom once more. I hope I never shall forget him. We have heard from Mrs. Winslow. She has had two storms but go [-] admires her place. I have had no better [-] nor Newport only one that Mr. Dering [-] her sister. I was at Mr. Coles last evening. They were glad to hear from you. Mr. Goldthwaite often calls to know if I have heard from you. You do not say anything about Comus. I want to know how he behaves. I supposebeforethisMr.Lloydhasinformedyouof allmyaffairswhichconclude me yours as ever at command Hepzi

Newport February 21, 1763Dear Brother and SisterI did intend to have wrote you separate but my time is so short must write but one letter. Mr. Smith was so good as to call and tell me that he should set out tomorrow. I received both your letter by Mr. Amory since which I never could hear of an opportunity for if Mr. Tinows knows of any he will not let me know of them. As to his sending anybody on the farm I do not know what his desire is. I said to him once I hope that he would not and added that if he had any regard for me or those that are gone I desired that he would try for one year. His answer was the thought not have his rent and that I did not want he should. There was a man with him this day about the farm. He said to the man that I would not let him let it. What he desires I know not but believe he will not this year. But all the blame will fall on me if any than it should be.

Oh,neverdidIexpectthistroubleanddifficulty.OhmayIhavewisdom and grace given me patience and [-] me to conduct in a right manner under this sore trial. I well know that nothing happens by chance that not a hair of my head fall to the ground without just mission. I well know that I have forfeited all favor [-] and from God. But to say that I desire what I meet with from man I cannot. Oh my dear friends let us endeavor to make a wise improvement of what we

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• Hepzibah Small in 1763 was 40 years old.

Book: 2Number: 156Date: 6/13/1763To: Thomas DeringFrom: Hepzi Small EdwardsPlace: Boston

are meeting with. Oh let us take care that we do not [--] at Divine Providence. I am afraid of myself and fear for you – – I hope long before this that Mr. Adams is with you. Please do give my love to him and tell him I would ask an interest in his prayers. Oh would beg of him to take some care of Sylvester’s learning for the sake of those that is gone. I long to hear from you and to see you and if I should live till summer and Mr. Grant’s family should be here as they propose I shall try hard to come and see you – –

Mrs. Grant has got a daughter and as well and as happy this world can make her the daughter is called Betsy after Lady Grant in London. Mr. hasbeendrawingouttheaccountandIsupposewillfindthemsoon.He has received almost all the money of Mr. Stuart’s. But very little fallstomyshare.IthinksometimesthatIamasmortifiedacreatureas lives but when I think of Nathan’s wife I have not yet arrived to her [--]owethatminemayhaveasgoodaffectasIhad.Iamwritingincompany I don’t know but that I write nonsense but know that I am writing to good friends that well excuses it.

MydearsisterIwillfindyourpatternsthefirstopportunity.Mydear brother I will answer your letter as soon as I can. It is greatly to be lamented the want of the ordinance but you have the God of endurancetogoto.Ihaveathousandthingstosaybutmustbreakoffwith wishing you and yours the best of heaven’s blessings. Mrs. Osborn desires her love to you and Lady. I am dear brother and sister your affectionatesisterMargaret Chesebrough

Boston June 13Dear friendAfter acquainting you of the receipt of your letter by post of 23 May I shall inform you that I have changed my lodging and my name and am nownextdoortothepostofficewhereIhopeoftentoreceivelettersfromyou.Thethingsthatyouwriteforwesentthefirstof MaybyoneHiggins to the care of Peggen Adams and am surprised you have not received them. The Crape for your Waistcoat and Harry’s coat for the child little homos and sundry other things, large case full which I hope you have got before this or must pray you to look after them. I have not bought Mrs. Dering’s [--] not yet but shall as soon as Charlestown is over. Mrs. Thomas has been very ill. Mrs. Gooch is down there now.

As soon as she comes up I shall go and tarry a week with her. I do wish you could see how agreeably I am settled in life. I have it more than made up for all those troubles that I have gone through in life. I wish I could see you for I can’t write you what I should be glad to say to you but shall let you know by little and little as I write to you how things are. All my friends came to see me in my new habitation.

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Mrs. Sanford do we show you is very complicit and friendly. I mention her because you know she does not visit much. I believe if my letter goes by this opportunity I shan’t be able to write to Mrs. Dering but if not I will write her and shall send her a piece of my wedding necklace to know how she likes it.

As to Comus I know not what to say about him. But I shall let you know when I can hear of anybody that will give your price. I sent you a long letter--by this Captain Higgins and Mr. Cummings wrote you they are getting ready for the wedding at Mr. Goldthwaites. They seem to be pleased or both did. Pray what will you do with your desk and book (as Harry has casted up and put it in the warehouse) I fear you will not sell it soon. You would be surprised to see the alterations that Mrs. Gould has made in your house. I believe it has cost him no small matter.HarrylivesinSheaff’shousewithahousekeeperandShaeffis in the old Bostonhouse.IwroteyouthatneitherSheaffnorMrs.SheaffisnearLane.IamsorrytohearthatMrs. Dering is that way again but we must leave that with Providence. I am glad to hear Betsy is better. I long to see my little dear boy but I don’t know when I shall. I often think of him and wish he was a little nearer to me. I received yours of ye 14 May. Pray what is the matter that you say nothing of Mr. Adams. Is he not with you? If he is pray give my respects to him. I amgoinguptoShaeff’stoseewhenWebbsails.

If not gone I shall add more at my return and write Mrs. Dering if time--since I wrote the above I have seen Mrs. Storer and she desires to have the refusal of Comus and to know what your lowest price is. I shall be glad of an answer to this letter soon. I have no satisfaction in writing to you for your hardly ever receive my letters. I have many things to say to you but do not care to write as I do not know whether youeverwillreceiveitafterIhavewrote.WebbtoldShaeffthatheshould not go to Shelter Island so I desire this by the post.

Nancy Wentworth went down to dine with her uncle Governor the other Saturday with some company and one Fisher. I do not know but you may know him. He has courted her some time. The Governor married them before he left them go and I hear that Mark is much displeased with it but I have not seen Mrs. Wentworth since I heard the news so can’t say much about it but the [-] that the man bears I think he has as good left somebody else had her that we know – –

I just now received a letter from Mrs. Chesebrough. She writes me that she has not heard from you this three months but that she accidentally heard that Mrs. Dering is brought to bed and was well which I am glad to hear. Mrs. Grant and her daughter is at her father’s. Mrs. Chesebrough writes me that she has four in family added to what she had before. She talks of making you a visit this summer but she fears this new addition will prevent. Kiss dear Sylvester tell him I long to see him and hope I shall ere long. Tomorrow Mr. Cummings and Ms.

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• Hepzi’s letters were always full of news, but not necessarily good news. She also tended to tell who was involved in scandal, but never what the actual scandal was. There was no privacy in letters.


• On July 3, 1763, Mary Dering delivered a little boy whom they named Henry Packer Dering who would live to maturity.


Betsy and Mr. Edwards and I set out for MarshfieldtoseeSallywhoisvery poorly. Don’t fail to let me know if you receive this and the other thingsbythefirstopportunitywhichconcludesmeyoursaseveratcommand Hepzi Edwards

Pray remember me to Betsy and Mrs. Dering. Your friends all send their love to you and make great inquiries after you an family. Mr. Edwards desires to be remembered to you and Mrs. Dering and wishes you joy.

Boston June 28Dear Coz I have only time to let you know I am removed from my little cell to my neighbor divergence when or where I shall move next I can’t tell. SheistheonlygoodSamaritanthatIcanfind,beyouwarmedandbe you clothed is not the thing but I hope God will provide. He ever has appeared for me in trouble and I hope he never will leave me nor forsake me. I desire to trust in him, my dear Coz. You don’t know how I am [-] not one relation to ... Have my God to go to. I hope when I write again I shall be in better spirits. I am going this day to see Mrs. Thomas. Mrs. Deming is dead and to be buried tomorrow. And so we go one after another. I check myself when I am anxious that I [-] not belong here and I must have trials which [-] and I hope I shall still trust in the Lord. He has never left me yet nor I hope never will. When do you go on the Island. It seems as if I should never hear from you when you get there. Give my love to Mrs. Dering and the children and believemetobeyouraffectionatecousinHEdwards

Tell Betsy I long to see her. Riley Smith sails for Europe in a fortnight.

Boston August ye 3rdDear FriendIreceivedyoursof Julyye15thandye21standwasverygladtofindMrs. Dering was so well and that she made a nurse and so is all your friends. Pray don’t you intend to make us a visit this fall. Me thinks it will be worthwhile if it what were only to see how I live. All your friends are inquiring. If you don’t intend to let them see you I do assure you they will be extremely glad to see you here. I expect the parson had made himself merry about me. He is married and is very much pleased. Parson Brigham is courting Miss Molly Goldthwaite. I forget whether I wrote you that in my last. I am very glad that you have got your things that I sent you and that the dear boy has got his hammer. I wish you would come and see us too.

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• The following letter was originally thought to be dated 1768, but it does not fit into that time period. This is more appropriate for its placement.


Comus I hope you will keep him with you. I think that is the best place for him. I shall say nothing about him to anybody till I hear from you again. Tom Greene is dead. he died [-] only he was at Worcester for his health. He is to be brought to town to be buried. The day that Cattey Gooch had her fortune in her hands and was obliged to pay her one board she’d left her uncle’s house and said she would pay for her board where she could be well treated and where it was agreeable to her. (There are two lines which are not legible with tape over them) lent to Mr. Gardiner.

They made no wedding at Mr. Goldthwaite’s. I write things as they come in my head. You must read Mrs. Dering’s letter. John Cotton lives in Jimmy Smith’s house and Ned Greene is to live in the house that John moves out of. I don’t know what to write you of Ned Reed a nurse desires to be remembered to Sylvester. Our family all remain as theydidbutMr.GouldhassentAdamoffandsohasMr. Gooch sent Jupiter for their bad deeds.

Be sure Mr. Phillips has got a letter from Andrew and he has run them in debt 500 pounds [-] and now I hear they are determined to let him die in jail. Miss Kitty sends her love to you and Mrs. Dering. Old lady Green sends her love to Mrs. Dering and is very glad to hear she cansuckleherchild.WeareexpectingMr.Whitefieldeverydayforhe is arrived at Vergeny. I hope you will see him before he leaves New England.Idonotthinkof anythingremarkabletofinishandremainyour friend and cousin at common. Tell Mrs. Dering Mrs. Gould sends her love to her and says that she has made great alterations in the house and she must come and see them.

Boston July ye 20thDear friend I received a letter from you the way of Martin Howard. The date of it is 23 June. You say that you have not heard from me since 1 January. If so I think there is fewer letters some where and as I have wrote you in one of them that it is not worth my wile to write to you if you never receive them. I don’t like my nonsense should be seen by all the world. You desired that we would direct our letters to Sam Gordon in New London and so we have done. This letter will be a copy of the three or four that I have wrote you since 1 May. John Cotton tells me that you have received his letter by one Higgins that carried all your things that you wrote for such as teakettle and common things then was a case full of things, and a letter from Mr. Cummings enclosed in mine that you say nothing of.

He was married last Tuesday to Miss Betsey Goldthwaite. in another letter I sent you a piece of my wedding sack which I perceive you

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• Elizabeth Wentworth was Thomas Dering’s oldest sister. She was married in 1742 to Samuel Wentworth son of John Wentworth, then the Lieutenant Governor of New Hampshire. Samuel was a 1728 graduate of Harvard College and a warden of King’s Chapel.

• Their daughter Frances, born 1745, now 18 years old was married to Theodore Atkinson, a 1757 graduate of Harvard College, and Secretary of the Providence of New Hampshire. Frances’s one and only love, however, was always her cousin John Wentworth, son of Mark Hunking Wentworth, and nephew of Benning Wentworth, the present Governor of New Hampshire. John had been unavailable to her, however, because following his graduation from Harvard in 1755 and the attainment of a Master’s Degree in 1758, and five years as a merchant’s apprentice in Portsmouth, he was shipped off to England to advance his education and establish valuable family connections. When he returned to America in 1766, he

have not received. The things that went by Higgins were directed to Pegene Adams. If my letters ever come to hand pray let me know of it forIamafraidtowriteasIfindyounevergetmyletters.Inanotherletter I wrote you for your lowest price for commons. Mr. Storer desired to have the refusal of him and of Harry’s moving intoSchaeffs’houseandhowhelivesandoneof thealterationsthatMr. Gold has made in your house. Last week Bowers was married to Miss Molly Shurbark. Theodore and wife has been in town for some time. They are gone to commencement this day. I told Mrs. Gooch of Betsy’s doll but I want to know how we are to get it to her if we were amindtosendthatoranythingelse.IfindbyyourletterthatMrs. Dering is not brought to bed. Mrs. Chesebrough wrote me word that she was some time ago and I have told all your friends so--as they make great inquire after you. Mrs. Grant and her little daughter is at her father’s as I suppose you have heard. I have wrote two or three times to know whether Mr. Adams is with you but you do not write any thing about him. I fear he is not with you as I hear nothing from him. Mr. Edwards sends his regards to you and Mrs. Dering and is much pleased with the dear child’s prattle. Tell him I think of him and that is all that I can do at present.

I long to see you but when that will be I can’t tell without you will come to Boston and see us. We have been all to see Sally and Martin Howard has been up to see her. George Green is gone down to see his sister. He sailed the day before your letter came, but I have sent it by way of Halifax. Mr. Foxcroft preaches again and better then ever he did. Brinley is courting Mr. Goldthwaite’s sister Molly, and that is to be a match I suppose.

Mrs.Schaeffhasbroughttobed.Dowritemebythefirstopportunitywhether you have received all my letters. I have not time to day anymore now for I accidentally hear of this opportunity, which I hope you will get. Nurse desires to be remembered to Sylvester and I also read tell the dear soul that I think of him and long to see him and have him with me but that can’t be at present which concludes me yours affectionatelyaseverHepziEdwards.Thisisthesecondorthirdlettersigned with this name to you.

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returned as the replacement for his Uncle Benning as Governor of New Hampshire. Frances’s husband Theodore Atkinson died on October 28, 1769 of consumption and 14 days after he was buried, Frances Atkinson and John Wentworth were married.

Book: 2Number: 159Date: 8/7/1763To: Thomas DeringFrom: Elizabeth Dering WentworthPlace: Boston

Dear Brother I received your letter with great pleasure as it brought me the news of Mrs. Dering being safe abed and being like to make [-] I never should have suspected. See what one’s native air will sometimes do. I know it gives both you and her pleasure and therefore as to mine. You write in good spirits and I pray everything may succeed to your wish. I often think of you not a day escapes. Mrs. Thomas has been very ill but now getting better. Your letter is forwarded to her; Mrs. Gold is moved and Harry.

We have been surrounded with carpenters and masons painters and pavers ever since you left us. Harry has been full of workmen ever since he has been in his new habitation therefore could see no company. He spends a good deal of his time with us at present till his house is in order. He is papering and painting his house has moved the outhouse and granting to the upper end of the garden and made a wood house so the yard lays open as far as the garden used to come. The back kitcheniswellfixedup.

The Negro boy you left him with is still with him and the housekeeper is a maid that lived with Mrs. Fletcher “who is gone to her husband.” She gives a good [-] of her. This person is to have a maid under her. I think behaves better than he used to but I never spare him an ace but am always talking to him to take pains and govern his person. I have dwelt long on the subject because I know you would be glad to hear as muchof himaspossible.Mrs.Gouldremainsstilllikeof fineflower,the least breath of wind over sets her. Mrs. Anthorpe is very well and has spent the summer in the country. But before I say any thing farther; what do you think Nancy Wentworth is married to Mr. Fisher. You can’t be more surprised than we all were.

Today Mr. Fanning dined with us a gentleman Harry introduced brother to him that lived on your estate. He talks of setting out very early in the morning so I am obliged to write by candlelight and that don’t suit my old eyes. Tell Mrs. Dering I long to see her and the children. And if it wasn’t for my old gouty gentlemen she should see me before a 12 month was at an end. I shall ever have a high esteem for her and hope she with you will sometime or other favor us with a visit.

Myhouseandarcwillalwaysbeopentoreceiveyou.Mrs.Sheaffhaspresented him with another son that was Christened today call Roger Haib. They are moved into the old customhouse. Mr. Wentworth wrote you some time ago and sent some seeds. Did you ever receive them? I know not what sort of summer you have had but we have had none at

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• Was Hepzi slave trading between friends? She had a particular interest in Comus, probably because she knew him when she lived in the Dering’s household in Boston.


all. It has rained more or less every day this three months and we are now with all the windows and doors shut as much as in the fall of the year; I seem to think while I am writing I am talking news that is quite out of the question.

Mr. Wentworth’s old luck has not entirely left him but thank God the war is now at an end and they will take no more. They have had the last. Seven sails of vessel has he had taken and lost since the war come in. The candle is almost burnt into the socket so must bid you Adieu and be assured I remain with love to Mrs. Dering and the children your everaffectionatesisterElizabeth Wentworth Boston August 7, 1763

Boston August ye 29thDear friendI can only write you a few lines by this opportunity which is to go this afternoon and how can I say it that my last is because and this day to attend the funeral of our dear friend William Cummings. He was well and at Lectern the Thursday before last and the next Thursday morning a breathless corpse. It was his turn to preach had he lived to see it. Mr. Adams preached for him. A more solemn assembly you never see. Poor Betsy the most distressed creature that ever you see and indeed so is all the family for they acknowledge they all loved him too well. A most melancholy scene indeed a bride and widow in six weeks. The dear man is no more. If I live I shall write you again soon and more at large. Colonel Brattle’s wife is dead and old Mr. Greenleaf. They are both to be buried tomorrow. My mind is so perplex with the death of this dear friend that I can’t of anything now to write you, Your friends are all well asked after you and desired to be remembered to you and wife. Mr. Cummings has made a will but how I have not heard yet. I beg you to let me hear from you. Rowland Cotton was to see me a Saturday and tells me I may depend on it that Judge Russell has been to see Miss Sandford and isn’t going again and he thinks will be successful but more on that when I write again but this is a dying world we live in. May we so consider of it as to prepare for our change which may be the happy case of you and I is the desire and prayer of your friend and well wishes. My love to the dear boy. Tell him I love him dearly and to Mrs. Dering. Mr. Cummings was opened and in his liver there grew a hard something as big your than and his call all gone he died in great pain and distress but now is I trust in glory. Hepzi Edwards

Boston September 12Dear Cousin I see you had not received my letters when you wrote for you say nothing about the children’s books. I hope they were pleased with them. I suppose my letter will reach you before this does that has got the account of poor Mr. Cummings death. As to Comus Mr. Storer

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Mrs. Edwards ye 10thDear CousinHavereceivedtwolettersfromyouandamverygladtofindyou have your health so much better then you had. You say your long illness was because of the disagreeable subjects that you had to write about of your one family and some of them disagreeable enough. I wish I could see you. If it was but one half hour I should say what I can’t write to you so well. What if you should try to make a short visit to us? Your friends all want to see you. You say you sometimes look in upon me through the little window to come and really see me and how I live. You see it is our neighbor Walker that is dead. Mrs. Walker is alive and as well as ever I knew her to be. She has made John Hancock her executor and as John died without a will she has made her will and given his Basbeard all the estate. There was found of vast site of money quite lastly as to her loss and them things. I believe the artful Mrs. Thayer will have. I go to see her often. She is glad to see me but I can’t whine and lie so I believe I shall have nothing. Mrs. Thayer appeared the other day in one of old Mrs. Walker’s gowns and says she is to have all Mrs. Betty’s clothesandeffects.[---].

Mrs. Betty asks after you. I told her that you asked after her. She told me to write to you that the son never came to see me before he went away. I delivered my message to Capt. Cheavers. The old man was much pleased that you thought of him and desired me to remember him to you and was very glad to hear you were well. Josh Green keeps house in one of McCarter’s buildings. Old Mrs. Green has Suckey and George with her. Frank Green is to have his cousin Suckey. I believe Mr. Green left all with the old lady. Mrs. Rogers goes to church, her husband to meeting. Shegoeswithhimsometimes.SallyOliver’smatchisalloff.Ned Lloyd remains a widower. A John Cotton has got one child daughter and before this reaches you will have another. Mrs. Famins is not married nor like to be has refused Col. Bourne of Marblehead and this must not be spoken of but she has refused Capt. Osborne but the family don’t care to expose him so don’t

thinks not to have him. Mr. Hughes will give you 500 or 100 and his boy Palmy. I shall enclose a piece of paper that he gave me. So you must let us have an answer as soon as you can. Old Mrs. Pittsisdead.ThismorningButterisgoneoffwithoneof Mr.Broadstreet’s daughters to Hampton. The old lady with several others is gone posthaste in pursuit of them. How they make out shall let you know in my next. Old geezer Kitchen is dead. I reckon it will be next to the loss of his wife that is to matter. I am expecting Mr. Thomas and wife up every day. I do not think of anything remarkable since I wrote you last.

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say anything of it I pray. The old man drank tea with me yesterday as knowing Sister Storer dined with me but that will not do. Neither theoldmanhashadfourorfiverefusalsanddinedatRoxbury last Saturday with company at Mrs. Goldthwaite’s. They all want to see you and [---] say come and see them.

As to neighbor Howe, she really seems to love you and yours. She affectionatelyinquiresafteryouandexpresseshowmuchshewantsto see you. They hear that Josh Green will come here in the spring and pay his debts. Ned lives as he did. Cousin Storer has got three children.Theyalllongtoseeyouandif itweresofarofftheywouldcome and see you. What Mr. Paxton is gone to London for I can’t tell. His sister is living and just as you left her. Billy Clark is not married nor like to be. Jack Wentworth is Governor of Portsmouth. I am sorry Mr. Adams has left you. Pray why don’t you keep Mr Smith with you asheissuchafineman.Col.AtkinsonandLadyisaswellasusualand so is all your friends at Portsmouth. Fanny is just gone home. She was with her mother in the later part of her father’s illness and tarried hither till he died and was buried. If you see the newspapers you’ll see what a rumpus they made about Mr. Wentworth’s Caricature. Then is Molly and her husband with your sister and Jeamy Apthorpe and wifeshutupthereforfearof theofficer.Mrs. Wentworth says her troubles are like soles. Sarah Leonard is dead. She died that day week that Mr. Wentworth was buried. What the family intends to do I can’t say. Mr. Wentworth’s illness was the dropsy. Harry was lost last January in a storm. Jack W is in London. Tom has got children but I can’t say how many. Mr. Wentworth went to Roxbury to see if he could get his health.

John Turner is Mrs. Kitchen’s executor and his son has got the house and all the land about it. I suppose Mr. Turner will pay the legalities, salaries indisposition is a deed but he is better. Mr. Babcock is well. I have not seen any of the ministers since I received yours. But when I do, shall tell them what you say, but should think it is likelier for you to get one your way than this way for we are leaning your way to get one for the South [Church] one Mr. Blair. I should think that you might get some friend of Mr. Dering to take care of your family while you just look on us.

You say nothing of Comus. I hope he behaves well.

Mr. Edwards and I am very much obliged to you for your invitation but I fear shall never see Shelter Island. I will inquire about Mr. Hamping of your handkerchief and let you know but I am loath to miss this opportunity to. I have wrote. Tell Mrs. Dering I have not time to write to her. Tell Sylvester I talk and think of him and wish he was near me. If Iliveshallwriteyoumoreof Wentworth’saffairs.If themandon’tgo out of town tomorrow shall write more. Remember me to the family. Mrs. Thomas has got a daughter Betty. Yours H Edwards

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• The Revolutionary War began with urban skirmishes in Boston in 1763 when the mob tore the Governor’s house down so interestingly described in Hepzi’s letter.


Boston December ye 6thDear CousinIt is so long since I heard from you that I did not know whether you intended it to write again. I was very much disappointed in not having a line from you by Mrs. Chesebrough had she let me know when she went I should have wrote by her. When this will reach you I can’t tell. I send it to Newport.Iamsorrytofindyousomuchoutof health.I think it would do you a great deal of good to come and see your Boston friends for they all want to see you. I hope you will try it next spring if we live till then and bring the dear boy [Sylvester] with you. Mrs. Chesebrough writes me he is not so handsome as he was but that is no matter if he is a good boy.

Really we have had dreadful times with us such as my eyes never be held as the night was that the Lieutenant Governor’s house was pulled down. Such shocking as it was and is you never see he lets it stand for a monument. I wish I could relate the whole of it to you but that I can’t without, I could see you. But to see the insolent devils hopping along thestreetfromonehousetoanotherandsayingof themflatalmosttothe ground. When they were at work on Mr. Storey’s house as it was nearIcouldheartheglasscrackandflyheretheaxesatworkandhaving one and another coming in at the same time and telling me that the Governor’s house was almost down to the ground. I felt as if I had no strength left in me. Aware of their fury would and I could not tell. A night indeed that makes me tremble to think of it to see whole families turned out of doors and told to escape for their lives four at Capt. Hollaway’s the maid prayed them to let her take the children out of bed. Their answer was damn her. The children to the Governor fledtoMr.Mather’sandtheyheardhewasthereandtheywentanddemandedhimof Mr.Mather.Sohefirsttogothroughthegardenand tarry in an old woman’s house and hid or I believe they would have killed him. Must not this be dreadful. When you think this was not the savages of the Lord but your neighbors your townsmen and pretended friends.

But to see the ladies clothes dragged in the gutter. Mrs. Sandford’s rich silks tore all up the bodies of the sacks [-] of with an ax from the tails her watch sort and her money all gone had you I can the poor Governor the next morning comes up to adjourn the court for it was the night before the court was to set. He had borrowed things to cover him. He had cloth colored greatcoat on him he made a speech in the court and then adjourned them till he could get things to appear in and theymightwellthinkhismindwasnotfittotransactbusiness.ButIcouldfillavolumeaboutitbutIhavenottime.

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• In 1764, the British Parliament passed the Sugar Act, which was designed to raise revenue from the colonists. They also passed another Currency Act. Reaction in the colonies was immediate. Boston lawyer James Otis published his views on taxation without representation, and Boston tradesmen boycotted British goods. A year later the British Parliament passed the Stamp Act and the Quartering Act. The new tax was imposed on all American colonists and required them to pay a tax on every piece of printed paper they used. Ship’s papers, legal documents, licenses, newspapers, other publications, and even playing cards were taxed. The colonists were also required to accept British soldiers into their homes. Patrick Henry presented seven resolutions to the Virginia House of Burgesses, the Sons of Liberty formed in many colonial towns, and citizens rioted against the Stamp Act.

• A virulent epidemic of smallpox hit Boston in early 1764 and it brought not only the physical health but also economic welfare of the city to its knees. If one had a place to escape to one did.

in a deplorable foundation for business stagnates and people uneasy and like to be so till we can hear from England. We had the famous Pope day that ever you see the North and South united there was no disturbance at all in the evening. Everything was carried on with the greatest order. One of the head of the mob was the Capt. and they had been so disorderly before that they were going to make up for it. But I must not say no more about this.

Old Mr. Brindley is dead and now George and Molly Wentworth is married and live at Mr. Wentworth’s. Katey Knight is dead and Johnny is a widower. Jack Athorpe is published to Miss Greenleaf. Jack Nelson’s Mrs. that was Deacon Barrett’s son though widower with one child is making his addresses to Sally Oliver and it is like to be a match. Judge Oliver’s son to Miss Sally Hutchinson. Mrs. Gold to Matt Rogers and has got a charming husband everybody says. Poor Harry [Thomas’s brother Henry] has been down to Halifax. I believe he got something by it. He was gone a month is now returned. Left Mr. Monk and family well. [Thomas’s and Henry’s sister Anne’s family.] He is behind the meetinghouse yet with that creature a second Betty cut he talks of going to Jamaica. Seamy Athorpe is as bad as ever.

All Mrs. Green thanks you for thinking of her. Wonders you don’t write to her. Sally Oliver says that you and Mrs. Dering must come to wedding.Pollysaysthatshewillputofftheweddingif youwillcomein the Spring. A Thanksgiving Day M. W appeared bride. Col. Jackson sends his love to you and says that he has a great regard for his cousin Tom. Mrs. Winslow is in town. Says that she expects a letter from you. Mr. Goldthwaite’s family send their regards to you today. Mrs. Franklin’s family and indeed does all your friends and wants to see you. I shall send this letter to Col. Saltonstall. His lady is a relation of Mr. Edwards and they were to see us this summer and said that they would forward my letters if I would direct them to him..... This goes to NewportbyMr.RedbutImustfinishwithmybestregardstoyouandam yours as ever Hepzi Edwards. May remember me to Mr. Edwards

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Boston February ye 13Dear CousinI was very glad to hear from you though very sorry to hear of your troubles and the loss of your Negro woman. I am very glad Mr. Whitefieldhasbeentoseeyou.Iwasinhopeshewouldbethebearerof my letter for I heard he was to be near you if not on your Island. He is not arrived yet at Boston and when he comes I am afraid I shall not be able to hear him for I have kept house for this month for fear of the smallpox. It can be easily stopped but your Guilson Barneard and other enoculating doctors and come to town and the people seem bewitched to have it spread and if so I fear I shan’t here the dear good man.

As to your books Harry sold them to Gov. surely. He has wrote you to or three times about them. Mr. Cummings left all to his wife only something to his father. She is looked on as a fortune. She is not like to increase. Yesterday Sam Savage’s wife died, sad only in travel. I have not wrote you this winter because I thought that my letters would never get to you. If the smallpox does not spread I will write you more largely soon for I am getting ready to leave my family and have hardly time to write you now.

Ned Green is shut up and has been some time on Joe’s account. I could enlarge here but have not time. I have not seen any of your friends yet to remember you to them. Mrs. Oliver has been out of town this month for fear of the smallpox. Mr. Foxcroft preaches better than ever. The general court has been setting at Cambridge. They have made suchfiresthattheyhaveburntdowntheoldcollegeandallthelibraryand appreciations a great loss indeed. But you will hear more of it in the newspapers. Mr. Pemberton dined with me last Thursday and we talked a great deal about you. He says he loves you and said many kind things of you. Your friends all inquire after you.

Miss Susey Hubbard sends her regards to you and Mrs. Dering. We are trying to make an inoculating hospital of Point Shirley but the people can’t agree about it so I can’t tell how it will be but I hope it will be so and then we shall not have this trouble of moving. If I can will write a few lines to Mrs. Dering. Tell Sylvester I long to see him and he must come with you and see me this summer.

If the smallpox don’t spread our family is pretty well . But Mrs. Gooch, she, you know, is often complaining. Mr. Wentworth has been so ill with the gout in his stomach that for two days the doctors thought he would die but he has got well again. Andrew Phillips is a losing about in town. Gill is quite mad at him. I can’t think of anything remarkable so shall finishwithmyregardstoMr. Adams and Mrs. Dering. Kiss Sylvester. Mr. Edwards sends his regards to Mr. Adams you and Mrs. Dering, whichincludesmeyoursaffectionatelyHepziEdwards.Mr.Joseph Belknap sends compliments to you and wishes Mr. Adams would come and preach.

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• Because of the smallpox, Hepzi fled to her cousin Sarah Thomas’s house in Marshfield.

Book: 2Number: 171Date: 4/18/1764To: Thomas DeringFrom: Hepzi Small EdwardsPlace: Marshfield

Newport April 17Dear brotherMy sister’s letter relieved my mind from great anxiety: it gave me great satisfaction. I desire to bless God for his great goodness in restoring you to so good state of health. And that he is lifting up of the light of his countenance upon you and giving so much peace and joy in believing. This is unspeakable favor and the greatest support under all trials and troubles. I don’t know but you will think me cool that I so much desire that you should continue in a world of sin and sorrow. I could not help being greatly concerned for my own sake for the sake of my dear sister and your dear children and I hope for the sake of religion.

I was ready to fear that poor Shelter Island was to be again without the means of grace. What great things do I hear from East Hampton. I saw a copy of a letter from Mr. Buell giving most extraordinary accounts of a great work going on in that town. O if this be a work of God as I hope it is that it may be universal. I hear that there is a great concern on the minds of the people at Providence and soon they hope saving me brought hope to Christ. O that we in this place may not be passed by. Indeed we are high-handed sinners and it would be just with Godtocastusoffandtogiveuptohardnessof heartandblindnessof mind. But I hope and believe that is seeing God’s children in this place. Which and earnestly desirous of the out pouring of God’s Spirit on this people.

O that their prayers may be answered if it be God’s will. I wrote to my sister by Mr. Abraham and sent four shirts and two pair of [-] sleeves and two pair of mitts for Betsy which I hope she has received. My love to her and the dear children and to Mr. Adams if he is with you. I pray let me hear from you often. Mr. Mumford has told me that he will take careand[-]letter.Imustconcludewiththegreatestaffectionyoursister Margaret Chesborough

PS This a bad [-] pay excuses it. Mrs. Oliver had had small pox by inoculation and had it favorably.

MarshfieldApril18Dear cousinI have been with Mrs. Thomas ever since 8 March to escape the smallpoxandfindithasbeenveryfavorable.Hardlyanyintheenoculate way has died with it. I was last week over to Kingstown too old Mr. Sievers funeral. The old lady is a widow again and trips as if she intended to have another husband. There I see Mrs. Watson who informed me that Mrs. Oliver and Miss Sanford were gone in to take the distemper as was Mrs. Fluker and Mrs. Bode Wayne and a number of other ladies.

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Mr. Edwards writes me that Parson Adams of Roxbury is gone to theCastletoleaveit.Mrs.Goldwasoneof thefirstclassthatwasinoculated and they thought she would have died. The doctors said they could do no more for her that they would give her on the vomit though they expected she would die in the working of it but blessed be God she is got well of it. I have not heard from Boston this fortnight but the last letters I had from there they wrote me that Dr. Lloyd had liketofalldowncellarandinsavinghimself hebrokehislittlefingeroffandhurthimself sothatitraisedafeveronhimthathislifewasdespaired of. I long to hear how he is. I fear to hope he is better but what I shall hear and can’t tell.

Mr.WhitefieldarrivedatMr.Smith’saboutafortnightbeforeIleftBoston. Mr. Edwards, Harry Dering and I went to see him and ask after you. He gave but a poor account of you as to your health. He says it will not suit you to live at ShelterIsland.You’llfindmorehealthin Boston. That retired life will not suit you. But he says Mrs. Dering grows as fat and hearty as can be but no wonder for she was born and bred there. These were is own words. Now come and see us in the fall and bring Sylvester with you. It may be you will get health by it. Mr. Adams will stay with Mrs. Dering. I want to see you very much. I answered your last letter before I left Boston and Mrs. Dering but I don’tfindthatyouhavewrotemesince.

I have received a letter from Mrs. Chesebrough since I have been here where she tells me that she expects Mrs. Grant and family upon the spring. Notwithstanding I had kept house for a month for fear of the smallpoxIwenttwicetohearMr.WhitefieldpreachatDr.[-]whichwas all the times that they would let him preach for fear of spreading the distemper. He is now gone in East ward to Portsmouth and along that way I hear they expect him at Plymouth if so I hope to hear him there if not in Boston. I hope as they intend to cleanse the town after the 20th of this month which is but two days to it. I hope if I should live I shall go home by the last of May. I never was so uneasy from home in my life as I am now.

Johnny Cotton’s wife would have stayed and had the distemper but she was with child so she went to stay at Judge Russell’s for old Mrs. Gerish is dead that kept with him. This letter is to go by Parson Brown who has an invitation at some part of Long Island and tells me that he intends to go to your Island to see you. Poor man I wish he may do well with all my heart. Remember me to Mrs. Dering and tell her that I will write her if I live to get to Boston. Pray my regards to Mr. Adams tell him he had better come and make me a visit. Tell Sylvester I often think of him and long to see him. I am expecting to hear from Boston every day and as Mr. Brown tells me he shan’t go till Monday I will leaveoffandaddif Ihearanythingfurther.Idesireyouwouldletmehear from you soon.

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I had forgot to tell you that some wicked creatures one night hang Mr. Whitefieldineffigyonthegallowshisworstenemiessaiditwasalowthing and wishes who ever did it might be found out. I wonder what hurt they think they can do the dear good man. I wonder they are not tired of their folly but the Devil is disturbed and no wonder where his kingdom shakes. Ye 21 Solomon Novice has been to see us and says that Dr. Lloyd is better and that Mrs. Oliver and the other ladies are not gone in to take the distemper for the inoculation is not so successful as it was. The doctors have had so much of the business that they grow careless and people have it very bad or die with it. Molly Pemberton died with it before I came out of town. It never was known how she catch it as she had kept her chamber and bed for some time before.

As to Katy Gooch, she is not married yet nor I don’t know whether she ever will to NedLloydforthematchhasbeenoffonceandnowis on again. All I can say is that she is a Foolish girl. I wish if she was married or something else for I think that she wants somebody to take care of her but as to who has had and how they have had the smallpox and the truth of these things you must wait till I write you from Boston. I don’t remember. I have anything remarkable to more to write you as I have not had any letter this fortnight from Mr.Edwards.[-]shallfinishyou as ever at command Hepzi Edwards

MarshfieldApril29,1764SirHad not been for the spreading of the smallpox in Boston which has prevented almost all communication I should have wrote you before this time, but with pleasure embrace this opportunity by our late parson who is going to preach at Long Island upon trials and it is thought he will settle amongst them. We are at present destitute and so are like to remain.

I fear for there seems to be but very few candidates, and what we have hadappeartobequiteinfants––bynomeansfittotakesosolemnacharge upon them. It gave me a great deal of trouble for you when I read the melancholy state your family had been in.

I am heartily sorry for the loss you met with in your Negro woman, but rejoice it was not one of your little ones, and that you yourself was recovered from that terrible disorder. I think it worthwhile to inquire whether your doctors use the bark in that distemper. For Dr. Stockbridge tells me it is but lately practiced but since it has been used there is no more danger in the throat distemper then in any other disorder that is common. If so I think it is a pity all the doctors do not.

I have Mrs. Edwards with me while she is obliged vanished the town who has been writing you and so suppose it needless to say what we have on our Boston friends, shall only add that [-] the smallpox very favorably. He had about in his face and between 30 and 40 in his body

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Book: 2Number: 176Date: 5/24/1764To: Thomas DeringFrom: Hepzi Small EdwardsPlace: Marshfield

[-] and inoculated a week after Mrs. Gold and was to go and see her before she could walk her room creature. She was very ill.

Mrs. Wentworth [-] her doctor said he could do no more for but give her a vomit, which he very much feared would die in the working of. But it pleased bless the means and the last I heard was like to do well hadafinestomachaboutherchamber.[-]Isincerelywishoneswasaswell overhead as Nat is. For Mrs. Edwards you wrote her you designed they should take it [-] if so I pray God to be with them, and carry through it.

Mr. Thomas is now out with the plow [-] for his hemp seed, but proposes to write you opportunity – – I am still upon a strict [-] for my health take pills every two or three [-] though very far from well. Think I may say the pain in my stomach is something better but never expect to enjoy my health again in the world. I pray God prepare me to leave it and then it matters not how soon for there is nothing here but sorrow sickness trouble and pain.

I know no one that enjoys themselves more by all account then our friend Hepzi. She has all that hearts can wish and I am sure I heartily rejoicewithherinit––Indeeditisnosmallmortificationtoher,thepresent retirement for you know she never liked the country, but I endeavored to make it as agreeable as Marshfieldcanbetoher.IhopeyouwillfindoutwhatIhavewroteinthegreatesthastetogetdonewhile my little girl is sleeping.

So must conclude with my kind love to the little ones that I may write a few lines to Mrs. Dering which I cannot omit by so good an opportunity and as I know not when I shall have another. I remain with mybestwishesforyouandyouraffectionatesisterSarah Thomas

MarshfieldMayye24stDear CousinIreceivedyourswhichgavemegreatpleasuretofindthatyouwerebetter for all I had heard that you were unwell and had a bad eye. Mr. Edwards had [-] me and Sally and I had been very much concerned about you. I suppose you have received by letter by Mr. Brown and so know that I am at Marshfield.Iamquiteobligedtoyouforyourinvitation but I believe I shall never see Shelter Island but hope to see you with your son this fall. I thank you kindly for your beef and mutton. I hope in a little time now to go home and partake of it. Mr. Edwards writes me that he has received it.

ThedearMr.WhitefieldispreachingatBoston twice a week and I can’t hear him. I heard him twice before I left Boston. Mr. Edwards wrotemethatthedearmanhadafitlastweekthattheythoughthewould have died but he is better. The small pox is very mortal now in the natural way. Mrs. Oliver and Ms. Sanford has had it and what they

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call favorable but Mr. William R Parson says he believes Mrs. Oliver had enough of it the inoculations has been very successful. Molly Boardman was inoculated and is dead so was our neighbor Tory. She is lamented by all that knew her.

Antis Greenleaf that was and Richard Clark’s daughter that married Barrett Booth died very sudden. Old Lady Phillips is dead. Parson Bliss is dead after seeing and hearing Mr. W. I hear Mr. W said that brother Bliss would be in heaven before Christmas. Mrs. Gooch was with Molly till she died but the particulars you must wait for till I get to Boston. Thomas Foxcroft is dead. He died at the North End. His father was with him and I hear he said that he had more comfort in his death then in his life for he was quite sensible of the folly of his past life.

As to Betsy’s doll I should have sent it but when I received Mrs. Dering’sletterIwasjusttakingmyflightbutif Ishouldhavemylifespared to go to Boston I will write Mrs. Dering. I hear they are clearing the town as fast as they can. I am sorry that I can’t see Capt. Bailey as it is so seldom that I can get an opportunity to send anything to you.

Mrs. Storer nor Sucky Green does not take the distemper I hear. Pray is Sylvester to have it this summer as you talked of. I wish he had had it and it was well over with him a dear soul. I long to see him.

As to the books you wrote me about Harry says that he has wrote you about them two or three times. I really forget what he told me that he got for them but it was not much. But I will write to him to let youknowIofferedthemtogentlemensinceandlearninghetoldmethey were worth more than I should ever get for them for he knew a minister that bought them at London for a dollar and then they were of no use to him only to stand in his study.

I suppose Mrs. Grant with her family is at Newport. Mrs. Chesebrough wrote to me in March that she expected her this spring. This is a changeable world that we live in. Happy day that have are prepared for another. Sally sends her love to you. Says she wrote you by Mr. Brown and hopes to see you this fall. She is very glad to hear you are better. Pray my regards to Mr. Adams. Tell him I hope to see him before winter. I think he may make his Boston friends upset. Remember me to Mrs.Dering.KissSylvester.YouraffectionateHepziEdwards

I suppose you have heard of Mrs. Wheatright’s death. Poor Nat is a widower. Gemmy Apthorpe acts as if he was possessed with an evil spirit. Maid Catey is going away and he has been gone a week after her. It seems he kept her for a while in the house. His poor wife is to be pitied, but I can’t write you one half about him now but it seems the town has been in an uproar about him. They have kept it a secret as long as they can and now the world knows all or rather not have

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• Hepzi returned to Boston.


but when I write you again I hope shall be when I can write more particular.

Dear Coz August ye 3rdIt is a long time since I have wrote or had a line from you. I want very much to know how it is with you and your family. There is great overturns in our families since you left us. I wish you would come and see this foul. [Fall] Your friends all want to see you and I think it would give them great pleasure a visit from you.

Cousin Storer has got a son named George. Dr. Lloyd has got a daughter at last. Poor Mrs. Thacher died of the smallpox at Milton. She went out for fear of it but happened to catch it. Mrs. Quincy that was Nancy Hearst catch it at Roxbury and died with it. Dolly Hordon died soon after she had it. It was supposed by the mockery that she took it has left many in a bad state of health.

Aunt Osborne died at Brookline of consumption. I little thought poor ladythatwhensheandIrunthroughfireandwaterasitwastohearMr.WhitfieldthatitwasthelasttimeIshouldeverseeherinthisworld.ThecaptainhasresignedhiscounselorshipandIfearwillfinditdifficulttogetanotherwifeforthereisnochariotnowastowhatyouwriteaboutHarry’sbeenaffected.Iseenothingof it.IwishIcouldwrite you that it was so but Harry thinks he should be better of it was notforhisneighborsforthoughtheyhavehadoneafflictionontheback of another it does not make them remember to keep the Sabbath dayholy.Iwishtheirafflictionsmaybesanctifiedtothem.If theyarenot the better for them they will be the worst.

As to Molly she is more talked of than ever. She was but I shan’t enlargeonthatnow.Mr.Gouldisgoneoffandhehasbeenguiltyof somany bad actions that it is thought he never will see his own country again. It is impossible for me to write you how Jeamey Apthorpe has behaved to his wife as well as the rest of his friends so that if you were to make us a short visit it would surprise you to hear all.

You must not write by the post anymore for Mr. Hubbard pays for his own letters so it is like we shan’t hear from one another so often as we used to. Joe Barrel is married to aunt Jackie Pine’s daughter Nancy. They were married in the morning at Ned Green’s home. Nobody but Ned and wife see them married for Joe and mama had a miss thoughprovidedallforthisthattheyhad.Sheaffhasgotanotherchildyesterday.

Mr. WentworthSamsondiedIthink.Theyhaverepeatedafflictions.Josh Green’s wife looks to lay in every day. Harry Wentworth is gone to sea. He behaved so bad that they were obliged to send him away. Sam is going next month to the University in London for his education but I

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• Abigail and Alexander Grant made frequent trips from Halifax to Boston and Newport, and in Newport for her health in the fall of 1764, she gave birth to her second daughter Abigail on September 16.

• The depth of the smallpox epidemic, apparently, had changed the fashion requirements of mourning.


can’t write you the one half but come and see this fall and be surprised.

Bring Sylvester with you for I long to see him. Tell him he must not go without his shoes and stockings. Nurse has had the smallpox but Reed is not gone home yet. Hannah Worden is married to one Cornell Jungerson that was in the Army. He has got two or three children. They keep the tavern that Jeamy Gooch kept. Mr. Hooper married them and she goes to church.

Is much pleased with her alteration in life. Mary Ann Jones after being withchildbyoneof herfather’smeanestservantshasrunoffwithhimand is married to him. Poor Mrs. Jones her troubles are very great. She istobepitied.AndnowPhillipsisrunoffindebtagain.Thelastweheard of him is that he is at Portsmouth and they will put him in jail if they will not pay his debt and these he should lay for me. Jeamy Smith has had another bad turn. They thought he would have died but he has got pretty well again.

Sam Wentworth is gone to London. Mrs. Thomas has got a son named John. I have more [to say] but as Frank Green is waiting for my letter IshallfinishwiththesameIamyoursaffectionatelytoserveaseverHepzi Edwards I shall write you again in a few days

Boston September ye 22ndDear CozI wrote you last week by Frank Green. He has gone to York. He is to leave my letter at New London which I hope you will get before this reaches you. I think I have wrote you everything of news and I do not remember anything remarkable but I thought I would write you by this opportunity.

Did I write you that Mrs. Grant lives at Newport, keeps house there. Mr.Brigham’swifethatwasMollyGoldthwaitegotafineson.Yourfriends are all well and want to see you and something expect to see youthisfall.Idoassureyouyouwillfindthingsverymuchalteredwere you to come and see us. There is more alterations in our family than I can write you but were you and I to convince to gather I should surprise you. I wish you could come and live in Boston again. Pray do youeverseeMr.Whitefield.IhearheisonLong Island. If you see him tell him he must make us a visit once more before he leaves New England. Mourning is quite out of fashion in Boston. A black bonnet gloves handkerchief ribbon and fan for a widow crape round the arm and a black rose on the breast and a half band and a pair of black

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clothes for a widower and so desperate relations.

Mrs. Gooch seems to be poorly. Mrs. Gould is at Portsmouth yet and is much better but is not like ever to see her husband again. He has done so many bad and conivish actions were you to hear all you would have to hardly believe they could be true but he has sold his country for his wickedness.

Mr.Wentworth’sfamilythatflourishedtheotherdayandnonesolucky a man as he is now broke all to pieces one gone this way and the othersbadbuttheflourishof thewickedisbutshort.Butallthisdoesnot open blind eyes, but I shall say no more. Without I could see your brother Harry dined with me this day. He has grown very fat. Tell Mrs. Dering the next time I write I hope it will be to let her know she has got a prize.

Mr. Franklin’s family send their respects to you as do all your friends. Mr. Pemberton dined with me the other Thursday and said a great many kind things of you and would come and see you if he could. I am sorry that we are deprived of writing to you by the post. If you know of any opportunity you must let me know. Mr. Edwards sends his regards to you and wife. We often talk of Sylvester. I wish the little fellow was here. Tell him he must come and see me with you which concludes me yours as ever at command Hepzi Edwards

Remember me to Mr. Adams and tell him he must come and see me this fall.

Boston October ye 1stDear CoznI have just wrote you two letters by the way of New London one by Frank Green and the other by Capt. Higgins so that I have nothing new to write you only that Capt. Osborne has made his addresses to Mme. Alford and is refused. He must not think to meet with the same Suckseys as he did when he was [-] and his chariot run. I think old Aunt Hubbard will do very well for him but he wants money if he can get it. Our families remain as they did when I wrote you last. I hope when I write you again the lottery will be drawn and Mrs. Dering will be further successful in it. I have wrote you all about Monday. I believe she thinks herself somebody since she has married. The Col. Mr. Pemberton was to seeing me the other day and he was asking after you and I gave him one of your letters to read and he says your ink is bad and I must send you a paper of ink powder and so I will when I can hear of an opportunity that will carry it to you. Your friends all desire to be remembered to you. Mr. Edwards sends his respects to you and wife. Tell Sylvester I long to see him. He must come to Boston soon. I suppose you have heard from your friends at Newport that Mrs. Grant is got safe. They are and keeps house there which concludes me yours at command as ever Hepzi Edwards

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I want to hear from you very much. Is there no vessel coming down this fall. John Cotton has got another daughter. I just now hear of this opportunity so shall add no more. Nick Green’s got out of his difficultiesandPolly’sestateremainshers.Nedwantsafarm.

Boston October ye 27thDear CozI received your letters and am very much obliged to you for my broom. I think it is very pretty when it came. Mr. Pemberton, Elliott and Cooper was here and they liked it and asked after your health. Mme. Storer had dined with me that day. She liked it so well that she wished you would send a number of them for sale. Mrs. Thomas is obliged to get a nurse for her child. The pain in her stomach will not admit of her suckling. You say you would have me write all about our family. If I were to it would surprise you. I do not care to trust all that I should be glad to say to you about them in writing but you must come and see us in the spring if God should spare your and our lives till then. Poor Mrs. Gould looks like a dejected creature.

The small pox has left her in a poor way and she that has lived at the Fountainhead now must with her three children go into some little house with one room and the kitchen and must never see her husband no more in this country for he is proved such name that he must never show his head here again.

Besideshisplagueywhoringaffairstherehasnotbeenjustluckyinstance in my day of villainy. Betsy is to be pitied and so is his father. As to Jemey he behaves a little better than he did but how long it will last I can’t say. As to Molly I shan’t write anything about her only that she remains Miss Molly. Mrs. Polly Oliver is not like to be married. Mrs. Sandford neither.

Thejudgebehavedveryoddaboutthataffair.Iamverygladyourretirement proves to very agreeable to you. Jake Nelson is broke in London has taken out a letter of bankruptcy. I fancy Miss Hannah Greenleaf will not toss her head so much for had he never came back Miss was to have had £1000 sterling and if returned himself with an unknown sum but this world is nothing but disappointments. They are bestoffthathaveleasttoonwiththeworld.Ihavesentyouapaperof ink powder. Tell Sylvester I send him a few Barberis. I would have sent more but thought there would be no opportunity to send them and so did not do many in the season of them.

I have sent him a spelling book. You must bring him to see me in the spring. We have one land man just from Scotland preaching. He delivers strange doctrine, and makes a great talk among us. He is more of a Quaker then anything. Capt. Osborne has made his addresses to Mme. Storer and Mme. Alford both refused him. Who can blame him for his folly in attempting when he has been so successful in wives. But

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• Sarah Dering Thomas gave birth to John, the fourth of eight children.

• Henry Dering was lodging with Betty Simpson.


he must consider he is a goutey old man without a chariot and not a counselor. Sammy and Marcy to be maintained. Tell Mr. Adams that he must come and see us now we are grown too frugal perhaps I may let him preach in a speckled handkerchief. Mr. Adams of Roxbury has not had the smallpox. I have not seen him since I received yours, which finishesmeyourseverHepziEdwards

George Green is returned and left Mrs. Winslow very well and all her family. One of the Miss Vances is going down to tarry the winter with them, which I am very glad of for both their sakes I think. Your friends are all well and as I see them they inquire after you and desired to be remembered to you. Mrs. Smith sends her best respects to you and says she hopes the match will turn out well of Nancy’s match. Kiss Sylvester. Tell him I want to see him [-] though I suppose he is not so pretty as he was. Remember me to all your family which concludes me yours as ever at command Hepzi Edwards . Mr. Edwards sends his regards

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... there is nothing I believe wrote or said but he lets her know. I suppose you know that Nat Wheelwright’s breaking has deprived him of all business and all he has in the world is gone since which Betty Sampson is mistress of the house and Harry lodges with her. I think he is led and dictates internally by her and does as she tells him and upon that thought when I have talked with him I have not spared her when I have talked with him as telling him of her suddenly and when he has said anything in favor of her why he said I in telling me that you show me more and more her cloven foot I have not failed in dealing with ...

... you income why can’t you please [-] in the fall and take a lodging with me such as it is all your friends make inquiring after you and if you do not talk of coming to see them. Miss behind the meetinghouse has done wherefore again and George refuses to marry her. Papa has forbade him the house. How it will turn out I cannot say and long to see you but can’t enlarge on so tender a point of my friends pray say nothing of this but Burn this when you read it. It is like you will hear more of this hereafter of old Mr. Lynch more Mr. Hobey and Mr. Brown’s are dead. John Cotton has lost another child. Mrs. Gooch has had an ill turn. We thought she would have died but is now as well as ever. Mrs. Wentworth looks but poorly but keeps up her spirits. Mrs. Gould and children live in a house next to her father Gould’s. He takes care of them. Mrs. Gould’s other son is shot up and Johnny Winet that married Mr. Winslow’s daughter and Dr. Pynchon’s wife is dead

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and Mrs. Stephens is gone in the country to live. I do not think of anything new to add but I heard the other day that Nabby Smith and her husband was parted and that they lived a dreadful life together. I shall be glad to know if there is any truth in it. Sally Varsel is gone to London to her husband. Mrs. Bauer has had two children. Ned Green and Harry Dering were talking and wishing to come and see you and I believe nothing but expensive traveling hinders them. When your man comes in the fall what if you should get into the vessel and come with him you and Sylvester. I think you might. How does Mr. Adams do? Don’t he talk of coming to Boston? We should be glad to see him here. I suppose you have heard of Dr. Harlow’s having his house burnt and allthatwasinitandtwofinechildren,oneof hersandtheotherhis.Itis so long since I have had an opportunity to write that I do not know what I have wrote you of news nor what I have got to write but I do notthinkof anythingmoresoshallfinishwithremainingyoursaseverat command Hepzi Edwards

Remember me to Sylvester. Tell him he must come and see me. Read Long’s to see him.Mr. Avery is to have the widow Spanner.

Boston January 4 Pray take care this cold weather of the dear boy

Dear friend Asthisisthefirstdayof thenewyearIshallbeginwithwishingyouahappy year and many of them. I wish you all the happiness that this worldcanaffordyouandyours.Iwishyoucouldbemyneighbor.Itwould give me great pleasure to have you near me but Providence has ordered it otherwise and we must submit but I hope it will be for yourprofitandIperfectlylongtoseethemkissmydearlittleboybutwhether I ever shell or no I can’t say. I think some times that it is too great a pleasure for me to expect. I have received four letters from you, three from Shelter Island and one from Newport. The date of the two last was November 26 and December ye 13. I hope you received that I sent in the newspaper where I wrote you of your mistake in directing your letter to the care of Mr. Hubbard which cost me half a dollar. He says you must p,ut your letters under cover to him. Major Wendal and Jobe Hunt arer both dead, died very suddenly. Jobe has left Stephen Whiten his heir and Alan the Taylor is dead and Fanny Gordon has got the pew at the North that is he is seated in it. Sweeny is shot up and last Sabbath left the town. What Miss Varsel will do now and I can’t tell but I suppose we’ll get another Galant soon and have not seen her since nor nobody else that I can hear of.

Harry is trying for Molly Thurber. I wish he may be lucky enough to get her if he don’t I know not what will become of him. Your friends all make great inquiry after you. Mr. Goldthwaite’s family desires to be remembered to you and Mr. Oliver’s and Mr. Hugh’s and indeed all your friends are inquiring after your health.

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• On February 12, 1765, Alexander Grant had returned to London leaving Abigail and her two daughters in Newport with her father and stepmother. Alexander was again working for his patron Lord Grant. He remained in that employ for several years and in 1768, with Abigail still in Newport, he left for Jamaica where the Grant family had extensive sugar plantations. The Baronet’s Jamaican holdings included 10,666 acres worked by about 675 slaves. It appears that Alexander served as overseer of Lord Grant’s holdings. While he was there, Alexander became very ill. He survived and had 500 slaves inoculated. [Boonstra, ibid, October 2003, pages 375-379]


• In 1766, Benjamin Franklin, in London representing the interests of Pennsylvania, Massachusetts, New Jersey, and Georgia before the British Parliament, testified against the Stamp Act and later that year it was repealed in response to British merchants whose goods were being boycotted. Still, they restated England’s supreme authority over the colonies. In 1767, the Parliament passed the Townshend Acts, which imposed duties on glass, tea and other items. The Americans reacted by adopting non-transportation agreements and refused to buy British goods.

Mr. Cummings said he would write to you if I would send the letter but as he has not sent his letter you will have it next time I write. He has not attempted the lady at the North yet. I expect her every day to see me and I am to let him know when she is here. Mr. Cotton has got another. Grizzle Adam Babcock dined here and tells me that he is to live in Boston which I am very glad of four then I shall have the pleasure of Nabby’s company. As to Mr. Wentworth and Harry I do not know how they will make out but I hope without quarreling. But you know Harry he is Harry. Still I hope he will get a good wife that is all the hope I have of him. I am sorry to hear you say that you must part with Comus but I hope he will do better. I long to hear from my child dear soul I do not forget him. Nurse praise you to tell him if he is old man before she sees him she will kiss him. Tell Mrs. Dering I have gotten 15 pound 10 of her money for vinegar and sock so let me know what you would have done with it. I enclose you a letter from Mrs. Winston. Your friends are all well. Mrs. Thomas was last week as the victory of the King of praise and the defeat of the Spanish army. I shall refer you to the newspaper for it as I have not time to write Mrs. Dering. [-] I shall send by the way of Newport when I hear of an opportunity. We have got your things from a board Wimble shall send them when we can hear of an opportunity which concludes your affectionatefriendaseverHepzi Small Kiss Sylvester tell him I love him still Hepzi Edwards

December ye 15Since I wrote your letter I have received a kind letter from William Adams which I was very much pleased with, but was very sorry to findthathedidnotspendthewinterwithyou.Hetellsmethathisbrother’sillnessdetainshim.Heofferstotakecareof myletterssoIshall send them to him. Last Thursday Jack Apthorp was married to Miss Hannah Greenleaf. Tell Mrs. Dering that we drawn no lottery till we have done with the Stamp Act. The famous Rogers has been home and is made Governor of some; country and the infamous Mr. Potter his secretary. December 17 this day the Sons of Liberty met with the tree of liberty there to swear the secretary that he will not act as stamp master as his commission is arrived.

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• In 1766, Thomas Dering accepted his first office in Shelter Island government as Supervisor (the equivalent of Mayor), a position he would hold through 1769.

• The Dering brothers’s business affairs now wrapped up, Henry was looking for new pastures. Hepzi reported that he had gathered up his “strumpet” and boarded a ship to Jamaica where he had set up shop and was now selling groceries.


Dear CozBostonHepzi EdwardsIt is so long since I have had a line from you that I did not know but you had great on with your friend here but Mrs. Dering has wrote me that you are well which I am glad to hear. Pray don’t you think coming to see us. Your friends all say they long to see you. Do take a little trip, andif youshouldyouwillfindmanyof youroldfriendsgone.Thisisa changeable world that we live in. Mr. Kitchen is dead and has left you 300 pounds old tenor and Sally the same. And that is all in our family. But he has left a great many legacies. He has left Mr. Elliott and [-] each 250 pounds – what it was for nobody knows. John Walker isdeadandMrs.Bettyhasrenewedherageandisfittingupherhouse. She says that you would not come and see her and take your leave of her. Keatey Vigh instead. Mrs. Pembroke is dead and to be buried tomorrow. Mr. Wentworth is just gone. He is at Roxbury at the house he built. We expect every moment to hear he is dead. He don’t speak. Molly is married. What is to become of them. I can’t tell. Tom Wentworth is almost gone. Harry Wentworth is lost at sea a dread full stroke to his poor mother just at this time for her heart was set on her son and all her dependence was on him as he was so much reformed. She has been very ill herself but is almost wore out with attending her husband. Sarah Leonard can’t live many days longer two or three of their little blacks are dead and [-] in short I have not time to write you one half of the melancholy circumstances of that family for I just now hear that Colonel Saltonstall is to go out of town tomorrow but if I live I hope to write you by Wimbledon when he goes. It is so long since I wrote you that I don’t know what to write you that you have not heard, but I must say one word about our poor unhappy friend Harry Dering. He is gone to Jamaica and carried his strumpet with him. I believe he would be glad to get rid of her if he could but she is [-] subtle Jade. I have had a letter from him. He writes me that he has his health and that he has hired a house and shop and sells groceries. I wish he may do well and be brought to a sense of his evil ways. My heart aches for him. I have wrote to him. He sent me a bottle of cyan. Gypsy hates me as he told me before he went away for though I did not know her she had it double and round by way of him for I never spared him and it seems he told her all. I have a deal to say to you. What if you should come and see me and hear all that I have got to say to you and see your friends. Mr. Winslow and his wife has been up here this nine months and is gone down and [-] Mr. Thomas since second son with them to take care of him till he is 16 years old. The secretary is in a poor way the rest of the family pretty well. The match is all of with

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• Elizabeth Wentworth, Thomas’s oldest sister, became a widow in 1766 when her husband Samuel died on September 16. He was 58 years old. She was 51.

Book: 3Number: 232Date11/29/1766To: Thomas DeringFrom: Hepzi Small EdwardsPlace: Boston

Widower Bariot and Ms. Sally – – you say nothing of Comus. I hope he is behaving well. Where is Mr. Adams? I was in hopes he would have come and made me a visit this summer. I wish he would this fall. I should be very glad to see him. I pray has Sylvester forgot me I hear nothing of him. I suppose he would not know me if he would to see me.JeamyApthorpewentoffwithoutanybody’sknowledge.Hehasreturned again for his wife to carry her away and she is going with him soon. Your friends all desire to be remembered to you and say they wanttohaveyoucomeandseethem.ButImustfinishwithyourfriendas ever Hepzi Edwards

Boston November 29thDear Coz I received yours and went to two or three traders and they said they could not make one hat white without they had more for they must have all there are things clean from the black and the summer was the best time to make them in as they could make them cleaner. They asked six dollars for one. I have no money of Mrs. Dering’s. I had three dollars and that I paid the Secretary for the cloth all but 10 Shillings. The other three I bought a ticket with the lottery. Is to be drawn in January next. If a prize shall let you know. Pray if you can leave home to go hundred miles one way why can’t you leave it to come and see your friends.

Old Lady Green says that she wishes it might be that she was to see your face once more in this world. I really wish you would come. If you made ever so little a tarry of it is only to see what alteration there is in father’s family. Mrs. Brinley is got a son she had liked to have died. Poor Mrs. Wentworth is almost wore out. What will become of them I can’t say but I think Mrs. Wentworth will never want.

Mr. Gooch still ventures at sea and loses I believe. It is but low times with them. She has two of Jemey Athorp’s children to board with them and I hear she would take two or three more if she could get them. I hear they have parted with several things out of their house. He is now very poorly. We have just heard of that. For Harry is well. And that Peter Chardon is dead. Your friends are all inquiry after you and wanted to know if you do not talk of coming to see them. Neighbor Huse is longing to see you and hoping to see you. I have had no time to ask after any [-] for I was not well when I received your letter and the man told me that he should go on Monday that I have only time to write you a few lines now. Do try to come and see us in the spring. Mr. Pemberton talks of going to New York in the spring but believes he shan’t go to see you. I would have you write to him to call on you but I must not write you anymore as I intend to write Mrs. Dering who I am obliged to for my present. I wish I could return her

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Dear CozBoston March ye 2I received yours of January and was surprised you had not received my letters that I sent last fall with Mrs. Dering’s and what I had wrote you about your hat that I could not get one made for you. Tell Mrs. Dering her ticket is a blank and could not get her another as you desired me to pay the money. I had to the secretary for your cloth which I did. I am very sorry for your misfortunes. I had heard of it before John Lane spoke of it when he was here, as to what you have of Lane in your hands. I pray you never let that trouble you. I wish that was all you owed. I do not want it at present and it may be that I never may. I have just said the same to poor Mrs. Wentworth for near 200 pounds. I have had my days of adversity and almost want. Oh that I had a thankful heart. I am as happy as I can be in this life. We all have our turns. I always hoped that my good days would be when I was in the decline of life and it is so. But to say a little about our friends. John Cotton is shut up Mr. Goldthwaite was bound for him in the excise office1000poundslawfulandatpresentisnotliketogetonepennyof it. You know in these cases there is often [-]. Johnny is much blamed but I know nothing about it so shall say nothing only that I am sorry for him. As to Mr. Gooch I believe he has not one copper that he can call his own. She takes boarders and they do the best they can. As to Mrs. Wentworth there she is in the house at present. What she will do I can’t say, yet I believe she expects Jack Wentworth will be kind to her. George Brinley is gone to Jamaica. He is shown expected and then I hope to hear from Harry poor fellow. Mrs. Watson is dead. A dreadful stroke to the judge and lady. Mr. Turner is ready to pay your legacy if you will send your receipt or whatever is need for. I suppose you must write him and say who you will have receive the money if you won’t come and receive it yourself. Why can’t you step aboard a vessel. Mr. Adams will stay with Mrs. Dering if she can’t come with you.

Neighbor Huse longs to see you. She says she would be very glad of another of your brooms for hers is wore out. I suppose you have heard of thegreatfirewehadthefirstof February.ItbeganatDavenport’sbakehousethatwasthebrayworkedinitthatsetWilliamsforitof fire.It burned from 10 at night till three in the morning about 20 houses it run down and burnt the house that was Capt. Parnes in four straight. Your friends all want to see you and would be glad if you would come and make them a visit. I should be glad to see you and have a little talk with you. I wrote you some time ago that I had got your fathers booksandyoursandHarry’s.Ibelievethereistwodifferentparcelsof them. They are safe here. Mr. Pemberton and Elliott dined with me

anything in the room of it I hope I shall one time or other yours as ever Hepzi Edwards

I do assure you it would [-] you to see my little habitation. Do come I will make it as agreeable as I can if you will try.

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last Thursday. They asked very kindly after you and whether you made a good farmer or not. Col. Jackson desires to be kindly remembered to you. How does Comus behave now? Miss Becky Lloyd is in town. John Cotton has got two children a son and daughter. I don’t think of anything remarkable more than what I have wrote you unless anything shouldofferbeforethisgoes.PrayremembermetoMrs. Dering and Mr. Adams if with you. Mr. Edwards desires the same. Pray don’t he never talk of coming to Boston again. Why don’t you send your friend Smith along or bring him with you. I shall be very glad to see him here if he is such one as you represent him to be and I should think his brethren in the ministry will be glad to see him. Tell Sylvester I want to seehimandif IcouldIwouldwhichconcludesmeyoursaffectionatelyas ever Hepzi Edwards


• Born in 1758, Sylvester was nine years old when he went off to school to prepare for college. His master was Nehemiah Barker of Mattituck. It was a blessing for Sylvester that he was not sent much further from home. His sister Elizabeth was five and Henry Packer was four.

• Sarah and Nat Thomas now had five children. Nat was twelve, Henry seven, Sarah five, John three, and Mary one. In spite of his pleas of poverty, he was about to embark on building a new house. “It was ‘the largest improved estate in the county’ with many outbuildings including a barn, stable, blacksmith shop, smoke house, bake house, harness shop, a tannery and a counting house.” [Krusell, Cynthia Hager and Betty Magown Bates, Marshfield, A Town of Villages, 1640-1990, page 14-15]

Dear Coz Boston April ye 27th

Iwroteyouamonthagobutcouldnotfindanopportunitytosendituntil now. I shall send you what I then wrote as to the money that I wrote you about. I hear you have ordered it to be paid to Mr. Hubbard. George Brigham is returned from Jamaica. Says poor Harry is well. I suppose Mrs. Wentworth has wrote you that she has heard from her daughter Apthorp and then she is in expectation of Jack Wentworth. And now I must inform you of the sudden death of Parson Hooper who was well in his garden and dead in a moment. He was buried this day. Dr. Chauncey and Dr. Boils were two of his bearers so it was Good Friday and they could not get any of the church clergy. Dr. Canner was sickandsowas[-]DavidJefferiessickbutaweekanddead.Johnny Cottonstillconfined.Mrs.GoochmuchaffectedwithherParsonsdeath; it is an awful thing. Mrs. Greene says she longs to see you and desires me to write you so all your friends wants to see you. Gov. Wentworth is expected every day which is all at present. from yours affectionatelyHepziEdwards.Mr. Edwards sends his regards to you and yours and would be glad to see you here. Tell Mr. Adams he must come and see me. Tell Sylvester I long to see him.

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• Thomas’s brother Henry remained in Jamaica, but Hepzi informed Thomas that Henry’s “strumpet” was dead.

Book: 3Number: 256Book: 3Number: 248Date: 11/20/1767To: Thomas DeringFrom: Sarah Dering ThomasPlace: Marshfield


MarshfieldNovember20,1767My dear brotherIt is long since I had a line from you though I have wrote you several times. I should be very sorry to be deprived the happiness I receive from a correspondence, though I at present must be debarred from that much greater satisfaction of a personal conversation. I most sincerely sympathize with you in your present misfortunes, which I the other day hear, by accident of, though, I perceive I was the only one in the family that was a stranger to them. I hardly wish it was in my power to give you the highest mark, of my sincere friendship, in something more acceptable, than a gray pen can communicate. This is a world of troubles sorrow and disappointment. One family after another seems to be visited– and none at present that I know of more exercised with troubles then our family is – I trust these things will be made to turn out for our spiritual good, and that God will be pleased to make up the loss of creature comforts and in enjoyments in himself and in his son Christ Jesus. I have long lived in hopes that there would be some turninaffairssothatahonestindustriousmanmightlivewithoutbeingstrainedandharriedneedsallhisdays.ButIfindeveryyeardoes but increase trouble and there is no satisfaction to be found in this world of sin – – necessity obliges us to be providing somethings in order to build us a house for ours is now really not habitable. We have but one bed we can lay dry in when it rains and you may almost pass in a corner from room to room. I trust a kind Providence will keep it from falling over our heads this winter, and Mr. Thomas proposes if possible to set up some sort of a one in the spring if he should live in order for which sorely against his inclination he has determined to part with some of the farm if there be any money to purchase it with but it seems to be gone entirely out of this part of the world. – – I wish it was in my power to make you a visit, for I long to see you all, but it is now above two years since I was in Boston, and many has been the changes in the families in the time, but I cannot make out even to go asfarasthere.EveryyearIfindIamlessabletoleavemyfamily,forI have no help but Dinah and Molly and the most ignorant little girls in the world, that you made judge I could have but little comfort in leaving the children with them. I have wrote my sister, as well as you more than once but have not had the pleasure of receiving one line in return. However do not mean to be ceremonious. If I had time to write by this opportunity, but fear if I do shall miss sending my letters so must conclude with my kindness love and respect to you my sister and the dear little children, which Mr. Thomas joins me and I remain your mostsincerelyaffectionatesisterSarah Thomas

Boston July ye 22ndDear CoznIn haste I write you a few lines by Mr. Isaac Smith’s son, a very agreeable young gentlemen. iI he should come on the Island pray be kind to him. I think you will like him. You must like him. What I

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shall only hint at. Poor Harry’s creature is dead that he carried with him. I suppose you have heard of the sudden death of Parson Hooper – – Mr. Gooch was taken with the numb palsy a fortnight ago. He lays in a stupid from whether he will ever be better we can’t tell. She takes boarders, Lewis Debloss’s daughter is with her. Her mother died suddenly a little while ago. . Pray what is the matter. I have not heard from you since last December. Mrs. Chesebrough writes me that she is to make you a visit this summer, which I am glad to hear. I wrote you that John Cotton was shut up but have not heard from you since. He is out again. I don’t think of anything remarkable to write you but if I know when your sister goes I will write you more at long. We hear that Harry is in business but we don’t know what but expect to hear from him soon by the Captain that carried them. I wish the bearer of this may go on the Island that you may see him and hear from your old friends who want to see you. Cousin Storer talked of going to see you but I believe will not. Remember me to Mrs. Dering and kiss Sylvester. Mr. Edwards desires to be remembered to you all, Cozn. Issac goes tomorrow. So in haste I remain yours as ever at command Hepzi Edwards – – You must come and see us. Do come.

