Stayinig Safe Out and About

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Being safe and feeling safe are important.

We wrote some top tipsto help you thinkabout how to keep safe.

The tips are in three parts:

What this guide is about

1. How to staysafe

2. What to dowhensomething

happens

3. What to doaftersomething

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BullyingBullying is when a person or a groupof people say or do unkind things tosomeone else. Bullies are often trying tomake themselves feel better by beingmean to someone else.

HarassmentHarassment is when someone doessomething on purpose to upset someoneelse. It happens more than once and theperson does it because they want the

other person to feel bad.

Hate crimeHate crime is when someone doessomething mean to someone because of

who they are. For example, being mean tosomeone because they have a learningdisability.

Mate crimeMate crime is when someone makesyou think they are your friend but they

are really just wanting to use you forsomething, for example stealing yourmoney.

What these words mean


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Keeping safe when out andabout

Keeping safe inside yourhome

Keeping safe at work

Keeping safe from matecrime

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This page tells you about the next partof this booklet.

Most of the time people are safe anddont have any problems when they areout and about.

But if something does happen to you it

can be very scary and stressful.

Follow these tips to help you stay safe

when you are out and about.

These tips will help you plan what to doif something does happen to you.

Keeping safe from bullying,harassment and hate crimewhen youre out and about

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Do plan your journey, so you knowwhere youre going and how youllget there. Keep to well lit and busyareas.

Do have a plan of what youll do ifsomething goes wrong and youneed help. You could ask a friend orsupporter to help make a plan.

Do trust how you feel. If you dontfeel safe, ask for help or go to a safeplace.

How to keep safe when youare out and about

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Dont try to look threatening or scary.People might think that youre looking fora ght.

Dont show people your valuables like yourphone or money, keep them hidden.

Dont carry a weapon. You might end upgetting hurt or arrested yourself.

How to keep safe when youare out and about

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Do give them whatever they areasking for if they are trying to stealfrom you.

Do keep your head down, and avoideye-contact if they are saying orshouting things at you.

Do walk away quickly to the nearestsafe place as soon as you can.

What to do if somethinghappens to you when youare out and about

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Dont try to ght back or act scary.

Dont try to run away, unless they getviolent, they may chase you.

Dont panic. Stay calm and takedeep breaths. This will help you thinkclearly.

What NOT to do if somethinghappens to you when you areout and about

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Do phone the police or go to the policestation straight away and tell themwhat has happened.

Do try to remember any details aboutwhathappened, whenit happened,where it happened and what theattacker looked like.

Do speak to your bank to cancel yourbankcards if your wallet has beentaken.

What to do after somethinghappens to you when you areout and about

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Dont keep it to yourself. What hashappened is a crime. Tell the police.

Dont try and look for the people whodid it. Leave this to the police.

Dont let it stop you from enjoyingyour life. Ask for help if you are feelingworried.

What NOT to do aftersomething happens to youwhen you are out and about

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I was out with my ance when a gang of schoolkids started calling us names and throwing stones at

us.

I called the police and I told them what hadhappened. I also told the sta at the day centre I goto. The day sta set up a meeting with a mediatorwho asked to meet with the school kids. The school

kids listened to me and they havent done anythingto us since.

Its important that everyone who works with peoplewith a learning disability are there to support them if

they go through something like I did.

Case study -How Richard dealt with hate crime


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This page tells you about the next part ofthis booklet.

Most of the time we are safe in our homes.

But sometimes other people can make usfeel unsafe in our homes.

Follow our tips to help you keep safe inyour home.

We have also written some tips of what todo if someone does make you feel unsafein your own home.

Keeping safe inside yourhome from bullying,harassment and hate crime

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Do talk to your neighbours, andagree to keep an eye on eachothers houses.

Do lock your doors, and keepwindows closed unless youre inthe room.

Do hide anything valuable in asafe place so people cannot seeit through a window or when theycome to visit.

How to keep safe at homefrom bullying, harassmentand hate crime

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Dont let people you dont know intoyour home. You can ask them tocome back when someone else willbe there with you.

Dont make it easy for people to tell if

youre not home. Some people leavea light on when they go out.

Dont tell people where you live untilyou know them well. For exampledont tell people you meet on theinternet where you live.

Dont give money or your personaldetails to anyone who phones you orknocks on your door.

How to keep safe at homefrom bullying, harassmentand hate crime

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Do phone the police if someone ismaking you feel unsafe.

Do ask people to leave if you dontwant them to be there.

Do ask a neighbour or friend who

lives close by to come and help you.

Do lock the doors and stay insideuntil help arrives.

What to do when someone isthreatening you at home

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Dont talk to anyone who is makingyou feel unsafe. It is your right to closethe door or hang up the phone if youwant to.

Do not threaten them as you couldget into trouble too.

What NOT to do whensomeone is threatening you athome

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Do write down exactly what hashappened to help you remember ortell someone about it.