August ye 9, 1768Dear CznI have not heard from you this long time whether you were dead or alive until the other day. Mr. Harry Floyd and Lady were at Long Island and he told me that he saw the man that did your business for you and he told him that you were like to get through your troubles and if so why can’t Mrs. Dering come and see your friends. I will make my little habitation as agreeable as I can to you and don’t doubt but it will be for your health.As to the box and trunk that I have I don’t know how to send them safe with out you knew of an opportunity and would send them to me. It is so long since I wrote to you I hardly know what I have wrote you and what I have not of news but we have had a melancholy family. Mr. Edwards youngest son is dead and the apprentice a young lad that had but a few months of his time to serve he went to see his friends and was drowned. And all in a fortnight. The son of a consumptive. Poor neighbor Hulse is dead and the sorrowful widow Polly is to have Mr. [-]Gray’s son. Mr. Monk is dead. She has got her two sons who are verygoodtoher.Mr.DavidJefferiesisagoingtohaveMrs.HannahWinslow and so you see it is as it was and ever will be, some dying and some marrying. The last news we had from poor Harry was that he was like to do very well and he hoped to come home again. I forget whether I wrote you that his woman was dead. I hope he will take care how he is lead away again. I can’t write you one half that I have to say to you. I wish I could see you. The people here are determined not to receive the burdens that are laid on them so we have great commotions with us how it will turn out I can’t tell but were I to write you one half of the stirs that there is among us I do not know but it would take [-] of paper. I suppose you see the newspapers. Mr. Thomas has almost got

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• Thomas Dering’s slave London died by drowning. There was an inquest, which confirms that he was considered a human being.

• General Gage was boarding at Thomas’s sister Mary Gooch’s house.


• Elizabeth Wentworth, Thomas’s sister, recently widowed wrote her brother a very newsy letter bringing him up to date about her children and her sisters as best she could. This letter is possibly in response to a letter of condolences that Thomas sent her.

Boston October ye 24Dear CozI received yours by Mrs. Chesebrough. I was very glad to hear from you but a very sorry to hear your family has been so unwell. You say you have lost a Negro man. pray how does Comus behave? I suppose he is done with wanting to come to Boston. It is true you wrote to me for the box. If I could have had an opportunity I should have sent them before now for I know of no service they could be to anybody here onlytofilluptheirhousebutIhavesentthemnowandshouldhavesent them before but I have wrote you what melancholy family we have had. Your friends have not forgot you they all want to see you and if you did not live out of their reach you would hear oftener from them. Tell Sylvester I thank him for his letter but have not time to write now to him but I think if I could see you we could contrive to bring him up at Boston. What if you should come and try next spring and see what we can do. General Gage keeps at Mrs. Gooch’s. Poor Boston is in a most deplorable condition. What will be the event God only knows but we know not what to do. Harry was well when I heard last from him. Capt. Osborne is dead. Mrs. Greene and all your friends desire to be remembered to you and wonder that you ever do not come and see them. I am sorry to hear by Mrs. Chesebrough shall enclose the key is and send the boxes to Col. Saltonstall. Yours as Hepzi Edwards

Mrs.Thomashasgotanotherson.Mr.Sheaff’swifereadytolayin.Mr. Edwards sends his regards to you and family.

hisnewhousefittolivein,theytellme,butIhavenotbeentherethisseason. She is like to have another child which will be her sixth. Harry is down at Cumberland with Mr. Winslow. John is provided for. Mrs. Greene and her family are well. They are often inquiring after you and wishing to see you. Cousin Storer often talks and wishes to go and see you and so doth Ned. Mr. Gooch is in a poor way and she frets herself to death. She is nothing but skin and bones. You would be surprised to see her. I hear Mrs.Chesebrough desires you a visit who I hope will be the bearer of this. Mrs. Wentworth lives in the old house and her son and daughter Brinley with her. Mr. Edwards sends his regards to you and yours which commend me yours as ever, Hepzi Edwards. Tell Sylvester I want to see him and give my love to him. Nabby Green is dead.

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Book: 3Number: 262Date: 10/25/1768To: Thomas DeringFrom: Elizabeth Dering WentworthPlace: Boston

Boston October 25, 1768My dear brother It is an age of time since I had the pleasure of hearing from you. I acknowledge myself in debt to you a letter and it is not that you are absent from my thoughts which halves prevented my not writing. you have too great a share there ever be forgot, it gives me great pleasure to hear you are so respected where you are. But my dear brother shall I never see you and Mrs. Dering again.

My friends do all they can to make my life happy and agreeable, but good heaven! When I see all my family separated from me, I am obliged to muster all the resolution I am mistress of to show I am able to bear up under misfortunes. They say it’s an indication of a great mind, therefore my dear brother let you and I keep up each other’s spirits. You may say it’s your ride, let it be so. Is it not a laudable one. It’s true our whole family are all sunk in fortune, but it is the duty of Christians to keep up their spirits, what are we without hope. Let us look forward who have we to blame. Are these things not best surely they are, I trust and hope to see our families rise again in our children.

Our sister Monk is now a widow left as I was without a shilling. She is at present with her son Jemmy at Halifax. He is just sworn in attorney at law. Harry is on the farm working out the mortgage. Manny still single.LucytheysayaveryfinegirlabouteightyearoldandCharles15. These three unprovided for. I had a letter from Jemmy very lately. He says he shall do all in his power to take care of the family and make his mother happy, but he is very much dejected. Do write Mrs. Monk. It will look friendly.

Harry is still at Jamaica. The Fitches has been very kind to him and he takes the care of part of their business, but it is to stand on a wharf three quarters of his time in the blazing sun receiving and delivering out lumber from morning till night. He says anybody but him would have been dead long before this time. But we don’t know what we can pass through until we try.

Mrs. Gooch has her health tolerable. General Gage is now at lodgings there. It is thus our poor sister is forced to get her living by borders and Mr. Gooch is quite childish.

I expect to hear every day Mrs. Thomas is abed. She looks to lay in this month. He is building a new house. The old one is so bad they can live in it no longer. Had he done as his father did afore him gone on in the old way of farming without trying every new project he heard of it’spossiblehemighthavefinisheditbutIexpectheneverwill.IhavenotseenMrs.Thomasthisseveralyear.Mr.Apthorpeaffairsarestillin the law, and it very uncertain when they will be decided, as they are in the Court of Chancery. He is supported by his mother and brothers, as he can enter into no business until Mr. Trocolkick pleases who is

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• Sarah Thomas responded to a very melancholy letter that Thomas had written to her. Her newest child, Martin, was her sixth. Nat Thomas had just completed building her a new house, a necessary improvement as you could not take shelter in the old one in a rain storm without getting wet.


his only creditor, and helps to support him. The longer we live in the world the more we see of it. Mrs. Rogers expects her husband every day from London. I had the pleasure of a visit from Gov. Wentworth, Mr. Atkinson and Fanny and one Mr. Wentworth, a gentleman from London, who lives with the governor. They are just returned home. They very kindly inquired after you. I had knowledged to them I was very faulty and write you immediately and give their regards and respects.

I have lately received a letter from my son Tam at Oxford. He has now thoughts of standing for a fellowship at All Souls College. It a placeof morehonorthenprofit,buthisgoodfriendsGov.Wentworthand Dr. Canor are his support and approve the thing. He is allowed 100 pounds tenor year, the doctor gives 25 and the governor the rest. If it weren’t for these two gentlemen I must infallible have broke up housekeeping. Here is true friendship that is continued to the widow and children after the father’s death.

Mr. Brinley is still with me. He makes a voyage every winter to Jamaica and that just serves to bring the year about. The summers he spends with us. I hope something will turn up for him before long for the life he is now in is very disagreeable to him and business has been so dull thatheisafraidof Englishgoods,thoughhehasmanyoffersfromtheother side of the water still is afraid to venture.

Benning continues at given you a description of our whole family and assure you it is with the utmost becoming I bring the year about, but I am determined by the help of the Almighty to bear up with patience andresignationwhateverHeshallseefittolayuponme.Youmayleave now my dear brother to desire you would remember me and a very particular manner to sister Dering and the children. I esteem love and value them and they are very dear to me. I shall ever remain whatIamawidowandyourmostsincereandaffectionateElizabeth Wentworth

MarshfieldFebruary10,1769My dear brotherYours of 2 November I have now before me which came to hand about six weeks after it was wrote. I had wrote the week before my confinementtoMrs. Edwards to know if I should write you whether she could convey it soon but to my great astonishment she wrote me “no” for that she had sent my letter but the week before that I had wrote almost a 12 month before. I was greatly rejoiced to see the direction of your letter knowing it to be your hand but how soon did the scene change upon reading the contents such torrent of gloomy

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• Smallpox was again playing havoc in Boston.

and distressing thoughts overwhelmed my breast as I shall not attempt to describe. It is true I had heard in a distant way that you had met withsomedifficultyinyouraffairsbutlittledidIthinkyouhadbeeninsuchtroubleandafflictionastohavetheleastroomtothinkyouwereindangerof beingunderconfinementaloathsomegoal.Itistoomuchfor me to look over that part again.

I bless God with you that you were brought to submit to it as his Holy will and one pleasure but I trust in his great goodness and mercy it will never be your unhappy lot but sincerely pray you may have every needed blessing both temporal and spiritual from the hand of that bountiful God who delights to do good to the children of men and as Irejoicetofindyouhaveexperiencedinthetwolastyears.Ohhowwould it rejoice my heart to have it in my power to convince you how muchIpitiedyour[-]statebutProvidencehasneverseenfittoindulgeme in anything more than just a living and that but with the greatest prudence we have now six children to provide for, one indeed at present is with Mr. Winslow. It is true as you mention Mr. Thomas has afinefarmthatisdearestenoughbutIsupposeoneof yoursisworth3of his for our land is very thin and as for winter wheat we raised some exceedinggoodlastyearbutonehalf thefieldswaskilledwiththewinter as it generally is when we lay so exposed to the sea.

Andthemarketlow,laborexceedinghigh,thattheprofitsarebutsmaller and then Mr. Thomas took his land almost destitute of fence quite worn out and destroyed with being [-] out so long that he has been constantly laying out money upon it ever since we have lived upon it. He spent a good deal into pasturing for other people last season as he was engaged in building and could not attend to tilling muchandfounditmoreprofitable.Wehaveremovedatlasttoournewhabitation where I should take the greatest satisfaction in seeing you and my sister if Providence should ever indulge me so far say may I not hope for and please myself with the thought that I may once more see you here. However we may be parted God grant we may meet in the mansions of everlasting bliss here after. Many changes in our family. Poor Mr. Wentworth and Mr. Monk is no more, besides many other gloomy provinces. I often think if our dear parents could look out of their graves whether my father would say as he once did to you, if you remember, upon your telling him he did so much for others that he would anger his own children. Oh Tom. I am casting your bread upon the waters for you to gather up when I am dead and gone. Mr. Thomas’s been gone these three weeks to Boston where he has not been these two years before, and I have to write him so must conclude it being late and I obliged to write with my little one in my lap with my kind love to my sister and your dear little ones which I long to see. I remainyourtrulysympathizingandaffectionatesisterSarah Thomas

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Book: 6Number: 514Date: 12/13/176To: Margaret Sylvester ChesebroughFrom: Sarah OsbornePlace:

• On January 9, 1770, Alexander Grant’s friend Ezra Stiles commented in his diary that “This afternoon Hon. Alexander Grant, Esq. returned here to his family after four years absence, at London and Jamaica.” Four months later, Alexander and Abigail set off for Boston to embark for London leaving both Elizabeth and Abigail in Newport to be raised by her father and stepmother.

• The correspondence between Alexander and Abigail in his last months in Jamaica suggests that Abigail was reticent to accompany him to London, but he felt he had no choice but to go. He had attached himself to Lord Grant years before and today had no choice but to do the Lord’s bidding. During this short visit, Alexander Grant had his portrait painted by the Scottish artist, Cosmos Alexander, at that time painting in Newport. It was the same size as the 1754 painting of Abigail and was probably meant to be a companion to it. The painting stayed in Newport. [Boonstra, ibid, October 2003, 381-382.]

• The Boston Massacre was a street fight that occurred on March 5, 1770, between a “patriot” mob, throwing snowballs, stones, and sticks, and a squad of British soldiers. Several colonists were killed and this led to a campaign by speech-writers to rouse the ire of the citizenry. The presence of British troops in the city of Boston was increasingly unwelcome. The riot began when about 50 citizens attacked a British sentinel. A British officer, Captain Thomas Preston, called in additional

Boston July ye 10thDear CoznI write you a few lines in great haste as I am going this day out of town for fear of the smallpox and as it is by Secretary Oliver I could not help sending a line to let you know that Mr. Sam Gardiner of Salem is dead. So is Dr. Sewal and Mr. Foxcroft. Well may we say help Lord for the godly fail from among us are friends are all well and desire to be remembered to you. I do not think of any thing remarkable but I hope the troops will be removed from us soon since to complete their plague and trouble they have spread the smallpox among us. We have heard from Harry and he is well and in good spirits. Mr. Thomas has built him a new house. I have not been there since so can’t anything about it. I hope the Secretary will call and see you. He says he will if he can and then he can tell you more then I have time or can write. Pray remember me to Mrs. Dering and tell her I would write to her if I had time but I feel so bewildered of getting ready to move out of town that I hardly know what I write. So farewell for the present, yours as ever Hepzi Edwards. Mr. Edwards sends his regards to you. Gov. Wentworth has made a visit here and a tarrying show he made.

With thankfulness I received your dear letter and present. May God reward you for all your kindness to an unworthy creature. My dear friendIamnottiredof hearingyour[-]buttfieldwithyouandgrownwith you and yet I want to have your harp tuned for praise and could you but turn your eyes and realize how great things God has done for you would rejoice and twice triumph. You have much more reason to do so than to sink and let this receive you bless God you are not all enmity now for all the language of your soul makes this evident your morning over the bitter remains [-] to your root account in this old yet God will graciously take of this discouraging view of sin and grant you andhumblingsenseonlywhiletheageof favoritefixedandtry........

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soldiers, and these too were attacked, so the soldiers fired into the mob, killing 3 on the spot (a black sailor named Crispus Attucks, ropemaker Samuel Gray, and a mariner named James Caldwell), and wounding 8 others, two of whom died later (Samuel Maverick and Patrick Carr). A town meeting was called demanding the removal of the British and the trial of Captain Preston and his men for murder. At the trial, John Adams and Josiah Quincy II defended the British, leading to their acquittal and release. Samuel Quincy and Robert Treat Paine were the attorneys for the prosecution. Later, two of the British soldiers were found guilty of manslaughter. The Boston Massacre was a signal event leading to the Revolutionary War. It led directly to the Royal Governor evacuating the occupying army from the town of Boston. It would soon bring the revolution to armed rebellion throughout the colonies. [ushistory.org]

• While in London, Abigail wrote regularly not only to her stepmother but also to Anna (Nancy) Ingraham, her first cousin who married Peleg Brown in Newport. There are references to Nancy throughout the letters.

• On July 29, 1770 Sarah Thomas delivered a daughter who they named Elizabeth Packer.

Book: 3Number: 282 Date: 8/20/1770To: Margaret Sylvester ChesebroughFrom: Abigail Chesebrough GrantPlace: London

London 23 August 1770Dear MadameI wrote you some little time ago by a vessel bound for Boston in that you have some account of my voyage and present situation. The former was not only safe but upon the whole agreeable. The latter is indeed surrounded with temptations. There is scarcely such a thing as religiously observing a Sabbath. It being here one of the highest days for visiting and amusements. Those that do not go to their country houses frequent some public walk or give and receive visits. The quality are all in the country at this season and so are most of the gentry that have places to retire to. Morning service is attended by many but I believeveryfewappearattheevening.Thenyouwillfindeverywalkthrong and every inlet and outlet crowded, teahouses, ale houses, and everysuchplaceisfilledandinsomelargeroomsyouwillfindseveralthousand assemble.

You can scarce move an arm in an apartment that will hold seven or 8000 people and the same would present itself wherever you look. I went last Sunday morning to hear Mr. Lawson of Broad Street near Moorfield’s.ItwasbymuchthebestsermonIheardsincemyarrivaland Mr.Grantseemstothinkof fixingthere.Heisagentlemanadvanced in life and think something more than morality necessary for salvation. He spoke well upon gospel blessings and treated his subject in an evangelical way. I am ready to imagine he does not equal Fordyce but as I have not yet heard him cannot say. I am obliged to be a little cautious how I venture amongst a throng and am told his church is crowded.IhopeIshallnotfindhimeloquentonlyforthatwillbynomeans satisfy the hungry soul.

I have not been long enough here to form an adequate judgment but fear vital piety is a rare thing. Churches are here in great abundance and the clergy are thick [-] episcopacy greatly predominates and I will leave you to judge whether true religion does that also. Those of the establishedclergythatIhavemetwitharefrostyandselfish,agoodliving seems their aim and to get or secure that they will not stick at

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trifles,emptycomplimentstheyfeedtheirpatronswith,andassurethem of a heaven upon the receipt of favors. The generous benefactor is with them the true Christian without troubling themselves to know by what principles he is actuated. The name of Christ I have scarce heard in their sermons although their service makes such frequent use of it to censor us is not to do right but sincerely wish they had more of Christ in their hearts and lips also.

I have had two attempts made as I supposed to rob me. The one was in Cornwall with Lady G, a fellow seeing I believe my pin cushion took it for a watch. He jostled against me upon meeting and gave me a twitch just by the string however he did not even get that nor did it intheleastalarmme.TheothertimeIwaswalkinginMorefieldsandstopped to hear a wretched looking creature giving account of a sea disaster. I knew it was wrong to mingle with the gentry that get about such creatures but was determined for once to satisfy my curiosity. A fellow seeing two well-dressed person amongst tag and rag came up. He threw himself between me and another woman (not choosing too soon the side Mr. Grant was) and imputed he fell his face right on my neck. The necklace I had on glittered a little and I suppose he promised himself a great booty but I escaped the second time without loss and know no more than you the dress or size of the person that made the attempt.

They are so expert in whatever they do and so soon are out of sight that strangers know nothing of the matter. You will imagine by this that I do not walk with great pleasure. Upon my word I pay little regard to it only take care to be upon my guard I even ventured to walk at twilight but take care to have a good escort. I went the other eve to walk on Tower Hill. The wild beasts they laugh so much about I did not see but took a view of the Armory. This you will think to Marshall a site for delicate women but it is truly noble. And what all Europe beside cannot boast of. There is in one room arms for 80,000 men andthosekeptfitforuse.Everyoneshineslikesilverandisenoughtoglitter a person into courage. In the various and curious forms in which theyareplaceddelightyou.Fortheladiesmaythenfindseveralpartsof their dresses far below of pistols and fans of the swords are here to be found. Sun moon and stars shine forth with great luster and superb pillars strike you with their grandeur. All those with innumerable other figuresareonlyarmsandaffordamostanimatingandmagnificentview –

I intended to have spent a few moments amongst the ruins of haughty men in bedlam but was too late. Some of the distressed and distressing objects I saw through the grates but if heaven carries me through the smallpox I think to make them another visit. Happy would it be if placeslikethosehadapropereffectandwerenotdisregardedbecausefrequentlyseen.NoneIthinkbutmustbestruckwiththefirstviewandit argues great insensibility ever to see it unmoved – – –

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I am under a necessity of mixing Mrs. Wilkinson’s things with yours but hope they are so marked. It will make no puzzle. Wish your cap and stays may not be too high for you but be assured they are in moderatetaste.Themuslinisnotof thefinestsortbutwethinkitequalto the lace. The petty coat is a good one and tolerably well quilted though for the latter you must not send here. White petticoats are what ischieflywornherejustnow.Bothsilkandcotton.Awhitesatinonedoes for any nightgown and I intend some time hence to exhibit mind. I send the little girls dolls. They are designed to show the taste as well and to please them. Nabby’s is dressed for misses from her age to 12. All wear such caps. Sometimes their coats without frocks and bibs and apronsbutchieflywithHollandfrocksorlonglawnwhichisprettier.Make only skirts. As they are thick and do not show the coat through the broad ribbon round the waist is constantly worn both at home and abroad and I send some for the purpose. The tacks upon the frock skirt and sleeves are the taste and instead of the ribbon upon the sleeves.

They are to put a little edging or something in that way. The black just in that form is worn and you may hang a solitaire to the end but I think it prettier without, though will be better worn with a little white beads hanging quite loose and reaching near to their stays. I have wrote Nancy my opinion about making up the cotton sent but if you like frocks better I have no objection. Their stays and slips shall be sentinseason.AndIbegyouwouldsendmetheirmeasurebyfirstopportunity both for one and the other. I hope Betsy’s doll will be ready to go by this vessel, otherwise she will be chagrined. The mantua maker and Milliner are now employed about it and promise fair in case itshouldnot.,itwillbesentbythefirstconveyance.Anditistobeinhigh taste. I mean so much so as a negligee admits of and I am sure few with you have any business with a court dress. It is astonishing how expensive every article of dress is here and you must take great pains tobewellservedif thetriflessentyoupleasebegladandhopeyouwillconvenience me by giving me further orders – – – it is a vast relief to my mind to hear my father is so supported. Can we doubt from whence it comes or who it is that comforts him in this day of trial. May his God continuetoupholdanhourlyincreasehisconfidenceinhim.Mayyourstrength be increased in proportion to your burden and the faith of duty be made pleasant to you.

Mr. Grant writes my father shall therefore omit it myself this once. Presenttohimmymostdutifulandaffectionateregardsandlethimknow everything is said and done to make me happy. [--] endeavors to supply his place and take all opportunities to assured me of his friendship.HisconfidenceinMr. Grant is unbound and I believe may have heard him say he esteems him more then any relative he has. The clock just strikes two the hour for me to dress for dinner let me therefore wish you all spiritual and temporal blessings and conclude myself yourdutifulandaffectionateAbigail Grant

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Book: 3Number: 283Date: 2/14/1771To: Margaret Sylvester ChesebroughFrom: Abigail Chesebrough GrantPlace: London


PS Lady Grant presents her best respect to you and to father so does my dear good husband.

London 14 February 1771Dear MadameIwroteyouaboutthefifthinstantbyCapt.FellandasIdonotchooseto let any opportunity escape me I just drop a line now via of Boston by Capt. White. Was he bound directly to Rhode Island I would send some things for the children which I have by me but as they must travel a roundabout way should they go now Mr. Grant thinks it better to defer sending them till Shand returns. I have a piece of linen for frocks. There are stays and slips with some other little matters, which is best for you to know that it may prevent your getting the same articles there. I propose sending stockings gloves etc. and would send half a dozen of shoesif Ihadapatternbutasthatisanicearticletofittothefootand children may be hurt if they are improperly made shall wait till I have their measure, which I wrote for some time ago. In the meantime Ibegwhatevertheyhavemadewithyoumaybewithflatheelslikethose already sent. I have not leisure to write my dear [-] now or to say muchtoyouwhichisnotagreeabletomyinclinationforIfindwritingto America is one of my high regales. And gives me more pleasure than St. James of a birth night or the grand assembly of this great city. The latter I was at last week and it was really brilliant a crowd of company and that both of nobility and gentry to give an exact account of matters would take more time than I can just now spare and perhaps affordbutlittleentertainmenttoyouthetrulyrationallifeyoulivemust make you often pity the giddy multitude and cause you to despise what they call their chief happiness. The frost is just now equal almost to what it is with you but it will not continue as I hear we are placed by a kind Providence so as not to fell its severity. But it is shocking to a tender mind to see what numbers of forlorn wretches ply in the streets and at every corner and implore your charity not that they are in general objects of it for no place in the world makes better provision for the poor. And none perhaps is more infested with beggars. I hope yourfiresideenjoysusualhealthandeaseandIbegyouwouldmentionme to each in a proper manner. I cannot write my father just now but present him my most dutiful regards. We shall not forget the cloak and hope that both him and you will let us know your wishes for we are reallyandtrulyyourdutifulandaffectionatechildrenAbigail Grant

London 16 March 1771Dear Madame I wrote you by Rhode Island vessel about the 10 of last month, which I hope is near hand if not got to you. That was a reply to yours of 13 December. And would I hope remove your scruples about sending your little commissions to be executed here. Mr. Grant is truly generous but he is at the same time prudent. You have a large share also of both, surely you cannot injure each other. At least I will venture it and

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beg you would freely speak your mind – – as a token of our mutual esteem I now send by hand a pair of purple morocco shoes worn in the morning, a Queen’s night cap and rough, designed also for your Jessabelle, and think it is the thing for you. We wear scarce any other cap a morning and I often sit at home with mine the whole day. You may make them of Muslin if you please and then a single crown answers some of the Muslin I now send Mrs. Wilkinson. Which she sells will be very pretty and I recommend them for your summer undress.

I have sent many articles for the children and hope they will please. Their slips and frocks will last some time. I therefore send them good stays they shall have annually if wanted. If not shall be glad to know. Shoes I send but few as I have not their measure. But beg they may be keptinflatheels.StockingsIthinkwebestgotthereastheylastlongerknit and can be just to their size. I now send four pair for each. I send a piece of blue and white linen for summer wear and as a pattern a commonslipmadeforBetsywithtuckerandpuffstackedinaswornhere. Now Nabby’s may be made by it and they must have bibs and aprons also. I think it best to have Nabby’s things made where she is and they cannot be a loss when they have a pattern before them. You will doubtless think Betsy’s silk slip the prettiest but Nabby’s cost near as much and stripes are much worn. There was not enough of either to make for both and being small remnants I got them cheap and that is a matter which ought to be attended to here – – it would surprise you to know what moths silk immerses mantua makers and milliners are in this place. I have been very particular with Mrs. Wilkinson as to the mode of dress both for ladies and Missy’s. Will not therefore take up your time or my own on the subject but refer you to her who I am sure will with pleasure communicate anything to you. I shall say something to Nancy upon the matter and wish it may not employ too much of our attention.

You my dear madam have happily passed the dangerous road of life and now I believe have trod a better path. May your advanced life beaseasyasItrustedwillbepiousandyourexampleinfluencethosethat have been favored with it. I now more than ever see what I have enjoyed in that respect and must honor and thank you while I have a just thought. May my dear little ones know in early life their obligations to you and in their way make some [-]. May each one in your family be sensible of your worth and pay you that regard justly due to you. Maytheinfluencesof thedivinespiritbethegrandsourceof yourfelicity and ever support you when attacked by an enemy – – Mention me to Mr. Dering and family with real regard and let them know I am ready to serve them. I shall not be unmindful of their daughter sometime hence but the last year and so the presents have been and are expensive. But this not to go to them as I wish to act not talk. We are now preparing furniture for our house which the baronet quits thismonth.Wewishmuchyoucouldseeusfixedbutitcannotbeand

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• On May 23, 1771, Abigail Grant delivered a boy they called Alexander William. He was baptized on June 20.


• The Grants lived comfortably in London. They were positioned to entertain visiting colonials which they much enjoyed. Henry Marchant was among them. He was the Attorney General of Rhode Island, a position that David Chesebrough had

London 20 July 1771Dear Madame.byCapt.HefferonIhadthepleasureof ashortletterfromyouandwaspleasedtofindyou was setting out for your country house in Stonington. I have also the pleasure of hearing both by my father and Nancy that you had made your tour and was safely returned. I think those jaunts must be of service to you both and wish they may be repeated every year. I can see nothing to hinder your partaking of all the innocent and healthful recreations, and I am very sure that your world excursions are both one and the other. I wish you may have the satisfaction of seeing your sisterandfamilywellandshouldbeverygladif themuffwhichInowsend to Mrs. Dering may please both her and her mama which it could arrive time enough for you to take it with you but as I do not expect this beg you would convey it and my warmest wishes for the happiness of the family at the same time. Your cloak and bonnet is sent by Capt. Bardin also and is put in a box with Mrs. Wilkinson’s things. Also a skin for Betsy’s shoes as I cannot guess at her foot. The lace [-] which your cloak is made of is a new taste and I think vastly genteel. If there is a fault let me know it for be assured it is our pleasure to gratify you. Mr. Grant delights in giving you proofs of his attachment and believe me when I say his wife is not backward – – You will I hope think me of good Mason when you hear of the birth of my son indeed it was some months before my physician or myself knew the true cause of mighttryflingcomplaintsandIwouldeverwishtoconcealwhatmaygive pain to my dear connections your side the water. The boy is truly a pretty one and thrives to our wishes. And could he be conveyed in a letter, I would send him for a few hours, but for a longer time I could not promise. I fear my resolution is staggered by parting with my sweet girls and I doubt whether I shall do him the justice they had. But the trial is very uncertain and therefore unnecessary to think much upon. His nursery maid is now walking with him in my dressing room. Where he sends his duty in the manner he is able. As I have a number of letters to write just [-] you will you will pardon brevity and be assured that your commands executed at all times with pleasure by your dutiful andaffectionatedaughterAbigail Grant.

I must submit Mr.Granthashadaslightinflammationinhisbreastsbut is now quite freed from it. He writes my father and sends his [-] it is his wish to gratify you both in every respect but Providence has hithertoseenfittodenyhimthat.HisgoodintentionswillIamsurehave weight with you both and it pleases me much to have him so high in your esteem. Accept from my pen his most dutiful regards and join thoseof youraffectionateanddutifuldaughterAbigail Grant

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assisted him in attaining. He came to London to press for the collection of a debt, which the British government had owed the colony since 1756. Marchant’s diary, quoted by Ezra Stiles, described dining with the Grant, strolling through the park attending church, even arranging with Abigail to have a silk dress made for Mr. Stiles’ daughter. He even a attended King’s Chapel when the King and Queen were in attendance. [Boonstra, ibid. October 2002, 381-384.]


• Abigail’s daughter Betsy (Elizabeth) would soon be going to Boston to go to school.


London 31 August 1771Dear MadameUpon very shabby paper I acknowledge the receipt of yours by Mr. Marchant. He arrived here about a fortnight ago and has been with us almost every day since. The business he came upon is not yet brought on the carpet that he is rather at a loss to know what to do with himself. Strangers as they are called is not soon noticed in this great world but with almost everything else is lost in a crowd. I was at Vauxhall with him last night where we had a company of at least seven some say 10 thousand people description of that place I have here-to-fore given toNancy,thereforeshallnotrepeatthosestrikingtrifles.Indeedwhatwith seeing company at home and doing the same abroad, driving to see my sweet boy who is now in the country etc. I have scarce had a moment to myself for several days. Such a life would render you very miserable and I am sure is not conducive to my immortal interest. Yet upon the whole I am a recluse compared to the bon ton and know but little of true high life. But do not think I am always in this way. This has been my visiting season and I shall soon emerge from this sea of folly and be the domestic woman – – as I do not hear that the children are in want of anything, I shall spare Mr. Grant the expense of making purchases. I do suppose they have everything necessary for the winter as I sent a piece of cotton last autumn. Should might conjecture be wrong they can be supplied with you and I shall like to know what will be needed for next spring. This is proper to mention in time as we are placed at such substance and though we have no assurance of life we must provide for it. I am much pleased that my dear charmers sing at meeting and wish they may make melody in the ears of their creator. I have not time to write them now but they have the ardent wishes of their parents for them. As I have no letter of Nancy to reply to she is only entitled to my love of which she has a proper share. Her conduct toward our sweet Nab is remembered by us and I believe she willalwaysfindusfriends.Mr. Grant has been severely attacked by his cough but by the kindness of some good friends is getting better. His best respects are presented you and he his wishes for your felicity isjoinedwiththoseof yourdutifulandaffectionatedaughterAbigail Grant

London 3 October 1771Dear MadameI had not the pleasure of a line from you by last opportunity but such is my esteem I will scribble and to please myself it will not be unwelcome. It gives us sincere joy that my father so far came in to the

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• Nehemiah Barker’ was Sylvester’s tudor with whom he lived in Mattituck. His daughter Bethial had never been well, but she was now experiencing a crisis in her health. Mr. Barker suggested to Thomas that his home might no longer be a good place for Sylvester. Mrs. Barker a day or two later reported that her daughter had died. What was to become of Sylvester’s schooling?

Book: 3Number: 292Date: 2/11/1772To: Thomas DeringFrom: Elizabeth BarkerPlace: Mattituck

plan of Betsy’s leaving. We doubt not of your advice and assistance respecting her the time when she is to go. The place where she is to be fixedweleavewithyouandherotherdearfriendsthattakesuchcareof her. I doubt not Mrs. Edwards will make inquiries for a suitable placeandIproposewritinghersoonuponit.Mrs.PowelloffersbutMrs. Wilkinson will tell you my opinion as to that. I have this day been to see a bed, which is working for the Queen. There are a number of young persons of decayed families which she supports and this is part of their employment. It has been already in [-] between three and four years and is only half done. To describe the beauty of the drawing and shading is impossible but I am sure you would have been delighted with it. The curtains are a bright pea green accorded silk. The work embroidery the counterpane a white satin of the same work and indeedthewholefitforMajesty.Ialsosawanewsetfortheroyaltableof thecreamware.Itwasfiguredwithpurpleandwasequalinbeautyand delicacy to the bed. There was 800 pieces to complete the set and cost about 130 guineas. Her Majesty has indulged the public with the view of it for a time and then it is to be removed to some of her own apartments.ItwasmadeinStaffordshireandpaintedatChelsea.Ihave scarce wish for you it anyplace more than those as I know you have a turn for drawing. I have wrote my dear girls and beg leave to ask your blessing for my boy. Mr. Grant sends his sincerest regards and I hope you will forgive this short writing for it really comes from the pen of yourdutifulandaffectionatedaughterAbigail Grant

Mattituck February 11, 1772Very dear friend I’vegreatlydeferredtowritetoyouinthisafflictionbutwassotroubledthat I could not and now no not where to begin or end. You may well think that my exercises have been such as cannot be communicated by me, but Dr. Watts has elegantly done it to my hand especially in the 77 Psalmsfifthpartand28thfifthpart.[-]Iamreadytosay(butitisinhaste) there was never such a scene before, but I recall myself believing in some sort that they has no temptation befallen me but what is commontomenandthatGodisfaithfulwhohasnotsufferedmetobetempted beyond what he has enabled me to bear and that we are still called upon to set up our Ebenezer. But methinks I hear my Christian friend asking what hope have you any in her death. To which I would answer and oh that I could do it with the deepest humility and suitable gratitude that we have a comfortable hope. She soon lost in a measure the sense of hearing and as soon as her sickness became very alarming her understanding also, which caused very great anxiety. Thus dear madam were we shut up to the faith and obliged to repair to that ancient covenant which is come upon us Gentiles, I am thy God and

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Book: 3Number: 293Date: 2/19/1772To: Mary Sylvester DeringFrom: Hepzi Small EdwardsPlace: Boston

the God of thy seed, many prayers were made on her behalf but there was one never to be forgotten, It was on the Monday evening before she died. I can’t but think that if ever I heard a prayer dictated by the blessed Spirit that was it, seemed as one observed like a man talking face-to-face with his friend. In it was pleading this covenant and an appeal that we had given her to God here to fore and a declaration that we now did it with a cheerful submission to his will as to life on death a resolutionalsonotlethimgowithoutablessingandfinallyprofessinga belief that at Christ’s return he would bring her with him. And what was very surprising the child heard this prayer and says Dada is praying for me repeating it three times and said that she wanted to die repeating a Scripture invitation calling upon her sister in these words. Bet it is high time to pray, but I must forbear. It grows late. O pray for us that we may duly acknowledge God in this dispensation walking softly before him all the days of our lives.

I would not forget to thank you for your late kindnesses especially your affectionateletterof condolence.Oforgracetoimproveuponmerciesaswellasafflictions.Bettyisveryweakandlow.Sheseemstohavebutlittle if any fever now. Am still concerned. Fear further strokes. As for the rest of us we are as well as we have been for some time. I am sorry to part with Sylvester. Love him dearly not only for your sakes but for his own. His behavior has been the most dutiful obliging sympathizing and discrete that ever I took notice of in one of his years. Oh if it be the will of heaven made his life B continued a blessing to you and others. Mr. Barker joins with me in all due respects to Mr. Dering your self and children. These dear Madam from your unworthy and afflictedfriendElizabeth Barker

PS my hardy love to Mrs. Brown delivering prayers for us all. Our children send due respects.

Boston February 19Dear Mrs. DeringI received yours of 7 September but have had no opportunity to answer it till now. Your friends are all well say they long to see you. Why can’t you make a visit this summer. Mr. Oliver is paid for the cloth.Mr.Rogerspaidhimbeforehedied.SallyOliverhasgotafineson. Ned Lloyd is to have Ms. Betsy and to be married in the spring. Mrs. Spooner remains a widow and very agreeable. I don’t think of anything remarkable to write you but am glad your family is all well. I suppose Sylvester would not know me now. Give my love to him and pleased to accept the same from your Hepzi Edwards

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• Ebenezer Storer’s wife, Elizabeth Green, had died. She was the mother of Elizabeth, Mary, Charles, and George.


Boston February ye 19Dear CznIreceivedviewersinthefourthNovemberandfindyouhaveheardof the death of Uncle Packer. He has left his estate to between Tom and Gov. Wentworth. At Tom’s death it is all to go to Gov. Wentworth. Uncle has died as he lived given his estate from one blood relation to one a kin by marriage. But I suppose Mrs. Wentworth and her children will be the better for it. She spent the summer with the governor and was at Portsmouth when Uncle died and was to see him but he never left her anything. Why Mrs. Wentworth did not stay at Portsmouth I can’t tell for she lived like the queen there [-]. And when here a perfect slavetoBrinleychildren.PoorSheaffisdead.Whatwillbecomeof hisfamily I can’t tell. He died very suddenly. Mme. Storer is dead and we have lost a good friend. Mrs. Cumming is married to one Mr. Bacon, one of the ministers of the old South and is like to increase her family. Miss Katy Goldthwaite to one of Commissioner William’s sons. Mrs. Smith is married to Mr. Inman and now as to Mrs. Green’s family, Daniel Pierce and Mrs. Ben Green is all that is living. Aunt Sargeant’s dead. Cousin Storer and wife are glad to hear you are well. Suckey Green days in now. They want to see you and your wife very much – –

Mrs.MonkIhearhashadaverygoodofferandrefusedbecauseshechooses to die by the name of Monk, a pious name. Mrs. Wentworth is of the same mind. Forgive me I think it rank pride in them.

We have had good tidings from poor Harry that he is in good business for himself and is much liked among the people where he is.

Mrs.Brinleyisnowlayinginwithafineson.OldMr.Gouldisdeadand left Mrs. Rogers children each thousand pounds sterling so they are provided for. And as to Mr. Thomas I have not much to say for him. He is a man without thought. Poor Sally I pity her and her children which is six. Mr. Gooch and wife is down with them and lives there. That is all I shall say about that without I could see you but your sister Sally is to be pitied. And as to myself oh that I had a thankful heart I am comfortable provided for a small habitation nothing grand but all the comforts of life. My friends glad to see me and I them and owe no man anything but goodwill. I wish you could call in and see me. I think you would be pleased. It is with me just as I could with TomPackerisnotinhisfather’sofficenorisheanywaysfitforit.Col.Atkinson is alive and has given his estate to one of your Cousin King’s sons though he was one of your father’s family. Has not given his daughter Fanny anything. This is the friendship of this world. Are not stupid creatures to care so much about it. Jeames Monk is in London and I do assure you very pretty fellow.

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• The Sons of Liberty were very active throughout the colonies, and the British officers charged with enforcing the customs laws and the Stamp Act were becoming aggressive. In June of 1772, a dramatic event was to demonstrate the severity of the crisis. A Lieutenant William Duddington, of Her Majesty’s Ship Gaspee, was charged with patrolling the waters of Narragansett Bay, off Rhode Island. Duddington had earned a reputation as an overzealous enforcer; boarding and detaining vessels and confiscating cargoes, often without charge, and without recourse for merchants whose goods were impounded. Losses were mounting and it was widely believed that these harassments were directed specifically at members of the Sons of Liberty. On June 9, 1772, a local vessel out of Newport was under way to Providence when its captain baited the HMS Gaspee and led Duddington into shallow waters near Warwick. The Gaspee ran aground at a place that is now known as Gaspee Point. News of the grounding quickly reached Providence and a party of fifty-five, led by a man named John Brown, planned an attack on the ship. The following evening they surrounded and boarded the Gaspee, wounding Duddington and capturing the entire crew. All were hauled ashore and abandoned, to watch as the Gaspee was looted and then burned. The boldness of this attack was even more remarkable in that none of the attackers made any effort to hide their identities. Duddington and crew were able to point out most of the participants readily. However, this did them little good because the local courts, too, were antagonistic toward the Royal Navy. Rather than attempt to prosecute the attackers, charges were brought against Lt. Duddington for illegally seizing goods. When this news reached Parliament, there was outrage. A special commission, under the authority of the vice-admiralty courts, was sent to apprehend the perpetrators of the Gaspee affair, and to haul them back to England for trial. Though the identities of the perpetrators were widely known, the investigation was fruitless. No arrest was ever made. [ushistory.org]

• After Sylvester had to leave Mr. Barker’s house in Mattituck for his schooling, it is unknown where the 14 year-old finished his schooling. He may have gone to study in Boston before entering Yale.


seem to hate him and his posterity. He does not go to church, but is steady at his old meeting. The people are stiller then they were, but not contented.

Your friends all desire to be remembered to you. Col. Jackson is often inbriefingafteryouasisallyourfriends.Ishallsendyouoneof Doderey’s book. It is one that Harry gave me. I think I have answered most of your letter. I hate writing and it is a burden to me to take a pen in hand. So farewell from Hepzi Edwards

London 15 th October 1772Dear Madame,Is most probable that before this reaches you the account of your little namesake’s appearance will be known. How far Mr. Marchant acted as a female I know not, but the secret was to be kept, till anxiety might be prevented. Those yearly productions are not what I wish, but I may not speak except in terms of gratitude of my life again. At a point is still continued and my labor though tedious was easy compared to pastsufferings.Thelittlegirlhasbeentakenback,butatpresentsheisthriving. Button is a mere rake and regales us with a song every evening before bed. The urgent chatters like any magpie and you will not be at a push to account for that, a certain near relation of his was never known to be dumb and all say he is in her own likeness. Wisdom to govern him is what I ought to solicit for his spirit will require a large share. I long much to hear from my dear Americans, having had only one short letter from Betsy since she got to Boston. I propose writing her now and shall be much disappointed if she continues those long

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• On November 12, 1772, Sarah Thomas delivered Charles, her eighth child.

Book: 4Number: 314Date: 12/1/1772To: Thomas and Mary Sylvester DeringFrom: Margaret Sylvester ChesebroughPlace: Newport

• Henry Dering, Thomas’s younger brother died in Jamaica.

Newport December 1, 1772My Dear Brother and SisterI am writing to you as one as all good husbands and wives should be I know not how this is to get to you but hope the vessel that is going to Nantucket will put in here. I received your letters by Mr. Hunter which gave me the satisfaction of hearing that you were all well. A great Mercy that we cannot be thankful enough for – –

In my last to you which was by the way New London I let you know what fears we were under for the account of the small pox spreading. It still looks dark. Several been removed since I wrote last. There has been a number to Mr. Potter to be inoculated some of which has brought it and given the infection to their friend a most [-] circumstance this no-fault of the doctor but of the young and headstrong persons that left the hospital too soon – – we know not where there is danger and where not I go carelessly anywhere but to meeting. Don’t know but there is as much danger there are as anywhere. Loathe to give up going there. I would be in the way of duty and commit myself to great preserver and protector not to attempt nor to run into the way of danger.

Oh my dear friend cease not to pray for us as we are very sinful people that deserve no mercy. [---] Who knows but that the Lord may be [-] for Christ’s sake to spare us once more all pray for your poor sister that she may be prepared for the will of the Lord whether living or dying she may be the Lord: our text the last Lord’s day was prepare to meet God O Israel. Since I wrote the above but one person carried to the pest house. Mr. McClure has brought the remainder of the rent, which is acceptable to you. Mr. C says if it is agreeable to you shall like to have the bigger part of his wood [-]. My love to all friends concludes meyourmostaffectionatesisterMargaret Chesebrough

Mrs. Osborne love and thanks

intervals. My sweet quail will I am sure gratify her mama though she has not time to write her just now. Her sister Peggy has not put her out of mind. For she will ever be dear to us now. She honors her papa and you happy, happy charming girls to be blessed with such guardians. May she be wise to improve her singular advantages and answer the expectations you may have of her. May your God be her God and the answer to your prayers a treasure in reserve for her. Time will not permit me to indulge my pen and therefore present my dear Campbell’s . Best respects my own most dutiful regards. Mr. G warmest wishesandassureyouthatIamsincerelyandaffectionatelyyoursdearMa’am Aligail Grant

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• Scholars of the Grant family speculate that Alexander Grant, Abigail’s husband, was the illegitimate son of Lord Grant. What is known is that Alexander Grant devoted his adult life to the business needs of Lord Grant, and that when the Lord died in 1772, his will recognized Alexander not at all. Childless, Lord Grant left his estate to his wife, his brother, and his nieces and nephews.

• Alexander was furious. He expressed his bitterness to Ezra Stiles, his friend and future President of Yale, “What can be more Vexatious than to meet with Ingratitude and Accumulated villainy, in return for the most Important services rendered, and very great Sacrifices made? I was afraid, the Disappointment, where I had placed the highest Confidence, would have rendered me a mere Misanthrope. It will not have that Effect; but it will teach me, I hope, never to put myself so much in the Power of Man as I have done. Who would wish to be in the situation of a rich, Worldly minded Wretch, who neither knows, nor Worships, any other Deity than the Mammon of Unrighteousness – who lived unbeloved, Dies Unlamented, and leaves his ill acquired Wealth to Fools or knaves, or both; who cared not one farthing for him while living, nor have the smallest respect for his Memory, when dead.” Lord Grant apparently owed Alexander £7000 when he died, which his estate probably never paid him. [Boonstra. Ibid. October 2002, 384-385.]

• Abigail laid all the evil on Lady Grant, however.

Book: 4Number: 318Date: 2/25/1773To: Margaret Sylvester CheseboroughFrom: Abigail Cheseborough GrantPlace: London

London 25 February 1773Dear MadameIhavenodoubtof yoursympathyundereveryafflictionasatemperlike yours is sure to feel another’s woe the sad reverse of your character –Ihaveindeedseenandasfaraswaspermittedfeltitsunhappyeffectsthe consequences might have been worse in earlier life, as juvenile expectations run high, that we have been disappointed, is certain, but heaven has prevented any essential hurt. They have put into other hands a few hundred and his ill-gotten wealth is a bone of contention while mischief was brooding they agreed as one but that completed they immediately wrangles – you cannot have an idea of this family of [-] having always moved in a virtuous circle.

The mind of LG was formed by her husband and merely as a wife she had [-] he instilled into her principles that proved painful to his own peaceandsawwhentoolatetheeffectsof hisbadcounselnotthathewas properly convinced of any evil but in his last days he wished for quiet – the rupture with Mrs. G, hurt him greatly and had she been still itwouldnothavehappened(inmyopinion)hispridewouldnotsufferhimtoownherinfluence.Butitwasglaring,toadegree,hadsheused it properly, all would have been well, but she in her turn and way played the tyrant most touched her to the quick to see his success or though he had accumulated a very large fortune her narrowness could notbeartogiveuptheprofitsof businesswhilehervanitypromptedher to be the woman of fashion indeed she was the exact copy of her husband and was tossed about like a tennis ball by avarice and vanity – but it is time to quit a subject rather disagreeable and turn my thoughts upon other matters.

IfindenoughtodoinforgivingtheinjuriesreceivedbutIwillstriveto act up to my duty – until I can speak of them with less emotion. I choose to be rather silent and make them the subject of my prayers not

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my sentiment.

I had the pleasure of letters from Mr. and Mrs. Dering by Rogers and am amply rewarded for the cloak in their approbation. As connections of yours they are entitled to my attention, and from past kindnesses to my real regard. I wish I had their daughter with me as I think I could forward her education – without injuring her morals. She sent me a [-] the writing of the pretty trio and I think the performance extraordinary considering their disadvantages. Dear creatures. I wish them every blessing and rejoice with you in the happy turn of your sister’s mind. True grace seems not only formed but advancing greatly andheraffectionsappeartobeplacedonhigh.Happyafflictionswhenthussanctifiedprecioustrialsthatproducesucheffectsmaythesamealmighty power be seen in all dear you that we may triumph at the last – in our glorious Redeemer sees not my dear Mdm. to plead for me for you can easily believe my temptations are numerous.

Communicate your sentiments with freedom upon these important matters and let me have your experience to strengthen my resolution. Believe me this world of dissipation does not engross me though it takes me often away from superior pursuits. I am a conformist in some respects but it is not with me the delight of my [-] permit me to tell you – I have enjoyed some sweet retirements here and am as much as ever convinced of the excellence of religion. – I believe I may say I would not resign my hope of an interest in Christ for worlds of treasure butmyrealstateisonlyknowntohimabovemygratificationsaremany but they have had an ally – our children indeed call for every grateful sentiment – and are as yet what we wish.

Betsy is highly spoken of by everybody and we need caution respecting her and indeed respecting them all – Billy is a lovely handsome boy but not equal to his sisters in temper. He promises to have a good Constitutionandsuffersnoinconveniencesfrominfantilecomplaints.Mr. Grant proposes my carrying him to you and sending Nab here. Will the plan answer? Let me know in your next. I shall write brother upon the subject – His education need not be at [-] too and Nabby needs more advantages than she can get.

But I shall say nothing more as it is now 11 at night. Mr. Grant joins meineverydutifulexpressiontoyouforwereallyareyouraffectionateand dutiful children Abigail Grant

And America only to this say with you while I am on my visit as to Mr.Grant.Idothinkheisfixedforlifeexceptthathealsomaymakea short visit [-] The plan, take Nabby, must be sent next summer as I shouldchoosetofixherintheschoolbeforeIleftEngland–promoteitmy dear Mdm. and use this as an argument that myself and son will for a time supply her places [-] plan is that I see you next year provided the dear girl is sent [-] you must join me in opinion that it will be too much

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• Abigail’s son suffered a mild case of smallpox.

Book: 4Number: 321Date: 5/7/1773To: Margaret Sylvester Chesebrough From: Abigail Chesebrough GrantPlace: London

for Mr. G to have neither wife nor child with him. Say nothing to my fatherof theimprobabilityof hisfixinginAmerica.

London 7 May 1773Dear MadameYou do us justice in supposing we are not wanting in regard, although we do not write you by every opportunity, Mr. G I am sure has not higher esteem for his own mother – and permit me to say, you have helped to render me insensible to the loss of that so highly to be valued connection,whichheavensawfit,earlytodeprivemeof –Haveyoustopped with myself, you must have been applauded, but you have carried on your attention to my children, without any abatement. In you they have a parent indeed, and towards you, I hope, they will ever conduct, as such. I please myself with the hope, that your cares will in partberewarded,andthatyouwillseetheefficacyof theprinciplesyou have installed.

I hope it is meant as a token of good to them, that they have been from the earliest dawn of reason taught religion and had examples before them whose aim is to follow Christ – late-very late-May they be taken from us to enter upon a state I cannot doubt them prepared for. Your ideas were natural, upon the repetition of deaths, and your reflectionssuitable,foreveryonetomake.Blossomsandbudsfull-blown, and declining. We see our cut of and the uncertainty of life is a most powerful argument to prepare for death, miserable beings indeed, whom false pleasures blind, and for whom the satisfaction of ourreligiouslifeishid-ignorantof happinessflowingfrompiety,theyseekitinhasthatterminateinmiseryandconfinedalltheirviewstothe trivial things of time.

Happy souls that are united to Christ, and have their minds enlarged by communications from him, they aspire as it were in June air and cannot with any delight, descend to sin and folly. Stumbled they may and also fall but their backslidings shall be healed and their ways restored-IparticipateinMissRichard’shasaffliction-andbegyouwouldofferhermyconsolatoryremembrancestoher--Sourcesof comfort are not to be pointed out, her own well furnished mind-affordinghermany--whatapityMr.Huttoncannotplease.Surelyhisgovernment must be wrong. I have no doubt he has laurels preparing here-may he wear them with peace, as well as honor.

Youwillfindbymyfather’sletterhowlightlyourdearboyhadthesmallpox. Encouragement this, if the dear girls should not have had it – the areas are the dealings of God toward me. But my largest portion is mercy. Rods have been sent-and justice such as I needed. Matter of this, for thankfulness also.

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• The Tea Act, passed by Parliament on May 10, 1773, would launch the final spark to the revolutionary movement in Boston. The act was not intended to raise revenue in the American colonies, and in fact imposed no new taxes. It was designed to prop up the East India Company which was floundering financially and burdened with eighteen million pounds of unsold tea. This tea was to be shipped directly to the colonies, and sold at a bargain price. The Townshend Duties were still in place, however, and the radical leaders in America found reason to believe that this act was a maneuver to buy popular support for the taxes already in force. The direct sale of tea, via British agents, would also have undercut the business of local merchants. Colonists in Philadelphia and New York turned the tea ships back to Britain. In Charleston the cargo was left to rot on the docks. In Boston the Royal Governor was stubborn and held the ships in port, where the colonists would not allow them to unload. Cargoes of tea filled the harbor, and the British ship’s crews were stalled in Boston looking for work and often finding trouble. This situation led to the Boston Tea Party on December 16. [ushistory.org]

• Betrayal of Alexander Grant and Abigail by Lord and Lady Grant had left Abigail staggered.

Book: 4Number: 322Date: 6/12/1773To: Margaret Sylvester CheseboroughFrom: Abigail Cheseborough GrantPlace: London

If I could not rise above disappointed expectations weak must I be indeed, and all pretensions to religion I ought to give up. If the treachery of man obstructs duty we make but on ill use which is intendedbeneficial-if wearedeceived-shallweaccusedeity-andfightagainst him who permits such characters for our warning to avoid their sins and all the remembrance I would have of them and to seek earnestlyadifferentspiritistheimprovementIwouldmakeof theirlives–IammydearMadameyou’retrulyaffectionateanddutifuldaughter Abigail Grant

Honored and dear MadameCeremonyhasnotprevailedaboveesteemandaffection.Yet–norhaveIforgottentheobligationsIamundertoyou–confidentIam-my little merit is enhanced by your precepts-and examples and that a connection with you was for my real good-without a mother-my father’s indulgence would have been too great and with some characters it might have been too small.

I think of you with regard right to you with pleasure and should see you with inexpressible satisfaction – perhaps my shocking disappointments in Lady Grant has been useful-for she is indeed-the reverse of my expectations few that I met with-but can now tell me of my mistake-but alas who can hear truth-at the distance of 3000 miles. Her character is exactly that counterpart of his except in falsehood where I believe he has left but few equals –

I have never before touched upon this subject as nothing pleasing can be said. I have no doubt but her meanness and envy increased his wickedness and they have completed a Catastrophe awful I fear in its consequences – heaven forgive their dark contrivances-and teaches wisdom, by scenes is so shocking-essential hurt, they had not in their power, disappointed expectations-we must be foolish to repine on it – –

Since my last to you I have been at court but not having a title thought it folly to be presented. It is true Mrs. Anything now kisses the king’s hand but I have no notion of that trouble unless I could rise from my knee my lady – –

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• There was an earthquake centered on Virginia on February 21, 1774.

Book: 4Number: 327Date: 3/11/1774To: Thomas Dering From: Abigail Cheseborough GrantPlace: London

The dresses were elegant their manners easy and I shall endeavor to pay my [-] the next birthday. I have wrote Nancy a letter. I wish you to hear part of it, in as it relates to our dear little girls. Be so good as to give your advice freely for we shall ever take it as a proof of love.

I am still upon the lookout for good tea - none coming the last years - a young friend of mine is just arrived from the East and tells me he has very good-though I postpone. I do not forget which letter I [-] my friends sometimes suspect me of if I could boast of works of super era location this letter might pass for much, for it is a very long time since I have a line from you but being conscious I fall short-even of what is duty.Irestsatisfiedif itisreceivedbyyouandreadasfromyourdutifulandaffectionatechildAbigail GrantLondon 12 June 1773

Dear SirI thank you for your friendly letter which discovers a mind turned towards true happiness – – there is a striking contrast between our situations, but they are both liable to temptations and sorrows.

Your sphere of action has rather been contracting for some time, mine enlarging – from the day of quitting my retirement at [-], I have been entering farther and farther into life and am at last set down admits dissipation and hurry and early life. How unlikely did an event of this kind appear the was I not one of the last whose circumstances seemed to lead to such a step – everything smiled in my native land, and I enjoyed amongst my friends, every reasonable wish-but he that appointsourhabitationandfixesourlotorderedbyresidenceherefor a time and I have not any cause to complain at it. I have met with characters new to me, but common to those of more experience, the virtuous circle I had moved in kept me ignorant of what I now well know and caused me to believe what was seriously engaged for deceit and lies. I was taught to abhor and ever to place myself at a distance from them. Here I have seen their full face – but they have not been permitted to do any essential hurt. That power which restrains wrath preventedmanybasedesignsandtholatejustaneffectualstoptoperfidy.Theaccountyougaveof theseasonswasdistressingbutIhopethe prayers of the righteous will avail and avert the awful judgment threatened –

Mr. Grant thinks your children write very well and has no doubt they will have a proper education-here-without a particular friend to watch young minds they are soon poisoned and instead of men and women you have apes and monkeys – to be sure the advantages are great, with the discrete guide, and you may bring everything to perfection sooner then with you each one studies his own part and steadily attends to a particular branch-this being the case they excel in their way in which diversity of employments will never admit of-if prominence permit

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• To punish the colonial citizens of Massachusetts, Boston Harbor was to be shut down, and the seat of government moved. The March 31, 1774 Intolerable Act began: AN ACT to discontinue, in such manner, and for or such time as are therein mentioned, the landing and discharging, lading or shipping, of goods, wares, and merchandise, at the town, and within the harbor, of Boston, in the province of Massachusetts Bay, in North America. [ushistory.org]

• When Elizabeth Wentworth was speaking of the loss of her negroes, she was talking about her slaves dying. The Derings, their relatives, and friends all had slaves to do the heavy or unpleasant labor required in every household. If you could afford them you had them.

• One of Mrs. Wentworth’s daughters married Mr. Brinley. Thomas’s wife Mary was the daughter of Brinley Sylvester, whose grandmother was Grizzell Brinley, whose brother Thomas arrived with her from England to the New World in the mid-1600s.

Book: 4Number: 328Date: 5/22/1774To: Thomas Dering From: Elizabeth Dering WentworthPlace: Boston

I shall return to America and do not propose to use much ceremony about making a visit to your Island.

It would add much to our present comfort, was your family near us, for be assured, we are there sincere well wishes any services in my power prey command and let us live as relations. I have had repeated letters from Mrs.EdwardswhoIfindcontinueseasyandcomfortable– she shows a very kind attention to our daughter, who without an English education, is like to be a clever girl ---

Should any person remember Nabby Chesebrough, mention me to them kindly-for I think with pleasure of some [-] that passed in your pretty retreat- Mr. Grant joins me and friendly regard and thinks it is high time that I should tell you I am your friend and humble servant Abigail Grant London 11 March 1774

Boston May 22, 1774My dear brotherIt was with great pleasure I received your favor by Mr. Martain, and happy to hear so particularly from your family by such a friend – you mustbetoosensibleof myaffectionforyouandattributemysilenceand not complying with your desire to neglect and inattention, far from it, for it has given me the great concern that I could not accomplish what I so earnestly wished.

When I left Boston the later end of August pleased myself with the thoughts of meeting Capt. Simpson at Portsmouth, but unluckily missed him, then I applied to his wife who said she was very willing to deliver up the chest could I get an order from Mr. Fitch, though Mr. Dering had never paid any passage for himself and servant, yet they were desirous of delivering up the cloaks, soon after that heard one of the Mr. Fitches was at New York and would be in Boston.

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Soon as I heard of his arrival wrote Mr. Brinley to apply for an order, his answer was he knew Mr. Dering owed his brother, who was no small matter in advance for him and he should write him. Mr. Brinley replied he was sensible of it, but a few summer cloaks would fetch so small a sum that it were not worth mentioning. He then said he would give him an order but did not. Sometime after he mentioned it to him again reminding him that he had forgot the order he promised, for answer had returned you shall have it, the next day set out for New York and left no order. He is now just returned and I must be obliged to address it myself for Mr. Brinley says he is so much lengthy detail were it not to set you [-] right in regard to my proceeding-and let you know the cause that prevented not writing before –-

I put on board a vessel bound to New London my old side saddle if it can be of the least service to my niece it will give pleasure. I wish it was better worth her acceptance but like its owner shows what time can do. You would have received it long before this, had my absence not [-].

Your niece Mrs. Rogers that was I returned here with. She is married to Dr. Perkins not our old friend Nat but William Lee Perkins. They came to Portsmouth and married at the governor’s who I left with Mrs. Wentworth in perfect health and all the rest of our friends. Except his father who still continues in a declining state. Mr. Martain has so lately seen you that I need not be particular in regard to Portsmouth friends.

My journey to Boston at this season was to be with Mrs. Brinley in her laying in. She is getting well and I shall return to Portsmouth after visiting Mr. Apthorpe at Braintree and Thomas at Marshfield.Howhappy should I be to meet my dear brother and good sister at any of these places. Do you never designed to make us so by a visit. I can answer for the Governor that it would give him great pleasure to see you.

How changed is Boston? It is not old age that makes me think so. You will be of my opinion when tell you Gov. Hutchinson and his daughter sails for London in 10 days. How cruelly have they used it that gentlemen-here but he stands high at home. The King has expressed a desire to see him, sent leave for him to come home and General Gage governor here in his room. Our harbor is to be shut next month. No vessels allowed to come in or out. The commissioners board to be removed to Salem, they are to be the seat of government, shortly the righteous is removed from the evil to come, what will be the fate of poor Boston? God only knows. Ever since I can remember anything tho [-] has been the times, that they never were so bad as now.

Thank heaven I don’t die very soon shall see what many never did that is better times for worse can be surely. I heard from our sister Monk yesterday through her son. He writes his mother is now able to sit in her chair. She has been very ill with [-] fever. Her son is married

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• Between March and June, 1774, the Intolerable Acts were decreed: AN ACT for or the impartial administration of justice in the cases of persons questioned for any acts done by them in the execution of the law, or for the suppression of riots and tumults, in the province of the Massachuset’s Bay, in New England. AN ACT for the better regulating the government of the province of the Massachuset’s Bay, in New England. (All representatives of the people will be appointed by the Crown.) Established June 2, 1774, the Quartering Act of 1774 was similar in substance to the Quartering Act of 1765. “And be it further enacted by the authority aforesaid that, if it shall happen at any time that any officers or soldiers in His Majesty’s service shall remain within any of the said colonies without quarters for the space of twenty four hours after such quarters shall have been demanded, it shall and may be lawful for the governor of the province to order and direct such and so many uninhabited houses, outhouses, barns, or other buildings as he shall think necessary to be taken (making a reasonable allowance for the same) and make fit for the reception of such officers and soldiers, and to put and quarter such officers and soldiers therein for such time as he shall think proper.” [ushistory.org]

• The first Continental Congress met in Carpenter’s Hall in Philadelphia, from September 5, to October 26, 1774. Carpenter’s Hall was also the seat of the Pennsylvania Congress. All of the colonies except Georgia sent delegates. These were elected by the people, by the colonial legislatures, or by the committees of correspondence of the respective colonies. The colonies presented there were united in a determination to show a combined authority to Great Britain, but their aims were not uniform at all. Pennsylvania and New York sent delegates with firm instructions to seek a resolution with England. The other colonies voices were defensive of colonial rights, but pretty evenly divided between those who sought legislative parity, and the more radical members who were prepared for separation. Virginia’s delegation was made up of a most even mix of these and not incidentally, presented the most eminent group of men in America. Colo. George Washington, Richard Henry Lee, Patrick Henry, Edmund Pendleton, Colo. Benjamin Harrison, Richard Bland, and at the head of them Peyton Randolph — who would immediately be elected president of the convention. The objectives of the body were not entirely clear but, with such leadership as was found there, a core set of tasks was carried out. It was agreeable to all that the King and Parliament must be made to understand the grievances of the colonies and that the body must do everything possible to communicate the same to the population of America, and to the rest of the world. [ushistory.org]

• Nat Ray Thomas, a wealthy landowner in Marshfield, accepted the appointment as a Mandamus Councilor to the British Governor of Massachusetts and thus received the animus of most of his neighbors.

in London and expected here next month. I know nothing of the lady married only that her name was Ms. Adams. Whether fortune interests or accomplishments the lady induced him to the connection is uncertain. I wish them happy.

The rest of my family here are as when I wrote you last. Mr. Brinley lives where we did. We have three sons and two daughters; as their family increases, mine diminishes. Dina is dead. The poor creature breathed her last just as I came in so that now I have no servant though I had those left me. Mr. Brinley reminded me that she made the seventh Negro I had buried since he lived in this house. So you see my dear brother we all meet with our trials and troubles, yet not more than we deserve.

I have run this letter to great lengths and nothing agreeable in mind nexthopesomethingwilloffertomakeitmoreso.Ishallclosehereafter my most sincere love regards and best wishes ever attend Mrs. Dering who I shall always have the highest esteem for you may rest assuredof theaffectionof yourunalterablesisterElizabeth Wentworth

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• There was an earthquake on February 2, 1774, which had caused the drowning death of Thomas Jefferson’s sister Elizabeth. There were after-shocks on March 2. There was another earthquake on September 20 in Europe. There is no record of an earthquake near Newport on early October; however, there must have been a disturbance to warrant Margaret’s referring to it.


• The Articles of Association, were passed by the Continental Congress in Philadelphia on October 20, 1774 The Association was a universal prohibition of trade with Great Britain. Though it made a handful of exceptions, it prohibited import, consumption, and export of goods with England. Unlike most of the individual associations, it established citizen committees to enforce the act throughout the colonies. [ushistory.org] Thomas Dering signed the Association in 1775. He was be chairman of the Shelter Island Committee in 1776. [Mather, Frederic Gregory, The Refugees of 1776 from Long Island to Connecticut, Part I, page 329.]

Dear brotherI received yours by Pendleton with pleasure according to your desire have read Mr. Henry on the passage referred to great and treasure promotes promises to the children of God happy thrice happy for those that can by faith applied them to their own joy. I am full of doubtsandfearsatsometimeshopeIcanfindsuremark,butforthemost part am ready to say I have no kite to them no lot in this matter oh dreadful state O pray that I may not rest till I rest in Christ.

The heart is dead and desperate wicked who can know it. If I know my own sane interest in Christ and his pardoning mercy his favor in the light of his countenance lifted upon me in all my salvation he would be all my joy. What is all this world and everything in it when compared with this. I know it is my one fault that I am at this awful uncertainty. I have an evil heart of unbelief a [-] will and a hard heart. O that it might be bound and broken – – I think with you that our nation andlandseemtobefillinguptheir,inequity,[-]buthopeGodhasapeople near and dear to him some gap men in just day of Jacob trouble who we trust is stir up earnestly applying the throne of grace we hope for Christ [--] may be heard for that the Lord will appear for us – –

Doubtless you have heard that Mr. Thomas is one of the new fangled counselors. He has been availed on and made to resume his seat. I am sorry for his memorable wife as I think she is a lover of peace and goodness – – I must conclude with love to the good deacon are when you see him. I feel a great regard for him – – I am your most affectionatesisterMargaret Chesebrough

The enclosed was wrote near a fortnight ago ten children took it inhisheadtogoforafreightwhichofferedIfearithasbeensomedisappointment to you. I hope you will not let your servants exposed themselves to oblige him. I am sure Mr. Chesebrough does not desire it as he did not go at the time appointed. The last week had a shock of an earthquake. Oh that these awful times we might be stirred up to get near the Lord and be prepared for his holy will. I am with sincere our regard yours MC Newport October 21 ‘74 I send Dr. Watts

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• Sarah Thomas’s home in Marshfield was now being used as a barracks. Nat Ray Thomas had become the leader of the heavily Tory population, the largest on the South Shore. Support of the British government was strong because so many of the large estate owners were dependent on the Crown serving in the government or the military. As tensions between the Tories and the Patriots in Marshfield increased, Nat Thomas requested British troops to be sent to Marshfield. The King’s Own 4th Regiment of 114 men arrived on January 23, 1775. They took up residence in Sarah’s house. [Krusell, Cynthia Hager and Betty Magown Bates, Marshfield, A Town of Villages, 1640-1990, page 14-15]

• On March 23, 1775, Patrick Henry delivered his speech asking for either Liberty or Death. “This is no time for ceremony. The question before the House is one of awful moment to this country. For my own part, I consider it as nothing less than a question of freedom or slavery; and in proportion to the magnitude of the subject ought to be the freedom of the debate. It is only in this way that we can hope to arrive at truth, and fulfill the great responsibility, which we hold to God and our country. Should I keep back my opinions at such a time, through fear of giving offense, I should consider myself as guilty of treason towards my country, and of an act of disloyalty toward the Majesty of Heaven, which I revere above all earthly kings.” [ushistory.org]

• In 1775, Thomas Dering signed the Association and served as Chairman of the Shelter Island Committee.

• Ezra L’Hommedieu’s grandmother was Patience Sylvester. He was a resident of Southold and a graduate of the Yale Class of 1754. He practiced law. His wife was Charity Floyd, sister of William Floyd who signed the Declaration of Independence. He was active in local politics and served his town, county and state. In 1775, he was a member of the New York Provisional Congress and signed the Association.

• WAR: The Battle of Lexington and Concord took place on April 19, 1775.

• Word of the battle reached Marshfield the following day by messenger who rode through the night to deliver the news of war. Patriots were already plotting an attack on the Regiment camped on Nat Thomas’s land, and on the morning of April 20, Captain Willie Thomas climbed to the top of Ward’s Hill and fired three shots to alert the town that war had begun. The British troops at Thomas’s quickly retreated to two sloops and departed for Boston. Nat Thomas, fearing for his life, rode his black horse across marches, fording rivers, and riding on the beaches until he reached Hingham where he found a departing packet for Boston. When the riled up Patriots arrived at the Thomas’s door with a casket for Nat, they found only Sarah there to greet them. [Krusell, Cynthia Hager and Betty Magown Bates, Marshfield, A Town of Villages, 1640-1990, page 14-15]

• After Nat fled, the Town of Marshfield confiscated the Thomas land, but, in the end, they allowed Sarah and her eight children to remain on the land that Sarah had a right to as her one-third dower right.

• Apparently, Abigail was dining with her American Friend Thomas Hutchinson, who was living in exile in London, on the evening that he learned of the Battle at Lexington. She left London for the Colonies on June 5, 1775. She arrived in New York on August 29 and in Newport on September 11. Her daughters were still at school in Boston.

• The British had made Long Island Sound unsafe.

• The Winslows, the Thomas’s neighbor in Marshfield, were as important in the Town of Marshfield as the Thomases. They also had been living on their Marshfield estate for nearly 150 years. Many of the Tory families in Boston were sent to the country to live with relatives, and Anna Winslow was sent to Marshfield to live with Sarah Thomas. [Krusell, Cynthia Hager and Betty Magown Bates, Marshfield, A Town of Villages, 1640-1990, page 14-15]

• WAR: May 10, 1775 the Second Continental Congress convened in Philadelphia. how would the colonist meet the military threat of the British. It was agreed that a CONTINENTAL ARMY would be created. The Congress commissioned

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George Washington of Virginia to be the supreme commander, who chose to serve without pay. How would supplies be paid for? The Congress authorized the printing of money. Before the leaves had turned, Congress had even appointed a standing committee to conduct relations with foreign governments, should the need ever arise to ask for help. No longer was the Congress dealing with mere grievances. It was a full-fledged governing body. [ushistory.org]

• On June 17, the Battle of Bunker Hill was fought.

• On November 13, 1775, Ezra Stiles, Abigail Grant’s friend, wrote: “I sat out on a journey with Mrs. Grant of London for the American Army. We arrived at Cambridge 16th and 17th. I introduced her to the Generals Washington, Lee, Putnam, Heath & Green, & sundry Officers of the first Distinction. We were received with the greatest Humanity and Politeness. We reviewed the Lines at Prospect & Winter Hills: then the tree forts of the Central Division. On 18th Rode to Roxbury, visited General Thomas, viewed the Lines of the Right Wing of the Army. 19th Ldsdy kept Sabbath at Milton & preached for Mr. Robbins Eph. Ii 8-10. Returned to Newport Wedy Evening.” Apparently on the 17th Generals Putnam and Gates visited Mr. Stiles and Mrs. Grant and spent the evening in conversation with them. [Boonstra, ibid. October 2002, page 385.]

• Ebenezer Storer’s wife, Elizabeth Green, the mother of his three children -- Elizabeth, Charles, and George – died in 1774. Were Elizabeth Green Storer and Anna Green Winslow sisters? Was that the reason for Fellowship between Ebenezer and Josiah? At the beginning of hostilities, her husband Josiah Windlow wa touring lower Connecticut with his friend Ebenezer Storer and returned home to Marshfield to find his family at the cemetery buring his son.

• Charles Storer was entering Harvard College.

• 1776 opened with war in the air. Families like the Derings were chosing loyalties between the King and the Patriots. Thomas Dering and his neighbors on Shelter Island were fed up with Parliment taxing them without representation and the paternalistic attitude of the King’s government. But, all of his sisters and their families put their futures into the hands of their King.. Thomas’s sister Elizabeth Wentworth and her children, and his brother-in-law Nat Ray Thomas and his eldest son Nat fled to London where they would stay throughout the war. His sister Anne Monk and her family fled to Windsor, Nova Scotia. Mary Gooch left Boston and stayed with her sister Sarah Thomas in Marshfield.

• Mary Dering’s sister Margaret and her husband David Chesebrough sided with the rebels and fled their house in Newport for their home in Stonington, Connecticut. The British turned his Newport house into their headquarters. His daughter Abigail Chesebrough Grant, though in America, was desperately trying to figure out how to return to England to rejoin her husband in London.

• WAR: Boston had been under siege, but on March 17, 1776, British forces were forced to evacuate Boston following General George Washington’s successful placement of fortifications and cannons on Dorchester Heights, which overlooked the city from the South. Tories who had sought refuge in Boston were forced to flee, including members of the Wentworth family and Nat Thomas. Although many went to Canada, the Wentworths, including Thomas Dering’s sister Elizabeth, and Nat Thomas went to London.

• Abigail Grant was desperate to get back to London. The letter suggests that she was attempting to take both Elizabeth and Abigail with her. Evidence suggests that Elizabeth did not go with her mother but that Abigail did. It is not known when she left the colonies, but she was back in London in 1781. [Boonstra, ibid. October 2002, page 385.]

Book: 4Number: 347Date: 5/8//1776To: Thomas DeringFrom: Abigail Chesebrough GrantPlace: New York

New York 8th May 1776 I shall not take separate sheets to address my friends on at this time but supposing you one write to you as such nothing but the times can beasufficientapologyformynotansweringyourkindletters,whichI received soon after my arrival in this country. The invitation to your

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• From May 18 to June 30, 1776, Thomas Dering was a delegate from Suffolk County to the Third Provincial Congress in New York City. He was also a delegate to the Fourth Provincial Congress which held its sessions in White Plains in July 1776 in which the Convention unanimously adopted the Declaration of Independence as passed by the Continental Congress

sweet and once peaceful retreat I should most gladly accept, but alas Ifindituncertainwhetheryounowproposeityourselves.ItisaboutfiveweekssinceIleftStonington. My mother and my daughters Betsy, Nabby and my maid I took with me in order to embark from this for England in the small one packet upon getting here I found a berth suitable for at this decent woman was not to be had. And I have been waiting the arrival of the other packet who I now despair of seeing unless I go to Virginia where she is with Lord Dunmore.

Should I change my plans and returned to Connecticut I may call on you provided you let me know you are at Shelter Island. This may be donethroughCapt.Griffinof the9thRegimentwhoseColonelthiseve let me know he was stationed on your Island and knew you. I am convinced you need not be told what a refreshment accounts from friends are just now. Alas, alas how are all our domestic joys interrupted and every family comfort broken in upon – how do our churches in some places lie waste and in others scarce one left to support their ministers and yet how great is the goodness of God toward this back sliding people.

When we think on Boston shall we not cry out with astonishment God hath not forgotten us our fathers God hath not forsaken us – it was in his Almighty councils to intimidate our foes and strike brave Britons with a panic not known hereto for. I wish to enlarge upon this and other subjects but really my pen and ink both forbid – if reports are true G Washington leaves this soon but I know not for what place. A report circulates that a large body of Hessians had arrived at Boston all false nor can you depend at one end of this town upon what is brought you from the other –

I’ve not heard from any of my father’s family since I am here. I left himself and Nancy at Newport the beginning of April. Hope he is with my mother before this. She is much quieted since she quitted the Island thoughgoodladyshesufferedasaparentwhenIlefther–thepartialityshediscoversformeandmineispleasing.Ihopeheraffectionwillalways be returned. Upon my word my desire to contribute to her ease last winter was equal to what I feel for my own parent, for indeed she sufferedgreatly.

I doubt not my friends you will think my resolution great to travel just now – it is so – and as I am in the way of my duty join your prayers with those of your dear sister dear I trust by every tie that I may be returned to my family – and you may be assured you and yours will not be[--]of youraffectionatefriendAGrant.IhavenotheardfromMr. Grant since July last.

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in Philadelphia on July 4, 1776. In August, Mr. Dering was a member of the Convention to form a constitution for the State of New York which met in Fishkill. Mather, Frederic Gregory, The Refugees of 1776 from Long Island to Connecticut, Part I, page 329.

• WAR: July 4, 1776, the Declaration of Independence was adopted by the Continental Congress. Four days later it was read to the public. On August 2, delegates started to sign it. August 8 through 12, Andrew Pickens fought the Cherokee Indians and eventually won and burned the town of Tamassy.

• On July 26, 1776, both Thomas Dering and Ezra L’Hommedieu were at the New York State Provisional Convention gave assurances that the stock at Montauk would be protected. On July 29, he paid $2,000 to Colonel Josiah Smith for the bounties and equipments of his Regiment. Mather, Frederic Gregory, The Refugees of 1776 from Long Island to Connecticut, Part I, page 32

• WAR: On August 27, The British defeated George Washington’s Army in the Battle of Long Island. Washington withdrew and escaped through the night. On September 15, the British occupied New York and the following day Generals George Washington, Nathanael Greene, and Israel Putnam hold their ground at the Battle of Harlem Heights. On October 28, the Americans retreated from White Plains, but the British lost 300 men and the Americans only 200. On November 16, the Hessians captured Fort Washington and on November 20, Lord Cornwallis captured Fort Lee from General Greene. The American forces retreated South across New Jersey and crossed the Delaware into Pennsylvania. [ushistory.org]• Also on August 27, the New York Committee of Safety appointed Thomas Dering, with others, to report measures for the sale of cattle on Nassau and Shelter islands. Mather, Frederic Gregory, The Refugees of 1776 from Long Island to Connecticut, Part I, page 32

• Following the Battle of Long Island, all of Long Island was occupied by the British. During September and October, the Dering family, along with many Long Island families, fled to Connecticut. The Derings and L’Hommedieus settled in Middletown. The Derings stay in a house that was a neighbor of the Reverend Enoch Huntington, and the L’Hommedieu’s exile home was the Penniman House in Cornwall. The Dering family consisted of Thomas, Mary, Sylvester, Elizabeth, Henry Packer, and two slaves.

• On November 26, the Committee of Safety provided for a Committee to collect the Accounts, or Claims, of those who had left Long Island, and on December 31, 1776, [Thomas Dering] was appointed a member of such committee along with John Foster and Capt. Thomas Wickham.” Mather, Frederic Gregory, The Refugees of 1776 from Long Island to Connecticut, Part I, page 329. Thomas Dering would serve in that capacity throughout the War. The record of the extensive work of the three auditors is recorded in Appendix C in Mather.

• In December 1776, the British, under the Command of General Sir Henry Clinton invaded Newport. The citizens had been forewarned and many were able to flee with their valuables, including David and Margaret Chesebrough who took up residence at the estate at Wequetequock Cove in Stonington, Connecticut that he had inherited from his father and brother and had enlarged to about 526 acres between 1764 and 1777. The Chesebrough mansion in Newport was taken over by General Clinton as his headquarters. Boonstra, ibid. July 2002, page 231]

• American prospects were looking very bleak indeed, until news arrived of General Washington’s audacious capture of Trenton on December 26, 1776. On January 3, 1777 he was victorious at Princeton, and three days later he settled into Morristown, New Jersey for the winter.

• On March 17, 1777, the Accounts Committeemen sent their accounts to the New York State Provisional Convention. On June 12, 1777, Thomas Dering was one of 45 Refugees to address a letter to the Committee on Safety, from Saybrook, asking permission to go to Long Island for supplies. In reply, the Council of Safety on June 27, appointed Mr. Dering, together with John Hulbert and Obediah Jones, a Committee to give permits to the refugees in Connecticut to pass to Long

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Island for their effects and to remove certain of the refugees from Connecticut to Dutchess County, New York. On July 3, the same committee was approved by the Governor and Council of Connecticut. Mather, Frederic Gregory, The Refugees of 1776 from Long Island to Connecticut, Part I, page 329.

• WAR: 1777 was a long slog for both sides. On April 27, 1777 Benedict Arnold’s troops force a British retreat at Ridgefield, Connecticut; May 20 Treaty of DeWitt’s Corner, SC: Cherokees lose most of their land east of the mountains; June 14 Flag Resolution; July 5 St. Clair surrenders Fort Ticonderoga to the British; July 27 Lafayette arrives in Philadelphia; Aug. 6 The Redcoats, with Iroquois support, force the patriots back at Oriskany, NY, but then have to evacuate; Aug. 16 American Militia under General Stark victorious at the Battle of Bennington, VT (actually fought in Walloomsac, New York, several miles to the west); Aug. 23 British withdraw from Fort Stanwix, NY, upon hearing of Benedict Arnold’s approach; Sept. 11 The British win the Battle of Brandywine, Pennsylvania; Sept. 16 Rain-out at the Battle of the Clouds, Pennsylvania; Sept. 19 Burgoyne checked by Americans under Gates at Freeman’s Farm, NY. This is part of the “Battles of Saratoga.”; Sept. 21 Paoli Massacre, PA; Sept. 26 British under Howe occupy Philadelphia; Oct. 4 Americans driven off at the Battle of Germantown; Oct. 7 Burgoyne loses second battle of Freeman’s Farm, NY (at Bemis Heights). This is part of the “Battles of Saratoga.”; Oct. 17 Burgoyne surrenders to American General Gates at Saratoga, NY; Oct. 22 Hessian attack on Fort Mercer, NJ repulsed; Nov. 16 British capture Fort Mifflin, Pennsylvania; Dec. 5-7 Americans repulse British at Whitemarsh, Pennsylvania; Dec. 19 Washington’s army retires to winter quarters at Valley Forge. [ushistory.org]• On August 7, 1777, Thomas Dering and John Foster addressed the Council of Safety relative to the claims of the refugees On September 23, Mr. Dering and Mr. Foster asked for instructions from the New York Assembly relative to allowing refugees to return to Long Island. Mather, Frederic Gregory, The Refugees of 1776 from Long Island to Connecticut, Part I, page 330.

• WAR: 1778 was just as much a challenge for both the Americans and the British. Feb. 6 The United States and France sign the French Alliance; March 7 British General William Howe replaced by Henry Clinton; May 20 Battle of Barren Hill, Pennsylvania. Lafayette with 500 men and about 50 Oneida Indians successfully evade British onslaught; June 18 British abandon Philadelphia and return to New York; June 19 Washington’s army leaves Valley Forge; June 28 The Battle of Monmouth Court House ends in a draw; July 4 George Rogers Clark captures Kaskaskia, a French village south of St. Louis; Aug. 8 French and American forces besiege Newport, RI. [ushistory.org]

Book: 4Number: 340Date: 10/17/1778To: Thomas Dering From: Sarah DemingPlace: Boston

Boston 7 October 1778Dear SirHasanadageof somenotethatit’sextremelydifficultif notimpossibleto paint the elements – – nor is the task more easy, I believe to cut their pattern with scissors upon paper – yet a very bungler has attempted to describe two of them in the latter way, as you’ll perceive by the enclosed.

The scissors with which I made my youthful days were plundered from me in what some would call the wreck of my fortunes. (Fortune by the way is a deity I never worshiped nor with whom I ever had or desired an acquaintance, in the least) the tools (I had like to have said weapons) that I am obliged to use in total want of better, may with much propriety be called saws, or both edges of the implements and sinnerswhichIamnowconfinedto,ourgapstoanextremity––sothat the performance that I have presumed to present to you is more properly torn than cut out – – two breaches are very notorious – – I am ashamed of it – – and nothing but despair of doing better and a highdesireof demonstratingmydispositiontoobligeyouinsotriflinga request made – – oh how long since and lately repeated – – could

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• WAR: On December 29, 1778, the British occupied Savannah. [ushistory.org]

Book: 4Number: 352Date: 1/16/1779To: Thomas Dering From: Elizabeth DavenportPlace: Wilbraham, MA

haveinducedmetosuffersucha––Iamatalosswhattocallit,goout of my hands. I wish it was really worth your acceptance – – yet after all, I know you will regard it as a token of my goodwill to so, I add not another word about it. Oh but I forgot to tell you that I meant to describe part of an Island situated between the fork of another island of which it’s supposed you see only the East End and as from the main. Was necessary I should point out my design, lest, by the appearance you might determine that I had noted no design in the matter.

And now I want to know how you Mrs. Dering and Mr. Sylvester and Miss Betsy and Mr. Henry all do? I hear possibly moved next door to good Mrs. Huntington. Present my love to each of the dear friends here named – – how I wish to see you all but you know who Dr. Young says of wishing.Lords Day Eve 18th of October I intended to have indulged myself for half an hour this evening in writing to you upon some subject that the meditations or instructions of the day might produce – – but here is Charlescomeformyletterandhewillsetoffearlytomorrowmorning– – I may not detain him. I hope before his return you will have be sure to write me. He can tell you all about us, and may tell you if he pleases of his late tour to Portsmouth and who was of his party – – to that Sally Dering and Green and Mrs. Levitt for [---] well in this trouse at this time, and what else about us you may wish to know.

I will just tell you that our church have chase Mr. Eckley to the pastoral officeamongusandthatwehopehewillacceptthecall.Heisgoneto visit his friends in North Jersey and we expect his return next month whether he settles with us or not. Peculiar have been the divine dispensations to us, our church I mean – – but I must not add say that I continuetobeyouraffectionatefriendSarah Deming

Mr.DemingjoinswithmeinaffectionateremembrancetoMrs. Dering yourself and children and Mr. and Mrs. Huntington.

Honored and well beloved friendsIt is Saturday almost night and this what must go from me tomorrow that the time is so short I can but just write a line or two. I hope you will not be so straightened as I am but aboundly make up my deficienciesarisingeitherforwantof mattertalentortime.Wearein usual health. Mr. Davenport is not at home nor has he been long together for some months past. He is now at Ware River 18 miles to the eastward after two more Sabbaths he expects to preach here in the south part of this town which has the vote of the same to be a parish by itself. This part are pretty well united in him and if the court should set themoffasisexpectedperhapstheywillbeforsettlinghimbutwhereour lot will be cast I know not.

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• Sylvester Dering was now 21 years old and a graduate of Yale College. He was an officer throughout the war and fought as a Brigadier General in The Rhode Island State Militia. Sylvester spent seven days at Shelter Island.

• Mary Gooch, Thomas Dering’s sister, died at Marshfield.

• Hepzi was again visiting Marshfield.

I am tired out in our unsettled posture. We have had two removes within the eight months. No cow. Live very dependent which is irksome independence is cried up greatly at this day and my native inclination is to join with the populace in this particular. But oh I must I ought to submit to unerring Providence and bless the hand that corrects as well as supports and provides for us if not in that measure which we desire at in such a degree as that we have ye bread to eat and raiment to put on and that is not only more than we deserve but more I fear than many amongst us will have ere long. The cry for grain is very great amongst us. How is it your way I do not know. I fear for others but especially for LongIslandfriends.Allmyaffectionsforthosefriendswill never wear out so long as I am in this tabernacle.

I sit sometimes and think what if Mr. and Mrs. Dering should come here or Deacon Reeve or Debby and or many more that I could mention. How transporting would it be to me but we are so remote it cannot be expected. O for cheerful resignation to an ill wife and graciousGod.Howmanydifficultiesshouldwethensurmountwhichwe are ready to sink under whilst we are insisting to have our own will. My dear friends I learned but very little in the school of Christ. I am ashamed that I remain so exceedingly stupid under so many mercies andafflictions.

You know that I like to complain of stupidity etc. But I have now much more reason to do so than ever. Is they are not a very great suspension of divineinfluencesallaroundus.Ourlandseemstobeintheutmostconfusion and what of late appears in our public prints wears a very alarmingaspect,andyetalasIdonotfeelsoaffectedwithitasmightreasonably be expected. Is it because I have been used to terrible things of late or is it that the spirit of God has left me?

Pray at us have a letter from Mr. and Mrs. Dering also doubtless you can inform us how it is with our friends on the Island as well as those that are about you. Please to accept of these in token of sincere friendship. And with it much love to yourselves, children and all friends Dolly and Hannah send proper respects Aunt Sarah is remembered by usall.Theseinhastefromyourveryaffectionatefriendandcompanionin tribulation, Elizabeth DavenportWilbraham January 16, 1779

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Book: 4Number: 379Date: 2/14/1780To: Mary and Thomas Dering From: Anna Green WinslowPlace: Marshfield

• The Huntingtons lived in Norwich and had four sons. Three brothers, Henry Gurdon and George, would eventually move to Rome, New York. The fourth brother Benjamin would move to New York City. These letters between Benjamin and his wife Anne were probably added to the Dering letters by Henry’s daughter Frances Huntington who married Nicoll Havens Dering in 1826.

Book: 4Number: 377Date: 8/15/1780To: Benjamin Huntington From: Anne HuntingtonPlace: Norwich CT

Marshfield14thof February1780My Dear friendDivine dispensations seem in a very peculiar manner calculated to detach our hearts from the world. God’s work and his word perfectly harmonize and loudly proclaim the instability of all things but his unchangeable self. Here is the true Christian strong consolation that when Earth and all its comforts are removed the portion of their souls still remain unchanged. Our bosom companions far at a distance are dear and pleasant comforts torn from us rend our hearts but why should we mourn. They are only gone before we must soon follow and oh! may we have a happy meeting. It will be so indeed if we may behold with them the glory of the Redeemer and make us the number of those whose pollutions are washed in the blood of the Lamb.

Thank you my friend for your letter by your agreeable son – don’t hold him too fast lest you press him to death nor your others. They are pleasant children all of them. I think you have much reason to bless God for such desirable virtuous young creatures. My earnest prayer is that God would give them his special grace and that you may have the joy to see them new born. I love them with sincerity – your daughter I wish to see and if they will accept of an old woman’s present mind to them and to Mr. Dering make my very best wishes acceptable. I long toseeyouall.Butif ImaynotbesogratifiedhereIhope(thoughIfeelmyself utterlyunworthyand[-])isfilledwithdoubtsaboutmypresentstatus that through free grace I may meet ye all in a blissful eternity! Oh heart raising thoughts.

OhmydearfriendcouldItellyouIfoundmyheartpurifiedandbattered by the grievious connection God has visited me with I should rejoice but alas the same stupid worldly vein [-] pray for me of [-] your Christian friends about you to pray for me who knows but Godmay be gracious. He is a prayer hearing and a prayer answering God. My Lord hath had experience of this.

Your John Terry is so short that I cannot see half so much of him as I wish to but am glad of this short visit so other than none.I wish him safe back to you with a large packet of love and good will to your minister and other neighbors who think is worthwhile to inquire after yourafflictedthoughverysincerefriendAnnaWinslow

Norwich August 15, 1780Dear SirCapt. Perkins one of the government Council of Safety called here just now to inform me Mr. Brown was to set out for Philadelphia tomorrow morning. I gave him a long scrawl last week expecting he would set out then. I write you a few lines now that you might have

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• Thomas and Mary Dering’s daughter Elizabeth, known as “Betsy”, was now 18 years old. Although it is not yet known, it makes sense that she would have finishhed her education in Boston, living with relatives. Anna Winslow is now announcing her further grief.

Book: 4Number: 378Date: 9/5/1780To: “Betsy” Elizabeth Dering From: Anna Green WinslowPlace: Marshfield

Tuesday, 5 September 1780My dear BetsyWhat shall I say to you? How painned the sorrows of my heart – – Ah! Betsy, she is gone! My Anna my daughter! My only one is gone! A whither whether gone not to make a visit, not to a neighboring town once I may expect her back – no but to another world there to abide forever – can you realize it, my young friend, tis more than I can do – thoughIsawhertakeherflightandheardhersay“Iwasjustinheavenwhy would you bring me back.” (When some drops were given her)

Oh the passage is early – – can you realize that our Anna is no more an inhabitant of this lower world whether we do or not realize it is so – She has closed her eyes on all sublunery things and has commenced an immortal unbodied spirit doubtless has received the sentence which determines her everlasting state and through free adorable grace is received to the presence and enjoyment of full communion with the blessed Jesus and happy exchange!

the latest intelligence that we are all well, have not heard from Harry sincehewentfromhomelastaboutafortnightago.Mr.Frisleywentoffyesterdaybythewayof hisacquaintancetogotoLitchfieldandfromthere to Ipswich and just like a sort of gentlemen I’ve often heard you call by their right name.

Indebtabout$1500forhisboardwhichhesayshewillpayonhisreturn which he expects will be some time in September. I suppose he wrote you a letter by Mr. Brown. I hope you will answer it as he was diffidentaboutwriting.

Dr. Phineas Hide has begun to keep school at Bean Hill today. I have engaged to send two scholars. I expect Lucy will go part of the time in Gurdon’s place. I hear Mr. Townsend don’t intend to keep more than one quarter. He is studying law and our boys here are very loath to go to school to him.

You will hear by Mr. Brown the news of the number of Brigs carried into Boston of the alarm at New London a few days since and of the melancholy news of the death of Mr. Hosmer. Susanna Elderson was married to Roger Huntington last Thursday. Nathan Witmore and his sisters were at the wedding. They informed me our friends were all well. I shall count the days till Mr. Brown returns with hope to receive a letter from you. I am yours, Sir, by the Triple Tie of esteem duty and affectionAnne Huntington

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• WAR: September 23, John André was arrested, leading to the exposure of Benedict Arnold’s plans to cede West Point to the British.

• Elizabeth (Betsy) was escorted to Boston by Charles Storer who had just graduated first in his class at Harvard and was

A bed of pain lingers and distress for life happiness and glory – a world of sin sorrow and evil for the mansions of happiness joy and blessedness – oh Betsy who could not wish to partake with her those sublime delights – who would wish her back – yet fond foolish parents that I am I cannot but sometimes be ready to cry out O! that she were here – Your brother saw her in some of her last hours – he can give you a better account then I can of her situation – her resignation and expressions –

O, my cousin, hear her call to you in the emphatical words of our Savior “Be ye also ready.” Think, my dear, of your own departure – twill not hasten its approach – yet a little while and time itself shall be no longer – meditate upon that hour when you much act your part with the King of Terrors for some the frequent serious meditation on death will I do really believe lessen its terrors –

It is then welcome its approach by preparation and smooth the path to the grave by constant meditation – Jesus is the resurrection and the life. Let us my young friend be found in him not having on our own righteousness but clothed with his [-] holiness and accepted for his merit same.

Need I make an apology to you for dwelling so long in the gloomy subject of death and the grave – I think not but as my time is near elapsed I will thank you for your letter of the 12th June. T’was long in getting to me though not so long I perceive as my last was before in reaching you – I was sorry to hear that the bundle was opened which when it went from me was tightly sewed together – your brother will make inquiry I hope by whom it was sent and search the matter till we findwhoopeneditandhowitcametobeintheshatteredconditionyou received it in.

Many blessings attend thee, my dear girl. Remember thy Creator now in the days of thy youth and remember also that you must die as I said before the thought will not hasten but sweeten its approach –

Presentmyaffectionateregardtoyourpapaandmamaandlovetoyour brothers if they be with you. My cordial esteem and respectful compliments to Mr. and Mrs. Huntington and due respects to each of my acquaintances – particularly Mrs. Hobby – when I add [-] to your self IshallonlyhaveroomtosaythatIamverysincerelyyourafflictedfriendandaffectionatekinswomanAnnaWinslow

PS Sure we must as we are born too return to dust.

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soon to sail for Europe. Between Middletown, Connecticut and Boston, they traveled four days and three nights, which gives a realistic sense of how long it took to get places. A horse can travel no more than 25 miles in a day.

• On May 10, 1781, Elizabeth Grant, daughter of Abigail and Alexander Grant, married Edward Smith at First Church in Stonington, Connecticut. Her parents, apparently. were not pleased with her choice of husband although their reasons are unknown.

• In 1621, William Alexander, Earl of Stirling, a Scotsman, poet, and favorite of King James I was rewarded with very large land grants in the New World: Nova Scotia and New Brunswick. He was appointed “hereditary lieutenant of the new colony he called “New Scotland.” In 1637, under the direction of Charles I, the Plymouth Colony granted him all of Long Island and adjacent islands. James Farrett was appointed the Earl’s agent and he proceeded to America to dispose of the Earl’s vast properties. In 1641 he sold Shelter and Robbin’s islands to Stephen Goodyear of New Haven, who, in 1652, sold them both to Nathaniel Sylvester and his business partners. Stirling is still a dominant name on the North Fork of Long Island. The Village of Greenport was once known as Stirling and its important Harbor is Stirling Harbor. [Duvall, Ralph, The History of Shelter Island, 1932, Second Edition, 1952, pages 17-19.]

• In 1761, William Alexander of New Jersey, an educated, ambitious and bright young man proficient in mathematics and astronomy, applied to the House of Lords to recognize his claim to the title of Earl of Stirling. They awarded him instead a lesser title of Lord Stirling, which he accepted with grace and used for his name for the rest of his life. He had fought with distinction on the French and Indian Wars, helped to found King’s College in New York City, inherited a fortune, married well in 1747, and was known to be a friend of George Washington. He owned a huge estate in Basking Ridge, New Jersey. He began the Revolutionary War as a Colonel, was promoted by the Second Continental Congress to brigadier general in 1776, Following the Battle of Long Island, being captured and eventually traded, he was promoted to the rank of major general. He was indispensible to General Washington throughout the war. While Washington moved his troops to Virginia to confront Lord Cornwallis’s troops, Lord Stirling was assigned the command of the Northern Army that was left behind to guard New York. He was sent up the River to Albany. [Wikipedia; Lord Stirling School, New Brunswick, NY]

• WAR: On September 8, General Greene was defeated at Eutaw Springs, SC; on September 15, the French fleet drove the British naval force from Chesapeake Bay; and on October 19, Cornwallis surrounded on land and sea by Americans and French surrendered at Yorktown, VA. [ushistory.org]

• WAR: The British had been defeated at Yorktown. There would be no more fighting, but hostilities remained for another two years.

• Betsy and Henry, Mary and Thomas’s two youngest children, had been in Boston and had passed through Marshfield on their way home to Middletown.

Book: 4Number: 341Date: 10/13/1781To: Mary and Thomas Dering From: Anna Green WinslowPlace: Marshfield

Marshfield13thOctoberMy worthy friendsFor I must addressee ye both in one epistle as my time does not allow metowritetoeachof you.AndshouldIsufferyourchildrentoreturnwithout a line from me I fear he would take it unkindly. Blessed be God ye have children! Desirable children! May they be long continued comforts to you.

Your daughter is blooming, cheerful, and discrete. May the best things be her study and portion. I am pleased with her sentiments and hope she acts from principle, a thing which few of youth know anything of – forgive me if I am uncharitable – I think I am not – Your son has

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• Sarah Thomas’s son John, now 14 years old, had spent some time in Middletown with the Derings. Now his sister Polly (Mary), age 12, would be doing the same.

Book: 4Number: 391Date: 12/2/1781To: Thomas Dering From: Sarah Dering ThomasPlace: Marshfield

• Henry was at Yale where Elias Stiles was now president, and Ebenezer Storer, the treasurer of Harvard, had now married Hannah Lincoln.

•Betsy Dering, now 20, was being courted by Nathaniel Gardiner, a doctor in the Revolutionary War. There seemed to be a comflict with his unwillingness to choose a place to settle following the war.

something very pleasing in his manners obliging to all attentive to his friends and respectful to his superiors.

Truly my friends I rejoice with you in the prospect ye have said he will be honored and esteemed in life. Your other son my elder kinsman I highly esteem present to him my warm regards and Hardy wish for him and the others that the blessing may rest on them from the third Heavens.

I am called and though I have much to say I cannot now add but my hearty regards to all my friends in your town where I hope ye enjoyed thepresenceof himwhofillsallthingsthisalonecanmakeallplacesand situations pleasing. Without this the world in its highest enjoyment is but a dreary wilderness.

Give me the pleasure of hearing soon from you and believe me at all times and under all circumstances very sincerely your friend Anna Winslow

I am much obliged to you for the kind and friendly attention to my son while with you but you must give me leave to tell you by his own account I think you gave him too much liberty while he was with you. For though we live in a land of freedom and liberty! there is such a thing as presuming too far which is the case with my son. If you indulge him in small freedoms he will take great ones. I can only say I am sorry and am willing to ask pardon on his behalf for I believe he did everything but turn you out of doors. If he was useful in anything I am pleased to hear it and wish he may improve in his behavior by his journey and visit to your house. If he does not I am sure it must be his own fault. My daughter Polly I hope will behave with more prudence and decency as well as duty and respect both to her aunt and you as well as all the family. Hope you will use her with the utmost freedom as youwouldachildof yourown––RemembermewithmuchaffectiontoallthefamilyandbelievemeyouraffectionatesisterSThomas

I have just received a few lines from our sister Monk. She had arrived at Halifax but three days before from Québec. Was here she left her son and daughter well and found those so at Halifax where she also met a letter from our sister W which informs her all their connections are well in England.

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********************This letter was written to Besty Dering by her father. ********************

Book: 5Number: 423Date: 1/21/1782To: Elizabeth “Betsy” DeringFrom: Thomas DeringPlace: Middletown

• David Chesebrough died of smallpox at age 80 on Thursday, February 27, 1782 at Stonington. His wife, Margaret Sylvester Chesebrough, aged 63, would died a month later, also of smallpox.

Asenseof dutyof thehighestesteemandaffectionformydearestandonly daughter is the occasion of my addressing you at this time, and in thisway,toletyouknowIthinktheaffairbetweenyouandthedoctorhad better be suspended for a while. – – I join with him in what he said the last evening, viz, that he has a right to choose the place of his own residence – – and I think I have as just a right to choose whether I will dispose of my child to be carried away to live in a place disagreeable to myself. – – I have a very high esteem for him, and hope ever to retain a grateful sense of this attention to me, I’d acknowledge I have an affectionateloveforhimhavetakeneveryopportunityandwaytoshowit to him both by speech and writing, which has been with the same freedomof affectionasmyownchildren.Ihaveendeavoredtoplacehiminthesamelightasmyletterstohimwillconfirm.(Thoughhehasnot been pleased to answer them) is true I have received several letters from him but they have by no means answered me as to the things of the most weighty importance I have wrote him upon. – – my exceeding near and dear child, it is for you that my soul thus travails. It is for your best and most comfortable welfare, both in time throughout eternity – – – Asked by what the doctor says he is undetermined where he shallmakehishome.Ithinkitwouldbebesttheaffairshouldsubside.(Till he is determined) to be as though it had never commenced. – – – I should be glad to keep up a correspondence with him myself by letter if (if he thinks it worth his time to write) – – – but with regard to yourself I think you had better adhere to my former advice to you (andthinkitwillbebestforhim)thatyouraffectionsandengagementsshould be free from each other – – – I trust you will receive this as comingfromamosttenderandaffectionateparent–––youarebothyoungenoughtoengageintheaffairsof afamily––youarenoburden to me, but think myself very happy that I have enjoyed your company so long and should be more so to have it continue to me – – – I know not the determination of Providence toward you or me but I desire to have a disposition to aquiescence in all his dispensations both toward you and myself and all that I have – – – and am, my dear and mostaffectionatedaughteryourtenderestandmostthoughtfulfatherfor your best welfare – – – Thomas Dering

PS the situation of my family is such that I have very little opportunity to converse with you or the doctor. I wish you would both improve any that you have to talk to me on the subject. I wish every decent freedom, as to one of your own standing, and I will receive it in love and answer you with the same becoming decency – – – you are at your liberty to show him this letter or not as you please but not to let it (or the contents of it) be known to any other person whatever. Tuesday morning 10 o’clock 21st of January 1782

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• These next two letters are included because they describe Margaret’s last days.

********************This letter was written to Mary and Thomas Dering by their son Sylvester. ********************

Book: 4Number: 396Date: 3/24/1782To: Mary and Thomas DeringFrom: Sylvester DeringPlace: New London

New London Sabbath day evening March 24, 1782Hon. SirKnowing your anxiousness to hear from my aunt induces me to embrace every opportunity of conveying you intelligence of her situation – –I visited her the day after I left you and spent three or four hours with her.Shehadherreasonperfectlyandwasagooddealaffectedonseeing me. I found with her Miss Nancy and two other nurses a man andawomanasgoodasIbelievethestatecanafford––sheisbrokeout very full but not so full as I have seen some, but they are of the worstkindof pock,donotfillwell,norworkkindly.

Her greatest complaint is want of breath, which at times she is much distress for and of violent sore throat that almost kills her whenever she swallows. She tells me she feels but very little pain. Her mind appears to be quite easy and her spirits keep up to admiration though I believe upon the whole she thinks she shall never survive her present disorder, but appears to be quite resigned to God’s will concerning her and talks of hiswill[--]IofferedtostaywithherbutasIcouldbeof noserviceto her she desired I would not – – I went down to see her today but by her desire did not go in on account of the fear of ye people they are she is more distressed for breath today and could set up but a few minutes.

I proposed having some other doctor to consult with. Dr. Gray who was very desirous of having me sent for and accordingly I came over here this afternoon for Dr. Coit who goes over with me in the morning as does Capt. Mumford who came home two days since. She has everything necessary convenient and comfortable.

Mr. Collins her nurse (tells me he has been employed above one third of his time for this 20 years in nursing the smallpox) and that he has known several instances of persons as old and to appearance as bad as my aunt, that have recovered and that he is not without hopes she may likewise, but the chances very much he thinks against her.

I am now at Mr. Adams who desires to be kindly remembered to you – – I shall leave this letter with Mr. Hallam and request him to forward it to you as soon as possible – – I am not able to say when I shall be at home but you may be assured I shall come as soon as I possibly can – – the doctor thinks by next Tuesday or Wednesday the matter will be determined with respect to my aunt and may God prepare us for what evertheeventof hisprovidenceistobe––IamwithaffectionatelovetothefamilyyouraffectionateanddutifulsonSDering

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********************This letter was written to Mary and Thomas Dering by their son Sylvester. ********************

Book: 5Number: 397Date: 3/27/1782To: Mary and Thomas DeringFrom: Sylvester DeringPlace: Stonington


• Sarah Dering Thomas, Thomas Dering’s sister, had survived the war on her Dower Right third of her husband’s expansive estate in Marshfield that had been confiscated by his neighbors when he fled to London at the outset of hostilities. She had sent her daughter Polly (Mary) and later her son John to live with the Derings at Middletown.

Stonington Wednesday 12 o’clock March 27, 1782Honored ParentsWith a sorrowful heart do I at this time assume my pen to address these lines to you to inform you of the death of my dear and honored Aunt Chesebrough. She took her leave of this world at half past six this morning and I make no doubt but is now receiving the reward of a virtuous and well spent life – – She bore her illness with the greatest fortitude and resignation and continued her senses through to the last ––IhavenotseenhersincethefirstdayIcamedown.Ivisitedthehouse two or three times a dayand let her know I was there but she declined my coming in as she had nothing particular to say to me and she was afraid the people of thetownwouldbedissatisfiedatit––Andthedoctorlikewisechosethat nobody should go in but the nurses – – I wrote you last Lord’s day evening from New London which I hope you have received ‘ere this that will give you more particulars than I am able to write you at present – – I expect to attend my aunt’s funeral this afternoon or evening – – the time of my coming home is yet doubtful. I have my aunts funeral to take care of and what further I do not know at present – – Mr. Mumford came over last Monday and is here yet – – I am with affectionatelovetoallthefamilyyourdutifulsonSylvester Dering

Dear CozI am very glad to hear you are so far recovered of your health. I hope it will be perfected to you and you will be spared at being [ill] to your family. I was so surprised at hearing of the death of Mr. and Mrs. Cheseborough. I had never heard of it but by a letter from Sylvester to Mr. Smith. Poor lady. I should have been glad to have seen her again in this world but as I am sure she is gone to a world of happiness I must be content to give up that pleasure and hope to meet her where all sin and sorrow is done away. I want to know what she has done withheraffairs.Isupposehisdyingfirstwillmakeitbetterforyouandyours – – give my love to Mrs. Dering. Tell her I heartily sympathize withherandprayitmaybesanctifiedtoherandtousall.Shewasacharming woman and I loved her but I am used to having pleasant things removed from me. I hope I shall be enabled to make a wise improvement of all the dispensations of Providence towards me – – Do come and see us this summer – – The ride may do you good and your friends glad to see you. I am as ever your friend and cousin H Edwards

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*******************This letter was written by Benjamin Huntington to his wife Anne *****************

Book: 5Number: 401Date: 6/11/1782To: Anne HuntingtonFrom: Benjamin HuntingtonPlace: Philadelphia

MarshfieldApril23,1782My dear brotherI hope I have a just sense of God’s goodness in sparing your threatened life and raising you to such a measure of health as to be able to let me hear it from your own pen. I most heartily wish to live as well as speak his praises for his singular goodness to me that I was not left as my sister is to mourn the loss of her only sister. I heartily sympathize with her and wish her every needed consolation. How apt we are so for me seems immediately in our minds as sure as I heard Mrs. Chesebrough was no more I thought you would enjoy much the coming season with your sister. But man appoints and God disappoints. There was greater happiness awaiting her – God has taken her to himself and wemustbesilentmethinks.Ajourneyafteryourconfinementmightbe of service to you as well as my sister in her melancholy situation. If you should not think yourself able at present do think again and let me hear by Mr. Drugl that you will at least try for it. Should her [-] be detained and not able to come till the last of May, I hope by that time you may so far gather your strength as to be able to make us a visit when she returns – – If you can persuade my sister to be willing to accompany you or otherwise I am afraid I shall be disappointed. I have not delivered your message to Polly for she has been on a visit this monthpastatHinghamforherhealth,beingconfinedforsixweeksbefore with the Gunders but she writes me she is better [---] of your affectionatesister.SThomas

Philadelphia June 11th 1782Mdm.BythisopportunityIfindyouanother[-]thoughnothingof magnitudeoffersasnewsfromthisorthesouthernstatesnorhasanything from Europe lately been communicated to Congress of great importance. It is the opinion of many intelligent persons now that the presentforcesof thecombinedfleetinWestIndiesincomparisonof that of our enemy under the losses met with on both sides is greater than what has been. In case no action had happened between the French and English but this cannot be shown until a particular account is received from the French. Nothing but the British accounts are yetreceived, who by their invariable attachment to the expedient of political lying to keep up the spirits of the people have given full proof to the world of the iniquity of their cause of their want of integrity and that no faith is due to their accounts or declarations. No secret overtures have been yet made to Congress by the British for an accommodation or settlement of peace. I am in health and wish to hear from the dear family which engrosses the whole solitude of mind sooner from me to the meritoreous as well as most endearing connections both conjugal and paternal – – I am still at Mr. Webster’s where I am very happy. Prince is breaking out with the smallpox and appears to have it lightly – – this is wrote in Congress room when no

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Book: 5Number: 404Date: 7/25/1782To: Benjamin HuntingtonFrom: Anne HuntingtonPlace: Norwich

• Sarah Thomas’s husband Nat Thomas spent most of the war in London with his Wentworth relations. He sent her crates, but, of course, trading with the British was illegal and the Patriot authorities were not willing to let his parcels get through.


infection of the smallpox is near nor can they be any danger from this letter – – My duty to my parents love to children and compliments to friends, by no means forgetting Captain Abel. Pray write me by every opportunity and by the post when no other conveyance presents. -- One Mr. Terry rides post from Norwich to Hempstead from whence a letter will come to me in about eight days. The postage is but little. I ammostaffectionatelyyourBennyHuntington

Norwich July 25th, 1782Dear SirYesterday received yours of the 13th instant with the enclosed papers the best cordial I could have in my solitude – and happy to hear you are in health and unite with me in computing that time between this and your expected return.

IhopethetenacitysubsistinginCongresswilldiffuseitself throughthestates and be a means of bringing about a happy and honorable peace.

Your friend Parson Niles called here the other day in his return from Cohass with a proposal from Col. Brewster to you or me that we would [-] school a daughter of his. He will board Harry and pay for his tuition at Dartmouth College. He has two daughters he wants we should board but expects to pay for the board and schooling of one of them. I have had nothing but a verbal message from him and shall not attempt an answer till I hear from you. Harry was gone to sea before Mr. Niles return. I was someperplexed in preparing him to go but when I could do no other way Imademoneyflyandsoongothimaway.HecontinuesveryaversetogoingtoDartmouth,isdiffidentabouthisscholarship.Hesaysheexpects Mr. Huntington will go in September and proposes he will be at him to go with him. But he says he never will go if he can help it. I intend to write him Col. B, proposals if I have opportunity before he comes home.

Honored mother has been unwell for a few days but is much mended. Sister Clark has sent her word she shall come for her the second week in September – – Rachel has got the Whooping Cough but hope will do well. I have my health this summer better than usual for the season. The rest of our family are well and all desired to be suitably remembered to you and wish your return but none more than your constant old friend and partner Anne Huntington

My dear brotherIhavepassedthroughmanygloomyreflections.Mymindhasformedevery troublesome and disagreeable scene from your late dangerous illness but I hope I am truly thankful to my good and kind benefactor, who has still spared your life and is every moment bestowing so many

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undeserved blessings and comforts upon me amidst great and noble. I have to sing of mercy as well as judgment. I beg your prayers for me that I shall make a right improvement of all God’s dealing with me. I have wisdom given me from above to direct me through every scene I maybecalledtopassthroughwhileinlifeandfinallyfreedtomeetyouin our heavenly father’s kingdom above where every sorrow sickness and pain shall be done away and all be peace harmony and love. It gave me great satisfaction not only to see your son and my daughter again at our habitation but to hear you were in so good a way to recover your former health and was able to go abroad again. May God grantyouaconfirmationandlongcontinuanceof itasablessingtoyour family and friends.

I am much obliged to you for your care and attention to my daughter and for the many civilities she experienced from every branch of your good family which she often mentions with a sense of gratitude, and I wish she may be deserving of your good opinion of her. I never do anything to forfeit it. I have had letters from Mr. T dated in January. I heardhewaswellinMaylast.Heinformsmeof fourorfivedifferentways he has wrote to me and sent things for me and the use of the family, none of which is come to hand except some shoes. And a piece of silk. He advises me to petition to the governor and counsel for leave to have a case of things sent me which he long since shipped and has heard still lays at New York waiting for permission which I have done but it is thought I cannot obtain leave but as I have only signed a petition I cannot as yet say what the event will be but I am happy inthereflectionthatMr.Tseemstobeveryattentivetohisfamilybyimproving everyopportunitytoconvinceusthathisaffectionsstillremainasfirmaseverandthatnothingshallbewantingasaproof of hisparentalaffection.

OurfriendMr.WMarshallinletterstohiswifethatheissorrytofindsuch large supplies from Mr. T to me is missing as he is knowing to my never having received them. [--] to a considerable amount before he left New England – – And from what others have experienced as well as myself I fear I never shall be the better for them and some time I think it would be best to write him to send me more for it is only a losstohimandnobenefittohisfamily.Mr.Wmentionsmanyof ourfriends being well in England particularly our sister Wentworth. He says seems to be happy [--] in her family and every other enjoyment. She lives in an elegant house owned by Mr. Paul Wentworth situated at a place called Hammersmith where her son, Gov. Wentworth, wife and child with Mr. Thomas resides with her and all appear to be at home and have equal command over the servants, but I must add no more thanthatIremainyourveryaffectionatesisterSThomas

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Book: 5Number: 407Date: 8/2/1782To: Mary Sylvester DeringFrom: Anna Green WinslowPlace: Marshfield

2 August 1782 MarshfieldWhat a mercy my dear friend that amidst the numerous trials of this lifethegospellaysafoundationfirmasthepromiseandoathof anunchanging God can make it, that all those things they shall work together for good to them who love God. But alas how often does sin and Satan draw away our souls from him on whom only we can with safety rest.

HappysoulthatcancastanchoronthedivineRedeemerandfliesto this rock of ages amid the tossing waves of trouble and discontent he shall be safe from the beating storm while the waves roll and whirlwinds blow the enemies of the Lord to destruction – – You my friend I hope and enjoy his preference and his love is manifest in your soul.Itrustinalltheafflictionshehathof lateseenmeettovisityou.There is and if need be in all his corrections for he has said he doth not afflictwillinglyandtrulywemaybelievehim.HowevertheProvidencedoth sometimes seem cross to the promise – – Your husband is still continuedwhenyewerethreatenedwithwidowhood,doubtlessyefindsome returns of gratitude. Your children too are yet lent to you. May God all gracious still continue the blessing and make you happy in him for himself.

Those are only streams from the immense fountain. Your sister is gone before you but gratify her eyes and ears with a pleasing sight and fondness her bodily preference. Rejoice my dear rejoice that she ishappifiedinherblessedRedeemer’spresencewhilewearelefttogrovel here below with toys and dust and phantoms. You have good reason I propose to hope that she is safely landed on those blissful shores, when where sin the greatest trial to a believer can never come – why not rejoice then in her happiness – If she were advanced to some great honor and happiness here below ye could be content not to have her visit you specially were you ascertained that over a little while you should be carried safely to her and enjoy with her all that she enjoys for a long and happy life. They are it is my friend yet a little while and we may hope to join our departed friends – you will see your sister and I my Anna with our other dear ones just in that situation and state where God would have them to him let us freely devote ourselves and our all for he is supremely worthy of our highest adoration. To him I commend my friend and myself and remain with assurances of friendshipandregardyourmostobligedaffectionatekinswomanAnnaWinslow

That are afraid to be in the darkness it was owning to their internally and weakness of their faith – – we talk much of going to the island where we should be glad to see you. I expect it will be a trial to live the preached word and [-] to my agreeable friends but oh God loose oh Godconfinedus....buthehasnotconfinedhim....

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• Maria Thomas was Sarah Thomas’s 16 year old daughter Polly who had lived with the Derings for several years during the war.

Book: 5Number: 413Date: 9/22/1782To: Thomas DeringFrom: Maria ThomasPlace: Marshfield

• It had become a family affair to try to track down a parcel sent to Sarah Thomas by her husband in London.

Book: 5Number: 416Date: 10/1/1782To: William Campbell/ Merchants in New YorkFrom: Sarah Dering ThomasPlace: Marshfield

MarshfieldSeptember22,1782Honored Uncle

Mama has just read me your letter that you wrote her by Dr. G, for I was in Boston when he come which I was very sorry for as I should have been glad to have seen him at Marshfield.Howcouldyouthinkmy dear uncle that I had forgot you. I should never forget you while I live and I hope my letter by my cousin Sylvester has convinced you that I have not. It gave me great pleasure to hear that my cousin got home safe and I hope soon to have a letter in answer to the one he brought you from me. Be pleased to give my duty to my aunt and love to Mr. Smith and my cousins and accept the duty of your niece. Maria Thomas

MarshfieldOctober1,1782My dear brotherI have yours of 12 September now before me, and though but a moment to write. I can think of omitting the opportunity by Mr. Leverett to assure you it pains to think it is not in my power to visit you this fall. But I have no [-] mine been so sick he is scarce able to carry me to meetings and he is going as far as Kingston which is but 8 miles, and Mrs.Storerisunwellandexpectingtobeconfinedeverymoment.

He would not think of leaving home at this time and it will sure too late to undertake such a journey. But I pray God preserves life and grant you a more comfortable state of health through winter then you now expect, and may it be his will to grant us a happy meeting once more in this world. Pray let my nephew know I have neither time nor paper to answer his letter by this but am sorry to inform him I have just heard those things was at New York has been entrusted to the care of Col. Norton who has lately had leave to come out with goods which were just here for some cattle which was taken by the commanding officersthere.Butsincehearrivedmythingswithotherswhichcameatthe same time is seized the amount of the invoice is £80 sterling – and another case I have met with by a general which called upon Mr. S and told him he was instructed by Mr. Thomas with a letter and 15 guineas for me but he by some means had left them both. I pray remember mewithmuchaffectiontomysisterandthechildrenandgiveyourunfortunate sister a remembrance in your prayers that I may be made fitfortheenjoymentsof theBlessedSphereabovewherethereisnodisappointment, sorrow, and pain. But in perfect harmony and love, I remainyouraffectionatesisterSThomas

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• Sarah Thomas reported to her brother Thomas on a negotiation for a plot of land that apparently had belonged to their brother Henry who had died in Jamaica before the war and also on the household of Paul Wentworth in London where their sister Elizabeth and her husband Nat were living in luxury. Also living there was Elizabeth Wentworth’s daughter Frances and her husband, the Governor of New Hampshire, who had fled to England at the beginning of hostilities.


MarshfieldOctober1,1782I was afraid that it would not have been in my power to have answer your agreeable letter by this opportunity, but having a few moments I thought I would employ it for that purpose. I am sorry to hear that you have been so much exercised with pains since I saw you. I hope since by you will enjoy your health better this winter than you expect. I am very much obliged to you my dear uncle for the very good advice you give me and hope I shall be able to follow it. I wrote you Sir the other day upon my mama receiving a letter from you before my cousin Sylvester returned in which you blame me for not writing you. It is very like that it is in Boston now and you will receive it at the same time you do this. My paper will not permit me to enlarge that that I am your dutiful niece Maria Thomas

MarshfieldNovember12,1782My dear brotherI improve the earliest opportunity to inform you that a person by the name of Shaw from [-] town called on me the other day. He says purely out of goodwill and from a persuasion that everyone ought to have they are just right – – Supposing me to be the only air[heir] to what my poor unfortunate brother Henry left to inform me that there was in the the possession of Jacob Smith 35 acres of land taken by my brother upon execution from the possessor which he has fenced in with some of his own land and as he understands says he had leave to do it from my brother and was to keep and take care of it till he called for it.

But this then says Smith has cut all the wood of it since my brother took it and seems to speak as if he thought himself the air [heir] to it as my brother is dead. Though his elder son being a worthy man which he would not wish to break friend with him about it, says should he outlive his father he should wish to purchase it as it is a good piece for pasture but not so good for tillage. I believe my friend had something of self in thinformation for he decided if it was sold he might have the refusal at it as it lay on the westerly side adjoining upon him and on the northerly side upon one Joseph Becknale. He supposes it to be worth$900atleast.Thathethinksheshouldbewillingtogivethatforit himself. And begs his name may not be mentioned to his neighbors ashewouldnotwishtomakeanydifferencewithhimbutasthePlymouth records can inform me further.

He desires to say nothing more than you should be glad to have the refusal of the lands if it should be sold. I told him I did not scruple but he might depend upon that and I should send to the records as soon as I could. Which when I have done I will write you more particularly.

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I am very anxious to hear how your health is. I have not heard one word since Mr. Leverett in Boston. I hope your family received a letter by now from me. I have been very fortunate in receiving many letters from Mr. Thomas of late. He desires to be remembered with much affectiontoallmyfriends.Ihaveseenageneralwhowasverywellacquainted at the house of Mr. Paul Wentworth where our friends reside.Hespeaksveryhighlyof themall.Saysmysisterisafineoldlady,butthegoodwifeisacharmingwoman.Shemakesafineappearance. They live exceeding well and in a most elegant house. But there never a day passes at least when he was with them but they were conversing about their near connections in this country. That Mr. T wish me to write him for anything I wanted and not to be strapped for money.

Necessary for the family use or call for he was ready with pleasure to answer any reasonable draft once a quarter if it served me best. But the conscienceworldisnevertobepleasedforwhenMr.Tfirstlefthomebeforehehadanyoffertosupplyhisfamilyhewashighlycensoredfornot taking any notice or having any regard for his family and he now does send us supplies. He say not only take them from us but say they wonder hers is able to send us out so much but without any dispute. He runs in that in England as he did here but I hope that not the case asI’vefindfromsomesealedyouletterIhavebeensofortunateastoreceive it that he is thoughtful about his debts here and hopes to have an opportunity of discharging them himself. If the public should be so unjust as to take from them his estate for certainly they have the best right to it if he has none. I have last evening received another letter from our sister Monk dated from Windsor October 5 from which I will prescribe a paragraph relating to you. “Our poor brother I fear musthavesufferedmuchinthesedistressingseasons.Iprayheavenhemay yet recover and live to see his children settled with prospects of happydays.Imostheartilywishitwasinmypowertoofferanyrelief and comfort to his declining state – – pray remember me with much affectiontohimandfamily.”November17.SinceIwrotetheabovehave a letter from Mr. Storer enclosing yours of the 26th.

Irejoicedof Octobertofindyouinsocomfortableastateof healthastobeabletowrite.MayGodconfirmiteveryday.Ithinkmyself happyin having a brother from whom I so frequently receive such professions of friendship.

And have leave and liberty to write an advice with upon many actions without inspection. I can say nothing about my things which are seized as I know nothing more about them but believe there is little prospect of ever getting any of them. The gentleman whose care they came undertoldmehewouldoffer[-]as$300anduseeveryargumentinhispower to prevail with him. At least to give up part of them if not the whole. I will deliver your message to my sister’s when I write which I intend shall be soon. If the length of my letter is too frightening to you

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• Hepzi asked Thomas if he had heard anything from Mrs. Grant since the death of her father. Abigail Grant was in England. They would not have known, but Alexander Grant died on January 18, 1783 in London.

Book: 5Number: 426Date: 2/26/1783To: Thomas DeringFrom: Hepzi Small EdwardPlace: Boston

in your weak state of health you must forgive me and read a paragraph atatimeandIwilladdnomorethenmyaffectionateregardstomysister and the children and beg the continuance of your prayers for me that I may not only be prepared for ever change of them stances in this life but above all for my grace and last change of death, that I may be made ready and willing which is the most ardent desire and prayer of youraffectionatesisterSThomas

Boston February 25, 1783Dear CozI received a few lines from you by Mr. Leverett and am very sorry to hearyouareconfined.Hopeasthespringopensyouwillbebetterandthat we shall live to see one another once more in this world. If not I hope we shall meet in a better one – – We have nothing but the sound of peace and if so I suppose you will go to the Island if this takes place. It is not likely we shall ever see one another again. Where is Sylvester? Will not some of the children come and be with us this spring. Tell Betsy she must come for Mr. Smith is going to Europe early in the spring. Do let some of them come. Their friends all want to see them.

Mr. Edward is very poorly inclining to a consumption. I know not if he should do otherwise. Then it will turn up a new scene for me, and so I expect to be turned and turned till I shall turn no more. But that I am God lives that took care of me from my mother’s womb and hope I shall be enabled to put my trust in him and he will never fail me.

There is a strange movement in religion. Universal redemption for all men is the most of the ministry all to it.

I hope Townsend is become another in vindication of it. You know the good man is unstable and has changed his religion often. I hope he will come to the right at last. There is strange commotions both in church and state. I hope the great Jehovah will set us right. Give us peace in our land and grace in our hearts and not leave us to believe a lie.

Have you heard anything from Mrs. Grant since the death of her father?

Mr.Henshaw’sdaughterisverywell.Sheisafinegirlof asweettemperandwillmakeafinewomanif shelives.Mrs.Piercethinkshighly of her. Give my love to Mrs. Dering and the children and all inquiringfriends.AcceptthesamefromyouraffectionatecousinHepziEdwards. Let me hear from you as often as you can.

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Book: 5Number: 428Date: 3/10/1783To: Thomas DeringFrom: Anna Green WinslowPlace: Marshfield

Monday noon 10 March 1783 MarshfieldDear cousinSurely I need not apologize to you for writing so and longest letter to your good lady. Yet it may be proper to say I had thought your letterwhichwasfirstreceivedwasansweredsometimesince.Thatwelived to see a new year and are so far advanced therein is among the undeservedmerciesof ourlives–Whocansufficientlyadmireandadore the time hand that sustains and carries us through so many trials as we are daily meeting with.

Your son tells me ye talked seriously of going to the Island. The Lord himself go with thee and carry thee safely when ever thou goest. And make the highway prosperous – tis but a little while that we can enjoy times, things. Oh may we lose our attachments to them and be more and more aspiring upward.

The true Christian in a lively frame and in the exercise of faith is like a bird picking on the ground not a moment still. Food is necessary in search of that the little song they leave the bough and pick here a mite and there another but never seems to enjoy it self until risen on the wingitmountstothepureairandsingsitshymnsaspraiseasitflies– – O! May our souls like those pretty animals admit no more of Earth than necessary and then mount the higher skies to chant eternal praise to him who while an inhabitant of this terrestrial globe and fashioned asamanlivetofulfillthelawanddiedtopaythepenaltyduetosinforour sakes – – I want to talk or write you on this great atonement. Let it be the subject of your next letter if you please. Tis a grand theme for contemplation.

Iampleasedtofindtheyouarepeculiarlysolicitousforyourchildren’ssouls – – the Lord give you an answer of peace to all your prayers for them.YehavethepromiseandwaitonGodtofulfillhiswordtoyoursoul and when you get audience at the throne remember also your unworthy cousin and her exiled husband.

On Saturday evenings between seven and nine o’clock you may expect to meet a number of Christian friends who are [-] blessings for the rising generation and the Church of God. Your son can tell you all about your sister and her family that you will wish to know. You will pray for us all I hope. indeed we need your prayers and [--] I tell Sylvester that he must intercede with you for admittance for me into your family if ye go to the Island for I shall be glad to meet Mr. W there. My mind is much exercised with the thought of leaving my native land. Sometime I hope I shall not be called to it at others I see nothing else before me and then as at all times I desire to.

I cast myself up on God to do with me in me for me whatever he sees to be best. I have wrote so largely to Mrs. Dering that my time isshortenedastootherlettersbutIcannotfinishtillItellyou.Ihear

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• Thomas Dering suffered greatly while he was in Connecticut with health issues, especially in the winter, Consumption, now known as tuberculosis, was rampant, debilitating, and often led to death.

• Sally Thomas, Sarah’s oldest daughter, was now 21 years old. Maria, also known as Polly, was now 17.


from Boston that Mrs. Dering is growing worse but like other persons in a consumption, she does not herself perceive it. Your son will be able to inform you more of her case than I can. I pray that we may all be prepared for that mighty that important change which is hastening upon us. I presume you have heard of our cousin Charlotta Newton’s death and of cousin Sally Jarvises also. Our connections are thinning our attachments to earth lessening. I wish I could add that our desires after the enjoyments of the upper house were increasing. Many signs of the last time are upon us – – iniquity abound errors come in like afloodandwhoistheretowithstand––OhthattheLordwouldhimself lift up the standard. Adieu. Your nephew Charles is a clever boy. He is standing by and sends his duty and wishes you to come here again – – Polly is going with Sylvester to Kingston. His extreme cold the rest have colds. – – Regards to all our friends with you those with us salute you and so do Mr. Winslow. In several letters I have had from him – – none since 13th November.

I leave the rest for your son to say only that I am respectfully your kinswoman Anna Winslow

MarshfieldMarch4,1783I hope my dear uncle will not think it is negligence in me not to answering his very agreeable epistle before, but you may be assured that it was not for want of an inclination but for want of an opportunity. You, my sir, in your last that you propose it is not the fashion to write long letters by the very short one you have received from me. I do not know the fashion length for letters but this I know that it gives me great pleasure to receive long ones from my friends and the reason that I did not write you all longer letter was for fear of taking up to much of your attention in reading my scribble but intend this shall be longer than the other were.I was very sorry to hear from my cousin Sylvester’s letter that you had been so unwell this last winter but hope by this time you have recovered your health. Let my dear uncle know of some of the trouble we met with this week. My brother went to the southward to get some of our things that was seized as Mr. Freeman promised that Mama should have a part of them and when my brother got there he had divided them and allotted out such things as he chose Mama should have, which was not near a three part of them and said that he could not let her have any more as the things were divided into 12 parts that is there was12[---].Wewerenotalittledissatisfiedinnothavemoreof thethings as he promised us a part, but he sent Mama one of the block and a piece of silk also to make a very gown, a pair of stays. In short he

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sent about enough to {-] Mama hand formed and that was all he sent, that was worth a sending for, he sent a few other little articles, but they weretrifles.ButIwilldropthesubjectbecauseitisnotoneof themostagreeable to me to [-].

My dear Uncle, I suppose by this time you think my letter is long enough so I shall conclude after begging you to give my duty to my aunt and Mr. Smith and be please to remember me in a proper manner to all my own Middletown friends and accept the duty your affectionatenieceMaria Thomas

I did not think my dear of Lord when I wrote the above that I should not send it until I saw my cousin Sylvester or I should not have wrote you so particular conferring our things as my cousin can tell you much more particular than I could write, but as I have wrote I thought it to send it. It gave me great pleasure, my uncle, to see my cousin Sylvester. You may be assured but I was in hope when he came that he would bring cousin Eliza with him, but as he did not, I hope that my cousin Harry will come and bring her when the roads are better. I can assure you sir that it will give us a great deal of satisfaction to see them.

Be pleased to give my duty to my aunt Dering and tell her that I am much obliged to her for her agreeable letter, and accept the same my uncle from your fond niece Maria Thomas

MarshfieldMarch6,1783[from Sally Thomas]How does my dear uncle this spring? Better I hope than in the winter passed. It is indeed a long time since I had the happiness of hearing from you. Mama had the pleasure of receiving a letter of yours last week but the date was as ancient as January. My anxiety has made me almost dread to hear (as so long a time has elapsed since I had been favored with a line) least the tidings respecting my dear uncle’s healthshouldbeveryshocking.Iflattermyself asthepleasantseasonadvances we shall hear more frequently from you which will gratify us all – – This family have wrote frequently to yours the past winter. I hope you are convinced of it by having received the many letters which has been sent from this place.

Do my good Sir write whether you have complied with my earnest request that you would burn all the letters you have received from me before 1782.

My desire to visit you is greater than I can express and I long Mama should go to see you but want of a careful person to go with her prevents my wish that Mama should see you this season is very great as I know she will never venture to go to the Island so our solicitations thinks there is great prospect of a peace which I suppose will put you in position of your right.

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• Sylvester was visiting family and friends in the Boston area. Everyone wished that he had brought his sister Betsy with him.

• With all the conversation about impending peace, the refugees were getting anxious to return to their Long Island homes. They would need the permission of the New York State authorities to do so, but Sylvester was already on Shelter Island taking stock of the damage caused by the British Army.

• London was a Dering slave.

• A bon-ton life! The earthquake in Sicily was a catastrophe for all of Southern Europe.

• Ebenezer Sage was a contemporary of Sylvester Dering and a doctor in Sag Harbor. He had been born in Connecticut, and was possibly a school mate of Sylvester’s at Yale. He would become a Congressman representing the East End of Long Island.

• Hepzi Edward’s husband Joseph died. His son determined that Hepzi no longer belonged in the house and told her to move out. She was 80 years old and homeless.

Book: 5Number: 442Date: 5/14/1783To: Thomas Dering From: Hepzi Small EdwardsPlace: Boston

• There is irony in this next letter. Mrs. Bromley and her mother are unknown. However, Betsy’s youngest daughter, Eliza Gardiner, will, a generation later, marry Reuben Bromley.

We have not had any very late accounts from our dear [-] friends but hope to have that pleasure soon. Pray let us hear soon [--] remember mewithaffectiontomyauntandbelievemeaseveryouraffectionateniece.

Boston the 14th 1783Dear cousinI have to inform you that Joseph Edwards is no more, poor fellow is gone. This makes another overturn to me. If he had been left it would have been better for me – – did I say better for me surely the Lord knows what is best for me. Where I am to go next I can’t now tell you but go I must. Will let you know when I have an opportunity. If you go to the Island I know not when I shall hear from you and so we are separated from one another. But I hope we shall one day meet where we shall separate no more – – do let me hear from you before you go. Mrs. Leverett tells me Betsy is to have Dr. Gardiner and live on Long Island. So you will have your children about you. May they be blessings to you and their lives spared to you. Mrs. Winslow is here. She is come to see Mrs. Deming who I think is not long for this world. She is in the last age of consumption and just gone. What poor Mrs. Thomas will do I can’t think. I don’t think he will ever be able to send for her and if he does I think she had better stay where she is for she has some friends here and I believe he has no great where he is so she had better stay with what she has got than dance after him and know not what she is to meet with. Do let me hear from you as soon as you can. I have nothing toofferbutmyself [-]toyouandyourkindregardstoMrs. Dering andremainyouraffectionatecousinHepziEdwards

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Book: 5Number: 441Date: 5/17/1783To: Betsy Dering - MiddletownFrom: Mrs. Bromley’s MotherPlace: Boston

• Sarah Thomas had learned that her son Nat was in New York and was contemplating not only a visit to his Uncle Thomas Dering on Shelter Island, but also a visit to his mother in Marshfield. She was concerned that he might be in danger in Marshfield as he was a loyalist and the son of a much despised man.


Boston 17th May 1783Dear BetsyThe adage is half a loaf is better than no bread– a short letter is better than none – this truth I am set down to assure you of and thank you for your kind remembrance 27 April. So, so, Betsy I hear you have given your heart and are to give your hand in due time to the doctor. Let me tell you my dear I shall not consent to your giving yourself away unless it is much for your advantage – – The gentleman that thinks himself worthy of Miss Dering must in my mind possess more good qualities than many than the presentaffords––butthisisamatterImustleavetoyourowndiscretion.Theassured of this my dear that if you are happy it will add to the joys of your sincere friend AW – – I am just called to Mr. DG’s chamber. I can only add my love to your P and M and Bros and all our friends – – If you go to the Island before I hear again from you I wish every blessing to attend you there and while you live – – This is a dying world – – that to come is life eternal – – Adieu

MarshfieldJune3,1783My very dear brotherIamverysorrytohearbyyourfavorof 29AprilthatyoucouldfindnoletteronfilefrommeunansweredforsureIhavepastmeif notmoreand I think that at least since I heard from you and hope they have reached you before this.

But as we mean not I to be [-] in that matter I will only thank you for your intelligence of my son that’s intentions of making you a visit. But I conclude and hope he will hear it will not be safe for him to come. But should he venture before this reaches you pray entreat him not to attempt to come to see us for I shall dread the consequences.

The same warm [-] stick spirit being revived amongst us as we set out on when the war began – – I perfectly remember my writing you upon the news of these and congratulating you in the prospect of your soon returning to your own estate and lamenting by not being owner of a horse nor having it in my power to purchase one to pay you a visit before you left Middletown. You question me whether I will not come and see my son. In his intended visit to you believe me sincere my dear brother when I tell you I need no inducement to pay you a visit but would exert myself to the utmost what I but have paid you a visit this season but for reasons above have been prevented and I thought my nephew could have told you on his return that had I of course know one could leave their once business have accompanied me but you must well think it is at equivalent trial should my son obtain leave with you.

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Book: 5Number: 446Date: 7/30/1783To: Thomas Dering From: Anna Green WinslowPlace: Boston

Pay you a visit and I must be deprived seen a child which has been so long absent but you are a [-] to and can better judge of my sensations thanIcandescribethem.ItmustsufficetoseeIhavefreshandrepeatedtrialseveryday.OhcouldIsayIfeltagoodaffectfromthembut I am afraid they only burden me, or I should see some produce of good fruits from them. Oh, continue your prayers for me that I may have fortitude and grace given me to pass through all that I’m allotted for a trial of faith here and be brought at last to that blessed abode where all trials shall be at, and I thank you my brother for your kind invitation to my children.

Give me leave to return the request that my niece, should her brother be otherwise engaged, would spend as much of her time with us as she can. Should she be permitted to tarry on any part of the country, my children would be always happy in visiting you as often as they possibly could for they make great satisfaction in it. I do [-] we you would you be willing could be brought about with safety for me to have and intervene with Mr. Thomas at your house should you get settled on the Island– my thinks and wish to write him to [-] me somewhere to settle upon [-] future planned for the few remaining days.

We have to tarry here in this veil of sorrows without doubt you know the public resolves are that no one of the absentees shall returnandthesefewwhichhavehassufferedsamewhippingattheirimprisonment and plotted up for 18 years at masthead in which must I think proven theirever wishing to return where they must run the risk of such public abuse.

I would wish not to look upon things because I may be interested somewhat in them so as to view them in the black callers – but my think cannot be according to our blessed Savior rule which he left us to walkbywhichiswherewewereoffendedyouweretohavethateven[-] as ever we hope for forgiveness from our heavenly Father what a great mercy is we are not independent upon our fellow creatures who are depraved with our selves of whose tender mercies and cruelty. For our ...

Boston 30th of July 1783Dear kinfolksFor all I would include ye both in my love and in my letter. Before me lies your letter, dear Sir, of the third instant. I thank you for it. It makes gladmyhearttofindyouinspiousaframe–Oh,mydearSir,Ihopeyou are tasting those spiritual joys though but in a feeble degree can they be known here. That our dear friends are drinking full drafts of it the upper better world – true our attachments leap onto earth but, Dear,ItellyouthatmyaffectionsareungluedthatIfeellostbytimeobjects – O that I could! thank you for your good intentions of writing to me. The cause that prevented I am sorry for – but at our advanced time of life the body must expect disorder – age will reduce the most [-]

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• The “Governor’s Lady” was Elizabeth Dering Wentworth’s daughter Frances whose second husband was her first love, the Governor of New Hampshire, who, of course, had fled to England at the beginning of hostilities. He had now been appointed as Lieutenant Governor of Nova Scotia and had sailed to Canada. Mrs. Wentworth chose to stay with Paul Wentworth in London, but Frances was planning to join her husband, and Nat Thomas was planning to buy a farm in Windsor. Other

building and bring ruins upon the best contrived structure – happy for us my dear friends if we can learn by the chattering of our tabernacle to look beyond this state – – – this little spot of earth and well on high in our imagination and realize the glories of the higher world – the bed of languish went in the seat of wisdom to say Dr. Young and though we do not keep our beds we languish with our years.