Do ask someone you trust to cometo your home to support you.

Do call the police and ask abouthow you can make your homesafer.

What to do after someonehas threatened you at home

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Dont touch anything if you thinkyouve been burgled. Do wait forthe police to get there.

Dont just hope that it doesnthappen again. Make sure you getsupport to help you keep safe.

What NOT to do aftersomeone has threatenedyou at home

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Tips for talking to thepolice

If someone physically hurts you, or saysunkind things to you because of yourdisability it is important to tell the police. Thisis called hate crime.

1. Ask the police to speak in simplelanguage that you can understand.

2. Make sure they take what happenedseriously and they treat it as a hate crime.

3. Ask someone you know and trust to bethere when you talk to the police.

4. If the police dont take it seriously, asksomeone to help you nd an advocate ormediator to help make the police take itseriously.

5. Mencap have a resource aroundreporting hate crime if you need some

more help.What should you do if you area victim of disability hate crime?

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This page tells you about the next part ofthis booklet.

Most people are happy and feel safe intheir jobs.

Sometimes we meet people at work whowe dont get on with and thats ok.

But sometimes this becomes bullying orharassment and this is not ok.

Follow these tips to help you keep safe at

work.

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How to keep safe at workfrom bullying, harassmentand hate crime

Do know your rights. Ask to read thebullying and harassment policy atwork.

Do talk to the people you work withand get to know them.

Ask for a buddy who you can talk toabout things that are worrying you at

work.

Do be polite and follow the rules atwork.

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Dont stay quiet if somethingis going wrong or someone isupsetting you.

Dont let somone bully you into

doing something you feel is wrong.Ask your buddy if you arent surewhat to do.

Dont be mean or upset otherpeople at work. Treat people howyou would like to be treated.

Dont gossip about other people atwork.

Dont

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Do tell the person to stop and say thatthey are upsetting you.

Do ignore them and walk away fromwhoever is making you upset.

Do take a deep breath and keep calm.

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Dont ght or say unkind thingsback.

Dont stay near them. Givethem space.

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Do tell other people at work likeyour manager or someone elseyou trust.

Do write down what happensstraight away or ask someoneto help you do this. This will helpyou to remember what was said.

Do think about who you cantalk to outside of work if youare feeling sad about whatshappened.

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Dont keep quiet about it. It is notok for people to say or do meanthings to you at work.

Dont try to get revenge. There

is a proper way of dealing withproblems at work.

Dont tell everyone at workabout whats happening as itcan be condential.

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This page tells you about the next partof this booklet.

Mate crime is when someone pretendsto be your friend to use you.

For example stealing your money orusing your things without asking you.

These people are not real friends.

They pretend to be your friend becausethey want something from you.

Follow these tips to help you keep safefrom mate crime and know what to do if

it happens to you.

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How to keep safe from matecrime

Do trust your feelings. If you think

something isnt right, walk away.

Do take time to get to know new peoplebefore you trust them. Always meet newpeople in public places.

Dont ask people to come back to yourhouse if you do not know them well.

Dont try to make new friends by beinggenerous and giving people money orletting them use your house. Real friendswouldnt ask you to do this.

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What to do when someone ispretending to be your friend

Do ask them to stop if they aredoing things you dont wantthem to do.

Do speak to someone else you

trust, and share what has beenhappening.

Do write down whathappensand whenit happened so thatyou remember.

Do call someone like the policefor help if someone is makingyou feel unsafe.

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Dont keep it to yourself. Areal friend would not treat youbadly.

Dont let people try to tell youthat what they are doing is ok.If it feels wrong to you thenyou should say so.

Dont ght back, or get into anargument.

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What to do after someone haspretended to be your friend

Do tell the police straight away ifsomething has happened whichyou know is wrong.

Do ask for support. Askneighbours, friends and familyto help you to stop this fromhappening again.

Think about making your housesafe - things like changing yourlocks if they have a key or changeyour phone number.

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What NOT to do aftersomeone has pretended to beyour friend

Dont try to get back at someoneor get revenge. Let the policehandle it.

Dont feel like its your fault. Thesepeople look for people who theycan do this to.

Dont trust the person again. Evenif they say they are sorry and thatthey will change, do not try to befriends with them again.

Dont

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This guide was written with theVoice and Community referencegroup.

This guide was funded by theEsme Fairbairn Foundation aspart of the Voice and Communityproject.

Lemos and Crane have madea an easy read website calledAction Against Cruelty with moreinformation about hate crime,harassment and bullying:www.lemosandcrane.co.uk/aac/bullying.pdf

Two other resources are alsoavailable as part of this project:

Keeping safe out and about

We want to be seen!Tips and a video for people in themedia about how they shouldshow people with learning disabili-ties in a more positive way.

See our website for moreinformationwww.learningdisabilities.org.uk/hatecrime

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