The foregoing was wrote in the morning. Just now afternoon and I am thinking of going abroad. If I should I would take this in my packet.PerhapsImayfindaconveyanceforitonmyway––orbeforeI return – – my love in return for yours my dear kinswoman that endearing put on the back of his letter. It gave me pleasure to receive. Letmebeinterestedinallyourprayers.Iamhappytofindthatyouthink of us at a distance – – O, what a privilege is prayer. Let us, my friend, prove it more diligently. Let us be in stout in season and out of season and with faith and love besiege the throne until we obtain the blessing I hope by and by to meet a member of Christ and in friends and all that our conversation may be as becometh Godliness– – Is great pity I think that religious conversation is not more generally introduced and forwarded by the professed disciples of the lovely lowly [-] – – when you wrote ye did not seem to know whether you should write me again from Middletown.If thisfindsyoutherepray[-]salutationsfrommetomyfriendsthere.Andif attheIslandmayitfindyouinhealthandwithyourfamilyunderthefavorandblessingof himwhofixeththe [-] of every only habitation lucid of the solitary in families and without whose permission not a sparrow falls. I have much on my mind but time would fail were I to enlarge – –

I had a few lines from your sister last week. She was better than she had been for some weeks past. Mr. T and his two sisters were at George’s commencement. Why did your children not favor us – was fineweather.Tellthemtherewasballandfeastandallthefinethings––thoughfromtheirgoodsenseIhopethosewouldbetriflestothemcompared with the ornament of the mind – – my love attend them all.

I hear your daughter is about to take the care of a family upon her – I wish her every blessing as the head of a family and in every relation and hope you will have comfort in your alliance at all times – to his an important change that young folks make.

We had need set them up good example and pray hard for them. O My friends I don’t know how to leave my pen yet must away – – remember me and Mr. W at the throne when we may always have audience if we come in faith – – love to all with you from your kinswoman AW

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Dering relatives, the Monks had already settled there.

• On November 25, the British occupying troops evacuated New York City.

• On November 29, there was a 5.4 magnitude earthquake in New Jersey.

• On December 4, at Fraunces Tavern in New York, George Washington formally bid farewell to his officers.

• Sarah Thomas reported on the settling of various Tory friends and relatives outside of the United States.


MarshfieldDecember2,1783Dear SirI longed exceedingly to hear from you, my dear brother, how you enjoy your health this winter.

I have been to take my leave of BostonthisfallforIfindthedispositionof the people is such that Mr. T. can never return here again, so I must endeavor to acquiesce in the will of Providence concerning me and mine. And prepare to meet him. Should Providence spare our lives till another season. His last letter informed me he expected to be at Nova Scotia this fall and I received a letter from Gov. Wentworth which is arrived at Halifax come out with a galley of 800 a year as service of the guards, informing me Mr. T was to sail in about 10 days after he left London. He had taken his passage in a large merchant ship for Halifax and that he was looking for his arrival to that place every day. Inthemeantimeif hecouldaffordmeanyservicesheshouldthinkhimself happy to receive my commands and any letters to his uncle that I should think proper to put under cover to him.

In order to meet Mr. T on his arrival should be carefully delivered, a letter at the same time to the same purpose I received from Major Monk who is come out with a galley on allowance of 200 a year. Henry IsupposeyouknowitiswhomarriedBetsyGould.Theyhaveafineson since their arrival at Halifax and as soon as she was able was to live at her farm at Windsor. It is not long since I had a letter from our sister Monk. She inquiries very particularly about your family. Says she fears you have never received a letter she wrote you sometimes since or she should have heard from you by way of some of your family If you had not been able to have wrote yourself.

Mrs. Brinley is going to Halifax, I hear, and expects her daughter Polly out with her aunt Wentworth – – The governor’s wife who could not get ready to sail with her husband he being obliged to sail immediately upon his appointment. Our sister concluded to tarry till her children gotfixedinsomeplaceandsheheardfromthem,anditismybelief shewill spend her days with Mr. Paul Wentworth who is a most remarkable attentive friend to all that can have the least protections of being anyway connected with our brother Sam Wentworth.

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Charles Apthorpe is provided for on board the station ship at Halifax. Then he is going into business. I forget whether in England or where Mrs. Apthorp told me.

Mrs. Perkins lives very well about 8 miles from London I think it was. hasafinesonsinceshewentthere.Ithoughtitwouldgiveyoupleasureto hear the above particulars-so perhaps they may be nothing new to you the word to me.

I am in daily expectation of hearing from Mr. Thomas. When I shall beabletogiveyouamoreparticularaccountaboutmyownaffairs––I have by his desire got the estate approved an estimate of what he left behindinthecountrytestedfromtheofficeandforwardedtohiminorder to is having it made good to him-in England and expect when I hear from him again to know where he expects to set down.

Oh, my dear brother, often have I thought could there but BPs wants and I live with Mr. Thomas. I could bear almost anything better then in my present situation but alas the prospect of even my own wishes fillwithanxietyandtroublenoonethingpleasingbuttheprospectof meeting Mr. Thomas once more but the thought of leaving my dear friends here though very few [-] exceedingly but the time is short.

Therefore we that have friends should be as though we had none to attach us to this world. I beg your prayers for me that I may be directed supportive and cared through what ever is appointed in Providence for me without one murmur may I but at last rest in the heaven of bless anddivineinthepresenceof GodourSavior.WithaffectionIremainyour sister S Thomas

Boston January 6, 1784Dear cousinI have a line from Sylvester. Am very sorry to hear of the sickness that you have had in ye family. Am very glad to hear you are all recovered. It is so long since I have heard from you. I did not know whether you were dead or alive. I am thankful to hear you are all alive and well.

It has been very sickly with us and a dying time. We have lost good Dr. Cooper. He is greatly lamented both in church and state. We are as sheep without a shepherd, but I trust the great Shepherd will provide another for us in his one good time. It is so long since wrote to you that I forgot whether I wrote you that Mrs. Deming is dead and he married again.DavidJeffershaslefthiswife.Mrs.Goldthwaitehashadatouchof thepalsyandhasrecovereditbutithasaffectedherspeech.

Joseph Edwards is dead by which I leave the house and am at board with neighbor Leverett at present. Where I shall be next I can’t tell. But it can’t be long that I shall be tossed about. One friend and another is removed from me. Some by death and others separated far from me.

I suppose Mrs. Thomas will go with her family to her husband in the spring to [-] End I know not where. And then if I should live I shall

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• Henry Packer Dering, Mary and Thomas’s youngest son, was a student throughout the Revolutionary War, and he graduated from Yale in 1783. Before the War, Thomas had split the Sylvester Manor property between his two sons and had begun building a house for Henry Packer – a house which still stands and is called Dering Farm.

• In 1784, Sylvester joined the Town government serving with Obadiah Havens as an overseer of the poor. The major property tax of every town in Colonial American was the poor tax because if an accident should cause the death or incapacity of a citizen, the poor tax would support that man’s family until the widow remarried or the children came of age and could support themselves. It was insurance for every family in a community.

Book: 5Number: 461Date: 1/26/1784To: Thomas Dering From: Anna Green WinslowPlace: Marshfield

not have one relation to speak to. I wish I could have had one of my relations near me. It would have been a great satisfaction to me at this time in life. But it might not be so and I must submit to Providence and to the children seem pleased that they are going they know not where poor things they know not what awaits them. Poor Mrs. Thomas. She has a thousand [-] thoughts. I hope poverty will not be her lot. I would have her take the smallpox before she goes. I hope he will not lead her into more trouble than what he has. But I must leave her and hers with infinitegoodnessmyheartaskedforthembutIforboretosayonewordbut leave it with him that knows best what is best for us all.

The funeral of Dr. Cooper was solemn. He was carried into the meeting house and a sermon preached over him by Mr. Clark of the Old Brick whose turn it was to preach the Friday lecture from those words in the Acts: we shall see his face no more. It was a solemn scene.

Dr. Chauncey has lost his wife and is a widower at 80 years. So we go one after another and we shall be as though we never were. Give my love to Mrs. Dering. Tell her I would write to her but as I have wrote to so many of you I could not have nothing to say but that she has my best wishes and that be so good as to say to her. We have Martin Howard’s widow and daughter is with us at her father Greenleaf ’s. If Mrs. Thomas goes to Halifax there she will have Gov. Wentworth and family with her who has promised to do all he can for her. Your sister Wentworth is left in England. I know not why. Polly Brindley is like to be married well in England. Betsy Gould is married to Harry Monk. ButIhavetimetosaynomorenowbutamyouraffectionatefriendHepzi Edwards

Marshfield26January1784Dear kinsmanLong have I wished to hear from you since your return to the Island. I have often feared that you were some of you sick that it has been so long. But yesterday I was so happy as to get your letter by cousin SDT who returned from Boston after seven weeks absence – – ‘Tis good for mesaidthesaintof oldthatIhavebeenafflicted–youcanechobackhis language I hope and add as he did “That thou has learned God’s righteous judgments.” I am more and more convinced that it is not in lostcropsno,norindeepandkeenafflictionstoweantheheartfromthis and [-] it on a better world – – but you my friend have I hope had

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a childlike disposition and under your repeated trial desired your dross purged of by seeing that it is the rod of a father’s hand that is lifted to chastise you a son and not the scourge of an enemy – – You may be assured that when I send a fervent wish to heaven for my friends youareinthefirstrankandthatyourfamilyeachof themaredearlyremembered by me.

That you are like to part with your agreeable daughter I do not number with your sorrows as I presume her match is agreeable to you all – – Henry being absent is for his good I hope and that ye will meet again in the best time – – I am glad Cousin Sil [Sylvester] is with you. You have abundant reason to be thankful that God has made him such a dutiful good child to you. O give him thanks therefore and bless his name for friends and comforts are to us only what God maketh them – –

Thank you, Cousin, for your remembrance of Mr. Winslow. I had a letter from him dated the 30 October in which he makes particular mention of you and your family which I intended to have copied and sent you but unfortunately I have misplaced the letter. But I remember this much that he desires a particular message to each of you in the warmest expression of love and friendships – hope to meet you in a better day nor expect to see you again in this world – – I have much to say to you on my intention for going to him but I must address a few lines to your good lady and that will be part of my subject to her if I have time. Love and abundance to each of you and if Dr. Gardiner is become your son ‘ere this reaches you will congratulate him and your daughter on their nuptials from your sincere friend and much obliged Kinswoman AW Anna Winslow29 January

I make this addition, my dear cousin, to repeat my love and good wishes to you and each of your much esteemed family and to tell you that we are all well this very stormy morning – – Mr. Blake who was to have returned to this house today is prevented by the weather which give me opportunity to say to you and Mrs. Dering that I have been greatly exercised about going to Mr. Winslow to Canada – – but I have had several letters from him in which he expresses his desire to have me with him, and, as he cannot return here on many accounts and has a profitableemploytherehehopeIshallfinditdulyaswellasinclinationto be with him – Oh cousin, you know, experimentally how hard it is to leave gospel ordinances for a retired life but would it not be harder if you were to be seated amidst the dissipation and excess of the vain and the gay – – he tells me that there is a dissenting congregation of defectors there and that the minister is a grave man and walks agreeable–sofarsogood–butalaswherecanwegotofindreligioninitspurity–Icouldfillanothersheetandnotsayhalf Iwantto.Prayformeandforhimandbelieveusbothyouraffectionatekinsfolk––AdieuAW

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• On January 27, 1784, Elizabeth Dering and Nathaniel Gardiner were married. They would make their home in East Hampton where he would practice medicine.

• Hepzi Edward was now lodged comfortably with Mrs. Pierce. With or without her husband’s permission, she had taken into her possession the silver cup which had been made by the silversmith Samuel Haugh in Boston in about 1694. Her husband’s father John Edwards had handed it down to his son. Hepzi would give it to her grandniece, Hannah Carter Smith (d. 1836). Hannah gave it to her son, Thomas Carter Smith (d. 1880), who gave it to his grandson, William Smith Townsend (d. 1935), who gave it to his nephew, Charles Townsend (d. 1968). The price realized in a 2001 Christie’s auction was $11,750.


• On June 15, 1784, Sarah Thomas and four of her children (Sarah, Mary, Elizabeth and Charles), left Marshfield forever. John stayed on his mother’s farm. Sarah told Thomas of her trip and her impressions of her new home.

Boston May 24, 1784Dear CousinI have been long waiting and wanting to hear from you but Henry tells me that there has been a letter for me on the road this three months. Mr. Hobby is expected in town today and I hear he has got the letters. Henry will stay till tomorrow so I hope to answer them by time.

He and I have been down to take our leave of Mrs. Thomas and family. Poor soul what is she to meet with more from that plain sack man. I am grieved to think she must follow him. I wish he may be brought to repent of all his evil ways. And instead of his plaguing thatgoodwomanasherdayis,soIhopeshewillfindstrength.Ican’tforgivehim,infinitewisdomdoesright,shemustandwillgoafterhim.I hope the Lord will be with her and family. I must leave her in the hand of a kind Providence. If this has not happened we must soon separate by death.

Mrs. Winslow is gone to her husband at [-] and so our friends are all from us some one way and some another. I long to see you but that I am afraid I never shall in this world again. But if so I hope we shall meet in another and better world where nothing will ever separate us. I am now boarding with Mrs. Pierce. Good lady she is very kind to me indeed I have not been so agreeably provided for since I lost my dear friend Mr. Edwards so a good God provides for me. She sends her love to you and family. I don’t think of anything new to write you.

We have got no minister yet. If the letters should come today I may add something more but if not give my love to Mrs. Dering and I am your friend and cousin as ever H Edwards

This moment Grace Smith is arrived from London. It may be that he will do for a minister serves. I told your [--] and gave Henry the money I got [-] crowns and one shilling for them. No letters yet I don’t know whether I shall ever get them.

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Book: 5Number: 465Date: 7/19/1784To: Thomas Dering From: Sarah Dering ThomasPlace: Windsor

Windsor July 19, 1784My very dear brotherI wrote it amongst the greatest trials of my life that I could not visit you before I left my native land, but it was not the will of Providence. Therefore I desire to be silent and humbly trust in him that by the riches of his divine grace we may one day meet before his throne – nevermore to part.

In the meantime, my dear brother have me ever in remembrance in your relieved hours when addressing our heavenly master for that free grace which can only save our souls. As I knew you must be desirous to hear an account of our voyage I will endeavor to recollect. Here I was so unwell as to be unable to keep any Journal.

The 15 June we left MarshfieldcametosailwithasmallGaleintheafter part of the day was becalmed. The next morning a pleasant gale and proceeded till the afternoon when the wind died away. The Captainsawafogoffandthoughtbesttocometoanchorinaharborthat night where we lay very quiet though I should have told you the firstnightwewerebecalmedweallretiretakenverysickbutmysonCharleswhosufferednoillconvenientlythroughthevoyage.SonMartin soon got over his sickness but daughter Sally and myself were verysick.Buttoproceedthenextnightanddaywehadafinefreshwindandsailedattherateof 8knots–inthemidstof thisfinewind.

TheCaptainthoughtfittoputupalongtherivertoputoutsomeof his own laden or check by which means we lost our wind. I should have told you when we harbored before at Mount Dessert and so it appeared to be as well as so named – I unfortunately was taken with the fever and ague which together with my sea sickness brought me very low that when we met onshore at Mechias I was laid between two into a house near the water side where I received very kind treatment. The familyalldinedatlastonfinefreshsalmonbutIlayonthebedandate my plumb oat meal gruel. We all lay onshore that night which was Saturday evening. We sailed on Tuesday.

The next morning the children went to meeting, heard one Mr. Lyon preach a serious sermon. I was too unwell. They saw some smart people at worship but the land looked but barren. There was saw mills and vessels loading with lumber which made it look like a place of business. In the afternoon the wind was fair and we came to sail passed by many places, Granberry Island, cast blew me down Cape Spled etc. The latter appeared like a huge great rock split in halves, some places we past look like the wilderness here and there some had the appearanceof finefarms,handsomebuildings[-]finelargebarnsandother outhouses, orchards etc. – Others at the [-] at one harbor one wave making the winds suddenly died away and the tide had liked to have cast us on a rock they called the bar but having recourse to their oars we through the protection of a kind Providence safely harbored

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without my knowing my danger till it was passed – upon the whole if I had not been sick we saw so many vessels of various sizes has seen to and fro saw so many pleasant prospects harbors almost every night sailed along by the shore lost sight of land not more then twice had no bad weather no high winds nor boisterous waves not even in the Bay of Fundy which I have such formidable accounts of but found no more inconvenience there more than else where till we came in sight of Windsor when the Capt. being unacquainted with the harbor came to anchor in a wrong place where the tide left us that we could not get up to town that night and when all the sailors were gone to rest not one to keep watch – – the children were up and I lay sick in my cabin with the weakness the ague of fever had brought on me.

We suddenly heard a great rush of water and noise like thunder which the children thought it was but I told them it must be something that struck the vessel for she trembled like a leaf. I called the Captain who answered what is that. He turned out and went to bed no more that night but found by anchoring in the wrong place his vessel had struck on the quicksand which though his vessel was somewhat in danger did her no harm. In the morning Major Monk, which is Harry by name, with Dr. Gould which is Betsy’s son John, came on board to let me know Mr. Thomas was at the Wentworth’s farm and they had sent him word the vessel was arrived.

He soon came and looked around the cabin saw me took me by the hand but can you believe me, my brother, when I tell you I was so weak and ill I felt no emotion of either joy or sorrow but like a dead log lay. I see Mr. Thomas take his son Charles in his arms who burst into a floodof tearswhichIwonderedmuchtoseeashedidnotwishtoseehis Papa so much as the other children not having any remembrance of him but he now says he likes him and thinks him a pretty clever man. I have seen but a few miles round as yet being so unwell but by the help of a puke and the Barke I have quite recovered from my complaints and what I have seen of the country appears very pleasant. The mountains at a distance appear to be covered with woods quite in a state of nature but there is rides they tell me quite level for 15 miles asplainasahouseflowersnotastickorstoneallaroundmeappearsquitecleargoodlandfinelargefieldsoneachsidetheroadwithamistof herds,grassreedglory&finewhitehoneysuckle,apples,pearlikeafinefieldthathasbeensownjustreadytomowandthegrassveryhighwith uncommon large heads even in some places on one side where the dike meadow is appear to be [-] it is so thick and they tell me there neverwasseedsownthereandIseeinsomebackfieldswhichthewood and underbrush stands uncultivated.

This same mixture of grass is all amongst it. That if cleared from the underbrush would be just the same. There is wheat, barley, oats, potatoesgrowinginfineabundance.ManyGardensIseebelongingtoprivatefamilieswheretheyhavefinepeas,beanscarrotsandevery

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vegetable as in my native land. Some orchards, cherry trees, plums, currants in great abundance and strawberries blackberries and raspberriesfinemuttonlambandwithoutanyexceptionthefinestgrassfed beef I ever eat. We have now brought to market good veal and I see go by good poultry of every sort. But that is so excessive dear we waittillourownpoultryisineating.WehavefinecodfishsalmonshadsalmontroutandlobstersiswhatfishIhaveeatsinceIhavebeenhere.[-] grass etc. You see I have been very particular, my brother, because I thought you would have a desire to know how I fared in life and I have endeavored not to exaggerate but to write you the real truth – I suppose I see the country in its glory though they tell me it is not so cold the last winter as in my native land. It being a very moderate winter here in very severe one with us as I suppose it was with you – And now my brother I would inform you a little about our relations – Our sister Monk is in tolerable good health though she says she is sometimes troubled with a cough and shortness of breath but she trips aboutandseemstobeinfinespirits.HereldestdaughterNancywhois I believe from what I see in appearance is well married to a Mr. Dechamps but she is in so ill a state of health it is supposed she cannot recover. The doctor think her case dangerous. It is thought she has the dropsy and indeed a complication of disorders a high fever perhaps all night looks pale and thinks she shall scarcely lived till morning in the close of the day. Feels much better seems to be in tolerable spirits looks like picture of health when her fever shows itself in her face. Takes a ride and you would not suppose anything ailed her. Major Monk and wife, which was Betty Gould, with them pretty little son is well. Charles Monk as well in expectation of his wife and two children coming from England every day. I have only room to add Mr. Thomas and the childrenjoininloveandaffectionyouraffectionatesisterSThomas

Boston August 18, 1784Dear cousinI long to hear from you. How do you all do. Why don’t Sylvester write to let us know how you all do. We have heard from Mrs. Thomas. She is got safe with her family. They are much pleased with their new prospects. Poor things I wish it may be well with them all. I suppose Cousin Storer has got letters for you but I have not heard whether he has or knows poor John is at Marshfield.Iknownotwhatwillbecomeof him. Hope he will do well. Mr. Shaw has been up. Says he does well as yet but they are afraid he will marry a girl that they don’t like. I hear that his father wants him to come to him to work on his new farm and help to bring it to for him. But I think if John will keep his mother’s right and be a good husband he may do better where he is for they all like him at M-d. But what any of them will do I can’t tell. What is become of Betsy? Give my love to her. Let her Aunt Storer want to hear from her. I hope she has not forgot her old friends. They have not forgot her. Tell her she must write to us. Give my love to Mrs. Dering and the children. Tell Henry he must come and see us after commencement. Mrs. Pierce sends her kind regards to all the family.

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• Elizabeth Dering Gardiner gave birth to her first child, a girl who they would call Maria.

• On 1785, Sylvester Dering became a Town Assessor. An assessor determined the value of a man’s land which then determined the size of his Poor Tax. When a Town started building roads, the value of the taken land would determine a property owner’s compensation. He remained an assessor through 1786.

• From 1785 until his death, Sylvester was one of the Trustees of the Island’s Church.

Book: 5Number: 472Date: 3/7/1785To: Betsy Gardiner From: Hepzi Small EdwardsPlace: Boston

• Thomas Dering was not shy about his personal losses at the hands of the British during the eight years of the Revolutionary War. He was never compensated. He was angry and bitter.

• In Northern climes, days are long and the season is short. Crops grow faster and larger. Nat Thomas, Sarah’s husband, was not well. Their son Nat would take over the farm in Windsor.

I don’t think of anything new to write you only we have a Mrs. Haley, sister to the famous John Wilke. She is very rich. Comes in state with attendants. She is full of liberty charmed with America has taken on nine years lease of Bely Vaneds’ house. Wants to buy a farm. I don’t know her age but near 70 and not a tooth in her head but seems as if the war beginning the world anew. I have been in company with her often. She is very agreeable. I do admire her. The famous Mrs. Macauley the historian that you have heard of with her husband Graham a young boy vessel loads of Europeans daily arriving to this dear America this land of liberty. Let me hear from you soon. I am your friend and well wishes H Edwards

March 7I am very much obliged to you for your kind letter. I have had a very bad ankle but it is got much better. I go abroad but it is in a close carriage and a pair of prancing horses. You say you wish you were nearer to me. It is your own fault that you are not my neighbor – it would be a great comfort to me to have some of you live in the town with me but if that must not be I must content myself for the little while I have to stay – – Mr. S has subscribed for the assembly and has given a young lady a ticket for the season and carries her there – – she is one of your acquaintances and I believe her friends hope that Mr. S will take a fancy if so – they will always thank you for refusing of one of ourfirstmatch.HeasksmewhenIhearfromyouandhowyoudo– – I suppose you have heard long ere this that Polly Gray is going to be married to Mr. Allyne Otis and I suppose it will soon be now as her Mama has been very ill with the rheumatism but has got better – – I am glad you and Polly has had so pleasant a ride – – I wish I had a house to invite you to come and tarry with me. I sometimes want you hear when I am in a great need of company that I think you would be glad to be with us. Give my love to Papa and Mama and all the family. Tell Sylvester that I expected more then two lines from my long letter that I wrote him but I must wish you well and subscribe myself yours affectionatelyHEdwards

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Book: 5Number: 478Date: 5/20/1785To: Sylvester Dering From: Sarah Dering ThomasPlace: Windsor Nova Scotia

Windsor May 20, 1785Why this long silence not sure one of opportunity for those are very frequent from Boston but perhaps they may not be so from Shelter Island. I will not blame you till I hear. I know your time must be much taken up with a tender attention you give your father and that which is necessary to your farm and family care; therefore I mean not to complain tis purely from the tender regard I have for you that I would wish to lay such a tax upon you as writing to me. But as I feel myself interested in the welfare of all your father children as that my own and while he continues, am anxious to hear how he does from time to time. I must beg some of you would write if but one line. Pray where is your brother? Does he live at home. Your sister I suppose by this time will plead her cares of a family though now I recollect she is the only one. I am in debt to a letter therefore will endeavor to send an answer to her by this opportunity. I have wrote your father upon a melancholy subject which I need not repeat to you. I hope you have heard from your cousin Nat since he has been in Boston I have not yet seen him but am in expectation of it every day. But believe more than 10 years will be completedfirst.ShouldIeverlivetoseehim.

We have had a long but not severe cold winter though weather is now coming on very pleasant. Everything grows at a very rapid rate in this place. It is astonishing to see the grass. I do not at present feel in spirits to enjoy it but we have a pleasant prospect from one of our parlor windowswhichlooksintoafineorchardattheendof whichisafinepiece of marsh diked in where the grass, clover and white honeysuckle affordsusafineregard.

While the pretty birds of various kinds tune forth their pleasing notes to invite us out to walk though the height of grass prevents us that pleasure. We can only stand at the entrance and enjoy the sight and perfume of the blossoms, and I should have told you that just at the end of the marsh we have the prospect of seeing the river which parts just before our windows. One branch leads up to the town of Windsor, the other runs up the back of our house which is called St. Croix River where we frequently see many vessels and boats passing which makes it very pleasing. I wish you could come and see us but I do not know but I have given you the above account before. If so you must excuse me forflatteringmyself.Youwishtoknoweverythingaboutmysituation.Iknow not but I become troublesome and even from repetitions –

Your Uncle Thomas is in a feeble way. He took a violent cold the past winter in their journey to Halifax which he has never yet got the better of and sometimes I fear would prove fatal to him for he is of too feeble constitution for a farmer and seems much disconcerted that yourboyJohndoesnotcomeheretoofferhimsomeassistance.ButI hear he is like to have the improvement of my part of the farm at Marshfieldanotheryear.AndIcannotsaybutIwishitnottogooutof the family but his father thinks it will be only a month to him to work

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• Elizabeth Dering Wentworth, who chose to live as an exile in England, died a widow at age 70.

• Thomas Dering died on September 26, 1785.

• While in Middletown, the Dering family lived next door to the Reverend Enoch Huntington.

• Abigail Chesebrough Grant and her daughter Abigail (Nabby) Grant were both in Boston.

• Jonathan Nicoll Havens was a contemporary of Sylvester Dering. He was a son of Nicoll Havens and would serve Shelter Island in every political capacity over the years, and would die at age 41 as a member of the Fourth Congress.

• Hepzi Edwards understood that there was a strain between the Derings and the Grants.

Book: 5Number: 450Date: 3/15/1786To: Sylvester Dering From: Hepzi Small EdwardsPlace: Boston

upon uncertainties. I hope he will be directed for the best. I hope you correspond with and give him your friendly advice which will add to theaffectionandloveof yourfriendandauntSarah Thomas

Boston March 15 1786My dear Sylvester what can be the matter that you do not write to me to let us know how you do or what is become of you all. Cousin Charles tells me that you have wrote to him and that Henry is at Doc Gardiners and doing some business for him which I am very glad to hear. I wish poor child he may do well. I think you or he might just trip and give us a look. You don’t know how much I want to see you and talk a little with you some things that I don’t care to write.

Mrs. Grant and her daughter has been to make us of visit. She spoke veryaffectionatelyof yourfathertoldmehowhappysheshouldhavebeen to have had you her son but that was too great happiness for her and that you were a sweet youth. I am very sorry that there is any strangeness among you for you are all my friends. But she did not say one word to me about anything nor I to her. I think her daughter Nabbyisafinegirl.Sheismuchadmiredwithus.Iwishshemaysettlehere with us. They are now at Newport.

I am very sorry to hear your mother is so dull. I wish she could come and see her friends here or that I was a little nearer to her where I could step and see her a little and speak a word of comfort to her. Tell her I want to see her and that she has my best wishes and if we are not to see one another no more in this world I hope we shall meet in another and better one.

How do Mrs. Gardiner do? Tell her I want to see her. I hope some of you will try to come this summer and see your friends once more. Have you not got somebody with you that you can leave your business with for a little while. Tell Henry he must come and see us.

This goes by Cousin Storer ye Charles as far as New London. I wish they may go over to see you. How is it with your blacks? Are they all living?

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• Henry carried this letter to Boston for his mother.

Book: 5Number: 455Date: 6/6/1786To: Henry Lloyd - Boston From: Mary Sylvester DeringPlace: Shelter Island

I have not heard from Mrs. Thomas not all winter. The court has given John Thomas his mother’s right of the farm John works hard and I suppose will soon marry a country girl in the neighborhood. I hope he will do well. Nat is with his father but what they will either do I can’t tell. I wish the girls were up here. It is a pity they should be kept there. Mr. Winslow is got much better. I don’t think of anything new to write youbutmylovetoallandacceptthesamefromyouaffectionatefriendand aunt H Edwards

Mrs. Pierce sends her love to you all and will be glad to have some of you come and see her.

Shelter Island June 6, 1786Dear cousinMy son Henry will be the bearer of this to you who goes to Boston on business very interesting to our family, the encumbrance on our estate by reason of a British debt you were not unacquainted with. Obligations were given to Lane Son and Frasier merchants in London payableatdifferentperiodswithoutanymentionof interestandthe bonds left with their agent Mr. Levinius Clarkson who was, by agreement, to receive the money, and the whole would have been paid to him punctually at the period agreed on had not the war intervened. At the beginning of the troubles Mr. Clarkson removed toSouth Carolina.

We knew not where he was or where the bonds were. Our situation was suchthatitwasimpossibleforustoliveontheisland.Weremovedoffsold all our stock which we principally lost by depreciation. More than 3000 cords of wood was cut out of the farm for the use of the British garrison at Rhode Island. We were in hopes that some compensation would be made for the wood; by [Mr. [-] forth’s] letter it seems nothing is to be expected from that quarter, and he says further that the company consider the interest to be as fully due as the principal and they mean to claim it: this claim we think is very unjust and cannot consent to allow it. If we could have come at Mr. Clarkson we could have paid very considerable sums either in continental money or in hard money for which we could have exchanged the continental for which our stock was sold and which has been mostly lost by depreciation.

Another reason why they ought to relinquish a claim of interest during the war, in our opinion, is, that had it been in our power to have seen Mr. Clarkson he no doubt would have received the continental money for which we sold our stock and it would have sunk in his hands. Besides as our remittances were stopped to Great Britain [--strike out--] if Mr. Clarkson had been paid by us during the war in any species of money they would have had no advantage of interest and we see no

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• Sylvester sent his Aunt Hepzi a lock of his father’s hair in remembrance of him.

• A bridge had been built across the Charles River. Hepzi was surprised that it took so little time to accomplish it.

• On May 5, 1786, Abigail (Abbi) Grant married John Coffin Jones, as his second wife. Immediately thereafter, Abigail

reason why they should insist on our pain the interest when they could nothavebeenbenefitedbyitincasetheprinciplehadbeenpaidtotheir agent. The non-payment of which were not our fault. Some of our friends here think under our present circumstances rather than tosufferaprosecutionandbeattheexpenseof atrialonamountof the interest we had better agree to allow the our half during the war provided they will give us a reasonable time for payment.

If thisshouldbeyouropinionandyoufindnoprospectof theirgivingup the whole of the interest during the war, I shall agree to it. In this case we shall want three years to pay the money in. Not that we can make it within that time for we returned without any stock and the farm and building much out of repair but must hire the money if it is to be procured.

If they will relinquish their claim of interest we will undertake to process the whole sum due within two years to be paid at two annual payments. At present it is impossible to get any money on loan as the state has ordered 200,000 pounds in paper to be struck which is not yet issued –

The holders of hard money will not lend till they see the fate of the paper fearing they may be paid with money of less value than the money they lend. A few months it is supposed will determine the currency of the paper money and will probably put it in our power to hireussomeinhardmoneyforthefirstpayment––

I have been advised that the British merchants have generally relinquished the interest which they might claim on debts due from their debtors in New York during the war. I hope Mr. Lowell and Mr. Dickinson will not be more strenuous in their claims then others especiallyaswehavebeensogreatsufferersandhaveneverreceivedanybenefitbythisdebt.Imakenodoubtbutyouwillgivemysonyour assistance in settling this business in the best manner you can for our interest and whatever you agree on with the advice of any of our friends whom you may choose to consult will be satisfactory to me.

My son Sylvester proposed going to Boston on this business with his brother but the busy season of farming is coming on so fast that he cannot be spared from home. With great esteem and respect I am your affectionatecousinMary Dering

PS I beg a kind remembrance to Mrs. Lloyd.

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Chesebroough Grant returned to London.


• On September 10, 1786 Robert Smith Gardiner was born to Elizabeth Dering Gardiner and her husband Dr. Nathaniel Gardiner.

• From 1787 until his death, Sylvester would serve as either Clerk or Supervisor of the Town of Shelter Island.

• Sylvester Dering was courting 24 year old Esther Sarah Havens, daughter of Nicoll Havens of Shelter Island who had died in 1783. Her mother had been Sarah Fosdick who had died in 1767. The mother who raised her was Desiree Brown Havens who would live until 1828.

• On December 6, 1787, Esther Sarah Havens and Sylvester Dering were married. Her siblings included Jonathan Nicoll Havens who would become a Congressman, Renssaelaer Havens who would be a very successful businessman and banker in New York City, Mary Catherine Havens who would be the second wife of Ezra L’Hommedieu, Catherine Mary Havens who would marry Henry Huntington from Troy, New York, and Gloriana Havens who would marry the Reverend Whitfield Cowles.

• When Columbus landed in the Caribbean in 1492, he and his troops brought dreadful European diseases that whipped out many of the native peoples, so it was somewhat ironic that Americans traveling from the East Coast of the Northern

Boston June 19, 1786Dear SylvesterI was glad to have a line from you once more, but you say you have wrotemanybutwhatsignifieswritingif wecan’tgetanybodytotake the care of them. I thought you had quite forgot me. I was in hopes that you had done with the old department I think they are unreasonable to rob you and then expect you will pay them. I hope Henry with his friends will do something with them set will help you. I thank you for sending me the lock of hair which was my dear friend’s. It was the more pleasing as it was is his [-].

Henry will tell you all the movements among us and what great things we are doing. Dear Sylvester, come and take a walk over the grand bridge across Charlestown ferry. It is beautiful. I know not how to think it possible that I could walk over the ferry. Henry will tell you what a granddaynextSaturdaywillbeforitistobefinishedthen.Itistobehungwithlamps.Itwillbeafinelightinadarknight.Igavethemahundredyearstofinishitinbutinoneyearwearetopassoverit.Canyou believe it?

I believe you mistook me. It was Betsy Grant and not Abby that Mama wished you to have. We expect the bride and bridegroom from next week for they have been to New York to ship Mama for London.

Aunt Thomases family are well. I believe Sally will die an old maid waiting for dead men’s shoes if not will be lucky. Fool let her and I wish you did not live so far, of that I might come and see you. Mme. Pierce sends her regards to you and wants to see you as do all your friends. ButIaddnomorebutthatIamyouraffectionateAuntHEdward

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Hemisphere would succumb to diseases in the Caribbean. Haiti was an unhealthy environment for young Henry Packer Dering to have found himself in.

• On June 4, 1788, Elizabeth Packer Gardiner was born to Elizabeth Dering Gardiner and her husband Dr. Nathaniel Gardiner. From this point onward, there will be various references to Mrs. Gardiner’s (or Betsy’s) health. Her Aunt Sarah Thomas even said at one point, that she pitied her.

• Nathaniel RayThomas, Sarah Thomas’s husband, died.


Boston June 6, 1788My dear Cozn and what’s more my friend. I was rejoiced to hear once more from you. The last I heard from you was from Windsor and so I supposed you were married. You say you are and believe me I wish you all joy and happiness. I hope you have one of the best of wives this – give my love to her though unknown. It must be love to all that love Sylvester and wish I knew her. Why can’t you bring her to see us? It will give all your friends pleasure to have such an agreeable visit. I don’t wonder your mother will not consent to Henry is not going another voyage poor child. I hope there will be something better for him –

We expect Polly Storer home soon. She has been with Aunt Thomas all winter. We expect Polly Thomas will come with her. Sally is gone to Québec to Aunt Winslow who has sent for her – I don’t like Québec for sofineagirlasSallyThomasbutIknownotwhattheirpoormothercan do with them. All I wish it was in my power to help them – – Were it in my one little cell I would try to do something. I don’t know how Mr. Thomas has left her but I fear but poorly. I do long to see her.

Poor John is married and a poor thing it seems he is got. She is a quiet country girl with I fear but little family. He I fear unhappy. He goes to see nobody nor nobody goes to see him – Mrs. Apthorp went down to see him and by her account he has got a poor do little he work like a [-]. I wish I could write something more agreeable to you about our family – but so it is and I know no help for it. I believe Nat works and does the best he can by what Mrs. Thomas writes me –

Give my love to Mrs. Gardiner and the Doc. Tell them they must come and see their Boston friends – are they going to New York to live? He talked of it when here. I want to write to your mother and will if I can but this is to go to New York by private hand – I should have wrote you before but I found that none of my letters got to you and I did not like my scrawls should be read all through the country, for I have wrote once or twice and you have never received them – As to our political affairs,Ishallleavethemtoyourotherfriendstowriteabout.ButIhope we are like to have a good government in spite of earth or hell for such oppositions as we have had to destroy us, never was, but blessed be the name of the Lord there be higher than they some people are obliged to hide their heads – – I trust the poor widows will be relieved and not have dues withheld from them so shamefully as they have been

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• Henry Packer had arrived home from his journey to the Caribbean.

• Jonathan Nicoll Havens and Ezra L’Hommedieu were serving together in the State Legislature which was meeting in New York City.

• On January 7, 1789, the first United States presidential elections were held, as were elections for representatives to the House.

• On February 4, 1789, George Washington was unanimously elected the first President of the United States by the Electoral College.

• On March 4, at the Federal Hall in New York City, the United States Congress met and declared the new Constitution to be in effect. On April 1, the House of Representatives met and attained its first quorum. Five days later, the Senate met in Federal Hall and met its first quorum. They certified George Washington as President and John Adams as Vice President.

• Ann Monk, Thomas Dering’s sister, wrote Sylvester about the ownership of curtains from her father’s and Sylvester’s grandfather’s estate. He showed remarkable patience.

******************* This letter was written to Ann Monk by her nephew Sylvester Dering******************

Book: 6Number: 511Date: 4/20/1789To: Ann MonkFrom: Sylvester DeringPlace: Shelter Island

but I desire to say nothing for I know the Lord reigns – and the judge of all the earth will do right – Do pray let me hear from you as often as you can for as I can’t see you. Do let me hear you are well. Mrs. Pierce sendsregardstoyouandyours–butmustfinishwithmyloveandbestwishestoyouandyoursecondself andamyouraffectionateauntHepzi Edwards

Shelter Island April 20, 1789Honored and dear Mdm.Your favor of 7 September last I received a few months ago and have not since that period had any opportunity to return an answer thereto. I now write undercover to my friend Mr. Storer at NS home I have requestedtoforwardthistoyoubythefirstsafeconveyance,andwishyoumayreceiveitsafely.Inreplytothefirstpartof yourletter,say,nowantof friendshiporaffectionhaspreventedmefromcontinuingto write you. Immediately after my father’s death I addressed a letter to you, since which I have never received a letter from you, till the one above referred to; your silence I did not however look upon as a sufficientexcusetodiscontinuethecorrespondenceonmypart,neitherdidIsupposeitwasfromwantof affectionorsympathyonyourpart,but hearing from my Aunt Thomas that you were in a poor state of health, and knowing it is often very disagreeable for ladies at your time of life to write; I have always endeavored to inform you of the health, situation and friendship of our family and by my letters to my Aunt Thomas, (knowing you were near neighbors) and have always mentioned you in my letters for that purpose, and have as frequently heard of you and your family from her. This is the only reason why you have not heard particularly from me and I am sorry if you should everhaveinterpreteditasawantof friendshipandaffection.My

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Mama, brother, and sister, together with Mrs. Dering all desire to join me in best love and regards to you, and are much obliged for your kind inquiries and good wishes.

My mother enjoys a very good state of health for a person so far advancedinlife.Mysisterisverywellandhasthreefinechildrenoneson and two daughters the youngest about 10 months old. My brother is at present at home with us, where he has been for about 12 months past he was very unfortunate in his voyage to sea. I hardly think he will attempt another very soon. All the family that my father left at his death continue together yet and remain the same as when he died. My sister had, 12 months previous to his death, removed to East Hampton, where she still lives.

And now my dear aunt in reply to your inquiries respecting the suit of worked curtains, I can say that I always knew such curtains to be in my father’s possession, and always supposed them to be his property. Indeed I never had any other idea; and about the time my sister was married, my father had them made up, and gave them to her, in whose possession they are now, and have been ever since her marriage. This I cannot believe my father would have done had he not conceived them to be his undoubted property.

Being entirely ignorant of any circumstances about the curtains, I am at a loss how to reconcile your letter, which declares them to be your undoubted property, and only left in my father’s hands as a deposit, and in trust for you, and his conduct in giving them away and believe your representation (which I do) to be true and his conduct – honest. I can do it only in this way, and which perhaps may not be right; this idea of the matter I form from my grandfather’s will, his books, the estate books, and my father’s private books, all which I have looked intosincethereceiptof yourletter.Ifindbymygrandfather’swill,(a copy of which I have) that no mention is made of the curtains as given to anyone, and that after directing how he would have his estate divided, he orders the accounts he had against each of his children, to be charged them on settlement of his estate, and to be considered aspartof hisestatewhichtheyhadreceived.Ifindalsoitwasmygrandfather’s custom to charge his daughters their wedding clothes and the furniture and every other thing he gave them after being married, butIcanthinkof findnochargeof thesecurtains,(byreasonIsupposeof theirnotbeinginyouraccount.)finishedanddelivered.

Ifindalsobytheestatebooksnowinmypossessionandbysomeof my uncle Henry’s letters to some of the heirs had received more than their proportion of the estate, and that my father had not received his proportion by several hundred pounds lawful money. This being the case I suppose my father considering the curtains as belonging to the estate took them in that way; but that he took them in that way is entirelyconjecture;andindeedshouldyoustillfeeldissatisfiedabout

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• On April 30, George Washington was inaugurated as President at Federal Hall in New York.

• On September 11, 1789, Margaret Sylvester Dering, Sylvester and Esther Sarah Havens Dering’s first child, was born.

• Charles Thomas Dering, Esther Sarah and Sylvester’s second child and first son, was born in November 17, 1790.

• Below is Book 1, Letter 1, which was read to be dated 1709; however, we know from the writer and the subjects that the “0” must be an “8.” Although it is not addressed to one particular person, we are quite comfortable attributing the intended receiver as her daughter Betsy.

Book: 1Number: 1Date: 12/16/1789To: Elizabeth Dering GardinerFrom: Mary Dering, motherPlace: Shelter Island

them, I feel very sorry you did not apply to him before his death about them, as he could I have no doubt have placed his conduct to you in a fair point of light, and to your satisfaction in yours. You supposed me to be knowing as to what was under my father’s care and what was his real property, and what was not so; indeed I did suppose myself that to be the case, and never had (as I observed to you before) any reason to suppose those curtains were not as much his property as the bed he lay on.Plus my dear aunt I have given you the best account of and have informed you all I know about the curtains, as to your request of placing them in your hands, you will from the foregoing account I have given you see the impractibility of my doing it. I am and remain the same as when he died, except the addition of my partner, and our little daughter about seven months old.

Shelter Island December 16, 1789I received yours by your brother likewise one by Mr. Pain. Was glad to hear you and children were so comfortable. When Henry returned he drank tea with your Mama Gardiner and brought me a letter from her. She is well, but has been very much concerned for you and children. She writes me she longs to be helping you taking care of them but according to Henry’s account I hope they will not want much nursing. You desired me in one of your letters to pray for you that you may not be led into temptation.

I hope I never shall cease to do while I have breath but you must pray for yourself and watch as well as pray. I know every place is attended withitsdifferenttemptations.Ihavelivedincityandcountry.Idonot think we are exposed to so much dissipation in the country as in the city. I found it the best not to have a large acquaintance for that of the most virtuous kind. If it please God to spare the lives of your children I hope to pray he will give you grace to bring them up in the [-] admonition of the Lord.

Remember you have promise before God and his people to endeavor to do it. We cannot give our children Grace; that it the gift of God. But we can set them good examples and give them good advice and restrain them while they are under our care. --You may think you was restrained too much from innocence diversions and perhaps it was so

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• On January 8, 1790, George Washington gave his first State of the Union address.

• On February 1, the Supreme Court of the United State convened for the first time.

Book: 6Number: 517Date: 3/20/1790To: Sylvester DeringFrom: Anne Huntington Place: Norwich

• Anna Windslow had gone to Canada to join her husband.

but remember it was meant in pure love and tenderness. I hope your children never will spend their precious time in gaining for to dress themselvesinfineryasIhaveknownsomefamiliesandhavelivedtosee them come to nothing even in this life.

Better give them a good education so that they may get their living by keeping school or by their needle and they will always be esteemed by the better sort of people. I don’t say the gayer sort. Don’t say mama has grown old and has lost her relish for these things. For was I to live my life over again I should not alter my sentiments. The wise men advise train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it but we see they do sometimes but it is not so common and that we may see by our own observation. This is the advice of your mother who has almost done with this world and wishes youandthebestof heavensblessingsfromyouraffectionatemotherMDering. Your family sends love. Peggy has the ague. Charles very well. My love to the children.

Norwich March 20, 1790Dear SirI have received a number of letters from you since I have attempted an answer for the last favor was dated the 14th instant. The proposal hasaffordedmegreatpleasureandentertainment.Ihopeyourcounseland advice to me will not be lost. I would rejoice to hear you are in better health than when you went from home. I think I have not lost strength but rather gained since that time for three or four days last have but very little fever and am more comfortable. Dr. Tracy speaks more encouraging to me than he did. Dr. C Barry has been twice to see me. He and Dr. Tracy appear to be candid toward each other and agreeintheirprescriptions.Iamsatisfiedthatthelatterunderstandsmy Constitution very well. Dr. S does not appear to believe me in a consumption.Hesaysmylossof fleshandretainingfluidadegreeof strength is in my favor but I have been so long expecting to live but a few days that it seems hardly right to look back into this world which I have been thinking I had no business with or expectations from but oh that I may be ready and resigned when that important moment arrives when I must quit the stage which often happens suddenly and such kind of disorder. I can’t from [-] nor correct but this scrawl must go as it is. I thank you for the wine and 1000 more favors received by your Anne Huntington

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Book: 6Number: 539 Date: 11/6/1791To: Elizabeth Gardiner at New York or East HamptonFrom: Anna Green Winslow Place: Québec

6 November 1791 at QuébecMy dear kinswoman

Your cousin SDT [Sarah Dering Thomas] informed me some time ago that she had a letter from you in which you requested your remembrance to me, with a desire that I should write to you. This my dear young friend I should have complied with long since had I not feltmyowninsufficiencytowriteonthesubjectof mostimportancewhich you mentioned – I have and do rejoice with you if the Lord has been pleased to convince you of sin for, my friend, however painful the knowledge of our loss and undone state by nature is, it must be discovered to every soul that escapes from it into a state of reconciliation in favor with God – ‘ere this I hope you had not a sight and sense of the gospel method of salvation in and by the Lord Jesus Christ who alone is able to do all for his people and is as willing as he is able. What abundant reason have you to adore and bless him who has discovered to you your need of this Savior while others are left in the wilderness bewildered with bypass and in pursuit of that which can never yield them solid joists. Oh, improve this blessing to recommend religion, his religion to all about you. I have much on my mind that I can write to you but, oh, I fear to darken counsel by words without knowledge.

11th of November – my dear Mrs. Gardiner, I have just heard of an opportunity to write to Halifax by water which is uncommon so late in the season. I wish to improve it to write to your Aunt Thomas and as I know of no other way to forward my love and best wishes to you until spring I thought good to enclose this to your aunt that you may thereby be informed of our health and goodwill to you and yours. Mr. Winslow and Miss Thomas both accompany me in their sincere regards to you and Dr. Gardiner to your mother and brothers. Be so obliging as make any warm regards acceptable to them.

I have wrote twice to your good mother whose letters are truly esteem butIfindshedoesnotlovewritinganybetterthanshedid.WillyoupleasetotellherIspeakgreatlygratifiedbyaletterfromhernorlessso for one from you. In the course of the winter if my life and health continued I propose writing to my New York friends and if I get a letter from you will write again to you. Will you let Mrs. Atkinson know we are well at this date and that had I time though to his roundabout way I would have wrote to her though not in debt. I hope she is got safely up from her laying which I heard she was expecting in September last – – I love them all as I ever did and am the same old fashioned friend I used to be – May every blessing attend you and may you my dear be enabled to own the race set before you with constancy conduct and encourage until you receive the award of grace in the kingdom of glory – –Adieu God bless and keep your prayers your kinswoman A W

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Book: 6Number: 541Date: 2/1/1792To: Sylvester DeringFrom: Sarah Dering Thomas (Sarah’s daughter) Place: Quebec

Québec February 1, 1792My dear cousinThefirstmonthof thisyearbeingpassedmustnotpreventmywishingyou and yours as many returns of the season as you can enjoy. Your letter by Mr. Hall I am indebted for, and feel particularly grateful for the interest you take in my darling parent and family’s happiness. God knows what is best for her and He I hope will direct to the right way. You are kind, very kind, my cousin but oh you know not (and I pray never may) what it is to be reduced as my family are. Mrs. Gardiner too is all goodness but I really believe if Eliza was to quit her mother it was shortened that life so precious to us her children. Mama was but too deeply wounded by my remove and to part with another daughter in the same way might prove too much for her. However I shall not oppose what is judged best. To you I will say that but for my fond mothers sake I would never [-] a burden on any mortal. My health is good and I am able to support myself which I would have done in preference to living a weight on my friends. Had I not known my motherwouldhavebeengreatlyhurttherebyforherIsacrificemychoice and view it my duty to do so.

Should I remain single with my present good health after mama dies you shall know me industrious to earn my own bread. I have a letter from my sister Mary which mentions your great goodness to your aunt. Mamawasnotabletowriteherself fromhavingthreelamefingersonher right hand. Mary says with me, she knows not what is best, worst then we have felt. I must not fear, God is merciful.

Brother Charles, I hope, will get some employ in Halifax. If our Boston friends were able to assist him I should imagine they would do something for a certain namesake of his who seems to be quite rover.

This one in your ear, my cousin. It gives me real satisfaction to know my cousin Henry is in business. Had he believed [-] have wrote him think he would have [-] me that pleasing truth with his own [-] would he recollect me. Pray assure him of my love.

You do not say you have a letter from me since you wrote from Shelter Island, but by your not accusing me of neglect, which would have been my due had I admitted it, imagine you had received my last year letter,whetherIwriteornot,thebestwishesandaffectionsof myheartto yours. Yet you do not name in your Boston favor what number of children you have. Strange that you will not [-] me interested in all that so closely your happiness.

[-] Mrs. Gardiner [-] hope is restored by her journey to [-] I did write her some weeks back [-] and will buy this occasion if time [-] is allowed me. Pray did you see [-] John when in Boston. Think had he [-] were there he would have wrote to [-] by the hand notwithstanding it was a season with him. Aunt Edwards [-] enrapture of your amiable Mrs.

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• On February 24, 1792, Sarah Frances Dering was born to Esther Sarah and Sylvester Dering.

Book: 6Number: 547Date: 6/9/1792To: Mary DeringFrom: Anna Green WinslowPlace: Quebec

Dering [-] I might meet her and become acquainted with her worth. HopeIwillforthatgratification.Mrs. Winslow comes into my room and says Oh! If you are writing to Sylvester pray send him a thousand loves and friendly wishes from me. For myself I must request you to give my duty to Aunt Dering and love to your good partner. Whenever you can indulge me with a letter my heart will be pleased. Tho’ absent I cannot forget or cease to love my friends. Mrs. Winslow is in usual health and wishes you happy as does your attached cousin SDT

9th June 1792 at QuébecThis morning, my dear Mrs.Dering,Ihavebeenfinishingalettertoyour daughter. Whether what I have said will be any assurance to her in her spiritual warfare, I must leave to Him who can work by the most insignificantmeans.IdonotrecollectthatIwasevermoreafflictedwithhearingof anyoneunderconvictionthanwhenIfirstreceivedtheinformation that Mrs. G was seeking the Lord Jesus. O! me thought how good is God to answer His people’s prayers. Let us my friend take encouragement to lay up a stock for the rising generation who appear as if they were wholely absorbed in the vein blandishments of worldly matters––O!praisebetotheRedeemersname.Heisallsufficientand can bring about his own glory in his own way and time. I was sorry tofindbyaletterIhadfromMrs.Gthatshehadgotintoadespondingframe. I have endeavored to rouse her from it but the Lord will do his ownworkandIhavegreathopehewillbringheroutasgoldpurifiedandfitforthemastersuse.

You will I make no doubt adjust and direct her in the duty of believing. O! how impossible for us to get our hearts willing that God should beall,inalloursalvation.Howdifficulttorenounceself andyieldourownrighteousnessasfilthyragsunworthytooffer.--Yetthisisnecessary. “It pleases the Lord oft times” You know my friend “to bring his people very low into the Valley of humiliation ‘ere they are lifted up to lay hold on Christ’s Jesus the only hope. Abraham has reached out his hand to slay Isaiah before he saw the ram caught in the thicket andtheapostletellstheCorinthiansintheSecondEpistlefirstchapter8 verse I or that he would not have them ignorant of the trouble that came on the believers of that day that they were pressed out of measure insomuch that they despaired even of life – that they had the sentence of death in themselves and the reason thereof he tells them was that they should not trust in themselves but in God who raiseth the dead.

11th June 92 - You will accept my good lady my lapses of time and allow me now to acknowledge the receipt of your favor dated 13th March. I received it with a number of others on 28 May last and improvethefirst[-]momenttothankyouforit.Itfindsmerecoveringfromafeverfitof illnessfromwhichIwishIcouldtellyouIhadmade

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• In the United States, the first Columbus Day celebrated Christopher Columbus’s discovery of the New World 300 years before, in 1492. On October 13, the cornerstones of the White House in the District of Columbia were laid. The Executive Mansion would be built by slaves.

that improvement the mercy I have received deserves but alas like a deceitful bow I am apt to turn aside. I hope I am not wholly unmindful of God’s goodness but my ungrateful heart does not rise as I wish it to do in proportion to this and many other blessings and enjoy the world and the care necessary in such a family as mine is at present. The want of suitablehelpandotherdifficultiesaresometimesalmosttoomuchfor me. I should engross too much of your time and draw you into a labyrinth from which you must bewail my weakness and lament over me tho’ perhaps you could not extricate your friend – that let me beg your prayers for me that my faith in the Redeemer’s merits may be strengthened – – that I may not presume on his mercy while I do not the things which he commands. O may we all be enabled to wash in that fountain opened for sinners [--] we may be white as snow or wool.

Here is a long paragraph upon self it is more than time that I say to you I rejoice with you in the mercy you have received similar indeed in circumstances to my own. You have been sick and are recovered. SohaveI.Youhaveleftyourservantsbyfickleness.SohaveI.Averyuseful one which attended me was taken ill not with the same disorder and has lain in a dying state above a month. We think it a dropsy – – She is patient bearing her heavenly father’s hand in full hope of being admitted to his glorious abode through her Redeemer the Lord Jesus Christ – – she is a Catholic and truly I must say of her that she has behaved much like a Christian while she lived with me.

Irejoicetohearthatyoursonsareinhealth.Willyouoffertothemmy very warm regards and to your daughter to though she is unknown personally yet for the families say and a sincere regard I dare to her husbandIwishhereveryblessingandasIfindsheisliketohaveanumerous family it may not be amiss to say as old Mme. Savage once did on the similar occasion may she be endowed with the “wisdom of Solomon, the strength of Sampson, the patience of Job, and the courage of David.” For she will need all those graces. We had letters from Windsor as late as the 15 May. Mrs. Thomas had been exceedingly ill but was recovering though not able to write or speak but she sat up part of the day – – her amiable daughter Sarah is still with me indeed she is a most attentive worthy good girl and what I should doif shewouldaccepttheoffersthathavebeenmadetohertojoinhands in the matrimonial line I do not know. Nevertheless I am not so selfishthatIwoulddetainherwhenshecangetherownconsenttoenterthatstate.HersisterMaryIfindbyNewport is about to try that change of state but the family say nothing of it to me. I hope when ever they marry it will be for the best. Adieu my dear friend believe me yours sincerely A W

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• On December 3, 1792, George Washington was re-elected President of the United States.

• On December 22, 1793, Henry Packer Dering married Anna Fosdick, the sister of Nicoll Fosdick.

• On January 4, Nicoll Havens Dering was born to Esther Sarah and Sylvester Dering.

• The Thomas’s farm in Windsor, NS was sold.

• Mary Sylvester Dering died on August 19, 1794.

• On March 22,1795, Frances Mary was born to Anna Fosdick and Henry Packer Dering.

• The London burial records are now on line and note that Abigail Grant died on March 28, 1795 on Clay hill, Enfield, of a “painful and lingering disorder.” Michael Boonstra, the Chesebrough/Grant historian suggests that Alexander Grant died of tuberculosis, which is highly contagious, and, having nursed him, Abigail probably caught it and died of it as well.

• News of the family, included the knighthood of Governor Wentworth, which made Elizabeth Dering Wentworth’s daughter Frances, Lady Frances Wentworth.

Book: 6Number: 559Date: 8/30/1795To: Sylvester Dering From: Sarah Dering ThomasPlace: Windsor

Windsor August 30, 1795WithmoregratificationthanIcanexpressdidIthismorningreceiveandperuseyourfriendlyletterbeganonthe29Aprilandfinishedthe 23 of May where in you kindly gave me the particulars of your settlement of your parents estate and as I feel myself interested for my brother’s children as though my own I most sincerely congratulate youuponhavingfinishedyourarduoustask–andrejoiceyouhavegiven up your trust with satisfaction to the quarters concerned as well as obtained such a settlement of your parents estate as was pleasing to yourself and I think just and equitable between you and your brother. You did not mention what your sister’s legacy was but I am truly happy tofindyouareallunitedandstillremaininharmonyandloveforthecontrary frequently takes place in families on the like action – but your parents wisely conferred upon the subject with you before their death which left you room for proper adjustment. You have my best wishes that you may all continue in peace and harmony through life and that we may all meet at last where we shall join in harmonious love and praises for ever and ever.

I am very sorry so many of my letters have misscarried as I fear has – I wrote you a particular account of your Coz Eliza’s marriage and if Imistakenotthatshehadasonbornwhichgrowsfinallyandisthequietest child that ever was. She makes a very attentive good nurse and though a wild girl is becoming quite the grave matron never better pleased than when she is employed in tending her child and her husband sitting beside her which is not so often as she wishes for he is anactiveman–livesonafinefarmconsistingof 1000acresabouttwomiles from my habitation. She has given her son the name of Richard JohnBoyd.Thefirstisitsfather’sname.Theseconditsgrandfathersand the last after Mr. Cunningham’s only sister. She calls him by his

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Father’s name – though not partial to it but on account of its being her husband’s name Tho’ he dislikes it much.

My daughter Gray at present lives in sight of my habitation but their intention is sure to remove a little further from me about halfway between me and her sister Cunningham but as Mr. Gray is now diligently employed in studying divinity proposing to enter soon into the ministry I fear she will not long remain in this town - but we are daily liable to changes in this world and I desire to make myself contented and be thankful that it has pleased God to dispose of them around me for so long a time and bring my daughter Sally once more to my embraces before I quit this world which I must daily now expect from my age. And I ought to render praise where praise is due and hope not to neglect it as it is a circumstance I never expected to meetsomanyof mychildrentogetheragainandlivedtoseetwofinegrandchildren.

This pleasure like others must have its allure for I cannot help feeling the same parental love and longing desire to see my son John as ever although he so sadly neglects me in the writing way. I am like a fond parent ready to make every excuse for him and do consider he has his time much taken up on the farm, which subjects him to fatigue by day anddrowsinessbynightthathecannotaffordtokeepnecessaryhelpand unfortunately for him his little rising family consists of four girls. When I heard last of him from him I have not received a line for four years at least – I think it is – though Mrs. Gray has paid him a visit in thetimebywhomIendeavoredtoofferhimeverylittleproof of myparentalaffectionforhimandhisfamilybutnothingevercanforcea line from him though from others. I hear he ever expresses a great attachment to me and his family - of brothers and sisters the last letter I did get from him he wrote me very particularly of everything. even down to what number of chickens he had and gave me a particular account of his children’s dispositions and everything I could wish of withthegreatestaffection,beggedmenottosupposeheevershouldforget me because he did not write me so often as he could wish – but alas, I cannot feel that satisfactory to an anxious parent who wishes to feel for and with a child in every joy and sorrow that is allotted for theminProvidenceasthoughherown--forwhereincanwediffer,arethey not a part of ourselves which we feel perhaps too much attached to -- but Providence has wisely ordered it. So that if the parent is not taken away by death from their children, the children marry away from the parents and form new connections branching out into a world of new scenes – –

You have my best wishes and most ardent prayers for you, my dear nephew, though it will please God to prosper you in all your lawful endeavorsandasyouremarkittobethefirstdayyouhaveactedforyourself in a separate capacity may it please the supreme being who over rules all things in heaven and earth to give you wisdom from above

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to conduct yourself so well for the good of yourself and family as to be approved by your fellow creatures. Here and meet the approbation of yourGodsuffermemydearnephewtoassureyouthatthetendertieof affection-andregardbetweenus-feelsboundwithadoublecordto me from a strong sense of gratitude that I daily feel and often utter - as from the heart the mouth speaks... For I am not forgetful of the manykindoffersIhavereceivedfromyourepeatedlybothformyself and family such as I have never experienced from anyone else on earth – having received your friendly proposals at a time when I really stood in more need then I at present do (thanks to my kind provider) who has never left me in total despair though at a time the cloud of thick darkness hung heavily over me - then it is my dear nephew - in atimeof needthatwefeelakindoffertobefromafriendindeedinprosperity we seldom want a friend. May I never want gratitude to my God nor my fellow creature.—

I hear from Boston that our good friend George Storer is married to the great satisfaction of himself and pleasing approbation of his own family and his wife. They have my best wishes for future happiness. I hear they have just returned from a visit to your part of the country. I could wish they might have called on you as I think it would give you pleasure as they are a family. All that know must have experienced their goodness in some way or another. I am sure there never could be a better man then Mr. Storer.

I hear Mary has formed a friendship with a man of an amiable character too whom she proposes soon to make happy by giving her hand to and I am sure I wish her every blessing to attend her –

Poor Charles I fear must not make out so well in business as one could wish. Of course thinks but little as I can learn about settling himself in afamilybutIknownothingabouthisaffairs.Idonothearmuchfromthe family and when I do it is but to say they are well.

I hear Mrs. Edwards is a wonder, still continuing her health and spirits which I heartily wish she may until the last-as she is left in the lonely state of a widow without a child and I may say a friend to depend upon. Should Mr. Storer have anything happen to him which God grant there may not to damage- their present felicity.

I feel myself particularly obliged for your kind invitation to visit my native country. You will doubtless believe me when I tell you nothing would give me greater pleasure and to see you and your family one of the greatest inducements – but alas how much easier to plan that it is to execute. It’s true I have but a small family and but little left to call for my attention but that little is my all and break up housekeeping entirely and transport myself and family would not be so easy a matter tobringaboutandIsuffermuchmorethatIcantellyoufromcrossingthe water. My thinks I could not stand such a shock as I experienced

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incomingtothisplace.Iwassoweakeningastobeconfinedforsometime to my bed and now by age and misfortune I feel myself unable to undertake such a jaunt-except it was just to see my friends and lay my bones.

There in my own country, which I should have no objection to but my young friend I feel a something that still draws me towards the ashes of a dear departed friend as though they spoke in tender strains of affectionandsaiddonotleaveme.Butafewdaysandweshallagainlay down together. My children all desired me to remember them inthemostaffectionatemannertoyouandbegof youtooffertheirregards to your wife though unknown to us we all feel and esteem for as the partner of your choice - God grant you may long live in the enjoyment of each other and live to see your dear children grow up in full perfusion of all their fathers and grandfathers virtues – your cousin Sally desires me to say she means soon to write you but assures you it has not been through her neglect that you have not heard from her for she has written you twice since she arrived in Nova Scotia but never got one line from you –

I hope as you mentioned receiving some of my letters that your brother got one from me and we [-] as well as to your sister after the death of yourmother.Offerhimmybestlovewhenyouwritehimandlethim know I was pleased to hear he is settled and got the addition of a finechildtohisfamily.Hehasmybestwishesforeveryhappinesstoattend him and his – I am happy to hear Mr. Gardiner is again settled in business. God give him success and prosper him in all his lawful endeavors to provide well for his family.

Your friends and connections in this place are all well. Mrs. [D-] looking out anxiously for the return of her husband who is gone to Philadelphia in order then to settle in business and when he returns I am sorry to say will take his family to settle there I believe. Charles Anthorpe’s wife has just passed through this place to live with her father at New Brunswick and her husband’s absence who is just sailed from Halifax to the West Indies in full expectation and promise of being made Captain of a ship – –- as yet he remains a lieutenant – – – Late letters from Québec speak your friends they are all well. James Monk is promoted to Chief Justice at Montréal a lucrative employ I hear. I suppose ‘ere this you have heard that Gov. Wentworth is received ... ... honor of being made a Baron Knight of, so now it is Sir John and Lady Wentworth.

They still continue their friendship to my son Charles who by a most rapid promotion occasioned by Prince Edward having troops sent over from England in answer to his request of raising a second Battalion has madesuchchangesthroughhisfirstthatmysonstandsagreatchanceof being promoted to a captain within two years being the third Lieut. and the two above him are men of fortune who mean to purchase

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a company immediately so that he comes on of course the next in command. He is now indulged with the pay of a company for one that is absent as an addition to his pay and a lieutenant told me yesterday was a lucky fellow, to use his expression, being much in favor and esteem by the Prince to which he was pleased to add he justly deserved itforhewasanattentivegoodofficer,welldisposed,andguiltyof noillconductwhichisflatteringtohear.-MaythegoodLordpreservehimthrough life from the great evils of sin – –

I have reason to bless God that he is placed in so exemplary a regiment of officerswhoarenotedfornotbeingguiltyof anyopencrimeandI pray God to deliver his soul from secret sin – – – I join with you in saying I could not have made choice of the military line for him but it appeared at the time to be the only way to provide for himself. Providence seemed to point that out as the only way to promote him and take him at that time from the humbling station of a common laborer who works very hard for his daily bread – – but I trust in the Almighty there will be some way promised out for him (as is I believe his wish) to settle him down with a family and enjoy the fruits of the toils of his youth – some future day. For the Prince is a very strict thoughagoodofficercalledandwhileheleavesnotanytimeforidlenessordissipationinhisofficerstheyhavenocauseforcomplaintasheisthefirsthimself bothearlyandlatetoexerthimself inattentionto the works going on in Halifax as well as by his constant and timely attendance to his duty on parade every day to a moment – –

I think I have given you as particular an account of all your connections in this part of the world as I could. It remains now only to say I have the pleasure to inform you my health is much better than for some years past having not been visited with the return of my annual fever which seemed to attend me, though many around me have been sick with violent colds and coughs, I have great cause to be thankful. I have escaped but I cannot help fearing I must take my turn too. The extreme heat here has for the present month debilitated me so much. I sometimes thought I could not keep about but I have remarkably and Sally tells me it is the only way to retain my health is to go out in the air frequently and I believe it is so. I am often troubled with Boils in my stomach or I should be in better health than since I come to this country. I remarked what you say about your taxes but still am left to wonder why it is so [-] your island or yourself particularly are exempt from them but be that as it may I am truly rejoiced for you, that have been a dreadful burden on many but as the only one remaining on you is for the poor – – you are happy and knowing that whosoever giveth tothepoorlendittotheLordandItrustyouwillfindyourself repaidwithinterest––forthefutureIfindImustasIalwayswishtoconductwith propriety when I can know how and correct my letters to Captain Dering, it seems very natural to me always hearing your grandfather called so that you may not only shine distinguished at the head of the company you have the honor to command but given the Love and

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• On September 15, 1794, Gloriana Havens, Esther Sarah’s sister, was married to the Reverend Whitfield Cowles.

• On February 18, 1796, Renssaelaer Watson Cowles was born.

• Henry Thomas Dering was born to Anna Fosdick and Henry Packer Dering on October 27, 1796.

• Renssaelaer Havens was Esther Sarah’s youngest brother. He was now 23 years old. As soon as he was 18 years old, he left Shelter Island for New York, where he apprenticed himself to a businessman. As soon as he felt competent to do so, he struck out on his own and was soon very successful. Even now, he was indispensible as a merchant and bank to his Shelter Island relatives.

• On February 26, 1797 Esther Sarah’s sister Catherine Mary Havens married Henry Huntington of Utica, New York. They probably met in New York City while she was in school.

• On March 4, John Adams was sworn in as President.

• A deficiency of Iron was understood so a primitive manner for making iron pills was devised.

• Charles Thomas was 25 years old in 1797. The terrible news reached Sarah his mother by telegraph. The first telegraphs were by beacons of fire on hills using a code.


attention of them all and be exemplary in every station you are called to act in through life that may redeem praise and heaven to yourself andfamilyisthemostearnestprayerof yourtrulyaffectionateauntSarah Thomas

This long letter unfortunately being detained by an expected vessel not arriving at this port as was looked for every moment but we now hear is taken by a privateer and carried into Boston, I mean now to forward to my son in Halifax to pass on as soon as possible I can now add that we still remain in health. This 1st of September and that Sir John and Lady Wentworth have passed through this town last week in their chariot and four horses on their way to Annapolis to see the country and are so very urgent to take me home with them in the carriage that Ifearthoughsounfitatmytimeof lifetoshowmyself inpublicatGovernment House. I shall be obliged to go with them or give grave offensewhichwillnotdowhileIliveformychildren’ssakewhoaresodependent. I must exert myself for their interest – once more Adieu andbelievemestillaseveryouraffectionate[-]auntSarah Thomas I hopethiswillnotgetintothepostofficeisassureditwillbemuchmorethan it is worth.

Windsor September 18, 1797My very dear nephewThe last time I wrote you if I recollect right I then told you my dear son Charles lamented you had just left New York before he arrived but if God should spare his life he meant to ask a leave to visit New England and see you all but alas man appoints but God disappoints.

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For on the last month he, poor unfortunate, was ordered out with afriendandbrotherofficerafteranumberof deserters,thePrincelookinguponthemasfaithfulofficerswhohecouldtrustwouldbealertintheirbusinessandinwhomheputgreatconfidence.Theyweresuccessful but upon their return being within 8 miles of Halifax and findingthemselvesmuchfatiguedtheysteppedintoahousetogetalittle rest and just as they were preparing for bed they observed it was proper to look that their pistols were in order in case the fellows might think proper to try to exert themselves and rise upon them upon which Mr. Robertson took his from his pocket and observed, it was well he did for there was no powder in the pan. When upon laying it down onthetableitwentoffandohthedreadfultaleof woetheballwentthrough the breast. Breast of my dear and much beloved son – This is the account taken from his own mouth spoke to Prince Edward himself who went immediately out to meet him the unhappy wretch who was made the means of taking his precious life from him, immediately lost his senses and took up the other with an intent to put an end to his own wretched life but your dear cousin’s last act was a benevolent one. Though mortally wounded exerted himself to call out for help to prevent him. He was bound with ropes but told four Grenadier’s that wassettowatchhimthatheshouldneverrestuntilhehadaffectedit.He broke the strong ropes with which he was bound and threw himself down a precipice but his life was spared though much bruised. I hear he is since more composed. My dear unfortunate son was [-] being bled taken to government house where Prince Edward attended him with all thesurgeonsinthegarrison,butalas,alltheireffortcouldnotavailtodetain him long enough for me to take the last embrace from his dying lips. Though there was an immediate express sent for me and another to Preston for his sister Sally who he wished to see. And she was there with her sister Gray who was put to bed a fortnight before with a stout boy who they have named John William Dering and added the name of Thomas to their son Charles –

Thank God Sally arrived while her brother’s senses remained which they did almost to the last moment and took a tender embrace from him.He,dearyouth,offereduphisferventprayersthatGodwouldsupport his poor old mother for he feared this severe trial would be too much for me as indeed it must be was our support only from humane aidforthoughIhavelongbeenintheschoolof afflictionIfindIhavenotprofitedasIoughtorGodwouldnothavefounditnecessarytohavecorrectedmesoseverelywiththerodof afflictionthisrepeatedhushed to silence but my own grief I then cannot but reduce my pillow with tears/and indulge my own sorrows which surely cannot be a sin for we have ours blessed Savior’s example who wept over the grave of his friend Lazarus and when I think of the awful accident that cut offmydearson’slifeinitsbloomsounexpectedlybutnodoubtwithreturning to receive the approbation of his Prince.

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comforts for one fatal ball has put an end to all our ambitious hopes in amomentandleftmetomournthelossof amosttenderlyaffectionateson who loved me while he was alive nor forgot me in his last agonies at his death – – he was asked if the light of the Windows was not too muchforhiseyesheanswerednosuchthingaffectsmenow....Ilookfor but one light – that I trust as he looked for in sincerity he found, for I doubt not he meant the light of God’s countenance. The noble Prince Edward shed many a tear beside him which he saw poor unfortunate child and noticed to those around him begging all that loved him to love the Prince. I did not go to Halifax as this worthy prince ordered me to have the intelligence given me through the telegraph that he left this world about for that same evening after he received his wound and breathed his last in the arms of Lady Wentworth which intelligence I got in half an hour from the time of his death while I was hearing he was mortally wounded which prevented me a tedious journey I was ill able to undertake for what would it have availed me to have seen his dear lifeless body surrounded with all the military honors of war though it was attended by the greatest number of people that ever was collected in Halifax upon such an occasion.

Both military Navy and inhabitants amongst the number I am told the Prince and Sir John Wentworth attended with the greatest marks of distress and his Royal Highness even stooped behind to drop the tear of friendship over his dear remains – I have this for my consolation that my dear unfortunate child could never left the world possessed with a fairer character nor been better be loved by all that was acquainted with him as a proof it was looked upon an extraordinary thing that the company he paid requested the Prince that they might have leave to put on mourning they valued not the expense if they might have’s leave to put it upon this occasion indeed. I believe all the Garrison wore it from the esteem they had for him but my greatest consolation is that he left as good moral character behind him as ever a young man did being guilty of no particular vice which is a great thing for use in the Army especially. I have many letters of condolence, one from Prince Edward andLadyWentworthbothwhichisenoughtoaffordcomforttoamindcapable of receiving of it but the grief which at present overwhelms me,unfitsmeforlookinguponthemasIoughtandblessingfromheaven to have such friends raised up for one in the time of such sore affliction.SirJohnandLadyWentworthappearedtohaveaparentalfeeling like my own and indeed they have done more for my dear deceased son than ever could been in the power for his own parents to have done.

They took the dear youth when he was obliged to labor with his handsforhisbreadasacommonlaborerinthefieldandthatwithoutreceiving even thanks [-] his employers for it because he would not be a burden as he called it to me who he knew had but a small allowance. Sir John took him by the hand raised him to what he was nor left him until he introduced him to the worthy Prince Edward from whom he

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• On December 3, 1797 Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington became the parents of Catherine Havens Huntington.

Book: 6Number: 576Date: 1/7/1798To: Sylvester Dering From: Cousin Sarah ThomasPlace: Windsor

had his promise that he would never lose sight of him while he could promote him through life and still this humane Prince has entered into the distress of my family and with his own hand as a friend to me. He shall make it the study of his life to prove himself a friend to me and my family that he most heartily felt for me in the loss of my unfortunate son. But he could only say that he loved him with the tenderestaffectionandvaluedhimasamanandanofficerashighlyasit was possible in life for one friend to regard and esteem another and should feel his loss most sensibly and regret him till the last day of his existence. Indeed he says everything that humanity can express. I wish you were near enough to [-] the perusal of his letters but as he observes it pleased our Almighty Creator to take him from us.

And it is our duty to be resigned to these [-] sentence however hard it may be, may I but make a right improvement for my own spiritual goodandfinditisgoodformethatIhavebeenafflicted.IthenmustrejoicethoughatpresentIfinditgrievoustobearthispainfulsubject.I doubt not will distress you to read as has me to relate but as one so near and dear to me I thought you would feel so interested as to wish to know the particulars of this melancholy event I have only left room tooffermyaffectionateremembrancetoyouyourwifeandfamilyfromyourmostaffectionatethoughafflictedauntSarah Thomas

I know not if I mentioned in the enclosed lengthy epistle that it was the seventeenth day of August 1797 that your dear cousin quit this globe. I trusttojointheglorifiedspiritsabove.YourcousinElizaCunninghamonthememorableFourthof Julygavebirthtoafinelittlegirlwhichshe calls Elvira Dering Boyd dropping the last name when called for. Shewasconfinedjust19daysbeforehersisterGray.

Windsor January 7, 1798First, my dear cousin, I must present you and yours with my fervent wishes for every happiness in the new year just opened to us. No person is more comforted by their friends prosperity than myself as in them centermyonlysatisfactioninthisworld.Youraffectionatefriendlyletter wrote the 28th of last October came safe to hand a little more than a month from the date. Pray accept my thanks for the tenderness and sympathy expressed in every line. I feel that you ought to have read from my pen when you did from my good mother, but really, my cousin, my mind shrunk from the task and omitted the duty I owed to manyabsentfriends.GreatwastheafflictionGodcalledmetosustainin the death of my darling brother Charles. I was too ambitious of his risingvirtuesandflatteringprospects.InhisgraveItrustallmyvainexpectationwillforeverrest.Ineverallowedmydesirestofixonthisworldforpermanentcomfort,yetIfindtheydotedwithtoomuchjoyon my interesting Charles. I know heaven is just and does not correct

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but in mercy. I strive to bow resigned and hope I do not deceive myself into a belief of being what I am not. That God is the only object to rely on I know and when we seek otherwise for sound satisfaction our hearts frequently bleed at the mistake, thus I have ever experienced in my journey through this world. My bosom was no stranger to lessons of adversity but oh! this stroke of sudden horror which I witnessed in our Charles melancholy fate is indeed clothed with particular gloom. Still I strive to say amen. In the deepest sorrow consolation springs from the fair character my deceased brother left at his early exit from this life. Not one who heard the story but lamented his fall I trust the eventwilleverremainaliveinmyrecollection,tohumbleandfitmefora world rest in peace we must go to our departed friends. They cannot return to us. Happy idea that through Christ merits we may look forward to eternal felicity and expect a union with such as God admits to glory.

Mymothernodoubtinformedyouof thefirmresignationwithwhichCharlesmethissuddensummonsfromlife.Hesufferedwithpatienceand said it seemed hard for a young man with his prospects thus to die, concluded by saying God be praised. My mind has great comfort in knowing the purity of his principles and that he thought on futurity with great seriousness long before his death. Indeed I have not a cause for complaint. Heaven decrees what is right. At some future period mortals may see mystery done away and acknowledge perfection in that divine government which human nature sometimes is lost in contemplating. It was a subject of regret that my Charles could not command time to visit you when he went to New York. Now I view it fortunate he did not as it would add much to your distress for you must have loved him more had you known him intimately.

On a third page and still the same gloomy style. For this reason I avoid writing as my pen ever moves in sincerity and cannot oppose the feelings of my heart. On this sad event I could dwell till life ends. It is notacommonafflictionGodhascalledustomourn.Mostearnestlydo I long to embrace you and yours.

Your son Charles Thomas I might feel too deeply interested in. I request when he is old enough to go abroad that you would send him to visit me. By that time I shall be a frightful old maid such as young men hate, but I shall have delight in looking on him as your child and a namesake of one who was the pride of my fondest hopes. All thepleasuremustbemine.Hecouldfindobjectstoamuseinthenew scenes of country etc. etc. etc. which ever present the observing stranger. If you would think so you can take your amiable partner and visit your relations in Nova Scotia, but alas you will not indulge us. I pray your blessings may continue in your joys increase particularly that youmayfinallybecrownedwitheverlastingglory.

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Book: 6Number: 577Date: 4/20/1798To: Sylvester Dering From: Sarah Dering ThomasPlace: Falls Brook – Windsor

earthlycomfort.Godoughttobethefirstandgreatestobjectof ourlove, gratitude, and praise. The tender ties of near and dear friends are toofrequentlyincentivestofixourwishesonthethingsof timeandsense.Mysisterseachappearhappyintheirhusbandsandfinehealthychildren. The youngest child of both families have the name of Dering.

Mr. Cunningham expects to sail for England in the course of a month, business calls his attention there, and my sister is all sadness on the occasion. Thus all prospects of comfort must be dashed with bitters in this life. Mrs. Cunningham has been too happy for this world the last four years and now perhaps is to meet a change to prove that earth is not an object to rest on in peace. Mr. Cunningham is one of the best men in life and a fond indulgent husband. Few women I fear are blessed with such a companion. You, my cousin, express perfect content in your situation. I rejoice at the sense you have of God’s goodness and hope it will please him to prosper your every joy. It is not common for men to believe they have enough of this world’s goods. Fortunatelyyouaregratefulandsatisfiedif youwritesincerelywhichIcannot doubt. The poor I hope feels comfort from your store of plenty, and the indigent bless you for bountiful donations. Can there be greater joy than doing good.

Falls Brook Windsor April 20, 1798My Dear NephewYour Coz Cunningham gave me a few seeds for you, which came fromtheWestIndies,andIthinkyouwillfindthemacuriosity.Mr.Cunningham put this seed into his garden last year and raised squashes from the vine 120 weight. It is a winter squash that you may hang up in your kitchen or any place where it is dry and doth not freeze and cut a piece out the size you wish to Boil and the other part that remains will receive no injury. The vine doth not spread much but grows straight and I do not know but would run the length of an acre. I lament I missed sending them when I wrote you a long letter the 17 instant but asvesselsarefrequentlypassingIwillhavethemreadyforthefirstconveyance. The people in this country choose to put them in early that they may have the warm sun long enough to ripened them before a frost comes on, but as you may have warmer weather with you I think with proper cultivation they may grow to an immense size. For Mr. C being much from home had no assistance at all not even been once hewed.

For my own observation and what I hear of the seasons in my own country the climate is much the same. Sometimes severe winters and sometime moderate open ones. The last winter there has more snow fallen in two or three day than I ever remember to have seen before in my life, and the oldest men in the place say they never saw such a sight before but one winter had not but a few days severe cold. The autumn’s very pleasant. But though as warm in the summer as one would ever wish.

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• Also in 1798, Eli Whitney contracted with the United States for 10,000 rifles, which he produced with interchangeable parts.

• William Jenner published his work on inoculations with cowpox to prevent smallpox. “Jenner’s unique contribution was not that he inoculated a few persons with cowpox, but that he then proved [by subsequent challenges] that they were immune to smallpox. Moreover, he demonstrated that the protective cowpox pus could be effectively inoculated from person to person, not just directly from cattle. Jenner successfully tested his hypothesis on 23 additional subjects.” Donald Hopkins at Wikipedia.

• Brinley Sylvester Dering was born on February 17, 1799 to Anna Fosdick and Henry Packer Dering.

• On May 9, 1799 Renssaelaer Havens, New York businessman, married Anna Jenkins.

• Hepzibah Small Edwards was now 85 years old.


Seldom such warm nights as in my own country. Though I felt more last summer then since I have been an inhabitant here. I am told the winter has been much the same in Boston. I have the pleasure to tell you all your friends in this place are at this time very well. I hope you will get my letter safe written the 17th as well as this scrawl, and when everyoucanfindleisurefromyournecessarybusinesssinceyouleaveme without much hope of seeing you, I trust you will indulge me with a few lines if no more than to let me know that you and yours are well andhappy.Remembermewithmuchregardandaffectiontoallyourfamily. And rely upon it. I speak the sentiments of my heart when I tell you it would add more satisfaction to me to see you then I can tell you butIshallwhileIliveflattermyself youwillatleastletmehearfromyou while we have such frequent intercourse by water which I conclude will be while the plaster of Paris is in use. Pray have you ever tried any of it as manure. If so I hope it has succeeded well. It seems now to be in great demand just as we had sold our farm so while we had it I must say it was a great injury to us – as your uncle lost much by it. But I desire to consider that all things are for the best and ordained by an all wise Providence under whose care I trust will ever be protected through timeandeternityyouraffectionateauntSarah Thomas

You did not mention how your sister Gardiner did when you last wrote. I often think of and pity her much.

Windsor May 23, 1799The time seems long, my dear nephew, that I impatiently have waited to hear from you as the last letter I got gave me such unpleasant accounts of your eldest daughter’s being so very ill state of health has awakened all my fears for her, but your cause tells me (her namesake) that I always anticipate evils and evil things always on the dark side. But that as she has youth on her side and all proper medical assistance that with the blessings of Providence she hopes we may have better accounts from you than our fears may suggest. Be it so and I humbly trust we shall soon have the happiness to hear yourself and family are

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in the enjoyment of perfect health. The much to be dreaded fever that has so repeatedly visited the Gettys in your government, I trust in God will not be again permitted to rage amongst them. The remarkable cold and backward season that has so long continued in the states I trust may in Providence be the means of killing that dangerous and malignant disorder –

It has been very cold and backward in this Province. Although not a severe winter by any means, gentle snows, but the weather not sharp wehadfinerainallwinterbutnoviolentstormsordeepsnows.Thingsnow begin to look pleasant and spring like around the country. I heard a few days since that my daughter Gray and her family was well as is your cousin Cunningham and her family – as for my own health at my time of life I have no cause for complaint as I am taught to look for sorrow in pain. My friends all tell me I look hearty and well and while I can keep about and not burden my friends I hope I shall be thankful. But my poor stomach is so constantly disordered with boils that I cannot wholly remove that it is a continual distress to me and so will remain I fear until a bilious fever or some such just order puts a period to my life.

We must all have something. God grant I may be prepared whenever it may please Almighty God to call me. This is a world of continued change. Sorrow and pain to individuals and as a nation great troubles and promotions seem to have over spread all the earth. What dreadful accounts we have from Ireland. But what are the outward noise and clamor of wars to the inward troubles we have to fear from those dreadful ones that are pouring in from that diluted people to turn the hearts of the ignorant people in every city and town around to raise up animosities amongst us until from appearances we may be destroyed by those within ourselves, but the Lord reigns and I trust he will as he has done. Fight our battles for us and give us great cause to rejoice as in the past season we had for the great victory obtained by Nelson for whichmaywelooktothegreatfirstcauseandgivetoGodalltheglory.Your cousins Nat and Sally desire their kind remembrance to you and yourfamily.TheyflatterthemselvesthattheirbrotherJohnmaypayusa visit this summer. But as I remarked my own disposition to you before I have my doubts. I remember what it is to leave his farm in the busy season and a wife and family which many particular circumstances may prevent his leaving home. But you will readily believe I should be made happy by seeing him.

As well as you or any branch of your family for my time can be but short that I can expect to be an inhabitant of this globe. Will you allow me to be so inquisitive as to ask if he has ever paid you what was due upon a note of your fathers. I wish it was in my power to cancel it both for your sake and his if he has not but I am sorry to add I have somedifficultiesthatpreventmydoingasIoftenwish.ButItrustitisnot deemed by any to be free want of inclination to do what is right

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.• There was a pestilence of yellow fever in New York City during the summer of 1799.

• On September 16, 1799, a daughter, Frances, was born to Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington.

• On October 25, 1799 Representative in the Fourth Congress Jonathan Nicoll Havens died. He was unmarried.

• George Washington died on December 14, 1799.

• On September 29, 1800, a daughter, Gloriana, was born to Anna Jenkins and Renssaelaer Havens.

• Frances, born in 1776 to Desire Brown and Nicoll Havens, never married. Sylvester was her sister Sally’s husband. Sister Dering is her sister Sally (Esther Sarah) and Sister Huntington is her sister Catherine Mary, married to Henry Huntington in Rome, NY.

Book: 7Number: 607Date: 12/3/1800To: Sylvester Dering From: Frances HavensPlace: New York

just or good – – pray how is your sister’s health. I hope better. I often think of and sincerely feel for her when I consider how many pleasant hours I have spent with her and you in Marshfieldhouse.Butalasthesereflectionsservedbuttoremindushowfadingallthosecomfortshasbeen. May it but teach us to seek more permanent Joy above. Do you everhearhowourfriendsMrs.Johnson’saffairshaveworkedout.Iwish he may still be successful when his business is [-].

As for Charles and George Storer their names are never mentioned by their families when they write any more than if they were no more.

Mrs.Edwards,heardtheotherday,stillremainsinfinehealthandspirits but is very deaf and looks very old – but what is more – – I heard a dissenting shock clergyman that came from Boston a few days since say, she told him. She was in her 84th year a secret I never got before, or ever expected she would divulge. A remarkable woman allagreeinsaneforoneof thatagebutasusualmypaperisfilledwhen I am writing to you ere I am aware and leaves me only space tosayIhopeyourbrotherandfamilyiswellandbegyoutooffermyaffectionateloveinregardstohimyourwifeandfamilyandrememberme as an old aunt that has ever your best interests at heart as though thechildrenof youraffectionateSarah Thomas

New York 3 December 1800My dear brotherThis will inform you of my safe arrival in New York where I arrived this day – welcomed by all friends – I have had a slow and easy journey to this place – the horse that we set out with has doubtless made his appearance at Shelter Island before this time – and I suppose that you have the particulars of his behavior – I consider it a great mercy that we all escaped without broken limbs – and in my opinion the horse is entirely condemned – We had a poor more some Southampton and were obliged to make short stages is the reason of her being such a length of time getting over 100 miles of ground – Brother Renssaelaer wishesyoutosendonthissaidintolerablehorsebythefirstgoodopportunity by the post or any other way – you please – he wishes to

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• On February 22, 1801 Lodovick Fosdick Dering was born to Anna Fosdick and Henry Packer Dering. (He died on September 6, 1805)

• On February 23, a daughter, Anne, was born to Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington.

• On March 4, Thomas Jefferson was inaugurated as president.

• On March 18, Elizabeth Dering Gardiner, daughter of Thomas and Mary Dering and wife of Dr. Nathaniel Gardiner, died. She left three children, Maria Sylvester age 17, Robert Smith 15, and Elizabeth Packer 13.

• There are periodic mentions of Pamela in a variety of letters, mostly those to and from various folks living at the Huntington house in Rome, New York. We do not know who Pamela is.

• On September 5, a daughter, Charlotte Mary, was born to Anna Jenkins and Renssaelaer Havens.

• On June 15, 1803, Mary Catherine Havens, daughter of Sarah Fosdick and Nicoll Havens, became the second wife of Ezra L’Hommedieu.

get him into a carman’s cart – and I think I shall be happy to see him in one of these carts – Brother Rensselaer tells me he wrote me a long letter by Fordham and sent me some things – the stone pots I wish Remington to take care of and put in the house – one of them belongs to Sister Dering – and I wish him to take care of the sacks – the cloth for the coat that brother R sent me – Sister Dering can keep if she pleases – it is of the same tease of Sister Huntington’s – I can get some that will answer for me – –

Brother Renssaelaer wishes you to pay Mr. Harlow for his feathers. I think there was £11 and a half or 3/4s are 4 shillings. Brother Renssaelaer wrote me to pay it in his last letter. I expect you will break the letter open – –

I have heard from Sister Huntington and family they were well – I think she must have wrote me by the last post – – I would thank you to sendmemyringbackbythefirstgoodopportunity.Thesmallestonewas meant for me and you may send Sister Cowles – to me also – the two small ones were for me – I shall write sister Polly particularly by Parker and send the thing that you sent for.

I would thank you to tell Remington to take care of the chair – and carry the harness in the house – – be so good as to give my best love to all your family, tell sister Dering I intend to write her by Parker if I can – give my love to Mrs. Parker – and with every wish for your happiness believemeyouraffectionatesisterFrances Havens

Sister Anna [Renssaelaer Havens’ wife Anna Jenkins] desires her love to sisterDeringandallfriends–shehasafinebabe[Gloriana] looks very much like our family – – –

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• On the same day, a daughter, Henrietta Desiree, was born to Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington.

****************This letter was written to Maria Gardiner from her father Nathaniel Gardiner *******

• On February 28, 1804 Gloriana Havens Dering was born to Anna Fosdick and Henry Packer Dering.

****************This letter was written to Esther Sarah Dering by her husband Sylvrster Dering*******

Book: 7Number: 613Date: 3/8/1804To: Esther Sarah Dering (Sally)From: Sylvester DeringPlace: Albany

Albany March 8, 1804My dear SallyThe day before yesterday I received a letter from brother Harry dated Sunday evening 20 February in which he informs me that he had heard that you was all well the Wednesday before wrote; but that on account of a very severe snowstorm there had been no path into and from the island since that time which I conclude was the reason of my not hearing particularly from some of my family – – He informs me that Capt. James Havens was very unwell and he was fearful from what he heard that he would not get up again which I was very sorry to hear – –

In my last I wrote you the quantity of snow we had in this part of the country which has decreased very little since the day the snow thaws considerable – – it snowed a little the [-] part of the day and the latter passed as rain some though not much. The deep snow makes it very

East Hampton 15th of January 1804My dear daughterI much expected to have received a letter from you this day but am sorry to say that I am disappointed. Hope my child you will not let pass another so great an opportunity as I am anxious to hear how your cough is and whether you are not in want of more of your new prepared medicine which I wish you to be particular in taking agreeabletodirections.Ithashadagoodeffectonthosewhohavetaken it here and I fondly hope it will have equally so on you – – I was at the Harbor yesterday. Eliza is well and sendslove to you as is all your relations and friends who desire also a place in youraffectionsandyourgrandmothercontinuestogainstrength,saysshe misses you very much but hopes that she [-] continues recuperating until you have made your visit and that she should live to see you in better health – – Aunt Sybel, poor old girl, tumbled topsy-turvy down the garret stairs the other day carried away her beautiful (nose) and bruised her otherwise much. No bones were however broken or dislocated. She is better and waddles about the house in her vocations as usual. We are preparing Bob for a voyage to Shelter Island to be prepaid for an admiral or at least a Commodore. I hope he will not flinchaspoorDickMulfordhasforthenheshallonlybemasterandcommanderof somesmallfishingschooner(if that)––takecareof your health mind no fashions but those that will be to that purpose withloveandaffectionIammydearchildyourfatherNatGardiner

Book: 7Number: 612Date: 1/15/1804To: Maria GardinerFrom: Nathaniel GardinerPlace: East Hampton

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• On March 25, 1804, Dr. Nathaniel Gardiner, widower of Elizabeth (Betsy) Dering Gardiner, died. His children were: Maria Sylvester then 20, Robert Smith 18, and Elizabeth Packer 16.

• On August 24, 1804, a son, Renssaelaer Nicoll, was born to Anna Jenkins and Renssaelaer Havens.

• On September 29, Henry Sylvester Dering was born to Esther Sarah Havens and Sylvester Dering.

distressing to the people in the northern part of this country. I have been told that 1000 head of cattle have already perished for want of fodder and many more must follow the same fate – –

I have this day received a letter from brother Renssaelaer in which he informed me he thinks I had better continue some person in Mama’s house for another year as he does not think it at all likely she will go to housekeeping. But I do not know what to say about John King. He does not suit me and I do not like his connections, neither can I put confidenceinhim–Ibelieveyouhadbettertellhimassoonasyoureceive this letter that I have received a letter from Mama and her expectations at present are that she shall want the house herself and that I can hire it on no other terms than to quit the house, when she may want it, and that I suppose he would not like to stay unless he could have it for a year and that he can likely accommodate himself better than to tarry there on uncertainties – And should I not get home beforefirstof AprilMr.DrakemustthengoanddelivertoJohnKing’scow, weigh him, one of my hogs and the quantity of pork which I had of him and lock up the house and see the cattle etc. etc. are taken care of and I will settle with him as soon as I come home – –

I am very sorry to hear that Aunt Eldridge has not been able to spend any time with you. I expected Nancy would have been sick long before this time. I sincerely hope and pray she may do well and that all our lives may be spared to meet again – – I have not heard from Rome since I wrote you last.

I am expecting to hear every day and hope to hear that mama and Sister Fanny intend returning with Sister Polly – – Give my love to our children. Tell them I hope they are careful to attend to their books, catechism, prayers, and their school, as they know not whether they will ever have such another opportunity. I think much of you all and am quite tired of being here and of living so inactive a life and shall be happy if I live to see the day when I can set my face homewards – – I hope Mr. Drake will not get homesick before I get home and that Comus will conclude to carry with me another summer at least. Remember me to Mr. Mallory to Robert Gardiner, Robert Morey and toallthefamilyandbelievemetobeyourtrulyaffectionateSDering

I will write you again on Saturday if anything turns worth communicating.

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• On November 9, 1804, Maria Sylvester Gardiner died. She only outlived her father by a few months.

Book: 7Number: 614Date: 10/2/1805To: Sylvester DeringFrom: Sarah D Franklin - Sarah Thomas’s daughterPlace: Windsor

Windsor October 2nd, 1805Well may you, my dear cousin Dering, imagine me an inattentive friend for so long neglecting to write you. With the ill health of my little daughter has been such for near two years has occupied my whole time, that happy though anxious employment is now closed as it pleases God to take her to himself on the fourth of last month. She was two yearsfivemonthsold.Theseveremannerinwhichshecutherteethappeared too much for her though when born she was an uncommon stout and healthy child. She has so early paid the last debt that nature that I cannot doubt of her being perfectly happy, yet I feel the separation very severe, but trust God will give me humble resignation to his will in this and every other trial through my life.

It cannot be long ere I am called to bury my only sister also as she is much wasted and seems very near gone in a consumption. God’s powerisgreatandhisgracesufficienttosupportthosewhotrusthismercy.ThisconfidenceinChristhasbeen,andis,mycomfort,myconsolation, and peace.

I have many blessings still lent me, for which I wish to be thankful. I remember the subject of your last letter to me was on what I had wrote respectingtheindifferenceIfeltsomeyearsbacktoeveryobjectinthisworld except my good mother. it has ever been my intention to give you my reason for those sentiments, as you appear to laugh at them because I have since married. At that time I was a single woman and without any prospect of a support but from my own exertions.

I had allowed myself to be strongly attached to my brother Charles who was rising and all the honors of this world as fast as human vanity could desire. You know how suddenly, How awfully, he fell to the grave in the bloom of youth. The decree of heaven was almost too immediately executed for my weak mind to support as a Christian ought yet time that soothing balm to woe, so far overcome myindifference,thatIhavesincefeltanaffectionateinterestinakindhusband and very dear child. Yes, I have perhaps again loved too much which may be a reason for my being called (thus early) to part with an only child. Ifinditinvaintoresolveagainstattachmentstouncertainobjects.Our nature is such that we must love and mourn alternately. Happy forus,isif atlastwearerefinedbyafflictionandgainthatCrownof glory (through Christ’s merits) which cannot fade away. I do not forget my absent friends, cousin, but have rejoiced in hearing from you and yours through my mother, who is an excellent correspondent. Allow me to congratulate you on the birth of your last child, who I hope will together with all your other family live as blessings and comfort to Mrs. Dering and yourself.

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• On December 3, Elizabeth Packer Dering was born to Anna Fosdick and Henry Packer Dering.

• On February 1, a daughter, Gloriana, was born to Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington. (She died on December 2, 1808.)

I am sorry to learn that my cousin Henry, your brother, is not in as perfect health as renders life easy. Trust he is better than when you last mention him to my parent. I love your brother very sincerely though he does not care one farthing for me. What are the inclinations of your [- - - ] I should like to hear how they get on in life.

Our old friend Charles Storer is what you call a Rolling Stone, of course cannot accumulate Moss. I wish him every good for old acquaintance sake. You have frequently railed me about him, but you now see I told you truth, though you thought I spoke while [-] at the time.

My brother Nat appears very happy at domestic life. He has a son nine monthsoldwhoisafinechildandisinfeaturesasmuchlikehisfatheras possible. My mother enjoys great health for one so far on in life. Indeed I do not like to recollect her age because it assure me that she must soon leave me in the course of nature, though my probation may be soonest complete.

October 23th , 1805 Windsor Nova ScotiaMr. Franklin is just writing to his brother in New York and says he will cover this letter to him therefore I hasten to add that I had meant to say ere I closed my writing that we had an agreeable family joined to our society and not of the Dr. Cox who was president of King’s College in his place. But alas how short was our admiration of his worth from being in good health and spirits (at supper with his amiable family) at 9 o’clock in the evening of the 22 instant he went to bed in ease, slept till two, as usual when he turned quick which alarmed Mrs. Cox who was awake. She thought him ill and ran for a candle but before she returned he was dead. A sudden and I trust a happy exit as he appeared an excellent man.

I request you to accept of Mr. Franklin’s regards and believe that he would unite with me in giving you a friendly welcome to our residence if you would favor us with a visit. Pleased to assure Mrs. Dering of my best wishes and let your children know I feel an interest in their happiness.remembermeasyourfriendandcousininafflictionS.D.Franklin

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Book: 7Number: 615Date: 5/20/1806To: Sylvester DeringFrom: Sarah Dering Thomas (Sylvester’s Aunt)Place: Windsor

Windsor May 20, 1806Dear SylvesterI am indebted to you for a letter I received relating to a sheep you wished to exchange for one of an English breed and you would return a Spanish one for it. but I have forgot if I have given you an answer or notforIfindIfailinmymemory.

And Mrs. Cunningham continuing still in as weak a state as when I wroteyoubefore.Herfleshwastesveryfast.Stillherdisorderis[-].sofar as that some days she appears to be a stranger: but then like other sick people she is one day better and the other worse, scarcely able to hold up at all.

And the melancholy event that has happened in my son Nathaniel’s family by the loss of his only child has so put everything out of my mind that I have forgot whether I ever have written you since, although I intended it ever wishing to acquaint you of any change that takes place amongst us. as one of my own children. My son is very much overcome and although he says he did not love him too much but often toldhiswifeitwastofindachildtolove.Hedidnotknowhowmuchhe dotted on him until he lost him. He was a very forward child and was to keep away at a very engaging time. Just beginning to go speak. and once alone at 10 months but was judgingly seized. Labored a week then died in convulsions but until that last week of his life never brake his parents of an hours sleep in his life. So we pass of my [-] one after theother,theyoungaswellastheold.ItrustinGodtheseafflictionswillbesanctifiedtoallconcernedforourspiritualgood.AndthatImay by God’s grace be prepared to follow him as at my time of life I ought to expect my summons every day. – –

Your Coz Franklin was here today and appeared very well. But I believe still mourns in retirement for her own loss. While she sympathizes with her brother for all loved his child that ever see it and itbroughtherafflictionfreshtohermindandseemedtoopenherownwounds.

I am sorry to tell you that by accident the name of the person you wished the sheep to be sent to at New York was torn of with the seal on yourletterandasMr.Cunninghamwishestosenditbythefirstgoodconveyance I must beg you to be so good as to send me the person’s name again and the number of the house he lives in and the name of thestreetforIamtoldthatistheonlywaytofindanyoneoutandexceptIknowveryparticularitwouldbeseekinginvaintofindhimout.

It is long since I had letters from New England except one from Mr. Apthorpe who speaks our friends all will accept Noah Green a brother of Mrs. Winslow who was then ill having had a stroke of the palsy. Mr. Storer’s family all well and Mrs. Edwards is as good health and spirits

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• On July 8, 1806, Mary Catherine L’Hommedieu, daughter of Mary Catherine Havens and Ezra L’Hommedieu, was born.

• On February 10, 1807, a son, Henry Watson, was born to Anna Jenkins and Renssaelaer Havens.

• On March 25, the U.S. Congress passed a bill prohibiting the importation of slaves. It would not, however, take effect until January 1, 1808.

• Because there are no letters in the Dering Collection for 1807 and 1808, we thought it would be of interest to include a small sample of correspondence between Henry Packer Dering, Sylvester’s younger brother and the Collector of Customs at the Port of Sag Harbor, and his daughter Frances Mary, age 12, who was boarding at Newark Academy in Newark, New Jersey. These also include letters from her mother, her friend Frances Mary Sage and her cousin Sarah Frances Dering, who has preceded her at the school. Henry Packer Dering faithfully wrote his daughter Frances Mary Dering every Sunday evening while she was away at school. (Some of those letters are at the Long Island Collection at the East Hampton Library. These letters belong to Hannah Stewart Dinkel who is a descendent of Henry Packer Dering through his youngest daughter Ann Charlotte who married William Sleight.)

• Eliza Partridge, another young lady from Sag Harbor, was also at Newark Academy.

***************This letter was written to Frances Dering by her father.********************

Book: DinkelNumber: 61Date: 11/9/1807To: Frances Mary DeringFrom: Henry Packer DeringPlace: Newark

at 85 as she ever was and to follow her she walks so smartly they say you would suppose her not to be more then 30. But perhaps you may have [-] all this and know more than I do about them.

I hear of vessel is to sail tomorrow for New York by which I hope to conveyed this safe to you and also that several vessels are coming up the river this evening supposed from Boston and I hope after so long a time of silence I may get some letters by some of them. I have had your brother much upon my mind since you named his loss of health to me. I trust he is perfectly recovered. I have felt for his loss and were thinking of my son have sympathized truly with him also for I know the severity of parting with a adorable child after your brother [-] best loveandacceptthesamewithaffectionateremembrancetoyourwifefromyouraffectionateauntSarah Thomas

Newark November 9, 1807My dear DaughterI must now bid you Adieu – remember the counsel I have frequently giving you – receive with due attention and ever consider the advice and instructions of Mr. and Mrs. Woodbridge as parental – – I must particularly recommend you to the friendship of Miss Eliza Woodbridge with whom I am much pleased. Consider her as your friend and make her one and she will I doubt not will return all and every friendly attention. – Consult her on every occasion when you are at a loss or wish for anything – make yourself known and acquainted with Mr. and Mrs. Woodbridge. Treat them and Miss Woodbridge withconfidence.––IshallgetyourcousinCharles,if Ican,tovisityou when he comes to New York. Write me by every mail and keep a

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Book: DinkelNumber: 22Date: 11/12/1807To: Frances Mary DeringFrom: Henry Packer DeringPlace: New York

Book: DinkelNumber: 9Date: 11/13/1807To: Cousin (probably Sarah Dering)From: Frances Mary DeringPlace: Newark

[Mr. Woodbridge]New York 13 November 1807Friday morningMy Dear DaughterI enclose a letter, which I received from your Mamma on Wednesday last – I leave town this morning for home – – shall write you immediately on my arrival at home – – hope by this you are quite contented and happy – – don’t think too much of home – – apply yourself with diligence and acidity to your studies – – treasure up useful knowledge – remember everything you hear and read that is valuable. Do, my dear Frances consider the preciousness of time and improve every moment – – it is not only necessary to learn but more important to remember and improve thereby – – Mr. Partridge has sent you a book to keep an account of your expenses in dollars and cents. This I shallinsistupon–Ihopeyouwillnotbeobligedtomakeuseof thefivedollars you took – keep that until next spring to buy you a silk frock. If notsufficientIwillgiveyoumore–youshallhearfrommewhenIgethome – Hagar went home yesterday. Tell Miss Eliza Woodbridge I shall take the liberty to write her – – Do my daughter consider her in the light of a sister. I hope she will be attentive to you. – If her countenance is a true index of her mind she is certainly an amiable young lady – I have no time to add – being a good girl and believe me ever your affectionateparentHPDering

Newark November 13My Dear CousinTo comply with my promise I with pleasure write you. I arrived here on Monday evening and although I never was from home much before, yet I am very well contented and like the school exceedingly well. I being a new scholar and not having learned the rules of school I have notimprovedmyself somuchthesethreefirstdays.Iintendto.Weattendtoanumberof differentstudies.InthemorningIhavebeenlearning some few pages of introduction to geography. At 11 o’clock we have a writing master attend us and write till 12 o’clock. Then we have an intermission of two hours and attend to arithmetic and reading in the afternoon. We have a great deal of instruction and good advice given us with our studies so that we can improve and everything if we have a mind to learn. I intend to try to pay my parents in some degree if possible for the great expense and trouble they go to in placing me here by applying myself closely to my studies and obeying

particular account of all and every article, the most minute of all your expenses. – Apply yourself with acidity and diligence to your studies and endeavor to remember the excellent counsel and instructions given you from time to time by Mr. Woodbridge – be contented, be happy – letmehearfromyouandbelievemeyoureveraffectionatefatherHPDering Miss Woodbridge says she will see to having your gown made.

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Book: DinkelNumber: 18Date: 11/15/1807To: Frances Mary DeringFrom: Henry Packer DeringPlace: Sag Harbor

Book: DinkelNumber: 13Date: 11/21/1807To: Frances Mary DeringFrom: Frances Mary SagePlace: Sag Harbor

the rules of the school. Your cousin Francis M Dering

Sag Harbor Sunday evening 15th of November 1807My Dear DaughterBy the date of this letter you will see that I am once more in our little port – – I arrived at home this evening a little after sundown and was happytofindallourfamilyinusualhealth.BetsyPackerandGlorianaare a little indisposed with colds but about and prattling as usual – – your mama brother and sisters are all sending their love to their dear sister and hope she is contented and happy – – Let me know if you are in want of anything. Will send you a little trunk if you need one. Your cousin Sally observed that locks and keys were necessary – – Mr. Partridge said he would send you a barrel of apples – – for you and Eliza – – No domestic news in our small circle – All the sick are recovered or on the recovery – – Mr. Silas Howell’s child is quite ill with the same complaint that Mr. S Raymond’s was ill with – – Miss Betsy Topping has just come in and desires me to give her love to Frances – – Miss Rhoda Taylor is with us and your cousin Robert – – You perceive by this that your seat is not vacant – – Your Mama will write you by next mail – – I shall certainly expect a letter from you at leastonceaweekforsomeoneof thefamily––givemyaffectionaterespect to Miss Eliza Woodbridge. I hope a close intimacy and friendship subsists between you – – My respects to Mr. Woodbridge love to Eliza – – I have but just arrived, several letters to write, the mail to close. Excuse my inaccurate epistle and believe me as ever your affectionateparentHPDeringPS send a little piece of your bombaziet frock to show your Mama – – enclose it in a letter.

Sag Harbor November 21, 1807Dear FrancesI just spared a few ideas from a composition to write to my absent friend. I should suppose you would be glad to hear from Sag Harbor by this time or I am very much mistaken. How do you like living at Newark? I dare presume you want to see our port. The noise of war and battles disturb us very much, on one day we hear the name of peace and on another war is the talk. And one says I will stay where I beandfightformycountry,andanotherisalmostgivenuptodespairand melancholy. But we will drop the subject of war and return to our domesticaffairs.IsupposewhenyoucomebackIshallhardlydaretospeak to you for fear of being interrupted before I get through. I go to Mr. Havens to school yet. He has a great many scholars. The only girls that go are Mary L’Hommedieu, Mary Parker, Nancy Latham, and Mary Hildreth. Last evening Maria Ripley, Maria Parker, and Mary Sayer came here. Mr. G... came with them. He made marks in the ashes how many weeks of Eliza had been gone. The girls said, I wish FMD and EGP were here. Your Papa is very kind and indeed, he has

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Book: DinkelNumber: 19Date: 11/22/1807To: Frances Mary DeringFrom: Anna DeringPlace: Sag Harbor

Sag Harbor November 22My Dear DaughterIwasexceedinglygratifiedonthereceiptof yourletterandhopeyouwill not fail of letting this hear from you every week. You say it appears an age to you already since you left home. That is not strange, but I hope you will not be uneasy nor in the least discontented. And if you are it will not be in your power to make those improvements you otherwisewould.Youmustnotlettriflesdisturbyoubutif anyonetreats you amiss be careful that you do not [-] anyone so yourself. You must always keep in mind that now is your time for improvement and that you may never have another so good an opportunity – – Your PapaIfindwasverywellpleasedwithyourperceptionandlikeditbetter than he expected – – You did not say anything about your health which you must always do whether you are sick or well – – YourPapahasbeenconfinedeversincehecamehomewithacoldandinflammationinhiseye.Hedoesnotlooksowellashedidwhenhe came home before – – Your Papa got a small trunk when he was in New York which I will send you if you think you have need of it. Your stockings are ready to send but I shall not send them until your nightgown is ready and will send them all together. You must let me know if there is anything else that you wish for that I can get and I will send it in the trunk. Your Cousin Sally said she did not keep anything in her bandbox except her bonnet and that you must be very careful to keep your trunk locked and I hope you will take particular care not to let my letters get exposed. We are all as well as we generally are. Your little kittens will not forget you. Gloriana talks about you all the while. She says my Cackle sends her love to her. Little Jodi and Betsy Packer begins to talk very plain. Ms. Betsy and all the rest of the family send their love to you. Be a good girl my dear and believe me your affectionatemother,ADering

offeredtofrankallthelettersIwritetoyouandmybrotherandIshallwrite (if nothing happens) to you once a fortnight. Ms. Rhoda Taylor is at your house making clothes I believe for the family. She expects to go to New York to spend the winter (or rather at Kipps Bay) with Mrs. Holt. I some expect to go to see Mary Sayer tomorrow evening. I wish you would go. If you will I will come and call you. Maria Ripley forgot herself last night and said Frances [-] you and Frances Dering to come to our house on Monday. Don’t cry when you receive this letter. I expect your tender heart will swell and run over whenever you have letters from home. The girls all send their best love to view. Mama sends her love to you and wishes you well. She says she misses you very much not because you used to visit us so often but it don’t seem right to have you gone. The other evening I said I believed I would go and call Frances and go see Cornelia but a second thought came across me that Frances was gone and I gave out going but I went there last Sunday evening and C Fordham P Jeremiah M Parker and Latham and myself. I will write you longer next time, accept my love and best wishes I remain your friend FM Sage PS you must answer this letter and you will oblige your friend – – give my love to Eliza.

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Book: DinkelNumber: 15Date: 11/24/1807To: Henry Packer Dering From: Frances Mary DeringPlace: Newark

Sag Harbor Sunday evening 22 November 1807My dear FrancesBy yesterday’s mail we were all made happy in the receipt of your letter of the 17th instant. We rejoice to hear of your health and your determinations to exert yourself in your studies and every laudable improvement – – It is not in my power to write you a long letter thisevening.I’vebeenconfinedeversincemyreturnhomewithaninflammationinoneof myeyeswhichIbelievewillfinallygatherandbreak – I have not been out of our backyard since my return and it is now three weeks since I visited the Harbor. Your Mama, your cousin Eliza and friend Frances M Sage have all written you by this mail. This must excuse my writing more particular at this time – – I was much pleased with the general complexion of your letter – you must however be more careful about your spelling – – You are too much in a hurry and write the word before you think how it is spelled – to everything withcomposureanddeliberation–Thinkandreflectbeforeyouact– Gloriana is not spelled Glory Ann – I am happy to hear you are so well contented. Hope you will continue to be and be more and more reconciled. – Your cousin Charles Dering goes in the stage tomorrow morning for New York. By him your Mama sends two pair of stockings which I have desired him to give to William Agneau the man who drove the stage that carried us up to Newark. Your Mama will send your nightgown shortly. Let us know if you want anything – If you are goingtokeepthefivedollarsIwillsendyousomemorechangeforyour pocket expenses – – Let me know if you have received the barrel of apples I sent you from New York. I have requested your cousin Charles to visit you in the course of the winter if he has leisure – – My eyeisveryafflictingthoughnotverypainful––myrespectstoMr.andMrs. Woodbridge and be sure to remember me in terms of friendship to Miss Eliza – – Be a good girl, improve your time in acquiring useful knowledgeandbelievemeyourtrulyaffectionatefatherHPDering

Newark November 24, 1807My Dear PapaYours of 15th instant I received last Thursday and was happy to learn that you had arrived safe home and that the family were in usual health. If it is convenient for Papa to send me a little trunk I should be verygladof one.IfindaccordingtoCousinSally’sobservationthatlocks and keys are necessary. – – According to my best ability I will give you an account how I spend my time. We are early risers as the sun, nearly every morning. At 9 o’clock we go to school and recite our lessons which we get the evening before. Read and study in geography until 11 o’clock. Then our writing master attends us till 12 o’clock. We then have an intermission of two hours, in which time Mr. Woodbridge likes to have us take a walk. We generally dine at one and again attend school at two. The afternoon is devoted to reading and ciphering. The

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evenings to study. Monday Wednesday and Friday we dance from fiveto8o’clock.Saturdaymorningwewriteacomposition,givinganaccount of the week studies. Papa, I think our time is very well taken up,somuchasIcannotwritemanyletters.If Papaseesfittosendmealittle trunk by this stage, Eliza desires that you will forward a few small things for her in it, and which she is directing her papa to give you for that purpose.

Since I have been here Miss Eliza Woodbridge asked me if I intended tofindmyhandtowels,asalltheyoungladiesdidthatfurnishedtheirbed. I told her that I did not expect to when I came from home that I had a couple with me and I would write to my parents and do as they thought best. My best love to mama and tell her that she must write me when ever she has time and gives me some of her good advice. The little cakes mama put in my trunk when I came from home do not come amiss. And if mama will send me some things of that kind in the little trunk they will be very acceptable. I am in great haste my love to all the family brothers and sisters your dutiful daughter FM Dering

My dear daughterOne of the most dreadful and fatal catastrophes happened the last week to a citizen of this place that’s almost ever occurred. – – The victim of this fatal accident was my very near and particular friend David Gelston, who died of a wound he received from a gun shot by David Hand while on Gardiner’s Island a hunting deer. – – Oh Frances never did I witness in this place or any other so melancholy an event or so large and mournful a funeral. – – The newspaper I send you by this mail contains some account of his death but not so particular as I will relate. – Last Monday was appointed the day for us to go on the island as usual to kill my oxen which I yearly have from there. – –

The company assembled at this place to take passage. Mr. Gelston went on for the purpose of seeing to the killing and weight of a yoke of fat oxen which his father and uncle Hugh was to have from their and as Mr. Gardiner wishes his deer killed up as they are becoming troublesome he invited a number of gentlemen to come on with their guns to recreate and amuse themselves in hunting. – – Your Uncle Dering, Dr. Sage, D Havens, Richard Nicoll, Mr. Stewart etc. etc. with Mr. Hand who went to see to my business were of the party. – It was my intention to have gone as I had long contemplated the pleasure, business made it necessary that I should be there. I went down on the wharf with the gentleman with a purpose to embark, but a person while there called on me to transact some business that could not be dispensedwith.Iofferedhimtwodollarstotarryuntilthenextdaybuthe said he must go the next morning and his business must be done. Of course I tarried. –

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On Tuesday, after the cattle were killed the gentleman went out hunting, and Mr. Hand in shooting at the deer not knowing Mr. Gelston was near him shot him, of which wound he died. – – He was shotalittlebeforesunsetandbroughtimmediatelyoffinMr.Gardinerswhaleboat with Dr. Sage and Mr. Havens – – they arrived about 8 o’clock in the evening. He languished all that night and died the next morning about 9 o’clock. – – I did not hear of the melancholy accident until early the next morning when I went immediately to his house found him sinking fast but able to converse a little – He had his senses perfectly till he died – – This being my particular and intimate friend I was,youmustwellthink,muchaffected.NeverdidIfeelorexperiencesuch a shock before – – so sudden, awful, and unexpected.

Hispoorwifeisinconsolable.Hisuncleismuchaffectedasareallhisfriends and acquaintances. His father was sick at home and could not see him. His mother did not hear of the fatal accident in time to see him alive. – – She with his brother arrived from Bridgehampton about three quarters of an hour after he died. – – His funeral was attended on Thursday. I should judge that nearly 400 persons were present. – From the time it was known in this place until the present moment all is gloom. –

Every countenance is not only portrayed with sadness but every heart appearsdeeplyaffectedinourvicinitywithmourningforthelossof sovaluable a young man – his age was 31 years. – – Oh my daughter may asuddenandmelancholydeathbesanctifiedtousall,andmaywebeever prepared for that great and awful event as we know not the day or hourweshallbecalledtomeetourfinaljudge.––

Your letter of the 18th instant was received yesterday I am happy to hear that your cousin Charles has visited you and that the trunk arrived safe and that its contents was pleasing and acceptable. – – Your good behavior and improvements shall pay us for it. – – I think you have greatlyimprovedinyourwritingandanmuchgratifiedtolearnthatyou are engaged in composition. – – This is one of the most essential things to improve yourself in, to know how to connect and arrange your ideas and how to express them with propriety on paper. – – Think andreflectmuchonthechoiceof wordsinthemannerof expressingyour thoughts in the most explicit way. – –

I am very sorry you have not received your stockings. This day I wrote Mr. Agneau on the subject as Charles informs me in his letter that they were given to a person that drove his stage in his absence. – – Agneau is the man we went up with from New York and I have wrote him that I shall consider him accountable. I hope they may yet be found and received safe. – – Your moma is quite unwell with a bad cold, though I hope she is rather better of it. She is about but has a bad cough.

Otherwise the family are in health. – – Your mother with your brothers

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• On December 27, 1807 Lodowick Fosdick Dering was born to Anna Fosdick and Henry Packer Dering.

Book: DinkelNumber: 52Date: 1/1/1808To: Frances Mary DeringFrom: Sarah Frances DeringPlace: Sylvester Manor, Shelter Island

andsistersdesireanaffectionateremembrance.––Glorianaismuchpleased in our receiving letters from you and every letter that is brought in to go by mail she asks is that from sister Franny. – – The whooping cough is in the Harbor. We fear our little ones that have not had it will take it before spring. – – There is no one in this place sick – – it is a general time of health. – – Write those of your correspondence whose letters will be the most improving to you and write them all if you have leisure, but you must take time for it. – – Believe me as ever your truly affectionatefatherHPDering

Shelter Island January 1, 1808My Dear Cousin FrancesI received your kind letter Saturday evening. I assure you it was welcomely received. I am much pleased to hear you like your situation. I am sorry to hear Eliza Partridge and Sarah Woodbridge think I have forgotten them, No! My dear girls my memory I hope it’s not so treacherous. Tell them they must write to me. I wish you a happy New Year and give you joy for your new brother. I hope he may live to make up the loss of dear Lodowick and be everything that will add to the happiness of his parents and friends.

There was no need my dear cousin of your good long [letter] asking me to excuse your letter which is very good. I think you have improved in your writing very much. I am glad to hear I have left behind me a good name which you know is better than precious ointment. I hope I have it not undeservedly. I doubt not, you and Eliza that will leave as good ones for I know your dispositions.

Tell me what girls you are the most intimate with? Is Miss Herr your instructress? If she is, present my kind remembrance to her. Do you sleep in the sky parlor? I often sit down and think of you and Eliza until I cannot help crying. I hope to be well enough to return with you in the spring. Nancy and Betsy Nicoll both think they shall go. If I write on this side of the writing will show through – – If I had a better pen I would write better as I think bad writing will be better than none. I know your goodness will excuse it – –

I think you are a girl of good resolution and I hope you will carry through. Do not study so hard as to make yourself sick but take your necessary exercise. – – I suppose you have heard of the shocking accident that happened on Gardiner’s Island. It shows us the uncertainty of life and the necessity of preparing for death. Papa was of the party. – –

Our family are all well. Mama and Papa send their love to you also Margaret who expects if the weather is pleasant to go to Sag Harbor tomorrow. Cousin Eliza never has been here since you went from

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home. We expect she will come soon with Gloriana and make us a good long visit. You did not say how you spent your time in New York. I hope agreeably. I am very glad that Charles has been to see you. Present my respects to Mr. Morgan and Mrs. Woodbridge and Miss Eliza. I am much obliged to you for giving my letter to Margaret McRoy and I am in hopes of an answer by the next mail. – –

Almost every night I dream I am still at Mr. W’s with you. I wish I could realize it. Give my love to all the girls, Eliza Partridge in particular,tellherIrememberherwithaffection.––Imustconcludemy letter by wishing you all the happiness that heart can wish and believemeyouraffectionatecousinSarahFDering––excuseeverything you see amiss.

Sag Harbor 3 January 1808My Dear DaughterWe have daily cause of thankfulness but at some particular times we are more especially called upon to notice the all merciful goodness of our great preserver. We are all, my dear Frances, of our family brought to the commencement of another year, while many of our friends and acquaintances have paid the debt of nature and their spirits gone to an invisible world – – We are also called upon for thankfulness for other mercies.

YourdearMamaissafelyandcomfortablyconfinedandhasafineson.This event took place on Tuesday last. Your Mama was taken unwell about 4 o’clock at the morning and before 8 o’clock was safely put a bed – – She is remarkably smart and comfortable. The little one, a very fat well baby. Your Mama was never before in such cases so well and never have so large a child – – Your Mama has been troubled with a bad cough which is better – – Never was there anyone so much pleased as your sister Gloriana, her little eyes sparkled with the news of having a little brother. She smiled and danced and looked all animation – –

Your letter yesterday gave us all pleasure as in that you still enjoy your usual good health. I think you continue my dear daughter to improve both in your writing and indenting. I fondly hope you will continue your exertions and endeavor to improve yourself and all useful knowledgeandstoreyourmindwithwhatisandwillbeprofitablefor your future comfort, enjoyment and usefulness in life – – Youth is the time for improvement. If you must never expect to have another opportunity as you now enjoy – – Therefore it is the more important that you endeavor to make the best of your time which I have no doubt but you will – –

Your correspondents are becoming more and more numerous. You must endeavor to answer them all in due time but do not let it interrupt

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Book: DinkelNumber: 57Date: 1/3/1808To: Frances Mary DeringFrom: Frances Mary SagePlace: Sag Harbor

Book: DinkelNumber: 48Date: 1/26/1808To: Anna Fosdick DeringFrom: Frances Mary DeringPlace: Newark

a moments time in your studies – – Where you have so many and so many other things to attend to of more importance you must allot to each one a certain portion of time and answer their letters as you havetime,butperhapsbynextmailaftertheirreceiptasIfinditmayencroach on my privilege of franking letters which I have to extend that privilege so far – –

I received not less than 14 letters free by last mail and I shall send not many short of that number by this – – Write us by every mail and if your answer your other friends in the course of a fortnight or three weeks they must not complain – – I send you our newspaper for which you will have to pay 1 1/2 cents – – This I could have franked but chose not as I had so many others to extend that exemption to – – You makeabadfigureof fouryoumakeit4whichistoomuchlikea7– – have you heard anything of your stockings yet. As you say nothing aboutthemIfeartheyarelost.YourMamasendsheraffectionateloveto you. She is able to set up and will I hope be about again in a short time. It is now past 10 o’clock and I have your cousin Charles to write and the mail to close Adieu Be a good girl and believe me your truly affectionateparentHPDering

Sag Harbor January 3, 1808Dear FrancesI will begin my letter by wishing you a happy new year. I received a letter from you yesterday and one from Eliza enclosed there in. By what you wrote in your former letter concerning Mr. Wheeler, I thought you and Eliza had formed a poor opinion of the gentleman. But it seems quite the contrary. On reading your letter I could not help thinking about old times. You say NM [is] always ahead. That is very true. Sally laughs at me for acting so strange when I read your letter. I told her I could seem at school with you and Eliza, and could hear those compositions read that were written last summer. You cannot imagine howdifferenteverythingdoes,whatitdidlastwinterwhenwewentto school, to Uncle Azor. I was visiting MA Douglas last New Year’s day. She and PS say that they should be happy to receive a letter from you. It is Sunday eve, Mr. Snowden, the Methodist, preaches tonight. The bell has done ringing. I want to go very much, and I am obliged to conclude my letter. All the girls send their love to you and ECP. Tell her that I have not time to write to her now but I will answer her short note at a future time. Give my love to Eliza. We did not have any Ball because the gentleman could not attend as they were not disposed to dance after losing their friend Mr. D Gelston. Good evening, your friend FM Sage.

Newark January 26, 1808Dear MamaI received yours of the 18th instant and was happy to learn that through the mercies of a kind Providence you and the rest of the family were in usual health. Yesterday we heard the mournful tidings of

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• On February 2, 1808, a daughter, Lucy, was born to Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington.

Book: DinkelNumber: 11Date: 3/8/1808To: Frances Mary Dering From: Sarah Frances DeringPlace: Shelter Island

• On January 5, 1809, Margaret Sylvester Dering, daughter of Esther Sarah Havens and Sylvester Dering, married Richard Floyd Nicoll, son of Anne Floyd and Samuel Benjamin Nicoll, who lived at Sachem’s Neck, which is what we now call Mashomack Preserve.

• Grandmama throughout this document is Desiree Brown Havens, the second wife of Nicoll Havens, who died at age 50 in 1783. Desiree was the mother of half of his ten children and raised all of them. In 1809, she was 65 years old.

• On February 12, 1809, both Abraham Lincoln and Charles Darwin were born.

• In March, James Madison was inaugurated President. The Shelter Island legend is that his inauguration suit was cut from fabric made from Sylvester Dering’s Marino sheep.

the death of the father of two young ladies from Savannah, the eldest is not many months older than myself. They are deprived of an earthly parent. They must make God their father and put their trust in him. He will protect them from all the danger they are liable to and be their friend in trouble. I hope I shall take warning by this sudden news and be better prepared to meet with what God orders and put my trust in him who does everything for the best. Frances M Dering

Shelter Island March 8, 1808My Dear CousinYou have perhaps thought me neglectful in not answering your letter before. A visit to my Aunt L’Hommedieu for these four weeks past has prevented my receiving yours in consequence of which I could not answer it. I trust my cousin will excuse me. The death of Jeanette Stewart’s father I saw in the paper some time ago, but was quite surprised to hear that S and A King had lost theirs. Poor girls! I pity them. They appeared to be quite friendless when I was there. You say you are very much engaged in preparing for examinations but do not say whether you are going to speak on the stage anymore than to be examined.Ihopeyouareendeavoringtobefirstinyourclass.

While I was at Southold I renewed my cold in some way or other. I cannot tell how. My cough is been rather more troublesome than ever since. I hope to be able to return with you to Newark. Anne Nicoll I believe does not intend returning again. She expects to go now to New York next week. Perhaps you will see her before you do me. Cousin Eliza,Margaretandmyself areseatedroundalargefireintheblueroom. We want yours and Eliza Pease agreeable company to tell us a little about Newark. I hear that religion is greatly reforming in New Jersey. There was something said about it in Newark when I was there. I hear of no new or uncommon events to inform you of.

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Book: 7Number: 617Date: 4/23/1809To: Anne Huntington, Rome, NYFrom: Sarah Frances DeringPlace: Shelter Island

• On July 23, 1809 Thomas Jenkins, was born to Anna Jenkins and Renssaelaer Havens. (He died on Feb. 20, 1810.)

• On June 7, 1809, a daughter, Gloriana, was born to Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington.

• Nicoll Havens Dering, named after his mother’s father when he was born in 1794, was now 15 years old and a new student at Yale. He took up the family practice of saving letters, and many of the letters henceforth are to him.

• Ebenezer Sage was a doctor in Sag Harbor. He was a friend of brothers Henry Packer and Sylvester Dering. His daughter, Frances Mary Sage, was a particular friend of cousins Frances and Sarah Dering. His son John was studying to be a doctor. Ebenezer was also a Congressman.

• Dr. Timothy Dwight IV was the president of Yale College.

• Sylvester Dering was a General in the New York State Militia.

• On August 16, a baby, Margaret, was born to Margaret Dering and Richard Nicoll.

• Sarah Dering Thomas, Thomas Dering’s youngest sister, died on September 28, 1810 in Nova Scotia. She was 78 years old.

Book: 7Number: 628Date: 11/16/1810To: Sylvester DeringFrom: Sarah (Thomas) FranklinPlace: Windsor

Shelter Island April 23, 1809My dear AnneIwasverymuchgratifiedlasteveningbyreceivingyourkindletter.I am much pleased to see the improvement you continue to make in your writing. Remember that youth is the time for improvement. You have parents who are solicitous to give you every advantage. To see you make a proper improvement of them is all the reward they wish. My dear Anne, I often think of you and your dear sister and wish very much to see you all. I hope it will not be long before you will all come and make us a good long visit. I feel truly for you all my dear Cousin in the loss of your dear little Gloriana but why should we grieve for her when she has gone from a world of trouble to be eternally happy. – – Make my best respects acceptable to all my kind friends at Rome. TellthemIfeelverygratifiedtothemfortheirattentiontome.Givemy love to Grandmama. Tell her I am very happy to hear she intends comingdownthisspring.RemembermeaffectionatelytoyourUncleHuntington’s family, to Miss Hurlbert and Miss Easton.Tell Pamela I intend writing to her. I hope I shall have the pleasure of seeing Miss E Floyd before she returns to Western. I believe she is at present in New York. That you my dear cousin may make it your study to become wise and virtuous to be a blessing to your parents and an ornamenttoyoursexisthesincerewishesof youraffectionatecousinSarah F Dering

Windsor November 16, 1810How are you my dear cousin after too long a silence on my part. I now write on the melancholy subject of my dear mother’s death who departed this world on the 28th day of September last. She did not sufferlongwithherlastillness,wasonlytwodayssick.Apaininher

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• On January 2, 1811, Ann Charlotte Dering was born to Anna Fosdick and Henry Packer Dering.

• Nicoll’s mother was writing to discuss fabric for pantaloons, but she also reported as the whereabouts of her various children. Henry was, of course, her youngest child. In 1811, he was seven years old.

Book: 7Number: 630Date: 3/24/1811To: Nicoll DeringFrom: Esther Sarah (Sally) Dering- MotherPlace: Shelter Island

bowels and sickness at her stomach was the fatal complaint which terminated her mortal life. I closed her eyes and death and pray I may be able to end my days with as general approbation as my beloved parent did. She was beloved by all whoknew her. Mrs. Cunningham, Uncle Chip Morton of Boston has wrote some beautiful lines on my mother which are a perfect portrait of her in every point of view if they were not in the newspaper I would copy them for you.

My mother never failed to write you during her life but it is long since shehadaletterfromyouwhichweallregretfeelingthataffectionateinterestinallthataffectsyouandyoursof yourbrotherHneitherhaveweheardandwelovehimalso.Howeverhisideasof usmayinfluencehim to think our family seems to decrease in this world. I trust their soulswillflourishineternalglory.

Mr. Franklin has been very much out of health for six months past. Indeed he has not been well the last two years. He is better and I hope will quite recover soon.

My one little chick of three years old is lively and healthy, but not as well behaved as she should be. This you will say is because she is an only child, perhaps it is so, but I do not indulge her whatever you may suppose.MybrotherNatiswellandhappyinawifeonesonafinestout boy and one girl tall of her age now four years. I feel very stupid and good for nothing myself. The events of this part of the world do not interest you of course to prolong my letter would be tedious. Pray assure your wife children and brother of my best wishes and believe me youraffectionatelyattachedcousinSDFranklin

Shelter Island March the 24thMy dear sonWe received yours of the 12 instant per mail informing us of your health which we were greatly rejoiced to hear but we have heard more directly since by Mr. Oakes who says that he saw you on Wednesday last and that he came away one day sooner than heexpected which was the reason that you did not write. I am the only one of the family except Henry that is at home which is another reason why I write. Your father who is gone to court, wished me to write you and inform you that he had sent you on some cloth for pantaloons but it seems it will be too late for your present use. Your papa says that you do not give him information soon enough.

Sally and cousin Anne are gone to New London. Margaret and the

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• Frances Havens, a daughter of Desiree Brown and Nicoll Havens, died on April 9, 1811. She was 35 years old. Nicoll’s older brother Charles was in New York City at the time.

• On August 6, 1811, a daughter, Elizabeth, was born to Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington.

• Esther Sarah Dering went to Utica to help her daughter set up housekeeping, This is a wonderful letter that described her journey (with its inconveniences) and the frustrations of poorly trained and motivated movers. Margaret was encumbered with a year old child. Mother was Grandmama, Esther Sarah’s mother.

Book: 7Number: 639Date: 8/25/1811To: Nicoll Dering at YaleFrom: Esther Sarah DeringPlace: Utica

little babe are gone to Mr. Nicoll’s. You’ll see that I am quite alone. We hadaletterfromCharlesdatedthefifthandonefromSallyof the15thof this month. They were both very well then. Sally writes that there hasbeenashockingduelfoughttotherebytwoNavyofficersoneof themwaskilledonthespot.Itisanawfulreflectionthatpeopledarethus wontonly to sport with their own lives or the lives of others that life which they cannot give to the smallest insect. Capt. Fosdick and his son Charles have made us a short visit this week past. I have nothing extra to write but what you have been informed of with many wishes for your good health and good conduct hoping to hear from you soon I amyourveryaffectionatemotherSallyDering

Utica August 25, 1811My dear son

Yesterday we were made very happy on receiving a letter from you to Charles, informing us of your health and welfare.

As Charles was going out of the place I concluded to answer it myself wishing to see you and having many things to communicate to you. InthefirstplaceIwillgiveyousomeaccountof ourproceedingsandjourneyings. We sailed from Shelter Island the 16th of July 4 o’clock in the afternoon and arrived in New York the next morning before 12 o’clock. In this place we tarried one week here and from Friday to the next Wednesday. The idea of leaving my dear family so long and such a distance from them seemed to bring on a sick headache with a little seasickness. I felt very unwell when we got to New York. But going out of our pure air into the city and the extreme heat of the weather so debilitated me that I was fearful I should not be able to go on my journeybuthopingthatitwouldbeforthebenefitof myhealth.

I proceeded on with our family taking your grandmother in company we went on board of the new steamboat. The morning above mentionedwehadhardlydrawnofffromthewharf whenoneof theengineers hurt his hand so that they were obliged to set him on shore. The other one on the night following got asleep and let the machinery get so out of order that it detained us much longer on board than otherwise we should have been. We arrived in safety at Albany on Thursday night.

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• On September 11, 1811 Ezra L’Hommedieu died at age 77. He left a young wife and a five year old daughter.

• On December 16, the New Madrid Earthquake struck the Mississippi Valley.

• On March 12, 1812, a daughter, Sarah Jenkins, was born to Anna Jenkins and Renssaelaer Havens.

• Frances Huntington’s mother and Sarah Frances Dering’s mother were sisters, both daughters of Nicoll Havens. Although they were first cousins, the distance to travel to see each other would take at least five days. How could they be friends? The answer is that most probably the girls were going to school in New York City and staying with relatives. In this case, they might very well have lived with their Uncle Havens while at school.

Friday, Mother was so ill that we could not go on. Richard and Margaret went to Waterford and the falls. Saturday Mother was well enough to ride. We got carriage and went on. We were three days from Albany to this place.

On Monday night we arrived here. Margaret’s things not arrived. Next morning your grandmother, Charles, and myself went to Rome, found all friends well there. Your aunt Huntington has another daughter. Margaret came to Rome in a day or two after. I myself our friends would not consent to our coming away until the household goods had arrived. My stay at Rome was a fortnight wanting two days, and this day week we came from there. Thus have I given you an exact account or all out time. Margaret’s things very much injured.

Her beds spoiled. We were obliged to get new bed ticks, and make them, and do the best we can with them.

This you must think was a great trial to me, and much retarded our progress to housekeeping so that we are in quite a state of confusion and now my son I address you on the subject of coming up here. I think you could make a visit here much more agreeable at some future period. Not but that I should be very glad to have you come here and go home with me. I think you will be disappointed as we have not made one acquaintance in this place. Your stay will be so short here andImustgobackinseasontofixyouawayforthewinter.Itwillhardly pay you for coming whether you conclude to or not. You had better go to Shelter Island and let Sally inspect your things.

I have conversed with your Uncle Havens about your coming, and he thinks it much the best and cheapest way for you to come to New York. I shall write your Papa on the subject and you and he can do what you think best. I sent you a pair of white silk gloves from New York for you to wear to commencement. I hope you will make good improvement of all your time and opportunities. We are in tolerable health but not very good spirits.

All join me in love to you. I must conclude by letter or the mail will be closed.ThisfromyouraffectionatemotherSarahDering

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• Miss McDonald was, we believe the governess employed by Renssaelaer Havens to oversee the girls staying in his home while going to school in New York.

Book: 7Number: 655Date: 3/29/1812To: Frances Huntington, Rome, NYFrom: Sarah Frances DeringPlace: New York

New York March 29My dear cousinIt is not that I love you less that I have been so long silent neither is it because I have been engaged in anything important to myself or others, but I believe it is because I have been in trouble which has so much occupied and enervated my mind as to deprive me of the power of writingasIwishedandmyproudheartwouldnotsuffermetorunthe risk of tincturing my friends with my feelings – do not be alarmed –

Itisnothingneworstrangethataffectsme,noranythingfromwhichI may not in time recover – in answer to your question “what have you been doing this winter?” I have only to say nothing – of course you must think that all my time has been occupied, “for various his employments whom the world calls idle” – in this account I mean spending so much time to no purpose. I blame myself very much for having left home – in doing it my own improvement alone was in view if notthegratificationof myfriends,thoughtheyarethesamefriendsstill – but here

“to see the revolutions of the times –– – – – – – – How chances mock and changes fillthecupof alterationwithcleverliquors”

is scarce believe my senses. Cousin Frances Dering left here a fortnight since and Maria Nicoll I understand is going tomorrow. I shall follow themsoon.Franceswhileherewasalmostentirelyconfinedtothesick room, where I hope she has received instruction, for which, she will have abundant reason to bless God – Miss Fling, contrary to the expectations of her physicians and friends, is fast recovering – it is now nearly or quite two years now since you and Anna came down to the Island. I have thought much of it lately and have almost wished to recall the time –

I suppose cousin Charlotte gives you an account of all our movements from time to time – there is scarcely a family in the city among the circle of my acquaintance but what have during the past winter experiencedsomeuncommonaffliction–Mr.AugustusWrightdiedlast evening. He has been lingering all winter – Grandmother desires her love to you all and says she shall be looking for Catherine very soon – I think she has enjoyed remarkable health all winter. She has not lost one meal or been disturbed of rest one night since I came here.

Gloriana’smindIthinkhasentirelyrecoveredtheeffectsof herunfortunate attachment to Mr. Hart and she now appears in her usual health and spirits to the great joy of all her friends – Mrs. Havens does

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• When Ezra L’Hommedieu died in 1811, he may have been land rich, but he left his wife and daughter cash poor. Throughout her growing years, Mary L’Hommedieu would have no permanent home, and her mother would be forced to be very frugal.

• The following letter is misdated. Mary L’Hommedieu was only six years old in 1812. It may actually be around 1818.

not as yet show any signs of increasing the family and I hope things may long remain in status quo. Charlotte is a noble girl and worthy thefirstplaceintheheartof thebestman–Ithinkshewillmakeanexcellent wife and mother and adorn any society – I wish with all my heart she had a husband deserving of her for she is not altogether happy –

Miss McDonald who has made a part of the family all winter left last week and this evening she is to resign her name for that of another, after a spirited courtship of four years – day after tomorrow we are going to array ourselves in white robes and call on the bride. She intends to commence housekeeping in two or three weeks.

Mrs. Jenkins arrived from France on Tuesday last after a voyage of 54 days – her health perfectly restored – Mr. Spring has lately lost his father. His wife’s health is as good as formerly – it ought to excite our joy and gratitude that any portion of our country is blessed with the outpouring of God’s Spirit, but when a change so salutary is wrought on the hearts of our friends and associates we cannot but feel its effectsandblessGodforit.

Give a great deal of love to your sister Catherine. Tell her I am sensible I am vastly in her debt – my love to Pamela and to your sister Anna. I long to see them and all of you, but know not that ever I shall unless you come and see me – – with my best respects to your parents andhopingsoontohearfromyoubelievemeyourmostaffectionatecousin Sarah P Dering

You may not immediately recollect to what this refers so I though I would tell you I wasthinking of your account of William Nicoll.

Last Friday evening I went to the forum a most singular question to be sure was discussed or rather was not discussed. For there was no question about it whether ladies ought to be educated as they are in England, France, and America, or under the restrictions as they are in China, Turkey, and Spain. I never in all my life heard such a parcel of nonsense as they made of it –

Aunt L’Hommedieu has been quite unwell for several days. Mary is well and grown so that you would never know her. Mrs. Duncan is likewise, quite ill.

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Book: 7Number: 641Date: 8/7/1812To: Nicoll Havens Dering From: Mary Catherine L’HommedieuPlace: Newark

• On October 29, 1812, Nicoll Richard Dering was born to Anna Fosdick and Henry Packer Dering.

• On November 5, James Madison won the U.S. presidential election defeating Governor Dewitt Clinton of New York.The legend is that his inauguration suit was woven from Sylveter Dering’s Merino wool.

Book: 7Number: 663Date: 6/23/1813To: Cousin, possibly Nicoll DeringFrom: Mary Catherine L’HommedieuPlace: Middletown

• On July 11, 1813, a son, Henry, was born to Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington.

Newark August 7, 1812Dear cousinLet me draw your attention for a few moments to your Aunt and cousin at Newark for as the young ladies have left the city I am led to suppose your imagination often wanders to Rome and Hamilton and wish and sometimes almost think yourself amongst them.

Mama is not very well. She is much obliged to you for her Porter. It is very good. I think you might have written us when you sent the Porter but I must think again that you have so many correspondents thatyoucanfindnotimetowritetous.UncleHavenshadlettersfrom grandmama and Renssaelaer. They arrived at Sag Harbor in safetyonthefirstandexpectedtogototheislandSaturdayafternoon.Uncle expects to leave us tomorrow for Philadelphia. We had a ride to Elizabethtown on Monday – – it was very pleasant.

I hope we shall soon have the pleasure of seeing you at Newark. Mama sends her love. Give my compliments to all that inquire after me and to no one else. You must write me soon your cousin Mary C L’Hommedieu

Middletown June 23, 1813Dear cousinI was very anxious to hear from you before I received your kind letter from Saybrook. I wish it had been in your power to make me a visit – – You must endeavor to come before you go home – – If it pleases God to spare our lives to us – I was much surprised to hear of the death of Mrs. Nicoll – and my dear friend we ought to have our lamps trimmed, and burning – we know not the moment nor the hour when the Son of Man cometh – my health is some better at present. I beg to be thankful for it. Mary keeps to her school – – speaks often of her old friends – – last week I received my chairs from New Haven with a letter from Mr. Nathan this informing me they were sent on to him from brother Renssaelaer, with the request for him to send them to me – – He mentions you had paid him for the conveyance there. I want you to inform him that Mr. Henry brought my chairs safe, and I paid him two dollars – I return my thanks to him for the favor – – And to you for all your kindness to me – – Do devote a few moments to your lonesome friend and aunt – – – do let me know if you have any new event take placeinourcircle––fromyouraffectionatefriendandauntMaryCL’Hommedieu

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New Book: 7Number: 671Date: 1/23/1814To: Frances HuntingtonFrom: Catherine Mary Huntington- MotherPlace: Rome, NY

Rome 23rd 1814My dear FrancesI sincerely thank you for your kind letter. I am thankful you have got so well over the mumps and hope you will be particularly careful of your health – I feel thankful to hear your Aunt Havens is so smart and that your Uncle and their dear family are all well – – Your friends here are all well except Cousin Susan who has for a week been very sick with a fever. I hear this morning she is a little better – – The things you sent by Uncle Gurdon all came safe. The girls hats I think very handsome – – Your letter and the bundle by Mr. Brown we received. I am sorry you could not get some plain dark for the girls coats. I think what you sent too light colored for such dark coats. It will make quite a show – – I like to see things good and handsome but a great deal of gaiety even in young people’s dress is unbecoming – – My shoes suit as well as they possibly can – –

Elizabeth’s shoes we have taken for Henry and E has Gloriana’s so I shall want you to get a larger pair for Gloriana before you come home. I will send the measure some time – – when I can. Gloriana’s gloves are rather tight if you can get another pair about the size of Lucy’s, hers will answer for Elizabeth – – I am sorry you could not get your coat some darker color. It will soon get soiled and not do you half as much service – – your Papa is very well. Grandmama quite smart and the little children all pretty well at present. Anne is quite lame yet with the sore on her ankle. It is very troublesome. Cousin Charles has left on this morning has been here two nights – – Mrs. Evan Wright died last Tuesday morning. I went over to her funeral on Wednesday. There were a great many people there. Mr. Gillett preached from Job (though he slay me I will trust in him) he addressed himself very sensibly and affectionatelytoMrs.Wrightandveryfeelinglytothechildrenandfriends. It was truly distressing to see 10 children in onefamily deprived of so excellent a mother, but God, my dear Frances, and address our deaths as well as our lives. He know with what is best for all his creatures and will I trust so despair of us all as will be most for his glory and our good. – –

Anne had a letter this week from cousin Charlotte. I was very glad she thought enough of us to write to us. She was well but seems to be dissatisfiedandhavingtoleavehomesosoon.MylovetoGlorianaandtell her she must write to us – – I hope I shall be able to write to your Uncle and Aunt soon. My sincere love to them and Miss McDonald – – I want to hear how you get along with your school. I thought you had better attend Miss Paine’s school. You expressed a wish to study chemistryandIthinkhistorywouldbeveryprofitableforyoutostudy.If you are inclined to learn drawing and painting I have no objection. Imustbepermittedtoentertainverydifferentsentimentsrespectingdancing school. From Uncle Benjamin and by Dean of the propriety ouruntruthfulnessof attendingthemisverysmallandinsignificant– – Really, my dear Frances, I cannot feel willing that you should go – –

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• During the war of 1812, Renssaelaer Havens fitted out a number of privateers including the armed brig General Armstrong. [The Captain was Samuel Charles Reid.] Her desperate fight against superior odds in the port of Fayal has become a matter of history. This one privateer took 18 prizes – some of which were highly valued -- during the war. The total number of American prizes against England between 1812 and 1814 was ninety-four. The British attempted to sue the United States for its losses at Fayal, a neutral port, but failed. Apparently the ruckus there caused the British fleet to arrive in New Orleans too late to protect the British forces and caused them to lose to General Andrew Jackson’s army. In the list of contributors to the loan of $16 million to the United States in 1813, there stands the name of Rensselaer Havens, for $20,000. He came forward promptly when President Madison became embarrassed for want of means to carry on the war. His contemporaries joked good heartedly that he single handedly won the war of 1812.

Book: 7Number: 673Date: 3/30/1814To: Frances Huntington, Rome, NYFrom: Catherine Huntington Place: New York

And that God may be pleased to bless you, my dear Frances, to direct you in the right way, to draw your mind to love him supremely, and to render yourself amiable and useful in the world – – May your life and every step be adorned with piety and virtue – – praise your truly affectionatemotherCMHuntington

New York March 30, 1814My dear SisterMonday p.m. cousin Susan and myself were (walking down Broadway) going to see Sally Barron, who by accident had the points of a pair of scissors stuck into her temple and was very, badly hurt she is now better. We met Uncle Gurdon. It was very unexpected for we did not think of seeing him until today. As you may easily imagine we were very glad to see him, and spent the evening in reading letters which were very acceptable to us as we had received none for some days. We are very thankful to hear that all our friends enjoy good health and hope this blessing may long be continued to them. All friends here are well excepting Aunt Havens who has been troubled a good deal with her side lately. So we see our fellow creatures daily dropping into their graves around us and our lives and healths are preserved unto us. But let us remember as they are mortal so are we and must one day die and stand before the judgment seat of Christ.

May we then be found not having on our own righteousness but maywebefreelyjustifiedthroughthemeritsof aSavior.Thankyouvery much for your letter and think it is a very witty one. If I should undertake to answer it I should not succeed for I am very ready to acknowledge that I have not wit enough to do it and even if I had perhaps it would be carrying the subject too far to do it. I believe it is uncertain whether cousins return home with Uncle Gurdon. He has not yet told Susan what he intends for her to do about it. I have a great deal to tell you if I could see you more than I can write. Mr. John Coit was married a few days since to Miss Eliza Boudinot. Julia Coit has been in town but returned without seeing us I believe without knowing we were here. Lucretia Conklin is married. Cousin Hannah saw Miss Van Rensselaer a few days ago.

I have not heard a word from Granby since cousin Mary went home. I have been this morning to call on the Miss Butlers and saw Mrs. B.....

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• There were four Huntington brothers, Henry – the correspondents’ father – Gurdon, George, and Benjamin. All but Benjamin lived in Rome. Benjamin in New York.

• John Griscom began his teaching career at a Quaker school in Burlington, New Jersey, but he felt limited to only Quaker children, so, he found capital among the fathers of his students and opened a school in New York City, to which young people,

who tells me she used to be very well acquainted with Mama, and has seen her frequently at New London and likewise with Papa. I do not know as I shall write again until Uncle Gurdon returns then you may expect several letters. I was very much disappointed in not having any letters from Anne and Pamela by Uncle. You was very right in putting me in mind to get a hat for Henry, but I intended to have got one if you had not done it. The spring hats are very much the same as your straw ones but I do not know as they will continue to be worn all summer. Aunt Havens thinks I had better wait until May before I get yours.

If cousins do not return I will endeavor to get you a pattern of a frock and send when Uncle returns, however they do not make them materiallydifferentfromwhattheydidlastfall.Shoulderstrapslonginthe back and very short waisted long sleeves are generally worn. I have seen no Spencers this spring but believe the reason is (which is a very good one) the ladies have not done wearing their coats.… Miss R. was here sewing for Aunt one day last week. She says she has made several. They cut the bats like the coats, short collar not to meet round the neck madetostandupwiththreerufflesonitandroundedatthecornersrufflesdownbeforetomeetatthebottomof thewaist,makethemof CambricMuslinetc.Idonotknowastheymakesilkones.Rufflesarevery fashionable on handkerchiefs and frocks the more the better and made very full to platt [pleat]. But it is almost time for me to begin upon something else for I am sure you are tired of this. Too much of one thing you say is good for nothing. But it is almost time for me to close my letter for it grows very long and I fear you will be tired before youfinishreadingit.

I think Henrietta has made great improvement in her writing and hope she will write to me very often. George has turned Quaker and I suppose wants a Quaker hat. I believe however you have not, for I see byyourletterthatyoucallAuntNancy,Miss.WhenIfirstreaditIdidnot know who you meant. Give my love to Grandmama and tell her I intend to write her when Uncle Gurdon goes home likewise to Miss LoGilbertwhenyouseeher.Inowremainyouraffectionatesisterwithlove to all.

Ms. McDonald desires her love to you etc.

PS I would thank you when you write again to put your letters near together and words farther apart for I could hardly read your last letter. Catherine Huntington

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both girls and boys who could find a place to stay with relatives, flocked. The Huntington girls all stayed with their Uncle Renssaelear Havens to attend Griscom’s school, and Frances Dering from Sag Harbor, after a year at Newark Academy, stayed with her uncle Captain George Havens. In addition to his regular school, Mr. Griscom conducted evening lectures on scientific subjects, free or not, which were always over subscribed.

• Pamela remains a mystery. There were references to her throughout the letters among the Huntington girls. She was not a relative, but she was a member of the household. Was she a nursery nurse or a governess perhaps? Whatever her role in the household, she was important to the girls. They did not forget her. Her aged parents were in Sag Harbor where there was a large free African American population.

• In the course of the letters it becomes clear that a trip to Shelter Island each summer was an expected event. Catherine wrote to her mother, “In consequence of some apprehension that the British will land on Long Island Uncle thinks it advisable for me not to make a visit at Shelter Island the summer.” It was important to get out of the city because of the heat and often rampant disease. Shelter Island, the home of their mother, where aunts and uncles were welcoming, was a day or two away by sloop or stage coach, where Rome was about a week away. But, this summer was different. The British were threatening havoc!

Book: 8Number 676Date: 7/26/1814To: Catherine Huntington, motherFrom: Catherine Huntington,daughterPlace: New York

New York July 26, 1814My dear MamaI received your kind letter last week and was happy to learn you enjoy so good health and hope little Henry has entirely recovered from his illness. Oh that the Lord would preserve his life and health on to him and make him a blessing to us all and an ornament to the cause of Christ. I have reason to thank and bless the Lord for the many merries I have received. Truly mama I think no one ever enjoyed more blessings than I do and have done ever since I received my being, but my life has been nothing but one continued scene of uneasiness, discontent and rebellion.

The sins of my life are great but when I look into my heart I am constrained to say against thee only have I sinned oh Lord. I see more cause every day for humility. The humble and the contrite spirit is acceptable to God but this as well as every other gift removed with from him the lesson which I daily learn is that from God only my help may I not henceforth cry unto him. My father thou art the guide of my youth. In proportion as my faith increases I have peace and joy but I wish in every state of mind to be content, resting assured that the judge of all this earth will do right.

It becomes me to be patient, when I feel most inclined to murmur and doubt what comforts me is that God is unchangeable. I think I do rejoice that I am in his hands. Sometimes I fear lost after having put my hand to the plow. I should look back again, but this is owing to want of confidenceinGod.IthinkIfindJesusisincreasinglyprecious,butif indeed his love was as cold as mine, I should be miserable. Sometimes I can look at a dying hour with composure and even with joy.

But Mama, I am sensible that the Christian case is a [-] what consoles me is that Jesus is the consequence of incomprehensible mystery that

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Book: 8Number: 677Date: 7/29/1814To: Catherine Huntington, daughterFrom: Catherine Huntington, motherPlace: Rome, NY

the son of God should die to save sinners. I am sensible that if I am castofffromthepresenceof GodthehottestplaceinhellwillbemyportionbutGodwillbeglorifiedeitherinmydestructionwhichwillbevoluntaryormysalvationwhichwillbehellfireunmerited.

I do not wish to insinuate that I think the ways of religion unpleasant, for I think notwithstanding the grief and anxiety I have had lately that I have seen seasons where all the enjoyments of this world would have been like vanity to me. I wish to have Papa and Mama at their pleasure reflectingthetimeof mygoinghomeforIampersuadedtheyknowbetter than I do when it is best for me to go.

Both Uncle Havens and Uncle Benjamin’s family are well. I still continue at my school but expect there will be a vacation soon. Please to give any love to all the family. With sincere desires for your healthandhappinessIremainyouraffectionatedaughterCatherine Huntington

I intend to write to Grandmama soon and likewise Pamela. I am waiting impatiently for an answer to Henrietta’s letter.

PS In consequence of some apprehension that the British will land on Long Island Uncle thinks it advisable for me not to make a visit at Shelter Island the summer. Perhaps in the course of a month Uncle and Aunt will go with the girls and I to Albany and from there the girls accompany me home. It however is uncertain. Uncle is undetermined.

Rome 29 July 1814My dear Catherine I do most sincerely thank you for your last kind letters of the 12th and 17th. I rejoice to hear that you are well and your dear Uncle and family. I rejoicealso to be able to inform you at this time that we are all tolerably well and I have still greater cause to rejoice, my dear Catherine, that such consolation is yours. Is Jesus indeed precious? Do you love him about all things? Had been very pleased manifests himself to you in such a manner as you have come to hope and believe that he loves you with an ever lasting love – –

Oh Blessed be God for all his mercies – – I have ever loved you with thetenderestaffectionsof amotherandwillGodindeedenablemetolove you as a child of God – – O! blessed God what shall I render unto himforallhisbenefits.Howdoesthenshoweruponmeunnumberedblessings when I am so undeserving of the least of thy mercies – – It is my most fervent and constant prayer that God would please to turn the minds of all my dear children from the follies and vanities of this world and teach them to seek for happiness at the feet of our divine Redeemer. I have been very anxious for you my dear Catherine, my heart and prayers have been with you a great deal although so many milesseparateus.ButIreflectthatGodisthesameinallplacesandthat he is abundantly able to hear and bless all who seek him.

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• Desiree Brown Havens, second wife of Nicoll Havens and mother of Catherine Mary Havens Huntington, Renssaelaer Havens, Gloriana Havens Cowles, Frances Havens who had died in 1811, and Watson and Henrietta who had died as children, was 71 years old in 1815. She had given up her home on Shelter Island several years before and would stay either with Renssaelaer in New York City or Catherine at Rome, New York. (Esther Sarah Havens Dering and Mary Catherine Havens L’Hommedieu, with their deceased brother Jonathan Nicoll Havens, were the children of Sarah Fosdick, Nicoll Havens’ first wife.)

• The last we heard from Miss McDonald, she was to have been married. Here she was again. Could it have been a sister?

Book: 8Number: 680Date: 1/3/1815To: Frances HuntingtonFrom: Desiree Brown Havens, grandmotherPlace: Rome

Ihavecommandedyoutohissonwithafullrelianceandconfidencethat he will do with you and all of us as he sees best in his wisdom, will and pleasure and that I ought humbly and patiently to resign all things into his hands and wait his pleasures – – I hope you will write me particularly respecting the state of your [-] your health and how you conclude to dispose of your time before you return home – –

Grandmama sends much love and says she almost despairs of having any more letters from Uncle and Aunt Havens – – Frances says you must answer her letters. Anne says she shall write as soon as she can.

Henrietta sends her love and says she wanted to write to you. Love and a kiss. Lucy and Elizabeth say I must tell Catherine to come home. Henry grows very fast and almost walks – – Mr. Crane quits his school here next week – – Mrs. Evart Brown was here last week on a visit. Mr. Ebenezer Bright’s wife has joined the church and had her children baptized last Sabbath. She has a bad cancer in her breast and it is feared she will not live a great while – – I am sorry to hear of Miss Duncan’s ill health.

Miss McDonald’s sisters my love to. Remember me with sincere love to your Uncle and Aunt Havens to Aunt Faith and cousin Susan – all friendsherearewell–believemeyourstrulyaffectionatemotherCatherine M. Huntington

Rome January 3, 1815My Dear Granddaughter I thank you for writing me. I was much gratifiedtoreceivealinefromyouandthankfultohearyouwaswelland all the dear family where in you reside were blessed withcomfortable health. I am well myself to what I was when you left us but I am not as well as I was before I had that severe turn of coughs. It is notquiteleftme.Thecoldchangesof weatheraffectsmeverymuch.We have had the coldest weather here for several days as ever was known.

My dear, I think by the account you gave me of attending your schools you can’t have but little time to write to your friends. The letter you wrote me was the only one I had received since you left here. I have since received one from your Aunt Havens. I hope to be able to write

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Book: 8Number: 679Date: 1/5/1815To: Catherine Huntington, mother From: Frances Huntington, daughterPlace: New York

her in a few days. I wrote your Aunt H when she was in Hudson and I have not taken a pen in hand to write since until this day. I have not wrote for so long I fear you will not be able to read my writing.

Your parents and all the family are as well as usual except your little brother Henry has a cold, which makes him look a little droopy, but he talks and plays about house and plays with his cat. Is quite a manly little boy and very active and diverting. You would be surprised to see how he has grown. You would be delighted to see him. If your Uncle Dering has returned from Middletown and has not gone home remembermeaffectionatelytohimandwritemehowourfriendsalldo in Middletown and Granby. Ifeel quite anxious to hear from your Uncle Cowles as I hear he is in troubleandindifficultcircumstanceswhichIamsorrytohear.

Your cousin Susan is recovering her health. When your sister came from Western, MV and Mr. Floyd both very unwell have not heard from them. Since your sister Anne is writing and will let you know the particulars.Mr.andMrs.Bloomfieldhasbeentoseeus.Sheinquiredafter you. She drank tea with us day before yesterday and they returned homeyesterday.Mrs.BLhasherhealthandhasgrownquitefleshy.

Your Cousin Gloriana goes to the school with you. I hope you will both greatly improve by it. She promised when she went from here to write. She has not been up to her promise. My love to your Uncle and Aunt, Miss McDonald and all the dear children and accept of a shareyourself.Yourveryaffectionategrandmotherwithprayersforthehealth and happiness of you all. Desiree Havens

Dear MamaI will begin my letter with wishing you all a happy New Year. It is day after the fair but better late than never. I received your kind letter a week ago yesterday and should have written before but I thought it would be better to wait until I began my school. Cousin G and myself wenttodayforthefirsttimetoMr.Griscom’sschoolwhichisthefirstday he has kept since Christmas. His terms are for history, geography, grammar,authoritativewritingetc.etc.$12perquarterincludingstationery and all the books that are used in the school.

Withchemistry$16andtheprivilegeof attendingallthepubliclectures$20.Hishoursarefromnineuntilthree.Mr.Brownteachesinthe young ladies room until 10 when Mr. Griscom comes up. English grammar and writing are attended to by all the school in the morning and in the afternoon the other branches. I really think for my part that I have studied grammar long enough and if “I do not know it now I shall never know it.” I think I shall take my lessons on velvet painting in the morning.

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Every school I attend the instructors have some new way and think they understand reading grammar better then anyone else and at this rate one might study it all their lifetime and there would be still some new way. Mister Griscom uses Gomley’s grammar and says Murray’s is very good but he prefers to all the rest of them his own plan. He has an excellent set of maps and I intend studying them but I think that after studying English grammar so long that it was not worth while to open another quarter about when I can learn it just as well at home if necessary. I should suppose it was the best to attend to those things which are not taught in the country. I had almost forgotten to say that both the instructors were Quakers. I was quite disappointed that Mama would not consent to my attending dancing school but as Mama knows what is best I shall think no more about it – –

Aunt Havens has had quite an ill turn but has recovered from it. Her side pains her more than it has done for several months past. They have all gone to lectures this evening and I stayed home. Mr. Spring wished us all a happy New Year from the pulpit last Sunday and gave us an excellent discourse from “This year thou shalt die.” His health is much better than it was last summer – –

We received a letter from Charlotte this week. She was very well and had walked that today over the river on the ice. New York is much duller than it has been for several winters past. There have been no large parties given this winter but some quite splendid weddings. A week last night one of Mr. Alwight’s daughters were married and Miss Roger was a short time before. Anna will know who I mean. Tell sister Catherine, Mrs. Cummings has been quite disappointed in her marriage.Mr.Cwasthoughttobeveryrichandaveryfinemanbuthe is poor as poverty. He has left the Presbyterian Church knowing that he would be silenced upon the meeting of the Presbytery. He has sold his furniture and Mrs. C lives with his father for this winter. He has applied to the Bishop to be admitted in to the principal church but has been rejected. She has been very ill and is now very much dejected.

I am quite [sure] little Glory’s shoes do not suit and her gloves and will endeavor to go soon for the rest of fortune. I have got me a hat something like C’s. – –

My love to Grandmama and all other friends. I should have written before now but Aunt says every day that she will write tomorrow – – my love to Anna. Tell her by post, her having such sore feet.

Theyarescreamingfireasloudastheycanhere.And,Iamsofrightened I cannot write any more. Rensselaer has been to all and says itisoffsitetheBrickChurch.

Please to give my love to all and kiss the dear little children for me especially sweet little Henry. I long to see him and wish I could

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Book: 8Number: 681Date: 2/15/1815To: Frances HuntingtonFrom: Anne Huntington, sisterPlace: Rome

something for New Year’s present. Believe me to be my dear mama yourtrulyaffectionatedaughterFrances Huntington

Rome February 15, 1815I believe I am not indebted to you for letters, my dear Frances, but am fearful I shall receive a severe scolding if I let so good an opportunity pass without writing. Yesterday about 12 o’clock we received the joyful news of peace. At three in the afternoon there was 17 cannons discharged and in the evening general illumination. Although it was near the 11th hour when the candles at Huntington Castle were lighted. Yet, I can assure you, it made a very grand appearance. Our two next neighbors and Mr. Barnes were the only ones in the village that did not illuminate. I would not have believed it possible forRome to look so splendid.

We were all very much surprised and pleased to see Uncle B. He arrived late last Friday evening and left here Saturday for Watertown. We expect him back today. What do you think is going to happen? Mama went to Whitesboro yesterday with Papa and returned in the evening. She talks of going to Western tomorrow and wishes to visit Utica before the sleighing is done. Aunt Floyd has been very ill with a fever but is now considered out of danger. Some took tea at Uncle George’s last evening. The Miss Hathaways and Ms. Lord were there. Miss M Stark has gone to Watertown [-] here the evening before she went away she appeared (as you know she always does) to be in high spirits. I think you are very [-] walk out in the evening with no other beau then Rensselaer. I shall remember it when you get home and not gallant you upstairs every time you want to go. Now, don’t you pretend that you have forgotten all about it.

Uncle Brown is very much elated with the news of peace. He is for moving directly to Gennesse River had not you almost as life have war. Henry with Henrietta’s assistance has been writing his name. I enclose it for you. Mrs. C Barnes has gone. I did not see her.

Mr. M Gilbert still continues in prison in Canada. I imagine he will now get released. I understand Mrs. Gilbert is very low spirited and anxious on his account. You will receive so many letters by Uncle that I am afraid you will not have time to read them therefore I will close minewithmuchlovetoallfriendsfromyouraffectionatesisterAnn

PS Sister C was one of the number opposed to the illumination of the castle but the majority of voices carried it. Out of the goodness of her heart she exclaimed !O! if Mrs. Terry had all these candles. Mama wishes you to get a pair of light colored short kid gloves and send them when you have a good opportunity – –

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• Benjamin Huntington, the girls’ uncle, was married to Faith Trumbull. They lived in New York City.

Book: 8Number: 678Date: 1/25/1815To: Frances Huntington c/o Renssaelaer HavensFrom: Catherine HuntingtonPlace: Rome, NY

Rome 25th of January 1815My Dear FrancesI have been trying to write you every mail for this fortnight past, but you know just how troublesome it is for me to get along with anywriting––Ithankyouforyourkindletterof thefifth––yourgrandmama has got one from you of a later date, which she seems very much pleased with – I don’t know why the girls do not write often as I think they might, and ought to. Hannah makes a great many excuses fornotwritingbuttheyappearverytrifling–Ifeelthankfultobeableto inform you we are all well at present.Cousin Susan is much better. She has not been out, but is so that she walksaboutthehouse–shehasgrownquitethininfleshandlooksfeeble. I am sorry to hear that Aunt Faith is so much unwell, and it affordsmemuchcomforttobeinformedthatAuntHavens’healthissomuch improved. I don’t know but it has got to be as much of a task for your Uncle to write as it is for me. He writes so seldom of late. My love to yourcousin Gloriana. Tell her she must write to us.

Aunt Tracy has been up for a night. Aunt Brown and family are well. William Thomas is now at Uncle George’s on a visit. Miss Mary Almstead stays at Whitestown this winter. Miss Mary Coit is married to Mr. Devereau at Utica. She arrived there yesterday to take possession of her new habitation. Her sister Sarah I understand is with her. Mr. Merinus Gilbert has been taken up in Canada as a spy, and is now in jail at Québec. Miss Polly Starks is going to Watertown to stay a spell with his wife – – Anne’s lame foot has got better, and she and Henrietta went to Westerly last week with Miss Polly Clever. Miss Strang is there. I must send for them in a few days – –

Catherine has been very much troubled with a swelling under her arm, but it’s now getting better. Henry grows quite a nice little boy. He talks a great many words. Very plain he says sister “Frances is right there”, andpointshisfingers–

I think from your account of your schools that your time must be pretty much employed – I hope my dear Frances you will so give your mind to yourstudiesthatitmaybeprofitablyemployed,foryourfuturecomfortand happiness through life – – if you attend to the velvet painting, I think you had better also attend a little to painting on paper. If you have an inclination to, it may not be so fashionable, but sometimes perhaps it may be useful to you – –

I was quite melted into tenderness, my dear Frances, at your ready acquiescence with my wishes respecting your attending dancing school –

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how can I be thankful enough that God is pleased to bless me with children who appear ready to receive my instructions and attend with cheerfulness to my advice – – Be assured my dear girl that the adviceof yourmothereverflowsfromahearteveralivetothemostaffectionatefriendshipsandmostsincereloveforherchildrenwhohasno wish so near her heart as their welfare here and their eternal felicity, And I hope you will all remember when my advice is not agreeable to your wishes that it is meant for your good, and that the motives by which it is actuated, are pure and sincere – –

And I pray most fervently that God would please to enable me to judge aright, and to advise my children in such a manner and to such a purpose as will appear for their good – – And I hope, my dear Frances, you pay respect to your parents and regard as you ought and I hope you do. The kindness and attention of your friend that you will notbeunmindfulfromwherealltheseblessingsflow,thatwhileyouarestrivingforornamentalandscientificaccomplishments,youwillnot neglect dedicating your heart to God your maker, Redeemer and preserver – – these are accomplishments, when accompanied with right conduct, which will render you amiable and lovely in the world –Butformorevaluableandinfinitelymoretobeconsideredarethosequalities of the heart which God our Savior will approve and bless and which are a continued source of enjoyment in this world and which insure us supreme happiness in the world to come. Let it be your chief study my dear girl to secure this. Strive for it as for hidden treasures – – and may God be pleased to bless you with his especial presence and grace – –

I wish I could have heard Mr. Spring preach his New Year’s sermon. I think I should like him very much. His essays are very good indeed. If he preaches as handsomely as he writes, shortly every pious mind must be very much animated with his preaching – – Remember me veryaffectionatelytoyourUncleandAuntandMiss McDonald. Be particularly careful of your health and let me know if you want anything I can help you to. Your Papa has been gone three weeks to Chicago. He is very well – –

Young Mrs. Barnhart has a daughter Gloriana says. You must get Elizabeth and Henry a mug for a birthday present like hers and Lucy’s, with an E and an H on them. I make a mark on this letter from the top of the sheet down for the length of Lucy’s and Gloriana’s shoes. Gloriana’s must be pretty full over the instep. You need not be in a hurry about sending them. The girls all unite with me in love.Grandmamaalso.BelievemeyouraffectionatemotherCMHuntington

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Book: 8Number: 682Date: 3/21/1815To: Frances HuntingtonFrom: Catherine Huntington (mother)Place: Rome

Rome 21 March 1815My dear FrancesIbrokeoffmylastletterveryabruptlybecauseUncleBenjaminwaswaiting and have not been able since to resume my pen. Nancy has been gone to slumber and I have been obliged to be all the time in the kitchen. We have now got Polly Hassan and I am in hopes if we are well that I shall have a little more leisure – – I have every reason in the world to be thankful that I can inform you Papa, Grandmama and all the children are well at a time to when death is hovering around us ever at our door – –

Mr.Lynch’sfamilyareparticularlyaffected.Theirchildrenhavebeensick with the whooping cough all winter. Their black woman had the consumption and died last Saturday night and Sunday at 12 o’clock Domanic died with the dropsy in his head. Mrs. Lynch is very much distressed indeed with her son’s death. Mr. and Mrs. Tilletran are with her. Also Ms. Sarah Coit and Miss Abbey Bullock – – nothing, nothing, my dear Frances, will exempt us from death – – the dearest friends, worldly treasures, the most stressful physician – the most particular and anxious attention from all around us, we can prolong our lives after the [-] decree is passed. Then how important is it that we neglect not to be prepared for that most solemn end of all others most interesting event – – Of all things, my dear Frances, I beseech you to have your mind daily and hourly upon these things.

LooktoGodformercythatthesufferingsof acrucifiedSavior––andI prayed most fervently that he will be pleased to bless you – – it is quite a serious time here at present. Many seem much more thoughtful than usual and several appear truly convicted. Mary Mumford has been very much distressed in her mind for a good many weeks past. Her parents are very anxious as her account we pray that God may be pleased to relieve her mind and make her a subject of his divine grace and may she live for his glory – –

Mrs. Blair and your sister Catherine are going to unite with the church at our next communion. Your Papa was to see cousin Charles last week. He has been quite sick with a fever some 12 days but has got quite smart again – – your letter to Ann is received last week and sent to her at Whitestown. She will return this evening with your Papa. you gave us a very charming account of the illumination. I hope the outward show of thankfulness is not all that people render to their maker for again blessing us with peace – – and how pleasant is the very sound of it makes everything appear – – if you wish to make a visit to your Aunt Dering, after the expiration of the quarter I have no objections provided you are well and will be particularly careful of your health, and it’s convenient for your friends to get you there without giving them any extraordinary trouble, and there appears a probability of a good opportunity for you to return.

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Book: 8Number: 683Date: 3/30/1815To: Frances HuntingtonFrom: Anne Huntington, sister Place: Rome

I beg of you, Frances, in the sincerity of my heart which is over anxious for you that you will behave yourself modestly and discretely, and that you will use your best endeavors to conduct prudently at all times, in all places, and on all occasions – – When you have a doubtful case, always depend on the advice of your Uncle and Aunt and never fail to ask it––Mymostaffectionatelovetothemandtheirdearfamily––Youspeak of frocks and bonnets this spring. I suppose Pamela must have abonnet.If youcanfindsomethingforher,alittlefashionableandnot extravagantly costly you may get one ready. Again, there should offeranopportunitytosendit.Ithinkif CambricMuslinareprettylow. You had better get enough for Catherine and Ann or [-] – – I do not wish you to be extravagant, my dear Frances, but whatever you want that is reasonable for you to have you must get. Whether you go to Shelter Island or stay in New York – – if you conclude to go, I wish you to write me what time, you think you shall – – I could write much more but the mail will close and I must conclude with love to all. Papa Grandmama sisters and little brother all unite with me in sincere love to you – – believe me with earnest prayers for your welfare your truly affectionatemotherCatherineH

Rome March 30th 1815For nearly three weeks, my dear Frances, we have been expecting a letter by every mail. Mama and C began to say “I think she must be sick” but I thought all the time that Lawrence had been paying youavisitandtodayyourlonglettertoGrandmamaconfirmedmysuspicions. Now don’t you think I had better (as the prompter says) hold up my head and say “I told you so”. You must not pretend because Lawrence is rather more attentive to me than you to have no acquaintance with the gentleman. I received your letter when I was at Whitesboro. I think you must have been delighted with theilluminations.

I went down there with the intention of going to Utica immediately but was detained there by the bad roads until the limits of my visit were almost up. I however spent two or three days at Utica. Miss C Lansing was married the day that I came home. They had what Poppa calls a right Dutch wedding between 40 and 50 people were invited. Mr. and Mrs. Platt and Mr. and Mrs. Varrick were there. I was at Mr. P’s whenBleekercametoinvitethemandwashalf amindtobeoffendedbecause he did not ask me. I however concluded I could but get a piece of cake. it would quite as well as to go to the wedding. [-] and was promising myself a great deal of fun when Papa called for me to go home.

Yesterday I received a letter from Cousin Eliza containing a piece of wedding cake which she said was drawn through the ring on purpose for me. I slept with it under my pillow last night and although my dream was very extraordinary it will not be interesting until I have dreamed three nights. Catherine has been to Uncle G’s this afternoon.

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Book: 8Number: 684Date: 4/8/1815To: Catherine M HuntingtonFrom: Frances Huntington - daughterPlace: New York

She says Hannah has received a letter from you. I intend going there tomorrow if the walking permits on purpose to read it.

Cousin Susan is at Whitestown. I believe she is going to continue there some time. Edward is expected home in June. I laugh at Susan a great deal about the great secret. I saw Mrs. Johnson at cousin Eliza’s. She dresses much more than she did when she was Miss Adams. She usedtoberatherdiffidentandunsociable.Nowsheisdirectlytothecontrary. I shall exert all my powers to persuade mama to go to New York. She makes a great many objections but I shall endeavor to obviatethemall.IsupposeyouwillhavefinetimesonShelter Island. I shall envy that part of your visit more than all the rest.

Augustus Floyd is at Utica studying law with Mr. Kirkland. He says that Mary has been out but very little this winter. I expect you have introduced yourself to her before this time. Mr. W Floyd is going to be married to Ms. Sally Smith. Catherine says that you are indebted to her for one or two letters. Little Henry is larger than any child of his age in the village and talks as plain and a great deal faster than anyone in the house but does not rule any above me. I wish you would write me something respecting thefashions of frocks etc. etc.

Grandmama and sisters join with me in much love to Uncle and Aunt Havens and Huntington, Miss M and cousins, and believe me your [-] affectionatesisterAnne Huntington

PS I tried to persuade Aunt Tracy to call her son Huntington but nothing would please her but James Jared.

New York April Thursday 8th 1815Dear MamaI received your letter one day last week (it is so long since that I have forgotten what day it was) and today one from Nan. I am very happy to hear of your good health and of all friends. I should have answered your letter my dear Mama by cousin N Dering last Saturday if I had known of his going but was very much surprised to hear upon coming home Saturday evening after having spent the day out that cousin N Dering had been gone. He called and went out in the morning for letters. I believe he had not the least idea of going himself until Saturday morning. Upon receiving a letter from cousin Charles to him only the Thursday before and he was then talking of going immediately to Middletown. I was quite alarmed when I heard of his sudden departure. Thinking that Cousin Charles must be dangerously ill but uncle said he was no worse but was not very well. I think appearances are rather mysterious and sometimes [-] event about to take place.

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Aunt Havens returned from Hudson on Monday morning where she had been on a visit for a week. She left Charlotte much better contentedandreconciledtostayuntilfirstof May.ShebroughtMissLydia derNins with her for a short visit. Aunt is very well but her hands are very sore more so then they have been all winter. She thinks she took hold in March.

My quarter at Mr. Griscom’s school was out today but as it will be May I suppose before Cousin will go to Shelter Island and Mr. G will charge only for the length of [-] (and not for another whole quarter) and do not know but I had better continue my school while I stay in town – –

I hope Mama will not think me extravagant if I tell her I have been getting another new shawl. The weather being too warm to wear a coat and my silk shawl too thin for any weather but some are. With her advice I have got a good family shawl. It is one that I know mama will like of the same kind and color of the one that was Aunt Fannies and which you always thought so handsome. When I return you can have it if you choose or it will be for a company Shawl – –

IsawAuntFaiththisweek.Sheisverywellandherlittlebabeisafinelittle fellow. Uncle B I expect will spoil him. He thinks now he is the smartest of children but I tell him he is nothing equal to Henry, yet and I doubt whether he ever will be – –

Ann thinks that Lawrence has been paying me a visit and I do not know but he has and that she is more than half right but such disagreeable company as he is as soon as he pleases to take his departure and shall wish him good riddance. She need not think that Lawrence does not sometimes trouble industrious persons like myself as well as indolent ones like herself but does he when comes to visit me leave her entirely? if he does. I suppose she will be a mind for me to [-] the troublesome visitor all the while – – I shall write her in a day or two and I will then tell her all about the fashions that I know.

I hope Mama will come down with Cousin N and Cousin Charles and his wife for and rather expect he will bring one with him when he comes and then you can go to Shelter Island with me and stay as long as you please for I am sure among all those tall girls at home they can make out to keep house for [- -] visit of two or three months at least. If they cannot I shall think that Lawrence is at Rome and at New York at the same time. But pray mama if you do come do not leave Henry though mistake. I long to see the dear little fellow dressed in a complete suit of gray walking on Broadway. I’m sure he will outshine all the New Yorkers – –

My ideas are not very profuse today and I am afraid I shall not be able tofillmywholesheetwhichwillbequitedifferentfromusualpracticebut I know Mama will excuse a short letter some time. – I have a long

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• Margaret and Richard Nicoll had left Hamilton, New York, and were now again at Shelter Island.

Book: 8Number: 685Date: 4/22/1815To: Catherine M HuntingtonFrom: Frances Huntington - daughterPlace: New York

New York April 22, 1815I received your kind letter on Friday week and have been waiting since I heard of Mr. B’s going to Rome to write you by him. I have the pleasure of informing you all friends are pretty well. Aunt Havens’s hands are something better but her side troubles her a little more forthesefewdayspassedowingperhapstohersewingsteadyfittingRenssaelaer [now 11 years old] for his school. I am expecting to receive a large package of letters tomorrow by Cousin N and for not having heard a word of him since he left us. I think he must be coming home. I feel quite anxious to go to Shelter Island and make my visit there and then to come home as soon as you wish best not that I would have you think me homesick for I am perfectly contented but wish to see all my dear friends very much. I believe I mentioned in a letter to CatherinethatweexpectedAuntLandcousinsthefirstof nextweekand that uncle D had been here again.

Cousin Richard Nicoll, I believe, will soon commence keeping house on Shelter Island. He has sent for his furniture. Uncle Dean says he is very steady and appears quite serious. Cousin Margaret is also. She mentionsinalettertoMs.AMumfordthatshehopestheirafflictionshavebeensanctifiedtothem.––Mrs.MumfordleavetowntodayforNewLondon.ShehasbeenspendingthelastfivemonthswithMrs.N Richards – – I do not know that I have ever mentioned Mr. Charles Richards being married sometime since but it is most likely Mama has heard of it before this. They are both in town but I do not know whether they keep house. She is said to be an excellent woman – –

I saw Dr. Turner is dead in this morning’s paper. He died last evening aged 76 years – –

Mama mentioned bonnets. They are quite high but is likely they will

message for Catherine from Lydia Jenkins when I write her but I expect C will rather not hear it but be that as it may I believe I shall write it and one from Mrs. Lugar likewise.

I hope to hear soon that you have moved to Utica. I believe I did not write Mama from what quarter I had the most pleasing news. A young gentleman (Mr. White from Whitesboro who, of course, must know) told Uncle Dering at Middletown of it who told me. I hope Mama and Grandmama will write me as often as they can and the girls every week. Please to give my love to Papa Grandmama sisters and Pamela and kisses for Henry Aunt and family join me and love to all friends believemetobeyourtrulyaffectionatedaughterFHuntington

I had almost forgotten to say that I had got a compliment for Anne.

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Book: 8Number: 686Date: 5/3/1815To: Henrietta HuntingtonFrom: Frances Huntington, sisterPlace: New York

be much cheaper in a short time. I have been getting me one a small front and little low crown trimmed with a wreath. The price was seven dollars I have had my old one in hither and wear it to save the new one and suppose you will think it a great price but Anna thought that it was sohandsomeandfineastrawitwasnotveryhighorMr.Barrowdidnotoffertotakeanythingbutletters.Isupposeitwillbeimprovingupon him to send anything of consequence but I have taken the liberty to send a book and some candy to each of the children supposing they will think themselves quite neglected if I don’t send them something this time – –

I went on Thursday week (Thanksgiving day there being a church in the afternoon) in company with Uncle and Aunt and uncle D to see the Roman Catholic Cathedral (St. Patrick’s as it is called) out of town. It is most elegant. On entering the door of the church it looks as if it must be quite distant from us. It really looks most sublime. The altar where the pulpit is in our churches usually stands is most beautiful. The twelve apostles are painted standing around it with a cross in their hands and up above an elegant painting of a representation of Mount Calvary and the village of Jerusalem. The left [-]it is said by some to representsthe[-]itisnotyetquitefinished.Theorganishandsomebutsmall. They played and sang for us while we were there and we hardly wanted to come away – –

I heard Dr. Mason [---] sermon last Sabbath evening for the relief of the students of the theology school under his care. He is, I think, a most excellent begger but he always must show some of his Masonisms before he concludes.

Often the congregation had allowance to receive the blessing. He said often it was the case that people came to church not knowing there was to be a collection taken up (and by that was the case with Aunt and me and we felt cheap enough) and those who did give something sometimes complained after having heard the sermon that they had not brought more with them and he thinking it to be a duty that such feelings should evaporate and it was not at all likely that they would be going a few squares he invited all who wished to give any [-] to send it to his house and it would be most gratefully received. He however gave us an excellent discourse and I am sure gave us a polite invitation – – – I have failed but or to use or select it is about a half yards square and wasnotabletogetanymore[-]thatwasfittopaiduponfor...

THE WRITING IS VERY FAINT AND REALLY DIFFICULT TO READ

New York May 3, 1815Dear sisterAftersolongatimeIsitdowntofulfillmynumerouspromisesandsuppose that you began two months since to despair of ever receiving a answer to your letter but I have really been intending to write you

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the next time every time I wrote. You are so patient and forgiving and I knew that the others not one of them. I possessed those good qualities that I thought I could better slight you then any although I think it was rather imposing upon good nature – –

Aunt L’Hommedieu, Cousin Sally D, and Mary L arrived here a week ago tonight and yesterday Aunt L left us to take possession of her lodgings at Mrs. Duncan’s. Uncle H went a week this afternoon with Rensselaer and returned on Sunday morning with Charlotte. Charlotte was overjoyed to get home. She says she would not go back for anything and I do not think she will. Aunt thinks Miss Dexter is too indulgent to her scholars but otherwise is fully competent for the task having an excellent education – – [Charlotte will eventually run her own school in New York City.] We were quite glad to hear that Grandmama wascomingsoeverandIflattermyself withseeingMama,yourself,Anna each come as well as not. I know she will be pleased with the visit on Shelter Island.

I am anticipating a great deal of pleasure and it will be still more pleasant if some of one of you are with me – – Miss McDonald has been a day or two with her sister Mary who is very sick with a remitting fever – – When I began to write and thought I had ideas for a long letter but I never was so much at a loss for anything to write – what shallIwriteabout–OIheardMr.[-]preachhisfirstsermonafterordination last Sunday morning. His text was in the seventh chapter of John 96. He had a black silk surplice such as Dr. Mills used to wear and he looked strange to be sure a little bit of a menace what he call him easy not more than one and 20 – – We all think he is very like Thomas Spencer. He is almost as much adored but I hope for my part his life will be longer then his – How comes on your Mrs. Smith and Mr. Eddy this long while I believe she was quite in trouble last time you wrote.

Have you been to [-] this winter or not. I believe I shall have to ask questions for I have not been close to do, but by the by, I think it is not any great compliment for me to be [-] for want of ideas when I write you. I think on the contrary that it is rather insulting you to write you but twice in six months and then have to torture myself for thoughts. Pray how do you get along without Isaac. I should think that you must miss him a great deal or do you think that you are rid of a troublesome burden instead. Or lamenting the loss of his good and useful services. I have not heard a word of Miss Mary Smith in the renowned oddity and accomplished [-] Miss Mahala Bullock. You must write me all about them. I fancied they do not make as much subject on conversation for Miss B Hathaway etc. etc. etc. as they have done or I should have learned more of them.

Tell Anne that it is one whole week since I have received a letter from her and that was nothing but a note of about a dozen lines. Indeed if I were to count I do not believe there were as many lines. I am irritated

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Book: 8Number: 687Date: 6/12/1815To: Catherine M Huntington, in NYCFrom: Daughters Lucy and Gloriana Huntington Place: Rome

attheslightestoffenseandif shedoesnotsoonmakereparationsforher past misconduct by a long long letter she will not early get [-]. A week is not a great while if it had not been an unusually long week but it has appeared like a month almost and I do not know why it should for I have spent the time quite pleasantly. Were you not very much surprised to hear of Bonaparte’s extraordinary adventures believe Mr. Morris’s speech part of it, is [-] often [-] as you passed along the [-] you would hear the gentleman saying the [-] is over. Bonaparte is restored. Ibelieveagreatmanydonotregretitof [-]werefiringalltheabove[-]. The news came and they paraded.

All friends are pretty well except Aunt who was a little tired [-] no less but one miserable girl but she will have a letter tomorrow. I hope you will write me soon and I will try to write a more entertaining letter. My love to Papa grandmama mama sisters and little Henry and Pamela. AfterwritingthisIfindIhaveconveyedtheideaof sendingakissto Pamela. I ask her a pardon but instead of scratching it out and making a block you can read her name before – believe me to be your affectionatesisterFrances

Monday, June 12, 1815My Dear MamaIt is almost 2 weeks since I have seen you. How long the time appears, not that I would have mama think that I am in haste for her return forIbelieveIamwellenoughoffandhaveeverythingthatisproper.I have been quite anxious to go to Western. I do not know whether Poppa will think it proper. He says he shall have no objections, if he thought Mama had none. I have been well except a slight turn of the earache which lasted but half the day. I hope I shall be a good girl andthatthegirlswillnothaveanyoccasionof findingfaultwhenyoureturn. Kiss little Henry and believe me your dutiful daughter Lucy

I am determined, my dear Mama, that if Lucy is the oldest that she shall not out do me. I have therefore made an attempt to write knowing that my dear Mama will excuse every fault. We have had bad weather almost all the time since mama went away. Some days we could not go to school and Sam has Kerry E and I in the wagon once or twice. I had aslightindispositionwhichdetainedmeathomethefirstSundayafteryou left us which was a great grief to me. But we all went last Sunday. I want to see mama and Henry and likewise Grandmama every much. I amyouraffectionatedaughterGloriana

Dear MamaI think you’ll be quite surprised when you receive this letter from me but I have been quite anxious to write to mama ever since she went away. I have been quite well ever since you left me. I cried a little the second night after mama went away and since that I have been perfectly contented neither is saying nor thinking anything about it but I should like to have little Henry to play with me when I come home

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Book: 8Number: 690Date: 12/7/1815To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Sarah Dering, sisterPlace: Shelter Island

Shelter Island December 7, 1815Dear BrotherI have been for some time waiting with great impatience for the family toretirethatImightbecommuningwiththee.Myselfishhearthasatlength driven me to the writing desk. I began to think there would be nothing more coming to me. I feel grateful to you, my dear brother, forhavingwrittenmesofrequentlyandsoaffectionately.Ihavemadeup my mind for some years past that I was void of that sensibility which Sterne so beautifully describes and which you appear to think constitutesthechief charminoursex.Itbearsanaffinitytodivineaffection.StillIthinkIlovemyfriendsaswellasmostpeoplenoreverconsidered at any fault of theirs that they lightly esteemed me – –

But before I proceed further I must tell you what great things the Lord is doing for poor sinners in this region. There is a great awakening at Sag Harbor. Uncle Dering whom I have just heard praying over my head, tells us there was a meeting at his house last Sunday evening of three hundred persons – – Cousin Thomas has received the comfort of theHolySpirit.Francesisdeeplyaffectedhaspowerfulconvictionof sins and a great desire to be one of God’s chosen children. No doubt he will receive her into the heavenly company for he is a God of truth and will hear the prayer of the humble penitent – – Our dearest cousin Eliza without any powerful convictions of sin or hope of pardon and acceptance has her views and opinions on the subject of religion entirely changed begins to think seriously of working out her salvation throughthemeritsof acrucifiedRedeemer–Youcannotimaginehowamiable her desire to acquiesce in the provinces of God makes her appear. I never took more comfort in her society than at present –

Mary Ann Douglas has laid down her weapons of rebellion against and given herself up to God. Likewise Phoebe Mitchell and Eliza Partridge. The latter of whom it appears to me must now be an almost perfect character. O! that I too was as Christian. But alas! My stout heart will not bow in subjection to the Almighty’s will – – Ben says in his letter to Ann last week that the lady he marries must be of fortune, family and education but with all these how fallacious may his enjoyment prove without religion. How much more reasonably may he expect happiness with a humble Christian – – I hope you will report to all our friends who are interested in the salvation of souls the work which is begun here. God grant it may be continued and extended that it may reach the hearts of the people on our dear Isle.

from school as I come home every day before the girls do it [-] Lucy and KathrynGilberttovisituslastSaturdayandwehadfinetimes.Isend much love to Grandmama and [-] and hope Henry will bring me something pretty. I am, dear Mama, your dutiful daughter Elizabeth

PS the girls say that I am the best girl and the least trouble of any of them. EH

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• Elizabeth Packer Gardiner, more so than her older brother Robert, moved from relative’s home to relative’s home. Sometimes she was on Shelter Island in the Sylvester Dering home, sometimes in Sag Harbor in the Henry Packer Dering home, and here she may have been with her cousin Charles who was in business in Hamilton, New York. It was perhaps this moving around from household to household that made her so intimate with her cousin Nicoll.

• Note Eliza’s particular admiration for Mr. Rueben Bromley and how she called her 17 year old cousin Brinley “a rogue.”

• Eliza scoffed at the fact that Charles was allowed to forego college and “study” business with his Uncle Renssaelaer instead. She hoped that his youngest brother Henry would be encouraged to follow in Nicoll’s footsteps and complete his

There has been a great display of God’s power his condescending love and goodness in the conversion of Cynthia Tennant – without the blessing of pious friends, the privilege of religious instruction gospel preaching scarcely a Bible and a very imperfect knowledge of reading she was brought out of darkness into the marvelous light of the sons of God.

Ourfamilyaffairsgoonasquietlyasyouwouldexpect.Mostof thetime without any help in the kitchen except Achilles (and Mama very unwell)– – Eliza and I have moved our private library into the parlor betweenthehalldoorandthefireplace.Herdeskstandsdirectlyunderit at which I am now writing – and use in the morning as soon as I can discern the light and make every possible exertion to get everything in order that there may be no bustle after breakfast is over when seated aroundagoodfire(forIforeseewhatwillproducecomfortandkeepup plentiful supply of wood at hand) sometimes I knit and read, sometimes Eliza or I engage in conversation. We are agreeably deluded until dinner during which Papa entertains us with anecdotes gathered in his late travels – I must not forget to mention that Frances Howard is an inmate of our family – we quite look down upon you citizens and assure you I would not exchange this for all the gaiety of the city, or the grandeur of a court – here we have not the perplexities of dress and fashion enters not to mar our repose.

We have not to think how we shall appear in this satin or that muslin which suit of ribbons lace or muslin will be most becoming – on which side our hair shall be combed, twisted or braided etc. etc. etc. I solemnly declare I would rather, as repugnant as it is to my nature, drudge in the kitchen than be a slave to dress and fashion– I think it quite as edifying how much such things are thought of in New York. I am sorry to say they constitute the chief employment of many of my acquaintance and mine too when I am there. Take care you do not get taken in – there are many things almost indispensably necessary to domestic comfort that it is impossible you should ever come to a knowledge of, by your own observation. It is growing late and I must close. It will be foolish to go to making excuses. You know this is not written as well as I generally write – The fact is I have been hurrying with all my might. I should get cheated out of a little sleep – With love toallinquiringfriendswritesoontoyouraffectionateSisterSarah

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education.

Book: 8Number: 691Date: 2/14/1816To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Eliza Packer GardinerPlace: Hamilton

Hamilton 14thMy dear cousin, I must know how you are going to proceed this summer–if Iwasonlywithyouwewouldgoontogetherinfixingmatters round the house, setting out trees etc. – Above all things I beg you’ll not forget to add your smile to embellish that beautiful little spot so dearly held by cousin Sarah and myself known by the name of Home Laneger’s Cottage. You probably know Sally’s and my determination if things should happen so and so. I can’t exactly tell you now because tis not a proper time – – When we three meet, if Providence pleases, that we three shall ever meet again, I will tell you all about it –

Anyhow it is a very happy conceit of Mrs. Altho’s [-] one your folks will pass [-] ideas – – your last letter came at the very time I was passing with Ms. Gardiner and -- her brother. I’ll say nothing more of himbuttalkof thesisterasshehasrosycheeks,finehair,andwhiteteeth. His complexion is rather bronzed, no freckles. It might be owing to his riding in March winds – but stop, I am talking of the brother – I never meant to. His sister left an invitation a very proposing invitation for you if you accompany your sister here – to bring is not to Manlius.

Now I as much expect to see you with her as I expect to see summer. We may never either of us see summer or each other again – shall Imakemyself unhappybysuchreflections–forsuchcertainlyhasthateffectonamindlikemine–Howeverif wearepreparedtomeet each other in a future state or rather prepare to meet our judge what happens to us here will not be of so much consequence. If our separation is so painful to us here, for a little while what would it be if we knew we were to be eternally separated – I think of these things often almost continually but what shall it tend to if not to make me better they certainly tend to harden my heart – –

Mr. James Reeper passed a night with us last week. He is bumpkins enough. I however like him because he is active and takes hold the right end of the rope. I never set half so high a value on activity as I have done this winter and now saw so little of it – – Now you may depend it’s what everyone may have if they are a mind to –

You do not mention who of my acquaintance were at Mrs. A’s party – Bromley, I expect had gone on his long voyage – I am sorry he has gone that way – he is a worthy fellow as any I am acquainted with. Hehasrealrefinementandbenevolenceof heart–Iusedtothinkdifferentlyof himonce,becausehewasnotgracefulandeloquentinconversation. I, however, have altered my mind as respects to many things – his rectitude of principle is now esteemed as the present grace of his liberality to the poor the most captivating of all elegance – – I have none on that subject.

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Book: 8Number: 692Date: 4/5/1816To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Eliza Packer GardinerPlace: Hamilton

MissASmithwashereyesterdayandofferedtotakeElizaandmyself out to Utica in her pleasure wagon any time we would say next week. I wont go as I have nowhere to go to after I get there and to say truth I have no inclination to go there. If you and Cousin Sarah come up we will visit Polly Gardiner and then hop home as soon as is agreeable to you.

I am very sorry to hear Uncle Harry and Cousin Frances are both more unwell than common. You must advise them to travel up this way. I don’t doubt it would be of service to both of them. You ask if this Miss Gardiner was not at their [-] some time since at school – – it was a sister of hers who is a great belle in these parts. I however don’t believe I shall love her better than I do miss Dorothy G if I ever should become acquainted with her. She was not at home when I was there – –

You ask who you shall pay your addresses to this vacation – if your affectionsarenotalreadyfastened–Comeuphereandpayyouraddresses to Miss DG – but none of your airs this way without your heartislongwiththem.Nicoll,whataconsummateflattereryouare–Don’t think and take all you say for granted – – I am tired writing and they are talking all the time – – when you see my dear cousin Tom give my best love to him and tell him he is as near my breast as any young man in the universe though he takes no notice of me all this time and Brinley, too, as great a rogue as he is – –

Charles talks sometimes about moving away from here. Business is so dull and everything edible so dear – Potatoes six shillings a bushel and wheat two dollars and 18 cents and everything else in proportion. I never see such a country as this – – don’t miss me at all. You must live at New York – mind what say – – how does Henry progress in his studies – – I hope Uncle means to educate him. What nonsense it was lettingCharleshavehisway––yoursaffectionatelyE

Hamilton 5th AprilIt really appears to me the somberous shades of this winter past will neverwearoff–Of alllongspellsof coldthishasbeentheworstIeverknewinmyborndays––Ilongforfreedom.Thisbeingconfinedtofiresallone’slifeisnotsoagreeableespeciallytoonewhoissoveryfond of being quite alone as I am – Not a single moment can I have to think my own thoughts excepting when I am abed and then I go to sleep – Thus am I situated now when I am going to write a friend like you. I want to collect every little agreeable thing I have met with on my way along for their entertainment and sometimes I am obliged to stop to think how and when it was and in so doing they all begin to look as thoughtheythoughtIwascomposingsomefineromanticsentence,that at once this discomposes all my serenity of mind, and I am at a worse stand than ever how to go on. I, however, am determined to go

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on this evening in spite of the passing inquiries that is made to know what I am about and who I am writing to and in spite of my own dole faculties – of them I have most to complain. I, however, have ever made the best of them and intend to do so now and if I am not so happy as to please.

My heart is not blamable, but my poor abilities, I sincerely lament theyarenotbetter.Thisthegreatestsourceof mortification.Ihaveby natural dullness and unconstructed mind. If only I was humble enough to be willing that others should know I am as ignorant as I really am, how much more comfortable I should feel, but I have all my lifetime been trying to keep it a secret and at the same time disclosing it in every word I utter. If in my more [-] your being educated to compassionatethedeficienciesyouseeinmyEarthborncompassionand fellow mortals, likewise our being taught to love each other likebrotherandsistermakesyoutolerate––I’llworditdifferent.Yournaturalaffectionatedispositionandrealgoodnessof heartcompassionatesallmyweaknessesandwhereinadifferentpersonwould ridicule and make fun of me. You would kindly excuse and more kindly forget. You are tired – so am I – We will go upon another subject.

Miss Dorothy Gardiner is an agreeable one and as she has not left this part of the world yet we will talk about her – None but the fair, you know, some say hussy, I drank tea with her day before yesterday at Mr. Hubbard’s and thought her more blooming than [-]. I never saw roses moresweetevacuatethecityof NYof everyrespectable[-].Ifindmyself more and more attached to her every time I see her and she has heard of Doctor Dering too. I love to talk about you. I tell her you are monstrous plain but I know she begins to mistrust otherwise – I did intend she should be surprised when she come to see you but it was somehow or other leaked out that you are a more than ordinary clever fellow – I miss told her I have written part of this in my lap.

I will endeavor to go on in a more regular way with the rest as I have got to the desk. Your last letter for which I give 1000 thanks informs me you are about going home and as you probably will be there before this arrives at NY I shall direct it to ShelterIslandwhereIhopeitwillfindyou planting a few trees beside mine that the folks may have them to look upon when we are gone. I know it will be a consolation to them – I long to be there sending about with you there is so much comfort in it – So let me know whether all my trees are alive and whether they look like thriving. If Cousin Sally comes up here do you come wither? Don’t come nowhere in this part of the world to live, I charge you.

Nowhere suits me, for you, but New York. You must go there, you may depend tis the place designed for you, and you are not calibrated for any other place. But we know what you intend to do with yourself and where Ben is going. If he had been here this winter he might have had

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the pleasure of gallanting this beautiful Miss D Gardiner and rode with Miss Smith and tis no small treat, I assure you, to be drawn by her dear little ponies. I, however, insist upon it there is not a horse in the country equal to Uncles Old White [Sylvester’s horse] – how does he do? I’m afraid the last winter has go on hard with him. I have thought so much of him –

I have inquired to know who the Mrs. Ladd is. You mention and the firstinformationIhadof herwasthatsheswindledMr.Hubbardoutof his passage from Albany to Utica pretending she could not make change. Now I hope that pretty daughter of hers has not even spice of her disposition. Her claiming niece will not be of any advantage to either herself for children in the opinion of most people here – – that is they will never get it. – It may give them consequence and may get her daughters husbands –

YouhavetohaveblankpapersenttoyouandsodoI–Iwouldfillupthe rest with those hints that have been so long coming if I had not much rather give them to you in an oral way – I however will state a few – the most important ones I will reserve till I see you – Spend the timemydearcoz–doIinthefirstplace.Idobelievematrimonyassweet again where there is a comfortable quantity of money. However, as that is to be got before hand, remember it has nothing to do with my hints. Mine is respecting conduct after marriage – now if I give you thesehintsyouwillnotprofitbythemwithoutyouareimmediatelyunder my eye and authority and I may as well let them rest till that time.

Monday eveningMiss Pierce has called this afternoon with her brother for Betsy and myself to visit them this week – We regret very much we can’t go for I do assure you Miss Pierce converses most agreeably upon religious subjects and makes some pretty shrewd remarks or answers to some of the high going Baptists. She, however, answers in character to those who are as wise as serpents and harmless as Moses – one of the B. told her the other day he would not argue with her as she was not his equal, but he would send her some books that would convince her she had nothing to build her belief upon. She acknowledged his politeness and at some time told him she believed she had some she could send him in favor of what she advanced. If not she could send him the Bible.

Mr. Hubbard’s niece is at her uncle’s on a visit. I have been hearing her play and sing. She does not play as well as EP, sings better than she, however, is not half as agreeable – By the way, what business has that Mr. Foot to take upon himself – or rather to be taken himself down one way, do let me know what it means – It looks serious – I don’t see for it [-] in manner [-] caper, I think – Did you ever see him? Nicoll, do go to see Marianne [D-] not as physician but as a friend on my account and let me know how she is, poor girl. How sorry I am for her and her

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Book: 8Number: 693Date: 4/28/1816To: Catherine HuntingtonFrom: Desiree Brown Havens, GrandmamaPlace: New York

family. Miserable indeed is their situation.

Two mails has passed and we have not heard a word from old [-]. I have a mind to wait now until I do. I can’t think why Cousin Sarah has not written – I wish she was here with all my heart – I have a letter from Sarah Bruce to answer this morning and one from dear brother and I am half tired out now. I do hate to write above all things in this world without it to wash knifes and forks – love to all yours Eliza

NBthereisacomicalaffairbrewinghere–itwoulddelightyoutohavea hand in it – –I am [-] one Miss G [---] chief spoke in the wheel – Don’t tell –

New York April 28, 1816My Dear GranddaughterI received your kind favor by Mr. Wright and thank you for writing me. It was so long time I had not heard a word from Rome. I was rejoiced and almost overcome to have a letter and to hear you were all enjoying comfortable health which is a blessing that we can’t be thankful enough for. I am sorry to hear your little brother was unwell with a cold. I think the sick turns he has been subject to come with taking cold. I pray that he may recover of them and be blessed with better health. I have had my health through the winter, but I am feeble this spring. I have the rheumatism and have had a sick turn that I have in subject to, but I hope I am getting better. Your Uncle Havens and Aunt and children one all enjoying good health.

Your Uncle has this hour arrived home. He has been gone three days to bring home his son Nicoll from Middlesex. He has been there at school all winter. He thinks of sending N and Henry away soon to some good school.

Gloriana is going to school at New Haven. She goes in about 10 days. Charlotte will stay at home this summer. My dear Catherine, I am glad to hear it has been a time of health at Rome this winter and sorry to hear that religion dies away. We often do have a falling away after a religious revival. The tree if known by its fruits and it’s to be feared that manyof theleaveswillwitherawayanddropoff.ButIhopeinGod’sown time it may revive again.

You speak of getting too much engaged in the things of this world. This world is good as far as it will go, but it will not carry us one step nearertoheavenif ouraffectionstakeholdonthisworld.Itwillleadus astray from Christ. [-] our favor there is greater attention to religion and the duty and worship of God than there ever was in this city before.

It is reported there is more attention in all the churches and in Mr. Springs church there is a great revival. He [-] thinks there will as many

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• On August 14, Charles Thomas Dering married Elizabeth Floyd Nicoll. She had grown up at Sachem’s Neck on Shelter Island, now known as Mashmack Preserve.

• On August 24, after a long illnesss, Anna Jenkins Havens, Renssaelaer Havens’ wife, died.

as 80 persons that will aright his church at the ensuing sacrament and a great number that have a loving hope and a number that feel the weight of their sins and are distressed in body and mind.

The religious revival is wonderful at Shelter Island and Sag Harbor. They have had Mr. Woodsworth on there to preach and administer the sacrament. Nine or ten joined the church. Betsy Nicoll was one and Mr. Obadiah Havens and his wife and a number I haven’t time to mention their names. Give my love to Polly Cleaves when you see her and tell her that her sister Parker’s son John has been at New York. I saw him here at your Uncles and heard him discuss. It is wonderful to hear him talk. He has joined the church and converses very well indeed. He said his mother was as well as usual. Mr. Spring has a prayer meeting in his session room four mornings in the week and prayer meeting every night in the week at one house or another of his congregation. He spends his whole time in going from house to house and from one street to another to exhort and visit his people.

You must remember my love to all friends at Rome. My love [--] Tillet and I hope he will enjoy much happiness and comfort [-] his newconnections.RemembermeaffectionatelytoallfriendsatRome to all your sisters. I shall write a line if I can go to Henrietta by this opportunity. I am not indebted to Frances nor Anna. My love to Pamela and thank her for all her kind attention to me.

My dear Catherine, you asked me if I think of going to Rome this summer. I often think of it but can’t determine where I shall go if my life is spared. I shan’t stay in this city through the hot season. I must go where it is most convenient for my friends to transport me.

There is nowhere I think I could [-] this summer more pleasant then at your father’s house. It is uncertain at present whether I can or not. I want very much to see you all. Do any of you come to New York this spring? Will your sisters go from home to school again this summer? You must kiss your brother Henry for me and your little sisters. I fear H will quite forget me and grow out of my knowledge. My writing is so poor I fear you will not be able to read it. I hope you will not expose it.Ihaveamost[-]towrite.Youreveraffectionategrandmawithprayers for the health and happiness of one and all both spiritual and temporal. Desiree Havens

Mr. Spring made a very good discourse on Thursday evening from the seventhchapterof GenesisandthefirstverseandtheLordsaiduntoNoah, come thou and all thine house into the ark was his talk.

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• The stage coach from Southampton to Brooklyn left every Monday. It began its return on Thursday.

Book: 8Number: 696Date: 10/20/1816To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Sylvester & Sarah DeringPlace: Shelter Island

Shelter Island Sabbath evening 20 October 1816My dear SonCapt. Conkling arrived last night. This morning he handed me a letter from your Uncle Havens with a parcel of medicine. I wondered there was no letter from you. Charles having yesterday determined to go by land came up here this afternoon, took my horse and wagon after dinner and left us designing to go to Sag Harbor this evening. After meeting this afternoon.

Samuel Case handed me your letter of the 15th instant respecting the proposal that Dr. Law had made to you and your wishes for our advice on the subject. I wish we would communicate with your family thereon – – We have no time to think of the subject if we answer you by this conveyance.

Mr.NicollwhogoesofftomorrowmorningIexpecttofallintocompany with Charles at Southampton by whom I shall send this. Your mother and myself know not what to say to you on the subject. We are loathe to have you so far from us and yet we wish to consent heartfully to what may be best for your temporal and spiritual interest – – The firstweconsiderof importance.Thelatterinfinitelymoreso.Weknowthat God is everywhere present, and that he can preserve you there as wellasanywhereelse.Andthathethatseekhimshallfindhim.Youdowell to consult your friends, and we should be willing to take the advice of those who are better acquainted than ourselves – But, my dear son, you ought to go to God and present your soul in [-] to him, to direct you in the pathway of duty.

Commit your ways unto the Lord, trust in him, and he shall bring it to pass. In all thy ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy paths – – Psalm 37.5 – Proverbs 3.6 – – whether you stay or think it best to improve this opening in Providence or any other we beseech you to look to God for his direction and blessing – We can do no more than commit you to God. Oh that we might be enable to do it – – and that you might be unable to give yourself up to him – – We leave the matter with yourself and your friends in New York.

Your brother you will have opportunity to converse with on this subject and he will inform you all about us and the reasons of mine not being able with Sally to go on with them – – I beg you may be directed in what is duty, that which will be most for the honor and glory of God and the best good of your precious and immortal soul –

At present I have no funds to help you away. If your Uncle [Havens] can contribute for you to let me pay him the interest – – Until I can borrow the money I should be glad, in case it should be thought best for you to go – – I beg his prayers for you and for us all – – Give my

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• On November 1, 1816, a daughter, Catherine Mary, was born to Margaret Dering and Richard Nicoll. This was their fourth child.

Book: 8Number: 697Date: 11/2/1816To: Frances HuntingtonFrom: Anne HuntingtonPlace: New York

love to [-] It is getting late and I must send this to Mr. Nicoll tonight or I would have written him. By showing him this letter he will know our feelingsandsentimentsonthesubject––youraffectionatefatherandmother Sylvester and Sarah Dering

New York November 2My Dear FrancesI am very sorry to learn by your letter and sister Catherine that you havebeensympathizingwithmeontheinfluenza.Itookaslightcoldin the head and it increased and after we reached here last Friday when Iwasobligedtoconfinemyself tothehouseandSaturdaytothebedsince which time I have recovered very fast and am now well excepting a cough, which I hope to cure soon. But I feel very anxious for you and fearful you will be the long time recovering. Remember last winter and beverycareful.CousinMaryandIspentyesterdayMrs.Radcliffeshehas been very attentive to us as have all our friends but I must have all to tell you when I return.

My eyes will not have any exertion. Broadway almost distracts me. There is a letter of business and I must proceed to it at once. Miss Duncan went with me on Thursday to buy a hat. We found leghornes 20 but generally of an inferior quality and all too dear for us. With her advice I determined to purchase a [-] one for Henrietta, my old one dyed and trimmed with crepe for myself and commissioned her to procure some nice ones for us in the winter.

She says it will be the most economical plan as it appears to me but I am afraid the arrangement will not suit you. Your old hat is not as good as mine. What shall I do for you? It is a most perplexing business. Black leghornsarehigh.Icannotfindadecentonewithoutfeathersforlessthan$13.MaryPhasleftoffhercrêpeandwearsaveryhandsomeblack[-]hatforwhichshepaid$10.ShallIgetonelikeitforyou?What shall be done?

Write immediately and if I have left town before the letter arrives the girlswillexecuteyourpleasure.Uncletalksof leavingherethefirstof next week, but I don’t think he will as soon. Mary has not yet decided whether to stay all winter or return with us.

I have received several pressing invitations to remain till spring. Mrs. HenryThomas,AuntFaithandMrs.Radcliffeurgedmetostaywiththem. I am grateful for their kindness but am not conscious of a single wish to avail myself of it. My time passes pleasantly and rapidly away and I hope in the course of a fortnight to join our dear Uncle at home and recount all my adventures at full length. Grandmother and the

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Book: 8Number: 698Date: 12/25/1816To: Sylvester Dering,to keep for Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Eliza Packer GardinerPlace: Hamilton

Hamilton Christmas Day morningDear cousin, methinks you are making ready for the feast this day. And from a letter to Betsy, that Ben intends to have some considerable ceremony on starting his barrel of cider. Though that is of the least consequence, in itself, I expect it will cause turkeys, chickens and bucks to be slain as well as a turning over of beef, pork and lambs and all kinds of vegetables that the very best may be produced to honor that barrel of cider. I honor it. It will for what can equal the productions of old Shelter Island –

Pastry is an idea before me now. Her nice mince pies, cranberry tarts, apple pudding, rice and pumpkin with custards. of whipped sullibubs. I see them but cannot taste them – I, however, would willingly, neigh gladly, forego regaling my palette of one single article of them, if I could but see and unite with my dear companions in conversation.

We are far to see then the choicest luxuries the earth ever produced. But what plants can compare with them, Sarah, Maria, Nicoll and Ben,butwenolongerwonderwhenwereflectthattheoak,kingof woods, has produced saplings which have become trees that has been of the highest importance to her imperial majesties, you are but the branches as yet – –

I will now most heartily thank you for the kind interest you take in myunhappyaffairs–somethingof thiskindnessdisturbingthatpeace I would otherwise take – Our happiness here – depends more orlessuponothers–howeverindependentwemayaffecttobeastotheopinionof theworldwhenwefindtheworldfavoringthatgoodopinion of us we have here-to-fore sustained. It will most bitterly and sorelyaffectus.ItmademequiteunhappyatfirstbutyoursandS’sletterswithmyownreasoningreflectionhasputtoflightalmostof therecollection of the cause. Such malice should feel nothing more than her own maker, and the sting of them she cannot avoid feeling sooner or later. She feels them now; that she may repent ere it be too late is my most hearty prayer – –

How I long to be with you today. Tis about the hour you are sitting down to the table [at the Nicoll house on Sachem’s Neck]. Mr. Nicoll is carving the turkey. Richard is turning up his sleeve with due solemnity (He is not got serious yet.) to begin upon the ducks. Ben takes the chicken because they are the least trouble. You wait ‘till Anne begins on thehamthatyoumayshowyourgallantryinofferingtodoitforher.––Anneisallaffability,MariaascharmingasMaryis[-][-]isreflectinghow many miles we are apart (today is one of my worst days) and I feel as though she looked ill too – – Margaret with her long matronly face

girls send their best love. Remember mine also to the family and friends affectionatelyyoursAnne

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• Aaron Woolworth, a Presbyterian preacher, gave a sermon on Shelter Island on Christmas Day. He was born at Longmeadow, Massachusetts on October 25, 1763. He graduated from Yale College in 1784 – the same year Henry Packer Dering graduated. He studied theology privately; was licensed to preach by the Eastern Association of New London County; and was ordained and installed pastor of the Church in Bridgehampton, April 30, 1787. Several powerful revivals of religion occurred under his ministry, particularly one in 1800, an account of which was published in connection with Dr. Buell’s Narrative of an Extensive Revival in East Hampton. He died April 2, 1821. Dr. Woolworth was considered a man of remarkably sound judgment, deep piety and power as a preacher. Richard Nicoll, Margaret Dering’s husband, would study with him to gain his own preaching credentials.

• On May 5, 1816, Benjamin Nicoll Huntington was born to Catherine Mary Havens and Henry Huntington. His cousin, Daniel Huntington, son of Faith Trumbull and Benjamin Huntington, Jr., who became a famous painter, was born on October 4, 1816. Their paternal grandfather was Benjamin Huntington, delegate at the Second Continental Congress and first U.S. Representative from Connecticut. Letters between “Benny” and his wife Anne are in the earlier part of this volume.

Book: 8Number: 702Date: 1/1/1817To: Catherine HuntingtonFrom: Anne HuntingtonPlace: New York

presents her second spring and her children and these is [-] Bella, a little fairy is threatening to put us all down in a very short time. Anne shows, at the head of her father’s table, that Shelter Island ladies need not go to the court of St. James for grace – I am in love with the whole group.

You wish to for me at your father’s table Thanksgiving day as well as some others of my name now that’s right I like that and I assure you could not select from a better race of beings – – Are you acquainted with one Miss Gore residing in this village? A pretty girl I don’t mean to intimate anything. I only ask for information. Go to the [-]. Make my love to all the girls Fannie and Eliza in particular. I am sick and can’t write – write me again it will do me more good than all your nostrums–yourlastwasaretiringcordialyoursaffectionatelyEPG

Burn this don’t let Uncle see it.

New York January 1, 1817Dear SisterI am almost tired of hearing the usual compliments of a New Year’s morning, yet I will not omit wishing you and all our dear family and friends at Rome many very many happy returns of this season. – – Nearly a fortnight has elapsed since I received your good letter. It was really a treasure to us. We had been so long expecting a letter from home, and I thought when I sat down to write it could not be more then 10 o’clock and of course should have time to answer it ,but the sound of the church going bell tells me it is time to stop until afternoon. Mr. Spring’s New Year’s sermons, I believe, are generally very good. I presume he will give us an excellent discourse this morning. – –

January6.ItoldyoutheothermorningthatIshouldfinishmyletterafter church, but really did not think of it being such a holiday that one had neither time to write nor think after 12 o’clock. Mr. S gave us a very good sermon from one Corinthians part of the 29th and 30th verses “but this I say, brethren, the time is short: and it remaineth that

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they that rejoice be as though they rejoiced not” he reviewed the last year, pointed out the many causes we had to rejoice, and then showed why upon Christian principle we ought to rejoice as though we rejoiced not.

Frances received mama’s letter last week on Monday. She mentions that you had that moment heard of the death of Edward’s grandma. F and myself received your joint letter on Saturday. The death of our cousin is indeed a solemn warning to us his young friends. He was an onlyson,hisprospectsflatteringandpossessedof talentsthatwouldadorn society. But he is gone. Poor Uncle Gurdon must be very much afflictedhavingbeenwithhimduringthefirstpartof hisillness,renders it doubly distressing.

Cousin H has been here this afternoon. She has received a letter from Mary who mentions the death of Dr. Backus, President of Hamilton College. His loss will be very extensively lamented. The shafts of death areflyingoneverysideandcallingloudlytousalltobealsoready.Wehave been at last to see Mrs. Barron. She was very glad to see us and said we were very excusable for not going before if we were promised to come often to see her for the future.

The weather is something colder than it has been but there has no snowfallingyet.Ithinkoftenof ourfineOneidasnowstormsandJanuaryfires.Theyburncoalherealtogether,Ishouldadmiretoseeoneof Papaselegantmaplefires.Franceshascommencedthestudyof French. She has taken eight lessons. I don’t know but she will speak it after she has taken 40 more but it requires constant application so much that she can hardly have time to answer my numerous questions.

Mr. Griscom has a assistant by the name of [-] grandson of old friend Mott who came to the school to see [-]. The other day he told me Mrs. Mott did not keep her school this winter. Mr. Griscom has gone out of town. I long to have him return as Mr. Mott does not keep half as good order as he does in school.

Grandma, Miss McDonald and Sister join me in much love to Mama, Papa, sisters, Pamela, and all friends. Kiss dear little Henry and BenjaminformeandbelievemeyouraffectionatesisterAnne

PS You recollected Mrs. Clarke. She was taken yesterday while dressing forchurchwithanapoplecticfitandhasnotmovedsince.Unclehasthis moment come from there and says there is no probability of her recovery.

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Book: 8Number: 703Date: 1/21/1817To: Catherine Huntington, motherFrom: Anne HuntingtonPlace: New York

New York January 21, 1817My Dear MotherWe received your letter on Friday last and were very much grieved to hear that our darling Henry had had another of those ill turns which havesooftenalarmedus.Itwassolongsincehehadafitweflatteredourselves that the cause of them was entirely removed. I am much obliged to Mama for the excellent advice which her letter contained and hope I shall make a good improvement of it. Sister F has gone this morning to take her French lesson. She goes now but three mornings in the week but has the longer lessons to get at home. I am almost afraid such incessant study will injure her health.

Mr. Griscom is having some alteration made in his school room. Of course there has been no school this week. He has had a room in the oldalmshousefittedupforhischemicalandphilosophicallectures.Itwasopenedlasteveningforthefirsttimetothepublic.IwentwithMr. and Mrs. Thomas, Miss Jencks, and cousin Hannah. The subject was optics. I was very much entertained. The magic Lantern was particularly amusing. It is to be free again tomorrow evening. Two of the medical [-] are going to take the nitrous oxide or exhilarating gas. Mrs. Thomas has invited me to go again there. We are expecting cousin Hannah to spend the day with. I think however she will make a ceremonious instead of the sociable visit. which she promised us.

I was at Uncle Benjamin’s yesterday. Aunt is quite sick with a violent cold. The children are very well. Little Daniel is a very pretty child, indeed. I spent the day there about a fortnight since Mr. Whelpy was there in evening and christened the babe. They regret very much thathisnamewasfixedsosoon;theywishedtocallhimEdwardbutUncle thought it would not do to alter it after they had written to New London that “Daniel” was the name determined upon.

The family, except Grandmama, are all very well. Perhaps Pamela has mentioned the singular turns which she [Grandmama] had while she was here. Shortly after she went away she was taken with one in the street. No one was with her but cousin Charlotte. A woman that came along just at that moment helped to support her till she came to herself. After she recovered she was not sensible that anything had been the matter. Since that time she has been very well until night before last. Miss McDonald, Charlotte, and myself were in the room. She was taken with a much more severe one then she had ever had before. It was some moments before she breathed and nearly half an hour before she recovered so as to be sensible that anything had happened. We were very much frightened indeed and thought she was gone forever. She has had one slight turn yesterday morning but appears to be much better today. Uncle thinks they are very alarming, and I thought I had better mention it to Mama as we all very much fear she will drop away in one of them. I hope Mama will not say anything about it in her letters because Grandma is not sensible that anything alarming has

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• Daniel Huntington will grow up to be a famous artist. A number of his paintings, including several Dering family portraits, are now at the Metropolitan Museum of Art.

Book: 8Number: 704Date: 1/25/1817To: Frances HuntingtonFrom: Louisa Huntington, sisterPlace: Rome

been the matter after she gets over them.

Uncle B had a letter from Major Dalliby the other day. Susan and her child were very well. I wish to write a few words to Henrietta in answer to her letter. My paper will be quite covered if I do not stop very soon. Mama will write us as often as she can and I hope Catherine will not forget that she is indebted to me for a letter. Grandma sister and cousin join me in much love to Papa mama etc. etc. etc. and believe me your dutifulandaffectionatedaughterAnna

My dear Henrietta, my paper will only allow me to tell you how much I am obliged to you for your letter and your punctuality in answering it. How do you all do this cold weather? I am almost frozen. My poor fingersaresocoldherebythefirethatIcanscarcelyholdthiswretchedpen. We have had but little snow but the weather has been extremely coldformorethana[-].IpresumeyoufinesleighingupinOneidaCountyandthe[-]areflyingaboutatagreatrate.Ithinkoftenof ourfinesleighridesfromNewHartfordtoWhitesboro. I dare say you do too.

Have you been to Whitesboro this Winter? How is Aunt Tracy and her good family. Tell Susan she promised to write me. I think it very singular if Mrs. Mott has lost Kirke White. I think you had better ride outtheresomeof thesefinedaysandseewhathasbeenthefateof it.Mrs.Radcliffetoldsisterlastweekwiththatdreadfuldiseasethetyphus fever perhaps sister C has seeing her. She was very intimate with Hannah when she was here before she came here to spend the winter and was taken sick about a fortnight after her arrival in town. My best love to all the family. Kiss the little ones for me and believe yours affectionatelyAnne

Saturday evening 25th of January 1817How thankful my dear sister ought we to be for God’s distinguishing lovetowardus.Hehasbeenpleasedinhisinfinitemercytoshowusour need of a Savior and has I humbly trust enabled us to accept of himasheisofferedtousintheGospel.Itisallof grace“notuntousnot unto us but unto thy name be all the glory.” My dear Frances we cannotsufficientlyrealizetheprivilegeof beingaChristian.Whatisit to be a Christian! It is no less than to be a child of the most high, an heir of immortal Glory. One who merits eternal wealth but who is brought through grace unto eternal life. Oh the love which Jesus manifested to a dying world. My dear may we ever act worthy of the character which we sustain. May we “let our light so shine before men that others seeing our good works may glorify God our heavenly father.” Let us keep near the throne of grace, imploring the aid of God in all that we do and beseeching him to grant us his presence at

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• On March 8, the New York Stock Exchange was founded.

Book: 8Number: 706Date: 3/16/1817To: Catherine Huntington, motherFrom: Frances HuntingtonPlace: New York

alltimes,tosupportanddeliverusunderallourtrialsandafflictions,and at last to bring us to his everlasting kingdom where we shall ever dwell with him in uninterrupted joy and felicity. My dear sister, what a delight is it that if we are Christians we shall never be separated through the endless ages of eternity, but dwell together with Christ, his holy angels, and all the redeemed. With such hopes before us how careful are we to be, to depart even from the very appearance of iniquity – – You complain in your letter that your faith and hope are not bright and though, my dear sister, your hopes may not be as bright as many of God’s children are favored with, especially on their firstsettingoutontheroadtoheaven.Yetyoursmaybemorelasting.WhenIwasfirstmadeacquaintedwiththepreciousnessof Jesus,mymind was in a very happy frame. Oh what a precious season did I then enjoy, and the Lord has often time been pleased to favor me with the light of his countenance. But at other times he has chastised me for my wanderings by withdrawing the consolations of his spirit until I have returned under him and repented of my sins. Thus he deals with all his children and thus he will deal with you, my dear sister. If you are his child of which I have no doubt at present. May the Lord be pleased to take us both under his fatherly care and protection and when he has done with us here below may he receive us unto himself is the constant prayer of one that feels happy in subscribing herself your friend and sister Louisa

New York March 16, 1817My dear MammaYour kind and truly acceptable letter was received long since and ought tohavebeenansweredbeforenow.Iamashamedtothinkthatitisfiveor six weeks that my dear Mamma ‘s letter has remained unanswered. I thank my dear Mamma for her advice. It is no doubt in answer to your prayers that God has been pleased to turn my thoughts from the vanities of the world – – yes my dear Mamma, I know there is many great and precious promises in the word of God. He is ever waiting to be gracious and has done everything for the salvation of lost and ruined men. If I am lost I shall have no one to blame but myself. God is ever willing to receive all that comes to him with a sense of their guilt and danger and who earnestly desire to be saved. I have lived long enough without God long enough here rejected the Savior and trampledunderfoothispreciousblood.Iwillacceptof hisoffersof pardon and take God for my father and Christ for my Redeemer and righteousness. I am willing to throw myself on his mercy and to trust my immortal soul into his hands. But I sometimes fear that I was not any loss to God.

I know that I cannot force him as [-] but is the love which I have genuine. How necessary is it that I should search myself lest I deceive myself with a false hope. I am for being happy in my mind and hear

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nothing in me (which I can see) at times for which there any reason for hope – –. When I think of the solemn realities of the unseen worker and consider the just [-] which the wicked will receive for their rebellion and unbelief, I tremble lest I or any dear friend should then receive the awful sentence.

“Depart to cursed.” How will the many precious [-] which we enjoy heightened and aggravate the [- - - -] of all who do not make Christ their pastor. Mainly all of us who have had praying parents [-] to who has set us all an example to follow and each the one thing needful bewisewhilethedaylastsandfinallybepresentedbeforethethroneof glory, a happy family to shout the praises of Redeeming love – – Uncle’s family are all pretty well. Grandmama is quite [-] and sends a great deal of love. She says she shall write mama in a few days. Sister Anna has been troubled with the toothache for a few days past but will not be persuaded to have it out. As for myself I am afraid that mama will hear from cousin Hannah that I am sick, but I can assure you that I am not – I have had a bad cold for a week or two part owing to the sudden changes of the weather and getting my feet wet with such constant application to my studies that I have not been as well as I have felt all winter but I am now better and have left my French for a few days until the weather is more settled. I hope Mama and Papa will not be concerned about us.Wedonotdressthis[---]frocks,worstedstockingsandflannelandhave not as much thought of putting on corsets after the many requests which we have had from Papa not to wear them we should feel guilty to own them – –

Uncle had letters from Uncle D Clout a fortnight since. All friends are well. Uncle continues getting better. Cousin Thomas returns to Sag Harbor tomorrow. He has given up the idea of studying for the ministryandwillwriteinhisfather’soffice,andIbelieveittoreceivetheprofitsof theofficewhichhisfatherholds.Cousin[Nicoll]hasaboutfinishedhisstudies.Hethinksof practicingphysicianinNewYork. Aunt L and cousin M are very well and send love. Aunt Faith is very well. Little Jedidiah is better but is very delicate.

Cousin [-] enjoys herself very much with Ms. Jencks this year [-]. I thinkIhaveneverseenherlookbetter.SisterHannahfinishedherquarter at Mr. G and with Uncle [-] has begun French with C at Mr. Hamilton’s. I have taken 24 lessons the whole course is 48 but I do not knowthatIshalltakebut24.Ican[-]readwithbutlittledifficultyandcan speak it with my master a little and have written several French lettersbutnotelegantones.Remembermeaffectionatelytoallfriends.Kiss dear little brother for me. I long to see Little H. I shall answer sister P’s letter in a few days. Remember me, my dear Mamma, in your prayers that I may never give myself any peace until I have found it in Christ – I will write often for the future and hope Mamma will write whenever she has time. Sister with all friends join me in love to Papa

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• Richard Nicoll’s business in Hamilton had failed. Those who invested in his venture, his father-in-law Sylvester Dering and his brother-in-law Charles Dering both lost, for them, a great deal of money. Apparently, his father, Samuel Benjamin Nicoll, had not lent his son any money and therefore had lost nothing.

Book: 8Number: 709Date: 4/8/1817To: Frances HuntingtonFrom: Catherine HuntingtonPlace: Rome, NY

andallthefamilyyouraffectionatedaughterFrances

Rome April 18, 1817My dear sisters I want very much to see you. Henry is talking all the time about Frances calls his name Edward Huntington Tracy after cousin Edward. I have heard that he looks just as an H Tracy did when she was a little baby. Benjamin Nicoll is a great big boy but he cannot stand alone yet and his head is all well but one large sore and he is very well. We all want you to come home and learn him to stand and walk alone. I am studying Willits geography. I hope I shall learn a great deal before you come home. We are all very well. My love to Grandmama and Aunt L’Hommedieu and cousin Mary and cousins Charlotte and Sarah and sisters Frances and Anna. When you come home we hope you will bring along with you Grandmama and Aunt L’Hommedieu andcousinMaryL’Hommedieu.IamyouraffectionatesisterGloriana Huntington

My Dear GrandmamaI was a little girl when you went from here but I hope you have not forgotten me. I have not forgotten my dear Grandmama and want to see her very much and hope she will come here next summer. Don’t Grandmama think that Gloriana deserves a great deal of credit for thelettershehaswrittentothegirlsseeingitisthefirstonesheeverwrote. I am studying Willits geography and have been through it twice. Benjamin Nicoll grows very handsome and I think he will learn to walk alone before long. Miss Crane has seventeen scholars. Anne H Tracy is here; stays to Uncle Gurdon’s and goes to school with us to Miss Crane. Little Henry knows all his letters. Mama and sisters join me in love to Grandmama, Aunt L’Hommedieu Uncle Havens Ms. McDonald sistersandcousins.FromyourtrulyaffectionategranddaughterLucyHuntingtonMrs. Desiree HavensRome April 9, 1817

April 10My Dear SisterWe had long been anxiously waiting to have letters from you last week. Mama received one which had been at Utica a fortnight and also one from Grandmama by mail. I received a letter from cousin Betsy Dering a few days since in answer to one I wrote her and likewise Pamela had one from cousin Sarah F. Dering. Mary Ca [Catherine] has heard from cousin Susan this week. Her family were in good health when shewrote,butshehadbeenquiteafflictedwiththerheumatism.LittleAnne had a bad cold and the woman that lives with her had been sick with the fever.

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I received a note from Susan Tracy Saturday last. She writes her mama and baby are well. Thus within a few days we have heard of the health and prosperity of all our dear friends and hope I felt a little thankfulness on the account of it. I have forgotten to mention a letter from cousin Hannah on Monday last by which I am glad to hear that she thinks of returning home before fall. Perhaps you have heard that Aunt Brown has had a fall in consequence of which she fractured her ankle bone but it’s now getting better. Uncle has spent the most of the winter in Albany but was home at the time and has since gone to Genesee River. Benjamin, too, is there.

Aunt had a letter from Matthew a short time since. Himself and James W were well. Cousin Jerusha Doolittle has a young son. She calls him Edward Clark after her brother. I had depended a good deal upon a visit from Nancy Clark and Mary Floyd this winter. Jerusha’s not being well I suppose is the reason Nancy did not come. Utica that is so agreeable to Mary that she cannot stay at Western and I suppose Rome has not much more charm for her. Pamela and I spent the day at Western about a month ago. Mr. Floyd asked me if I had seen or heard anything of their run-a-way Mary.

Cousins Nancy and Mary have been promising us a visit all winter. Away on minded invasion of it when and here she says “We are coming.” Aunt Floyd has been quite out of health this last winter.

When I sit down to write to you I know not what to write where to begin nor where to end. I have so much to tell you (a great deal of it not proper to be written) but I hope through the protecting care and goodness of our Heavenly Father that we may see each other before long. I do look forward to our meeting with joyful anticipation. I wrote you that Mrs. Ellis was very sick. She died a few days after. Her sickness terminated in the typhus fever. One morning her friends apprehending her death was approaching, her mother went to her. “Dear child (she says) your mother is concerned for your poor soul – – – she replied don’t be worried mother Jesus Christ appeared to me last night dressed in white and took me by the hand saying “Daughter be of good cheer thy sins are forgiven thee.” After that time she expressed a willingness to die (when she had her senses) and appeared very anxious to have her brothers and sisters and all her friends make religion the great business of their lives. I cannot help thinking the prayers of her pious friends might [-] were answered in mercy to her soul. Mrs. Slyter takes care of her child.

Today is fast day. I have been to church. Mr. Gillette preached all dayfromthefirstchapterof Joelfromthe14thtothe17thverse.Ido not now recollect exactly the words. Truly we have great cause for humiliation, fasting and prayers but my conscious condemns me for not keeping it as I ought. There are many poor families around us who are

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Book: 8Number: 710Date: 5/1/1817To: Henrietta HuntingtonFrom: Frances Huntington Place: Shelter Island

destitute of bread and many other necessities of life depending upon the liberality of those who have enough and to spare. It is generally thought if the coming summer be like the last, a famine will follow.We desire the favors of Providence but I hope God has mercy in reserve for us. It becomes us to put our trust in him. We also have great [-] to be humbled as a congregation in church on the account of our [-]andstupidityourindifferencetoeternalrealitiesetc.–Ihavelatelybeen [-] though Christian Herald’s and think them very interesting. I wish very much to have you write to me and am expecting a letter every mail. Tell Anna not to forget she is in debt in the letter way. Our family are all in good health and all friends join me in sending much love! My dear sister, I do not forget to remember you daily in my prayers. Do the throne of peace that God would grant you every needed grace and blessing. Build you up the most holy faith unable tolivetohisgloryandfinallytakeyouhometohimself.Iamrejoicedto hear of the attention to religion in Mr. Springs church and do hope and pray that our dear girls Charlotte and Anna will give their attention sincerely to this salvation of their souls. Unless they do all the means and privileges they enjoy will be of no avail if they do. We mayhopetheywillfindasaviorprecioustotheirsouls.IremainyouraffectionatesisterCatherine

Shelter Island May 8, 1817My Dear HenriettaI thank you very much for your letter which has been for some time neglected. Although it bears a little reproach for my not writing you before but my time has been so much occupied that I have hardly found time to write the few letters which I have sent home. I received a letter from sister C the day I left town. I thanked her for [-] ceremony for I believe I am indebted to her for two or three letters. We left Grandmama well when we left town. Cousin Charlotte, Miss McDonald, and little [-] with Grandmama composed the family.

Uncle [Havens] left us on Monday for New Haven. He will return to New York with Gloriana and the boys. I received a short letter from all the children except little Elizabeth and will answer them in a few days.TelllittleHenryIshallnotforgethisRuffles.Myhealthismuchbetter. I grow fat every day. Sister A is very well. We shall return to NY in a fortnight or three weeks. Cousin Sarah thinks of accompanying us and cousin Frances D perhaps will also. The spring has been rather backward and cold much as it was last season although the weather has been pleasant and there has been but little rain. There has been but few warm days.

IwasastonishedfindsogreatadifferencebetweenNewYorkandtheisland. Today, 1 May, is very pleasant and the warmest day we have had on the Island. Cousin Hannah was in town when we left there. She talked of going to Norwich before we returned for a short visit. Uncle B’s family were all well and were to move downtown in Beacon Street

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• On May 16, Mississippi River steamboat service began.

Book: 8Number: 711Date: 6/6/1817To: Frances and Anna HuntingtonFrom: Catherine Huntington, mother Place: Rome

the next week.

Mama’s friends are all pretty well accept Aunt and Uncle [-]. He has been very sick and his life was spared but he has got quite smart. They live quite alone. Everyone inquires if her mama is coming down again and whether my pretty little brother has grown a great deal. You will be pleased to hear that Aunt L’Hommedieu thinks of visiting Rome this summerwithMary.Maryisafinegirlandverypretty.SheremembersHenry and always says I must send her love to Aunt Huntington when I write.

Uncle Dering has got quite well. He will leave home for the Gen. Assembly (which meets at Philadelphia) on Saturday. This visit to Shelter Island will be very [-] to all my Rome friends. I did not know when I should come nor certainly whether I should at all. Uncle Havens advised me to leave town for a few weeks as I was not well enough to attend my French school. I thought it would be best to take the opportunity to visit our Long Island friends. Anna had quite aconflict.Shedidnotfeelwillingtoleaveherdrawingschoolandstillless willing to relinquish the idea of visiting Shelter Island – – You must excuse, my dear H, a short letter for I have several to write this week and engaged to Mr. Nicoll this afternoon. Cousin Margaret and her family are well. Little Richard and Margaret live entirely at Uncle D’s.

My love to all. Sister A and myself wish much to see all our dear family and all our Rome friends. She joins me in a great deal of love to Papa Mama sisters brothers and Pamela. I shall write sister C next week. Believe me to be with anxious wishes for your future happiness your affectionatesisterFrances--Pamela’s letter is so badly directed I will enclose it in yours.

Directed to Frances and AnnaNo 100 Chamber Street, New YorkFavor by Mr. B.B. HydeRome June 6, 1817Your several letters have been received by us. I hope with gratitude and thankfulness to the great giver of all good to be informed you are well and as happy as this [-], changing, unstable world will admit of – – We haveoneletterfromAnnatowhichisprefixeda[-]fromFrancestohersister C. dated Sag Harbor May 16 and to have received this week from the same place one to Pamela from Anna and one to Catherine from Frances.WeareexpectingthiswillfindyouinNewYorkasaletterfrom your Uncle Havens to your Papa dated last week mentions he was expecting you every hour. I pray that you may get safe to New York and may it please our heavenly father that you once more return home in safety – – I am very thankful to be informed of the good health of all our dear friends both on the Island and at New York. Catherine has

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fixedaconsiderablepacketof letterstosendbyMissMaryOlmstead,but she has left here this morning without having the politeness or friendshiptooffertocarryaletterorevenaverbalmessagetoyou.Mr.Hyde is going from here tomorrow. We therefore send all our letters by him – –

Your Papa thinks it best for you to come home with Mr. Hyde. He has spoken to Mr. Hyde to take care of you and be particular in getting you along home comfortably which he has engaged to do and your Papa says he shall send you some money by Mr. Hyde – – your Papa thinks the season will still be unpleasant and unhealthy to stay in New York and as Frances has not enjoyed good health then it will be best for her not to stay there long after she returns from the Island. We know of no very good opportunity that will present again soon. Uncle Tracy and Uncle Gurdon and Mr. William Wright neither of them thinks of going soon and so it’s quite uncertain whether they go at all this summer –

Your Papa has talked some of going himself but I do not believe he will get ready this summer. We shall be very happy to see Cousin Sarah, Cousin Frances and your Grandmama with you and we wish your Uncle would consent two cousins Gloriana and Charlotte’s coming withyou,andasbothof themremembermewithsincereaffectionthem all, to your Uncle and Miss McDonald. I should be very thankful to see your Uncle and all his dear family once more – –

IhopemydearchildrenthatthiswillfindyouinNewYork,readyandsatisfiedtoreturnhomebutif itshallnot,Imustcommityoutothekind care of that Providence who is everywhere at all times and in all places who keepeth of his children as the apple of his eye who will I hope and trust keep you and restore you to us in his own good time – – Uncle Gurdon got a piece of linen last fall for your Papa. We have not madeitup.ItisnotquitesofineasyourPapahasusuallyhadforhisshirts, and I thought I would getanother piece and take that for family use – – I want also a pretty good piece of cotton shirting want that and the linen both yard wide, the long loom which I mentioned in a letter last winter. I shall like to have got if it can be at any reasonable rate. I think you had better request Uncle Benjamin to get the cotton shirting and linens and pay for them and give you the bills. Tell him to get linen suitable for your Papa’s shirts. The reason of my requesting Uncle Benjamin to do this is because I do not like to burden Uncle Havens with everything. He has so many things to get and so much to do for us – –

Anna mentions that you had no other physician than Cousin Nicoll Dering – – I think you had better pay him for his attention satisfactorily – – if your Papa should fail sending you any money by Mr. Hyde and it’s not perfectly convenient for Uncle Havens to supply you, you had better apply to Uncle Benjamin for as much as you need – – and get

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• On July 4, construction began on the Erie Canal with a connection between Rome and Utica, New York.

Book: 8Number: 714Date: 7/19/1817To: Lucy, Gloriana, and Elizabeth HuntingtonFrom: Desiree Brown Havens Place: New York

• Sarah Thomas Franklin was Sarah Dering Thomas’s daughter. She was, therefore, Sylvester’s first cousin who departed Marshfield, Massachusetts in 1783 with her mother to join her father in Windsor, Nova Scotia. She was visiting Boston in

him to charge it in his accounts with your Papa – –

We are all tolerably well at present. The children have had bad colds. LittleBenjaminhasnotbeenverywellsincehewastakenwiththefitforfiveweekssince––TellyourGrandmamaIaminhopestobe[-]to write her a letter soon. Henry wants a little [-] candy and I have forgotten whether I’ve mentioned it in a former letter that I wanted you to get Elizabeth a small plain [-] thread case – – such as I got for Gloriana and Lucy – –

Tell your Aunt L’Hommedieu that I hope to see her and Cousin Mary here. My best love to her. Remember me to Mrs. Duncan and Peggy to Aunt Faith and Cousin Hannah and all other friends who may inquire. Remember me to Cousin N. Dering – – believe me my dear children your ever affectionatemotherwhoeverpraysforyourhappinessbothtemporaland spiritual Catherine M Huntington

Papa joins me much love to all – – you had better not come from Albany in the one day’s stage.

New York July 19, 1817My dear granddaughters Lucy Gloriana, Elizabeth I write you all three on one piece and I beg you one and all to accept it from your aged grandmotherwhowouldbemuchgratifiedtoseeyouallthreetogetheronce more but whether or not I shall I can’t say. I sent much love and a kiss for you all three. You must be good girls and be attentive to your dear mother and your little brother and kiss them for Grandmama. My dear Glory, I thank you for writing me last May, which letter I have not answered. You wished me to come home again if I could live in such a low house and small rooms as yours was. I have lived in it very comfortable and there is nowhere would [-] much like home as to go to Rome and see you and all the dear family once more. But for the comfort of your dear parents and all the family I should be glad your father had a larger house with more room in it. You said, my dear, you went to school, but you did not learn so fast as your sister Lucy. You are not so old as Lucy and have not been to school so much as she has. You must both be good and thrive to learn as much as you can. It will be pleasing to you when you grow older. You and your sister Lucy must write me when you can. You must expect of this and much love tooneandallandeverywishforyourgoodfromyoureveraffectionategrandmother Desiree Havens to her granddaughters LGE I must send you all something by your sisters to remember me who loves you all DH

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the summer of 1817.

Book: 8Number: 715Date: 7/28/1817To: Sylvester DeringFrom: Sarah D. Franklin (Sarah Dering Thomas) CousinPlace: Boston

• Nicoll Havens Dering had completed his medical training and was now going to open a practice in New York City.

• Although Sylvester was stubbornly opposed to making the effort of going to Boston to see his cousin Sarah Franklin, he did go and reported to Nicoll who he had seen. The most unsatisfactory encounter was with Charles Storer who by all accounts was in declining health, both physically and mentally. Since returning from Europe in the mid-1780s, he had been in a state of continuous mental confusion, which was misunderstood at the time and may have been what we today call Schizophrenia.

• Cousin Eliza Gardiner had now moved to Rome, New York and seemed to have found her circle of Huntington cousins oppressive.

Book: 8Number: 720Date: 8/25/1817To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Eliza P. GardinerPlace: Rome

Boston 28 July 1817My dear CousinI am to thank you for your kind letter and to comply with your request by telling you that the vessel in which we expect to sail for Halifax has not yet arrived. She is hourly expected and will stay here about one week. We suppose glad as I should feel to see you I cannot expect you to leave your wife and home in that state as may render you uncomfortable during your absence from them. My best wishes await Mrs.DeringandallyouloveandwithsincereaffectionIremainyourattached cousin SD Franklin

Rome August 25Cousin NicollThis letter will notify you and I beg you will notify the people that I have moved from Hamilton to Utica and from thence to the place of all others you most desire to be at – If I could possibly get rid of this disorder innui, which I fear is seated on my vitals forever, I should look upon things with other eyes than those of jaundiced eyes and would give you a circumstantial account of all our proceedings –

We put up with Mr. Varrick at Utica where we were charmingly accommodated with a coach to ride in whenever we wished to go out and a [-] to escort us home. We esteemed nonetheless for being a married man – Mrs. S made a party on our account – You have no ideahowIfeltseeingsomanyladiesallblueruffledthefrilledandtheflowered[-].NobiggerthanImightandthesametimecouldnotfindaneasyplaceforeitherhandsorfeet–Thegentlemanwhethergentlemen full of airs and soft sentiments – Anna will tell you all about them–Shehadthempouredinuponherliketherushingof aflood–mighty in its power – while she and the other ladies by turn enchanted by their sincerity and delighted by their intellect – I, a poor little char mouse as timorous as any beast of that class you ever saw, sometimes closed in the corner or if startled from that quarter was so panic struck with the sight and the sound of such wonders I dared not as much as utter a word for fear I should expose some sentiment straight [-] good grandmothers as pass mine proverbial saying as much out of fashion – Only think what a terrible old-fashioned thing I must have looked like –

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• Frances Mary Sage, only daughter of Ebenezer Sage and best friend of Frances Mary Dering, was married to a Missionary doctor, Mr. Lawton, who would take her to Mobile (Alabama) where he had been serving for several years.

• Richard Nicoll failed to find a place for Margaret and his four children to stay while he went off to study theology with Dr. Woolworth, so they moved into her father’s house. Sylvester lamented that Richard’s father seemed unwilling to lift a finger to help his son.

• In mid-December 1817, Hepzibah Small Edwards died at age 103. It was announced in over a dozen Massachusetts

I feel so behind that I have got through Utica and have got through the firstpartof myvisitherethatthecoldsweatIhavebeenineversinceIhave inhabited this region has considerably subsided. Circumstance has awakened me to observation here. it’s I [-] believe I should have passed through the country without seeing anything – – The ship [--] – Which do you like best – which do you like the least has so often asked me I have set my eye upon them to spy into their characters –

To you I will say I like Anna because she looks like you and because she is so happy and is so full of [-] as laughing [-]. – – Frances they say is your favorite – of course I like her too – as I know you to be a person of too much sagacity to mistake a cloud for a Juno – – I shall have more to say on this subject in my visit, if this is answered soon, and as I cannot pass the other ladies in silence – of whom there is so much said.

I must strike you as dumb at once at telling you. Telling you the given opinion that Miss Frances Dering is much handsomer than Miss Floyd. The criterion of beauty, and Miss Dering is said to [-] her [-] in her majestic appearance and [-] of gesture. Miss Nicoll, agreeable to look upon, fascinating in her vivacity and so happy in her pertinent remarks thatitseemsnaturaltogiveplacetotheentertainmentsheoffersthewhole – – the Miss Havens handsome lovely as employing to advantage there superior [-] – – Now what am I to to do and what am I among all these nonpareils – – it is, as old Sir Hugh says in the novel, the [-] visit I ever made in all my born days in point – of unkindness [-] Gale on S B and tell her I am seriously angry with her for not answering my letters – – I am in a hurry to get to New York – I don’t like this part of the world – I never passed my time in so much solitude before or rather desolation – but – – can’t get over it. However strangers shall have my firstattention––theyalwayshad.Iwaseducatedtobepoliteandhospitable and had not thought that any but savages could be otherwise – – philanthropic in my opinion in the spring to very nobler feeling – no one can be a Christian divested of that virtue so serviceable to mankind and am getting upon a strain you don’t like and as I can’t well get out of it (for I am just ready to cry) I will stop after noting I am as everyouraffectionateEliza

To my dear brother I write next mail – – Sam Gardiner is a [-] that he don’t write to me.

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newspapers, probably because of her very advanced age.

• On May 28, the first steam vessel to sail the Great Lakes was launched.

• On June 21, another daughter, Elizabeth, was born to Margaret Dering and Richard Floyd Nicoll.

• Renssaelaer Havens, now a widower, married Catherine Cebra Webb on July 20, 1818. She was, indeed, younger than his oldest daughter Gloriana, having been born on January 25, 1801.

The DeLancey young people visiting Sachem’s Neck were the children of Anna Foyd Nicoll’s sister Eliza Floyd DeLancey. They had grown up in Mamaroneck, New York, at their grandparents farm, Heathcote Hill. The story of the Nicoll family (and the DeLancey cousins) is told in detail in The Nicolls of Sachem’s Neck.

• It was into Sachem;s Neck, this home of cousins, that William Heathcote DeLancey and one of his sisters -- Caroline, Martha or Maria, -- found themselves in the summer of 1818. William would eventually become the Episcopal Bishop of Western New York.

• The legend is that family ties between the DeLancey and Nicoll cousins had earlier, in 1816, been cemented when Eliza Floyd Nicoll married Charles Thomas Dering and moved to Hamilton. Susan DeLancey, the first sister born in America, had married James Fenimore Cooper in 1811, and they were now all in the same neighborhood, although Cooperstown and Hamilton were 44 miles apart.

Book: 8Number: 729Date: 7/24/1818To: Frances Huntington, Rome NYFrom: Frances Dering Place: Sag Harbor

Sag Harbor July 24, 1818Dear Cousin FrancesAfter so long neglecting to write you and to answer yours and cousin Catherine’s letters I am ashamed to address you, and think you will say shame will well become me.

Though you may attribute my not writing to procrastination, laziness. and ingratitude, but not to forget [-] of you, for that I hold yourself andsisterinaffectionateremembranceisthetruth.Notwithstandingappearances to the contrary. – – – When I felt condemned for not writing, I would say to myself – Sarah writes to the girls and they will have everything that is interesting about their friends here – – but when I saw her last and learnt it was so long since she wrote – I felt again condemned that we as the only correspondence you had from the east and so poorly and unjustly represented your circle of friends and acquaintances in these parts who frequently talk of inquire after and mention you with pleasure. And we have indeed done injustice to them and ourselves, if our not writing has left you to think you was forgotten. – forgotten. O! that word I do not like the looks of it . – – While I must assure you you are remembered with much interest. –

Mrs. Henry Jones, Mr. DeLancey and his sister Miss DeLancey accompanied Cousin Betsy Dering on the Island – She had a hearty welcome to her father’s, for she is a great favorite with all the family. Mr. Nicoll’s daughters were all home. Benjamin and Richard were home on a visit about the same time. – – It appeared very natural and quite pleasant to see so many of the family together again – – For Anne

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has been the only child at home all winter. – Mrs. Jones is a person of good sense, was educated in Edinborough, and though a lady of fortune it gives her no airs. She is retiring and safe in her manners.

Mr. DeLancey is about 22 or three became pious while in Yale college is studying divinity, is an Episcopalian, lively and amiable disposition and has one of the most striking expression I ever saw – – His sister who is younger than he is as gay and volatile as you please. – – Looks like Maria Nicoll but is not half so interesting as her brother. – Now do not think I am smitten with the young man, but as I spent a number of days with them, thought I would describe the party.

Theyhadclamandfishingparties,butIdidnotrelishthem.Theyalldined at Uncle Dering’s when absent friends was remembered. – – And your presence often wished for as it was about a year ago from that time we were in New York together. – –

Benjamin did not fail to get jacked a little. He always inquires after Rome and friends when I see him – –

I believe you have been informed that Cousin Margaret has another daughter – – she has no name for it yet. – –

Aunt L’Hommedieu and all friends are well there – If Cousin Sarah has neglected to write you she has done the same by her other correspondence. For she told me she was indebted to all of them. The family is very larger at present and Sarah’s tends herself to relieve her mama from as much care as she can which takes up all her time. She comes down here but little and then makes short visits –

Cousin Eliza is, I expect, at Niagara or on her return by this time. I have a letter last week dated from Utica. She now has an opportunity of seeing the Western country in a favorable season and appears much pleased with her journey, particularly her ride out to Lake George, the scenery of which she describes as being charming. How she would delight to meet you and her favorite Anna.

Miss Partridge is one of your acquaintances that frequently inquires after you and has reproved me when I told her of my negligence. I expect she will be married this fall coming. – Mr. Pessendieu has visited here once the summer. He is a young man of handsome abilities, and of pious principles. Has some singularities in his manners, appears to be held in estimation by his acquaintances. He will indeed get a prize in Eliza. With a more intimate acquaintance with her I know you would love her. – – She is a near neighbor to me this summer and it is with regret I think of losing her society. And Frances Lawton shall feel quite alone. – – What do you think of Mrs. Lawton’s proposals to Pamela. Her friends here think they might be advantageous. – – My love to her. Tell her her mother has quite recovered. The spot on her

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• Mary Henrietta Cowles was the daughter of Gloriana Havens and the Reverend Whitfield Cowles. She was born on January 11, 1801. Her mother died when she was about 18 months old. Her brother Renssaelear Watson Cowles married Laura Kilbourne on September 20, 1818.

Book: 8Number: 730Date: 11/6/1818To: Catherine Mary Huntington, Rome NYFrom: Mary H. Cowles Place: New York

face is better than when she began to doctor it. – –

You have before this learned of your Uncle Haven’s marriage to Miss Webb who is, I understand, younger than Gloriana!!! I hear all parties appear well pleased. How happy if they are, but if the girls had anything of my nature it would be a sore trial to them. – Making their situation mine, I would not be agreeable. Papa arrived from New York last Saturday and informed us the marriage was to be on the Monday following – – I thought of you and Anna who having spent so much time with your friends in Chambers Street – Would feel not a little interested. Perhaps I have done wrong to say what I have but you must not repeat it – what do you think?

We expect Mr. Havens and wife, Charlotte and little Sarah the last of thisweekorfirstof next.Iexpectyouhavesomeacquaintancewithyournewaunt.––AndIhopeyouwillfindheranagreeableacquisition to your society when you visit the city. When may I hope that will be, for then I shall see you here.

Do not, my dear Frances, neglect any favorable opportunity you may have to come and see us, for I cannot bear the idea of becoming strangers to one another. Cousin Catherine will come in the fall as she did not this summer. Henrietta too I hope to have the pleasure of seeing. – – And when I expressed the wish that you would come, Anna was included; I never separate you. – – I hope to visit Rome again and see you also. Now, Cousin Frances, do let me know you forgive me by poor writing. I shall look anxiously – every mail after this. – –

Sunday 27th. We now attend public worship in our new church, which was in building when you was here. It very neat church, but now we have a comfortable place of worship. We have in a great measure lost the heart – – for our meetings are but too thinly attended. – – I hear there is a great attention to religion at Southold in Mr. Hunting’s congregation. Please do remember my regards to your parents. And love to your sisters – – not forgetting to mention me to your Grandmama, cousin Mary Cowles, and Pamela. Write soon to your affectionateFMDering

New York November 6, 1818Dear AuntGratitude, for kindness received, more immediately prompts this epistle. I have not words adequate to express my feelings on this subject. Consciousness of unmerited kindness is indeed oppressive. O may I in future prove myself more worthy of the love and kindness of my friends and through that medium evince to them that if their

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kindness is unmerited it is not received with ingratitude. I am certainly rich in friends and I hope I am thankful for the same. I am daily expecting letters from Rome, notwithstanding my last to my cousins were utterly unworthy answers. They were merely a detail of events withoutanyqualification.IhavehadnoletterfromhomesinceIleftRome. I am quite impatient to hear from that quarter.

My brother is married. I had a letter from him last week informing me of the step he has taken. He was married on 20 September on Sabbath morn in church by the Rev. Philander Chase, the Episcopalian minister of that place formerly of Hartford Connecticut – – My brother has goneimmediatelytohousekeepinginhisnewhouse.Itisfinishedbelow.Therearethreechamberstobedoneoffnow.Hegavemeaninvitation to come and see them. I returned for answer and invite for him to escort his bride to the Eastern states that she might become acquainted with her friends in this quarter and that we might see him again.

Uncle Havens and family are well, excepting Gloriana. She is rather unwell has a great deal of headache and is troubled with the pain in her breast, almost continually. She looks miserable. Mrs. Havens is quite well. She says give my love to your aunt. She is a goodhearted woman and does not think, with me, that she has got herself into difficulty.

Charlotte is keeping house for her Uncle Jenkins. Her cousin Louisa is on a visit to Albany and Hudson. Rensselaer and Henry left us last Tuesday for Wilton, Connecticut so that our family is quite small at present.

Aunt L’Hommedieu and Mary are extremely well. I saw them yesterday which was Thanksgiving day at church.

Cousin Charles and his lady has gone as far as New York on their way to Hamilton. They will leave here next week. Cousin Nicoll is very well. He visits us occasionally though not as frequently as he did last winter.

Grandmama is writing to cousin Catherine to go by Mr. Tracy tomorrow. My letter will go by the same conveyance. Grandmama has been very well since she arrived in New York. She has had a little cold forafewdayspast.Shehashadthreeorfourof thosefitssincebeingin New York. She had none on her journey, however, a circumstance at whichIverymuchrejoiced.Ithinkthosefitsaremoretheconsequenceof extraordinary excitement of the mind than of the body. Mr. Tracy and Susan spent last Wednesday evening with us. Susan would like to spend the winter in the city but her Papa will take her home with him. I should like to see all the cousins at Rome. Thank Aunt to give my love to them, little Benjamin a kiss and Henry too. I am happy to hear that littleBenjamincontinuesalongwithouthisfits.Hopetheyhavelefthim

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• Charles Thomas Dering had returned, without his wife, to Hamilton after a summer away. His letter to his cousin Frances Huntington was full of news about their mutual friends, including Dr. Lawton and his wife Frances Mary Sage. He was fearful for her health in Mobile. Both Dr. Lawton and Dr. John Sage had been in ill health when they returned from Mobile the year before.

****************This letter was written by Charles Thomas Dering to Frances Huntington**********

Book: 8Number: 731Date: 11/23/1818To: Frances Huntington, Rome NYFrom: Charles Thomas Dering Place: Hamilton, New York

entirely.DearAunt,pleasetoacceptthisletterfromyouraffectionateniece Mary H Cowles. I have just received Cousin Frances kind letter. I will thank her for it soon.

Hamilton November 23, 1818It is with much pleasure, my dear cousin, I inform you of our safe return to Hamilton. We left New York Saturday evening the 14th and reached home the Tuesday following about sunrise, in tolerable health but very much fatigued with my journey.

Found the road very good from Albany to Cherry Valley but from there to Madison very rough. These mail stages are very uncomfortable carriages to travel in. I feel now as if I never would stand another such jolting. I left our friends on the Island and in New York in tolerable health except Gloriana Dering [age 14] and Gloriana Havens [age 18].

GDeringhasbeenafflictedthissummerwiththescarletfeverwhich left her in a low and debilitated state. I think she will hardly continue through the winter. She sits up some but cannot move about without help. She is the most patient child I ever knew. Mrs. Dering manifestsagreatdealof resignationtothedivinewillinthisafflictiondispensation– –

You have undoubtedly heard of the unfortunate attachment between GH and Mr. Hart. If not don’t mention it from me. I long to see you. I have so much to say it would be impossible for me to write it all. Your father feels very much opposed to it and says he never can get his consent.

This Mr. H is a wild young man and one I fear G never will be happy with – – She looks miserably – it makes a great deal of talk in the city. This has been a summer of uncommon events –

I have returned alone and want one of your young ladies to spend the winter with me. If you can endure a lonely winter at Hamilton. Mama would have returned with me but she has the promise of spending part of the winter in New York with her cousin Mrs. Jones and thought it would be an advantage to her to spend it there that I could not urge her to return with me. And I left her in New York. She remains there until the last of this month when she returns to the island for the winter. Sarah and Eliza are to spend the winter in town. Cousin Frances, who is as amiable as ever, is to come to New York with Dr.

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Book: 8Number: 732Date: 1/1/1819To: Desiree Brown HavensFrom: Anne HuntingtonPlace: Rome, NY

Lawton and wife to spend a few weeks and will probably remain there the winter – – Doctors Lawton and Sage arrived in New York while we were there, almost skeletons. Had both been very ill, were brought on boardthevesseltheycametoNewYorkinonbeds,hadsufferedverymuch for the want of nursing, were scarcely able to walk about the house while in town. Dr. Sage does not return. Dr. L intends returning this winter and takes his wife with him. I feel very unwilling to have Frances encounter that sickly clime– –

Aunt L’Hommedieu and Mary are very pleasantly situated at Mrs. Duncan’s. Left them both in good health. –

And now, how are all my Roman cousins and friends. It is a long time since I have heard particularly from them. Was very glad to hear little Benny had recovered. How is cousin Henry? He must come and see his cousin Charles this winter – Then is Henrietta I hope I shall have a visit from her and my charming Anna. I quite long to have her show her face at Hamilton again and Cousin Catherine and Pamela too. Do all come and make glad the heart of your cousin Eliza –

I wish I could look in upon you all this evening – Do come, don’t to wait for snow – I have quite got settled in ready to see company has been putting up toilette today and am to make sausages tomorrow and I can promise you some good pumpkin pies. We have some of thefinestpumpkinsIeversawthatcamefromWestern. I wish I could send Mama some of them. Give my best love to her. Hope I shall have the pleasure of seeing her at my own house this winter and your Papa too.Presentmyaffectionateregardstohim.––TellPamela I saw her mother the day I came away. She was very well and sent her love. She must come and see me and then I will tell her all. Husband unites with me in love to your honored parents all our cousins and a large share for your dear self in hopes of soon seeing you I remain your cousin CTD

Rome January 1, 1819I have frequently made resolutions to write to my ever dear grandmother but they have all been broken and the New Year has overtaken me without my having addressed one line to her. I shall make no apologies for my negligence because I have not in reality any good onestoofferbutrelyaloneuponyourgoodnessandforgiveness,andpromise to be more dutiful in future.

I wish I could look in upon all our dear Chamber Street friends this morning and greet them with a happy New Year. May it be to you my dear grandmother the happiest of your life and O may you long be continued a blessing and comfort to your children.

We all regret very much that you will not be with us this winter. I think that Grandmama might spend her time here very pleasantly but since

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it is more for her happiness to be in New York we must be content to sparehertillspringwhenwehopeshouldherhealthbesufficientshewill undertake another journey to Rome.

I am very sorry that Cousin Mary did not continue in New York through the winter. She was a great comfort and assistance to you and I think you must miss her exceedingly. We are very anxious to hear from her. She has not written either of us since her return to Connecticut. Our New York friends too we have not heard a word from in I don’t know how long a time. Charlotte is always so punctual in answering my letters that I am really at a loss what to make of the long silence. Hope [-]shehasnotgotachroniccomplaintinherfingersoranyothermorealarming malady to prevent her writing. Shall console myself a few days longer with the old saying that no news is good news.

Mr. W. Floyd, I understand, got home and may possibly have letters for us, but it is now nearly a week since his return and if he has, it is very strange he does not send them. Uncle George leaves here in a few days for Albany to attend the legislature. The session convenes earlier than usual this winter so that he will be a long time absent and not a little missed in the family circle.

Aunt Huntington’s health is much better that it has been. We hear frequently from Aunt Brown who is very well and much pleased with Rochester yet feels deeply the separation from her Roman friends. Cousin Mary received letters a short time since from cousin S D[-]. She hasexperiencedagreatafflictioninthelossof herinfant.Itwasthreeweeksold,afinehealthychild,andwastakenverysuddenlyfromher.We have had no good sleighing yet but some extremely cold weather more than usual for the month of December. Is now a prospect of snow and I hope we shall not be disappointed. I am now writing in grandma’s little bedroom which has been so much improved this winter byhavingafireplaceconstructedthatithasentirelylosttheappellationof smoky bedroom which formerly distinguished it from the other apartments of our spacious mansion.

Cousin Eliza Dering writes often. We shall expect a visit from her as soon as the snow comes. It will, I fear, be entirely out of our power to go to Hamilton this winter. Papa is our only bearer and he will not be able to leave home this winter while Uncle George is gone.

With thankfulness, my dear Grandmother, I can tell you that our dear little Benjamin is still very well and as robust we can expect considering howmuchhehasbeenafflicted.[-]alsoisingoodhealthandlooksbetter then she has in a long time. Mama desires her best love and intends visiting Grandmama soon. Henry says I must tell her that he loves his book some better than he used to and thinks one of these days he shall be a great scholar notwithstanding all sister Anna says.

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Book: 8Number: 733Date: 1/3/1819To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Eliza Gardiner Place: Castle Credine (Dayton, Ohio)

The rest of the family unites with me and love to all friends and believe mewitheverysentimentof esteemyouraffectionategranddaughterAnna Huntington

PS the compliments of the season attend my dear cousins and that this and each rereading of your lines may be spent in the most perfect happinessthatearthaffordsisthesincerewishof yourAnna

The mail has arrived and no letters from Charlotte.

Castle Credine third JanuaryYour father inquires “what has he wrote!” I answer after a little hesitation, nothing – Your mother says “when he gets his sausages biscuit and doughnuts he will have a subject.” – Yes, said I, suited to our capacities – I think you must spend your time after your own heart, as far as I am able to judge of its propensities, going from house to house giving and taking holiday sentiments warm from the press of Ruby lips holy day, you say and all the world keeps holy day here and as this is a time that seldom comes, I must be diligent and not let these precious seasons pass like some of my acquaintance who scarcely recollect what the pleasures of a holy day are –

I hope my dear girls from this quarter have caught some of the surrounding gaiety that gives such spirits as add a charm to everything. I don’t wish to have them so far rapt in these delightful recreations as to forget the humble mendicant at home. I only wish to have them touched to life.

With you I think they cannot fail of feeling its invigorating powers – I hearyouhaveanewflame–Iwillacknowledgetoyou–sheisaflameof mine too. She has such an air of romance about her one can not butfeelinterested–if onexaminingthebookyoufinditscontentsto[-] – – why you may have her if you could get her – undoubtedly you willfinderrorsineveryworkof thekind.Whereyouseethemyoucanturn a dog’s ear down and read it over again – Now my book is full of dogs ears on all scrawled over with such marks as makes me curish it was nothing but a book of blank paper –

Better have no information or knowledge than not to be correctly and well informed – if it is not asking too much I wish you would call on Mrs. [-] and let me know all about her, how she is and how all the family are – Give my best love to them and likewise inform me how Mr.Wrightis––lovetomydearbrotheryouraffectionatelycousinElizaI hear [-] read every day. He is most shockingly behind what he ought to be for one of his age – he reads S. O. U. T. H. North – tell him to spell which he says like E, S, H – a dear one if I was his parent – I should want him to know, at his present age, more than I now do – –

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Book: 8Number: 734Date: 1/24/1819To: Henrietta HuntingtonFrom: Frances Huntington Place:

Dear cousin Frances, I write to you on this half of Cousin Nicoll’s letter for two reasons. One that it saves paper, (I have been reading Dr. Franklin) and the other reason is that it will give Cousin Nicoll an opportunity of both obliging me and himself by calling to see you – I hope you two do not complain of not being able to hide from your minds eye the deformity. I cautioned you not to even look upon the dandies I am sure who visit your present abode by dozens, must discover at times, their good graces in an agreeable way – don’t let the their august personages petrify you, but be bold and of a good courage – – How is my Caroline? Child of my very heart, how do you do and how do you get along through the thronging multitudes. You must be good girls. Remember what is good that you see and hear and learnwhatisbadtogowiththerestof thefilth–[tears-]lateandIamsleepy – good night my children, Eliza

More than half the citizens brains are turned upside down that live in NewYorkHPDDearDr.YourlettertoyourUncleDeringof thefifthinstant was duly received and in due time shall be answered. Crazy citizens indeed and I [-] if you do not keep a lookout and [-] watch over yourself you will become crazy too – you have already symptoms of the malady –

Monday evening 24th 1819My Dear SisterI will not let so good an opportunity pass without just telling you that we have not forgotten you yet, and not withstanding you and Lucy are such noiseless bodies you are still very much missed in the house. I was quite delighted with my epistle from you in as much it was as good as you are and so unexpected too. I think you will be able to answer Mr. Batell’s note with propriety and hope you will preserve a copy of it. This writing of composition is an excellent thing. I believe but certainly to me was the greatest vexation of any task required of me while at school. However I regret [- ] that I was so stubborn and did not comply with more willingness and oftener with [-] of my masters and mistresses. I hope better things of you and expect yet to see you shine as a complete letter writer. Glory has been writing this evening to Lucy and has given her, I believe, all the news of the day. So in rather a strange form.

Thanksgivingdaywithuspassedoffmuchlikealltheotherdays.We went to church and had a pretty good sermon from Mr. Gittel. Had old Mrs. Tanner at the dinner table to assist us in eating a roast turkey, a cold chicken pie etc. etc. and the company of Mrs. Dutch and Governor at tea. Anne hurt her eyes and head very much by going out that day. My eyes rather weak in the morning. And the glare of the Sunandsnowyourecollectasuncommonlybrightandaffectedthemso much so that she as not been scarcely able to endure the light since.

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Book: 8Number: 739Date: 5/11/1819To: Sylvester DeringFrom: Mary Catherine L’Hommedieu Place: New York

Today she is a little better and I hope in a few days will be quite herself again.

Mama has been quite ill this afternoon with the cramp in the stomach but it’s almost relieved now. Little Ben too is threatened with a swelling upon his shoulder blade which makes him quite fretful and we are trying to [-] it. – – Mr. Smith and Uncle George go tomorrow to Utica to attend the Bible and Education societies. Cousin Hannah talks of going down with him. If she does I presume she will call to see you. Aunt and little Edward are much better. We have had no intelligence from Utica since you left. Mama wants to know if you have procured yourself any gloves and if you know whether Mrs. Skinner has a thick shawl yet. Let us know when you write again. – –

Papa, I presume, told you he contemplates a journey to Ogdensburg. He expected to have gone yesterday after church and we are as busy asbeesalldaySaturdayfittinghimforhiscoldjaunt,butfortunatelyfor him and for us he is unexpectedly released for the present. You will probably see him on Saturday. Catherine and Pamela are well and send love to you and Lucy. Do let us know how is Mrs. Vannick. Lucy must employ some of her leisure time, which she complains of in writing letters. She cannot be better occupied.

Perhaps you will write as often as you can if you feel well enough. But do not write at all if it hurts you. It may be injurious. Be as careful of yourself as possible, I beg of you. Remember that health is precious and worth a great deal of care and attention and although a good education is one of the most desirable of all things yet it is better to havealittlelessthantosacrificethatwithoutwhichisasyoucanneverenjoy it and your life is almost a burden. Give a great deal of love to LucyandbelievemeyouraffectionatesisterFrancy.

New York May 11, 1819Dear BrotherI wrote you when cousin Sarah went home, not thinking she would leave here so soon – I sent it to Capt. Havens to go by his brother – – Being doubtful whether you had received it – – I felt it my duty to state to you my engagement with Mrs. Abell for Mary and myself – a homeforoneyear,for$900.00--sheletmehaveoneroomandasmallbedroom, appears very friendly. – And more sociable then when I lived with her before – – she has no boarders but Mary and I. Her son Nelson and wife, with her other two sons (and a Mr. Prince) eats here – – I expect Mrs. Abell will call for her payments by the month – She did when I lived with her before. I mentioned these particulars that I might get some supply of cash to make her a payment if she calls. I hope it will be in your power to furnish me with funds to meet my payments – – I have settled with Mrs. Duncan – and I expect Mary’s school bills soon. With clothing, will take some money – I cannot avoid dressing

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• On May 21, the first bicycle, called a swift walker, was introduced in New York City. It would not be until the 1890s that they would become the rage. On May 22, the first steam propelled vessel to cross the Atlantic, the 320 ton Savannah, was launched. It was a sailing ship with a side wheel. Although it was successful, it would not be until 1838 that real steam powered ships, the Great Western and the Sirius, were introduced into transatlantic service.

• While living in Hamilton, because their wives were cousins, Charles and James Fenimore Cooper, who was living in Cooperstown, met and became fast friends. They were known to visit Shelter Island at both Sylvester Manor (Charles’ home) and Sachem’s Neck (Eliza’s home), and while there walk the streets of Sag Harbor talking to the old salts. The talk of the sea fascinated them, and together, they decided to invest in a ship. They bought the Union out of New York, and to outfit it, they needed to get it to Sag Harbor where Charles was intending to move.


same myself – – and I should be pleased of God in his goodness gives me and my child health to go to Rome – if you think I can be at the expense – – If not I shall think every dispensation for the best – – I hope you will candor if you think the expense is more than I can afford.Iwishyoutoletmeknow––Brotherhaspaidmesixmonthsinterest with that I have settled with Mrs. Duncan, paid for moving – – and got some clothes for Mary – Have a little on hand and I trust Providence will provide for me more, and better than I deserve – – I feel every day what a monument of God’s mercy I am spared I hope forhisglory––thoughanunprofitableservant.IheardthatcousinCharles would be here this month on his way to Sag Harbor – – I have not heard what success Mr. Dayton had in altering the act respecting the sale of those North lands – – There is so much said respecting banks and paper money – – and so many failing in the city -- Capt Nat L’Hommedieu thinks he shall lose. By one man he is in company with $12,000--Iamsorryforhim,heisaprudentlaboringman––CousinCatherine Huntington – and Mother calculate to visit you this week or next – – my love to sister and to your children – – and all your family and friends from your sister who joins with many in respect to you, M C L’Hommedieu

New York May 29, 1819Dear BrotherI waited the return of Mr. Nicoll – to answer your last letter by him. I was pleased to hear of your health and your family’s – – and to see any of your family. – – The cash you sent me – Cousin Nicoll delivered tome,andIgavehimareceiptforyou––for$250IcreditEzraL’Hestatefor––andgaveyoucreditfor$50onyouraccountwithme––I have not found any of the money counterfeit – – But the merchants take with great reluctance most of the country banks and the exchange Bank of New York – If you have not any other money they will take it – – Rather than lose your custom, and lose the discount – – I have been able to get clothing for Mary and myself – I hope I shall make out to get what I need – – with it –

I mentioned to brother Renssaelaer – respecting the interest on the state bank shares – He informed me he had not heard from Mr. Jenkins

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Book: 8Number: 745Date: 6/1/1819To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Eliza GardinerPlace: Sag Harbor

and looked for him in town every day –

I have not received any interest from my shares in the bank this spring and I am not able to give any information on the subject – – I think we mustshortlyhavesomestatement–reflectingthebusiness––IhopeCousin Charles will plan his business so as to make his appearance here soon and take charge of his ship – – Cousin Nicoll has taken a tour into the Western country and Rome – – I have not received any money from Charles – – perhaps he or Nicoll may bring it on to me – – I heard you had Mr. Wise from Jamaica preaching with you – – I thought him a faithful man for the cause of Christ and hope he will stay with you – He would not be assured to admonish and declare the whole truth – and take the most unwielded pains to correct the errors that your church has fallen into – – There must be deep repentance for such falling away – And I pray that it may be for God’s glory in this world––Theeternalhappinessof alloffenders––howshallweknowthat we are one of Christ’s children without we endeavor to walk after his precepts – –

How much we are indebted to the grace of God for protecting us from sin that will end in our eternal condemnation – – Mr. Spring thinks his churchisdeadtoallspiritualaffections–sunkintoadeepsleep–inthe lap of indulgence – He thinks we must be called to account for our mercies, which we daily abuse – and not showing more gratitude for ourbenefits––OhLord,visitusnotinjustice–andjudgment–istheprayer we should put up for ourselves and nation – – Because we live under so much light and knowledge – –

Remember me to sister and all the young ladies of your family – – and mother. I have been to Chambers Street one time, since mother left there -- they looked very comfortable – in good health – – I feel pleasantly situate as respects my home. I wish to look up to the great Savior of life with gratitude for all my enjoyments – spiritual and temporal –

I do not know how to apologize for Mary’s not writing you – – I often admonishherfornotdoingit––Sheremembersyouwithaffection– and feels fearful that she shall make many blunders and is fearful it will not be it. – – I hope she will make improvement under present advantages – – if it pleases God to bless the privileges she enjoys – – She sends her respects to you her aunt and Cousins from your affectionatesisterMCL’Hommedieu

Sag HarborDear Cousin Nicoll I am very much obliged to you indeed for your two last very kind letters. Far too kind. Pray do not overcome me with so much again unless it is to correct me and I took it so I assure you – – The seeds you sent me are planted in Goblek’s garden. I shall not pass the pleasure of seeing them bloom, if it should happen a stricken

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Book: 8Number: 741Date: 6/7/1819To: Frances HuntingtonFrom: Catherine Huntington,sister Place: Shelter Island

metaphor of all my schemes and hopes in life. I do the labor that his plan the work, so far as to get others in motion and sometimes think Ihaveitnearlyfinishedandinmypossessionwhenfateorcapriciousfortune gives it to another. – I do not return to Shelter Island again this summer, but contemplate spending most of it on the home of my ancient and renowned forefathers. I will endeavor to make Gardiners Island echo to my songs of merriment or gladness. I am getting to be romantic and begin to fear too that my song will be turned into mourning. You think I am volatile and versatile. Tis somewhat true to be sure. Seriousness however dwells within more than perhaps you and others think. I doubt and even believe that it is not the right kind for I am seldom happy though I try with all my might and study with all earnestness to be so – – Please write to me soon and tell me you will always be my friend. I am melancholy and above all sorrowful – I am going to watch with Aunt Ruth who is very ill and perhaps if her rich cousins knew how very needy she was they would help. Tis not best howevertosayanythingaboutitforGodwillnotlethersuffer.

Has Cousin Charles and Betsy arrived. I am in a great hurry to see Betsy. I hear she is going to visit Mamaroneck before she comes down. Of course I shall not see her as soon – let me know when she arrives and I will write to her –

Please to let your boy carry the enclosed to S B and burn my letter to you.Iamashamedtosendit–lovetoBobyouraffectionateEliza

THIS LETTER WAS SENT BY SLOOP ‘FLASH’ TO NICOLL IN NYC NO 19 MURRAY STREET.

June 7, 1819My dear FrancesThisthefourthletterIhavebeguntoday,havingfinishedthreeindeedfor counting a few lines I sent to cousin Frances this morning. It now wants a quarter of three. Your letter dated the 22nd together with Mama’s of the 29th and one from Cousin favored to New York by the doctor also a few lines from Mary Floyd reached her on Saturday last. Cousin Thomas and enclosed all the letters in one directed to Mr. Wicks. And on the cover he wrote he thought it would be well to have the mail intended quite to Shelter Island. There was such an astonishingdifferenceinthenumberof letterstomehavebeenhere.I believe they all thought that I had more than my share but I did not for I had been looking for letters and waiting to to hear from home with the greatest patience or rather impatience for three weeks and notwithstanding there was some bad news in them. They contained so much good news to so enlivened my spirits that I enjoyed my Sunday much better than I otherwise should have done. Cousin Hannah wrote particularly about the Sabbath schools etc.

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I should like to know how many of my letters have been lost on the road. You are constantly complaining of my long silence and neglect. I have not failed to write home once a week since I left there. Have written two letters to Anna. This is the third to yourself and to Mama beside one to Lucy, Henrietta, Pamela, Hannah, and Mary etc.

Cousin Margaret has been taking me to do for writing so much. She says I stays so short time, and spend so much of it in writing she does not think it is right. I have been expecting Cousin Fanny over to the Island but she has not had it in her power to come as yet, and wrote me she did not think it would be. I do not know whether you have access to theflowerseedsorthesilkwhenyouspeakof therequestinyourlastletter. If you wish me to get the seeds I will when I return to the city or anything else as it respects my cash. Tell Mama I have some remaining but think it gets many more things shall ask Uncle Benjamin for a little more. I hope to be prudent and not get many unnecessary things. But call myself a very poor hand to do shopping.

Charlotte is pretty good, but Gloriana I do not think is. I am writing this week’s letters on Monday because I expect to be at Mr. Nicoll’s most of the week and thought perhaps it would not be as convenient to write from there. I intend going to Sag Harbor next week when I shall probably stay until the 28th of the month and from there take the stage to go as far as Moriches! I have received a polite invitation from Mary Floyd to make her a visit at Mastic and from there go to spend a week with Mary. She says in her letter one of her brothers will meet me there and take me to Mastic. I think likely Cousin Frances Dering will go with me. From there I shall have no company to New York but Mr. Hallock who drives the stage is very polite and attentive and I shall not be at all concerned but that I shall get along safely.

I shall write a line to Cousin Nicoll and Uncle Havens and request one of them to meet me in Brooklyn. That will make it just a month from today when I get back to New York. Thus I have made known my plans to you but perhaps they will be frustrated. Aunt L’Hommedieu promised to let me know when she was ready to go to Rome but I have as yet heard nothing from her. Perhaps I may hear something from there or home that may induce me to alter them.

Ms.PollyClosesisatMasticandIaminhopestofindherthereandshould I think it altogether likely she may be going on to New York about that time. Her sister told me she expected to go the last of this month. I have stayed longer on Shelter Island than I expected but the weather has been so unpleasant most of the time we have kept pretty much in the house. I was mistaken about Mrs. Sawyer’s daughter living at Oyster Ponds. She lives at Southold. I hope to get a Hog Neck. I hope to get a letter every week. Tell Pamela she must write. I want much to learn if

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youaresatisfiedwithmypurchases.Iamtiredandmyideasalmostexhausted. I believe it is almost time for me to stop. Oh how shocked I was to hear of Falco’s conduct. Poor boy. I can’t help pitying him. How sudden and unexpected does death come when we least think of it. It may perhaps be the nearest Mr. Putnam’s death is a solemn warning for us to prepare and be in readiness whenever we are called to leave this world. We may go to a better, even a heavenly country.

Mr. [-] our Rensselaer’s failure must be distressing, but nothing in comparison to the thoughts of a person leaving this world in on unprepared state. But God is on the throne and will do what is right. Grandmama and all friends send much love. Cousin Margaret in particular.Myloveasusual.IremainyoureveraffectionatesisterCatherine Huntington

New York June 8, 1819Dear BrotherBrother Rensselaer informed me that Mr. Jenkins wrote word to him that he had paid my interest on the bank share to Mr. Dayton with the estates. I have 31 shares – what the interest is I cannot tell you – as the regulations alter; I suppose Brother can tell you – – I wish you would give me some advice what to do with Dana Ingraham – He is continually pressing me for money – Is a poor helpless person, has had a very sick child – I suppose not living – His father and friends, I am afraid, have adopted this matter for him to call on me – – I enclose his lettertome.Isenthim$10andinformedhimIhadnotmoneytoloanto anybody – Begged him to call on those moneyed men – that would let it go for land – – This method was adopted last winter – so that I cannot support it – and meet my debts. Mrs. Abell wishes me to pay herbythemonth,thatis$95permonth.

I wish you to talk with Cousin Catherine respecting my going home with her – That we must have some man to take care of us on our journey – – My health will not let me travel in a stage – I think if I cannot go with her she had better stay with her friends until a good opportunity presents for her – – I have no plan and do not look forward very far but beg God to prepare me for all his dispensations. – –

Cousin Charles and Betsy are with us. I have not seen Charles much yet––mylovetoallyourfamilyfromyouraffectionatesisterMCL’Hommedieu

New York June 19, 1819Dear BrotherI think you will begin to think me not very economical in my expenses but economy is not the fashion of the present day, but I beg not to be governed altogether by the world but study my duty – – I calculate to make Mrs. Abells two payments – May and June. Those two payments make$150dollars–Mr.NattsschoolbillincludingtheFrenchteacher

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• Catherine Huntington was visiting her friend and cousin Frances Mary Dering, daughter of Henry Packer Dering. They had both attended Mr. Griscom’s classes and lived with their uncles, Renssaelaer Havens and Captain George Havens. Catherine went to see Pamela’s mother who Dr. Sage considered quite feeble. We still do not know who Pamela was and what role she actually played in the Huntington household. – Catheirne described her plans for her return trip to New York. It gives a somewhat different impression of women’s travel at that time from what we might have perceived. She did not feel in need of company.

Book: 8Number: 744Date: 6/26/1819To: Catherine Mary HuntingtonFrom: Catherine Huntington, daughterPlace: Sag Harbor

–wasthisday$30-$50–Themusicmaster$13andCousinDanaIng$30–Hastakentheprincipalpartof mylastsum–Ihasbeenobliged to get some clothes for myself and Mary. I have got some wine and brandy – with them I hope will last me some time – – I have been obliged to get good wine – And that cost me not a small sum – though I did not get but three bottles they cost me nine dollars. This last winter by the advice of brother, I have given you this small memorandum above to let you know what my funds are to go on with Cousin Catherine–IhavereceivedfromCousinCharlesTDering$100andhave given the estate credit for it – if you thought you could meet Mrs. Abell’s payment when able and furnish me with some money to get home with, if it pleases God to spare our lives I can take some courage to go on so expensive a rate – My love to your family and all friends fromyouraffectionatesisterMCL’Hommedieu

Mary wishes to read my annual register left with Judge Case at Southold. I want he should send that. He has pursued and not send but a few at a time – And the expense must be charged to me – – She wants love and human understanding. That I think Mr. Hunting has and the Turkish Spy.

Sag Harbor June 26, 1819My dear MamaAgain I attempt the pleasing task of writing to you. I have for two days past thought much about home and dear friends and although I don’t acknowledge being homesick but would very gladly be there. Received sister Anne’s letter of the 19th instant and this makes me still more solicitous to be at Rome having drawn a conclusion from it that Ms. Hannah is on Tuesday evening next to change her name perhaps. She expressed herself in that manner to excite my curiosity and suspicion’ a little, and I also wish to be there next week to resign my officeof secretaryandtreasurerinthesociety.Aweekfromtomorrowis communion, I believe, at Rome, and this is another reason why I wish to be there not having had the opportunity or privilege of sitting downatthetableof theLordsinceMarch.Ifindcommunionseasonscalculated to make a Savior more precious to my soul and a means of quickening to my cold hard heart notwithstanding. I suppose too much dependence ought not to be placed upon ordinances. God is able to bless us whenever we are, and also being deprived of this privilege for a season may lead me to improve it better and value it more highly should I again be permitted to enjoy it.

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Hope my dear Mama will remember to pray for me that I may be keptfromthesnaresof theworldthatmyheartmaybesanctifiedandI am enabled to live to the Glory of God and that my hope may not prove that of the hypocrite which will perish when God taketh away the soul. How I shall get home I do not know. Have already set my face homeward and shall on Monday visit, if Province permits, go as far as Mastic in company with cousins Anne and Arabella Nicoll and Frances Dering, and so on to New York with or without company. And I feel confidentthat,thatbeingwhoisconstantlywatchingoverusforgoodwillprospermeandfromthere,Ishallfindagoodopportunityhome.

It still appears to me doubtful whether Aunt L’Hommedieu visits Rome this season. She has written to Uncle Dering for some money and stated to him she could not go without. He got some for her intending to send by me and it is all Jacob Banker’s bills which are not now passable, etc. etc. This, Cousin Margaret who has been here today, informed me; I pretend not to know much about it and only mention it and that in case when I get to New York for some reason Aunt should conclude to relinquish her intended visit to let Mama know it is still my determination and wish to go home as soon as possible.

I don’t intend staying in the city longer than a week or 10 days at farthest, that is if I have an opportunity to go on and should I not think perhaps if the weather is very warm in the city I had better go to Major Dabady’s and stay till I get one. Hope Papa and Mama will not be anxious on my account for it is quite unnecessary. My heath is very goodandfriendsalltellmeIhavegrownfleshyandhandsomerthanI used to be. There is, however, much room for improvement. Nature has done enough for me. I am free from deformity etc. but I have not taken that pains to improve my mind, which I can and ought to have done and certainly have nothing to be proud or vain of.

You have doubtless before this heard of the failure of the Mr. Jenkins in New York and the story goes that Uncle Havens has lost a good deal inconsequence,somesay$17,000,others$30,000.Unclehoweverhas written nothing about it. I feel really sorry for them all. But it is doubtless all for the best, though. It may now appear otherwise.

Mrs. H, I think, has repented of her hasty connection and if I know anything of comfort or satisfaction and certainly never should look for it in such a institution. Her disposition is I presume more amiable than mine and she appears to do as well as she knows how. She is a delicate unhealthy person and I think if Uncle lives many years, it is altogether likely he will have a third wife. The public talk is done. But the evil effectsinthefamilyfearareyettocome.

I heard of two deaths by sister A’s letter. Oh how uncertain is life. Oh to live in habitual readiness for the coming of the Son of Man. My

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turn I think may come next. Death may be at the door. Oh, to have on the wedding garment of the savior’s righteousness.

Cousin Sarah says her Papa thinks this sick turn Grandmama had last Saturdaywassomethinglikeanapoplecticfit.Sheisnowaswellasusual for her but has had two of her turns of late. I took a ride with Cousin Frances as far as East Hampton on Monday last and there saw Dr. Buell’s house. The meeting house and Academy all of which look very venerable.. I think it a very pleasant place and about retired enough to suit my task. Have not been to Mrs. Woolworth. Cousin Frances has not had it in her power to go with me, being very much engaged in domestic concerns in consequence of her mama’s being on Solard who returned yesterday.

I am very sorry Henrietta’s bonnet does not suit her taste and was fearfulitwouldnot,buteverythingappearssodifficultinNewYorkthat I should call it a very decent modest bonnet. The trimming did not exactly hit my fancy that is there was more ribbon upon it then I wished and directed to my [-] remains the same (except I have the wide blue ribbon upon it) as when I left home and think it will remain so untilIreturn.Havenotmuchconfidenceinthemilliner.Everythingthey do must be fashion, and as for wearing one of these harem faced bonnets it is all out of the question and besides Cousin Sarah’s that she had cleaned before she left the city does not look even as white as mine. I think I shall trust to my own cleaning this time.

I have been to see Pamela’s mother several times. She seems much resignedtothewillof Godandbelieveshefindsgreatcomfortinreligion. If I feel in a proper mood I shall write to P for her tomorrow. She has been quite comfortable this week past but I believe Dr. Sage thinks her disorder is the enlargement of the liver and that she will never be very smart again. She appears very anxious for Pamela’s everlasting welfare.

SisterAnne’sletterIintendansweringfromMastic.Herfirstletterhas been packed in my trunk for weeks. My thoughts so often turn homewards. That I need not consult that as an inducement for writing. I have been fearful I should write too much rather than too little. I alwaysthoughtIwasanhardheartedindifferentcreatureasitinrespectedmyfriendsbutnowfindbeingseparatedfromthemtheyarevery dear to me. I have much to say to the girls, questions to ask and not a little to tell that I cannot commit to writing .

The people seem to laugh a little about the doctor going to Rome. Cousin Richard says in New York some say he went to see the governor at Albany but many, that he had more important business. Anna, I do not understand [-] unless they are very plain nor etc. etc. Next time do write in plain language. I hope the girls will none of them be married until I return not even Hannah. Uncle and Aunt Fordham whom I saw

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• Eliza and Charles Dering had moved from Hamilton and were completing the construction of their home in Sag Harbor. (It still stands and is the neo-Classical house on Route 114 with the tall white fence across from the Pierson School.)

• Eliza, apparently stopped off in Mamaroneck to see her Aunt Eliza Floyd DeLancey’s family, and now arriving in Sag Harbor was feeling anxious about her husband.

Book: 8Number: 746Date: 7/29/1819To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Eliza Floyd Nicoll DeringPlace: Shelter Island

today and also Mrs. Francis Hunt desire to be remembered to Mama. I drunk tea with Mrs. P. Parker Tuesday p.m. She is pretty well.

Cousins Charles and Betsy are expected down in their ship in the course of two or three weeks. Wish much love to the family and all other friends. I must conclude. Little Ben how I want to see him and all the children too. Hoping and trusting I shall soon have the pleasure of doingthesame.IremainyoureveraffectionatedaughterCatherine

Shelter Island 29th JulyDear brotherSo much of my time has been taken up in saying how do you do to my old friends and in visiting, riding, walking etc. to amuse my lively cousins that I have not had time to address alive to anyone except my husband since my return or I should in this have replied to your favorof thewhichwasgratefullyreceivedwiththefirstnumberof Salmagundi we had a short but rough passage -- were all very sick -- but it did us good. We have all been very well and enjoyed good appetites ever since last week. Our time was spent in riding about the Island visiting at Capt. Lord’s, called at Uncle Dering’s – – found himself and Sylvester very much engaged getting in their harvest. Unclewasinfinespiritsandappearsquitedelightedwithhisnewbusiness – –

Benjamin came home Monday, and Tuesday afternoon father and Miss Delancey, Miss Ellison, Maria, Gloriana, Edward and Benjamin left here for Montauk – they returned last evening all very much fatigued and consequently bore very long faces – They however all played their partsverywellatthesuppertableandallinfinespiritstodayandallengaged at your father’s this afternoon. I wish you was here. Your Mama is often mentioned and we often regret that you did not come with us. This is the warmest day I have experienced since I left the city andfearyouwillsufferverymuchinthecity–

Where is my husband.? I looked all day yesterday for the ship. I shall feel very anxious if he does not get down tomorrow Sag Harbor. If he is sick I depend upon you, my brother, to inform me immediately. He is so anxious to send to being in the city at the season. I feel very anxious about him – –

Was very glad to hear the party arrived safe at Rome. I shall write Cousin Frances today. I expect they are very much engaged attending wedding.

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• Mary Catherine L’Hommedieu and her daughter Mary did make it to Rome that summer.

Book: 8Number: 747Date: 8/18/1819To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Mary L’HommedieuPlace: Rome

Catherine told me it was to take place as soon as she returned to Rome – – Eliza has been up and stayed overnight. She looks very well and is in good spirits. We talked of you. You are a great favorite, you know, of us both – and I know no reason why you should not be made acquainted with a certain event, which will probably take place before the expiration of another year – but I have gone too far. It is a secret of our friends – – and I must not go any further – – Think nothing of it when I see you. You shall know more of it – – The October [-] Sayre sails this afternoon – – – B is all attention to Ms. E but I fear he is too late but you will undoubtedly know the particulars from himself as he revealsnothingfromyou–inhasteyouraffectionatesisterEFDering

PS the ladies all send love and compliments.

Rome August 18, 1819Cousin NicollAs your news in your letter was so new and so interesting I made up my mind that I would not answer your letter until I had something of equal importance to communicate and I now have the pleasure of informing you that the weather has become cooler for the last few days. We received the sketchbook and Salmagundi safe. I do not thinkthatthelastnumbersof Salmagundiareassatiricalasthefirstbut the sketch of a broken heart is equal to any except the wife in the firstnumber.LadiesGloriana,CharlotteandFranceshavegonetoWhitestown.

And Cousin Anna and myself are left in Rome to keep up the respectability of the house. Reading is our chief amusement and have read [-] and am now reading Burns. I have not seen the arsenal yet,whichyoupredicted.Ishouldseethefirstof thecuriositiesof foreign origin; however I have seen the sender, which according to the authority of a Roman citizen is a great natural curiosity. Mr. Mills passed through Rome and excited the admiration of the whole city under the name of a dandy. His sister is staying here, I think, he must be rather dumb not to be pleased by the stupendous falls of Niagara. Mama’s health is not any better then when she left New York. the climate does not agree with her constitution. She expects to go to Western this week. We should, at least I should be, pleased to see your wishes of being with us realized as then perhaps I might have the pleasure of giving a more favorable description of this region than at present I am able to.

I hope when you answer this letter your pen will recover of its curiosity and be able to give an account of the proceedings in the city. The city of RomedoesnotaffordmorenewsthanNewYork.If yourstatementistrue.Mamaisquiteanxioustoreturnthefirstof Septemberand

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Book: 8Number: 749Date: 9/11/1819To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Mary Catherine L’Hommedieu. His AuntPlace: Rome

Book: 8Number: 750Date: 9/15/1819To: Sylvester DeringFrom: Mary Catherine L’HommedieuPlace: Rome

wishes cousin Charles to come to Rome,thefirstthinguponhisarrivalin this country.

I wish you would come and wait on Cousin Anna to commencement as she is very anxious to go. Send all the few publications which may give us [-] of the diversities of city life to this country town. Do you think the spectators or work of much merit for my part. I think it much inferior to the former spectators. Charlotte says that she is a great belle in Whitestown to come here and make another address at her shrine – –AllyourkinsfolkdesiretheirlovetoyoualsoyouraffectionateCousinMary

Rome September Saturday 11th 1819Dear CousinMy indisposition with a bad cold has prevented me from acknowledging your letter to me where in you feel an interest in my infirmhealth––IhopeGodwillprotectyouandbringustogetherin health. I feel myself a merriment of God’s mercy – for two days past I have felt much more comfortable – – and endeavor to entertain a hope that kind Providence will support me to return home soon. I had a letter from Charles dated the ninth instant – – He thought to be here today if nothing prevents. – I leave all my plans until he comes – I wanted to stay a day or two at Utica – thought it would rest me. Mr. James Platt, where I calculated to visit, has failed in business – Made over his property to his creditors. His wife and children are gone to her father’s and Miss Strong. – – Mr. Varrick, I understand, will lose by him. I shall endeavor to go and see Mrs. Varrick – – – Mr. George Huntington’s daughter Hannah is to be married to a Mr. Smith on Tuesday next – – I should not presume to write such a word – but I suppose it will be public before this reaches you – – Our cousins incline to stay and see the ceremony performed – – Cousin Frances and Anna Huntington – – we cannot persuade them to come. Mr. Huntington has given out going to New York – – and we must return quite lonely – – I hope we shall be on our way home in less than a week or 10 days – – All our friends are well – – Mary is well. Unites with me in our affectiontoyou––andallourfriendsinNewYorkandShelter Island and Sag Harbor – – I have received a letter from Charles’ wife – but have been not able to write much or answer it – – think I can when I return – – May God be my support and trust – at home, on my journey orwhereverIbe––fromyouraffectionateauntMCL’Hommedieu

September 13th 1819 MondayDear BrotherI have great cause for thankfulness that I am able to answer your kind letter to me at Rome (September 5) wherein you mentioned the sale of that Plymouth lands that belong to Mr. L’Hommedieu’s estate – I abide by your judgment – and I think as far as I am a judge it would be best to sell it – perhaps another opportunity may not present very soon – –

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Book: 8Number: 754Date: 10/1/1819To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Mary Catherine L’HommedieuPlace: Jamaica, New York

Mr. Huntington says that real estate does not, at present, such a great price in this part of the country – – Cousin Charles is here with us and we should leave here this week – if we had not been informed by Nicoll that there had been six cases of fever that was malignant in New York and wished me to wait and hear from him again – – I hope to tomorrow – and hope through God’s goodness to leave here this week for Utica and stay a night or two at Mr. Varrick’s – Mrs. James Platt has gone with her children to her father’s – her husband has made over all his property to his creditors – Mr. Varick and Platt are his principal endorsers – his brothers and brother in law – – what a changing world – but God in judgment and mercy had visited Utica – there has been a a very great revival in that place – I heard there was 70 they had and hope for – there was among the Episcopalians such display of God’s power that all form of prayer was laid aside in their conference meetings – and other professions attend with as much solemnity – – – I am pleased to hear your friends are arrived – and that you have the satisfaction of renewing such connections and – and I hope it will be a lasting enjoyment to you and your family – – my love to all friends.

You mention the sale of my chaise – – I have thought that if you would be willing to take the trouble of it – it would be useful to yourself, and sister – and be a comfort to me and Mary when we should visit you – if it pleased God to prolong our lives – my [-] have been to keep it – but if youthinkitbesttogiveitup–Iwilldosoto–dooffermyfourwheel carriage for sale –

This part of the country has been blessed with an abundance of grain of all descriptions though we have had extreme hot weather – We have been favored with showers – On the great canal there is at the Westland of here, fevers very mortal at present – And some sick on the [-] out here – And on the lakes out west of here it is very sickly – “WhatshallIrendertomyGodforallhisbenefitstome.”

September 15 -- Charles left us yesterday for Hamilton – and calculates through God’s mercy to meet me at Utica on the 20th of the month – for to proceed on to New York –

Mr. George Huntington’s daughter Hannah was married last evening to a Rev. Mr. Smith – – Catherine Huntington has had the ague in her face. Is some better today – all of us today through divine mercy are well––fromyouraffectionatesisterMCL’Hommedieu

Jamaica October 1819Cousin NicollI received your letter some days since and have answered it once but didnotthinktosendittotheofficeuntilitwastoolateandconcludedto write you another time. Mama wishes very much to get home, and as it is so cold, thinking she can return without danger. I hope you

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Book: 8Number: 753Date: 10/8/1819To: Sylvester DeringFrom: Mary Catherine L’HommedieuPlace: New York

will agree with her and that we shall have the pleasure of beholding your face in Jamaica in the space of two or three days. Mrs. Abell has opened her house. She did not shut it on account of the fever. If you think it proper for us to return this week, will you oblige us so much as to inform Mrs. Abell but if you do not write us and inform us of our sad fate. I do not like living here much and do not care how soon I leave. Mr. and Mrs. Wickes left Jamaica this morning. Mama is not very well. She sends her love. We are much obliged to you for the perusal of Sarah’s letter. They all appeared to enjoy themselves very much. The letter shall be returned safe to your own hands. I am much obliged to you for sending Salamagundi. As the novelty has ceased I think them quite on interesting. Has Uncle Havens family moved to the city? Mama wishes to know. This is my last sheet of paper and you must excuse its looks. When I wrote Cousin Anna I desired her to direct to your care as it was then uncertain where I should be. If you receive any, please to forward them immediately. From your cousin Mary

Dr. Nicoll H Dering

PS October 5 with permission from Mary I request your opinion respecting coming home – I heard that there was more cases of fever yesterday then there had been for some days past – – Mr. Weed wants to go journey – I think we should make too much trouble for Mrs. Weed if he was gone now what must I do – go home or go to Mastic -- from your Aunt L’Hommedieu

New York October 8, 1819 MondayDear BrotherYour letter I received at Jamaica. I had not time to answer by mail – but signed the paper you wished and gave it to Mr. Wicks – He said that he would send it by the return of that mail – And I presume he did – I came to New York on Friday last – Cousin Nicoll came after me. I keep much at home – I hope through our merciful Creator that pestilence that has prevailed in our land will subside. I wish it might be narrowed with spiritual blessings to us – – I have great cause to count my mercies over that I and mine have been carried through a large journey with many comforts and kind friends – My return thanks to my great giver, for support in body and mind – my health remains much the same – Mary is well, began her school to Mr. Natt today – Gloriana and Charlotte Havens had not returned home yesterday – – Mr. Huntington is gone to change and the rest of our Rome friends are well and requested to be remembered to you and your family – – I received September 7, 1819 at Rome from Mr. Hubbard and Shaw’s, at HamiltonbyyoursonCharlesdirection,$900.Itwassentto Mr. Huntington – – I credited the estate for it – and made use of it in returning home for my expenses on my journey, and at Jamaica – – and I have paid Mrs. Abell for two months board – – August and

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• On October 22, the first ship to sail on the Erie Canal, from Rome to Utica, was launched.

Book: 8Number: 755Date: 11/17/1819To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Frances Mary DeringPlace: Sag Harbor

September–$150cheapboard–butaheavylosstomethoughIhave not any reason to complain – – Brother Rensselaer mentioned he had cash in his hands for me. I do not know what to do with Dana Ingraham – – Another letter from him today – I do not merit anything from Sarah Dering – but they say he is sick – I never attend in such unsettled situation in my life – What my duty is he names his sums – many times it would take every cent I have on hand to answer his demands – I feel as if I could not quarrel with him – And I want to act the part of a good neighbor – – My love to sister and mother with your children and all friends. -- Nicoll was in to see me last evening appeared very well – – I wish you to make Violet comfortable. If there is any articles that I can send her being so kind as to let me know – – I do not go into the lower part of the city but God is calling us away with various diseases – Mrs. Anne Adams, wife of Mr. Adams Elder in our church, was buried last Sabbath, left an infant four weeks old – – she was taken deranged a week or 10 days before her death, has left nine children to the care of our kind heavenly father – – from your affectionatesisterMCL’Hommedieu

PS Mr. Wicks and wife are gone up to Utica and out West of there -- intend staying in two months.

Sag Harbor November 17, 1819My dear CousinSince receiving your last interesting and most welcome letter, the melancholy intelligence of the death of my beloved friend Mrs. Lawton has reached me. Yes, my dear friend is gone. If she will never return to cheer me with her lovely society and sweet countenance. She has suffered,languished,anddiedinalandof strangerswithoutoneof themany female friends she had to stand by her sick bed to perform the manykindofficeswhichsuchanopportunitywouldafford.Nopiousfriends to attend her death bed. – –

Oh! There is so many aggravating circumstances, attending this afflictingProvidencetakeninthebloomof youth,sosoonafterleavingus. Had we expected her to have spent many years in that country, we should have been more prepared for the idea of never again beholding her. – But the place was so extremely unpleasant to her and she was taken sick so early in the season that her husband had determined to settle his business and leave there next spring. – –

Yes, we had an idea and hope for her happy arrival and would often mentally exclaim in my anxiety about her if she can but be spared through this season. – – The thought, too, that she was so anxious to return for the place and society was disgusting to her. – – She was very happy in her home and always wrote in a cheerful manner. – It is not a year yet since she left her parental home – –

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Butherpoorafflicted[-]parentsOh!Itisheartrendingtothinkof their loss, particular to those who can in some measure estimate it by a knowledge of the worth and virtues their daughter possessed. She was all they could wish for in a child. How extremely dutiful and devoted she has ever been to them, how beautiful the Christian shown in all her conduct. – Her father, how fondly he loved her. She was indeed hisidol.Whenhefirstheardof herdeath,hecouldnotcontainhisfeelings – and is very much bowed down with grief. – Too many of his acquaintanceswhoknewhehadsuchaflowof spirits,thoughgreatholdthisafflictionhastakenof himissurprising–butthosewhomoreintimatelyknewhim,knewhispartingwithherhashaddeeplyaffectedhim and that his spirits have never recovered from it. Her dear mother too exquisite feeling has joined great strength of mind but her feeble frame almost sunk under such a shock – But she is very calm and composed and is the greatest pattern of patience and resignation and Christian resignation.

I believe that the fewer met with, but they both have a wounded that they will carry to their graves, and I fear it will hasten them there. – – But my dear cousin there is a bright side to this cloud, and in their greatafflictiontheyhavethegreatestconsolation,inthereflectionthattheir daughter who led a life of faith on earth, is now enjoying the blessed presence of her divine Redeemer. We mourn not as those who mourn without hope. Her walk since she made a profession of her faith has been such as lead everyone to believe she had vital piety. – – How her heart has mourned over the depravity and wickedness of the people she has been sent to ardently has she expressed her wishes for a missionary to be sent to that [-] people. –

No young lady in this place was so much respected and beloved by all as she has been. Her sweet disposition and pleasing manner won the hearts of all her acquaintances while her good sense and cultivated mind made her a valuable companion and an ornament to any society – And with all she was modest unassuming and retiring. This is not the language of partial friendship only –

I hear it from all who knew her, while [-] mute – feel that one proposed the values too keenly feel with it the loss I have sustained – What a precious friend she has ever been to me, death has never before taken from me so dear an object. How consoled with her were my hopes and expectations for enjoyment and happiness. She, for 17 years, she has been my constant companion, and if separated, my weekly correspondent. We were together all most as much as yourself and Anna,allourfamilyfeelafflictedinherloss.Mamaparticularlyismuchgrieved.––Ioughtnottothinkof herasIoftendo,sufferinginthatdistantsicklyclime,butasaglorifiedspiritsurroundingthethroneof her Redeemer. What would tempt her to be again embodied in fleshandtocontendwiththemanytrialswhichawaitushere.Iwould

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endeavor to follow her example while on earth and listen attentively to the admonition speaking from her tomb then may I hope to join her in heaven. – – When beloved objects are taken from us, then my dear cousin this world appears to us in its true light. – A wilderness – Oh! thatmyaffectionswassetmoreonheavenanddivinethings.––AndIpraythatthisafflictionmaybesanctifiedtomeformygood.–

The letter containing the information of my friend’s death was directed to Papa, and in these words, “I have been waiting all day for my fever togooff,totellyou,butwhatshalltheyAlas!Francesisgone.”Itwaswritten with a trembling hand, and as we since learned a dying one for Dr. Lawton died two days after writing it. Could you see it you would call it an eloquent letter. – I have given you every word of it –. – His afflictionwastoomuchforhim.–Hewasamanof greatsensibilityandfinefeelings.Hisheartsankunderit.–

After receiving that letter we heard no more until a fortnight when Dr. Sage had a letter from a gentleman in Mobile in mourning of the death of Doc Lawton – and we have now know the particulars than that Frances who was taken sick in July with the Billious fever from which she got better but it left her with fever and ague. – Which must have made her very feeble when she was taken with the malignant fever which has prevailed there. Thus she supported only 10 days and expired on 25 of September. Two days after, Dr. Lawton was taken down and died on the 5th October. –

The gentleman that writes speaks in the highest terms of the doctor. – Says his philanthropy and benevolence had carried him, enjoined his strength and that no human being would have done more for the afflicted,distressedandsufferingthenhediedduringthesickness––And he believed his good Constitution would have enabled him to have withstood the fever but at the death of his wife his feelings was approachingtoastateof frenzy–Yes,Ibelievehissufferingswerebeyond conception. He had the strongest attachments – – and being a particular friend of her father’s. –

Withthereflectionof thetroubleandafflictionherdeathwouldcostthe family, it was too much for him I believe him to have been the best of men and the most kind and tender of husbands, and think it a mercy that his life was spared to take care of her in her sickness – – a little girl went with Frances who was much attached to her and who my friend had taken much pains to educate. – – She is very intelligent and should she return we may get many interesting particulars of her death. Otherwise, shall know nothing more than we do. – She was living the last we heard and measures are taken for her return. Now, my dear Cousin, have I dwelt too long and been to particular in relatingthesadtale.Ithinkyouknewmyfriendsufficientlytolamenther as an acquaintance – and feel assured your feeling heart will deeply sympathizewithyourafflictedcousin.––Thismustbemyapologyfor

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Book: 8Number: 756Date: 12/30/1819To: Frances HuntingtonFrom: Susanna TracyPlace: Whitesborough

thusfillingmypaper.

Your letter found me with friends, but not so much engrossed by them as to forget my absent ones, for I consciously looked for a number of weeks for your letter before it arrived. – – It was all very interesting to me. –

Cousin Nicoll is now on a visit home, where he has not been in about a year. Uncle Dering was indisposed last week, but is better this. – Other friends are all in good health. – Our family have been remarkably blessed with health for a year past. – – I expect it is impossible for our imaginations to paint the distress of the town of Mobile. –

The plague in London did not exceed the destruction that has been there.–Remembermekindlytoallyourfamily.Ihavefinishedmyletter in great haste. – I hope you will be able to read it – but do not let it be seen. – – I had more to say but the mail is closing. Do write soon afterreceivingthis.–YouraffectionatefriendandcousinF.M.Dering

Whitesborough 30 December 1819My Dear FrancesFriday morning – I dated this yesterday hoping that I should be able to finishit,butwasnotwellenoughtowriteany.Youinquiredafterthestate of my health in your note. If you were to see me you would laugh at anyone who should ask the question for I never looked better in my life but my looks are very deceitful at present. However, I am getting better, I think, and though my I am still troubled with the toothache, I can bear exposure to the weather as well as I ever did. – indeed I think I am much better when I ride and walk out – even in a storm, than when I am shut up in the house.

I can’t express to you the pleasure and sorrow your letter brought me the other evening. I did not receive it till Wednesday evening and was sufferingfromaviolentattackof thetoothachewhenCharlesbroughtit to me. It made me almost well until I learned that Anna was so sick – – poor Anna – telling her not to be discouraged about writing out, but to wear a thick veil when she goes again, and I hope it will do her as much good as it has done me, for nothing makes me feel so well as riding,andIfancythatbothof oursufferingsproceedfromthesamedisorder. Irritability of nerves though she has it to a far greater degree than I have.

I am very sorry that none of you came here to go to church with us last Friday evening. I went with William, Charles, Catherine and Anne. We all wanted Margaret to go, but we could not persuade her to. Mrs. Hunt had invited Margaret and me to come there with as many children as we would bring and spend the evening after church. The church was elegantly decorated under the directions and with the assistance of Misses Ann and Mary Kipp and Miss Bloodgood. it

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looked like fairyland but Mr. Shaw’s discourse was not calculated to continuetheillusion.Itwasveryindifferentandturnedaltogetheronsacred music. On the arch over the pulpit this text was placed in large letters made of green sprigs tied together: “We have seen his star in the East and are come to worship him.”

After church was out I went to Mr. Hunt’s. Mrs. Judge Sanger was there with Ms. Eames. Miss Mary Greene and her brother Henry, Mr. and Mrs. Nicholas Devereaux, and Mr. Shaw, the minister. Mr. Hunt was most wonderfully polite, insisted that I must stay all night there and said if I would, he would bring me home the next day, but I knew it would be entirely out of my power –

From there I went to Mrs. Skinner’s and brought home Henrietta and Lucy. They stayed here till Monday morning and were very well, except that Henrietta had a slight cold and the headache on Sunday morning, which I believe Mama cured by a dose of elixir peoserietatis. Henrietta thought that she had not caught cold, but that her headache arose from sleeping later than usual in the morning. On Christmas day I went to risk any with Mary Platt, Cornelia, and Helen. Mary says sheisbetterthanshehasbeensinceshewasfirsttakensick.Wespentabout half an hour very pleasantly at Mrs. Green’s and returned home to tea.

Just after tea Mr. Glover and Mr. Bleeker from Hamilton College called here. They stayed but a few minutes and returned to Judge Miller’s to spend Sunday – Mr. Glover apologized for not accepting Papa’s invitation for Thanksgiving day, and said he was pre- engaged.

I went yesterday to New Hartford and spent the morning with Ms. Risley. She was very well and inquired after your ladyship’s and said she would be happy to see you there when you come to Whitesboro this winter. I have not heard from Mrs. Varick for several days. She was much better than last time I heard.

Cornelia Platt will set out this evening for Albany so there is an end I suppose of our visit to Rome – but I hope that will not prevent my going – Cornelia will stay at Albany three or four weeks. However I do not intend to go to make a long visit at your house till I am well of the toothache. But I hope to make several short ones – if I go with Mr. Kirkland,whichisveryuncertainIwilltrytoletyouknowfirstbutI am not sure that I shall know myself until he comes for me. I hope however he will not make the poor cats rue the day – or put yourselves to any trouble on our account. But let us take you just as you would be if we were not coming – Give my best love to your Mama and all the girls, especially to Anna. I hope her poor head will be well when we get there. I remain with all love yours, my dear Fanny, Susanna Tracy

You inquired how my frock feels. I can’t tell you how it feels except that

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Book: 8Number: 757Date: 3/14/1820To: Catherine HuntingtonFrom: Gloriana HuntingtonPlace: Utica

it feels better than any one I ever had – – though it is defaced some in consequence of my having so much of the toothache. It has had so many remedies for the toothache sprinkled upon it, that it is sadly spotted – – However is Mrs. Dalaby? it is almost time to hear from her I think. Do write to me as soon as you receive any intelligence from her. ST

Utica March 14, 1820My Dear MamaAs I have little time this evening I think that I will employ it in writing to you. Lucy andmyself are very well now. Last Friday Lucy had a very bad turn of the earache. She would not say in the morning what was the matter with her but went to school in the morning and could do not do anything all the forenoon and in the afternoon she stayed at home and in the evening Mrs. Skinner put some tobacco smoke in her ear and it cured it.

I should be very much obliged to you if you would send me my atlas and geography because Mr. Bartlett has sent me studying geography, grammar and arithmetic. Mr. Bartlett is the strangest, queerest man that ever I ran into; makes the strangest speeches and faces that ever was and I do not like him at all. I had such a gorgeous name that he thought he would take me into his school.

Last Saturday we expected to go to Whitestown and away from the afternoon school on purpose. But they did not send till Sunday morning when we were all ready for church. We went up there and had a very [-] visit and came back Monday morning. I will send Henrietta some of Miss Walker’s hair that I want braided – Told me it was her hair and wanted me to take charge of. Give my love to sisters and all folks.FromyouraffectionatedaughterGloriana Huntington Mrs. Catherine M Huntington – –

PS 16th – I was very much obliged to Elizabeth for her letter and will answer it if I can get time – – Sarah Brayton, Mary Seymour, and Lucy went to a party at Mrs. Thomases up on the hill – I have not much more to write. I hope that Papa will be down tomorrow and then we shall have very long letters full of grand news from home. Has Mr. Holbrook got married yet.

Mr. Bartlett hurries his scholars very fast lately because examination is coming and I do not like him at all, but I like him worse and worse every time I see him. Sometimes he says I must send for the sour looking man drawing Mr. Holbrook from Rome. I think that the summary looking man as call him could be any [-] if he could [-] all he is – – I want to hear from you very much and know all about the folks. I like to stay here very well and I have not gotten homesick and do not expect to be so. Lucy and myself have been to Mr. Varrik’s once since I came here and when we went to Whitestown. Frances said that we go

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• Sylvester Dering died on October 8, 1820 after being thrown from a horse and breaking his neck. He was 62. His final days were described by his dear friend and doctor Ebenezer Sage to Ebenezer Storer.

• Ebenezer Sage graduated from Yale in 1778. He set up his practice of medicine in East Hampton in 1784 and moved to Sag Harbor in 1801. He served as a congressman from March 4, 1809 to March 4, 1815. He resumed his practice of medicine following his service in Washington.

• On April 3, 1822, Eliza Packer Gardiner married Reuben Bromley a bank officer in New York City. He began his adult life in 1801 as the captain of a packet to Liverpool. In the city they lived on Irving Place.

• Henry Packer Dering died on April 30, 1822. He was 59 years old. The three children of Mary Sylvester and Thomas Dering were no more.

Book: DinkelNumber: 12Date: 11/12/1822To: Frances M. DeringFrom: Sarah Frances DeringPlace: Shelter Island

• Mary Catherine L’Hommedieu married Samuel Smith Gardiner on August 7, 1823.

• On June 6, 1826, Nicoll Havens Dering and his first cousin Frances Huntington were married.

Book: 8Number: 761Date: 10/29/1827To: Nicoll Havens DeringFrom: Sarah Frances DeringPlace: Shelter Island

once a week or oftener. I was very glad from Mr. Floyd that Kathryn and Anne not there promised visit to Whitestown and was very sorry that they did not come as far as Utica. I hope his cutter rode well. Give mylovetoallLucysendsherlove.FromyouraffectionatedaughterGloriana HuntingtonMrs. Catherine Mary Huntington

Shelter Island November 12, 1822My Dear CousinI found a petticoat which Eliza left here with the frock and send that too thinking it may be of some service to you or the girls. I felt very sorryindeedthatcousinHenrycouldnotfindaconveyancetoGullIsland and improve this delightful day to go. We had a most charming sail yesterday was wishing you and cousin Frances Ford stick was with us.IfindahealthyfamilybutaverydirtyhouseandthinkIshallhavetositdowninitagoodspell,if notallwinter.Howeveritisbutatriflecompared to many other things. May we, my dear cousin, and all our afflictionandtrialseyethedivinehandandhearthevoiceof Godthatthey may prove messengers of mercy to our souls. Do not, my dear cousin, give way to feelings of this despondency. It is wrong to indulge them too much. Look out too long upon the dark side of the picture. Youhavetheloveandtheprayerof youraffectionatecousinSarah.

PS Whenever you can I wish you would write to me. I shall esteem it a peculiar favor – mind very best love to your dear mother and to cousins – Tell Cousin F. I hope to see her soon – Adieu SFD

Monday evening October 29, 1827Dear brotherI am happy to hear by your letter of last Wednesday received on Saturdayof yoursafeandspeedyarrivalinthecity.Wesufferedconsiderable anxiety on your account lest you should be detained or

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overtaken by the storm which with us was very severe – –

I am very glad to hear that Mr. Huntington has made no overtures aboutbuyingthefarm.Weareallverywellsatisfiedandthankfultohim for what he has done and should be sorry to have him go any farther –

It was evident enough to everyone here that the farm was purchased onGardiner’saccount,andIratherthinkMr.Mulfordwillnotfindit very convenient to dispose of his East Hampton property. – As to mutual concessions I know not how they ever can be made; we can yield nothing except what we have already done that we were indebted to them. We acknowledged in our answer to their bill of complaint and that we were willing to have the property sold and go as far as it would to pay them.

What weight of the debt we owed them that I have labored constantly and to the best of my ability; lived sparingly, denied myself comforts andgratifications,andtakenmanyawearysteptosaveapennyandallwiththeutmostpleasure,hopingonedaythattheymightbebenefited– This is not all. I have seen my mother and my brothers do more than all this – – I have seen my mother but it is too, too much. I cannot say it, but it was our united endeavor to do them good and I believe if we could have slaved out our lives to have served them we should have done it – For my own part I felt willing to be sold a slave for life and to serve them in any menial capacity so long as they manifested friendly dispositions toward us. But how do they come out – –

Thefirstonsetistoaspersemybrother’scharacter–CouldIbearit–No – The next to dishonor the memory of my father – Could I bear it – unresentingly No – I should consider myself unworthy to bear his name if I did not feel utter horror and indignation for such base ingratitude – What would he not have done and what did he not do to spare the feelings of her who has murdered my mother’s peace and made her daily bread like ashes – – I make any concessions have any respect for their characters or receive them as friends never. My mother make any concessions, my brother make any concessions, no -- no --- no – Our heavenly father would frown upon such an act. He does not require it.

I am willing to meet them and to feel for them as I would for he heathens no otherwise – I am willing to forgive them so far as never to mention their base treatment towards us and so far as never to wish them any injury and so far as to do them good whenever it might be in my power, but to meet them on equal and friendly terms I never can, it would grieve me very much to see any one of my family do it – I should consider them as lost to all proper feelings of self-respect to do it – – Henry thinks of leaving us tomorrow for New York. I hope he will be enabled to gain much towards qualifying himself to earn his living

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• Esther Sarah Havens Dering had the right to stay in the house as long as she lived. Samuel Smith Gardiner sued to have her evicted and failed.

• Desire Brown Havens, Grandmama, died on March 31, 1828 at age 84.

• Mary Catherine L’Hommedieu Gardiner had three daughters, Mary, Phoebe, and Frances Eliza, and died on January 28, 1838 at age 31.

• When Sarah wrote this letter to her granddaughter, Frances and Nicoll Dering had five daughters, Anne, Sarah, Catherine, Frances, and Lucy. Later they would have two additional children, Sylvester and Henrietta.

Book: 8Number: 762Date: 3/15/1838To: Dear Grand daughterFrom: Esther Sarah DeringPlace: Shelter Island

intheworldandwhateverhemaysuffertosparehimfromincurringtoo great obligations from anyone. Teach him to help himself in every possible way and to get through without appearing mean or incurring debts –

Mama seems to keep up very well. I trust she will hold on to a good old age and perhaps in that disappoint the hopes of some who have long wished to see her laid low and her children struggling with poverty and disgrace. But we will hold up our heads and wear that cheerful aspect, which is ever the result of conscious innocence. We will maintain a consciousvoidof offensetowardsGodandtowardsmen–AndtheGod of peace will grant us that peace, which those who despitefully use us and persecute us may seek for in vain – – As to the inventory I care nothing about it. Let them prove what they can.

None but mean men would think of making it up – When they went round the house to price the furniture I went with them and I had something to say. I passed my judgment and, blessed be God, IhadhisfearbeforemyeyesandfeelperfectlyjustifiedandIthinknobody would be willing to give Mama two hundred dollars for all her furniture. Sheep did not bring at auction at that very time but 10/ and ours were priced at 12/ but let them work it out and get what they can.

They cannot hurt us now. We are passed all feeling on that subject – – Cousin Anne desires her love to you and says while you are sitting beside the smiling face of your wife you must not forget our lone and desolate condition and how much a few lines of intelligence might cheer us – – It is getting late and I must close with wishing you the kind of protection of heaven and that favor which is better than life – your affectionatesisterS

Shelter Island March 15, 1838My Dear Grand DaughterIhavetoacknowledgetoyoumyneglectof yourkindandaffectionateletters and remembrance of me. I could make many apologies but they wouldnotansweranygoodpurpose.SufficeittosaythatitwasnotbecauseIwasnotverymuchgratifiedtoreceivethem.Ihopeif Ilivethat I may received many more. I am truly grieved and sorrowful for

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Book: DinkelNumber: 10Date: 3/23/1838To: Frances Mary Dering, Sag HarborFrom: Eliza Packer Gardiner BromleyPlace: New York

the ill health of your dear parents. I hope they are better before this and if they are not you must let me know for I am very anxious about them. Ihopethewarmweatherwillhaveagoodeffectonthem.Wheneveryou write to RomeIwishyoutoremembermeveryaffectionatelytoyour dear grandparents that I sympathize with them in their repeated afflictionsthattheLordhasbeenpleasedtovisituponthemwith.Ihopethe Lord will grant them that consolation which the world cannot give nor take. That they do not mourn as those that mourn without hope. They still have children to comfort them but your Aunt L’Hommedieu is bereaved of her all. I feel very much for her but she is wonderfully supported under all her trials. I never have heard a murmuring word from her. I feel very sorry for the children as their instructress talks of going away. She will be a great loss to them as they seem to cling to herverymuch.Sheisaveryfinewomanof goodeducationandwellcalculated for her situation, a woman of talents etc. I hope when the weather grows warmer that your father will be able to come down and see me and bring you and Sarah with him. With much love to your dear parents and sisters and all inquiring friends with the share to yourself fromyouraffectionategrandmotherSarahDering

New York March 23, 1838My Dear CousinI never can thank you enough for writing me the circumstantial account of my much esteemed cousin Mary’s illness and death. You know how much I have always thought of her and I do think there was a propriety with her under all circumstances you will rarely meet with. And I do most hardly thank you for your kind and sympathetic feelings for my poor cousin Samuel. I know he has faults and where is the one whocancastthefirststone.Iknowtoohehasgoodfeelingsandheloved his wife and as you say she was his best friend.

I pray that this severe bereavement may be for his present and everlasting good. I can assure you my heart has sorrow for him and his dear motherless children. I am not surprised to learn that dear Aunt Dering’safflictionshavebeenrenewedagainbythismournfulevent.Itis natural they should be, but she has others to call her by the endearing name of mother whereas poor desolate Aunt L’Hommedieu feels a vacuum and none else can know but those who have experienced the same, but you say she is wonderfully supported. Oh what a blessed thing a religion is, that it should enable one to bear up under such trials. Her faith but holds her child at the right hand of her Savior crownedwithimmortalgloryandsheissatisfied–Godhasarighttoher above all others and he did not please to spare her any longer from the habitation of his saints and I never think of her separate from my dear Sarah, indeed in regard to my own feelings they are, whatever assails me, whether adversity or pleasurable feelings made by some new ideasgatheredeitherbyobservationorreadingtoherdearshallIflyand communicate as though she still listens to what I had to say.

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I have often been afraid that I do wicked in that respect – that she and two other dear ones also are gone, out of sight, stand higher in my affectionsthanhimwhomIoughttolovewithallmyheartandwithall my soul and with all my strength and with all my mind – my mind tears a truant mind wandering after forbidden objects –

I wish to do as you advise me but what can I write. I really feel incompetent that I do sympathize with them with heartfelt feelings. They cannot doubt – you doubtless have heard health very sick we bothhavebeenwiththeinfluenza.Mr.Bromleyhasbeenmoreunwellthan I ever saw him before and I, at the same time, was scarcely able to tend upon him. He is about but by no means well. I am still in my chamber. I ought to have commenced my letter by telling you how sick we were at the time I got your letter to apologize for not answering it before –

Cousin Thomas’s bed is ready and has been this some time. I wish you would come up with him. The place we are going to is the most delightful place you can imagine. When I went to look at it and the beautiful prospect every window commands it. First thought was how charmed dear cousin Sarah would have been with this. Then I was jogged by the elbow to look at the peach trees with the appearance that theyhavethefinestimaginablefruit[-]peaches,saidI,isjustthethingtofathercousinFrancesandIhopetohaveyouprofitbythosegrowingon our own hired place.

Charlotte knows exactly where it is, opposite Mr. Phelps – the storm place, I call it Storm Side, we can see the place from where we are now – Old Kitty and John are there now. Kitty cleaning the house and John making garden – We have hired them for the year. I also have an excellent girl. She came to me in great want and I believe she will make up to me the trouble I have had for her – We are going to have a cow, a pig and some chickens hens that will lay an egg every day in the world – love to all, Thine Eliza I have lots of things from my garden to send to Charlotte when an opportunity presents. When you write again do let me know something about Richard, poor boy.

I am very anxious about Dr. Dering. His cough hangs on quite too long and I have no doubt in my own mind but Mrs. Dering has the consumption.Shehasafineyoungson;youdoubtlessknowhowthatfamilyaregoing.Ihavefilledmyletterwithoutsayingawordaboutbusiness.

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Letter #106, on page 34, from Margaret Chesebrough to Thomas Dering on May 21, 1761.

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Letter #749, on page 257, from Mary Catherine L’Hommedieu to Nicolll Havens Dering, September 11, 1819.

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• Esther Sarah Havens Dering died on July 31, 1839 at the age of 76.

• Mary Catherine Havens L’Hommedieu died on July 25, 1843 at age 78.

• Renssaelaer Havens had 14 children. He died on February 8, 1861 at the age of 88. Catherine Cebra Webb Havens lived to be 100, and she with the first wife, Anna Jenkins Havens, are both buried with Renssaelaer in the South Cemetery at the Shelter Island Presbyterian Church. His youngest daughter, Catherine, known as Katy, also lived to be 100 years old and is buried with them.

• Henry Packer Dering, when he died in 1822 at the age of 59 left his wife Anna Fosdick Dering to live another 30 years. Eight of their nine children lived to maturity . Their son Lodowick had two sons, Henry and Edward, and their daughter Ann Charlotte married William Sleight and had 10 children.

• Henry Packer Dering’s oldest daughter Frances Mary Dering, born in 1795, who attended Newark Academy in the school term 1808-1809 and was Frances Mary Sage Lawton’s best friend, never married and died in Sag Harbor in 1794 age 79. Some of her saved letters are privately owned; others are at the Long Island Collection at the East Hampton Library.

• Elizabeth Packer Gardiner, born in 1788, married Reuben Bromley on April 2, 1822 in East Hampton. They settled in Sag Harbor. He died on August 30, 1860 at age 81. She died on August 7, 1863 at age 75. They were buried in the South End Burial Ground in East Hampton. They had no children.

• Margaret Dering and Richard Nicoll had five additional children: Sylvester Dering on January 28, 1821, Hester Renelche on October 26, 1825, Charles Henry on March 20, 1826, Charity on January 20, 1828, and Joanna Rachael on May 1, 1831.

• Although Richard Nicoll had entailed rights to Sachem’s Neck, when his father Samuel Benjamin Nicoll (1) died in 1828, he was ignored in his father’s will and all of Sachem’s Neck was given to three maiden sisters, Anna, Gloriana, and Arabella. Richard sued and won, but he was unable to support the estate and his brother Samuel Benjamin (2) bought it at auction. Richard retained other Nicoll land in the West Neck and he and Margaret raised their ten children there.

• Thomas Charles Dering, with his wife Eliza Floyd Nicoll, moved to Sag Harbor where he built a neo-Classical house, now located across Route 114 from the Pierson School. He was a merchant and invested successfully in the whaling industry throughout his life. Although they had no children, Charles and Eliza provided a home to all of the Nicoll children growing up at Sachem’s Neck while they attended elementary school in Sag Harbor. Charles died in 1859 age 69. Eliza died in 1872, age 82.Both are buried in the Presbyterian Church Cemetery North on Shelter Island.

• Sarah Frances Dering, born in 1792, never married and cared for her mother in her old age. Sarah, known as Sally, died in 1833, age 41.

• Nicoll Havens Dering had a distinguished career as a physician in New York City, but the legend is that he wore himself out and eventually moved his wife and children to Utica where he continued to practice medicine. Frances died in 1841, age 42, and in 1844 he married Sarah H. Strong. He and Sarah had no additional children.

• Henry Sylvester Dering, born in 1804, graduated from Columbia College and became a doctor. He married Harriett Eliza Hulse on April 29, 1839. Over the next decade, they had four children: Sarah, Charles, Mary and Henry. He died in Setauket, Long Island, New York in 1895 at age 81.

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Letter #1, on page 151, from Mary Dering to Elizabeth Dering Gardiner on December 16, 1789.

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IndexAAbell

Mrs. 246, 251, 252, 259Adams

William 15, 46, 47, 50, 52, 54, 57, 58, 59, 62, 65, 67, 68, 69, 71, 72, 73, 115, 260

AlexanderCosmos 80William See also Lord Stirling 112,

276Almstead

Mary 202André

John 111Apthorpe

Gemmy 62Jack 56Seamy 56

AtkinsonTheodore 50, 51

BBackus President Hamilton College

Azel 224Barker

Elizabeth 7, 88, 89Nehemiah 7, 73, 88

BarrelJoe 63

Battle of Lexington and Concord 102Battle of Long Island. 105Becknale

Joseph 122Belknap

Joseph 57Bermuda 15Blackburn

Joseph 15, 276Boston 5, 7, 8, 10, 13, 14, 15, 18, 19,

20, 21, 24, 26, 29, 30, 36, 43, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 55, 56, 57, 59, 60, 61, 62, 63, 64, 65, 66, 67, 68, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73, 74, 75, 76, 77, 79, 80, 81, 84, 87, 89, 90, 91, 96, 98, 99, 102, 103, 104, 106, 110, 111, 112, 116, 121, 122, 123, 124, 126, 128, 129, 130, 132, 133, 134, 136, 139, 140, 141, 142, 143, 144, 145, 146, 152,

157, 160, 166, 168, 175, 187, 234, 235, 275

Boston Harbor 98Boston Massacre 80, 81Boudinot

Eliza 194Brayton

Sarah 265Brinley

George 72Bromley 275

Rueben 213Brookline MA 63Brooklyn NY 220, 250Brown

Desiree Grandmama 7, 8, 9, 145, 185, 188, 198, 218, 234, 242

Jane 35Bullock

Abbey 204Mahala 210

CCanada 5, 45, 103, 131, 135, 150,

201, 202Case

Samuel 220Chardon

Peter 71Chase

Rev. Philander 240Chesebrough

Abigail 5, 7, 8, 13, 15, 28, 32, 37, 38, 41, 81, 84, 86, 87, 91, 95, 103, 142

David 5, 7, 8, 15, 28, 42, 86, 103, 114, 275

Margaret Sylvester 2, 5, 7, 8, 15, 29, 31, 32, 33, 34, 37, 40, 43, 46, 80, 81, 84, 86, 87, 91, 92, 95, 101, 105, 114

William 15Clark

Nancy 230Clarkson

Levinius 143Cleaves

Polly 219Clever

Polly 202Coddington

Nancy 35

CoitJohn 194Julia 194Mary 202Sarah 204

Committee of Safety 105Comus Slave 52Conklin

Lucretia 194Consumption 51, 63, 101, 124,

126, 128, 150, 172, 204, 270Continental Congress 6, 9, 100,

101, 102, 104, 105, 112, 223Cooper

James Fenimore 237, 247Cotton

Johnny 44, 59, 73Nanny 35

CowlesMary Henrietta 7, 239Reverend Whitfield 7, 145, 160,

239Creek Cottage 15Currency Act 56

DDavenport

Elizabeth 7, 107, 108Declaration of Independence 102,

104, 105DeLancey

Susan 237William Heathcote 237

DemingSarah 7, 106, 107

DeringAnna Fosdick 7, 184, 273Charles Thomas 6, 7, 10, 149,

219, 237, 241Elizabeth 3, 8, 10, 51, 77, 98, 110,

131, 136, 140, 142, 145, 146, 149, 155, 169, 274

Eliza Floyd Nicoll 7, 255Esther Sarah Havens 7, 136, 139,

144, 148, 149, 152, 153, 169, 172, 173, 175, 176, 177, 178, 179, 180, 182, 183, 184, 185, 198, 235, 236, 241, 252, 260, 268, 269, 270, 273, 274

Frances Mary 6, 7, 8, 10, 11, 155, 175, 176, 177, 178, 179, 180, 182, 183, 184, 185, 186, 236,

280

241, 252, 260, 269, 273Harry 59, 68, 70Henry 43, 67, 92Henry Edward 15Henry Packer 6, 7, 8, 11, 48, 134,

146, 155, 160, 166, 169, 170, 173, 175, 176, 177, 179, 180, 182, 183, 187, 192, 213, 223, 252, 266, 273

Margaret Sylvester 149, 185Mary Sylvester 5, 7, 8, 10, 11, 19,

20, 22, 23, 24, 25, 28, 29, 34, 35, 36, 42, 43, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 54, 56, 57, 59, 61, 62, 65, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73, 75, 77, 80, 86, 89, 92, 94, 100, 103, 107, 108, 110, 114, 116, 120, 124, 125, 126, 128, 134, 135, 143, 155

Nicoll Havens 5, 7, 9, 109, 155, 186, 187, 188, 192, 212, 214, 215, 220, 222, 233, 235, 244, 248, 255, 256, 257, 258, 260, 266,268, 273

Sarah Frances 8, 153, 175, 182, 185, 186, 189, 190, 266, 273

Sylvester 2, 3, 4, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 15, 89, 92, 108, 115, 116, 120, 128, 140, 141, 142, 143, 145, 146, 147, 149, 150, 152, 153, 155, 160, 163, 165, 166, 168, 170, 171, 172, 174, 185, 186, 213, 222, 229, 235, 246, 247, 251, 257, 259, 266, 273

Thomas 3, 5, 6, 7, 8, 10, 11, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 41, 42, 43, 45, 46, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 55, 57, 58, 60, 61, 63, 64, 65, 66, 67, 68, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73, 74, 75, 76, 77, 78, 80, 88, 90, 97, 98, 101, 102, 103, 104, 105, 106, 107, 108, 109, 112, 113, 114, 115, 116, 117, 118, 121, 122, 124, 125, 126, 128, 129, 130, 132, 133, 134, 136, 137, 139, 140, 142, 147, 149, 160, 186, 219, 237, 241, 266

derNinsLydia 207

DevereauxNicholas 264

DoolittleJerusha 230

DouglasMary Ann 212

DuddingtonWilliam 91

Dwight IV President of YaleTimothy 186

EEarthquake 15, 97, 101, 128, 132East Hampton NY 5, 58, 136, 148,

151, 175, 223, 254, 266, 267, 273

East India Company 96Edwards See also Small

Hepzi Hepzibah 8, 46, 48, 49, 52, 53, 55, 57, 58, 60, 61, 63, 64, 65, 66, 67, 68, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73, 74, 75, 76, 78, 80, 88, 89, 90, 98, 116, 128, 133, 136, 139, 140, 142, 145, 146, 157, 166, 168, 174, 236

Joseph 8, 26, 43, 44, 48, 50, 54, 56, 57, 59, 60, 61, 65, 67, 73, 75, 76, 80, 128, 133, 136

EldersonSusanna 110

England 275, 276

FFloyd

Anna Willett 7Augustus 206Eliza 7, 10, 237, 255, 273Mary 230, 249, 250Richard 185, 237William 102

FosdickSarah 7, 9, 145, 169, 198

FranklinSarah Dering Thomas 8

Fraunces Tavern 132

GGardiner

Elizabeth Dering 3, 140, 145, 146, 149, 169, 274

Elizabeth Eliza Packer 5, 8, 128, 146, 213, 214, 215, 222, 235, 244, 248, 266, 269, 273

Maria 140, 169, 170, 171Nathaniel 6, 8, 113, 136, 145, 146,

169, 171Robert Smith 145Sam 80, 236

GelstonDavid 180

General Armstrong 194Gilbert

Kathryn 212Merinus 202

GoldthwaiteKaty 90

GoochJames 14Jeamy 64John 14, 24, 49, 71, 72, 75, 76,

77, 90Katy 60Mary 17, 26, 27, 46, 50, 57, 62, 65,

67, 73, 76, 77Gordon

Fanny 68Grant

Abigail Chesebrough 5, 7, 8, 38, 41, 45, 81, 83, 84, 86, 87, 88, 91, 94, 95, 96, 97, 98, 103, 124, 142, 155

Alexander 8, 28, 41, 42, 46, 64, 69, 80, 81, 82, 83, 84, 86, 87, 88, 93, 94, 96, 97, 98, 104, 112, 124, 155

Alexander William 86Elizabeth 112Lady 46, 84, 93, 96Lord 5, 8, 28, 69, 80, 93

GreenElizabeth 90, 103Frank 53, 64, 65George 50, 67Josh 53, 54, 63Ned 57, 63, 68Sucky 62

GreeneMary 264

GreenleafHannah 66, 69

GriscomJohn 8, 9, 195, 196, 199, 207, 224,

225, 252

HHalifax NS 28, 39, 40, 41, 45, 50, 56,

64, 77, 113, 132, 133, 134, 141, 151, 152, 158, 159, 160, 161, 162, 235

281

Hamilton NY 30, 192, 208, 213, 214, 215, 222, 224, 228, 229, 235, 237, 240, 241, 242, 243, 247, 255, 258, 259, 264, 275

HandDavid 180

Hartford 276Harvard College 10, 15, 50, 103, 111,

113Haugh

Samuel 136, 275Havens

Anna Jenkins 219, 273Catherine 9, 145, 163, 169, 175,

198, 273Catherine Mary 9, 145, 160, 163,

168, 169, 170, 173, 185, 186, 188, 192, 198, 223

Charlotte Mary 259Desiree Brown 8, 145, 185, 198,

218, 234, 242Esther Sarah See also Dering 7, 8, 9,

10, 11, 145, 149, 171, 185, 198, 268, 273

Frances 9, 168, 169, 188, 198Gloriana 7, 11, 145, 160, 170, 198,

239, 241Henry 43James 170Jonathan Nicoll 142, 145, 147, 168,

198Mary Catherine 9, 145, 169, 175,

198, 273Nicoll 5, 7, 8, 9, 11, 109, 142, 145,

147, 155, 168, 169, 185, 186, 188, 189, 192, 198, 212, 214, 215, 220, 222, 235, 244, 248, 255, 256, 257, 258, 260, 266, 273

Obadiah 134, 219Renssaelaer 9, 145, 160, 166, 168,

169, 171, 175, 186, 189, 190, 194, 198, 202, 219, 237, 252, 273

HearstNancy 63

HidePhineas 110

HordonDolly 63

HowardFrances 213

HubbardSusey 57

HuntJobe 68

HuntingtonAnn 201, 205, 206, 221Anne 9, 30, 109, 110, 117, 118, 150,

186, 223, 225, 242Benjamin 6, 9, 11, 109, 117, 118,

202, 223Catherine 9, 194, 195, 196, 197,

199, 202, 204, 218, 223, 225, 227, 229, 232, 247, 249, 251, 252, 258, 265

Catherine Mary Havens 9, 198Enoch 105, 142Frances 5, 6, 9, 30, 109, 189, 190,

193, 194, 198, 199, 201, 202, 204, 205, 206, 208, 209, 221, 226, 227, 229, 231, 237, 241, 245, 249, 263, 266

George 257, 258Gloriana 9, 211, 229, 265, 266Henry 9, 145, 160, 163, 168, 169,

170, 173, 185, 186, 188, 192, 223

Louisa 9, 226Roger 110

Huntington Castle 201Hutchinson

Sally 56Thomas 102

IIngraham

Anna (Nancy) 81Intolerable Act 98

JJamaica 56, 69, 70, 72, 73, 74, 77, 78,

80, 92, 122, 248, 258, 259Jenkins

Anna 166Jones

John Coffin 144Jungerson

Cornell 64

KKing’s Chapel 50, 87Kingstown NY 25, 58Kipp

Mary 263Knight

Katey 56

LLane

John 72L’Hommedieu

Ezra 9, 102, 105, 145, 147, 169, 175, 189, 191

Mary Catherine 9, 175, 256, 266, 268

Mary Catherine Havens Aunt 9, 185, 191, 198, 210, 229, 232, 234, 238, 240, 242, 250, 253, 259, 269, 273

LincolnHannah 113

LloydBecky 73Henry 143Ned 53, 60, 89

London UK 115, 116, 275Long Island 5, 40, 59, 60, 64, 75, 101,

102, 105, 106, 108, 112, 128, 175, 196, 197, 232, 273, 276, 277

Long Island Sound 102

MMacDowell

Mary 15Mamaroneck NY 249, 255Mandamus Councilor 100Marchant

Henry 86, 87, 91Marshfield MA 5, 10, 15, 16, 17, 18,

20, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 28, 29, 31, 32, 48, 58, 60, 61, 73, 74, 78, 99, 100, 102, 103, 108, 109, 110, 112, 113, 116, 117, 118, 120, 121, 122, 125, 126, 127, 129, 132, 134, 136, 137, 139, 141, 168, 234, 276

Mattituck 73, 88McDonald

Miss 190, 191, 193, 198, 199, 203, 210, 224, 225, 231, 233

Middletown CT 8, 10, 105, 112, 113, 114, 116, 127, 129, 131, 142, 192, 199, 206, 208

MitchellPhoebe 212

MonkJames 15, 56, 75, 79, 158

MoreyRobert 171

282

Mrs. Bromley’s Mother 7Mumford

Mary 204

NNelson

Jake 66Newark NJ 8, 9, 11, 175, 176, 177,

179, 184, 185, 192, 196, 273Newark Academy 8, 9, 11, 175, 196,

273New Brick Church 30New Haven CT 112, 192, 218, 231New London CT 115, 116Newport RI 5, 7, 8, 15, 16, 18, 23, 27,

28, 29, 30, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 45, 55, 56, 58, 62, 64, 65, 68, 69, 80, 81, 91, 92, 101, 102, 103, 104, 105, 106, 142, 154, 275

New York City 5, 8, 9, 104, 109, 112, 132, 145, 147, 160, 168, 188, 189, 195, 198, 202, 210, 235, 247, 266, 273, 275

New York Committee of Safety 105Nicoll

Elizabeth Floyd 219Renssaelaer 171Richard Floyd 185Samuel Benjamin 7, 185, 229, 273William 191

Norwich CT 6, 9, 109, 118, 150, 231Novice

Solomon 60

OOliver

Polly 66Osborne

Sarah 10, 80Oyster Ponds 250, 277

PPacker

Elizabeth 7, 11, 14Pamela 169, 186, 191, 195, 196, 197,

205, 208, 211, 219, 224, 225, 229, 230, 232, 238, 239, 242, 246, 250, 252, 254

PartridgeEliza 175, 182, 183, 212

PembertonMolly 60

Philadelphia PA 6, 96, 100, 101, 102, 105, 106, 109, 117, 158, 192, 232

PhillipsAndrew 57

PierceDaniel 90

PineJackie 63

PlattCornelia 264James 257, 258Mary 264

Portsmouth NH 20, 21, 40, 45, 50, 54, 59, 64, 65, 90, 98, 99, 107

Prince Edward 158, 161, 162

QQuartering Act 56, 100Queen’s Street 15, 18

RReeper

James 214Reid

Charles 194Revolutionary War 5, 9, 10, 55, 81,

112, 113, 134, 140Rhode Island 7, 15, 28, 84, 86, 91, 108,

143, 275Rogers

Abigail 8, 15, 28Matt 56

Rome NY 5, 9, 109, 168, 169, 171, 186, 189, 190, 192, 193, 194, 195, 196, 197, 198, 201, 202, 204, 205, 207, 208, 211, 218, 219, 223, 226, 229, 230, 232, 234, 235, 237, 238, 239, 240, 241, 242, 243, 247, 248, 250, 252, 253, 254, 255, 256, 257, 259, 260, 264, 265, 269

Roxbury 54, 59, 63, 67, 70, 103

SSachem’s Neck 7, 185, 222, 247, 273Sage

Ebenezer 128, 186, 236, 266Frances Mary 8, 10, 175, 177, 184,

186, 236, 241, 273John 241

Sag Harbor 7, 128, 186, 212, 219, 255, 273, 276

Salamagundi 259Samson

Wentworth 63Sargent

Sarah 10, 21Savage

Sam 57Seymour

Mary 265Shelter Island 2, 5, 7, 8, 13, 14, 15,

31, 47, 54, 58, 59, 61, 68, 70, 101, 102, 103, 104, 108, 112, 128, 129, 141, 142, 143, 145, 147, 149, 152, 160, 168, 170, 182, 185, 186, 187, 188, 189, 196, 197, 198, 205, 206, 207, 208, 210, 212, 213, 216, 219, 220, 222, 223, 231, 232, 247, 249, 250, 255, 257, 266, 268, 273, 275, 276

ShurtlessMary 10, 20, 21, 22

Small See also EdwardsHepzibah Hepzi 5, 18, 19, 20, 24,

25, 26, 27, 43, 44, 45, 46, 48, 49, 52, 53, 55, 57, 58, 61, 63, 64, 65, 66, 67, 68, 69, 70, 71, 72, 73, 74, 75, 76, 80, 89, 90, 116, 124, 128, 133, 136, 139, 140, 142, 145, 146

Smallpox 6, 7, 56, 57, 58, 59, 60, 63, 64, 67, 80, 82, 95, 114, 115, 117, 118, 134, 166

SmithBetsy 38, 39Edward 112Jeamy 64Mary 210Sally 206

Sons of Liberty 56, 69, 91Stamp Act 56, 69, 91Stiles President of Yale Ezra 28, 80, 87, 93, 103Stirling See also William Alexander

Lord 112, 276Stonington 15, 29, 34, 86, 103, 104,

105, 112, 114, 116, 277Storer

Charles 103, 111, 173, 235Ebenezer 90, 103, 113, 266Elizabeth Green 47, 6266, 90, 121George 157, 168

Sugar Act 56Sylvester

283

Brinley 7, 8, 10, 11, 13, 15, 98, 166Margaret See also Chesebrough 2, 3,

5, 7, 8, 12, 13, 15, 27, 30, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 38, 39, 42, 45, 58, 80, 81, 84, 86, 87, 91, 92, 93, 95, 96, 101, 114, 149, 185

Mary See also Dering 7, 8, 11, 13, 14, 15, 18, 89, 92, 120, 143, 155, 266

Mary Burroughs 5, 10, 13, 14, 15Patience 102

TTea Act 96Tennant

Cynthia 213Terry

John 109Thomas

Henry 7, 11, 160, 221Maria 10, 121, 122, 126, 127Nathaniel Ray Nat, Nat Ray 5, 8, 15,

16, 73, 78, 100, 102, 103, 118, 131, 140

Sarah Dering 5, 8, 10, 16, 17, 18, 20, 22, 23, 28, 29, 31, 60, 74, 78, 113, 116, 117, 118, 121, 122, 129, 132, 137, 141, 151, 155, 160, 163, 165, 166, 174, 186, 234

William 15, 202Townshend Acts, 69Townshend Duties 96Tracy

Susanna 10, 230, 263, 264Triangle Trade, 15Trinity Church 15Trumbull

Faith 202, 223

UUnited States Congress 9, 11, 147Utica NY 5, 160, 188, 201, 202, 205,

206, 208, 215, 217, 229, 230, 234, 235, 236, 238, 246, 257, 258, 260, 265, 266, 273

VVarrick

Mr. 235, 257, 258Varsel

Sally 68Virginia House of Burgesses 56

WWashington

George 100, 103, 105, 112, 132, 147, 149, 150, 155, 168

Watertown MA 201, 202Webb

Catherine Cebra 237, 273Wentworth

Benning 50Elizabeth Dering 10, 17, 26, 31,

47, 50, 52, 54, 61, 67, 71, 72, 73, 76, 77, 78, 90, 98, 99, 100, 103, 122, 131, 142, 155

Harry 63, 70Jack 45, 54, 72, 73John 50, 51, 162Lady Frances 155Mark Hunking 50Molly 56Paul 119, 122, 123, 131, 132Samuel 10, 14, 21, 45, 50, 51, 52,

54, 56, 57, 63, 64, 65, 69, 70, 78, 79, 132

Westerly NY 202Western NY 186, 199, 201, 211, 230,

237, 238, 242, 247, 248, 256Wheelwright

Nat 67Whiten

Stephen 68Whitesboro NY 201, 205, 208, 226,

264Whitestown NY 202, 204, 206, 256,

257, 265, 266Windsor NS 8, 10, 103, 141, 155, 234Winet

Johnny 67Winslow

Anna Green 10, 45, 56, 67, 109, 110, 120, 125, 128, 130, 134, 136, 151, 153, 174

WitmoreNathan 110

WoodbridgeEliza 175, 176, 177, 180Sarah 182William 175, 176, 177, 179, 180,

182, 183Woolworth

Aaron 223Worden

Hannah 64

YYale College 11, 28, 91, 93, 102, 108,

113, 128, 134, 186, 188, 223, 238, 266, 276

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